The Fear Behind All Fears and How to Overcome It

In this video, author and depression survivor Douglas Bloch reveals the one fear behind all of our fears, and what we can do to overcome it. Once we do the thing we fear, the fear no longer exists.
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[@solar-monk]

God, please always protect this man and help him to continue helping others.

[@DouglasBloch]

Thank you for your prayer.

[@TheReminisce777]

my only fear now is that anxiety will never pass and that i will be dependent on my parents forever, until they may pass.

[@DouglasBloch]

I have the same fear when I was living with my parents. Fortunately, the universe just found an alternative, and I believe it will do the same for you.

[@linneamariequentin8216]

@@DouglasBloch What alternative did the universe found for you? Did you say that somewhere else before?

[@WickWars101]

Its been a year since u commented , so ignore if all has changed, but heres my take. Its not that i belief this but its more so i know this to so based on xp points, 1. bad news for u = u are somewhat right the anxiety will never pass / Good News = is u can ward it off , and it sounds to simple but it works and that - All in on Action cures Ol'Anxiety , keep moving on yr intention and so by taking immediate action , now does this mean u can never stop , hell no , because a designated deserved relax lol funny enough is an action , so it really all about zero hesitation and things like hesitation such as bad reasoned procrastination ( as procrastination can be a good thing when sussing and veting something u would like to take action , i could go on n on but i hope that this is a good enough lead for u to consider , a hint in the best direction a sort of north star to follow. Good Luck - yea nar thats sucks , i was like that , Again Good Luck.

[@VanessaSimon26]

Sean K. Totally understand. I dependent on my husband.

[@GreenAndTheToe]

I understand your fear. It’s my fear too.

[@WeirdyKatz]

Each day ive been making it a habit to listen to creators that can help me heal my anxiety and depression, Douglas is one of them. And my goal is to make a breakthrough by the end of the year, whatever that may mean to myself and my inner being. I just want to be better, and do better mentally! I want inner peace.

[@DouglasBloch]

I believe you can achieve it. You might want to watch my video called setting the intention to heal which talks about how to create a vision statement to state and attract your goals.

[@EC-yd9yv]

💛🕊️🕊️🙏✨✨

[@redrobin99]

You're helping me.

[@crissygomez5484]

Sally Voccola how are you today?

[@malikzafar7232]

Can u help???

[@letgo1064]

🌹 Fear of never coming out of depression or inability to cope. Yes 😔 Helpful vidéo thanks 🙏

[@HettiedeKorteDiplomaat]

In the Seventies I had a social fear that effected every aspect of my life. I was too scared to leave my house as if the outside world was a jungle full of dangerous animals. But there were times I had toe leave my home. To see the therapist. ‘What’s there to be afraid of?’, the therapist asked me, ‘ a stranger passes you by. Nothing happens. Right? Nothing, except I’m dying inside. You described it properly. The fear of not being able to cope. Amazing. I’ve seen a lot of therapist and this is the first time somebody understands what that fear is all about. I’ve been waiting for this common sense conclusion. Why didn’t any expert understand that? All those years I felt so misunderstood by those people who sad: ‘ There’s nothing to be afraid of. You’re not gonna die.’ It’s the fear of not being able to cope. Exactly. Thank you.

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re more than welcome. I think there is a book that you would get a lot of benefit from that talks about this idea. The name of the book is “feel the fear and do it anyway.“ The author is Susan Jeffers. It should be pretty easy to find on Amazon.

[@anusha_d]

This is exactly what I have been dealing with all my life. An overprotective father who kept saying 'be careful, don't do that, you'll hurt yourself', which made me fearful of everything and doubt myself all the time, it's so disempowering. It's been a huge struggle to learn to overcome that negative core belief, without therapy. Still working on it. Thank you for this wonderful advice 🙏

[@DouglasBloch]

Keep up the good work. You can change those early beliefs.

[@anusha_d]

@@DouglasBloch Yes, thank you so much 💙

[@michelled2175]

I know exactly what you mean, it was the same for me as a child. I always doubt myself

[@russellcrawford7453]

I hope this will help somebody. I am 62 I take my whole identity as being a rock and roll drummer. 6 years ago after a 20-year layout I started playing again. I was scared to death to get up on stage at these blues jams here in Dallas Texas out of fear that I would not be able to impress or perform adequately. In fact pretty much scared to death, however I knew that if I was to get to be able to get work as a drummer I was going to have to overcome this. So I just kept getting up Time After Time and now there is little anxiety. I always pray God please help me perform to the best of my ability and most of the time that is exactly what occurs. In some cases you can face your fear and after a while your fear will dissolve like Kool-Aid in a glass of water

[@euanelliott3613]

I'm an autistic schizophrenic aged 56. I've been a rock and blues singer since I was 19 but I haven't been in a band since 1990 because of isolation. I view music as my social currency as it draws people to me, and at some point I'm going to have to make an effort to go back to the stage with a band. Reading your comment was helpful to me. Thank you.

[@nancyvega1785]

I laughed. It is a clean joke, it can be appreciated by all ages. Thank you.

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome. Hopefully I can think of some others.

[@joesmith389]

Nancy Vega it’s a “clean” joke (janitor). Funny.

[@rubyharris4422]

Thank you for these. Since subscribing, I've started watching your videos at night to ease anxiety. I love your delivery and the message in this one really resonates as fear is my biggest...fear!

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome. I'm glad the video was helpful

[@marcyallison5996]

Positive affirmations never worked for me. I am working on changing my core beliefs!

[@DouglasBloch]

Good

[@saurabhshinde5056]

You can handle whatever comes your way

[@50centpb7]

I think the fear beneath all my fears is suffering without end. Hell, in other words. Hell in this life or the next.

[@3brenm]

what i don't understand is, for me, the biggest part of my depression is having no idea what to do for work and future after suffering a long illness, and there seems to be no help with this kind of thing anywhere in society, i feel like i know everything about my depression but i i cant get to a life then the pressure and isolation will just keep me in depression

[@DouglasBloch]

You make an important point. Work is important for good mental health. You may want to start off with volunteer work. There is also something called Vocational Rehabilitation Services that exists in every state of the United States. Contact the branch in your state. There are also private vocational and career counselors. Here is a video I made on the importance of work for healing from depression. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gofJdndveaeBiLc

[@JoeSmith-pf7ir]

The first step is just getting active at any type of work. Dont necessarily just go for that career, do any job to get you into a routine. A routine will help break the cycle and once you start to feel better you can start to search for more long term situations, What if is the worst thing you can ever think, throw those two words out the window. Getting a routine should be your first short term goal.

[@metsot]

I can definitely relate.

[@lucyparsonage6907]

Look into Peer Support....voluntary & paid..supporting others with their mental health...by those who truly understand

[@AlephTaV549]

Please don't call it 'my' d.... , instead don't even name it. Our Creator is always in control, cry to Him and He will heal you! Shalom! I'm in my process as well, it's not easy but for Him nothing is impossible!

[@maitreyentertainment3554]

Thank You I am 20 year old I also get suffered with anxiety and stress due to overthinking but your videos are really helpful I am feeling very happy that at this age of 20 I am learning to deal with such things so in future I will live a happy life❤️

[@noon2232]

There is a real fear that is crippling and it literally prevents you from overcoming just by thinking it through or encouragement. It’s not the same as a regular fear people have

[@shelleydudley141]

Whatever comes my way I'll handle it!!🙏🏼💝

[@factviews8474]

Fear is the mother of all Ilness.100% true very well said.

[@princesspeach9398]

This is so true. Thank you Douglas

[@crazyhappenings1938]

love it!!!

[@k.ravishankar5063]

Thanks Douglas

[@martm216]

Thank you sir. Thank you so much - Martin from England.

[@Zgembo121]

amazing video, very insightful

[@Sebi151801]

Dear sir, you speak enlightened words. A great help! Thanks!

[@constantdarkfog49]

Good direction, Thanks, Douglas

[@margaretdooley2742]

Thank you Doug

[@eyesareblack]

Very helpful insights

[@DavidWCoulter]

Really great point of view. Thanks, dc

[@roncooke3964]

Thanks Douglas!! Great advice !! I love watching your videos!! They are a great help to me frighting Depression anxiety !! Cheers from Tasmania Australia!!😃👍

[@paulplaysmusic]

Best video yet, thanks

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks.

[@vjdrive1230]

Thank you so much for this video and all your videos! You have helped me more than you will ever know😊I will be getting both your and Dr Jeffers books. I will add..that painting in your office is the most relaxing I have ever seen❤

[@ajc2208]

Fantastic, empowering insights once again. Thank you.

[@DouglasBloch]

I’m glad that these videos are helpful to you

[@owoolleyi]

Thank you Doug for your advice.

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome

[@Uncommon_Sense01]

I love your talks, thank you!

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re welcome.

[@lilboofer1396]

You're so wholesome

[@lucienovakova5298]

Thank you, listening to your videos helped me so much during my anxiety attacks

[@annavillalpando4872]

I loved this video! Thank you so much! ♥️

[@DouglasBloch]

Thank you. I have some other good videos on anxiety

[@annavillalpando4872]

Douglas Bloch I’ll check them out!

[@earthmom106]

Thank you! You’re a very courageous man! Congratulations on your many successes :)

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome.

[@GT-xp6bx]

Thank you. Your channel makes all the difference

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re welcome. I’m glad that it is helping

[@zigulimiguli]

...dear Douglas, thank you again,... ❤️🙏🌹

[@catmando4448]

It's a very relavent insight to my life how the message "I don't trust you, you're incompetent" comes from hearing one's mother continually saying " Watch out, be careful!" to you while growing up. Thank you for that most important insight!

[@lucienovakova5298]

Great, helpful, to the point...Thank you...so happy I found your videos

[@DouglasBloch]

I’m glad they were helpful

[@DELIVERANCE-TODAY]

Such powerful helpful information....thank you!

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re more than welcome

[@einsteindarwin8756]

Thank you Douglas! This is my issue. I work in a competitive field in a competitive field where people get ahead by breaking other people down.

[@annettesanchez4425]

Extraordinary!!

[@annettesanchez4425]

I would love to talk with you.

[@airjay1966]

Always helpful and inspiring. Thank u Mr Bloch

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome.

[@sigvardbjorkman]

Very good and helpful

[@duhaNomad]

Omg I can't believe it! How revelative this lecture was thank you so much I'm poor to have cbt but you helped me freely

[@DouglasBloch]

I’m glad the video was helpful

[@joeygagliardi7380]

Douglas,, what awesome video, strength and fear are 2 things that I abide by. I never try to let go of my strength. As hard as it is, I try to never do it. It may be even though I am going to face a matter of difficulty,, perhaps of something from the past,, I somehow get myself a bit stronger by tackling it. At that time I get a great feeling of success. All you spoke of in this video,, id so on point. Thanks,, once again to you and all who make these video's possible..

[@MariaElaine0516]

Always a pleasure to watch your videos. It always felt like you knew what I’ve been wanting to say for the longest time and tell me how I’ll get through it. Thank you

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome

[@keeperoflostsouls13]

Oh my gosh, I love this video so much. My anxiety at work has skyrocketed because I've been chosen to work on a new product line that only has 3 other people on it plus an engineer. I'm so afraid that I won't be able to be as good as the others and that I'll disappoint my supervisor. But I know I can do it. I've done things like this before. I'm just terrified I think. Anyway, I love this video. And your right. Just do it anyway. I'm going to go to sleep now. I've been sick all weekend and need the rest.

[@DouglasBloch]

Hope you feel better. I will be doing a live video Q&A chat on Wednesday, September 20 at 11am. Hope you can make it.

[@keeperoflostsouls13]

Douglas Bloch I'll be working but I'll watch it afterwards.

[@proxybodybuilding]

No matter what you facing, remember: ill handle it

[@lz56able]

Janitor joke-supplies! You get me every time!! They are the best!!

[@DouglasBloch]

That was a good one.

[@pellis8985]

You’re videos are so helpful. Love the jokes and the information you provide is life saving. Thank you!!!!

[@DouglasBloch]

You're welcome

[@rogueriverrapids6033]

Wow, this is really worth thinking about. It makes sense. You have defined the fear behind my fears. Thanks!

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks. I'm glad that it spoke to you.

[@winston9505]

Helpful. Thank you 🙏

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome

[@californiadreaming6560]

"Supplies". love it. TY

[@DouglasBloch]

So do I

[@Alix777.]

Amazing video, brillant. Fear/anxiety is my biggest problem, as you said I grew up with a mother who always said "watch out, you can hurt yourself" and things like that. Your words help me feeling better this evening. I will check your video about negative core beliefs. Thanks a lot Douglas.

[@MCE593]

Thank you Douglas! You always have the right video and the right time for me!! It was so good to see you smiling and laughing at the end of this video. Again thanks for giving us the encouragement that we need!! Keep up the great job!!!

[@DouglasBloch]

Thank you for another kind comment. I just wanted you to know that I am doing a live KZbin Q&A chat with my viewers this Wednesday, September 27, at 11 am pacific coast time. I hope you can tune in.

[@p5aul789]

Thank you so much Douglas. I've always had a problem with people, Depression and low self esteem, not feeling good enough about myself. Of course, the bottom line is not being able to cope. And guess what? I now find myself doing a job where not only do I have to mix with people internally, but also have to deal with the public. I kept telling myself " I don't feel strong enough to keep doing this job" I worry that depression will get the better of me! My long term depression is due to dysfunctional parents. I can only recall one instance of my mother comforting me! It felt so good!

[@DouglasBloch]

You can also tell yourself, "Even though I may have to stretch, I can and will succeed in this."

[@serenechia2441]

Thank you . God bless you 🙏

[@DouglasBloch]

You're welcome

[@Veronicastar77]

The problem with this logic is that not everybody can cope with these things. I went through a hellish crisis about 2 years ago that I am not over that triggeted my feelings of inferiority, abandonment and probably some other ones. So badly that I could barely stand living. I went to bed at a 10 and woke up at a 10. It was literally hell on earth. It gave me a lot more compasdion for extreme mental disorders and people who are hospitalised. I was almost one of them. I would have been if I had someobe to take care of my children. The one thing I never want to forgoet is how terrifying that experience was so it will never happen again.

[@DouglasBloch]

Sorry that you had to go through that.

[@poppykok5]

Douglas...Your kind caring nature & friendly smile always manage to lift my spirits, which are all too often...rather desperate...Thank you for your tireless work....

[@DouglasBloch]

I am touched by your kind words. I hope you can tune into my live video chat on this channel on Wednesday September 20 at 11 am pacific daylight time, Portland, Oregon

[@kaliravisankar5818]

awesome.

[@dreakaliarodriguez481]

That joke made my morning! Thank you 😊

[@DouglasBloch]

I'm glad you liked it.

[@ravirajyaguru5905]

Not sure if you really appreciate the joke or if you are being sarcastic.

[@juniemom1]

i didn't get it, help?

[@punchline43]

@@ravirajyaguru5905 Can't tell if you're being sincere or just joking.

[@Kfuglif]

@@juniemom1 I'm late to respond, he yelled supplies ( things you keep in a closet) rather than surprise. :)

[@joycet.3040]

I loved your joke! LOL! This video is excellent! Exactly what I am going through now. I really needed to hear this. I will remember that I can handle whatever comes my way. Feel the fear and do it anyway. I am going to do this.

[@DouglasBloch]

Great. Let me know how facing the fear goes.

[@RavenMadd9]

Doug thank you

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re welcome.

[@SCheco3]

Thank you so much, you are a beautiful human being Dr Bloch. Your videos teach and help guide me through anxious bouts. I am very grateful for people like you.

[@DouglasBloch]

You're welcome.

[@pmbluemoon]

LOVE the joke! You got a genuine chuckle from me, thank you! I believe that my anxiety leads to my depression, and also compounds my anxiety because I'm worried that my depression will be seen as anxiety or MORE depression than i really DO have, so this is a great video, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for it! :)

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks. Can you remind me of the joke?

[@pmbluemoon]

@@DouglasBloch "What did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet?" "SUPPLIES!!!" hehe!

[@zohranadeem3633]

Than dough this was really helpful. It is something that I have unconciously been doing after suffering from anxiety n depression for a loooong time. I have been thinking that I have to try to get on n do everyday things as much as I can...I mean force myself to the point it is comfortable n not to the point it's too much pressure n feel more depressed afterwards. I have also decided that I am not going to get upset by what people think n what people say. If they've got a problem with me it's THEIR problem. This has been over a long time of thinking about things n what I can do to help myself. It didn't happen over nite but did happen eventually. I hope my comments help someone.

[@whitneyparsons3009]

In the middle of my tears that joke made me laugh lol

[@DouglasBloch]

I'm glad brought you some humor. I will be doing a live video chat on Wednesday, September 27 at 11 am Pacific Coast time, if you want to tune in.

[@whitneyparsons3009]

Douglas Bloch thank you, I will try to tune in.

[@ThatsTheWun]

I hope you’ve recovered Whitney

[@whitneyparsons3009]

@@ThatsTheWun thanks so much for caring. Things have gotten better :)

[@ThatsTheWun]

@@whitneyparsons3009 how come? What happened?

[@focused4478]

Just look at fear as amazing, as you have such an amazing imagination. Your mind is a miracle. Now let's go✨ Your mind fully works!

[@joeblow6023]

Hi douglas, last month was terrible for me. But right now i am fantastic. Man, i get depressed and i am paranoid sometimes. People just have to hang in there. It will pass with time. My last episode lasted about one month. Don't know how i made it. But with GODS help i did. You have to go with the seconds where you feel great and know it's going to be like that all the time if you just hang in there.

[@umamaayesha2310]

you are really helping me....

[@DouglasBloch]

I’m glad that my videos are helpful

[@stars_for_night_lights]

Please don't ever stop making these videos. 🙏

[@DouglasBloch]

I’m glad they have been helpful to you. I have a 350 videos and want to make another 350

[@JM-uw8rg]

Very true!

[@jane_7193]

I know the book by Susan Jeffers, I have read it and I have got it. A great book!

[@ilianaGatto]

Aaw Mr. Douglas, i missed your videos, and i love this new joke ! it really lightens the mood :)

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks. What was the joke?

[@ilianaGatto]

what did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet? Supplies!!

[@DouglasBloch]

I like that one also

[@matteoj5892]

i love the jokes, and i'm preparing the questions already, a live QA could help me a lot right now

[@DouglasBloch]

Great. I hope to hear your questions.

[@jamesGT78]

I went through alot of anxiety just over 2 years. I ended up fearing a certain noise. I tried running away from it as much as I could but that just added to it. It was only when I learnt about the amygdala and how it affects your body with the physical symptoms of anxiety and to face fear straight on, that I was able to start my recovery. I think you need to understand anxiety first and have some knowledge about the amygdala before you can begin your recovery. A brilliant book I read was "rewire your anxious brain". It helped me so much. Love your videos. And thanks.

[@DouglasBloch]

You are welcome. Actually I made a video based on that excellent book. My video is called “how to rewire your anxious brain.“ You might want to take a look at it.

[@DouglasBloch]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e4SvY6ubfZqCopY

[@Jaikay1]

I always come back to your video's whenever I find myself slipping back into anxious states, your delivery of the advice is very reassuring.

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks. I'm glad the videos helped.

[@Jaikay1]

My pleasure, Douglas! :) I think it's because you've experienced these things yourself that makes it so effective coming from you, not to undermine the power of these techniques, mind.

[@bojango2]

You are terrific. You speak cool stuff. When did you speak at Unity of Portland because I often attend that church.

[@DouglasBloch]

I spoke there in the 1980's and 1990's

[@jesusisking85]

This video is so so so true! The fear of being unable to cope is my biggest fear. I deal with severe anxiety on and off in my life ... and I am working on beating it naturally. Thank you so much for your videos. This one especially was an incredible help.

[@nocarblisa]

Mine is fear of death and what’s next. I believe we have a soul/spirit/frequency that lives on, but that not everyone has a good time after they leave this body. I’ve done much research on this topic and no, I’m not religious. This fear continues far into the future and the years of this lifetime do not even compare to the years of distant future time where my anxiety takes me.

[@kurdish4good792]

I’m suffering from anxiety and panic attacks almost everyday . I have paranoia from medications. Doctors gave me medications for it, I hate the side effect If it I take it for 2 days and stop. I’m so tired of this feeling, heart pounding all the time , my head is heavy, it’s painful to take a deep breath sometimes. I just want to lay down or do nothing all day. Please help me GOD

[@DouglasBloch]

There is a medication called Seroquel that you can ask your doctor about. It can reduce anxiety. Have you tried Klonopin? Also, cold water can help reduce anxiety. If you email me [e-mail] I will send you a handout about that. Here s an article that will help. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inner-source/201407/cold-splash-hydrotherapy-depression-and-anxiety

[@DouglasBloch]

Good suggestions

[@D.Lee.W]

Sheraz...I don't have the expertise to give you advice, but I will say a prayer for you.

[@smokeymcbongwater3561]

Thats,. Funny joke, thanks for the another great video

[@Ikptizindabad]

live with the confidence that you make the difference...

[@lucyparsonage6907]

Love this

[@frightcrazyjim]

As an Honorable discharged Marine, 1982-1986, WE were trained to FEAR NOTHING! Well, fear of FAILING my DOT PHYSICAL to keep driving a tractor-trailer became REAL. How? Triple-digit blood pressure! 150/111. Normal BP is 120/80. Well, I failed! The EKG test on my heart is STRONG! MRI with dye, whole vein body system is clear! Therefore, NO heart problems and no chance of stroke which means my body is running well. Today! I passed my driver's physical and the subconscious ANXIETY was gone long enough to get my Blood pressure near 120/80 and passed. I also let the doctor know that I suffered from bipolar depression which was diagnosed in 1993. Breathing exercises work and letting the Doctor know in advance relieves the anxiety. I am back on the road!

[@frightcrazyjim]

I gave credit or "threw Douglas Broch under the bus!" Therefore, I did not "appear" to be self-diagnosed!" On the other hand, I did pass and can cope with Anxiety.

[@frightcrazyjim]

On Douglas Broch "5 things NOT TO DO with Anxiety," my anxiety overrode the "don't do anything rash." Change jobs! I cleaned out my semi and turned in my keys to my rig. Than! Applied to Amazon to deliver packages which is not CDL required job. Marines call this Improvise and overcome! This rash act did not help my anxiety, but did make sure my income keeps coming in! "employment." Well, today, my stuff is back in my rig and I withdrew my application from Amazon. Today I can haul 80,000 lbs of Amazon packages instead of 10,000 lbs. (lol)

[@DouglasBloch]

Keep up the good work.

[@eugenesmith7904]

Beirut?

[@andreaweiser258]

Thanks....Andrea from germany🏝🎁🌻

[@DouglasBloch]

Nice to hear from you

[@pimpompoom93726]

Fear of being alone, that's a big one. All my direct family have passed away-Mom, Dad, brother, sister. There is only me and my wife and we have few friends or close relatives on her side. We're both over 65 and the current pandemic has me anxious I'll lose her. I'm not afraid of dying myself, if it happens it happens. But living alone with nobody who has shared important moments in your life-that would not be worth living in my view. Every day would be an ordeal of loneliness. A scary thought.

[@joannachristian6905]

I did lose my husband and life is not worth living

[@pimpompoom93726]

@@joannachristian6905 Sorry to hear that, hope you can find peace.

[@cliffkonkle3467]

@@joannachristian6905 I am so sorry sending love and huge hugs friend I hope you are ok.

[@maggie2617]

I love the jokes. 😂 Thank you for the videos & all you do!

[@DouglasBloch]

You’re welcome. What was the joke of today?

[@maggie2617]

@@DouglasBloch The joke was "What did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet? 'Supplies!'" haha :)

[@anthonywestwood4347]

Think about this... Perception is projection. Fear is ONLY a word! Logically and spirituality we all know this. I agree with the centiments spoken in this video. Alow any fear in, then just observe it, don't judge it as if you were an outsider or a third party onlooker. The more you observe it the less of a problem it becomes. I would also suggest seeing a good NLP practitioner who can help You to rewire your brain to a much more positive outlook. For all those reading this... You all subconsciously understand Fear is ONLY a word and yes we do all have that choice of being happy, which do You choose? Love to all 😊

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks Anthony. NLP is an awesome therapy

[@jackmilloz150]

The thought that arises when your feeling anxiety coming on has the same “value” as the thought of a banana, both thoughts come from the same place, they randomly pop up in your head which is completely normal and how all thoughts operate. Now, one might make you a little hungry( your preconceived reaction to the thought of a banana) yet the other might paralyze you with fear, but as I said, the thoughts come from the same place, they start of with the same “value” which is none, they have no value, it’s your reaction to this valueless thought that starts the cycle of anxiety. Lastly, do bananas make you anxious? The answer is probably no. I promise you that the thought of a banana and the thought of anxiety coming on have the exact same initial value and come from the exact same place. Having this explained to me had a significant impact on the way that I thought about... thoughts. Their random and not yours, it’s not your fault for being tricked by them as I was for so long. Sit and comprehend this message, really think about it.

[@dabhob333]

Have you suffered through benzo wd? The thought that once you do a fear it goes away. That is not the case with benzo wd. It is a hell like no other.

[@jackiejames3898]

It is absolutely hell on earth. I don't care who you are, no one can handle that kind of torture and it is TORTURE.

[@BeOutstanding]

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[@TheHUhelps]

I would think that the fear of death is ultimately behind the fear of not being able to cope. Not being able to cope is a survival issue and survival is all about living or dying.

[@DouglasBloch]

That is very perceptive So how do we get over the fear of death?

[@TheHUhelps]

@@DouglasBloch Hi Douglas. A good question! I think that the initial step in overcoming the fear of death is to first recognize that we have it. This can be difficult as this fear can manifest in a myriad of ways hiding behind other fears and irritations. Once this step is taken then the next step depends on the personal beliefs of the individual. For me it was asking a higher source, or God, for help in loosening this fear's grip on my heart and mind. This actually resulted in more anxiety coming to the surface as this fear was being met. Facing this fear can be part of the hero's journey that Carl Jung speaks of as it is not easy and can take a long time to overcome. I don't think it's necessary to be totally free of this fear as we are hardwired to survive and avoid death. It just needs to stop being a major hidden influence in our lives. Regular meditation, prayer, or spiritual exercises, can be very helpful in facing the fear of death. Keep up the good work Douglas!

[@buuzy252]

Hi! I would like to know how to overcome the fear of letting a bad memory comesback and makes you anxious or depressed or just sticks in your head and makes you lose hope staying productive during your day. Thank you!

[@DouglasBloch]

I have a video called "how to stop obsessive and intrusive thoughts" that might answer your question.

[@buuzy252]

@@DouglasBloch okay thank you! However I don't think I have intrusive thoughts but I had one specific thought a couple months ago that comes back and gives me migaines. Sometimes it's the same thought that sticks in my head, sometimes the fear of it's future consequences makes me ruminate, makes me sad and a little depressed and anxious. I prefer when I ruminate cause I stay productive, but when the thought sticks in my head I just can't move at all... but this doesn't make me sad, rumination makes me sad but not the thought. I don't know if it make sence. Sometimes I switch between my negative thoughts to the one which is easier to manage so I can feel okay... That's very weird

[@eloisemarie5219]

oh no! I didn't want to but I laughed. Also great video.

[@DouglasBloch]

It is a cute joke.

[@Juliet_Capulet]

"Supplies" - that was cute.

[@eddieneal9920]

Seriously, so if Im fearing relapse, then I should just go ahead and do it? So much for the truth of this video.

[@DouglasBloch]

What I am saying obviously does not apply in this case. If you fear relapse, you should start to use strategies and coping skills to maintain your well-being. You could also say to yourself, “Even if I do relapse, I will be able to come out of it.“

[@eddieneal9920]

Yeah, I apologize for the rude comment. I do agree with what youre saying about fearing the inability to cope as being the fear behind all fears. Ive been sober for 5 months tomorrow. I made it 6 months a coupla years ago. The last 3 or 4 days were particularly rough periods to just remain sober. No particular event causing it. My mind was telling me "You inow you want to drink, just go ahead and do it, get it over with, you know you're going to end up starting back anyway". Observing my thoughts worked for awhile but they seemed to be getting the better of me. What has been what worked ultimately was giving my self space to go ahead and feel the feelings without act8ng on them and they subside quicker that way. Im 56 and Ive really had a go with thia for probably 35 years now. Never made it longer than the 6 months I had a couple of years ago. Took a year and a half to try again. Now Im at 5 months. I just completed treatment for Hep C and am now cured of that but I have been diagnosed with early signs of liver cirrhosis. Another relapse could easily be the last one for me. I onow the reasons I started at 14 and continued for so long. Just plain feeling insignificant and social anxiety. Never feeling like I was good enough. Anyway, keep up the good work. I do like your videos.