The Gender Credibility Gap

This one truly took a village. Huge thanks to everyone who suggested this as a topic and also to all those who educated me on the existing project and book by Laura Bates
Stitched videos are from @what_if_wyatt (TT) and ‪@whodidwhatnowpod‬
And thanks also to @majentaritchie on TT for pointing me to Martin Schneider's story.

[@Greenplanet949]

Wow, that experiment was jaw dropping, not because of how badly people act towards women but a man actually seeing it.

[@teresamagnusson]

Right???

[@ОксанаЧернохвостенко]

If a man makes a mistake driving, it's because he has a bad day, but if I, a woman, make a mistake, it's because I'm a woman and belong in the kitchen. Same shit at work. In college one of our professors said 'there's no point in teaching you anything, you all are just going to get married and have children'. Almost all of my woman groupmates are working moms. Working from home I prefer not to disclose my gender if I can.

[@Greenplanet949]

I’m 70. My father thought the same thing, that I didn’t need education because I was just going to be a SAHM. I had to work my whole life. Luckily I slowly got my college w/o his help. Can’t blame you for not disclosing your gender.

[@matthews7805]

I never thought about reasons like that for driving mistakes, but being a truck driver, an observation I've made is when I'm trying to get on a highway, a man will move over one lane if he can to afford me space whereas most women will not. Don't take it the wrong way though, I don't take it personally anymore as I deal with assholes all day long, regardless of sex.

[@seraphilight]

I was making a Dungeons and Dragons game once. It was a noble intrigue game with sides of adventure. I asked my male players if they wanted their living noble parent to be a man or woman, saying they would have different benefits. They said they couldn't see the benefit of a noble mother- even the guy who came from a matriarch culture! They would have had a rough fucking time if that group hadn't fallen apart.

[@seraphilight]

The reason is because all the benefits the father could have brought were just things the average ttrpg player could manage on their own. The average player, even particularly harder for dnd players, would not have even thought to do anything the mother would- when they do the motivation is more so they feel cool rather than assuming it's necessary and they typically fail. When you wanted a lord or land owner to do something, like take land, you'd ask your dad to talk to him- because they're friends and men typically only listen to men. When you wanted to know if someone was going to take your land, you'd ask your mom- because "women be talking" was literally women's jobs. Women were the assassins, spies, intel gatherers. Hosts, peace-keepers. Men were what the patriarchy tells you men are supposed to be, but in their fucking lane. Diplomats, war mongers and strategists, protectors, alliance makers. But neither side could do jack without the other. Mom: "Sweety, that girl is rather pretty isn't she? You should court her." Son: "Uh, mom, not really looking for marriage. Besides, dad was friends with the guy who knows the king and he has a daughter and some lands he'll gift her." Mom: "No, dumbass. Her father's planning a coup and her mother is trying to marry her off to save her by offering incentives. She's really naive right now because she hasn't been told and I need you to get in there, gain her trust, and find out where their armies are stashed. And she's filthy fucking rich so I need to know who to lift the key off of when the king marches in so we squirrel away what we can grab while they're none the wiser. You wanted to marry a princess instead of her friend right? This will help, 'cause your father's dead and that lord only cares about us out of obligation to him. Dumb as a brick like your father." Dad: "Hm, we should take that land from the savages, eh boys? It'll give us bargaining chips with these guys we already know and prevent future attacks from the savages because it's their holy land." Friends: "Here here!" All: "..." All: "..." Dad: "You want to go hunting for the next three years and do absolutely nothing else?" All: "Yeah!" And then they either did nothing and lost all money and honour, or went to war with less intel than they could have had and still got stabbed in the back. I would have literally had to give them a female cousin to keep them afloat when out collecting funds via adventuring.

[@CandiPinki]

This happened to me TODAY!!! My female co-worker tried to explain something, I tried to explain it, but once a man explained it, everybody listened. Both men and women talk over me, they don't listen as well when I finally get a chance to talk, and then it's harder for me to convince them. I've even given my work to a male coworker and asked him to turn it in as his own. Of course it was accepted where my last four submissions were not. Any ideas how to combat this?

[@teresamagnusson]

Quit that job.

[@seraphilight]

Similar with male subordinates who don't respect you. Instantly fire them or have them fired. No quarter given, because if you do they will find a way to make a dollar off you.

[@jelatinosa]

Gather as much evidence regarding the situation, and make a case against them of discrimination on the basis of sex and gender.

[@lethalaffection9705]

im in the military. this is factual

[@alexmcd378]

Seen this painfully many times at work.

[@starr234]

Thank you so much for this! I love your videos.