The Four Stages of Discovering Yourself

A look into one of psychologies core theories of development, James Marcia's theory of identity development.
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[@Windsoffreedom197]

I think it's really important to take your time in setting your long-term goal, because without one, anyone will inevitably begin to feel lost and without meaning in the course of an unanalyzed path. That's why it's important to ignore the pressure given by peers or teachers to quickly choose, let's say, a degree you don't like.

[@ShangaelThunda222]

My issue is that these "lifepaths" all seem to be based around occupations, when speaking of what people want to do with their life. What are they going to do as a job or career, seems to be the entire focus, or at least the main focus. I think the mindset that Modern Humanity currently has is the number one reason why almost no one knows who they really are. Because without any external manipulation, people would not be the beings that they are today. Most people are what they've been manipulated into being, even if they don't realize that it's manipulation and even if the manipulation itself wasn't necessarily direct or coercive. Just somebody's culture and upbringing can make them behave in a certain way throughout their life that they wouldn't have done if they weren't brought up in that culture or with that upbringing. I think Humanity's view on society and civilization doesn't even allow for people to actually discover who they truly are, because they can only discover themselves within the range of their civilization. If you step outside of that, good luck not being imprisoned, murdered or shunned by society in some way shape or form.

[@sm-iy9bo]

True i have the same feeling as you do

[@MeshalAlhussaini]

Here's an idea that modern society's idiots call fairy tale. The idea that god is one and the originator of everything including the concept of time and space that. He's all knowing all wise and all powerful. He created this temporary world we live in to be judged by our conduct. If he causes a baby to die in pain he rewards him with untold pleasures and immortalizes him in it and that will cause said baby to forget he was ever in pain. He is also extremely fair. Isn't the idea of this god existing logical and necessary? Knowing and worshipping such a god is the only thing worthy of being a purpose.

[@ShangaelThunda222]

@@MeshalAlhussaini No... Not at all lol. Such a god would be clinically insane.

[@BeyondPersonality]

It's good to see you back again Chris! Great video

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

Great video, very helpful. I spent a lot of time in the "Identity Diffusion" : Until 2022 / 33 years old. I am in the "identity achievement" only very recently. _ One year ago, someone told me : "We take what there is", "We all stress it's like that" I wasn't agree at all with that, I refuse to stress and take what there is. I have chosen my well being, mental health and happiness first. And I did the right choice. (MBTI & Psychology helped me so much, and have even saved my life) _ I find it super important, even crucial to know who we are, in order to do something that we really like and that correspond to us (especially when we are an high intuitive personality type) I think no one should stress and should do what they love to do, what correspond to them, all deserve to have a meaningful life/be happy as soon as possible.

[@jacksesenna9720]

Great video! I empatize with the lack of direction, and i apreciate you talking about it. A topic that could be of interest to others is:" various limitations and difficulties of identity change/lack there of". In Italy, for example, there are ages that cost less, so having a crisis is even harder in some cases.

[@nihwa6691]

Thank you! This was immenselly helpful!

[@samsworld1770]

You are an awesome person. Never forget that !

[@BeyondPersonality]

I oscillate between identity achievement and moratorium

[@Sharkuterie327]

Hi Chris! Glad to see you are warming back up to making KZbin videos (kinda gives the feel of hearing from an old friend, lol). I’d consider two of the stages to be transitional states, and the other two stability states. We seem to consider stability an ideal, but I like how you mentioned that being open to change/considering new possibilities is really healthy, too.

[@dirtywhitellama]

Why you gotta call past me out like that with that identity foreclosure stuff 😂😭

[@leggi_bois4eva]

💖💖💖

[@LUKAS-mh6op]

I'm assuming you personally are in identity achievement right now, but I'm curious at what stage of identity development where you before that? Forclosure or Moratorium?

[@monopolejoe]

I think i'm in the forclosure stage currently.

[@AffectionateSummitHiker-xp6hw]

Are we born with identity ?or we can change it .

[@timefortee]

Chris have you thought about being ISTP? You def seem to have both Ni and Ti.

[@cindyc]

🤗♥️👍

[@jacksesenna9720]

Maybe your KZbin neiche Is actually identity develpment

[@leggi_bois4eva]

🧀🧀🧀