The Gender Wars is Ending Marriage and Relationships Everywhere

[@TicciTavvi]

Every man I’ve met who has ‘settled’ is referring to stuff like ‘she’s not a 10/10, but she’s alright’ or ‘she nags me a bit about doing housework but idc’, and then go on with their lives. Every woman I know who has settled talks about ‘yeah he’s basically my third child but he doesn’t physically abuse me’ or ‘he sometimes watches the kids while I go to the bathroom, though he does complain alot’

[@painunending4610]

Then why do women keep accepting that?

[@TicciTavvi]

@@painunending4610 oh man I think there are so many different reasons that vary so wildly from person to person it’s really impossible to say 😭 But I think, largely, it’s a messy cocktail of past trauma, poor role models, and being taken advantage of

[@hopelinn__riuu8185]

You just described my parents and aunts marriage, now I'm kinda traumatized of marriage bc it seems so humiliating and exhausting and I alredy have litte selfworth and energy... not for me

[@blackpegasus7125]

@@thwillow299that proves when women “settle” it’s MUCH more senseless🤦🏽‍♂️

[@abunlover]

The funniest thing about a man saying a woman should "settle" is that they're acting like women aren't settling by remaining single. I'd rather settle by being single than by being in an unfulfilling relationship.

[@Kontroversial84]

This!

[@petrakratochvilova3372]

Men: choose better men! Women: *stay single* Men: "YOU NEED TO SETTLE!! NOW!!@!#!!" 😂😂😂

[@AWholeVibe96]

He sound gay

[@kittykatz4001]

Yep! 💯! Why would I want to add my under $100k salary to be part of some 50/50 bull 💩, drama, and “problems?” I’ll keep ALL of my little $ and peace!

[@quelquun2018]

If I’m gonna struggle, might as well do it alone. However, I’m in a happy healthy relationship 😂😂😂

[@g3n0sc1d3]

its literally ending my relationship right now because my partner thinks he has to have AUTHORITY over me because im a woman.

[@g3n0sc1d3]

thanks redpill content.

[@SpiritVines]

Ummmm that’s concerning

[@SpiritVines]

Makes me question too because of the whole “all men will end your happiness” theme going on

[@EyesOpenLegsClosed]

Stay safe as you leave!

[@Goat.Cheese]

So glad you've made the decision to leave. I hope it goes well and you are safe!

[@destroyraiden]

spousal rape was also made illegal in the US till 1993 so not even a full life time of no spousal rape.

[@adarateranroldan]

And it still happens. I’ve heard stories where men take advantage of women while convalescing. Some will pick up wives from nursing homes and bring them back when they’re finished.

[@attitudeproblem6462]

What continuously seems to fly over these males’ heads is that Women are starting to feel like “if I can’t get what I _want_ in a partner, than I’m quite alright going without.”

[@pixelgirl843]

It's all an elaborate lie they tell themselves to avoid admitting they are mediocre and are the problem.

[@MrMeToo-fh7pe]

Everything shows that Men caught on to the fact that almost every so-called complaint yall have is what's called "Projecting.""

[@PincheGuey-gc2or]

You guys seem to be missing the point that a lot of men want to start from the ground up with a woman. Why would I want to spend all that time and energy building myself up for you to finally give me a chance? That doesn’t seem worth it to me. There is no feeling of love when you only want a man for what he can bring to the table. You weren’t with me at the bottom, you can’t sit with me at the top.

[@MzAqua]

⁠​⁠@@PincheGuey-gc2or Nope, most men don’t want to settle down until they build themselves up and get where they want to be in life… then get to pick the woman that they deem best/ sexually attractive. No woman wants to be Barbra the builder and sacrifice to raise a man up just to be left in the end after years of sacrificing and having kids. Women would rather be single and have peace.

[@spookyjones6577]

@@PincheGuey-gc2oridk if you don’t want to improve yourself, than the free market has spoken. You need to make a woman happier to be with you than she can be by herself, if you can’t do that…

[@cadybug14]

It’s always “women should settle” but never “men should work on themselves and become better partners”

[@AlmeshiaSmith]

Bingooo

[@zooweellama]

because they cant and until women understand this they will continue to be disappointed.🤷‍♀ like trying to get a cat to shapeshift into a fish so it can breathe underwater - impossible and you look crazy for trying.

[@akaTheLaughingGirl]

@@zooweellamaeveryone can always find ways to improve themselves. Men and women. You’re selling yourself short if you say you can’t better yourself.

[@nodrvgs]

no fr, it's so embarrassing that they are confidently saying that women should settle... shows they're happy with being the partner of someone who they know is settling by being with them. Shame is non-existent for them

[@nothereyetlost]

Or even settle

[@Scrittlescrattle]

The thing about the tradwives too is that they aren’t even trad!!! They own their own business pedaling this false lifestyle to young women and have nannies for their kids, personal chefs, these people have BANK and these women have a safety net of money if something happens to their even richer husbands

[@caitlynsworldasthesongstrist]

And their white fathers passed them down with generational wealth

[@janicefinch3563]

I keep seeing this being said about trad wives but no one ever gives an example of an actual trad wife who fits this mold. People love to use Ballerina Farm as an example but she has never claimed to be a tradwife. It's a total strawman.

[@Omniryu]

The problem with the "trad wife" movement, is that the men that claim to want them, will turn around and call a woman a gold digger for admitting they want to be one. Gotta make a lot of money, $150k+, to even think about having a "trad wife". Dude's making $45k talking about wanting one.

[@Valfara770]

Those dudes want to have it all: they want a woman that will do all the work at home AND works and brings in money, so they can basically just go to work and then sit on their asses the other part of the time.

[@Omniryu]

@@Valfara770 MAN!! They don't even want to work half the time. Wanna be treated like little boys but be called "Kings"

[@athenax]

That's why men LOVE Pearl but she still single 😂 they don't want traditional women, they want women who are free spirited so they can feel dominance by making her into a traditional woman. There's too many pick me's for men to be complaining about not finding trad wives 😂 they just don't want pick me's, they want a woman to break down.

[@gem9535]

This. Want a trad wife? Be a trad husband.

[@B3YOND-D_Grav3]

If money is one the biggest issue in getting married and planning parenthood in the western. Why not start a family overseas where the dollar and pound stretches pretty far and cost of living cheaper than where you are currently living in instead of being dusty pick mes for sprinkle sprinkle

[@bMack270]

After a decade of "choose better" that settle conversations is completely out of the window now.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

💯💯

[@blackpegasus7125]

And women still be choosing wrong🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@wuraola3751]

It’s the fact that he said “we perfect men” with this mindset 🤢, he thinks he’s part of “we” no boy

[@MichelleseaChelle]

I caught that too! 🫢😂

[@itsoffthebabango6090]

Does the majority of men are that delusional ? Maybe ? But that's where I don't the initial point from where the vidos goes. I think that A. Tate and J. Peterson would never make that much money, if men were that secure.

[@deforestshell3037]

​@@itsoffthebabango6090I think it's more so we're kind of tired. Men have to do a lot of things and then some just to be considered.And even then it's not unguaranteed that a woman will like you or even society will which is why you also see men going single as well. It's fascinating despite we're living in socially more equal times it only proves how different men and women were. And it kind of exposes how much men and women hate each other

[@darkgardener9577]

Boy? Why are you so intimidated by his masculinity?? That level of arrogance is celebrated by women....what's wrong with it in men??

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

Deforest, It's men who hate women to begin with. And women are catching on to it and saying no thank you. You think women don't work our asses off? Pay attention. You just discount a lot of the work women do without realizing that you're looking straight at it. Look up a book called "fair play", read it, and get educated. The thing you need to learn is that men and women are not that different. Slugs and men are different. Salmon and men are quite different. Women and men? Very very much the same. We want love and respect and understanding and fairness. Start thinking about how we are so much alike instead of how we are different and you will finally be on the path.

[@Personinspace]

I think it’s ridiculous how the first assumes that he’s the perfect man by saying “they’re aint enough of us to go around”.

[@SocksWithSandalsEnjoyer]

Fr like... I hope it stays that way 💀 we don't need more of y'all

[@Maximusket]

@@SocksWithSandalsEnjoyer exactly 😂😂

[@bfns23]

Most of you women just assume y'all are perfect women by how much y'all criticize men

[@JenniferRusso5]

He needs to marry himself. 😂

[@SR-mv2mf]

Yeah I’ll pass on that guy. Would rather be single than deal with him.

[@yosoyroman875]

If I have to settle and end up with a terrible man who doesn’t put in effort, doesn’t appreciate me, disrespects me, can’t give me monogamy, or what ever else he’s spouting. I’ll just adopt children and have cats. I’m not going to allow the fear of being unhappy keep me in an unhappy situation.

[@cs-ht9cv]

Nor will that fear ever put you in a happy situation either. Good luck

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

Good👏🏼 For 👏🏼 You 👏🏼 Maam ❤❤❤🔥💯💯

[@yosoyroman875]

@@ithinkiknowme6450 🥰🥰thank you

[@keshi5541]

Your adopted child should have the chance to grow up with two parents, I think that is selfish. Everything else is your choice though.

[@NoxNovak]

​@@cs-ht9cv everyone is afraid of something. With or without a male in your life. It is better be alone and working on oneself, than catering to an abusive, self-centered male.

[@kruggyy]

Brett cooper calling those videos “sweet” is hilarious. meanwhile she has a full time job making bank

[@universealchemy]

HAHA so true

[@Goat.Cheese]

Yep, that's how it goes!

[@agathalynx]

I mean, what did you expect from a female version of Ben Shapiro.

[@MalesAreDemons]

She’s a big hypocrite and a pick me

[@nodrvgs]

I was honestly appalled when I heard her say that... she usually has decent takes as well

[@purplepotato8849]

I think we're also underestimating the extent to which the algorithm is playing us against each other; I'm a girl who consumes fitness content, and my recommended feed is FILLED with bro 'influencers' insulting girls for filming in the gym, and insinuating that all women are undeserving, promiscuous liars. I always laugh and select 'Not interested', but it KEEPS COMING UP, because they assume I'm a gym bro, and that's probably what they're all feeding the men. Also, good on Korean feminists and Chinese 'leftover' women for deciding on their own paths, marriage in a traditional society is not it.

[@ana-nim]

I immediately hit "don't reccomend this channel" every time I see male face on the screen for the same exact reason. I don't look at comments, I don't listen, I don't care. There are some male influencers who I respect but most can't provide any useful information for women even if they're not openly misogynistic.

[@kittykatz4001]

Yep. Algorithm keeps sending me wig and weave stuff. Nobody who knows me in RL has ever seen me with a wig or a weave. I’m more likely to watch cat videos-and I do, than watch hair content, but this algorithm REALLY wants me to see stuff about wigs and weave! 😮

[@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast]

Same with my algorithm. I get TONS of anti-blk woman/pro-h8 content in my feed, despite not watching, not clicking, hitting Not Interested or Do Not Recommend Channel. If I start a new, positive-themed account, it doesn't recommend anyone blk unless they are covering toxic reality tv shows or more of the "I Don't Date Blk Women" or "Blk Women Are All Bald" videos. The world makes so much money off of bashing blk women because people value it enough to pay good money to see or hear it. I also get lots of Pro Trad Wife/Anti-Anything Else type videos, despite me having no problem with Trad Wives. Strange.

[@missp498]

I think more men are online thatn women so its more beneficial for them to send the stuff to you thinking you are a man i dont think the algorthym is as sophistucated as we think it is. I heard they just throw stuff your way and go from thre and right now its just gym stuff.

[@zooweellama]

@@ana-nim this is what im starting to do. hopefully i reach a point where the only male content i get recommended are new vids from the youtube channels i subscribed to for a specific reason. beyond that, i dont care about new male youtubers.

[@OE2023]

The irony is data shows women are happier single and men aint so let them carry on 🤣

[@kittykatz4001]

Yep. In addition, there is data shows smex between W/M W/W M/M Women who have schmex with men, have the least likelihood of “O.” Also, men are really on social media saying openly it doesn’t “matter” if women do not “O.” 😮 Men use women like a fleshlight.

[@salkoharper2908]

Not sure anyone would be happy living alone till they die. This gender war brainwashing is crazy. Trust me, my Aunt did this. She is now 67, living alone and is very lonely. Picturing her sitting alone with her pet bird, trust me. My Dad has a much better life. He has two sons and is happy in old age... Just bear in mind, you wnt be young forever. Try doing everything alone when you 70. It is impossible.

[@toecutterjones]

​@@salkoharper2908that's one woman, most women who choose to be alone are very happy with that decision. Your aunt is the exception not the rule.

[@salkoharper2908]

@@toecutterjones Only because of mechanization and paid help in the modern world. As soon as a lawn needs mowing, a shelf needs assembling, a wall needs painting. Being alone as an old person gets very expensive very quickly. You need to pay a worker to do all those things then. No family to help you. It's your choice, I don't care what you do. But telling young women it's all sunshine and rainbows is a lie.

[@boochi7087]

​@@salkoharper2908You're implying that the only way to have a fulfilling life is to have a partner and that's a problem. Your satisfaction with you life should not be tied to only one person. Get hobbies, learn to enjoy your company, and make friends. There's no reason why you can't have emotional bonds with other men! Y'all already prefer each other anyway.

[@ST-rj8iu]

My Grandmother was married in the 1950s. She worked piece rate in a sewing factory. She was deaf. Traditional women didn't really exist. The WW2 ended in 1945. Many women were widowed. My Grandfather fought in WW2.

[@ezzylopez7286]

Generations of women in my family have worked. They worked in fields, as domestics, and in factories. Women have worked for centuries. Our society loves to talk about the 1950s housewife. They ignore the wealthy women who had maids and the women who had to wash and make clothes for other families

[@I.am.hooked]

@@ezzylopez7286exactly.

[@Afrocreolebombshelle]

Right both of my grandmother on my mom and dad side was nurses

[@kittykatz4001]

Men need to find the women who “settle,” and leave the rest of us alone. There are women who are HIS counterparts, BUUUT, he isn’t talking to the women who are in his “lane,” now, is he? 😮 🤔

[@hevabmore]

That is what I don't understand, they rarely go after the women who are begging to be picked and instead address the women who are not asking to be chosen.

[@kittykatz4001]

@@hevabmore They’re insane AND dangerous!. Crazy azz demons!

[@divinegoddess386]

​@hevabmore Cause they are the type of women those guys really want. They don't want the pickmes. In fact, nobody does. Lol.

[@miyangtangwan7046]

😂😂😂Their mind games are not very clever.

[@sakuraesther6309]

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[@sparkymularkey6970]

Even if we want kids, we don't have to settle! It's been shown that having a man in the house when you have a kid to take care of is often like having an additional child to clean up after. 😂 If I ever want a child, I can just adopt and live in peace.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

Yeah one of my cousin is adopted and adoption centers are overcrowded with children that are waiting for a family. But a lot of them never get adopted because a lot of people think adopted children aren't parents real children

[@teoleno4019]

Or you can use a sperm bank. The modern male is useless.

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

I coparent as a divorced mom. It's heavenly. I get her for weekends. Works out great

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

The single moms by choice movement is growing in popularity

[@bunchielove6893]

​@SkycometFallen it's more of an acceptance. I was doing most of it by myself ao I may as well leave you.

[@omowhanre]

I’m a Black stay at home mom and wife. Please don’t do this with just any random. PLEASE. Also, women will always be criticized by society. If you’re single, marry. If you don’t have kids, have them. If you have one child, have two. If you have two, are you done yet? If you have three, wow that’s sooo many kids. So please, do what’s best for you, your soul and your future.

[@celestialspartan1176]

As a man, I just ignore the red pill crap and keep on moving forward. What those brats want is a second mom and total servant instead of an actual partner. So, those brats can just date each other or get dolls.

[@miyangtangwan7046]

😂😂😂

[@celestialspartan1176]

@@miyangtangwan7046 I’m just speaking the truth, the EVENTUAL truth for the people in the red pill space.

[@McEggs-sp7qg]

I also do that as well whenever I am in the MMA space...I am trying to become more media literate and try to develop my skills before getting into any commitments.

[@brettdavidson3866]

I would say be careful what you wish for in future

[@celestialspartan1176]

@@brettdavidson3866 and I’m saying that I ain’t getting no doll.

[@QueenBoudicca125]

It makes me sad because i love baking, and i like to grow my own food if i can. I'd love to live on a farm/off the land and all that. But now, these people have hijacked the image of that lifestyle and made it seem distasteful to a lot of people by associating it with red pill nonsense.

[@sleeprelaxationsfx8186]

just… do what you want to do. don’t think anyone is gonna call you RP for living on a farm & who cares if it’s what makes you happy..

[@maam-yj8ph]

People will ridicule women no matter what you do. So you might as well do what you want to do.

[@TwelvetreeZ]

I get what you're saying, but don't let "bad" people doing hobbies you enjoy put you off. Ben and Abby Shapiro play DnD, but I'll be damned if I'm not playing because some right-wing assholes enjoy it too

[@Hopdog230]

These men don’t want to be providers! That’s the key.. they want women to submit while paying half the bills. That’s the difference.. all these men pushing this and women pushing this forget that part.

[@uhnetwork7506]

So u just go to work for no reason? If ur living in my household your going to contribute wether thats thru payment or actions ain’t no free rides

[@jellatok]

@@uhnetwork7506They were talking about men who want a wife that cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, and does whatever he says, but also works and covers half the bills. They weren’t talking about an equal exchange where both partners work or one works and the other maintains the house.

[@red2theelectricboogaloo961]

@@jellatok true, i guess. but i will say, i don't like seeing people re-iterating the need to be a provider. this is probably because i'm a guy, but i just hate seeing "when are men going to be providers". either way, there should be an understanding of reciprocity and it is true that if you're expecting someone to do all the housework expecting them to pay half the bills is pretty stupid. either they will pay into the household or they won't and they'll instead do something else.

[@jellatok]

Yeah, I get that, but I don’t think that’s what this specific comment is doing. They’re just talking about a specific group that if given the traditional wife they want, should expect to provide. But, as a woman, I totally understand that feeling of being put in a narrow box. Generally speaking the average person isn’t going to believe that men have to be providers or women have to stay in the home. Social media definitely creates a loud minority and it can be incredibly infuriating

[@beastykiller1179]

Bruh the economy is so fucked everyone needs to work

[@pinkeysherbet7249]

My great-great aunt was an artist in New York who shared studio space with artists who would go on to be world renowned. She was forced to come home after a year and get married as she “had her fun” but needed to “get serious and settle down”. Her art was beautiful and she could have been great. We have her pieces in the family and we treasure them but we wish she could have been allowed to pursue her art.

[@gailainsley6939]

Red pill stuff really turned me off THEM. Kevin Samuels was the icing on the cake for me. I was already on my last leg and he just put me TOTALLY all the way off!

[@MalachiSlade]

Kev the 🐐

[@gailainsley6939]

@@MalachiSlade of what? He made no difference. 😂😂 The outcomes for men have been worse since him and have made women not even like them altogether. So what was the point? 😂 In fact, what has it improved in YOUR ability to get what you want? 🥴😂😴🚮

[@fairygodmother139]

@@MalachiSladethat’s why women don’t like men. Seems y’all men need to start dating each other

[@KellyfromMemphis]

The worst thing men are doing is letting the world (us women) see how they really act irl…they are now ick!

[@neverbackdown1918]

@@gailainsley6939Kevin Samuel’s was genuinely a force for good in terms of relationships. If you actually have watched multiple streams of his from start to finish, you’d realize this. There are plenty of videos of him criticizing men harshly, even more harshly than women.

[@leighannsoles8432]

Why they think we would be unhappy if we are alone?

[@kiim0]

Because it's a common sight. Younger women are generally happier. life is still bright and sunny. Experiences still exciting. As you age, and search for purpose in life, something begins to fade. Friends become parents, families start to develop, weddings are attended. After a while, it's literally just natural to yearn for companionship. Someone to grow with. Someone to share memories and bonds with. Life happens and seeing the activities among your friend group change is proof. Granted, you also do not want to make the mistake of spending all if that time with the wrong partner, someone who drains your life more than fulfills, but nobody is ever satisfied with solitude forever. We all want someone who truly knows us better than anybody else.

[@Bella_Noire]

Because they are unhappy when they are alone. They project their fears onto women a lot.

[@SofiaPea22]

@@kiim0 you can still be lonely in a marriage or if you have kids though. I think being a traditional stay at home mom/wife is the loneliness job a person can have. Yes you’re home with the kids but you don’t get much interaction with other adults or your peers like you would in a professional environment. In fact tons of SAHM deal with loneliness. Being socially isolated and emotionally unfulfilled will make you feel lonely. Being single and childless doesn’t necessarily mean you will be lonely. You can have work friends, friends outside of work, time to volunteer for meaningful causes, and family (siblings,parents,grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews). Yeah it’s nice to find companionship, but marrying the wrong person can be devastating for everyone involved. The worst thing that happens to a woman who doesn’t settle is that she ends up alone and maybe feeling lonely. The best thing that happens for a woman who doesn’t settle is that she gets the partner and relationship she wants or she’s happy being single and free. The worst thing that happens to a woman who settles is feeling lonely/unsatisfied, divorce/breakup, time wasted, and emotional heartache. The best case scenario for a woman who settles is that she thinks her partner is just fine.

[@chickensalad3535]

@@kiim0This is true, but a romantic relationship is not necessary to address this issue, let alone with a man.

[@Kontroversial84]

​@@kiim0 So true

[@drnkndmn]

Men's idea of settling is very different because the bar for women is set really high. For him yeah, settling for a woman is ok because it is objectively.

[@ПолинаПолина-з6о]

Yeah, for men settling is beneficial, but for women is is a burden

[@LoveAndSnapple]

Yes, they know that they’re definition of settling is looks based but still have every intention of getting suzie homemaker. When women settle, they’re settling for taking in a man child.

[@adarateranroldan]

That’s also why we’re replaceable to them

[@hardcandy71287]

@@adarateranroldan yep. because the chances of getting a good woman is high, whereas getting a good man is not.

[@nodrvgs]

yeah their definition of settling is usually centered around her appearance (having a gf who doesn't look as pretty as their dream girl)

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

I rather be a lifelong world traveler than spend years in one house

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

Traveling is good for sure, but I like like my house, I built it, it's very me, my safe place. :)

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

@@Tim_G_Bennett awww love that never going anywhere for you….. I am my own safe place wherever I go. There I am.

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

@@easiersaidwithmeg That's awesome! I'm happy you can do that. :) I've had too much trauma to feel very safe in the world, holidays are enough.

[@Rinniantoinette]

@@easiersaidwithmegI’m a homebody but I like what you said. We need to trust ourselves and be our own safe space

[@blackpegasus7125]

That lifestyle is really only best for those who don’t plan on having kids🤣

[@christine-97]

Men wanna say women should settle BUT then Blame them and say they Should've Chose Better.....Make it Make Sense

[@britneybij3997]

Its like that one scene from the Simpsons; Marge: Lisa, if you keep doing that you will never get a boyfriend! Lisa: alright, then no boyfriend 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@blackpegasus7125]

Gonnna be some longgggg lonely years to come🤣give it time and especially give it AGE😉

[@furlycee]

I think idealizing a partner by talking about “perfect” or “settling” is society’s incorrect framing. You’re trying to find a human being you connect with and can go the distance with, who cares for and respects you. It won’t be perfect but it’s not settling to find someone who you know you click with and can grow with. Obviously run from red flags but I think we’ve commodified dating so much that we see people as a list instead of a human being.

[@roccafille]

This 💯!

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

This is probably the best comment here.

[@boochi7087]

The SK 4B movement really highlights something the patriarchy failed or willfully neglected to teach everyone. The patriarchy established an unbalanced power dynamic in favor of men without acknowledging the value and importance of women to keeping the patriarchy alive. If women choose not to birth men or children in general, then it severely affects men and the stability and economy of the country! Somehow, the patriarchy convinced women that getting married and having kids were requirements to establishing their worth and fulfilling their role as a woman (a tool) to the men. Feminism came in and empowered women to make marriage and having kids a choice vs a requirement which open them up to consider other criteria for fulfillment. Meanwhile, the patriarchy has not made any effort to correct the idea of women as tools for the fulfillment of men. I think that feminism terrifies some men because they can only view it through the lens of patriarchy and not feminism. I appreciate that feminism considers the plight of men, but I wonder if there's any value to it since the more dominant patriarchal culture seems relentless in holding men hostage to these archaic idealogies of how genders should exist in a society. In my opinion, the crisis for men isn't something feminism should solve, rather I think it may require an evolution of the patriarchy to something else that's a better match for feminism. Women are going to keep evolving using feminist idealogies (even those who claim not to be feminists) because it's relatable and puts women in a position of establishing their identities for themselves vs the patriarchal society. Patriarchal idealogies are becoming less relatable to women, so the harder men hold onto them, the harder it'll be for them to find women they're compatible with. At this point, I think this might require the patriarchal powers that be to redefine the patriarchy for men so their patriarchal definitions of masculinity can be modified to align better with feminism. Although this seems manipulative, it'll make it easier for men and the patriarchy to get what they so desperately need (women), and women will probably be safer for it. I mean, we can already see that the current state of things is getting more dangerous for women. There's a dangerous desperation and disdain for women linked to conservative men who can't seem to get women the way they want them. That's my hot take.

[@boochi7087]

​@@RicochetForceI think that's fine that the patriarchal powers that be are finding alternatives instead of implementing corrective actions to address the root cause of the problem, but there is a limit to these women outside Korea or the US that'll accept these men. Additionally, for all these men going out somewhere else to find partners, my assumption that they'd still prefer to be accepted by the women local to them. It seems like they're mostly doing this because their true preferences aren't accepting them the way they are, so they're choosing to take themselves as-is to women that'll accept them as-is. It won't be long before those other women also don't accept them as-is. The world and the availability of women aren't infinite. It'll be interesting to see how things go. I'm just glad that at least some/few men understand that I'll be easier for them if they go with vs against the grain of feminism.

[@nodrvgs]

very well articulated, you hit every point

[@babyg7796]

“The desperation & disdain for women is dangerous” spot on! This is literally the whole issue! They NEED women….but hate women for not wanting to choose them and will LITERALLY go their entire life ONLY caring & loving on themselves instead of a man.. it boils their blood.

[@MrMadalien]

Meh, luxury beliefs. No children = no people, no people no problems, civilization will end and feminism is just a symptom of that general malaise. Other cultures will replace us that still maintain family values, like Islamic cultures. Or Orthodox Christians in Eastern Europe.

[@haute03]

"Patriarchal idealogies are becoming less relatable to women, so the harder men hold onto them, the harder it'll be for them to find women they're compatible with." "There's a dangerous desperation and disdain for women linked to conservative men who can't seem to get women the way they want them. " 🔥🔥🔥

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Who else is 4B America here? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@JayBee-hk7ej]

4B eastern Europe

[@shaktimishra9710]

Honestly i think 4B movement is stupid. You don't need a special movement to stay single and happy. So much drama for no reason.

[@cheekyqueefs]

ohhh noo the anime pfp

[@katiemackcomments]

men will literally do everything but be better huh 😂

[@Precious211]

It’s pride

[@deforestshell3037]

​@@Precious211What's you guys call better? Another Woman will call lane and imagine being a man having to be under this type of scrutiny. This is why both men and women are going single.

[@Goofygoober-d8y]

Wrong, take a look of the men’s self improvement movement, im 14 years old, i used to be a loser i used to play games all day and night and used to look like a discord mod, now I p’m in college at 14, i do welding, people think im on steroids, I beat 2 world records, and i wake up from 4am and go to sleep at 8pm working from morning till night. Stop judging men based off of 1 video or experience from men its just restarted, I used to hate women too like you hate men, but guess what I realized that there are actually good women out there (wow shocker)

[@deforestshell3037]

@@Goofygoober-d8y I know I hated. The narrative for men in the last couple of years is either where either super losers or were super evil and none of those things are true. If men want to play video games.Or cosplay cosplay or whatever then they should do that. If men want to work out or work on Cars or whatever than they should do that

[@sophiallama]

@@Goofygoober-d8y you’re 14 and you already went through a phase of hating women? Jfc get off the internet and be a carefree teenager with your friends. I mean self improvement is for everyone. It’s not a man thing lol. There’s a difference between dreaming about being the best version of yourself, and actually becoming it. 90% of diets fail, most people quit the gym the first month and half into the new year, most who read how to get rich books don’t become richer, and most who read self help books don’t actually improve as people. They just read more books because it feels like they are improving when they read. Men being interested in self improvement doesn’t mean they’re actually improving themselves.

[@anhangamirim]

Why men don't want to be better men? To treat better women and people in general don't have any costs and it is beneficial to the men also. Why men insist to hurt women and disrespect our human rights? thank u for this great video. I'm a cis brazillian woman who lives in Portugal

[@Tim_G_Bennett]

What is better though? With therapy I've totally rebuilt my life in my 40's and I've been alone all my life, I have a small home, job, friends, volunteer as an ambulance officer but I don't think I will ever be better enough, self growth is a life long process.

[@AG-iu9lv]

Laziness. The laziness is mind blowing.

[@anka6356]

@@AG-iu9lv They like other men.

[@GabHeart-rk6qm]

They get a woman to please other men, lol men always centering other men. Men living for the impression of other men.

[@painunending4610]

Why don't women want to be better woman? Why don't they want to interrogate their own patriarchal conditioning and admit they are part of the problem The answer for both: it's uncomfortable and hard

[@kittykatz4001]

I would rather remain alone with my under $100k salary that put my $ with some demon’s 50/50 bull ish!

[@goldenpanda1134]

Wait wasn't the piont of her vid that wemon should be responsible for there own lives to? And not stuck in the house bord

[@kittykatz4001]

@@goldenpanda1134 Wait! Isn’t bord spelled b.o.r.e.d?

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

@@kittykatz4001 lol 💯💯

[@blackpegasus7125]

Who said you have to CHOOSE the demon type of guy though🤦🏽‍♂️THATS the actual logic going on here🤦🏽‍♂️

[@dylancn]

But you expect a man to pay for everything your demon ass want thought right?

[@jerrrryy4503]

Relationships are dead.

[@JayBee-hk7ej]

Oh no! Anyways...

[@pinklotus9684]

I been 4b before 4b even was a thing. 😂

[@KellyfromMemphis]

Me too…haven’t touched a man in 8 years.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

Samee 😂❤❤

[@someanimefan5990]

​@@KellyfromMemphis8 years? Are you gay? Nothing wrong with that

[@MacaldaReye]

Women: we want to be seen as equals Men: no Women: ok then we won’t date you Men: 🤯

[@doda9ilovegackt]

the dude saying women need to settle is clearly the desperate one LOL, he trying to convince women that they are going to be the miserable lonely ones, but he's just projecting his own fear of ending up alone, cause he has nothing to offer. Very clear to me that no woman wants to be near him, i wonder why...🤨

[@babyg7796]

Definitely ruining relationships. Telling men who were perfectly happy being loving partners and being emotionally available AND providing, all of a sudden were called simps and started being fed bs about women and how WE are the problem & selfish. At least that’s what happened with my bf…his redpill, bum brother got in his head soooo bad that we started to have PHYSICAL fights and we have barely had any heated arguments in 5 years…it was heartbreaking. His brother convinced him I cared more about my career than my man and therefore his brother shouldn’t take me seriously and after repeatedly neglecting me b/c of this, it ALL led to me moving across the country. Needless to say he’s beyond depressed and sees how he royally screwed up, but his pride & ego has been soooo inflated with toxic bullshit from the men in his life that he’s too far deep in the shit & stubborn to realize he probably lost the woman he wanted to marry ….

[@sleeprelaxationsfx8186]

possibly. it’s information we don’t know that would put things into perspective. won’t justify what has happened but i doubt it’s 100% on him & his brother.

[@haute03]

That's incredibly sad. I'm sorry you went through that. It's honestly scary how some of these men are sabotaging themselves and just ending up alone and miserable for literally no reason at all.

[@babyg7796]

@@sleeprelaxationsfx8186 for sure but that’s for the 2 ppl in the relationship to resolve. I’m in the service, they are staunch anti-war & anti-military. I was enlisted prior to meeting him and he had fears that I would leave him if I got the opportunity to be stationed elsewhere full-time again. I’ve tried many times to let him know a relationship & being enlisted full time can be accomplished-thousands of military/civilian couples do it, it just requires effort, communication & being adaptable. His brother took an already sensitive topic for him and completely violated it. He convinced him that if I wanted to go back full-time and travel etc, then I didn’t care about my man. It’s not hard to exploit and already vulnerable person or issue.

[@babyg7796]

@@haute03 im still trying to hang on long-distance but I see ultimately it’s not going to work. His circle keeps reiterating “a man does not follow a woman no matter what” and it’s not my job to change his mind. His influences, pride & ego are going to be the final nail in the coffin soon. He understands why I had to leave bc there was no progression, but he’s also angry & scared to leave his family behind.

[@beautifullEternal]

@@babyg7796girl drop him. He showed you who he is

[@Awaken12578]

I’m part of the 4b before it was a thing. I’m asexual/aromatic. I desire friendship and platonic love over romantic love.

[@williamspears1627]

You can have both. Frankly your romantic partner should be your best friend. Their women who can't have relations but they're still in happ and healthy romantic relationships.

[@BeautyRevolutionist]

If I knew 10 years ago what I know today then I never would have married or had children. Before I married, I had a friend tell me that getting married and having a child was like clipping her wings and now I feel her words deeply. Marriage stopped my life dead in its tracks and having children brought everything to a halt. Every woman I see with a husband and children seems so miserable and I’m glad women are waking up and realizing how bamboozled we’ve all been. I’m all for breaking this generational curse and I’m begging my niece to not follow in my and my sisters footsteps.

[@Soundsofthewood]

I don't care for marriage personally. I see it as outdated and just extra. However having kids shouldn't be seen as a hold back to your life. If you really feel that, then tell your kids that they ruined your life.

[@subspacescout9951]

Don’t worry, Beauty … we’ve all been duped in one form or another.

[@KellyfromMemphis]

I’ve known since 1999 I didn’t want children (@25 y/o) and I spent my 30s in the Army taking my warm fuzzies and care out on my patients (I was a medic, later LPN). So if anyone is younger thinking about your options, and you have a natural desire to nurture…consider a medical career! 🤗

[@brettdavidson3866]

Marriage has no benefits for men anymore and that's the issue

[@anka6356]

@@brettdavidson3866 That's why they're crying all over the internet because women aren't marrying them?

[@jackimoon8284]

Women ARE settled...all by themselves! The men are just up in arms about it lmaooo

[@missinterpretation4984]

We’re literally just asking for them to be partners and they’re like no that’s too much.

[@danidiaz2377]

Men drag us down

[@HeIsEternal-]

Vice versa

[@Goofygoober-d8y]

What every 14 year old woman says in their lifetime:

[@mikearchangel7998]

Correction: Men and Women drag you down

[@MalesAreDemons]

@@Goofygoober-d8yMost men read crime stats

[@synthiamiller5990]

Most men are the criminals in crime stats!!!

[@Karen-ex5tg]

People who go through unhappy relationship after relationship love coming at me because i hardly date and they think i will become a cat lady who dies alone.

[@natashadickson4819]

I tell them "No cats means no cat poop". No pets for me.

[@darthvadersmom1192]

I wanna grow weed and be a gymnastics old crazy lady sometimes doing naughty things and wearing my chanel, driving my cabrio, paint, learn some skills and write books

[@AWholeVibe96]

@@natashadickson4819right!!

[@Goat.Cheese]

Great video! I hadn't heard of the 4B Movement before. It makes totally sense, honestly ❤

[@jessicataylor13]

First, just want to say that I’m glad I found your channel. Your analysis of this issue is nuanced and balanced. It’s too easy to be sensational when talking about relationship issues. Well done. Second, I was glad to learn that what I’ve chosen for myself has a name and a movement in Korea. I’m a Gen X er and my decision to never marry and limit myself to long term relationships had folks looking at me funny my whole life. I always wondered why more people never questioned if marriage was for them or whether the person who they were marrying was worth the loss of their freedom, not to mention how expensive and traumatic the end of a marriage can be. I love that Gen Z is asking themselves these kinds of questions rather than following conditioning we’ve received. ❤

[@tinysey]

Thank you for sharing. I really hope that more women and men begin to think this way and feel less pressured.

[@terrydillon9323]

I think everyone wants a loving relationship, if you find one in this lifetime, you are very fortunate, but why settle for unhappiness. I do think men don’t understand that, it is easier for a woman to live without a man then men to live without women. We make friends easier etc. society throughout history has always tried to brainwash women, saying , you must be married and society has kept us financially poor so we would have to depend on men and settle. Have you noticed a man might complain because he pays for dinner on a date but if a women offers to pay because of that, he gets humiliated. Isn’t that a bit hypocritical. We can’t win. I think most women are just looking for a kind loving partner so are a lot of men. I know there are good men out there , bless you.

[@jasonm7684]

" I do think men don’t understand that, it is easier for a woman to live without a man then men to live without women." You don't live without men tho, no woman does If you want protection you call the police, who are mostly men. If you want someone to repair your car you go to a mechanic who is most likely a man, the list goes on and on. Firemen, construction workers, electrical maintenance workers. The reality is that men can live and function in society without women, as we do all the important and difficult tasks. The problem is that without strong families society will become increasingly dangerous for women. Then wanting a man won't be a questions rather a requirement for your survival. Its up to us to work together as men and women to maintain a sae environment for families to thrive. The moment ppl like you become the majority society will devolve into a dangerous and lawless place.

[@red2theelectricboogaloo961]

the expectations make it very complicated to navigate. while i'm open to being a "provider" if needed i get a bad taste in my mouth from the idea that i should do it just because i was born as a guy. and it probably does the same with women and their expectations. what i'd suggest is to strike a balance and find an understanding of reciprocity based off of each person's strengths and needs. that goes regardless of gender. and with that all being said i do have to say that i am splitting the bill unless there's an understanding made beforehand that she is planning to be a housewife and i agree to that.

[@d.elainedixon953]

All of those jobs that jason here in the comment thread 23:45 mentioned are done by employees who get paid. Mechanics , police, fire fighters etc are employees. No woman has to be in a relationship with these employees in order for those employees to do their jobs. We just pay them (Mechanics, plumbers,roofers etc) or our taxes taken out of our salaries pays them. These male workers don't build roads, police cities,put out fires just for women but for everyone- men included... duh. Is it so difficult to understand that "needing men" refer to ...in a relationship??? Goodness, there have always been single child free women in society. In the past they were called spinsters. Only differences is now it's no big deal. It's not stigmatized as much until all the red pill grift started happening.

[@jasonm7684]

@@d.elainedixon953 Enlighten us then, when most women dont have relationships with men, like the OP what do you think will happen to those men you pay your services for? Who is going to produce the new generation of men that is going to upkeep the western world?

[@autumngreen9573]

@@jasonm7684 The single moms people like you hate so much.

[@adampickard9685]

As a guy most of us r burnd out of the chase and sum of us would rather want peace over trying to always make sure we make do everything right and fit women's standards tbh it's not worth the headache or the heart break take from that as you will most of us r just tierd and over it all.

[@takke9830]

Lemme teach u something from a woman‘s perspective. What ruins most men for women is when men treat women like something that isn‘t human wich can go into 2 directions generally. Either you treat women as lesser and in need of a dad as a partner cause you see women as mentally less intelligent and capable of making decitions. Basically the guys who call women overly emotional a lot think that way. And then there is also the deification that might sound good surface level but is also dehumanizing. Mainly because being deified as some divine being doesn‘t allow you to have human problems or human flaws that women do have. This type of thinking is what frustrates women because it makes men talk over them and past them. It‘s when dudes dm you stuff like: „you‘re such a goddess“ or whatever and you just know he doesn‘t see you beyond what he has made up in his head that you are to him. Now imagine how difficult it‘d be to feel taken care of and also loved if someone denies you looking at you as in the actual you. Never actually cares about your ramblings. Never listens properly. Stuff like that, you are talking to a wall. And that in turn creates resentment in women. They get upset over things you think are well meaning but to the woman it is yet again the partner speaking over them and ignoring them. The problem is that for most women, dating men means dating someone who refuses to see you and your humanity. Someone who makes an avatar of you they talk to. And refuses to see you. Now how is that a relationship? Especially a romantic one? You‘re supposed to take a partner seriously. And also recognize their humanity. Putting effort into them. Caring about them genuinely. Not just nodding along to get them to do something for you. Lets say you were the woman and you go on a date. Now imagine if your date was obviously not interested in what you talk about but condecendingly acts like they are. While also hiding their intentions and not being real. And on top of that they also compliment your appearance but from how they listen to you you are pretty sure none of that is real. How would you feel if that was your date? Would you be into that? Or would you be confused and also weirded out and frustrated? But that is a big part of dating for women. Being lied to to be exploited, being talked down to, not being listened to. It is so frustrating cause it‘s not a relationship it‘s just objectification. In the end women get angry when most men act that way. When they fabricate a fake version of any woman they meet they talk to while the woman underneath feels neglected and ignored. If you want a personal intimate relationship you have to see women as your equal and also open up and talk to them. Not an ideal or a assumption if who they are. That is what is actually what women want. And if you can‘t even do that, why would any woman feel safe or taken care of by you as a partner. When the man they are with is like a brick wall that treats them like a toy with no humanity. Or a fantasy version of them that doesn‘t exist. Women are people. U should treat them as such. And actually be interested in them. So listen, learn, broaden your horizon. Otherwise you cannot say you love women if you care so little about them and their experiences.

[@zerotolerance2026]

A single woman isn’t a woman without a man. A single woman is a woman without a community of women.

[@maryamadedeji24]

What😂?

[@sleeprelaxationsfx8186]

Insanity.

[@maryamadedeji24]

@@sleeprelaxationsfx8186 people say just about anything on the internet

[@Goofygoober-d8y]

What are you yappin about?

[@zerotolerance2026]

@@Goofygoober-d8y Don’t worry about it. Mind your business.

[@baroquebaby1]

I’m a highly qualified professional woman with multiple degrees. I married at 40, after being pretty sure that I wouldn’t marry at all. I have many female friends who are still single in their 50’s and who are also highly qualified professional woman. They are intelligent, charitable, empathic, well read and generally good people. We’ve all been in relationships with verbally, emotionally and physically abusive men. None of my married female friends have relationships with men which I aspire to or admire or even envy. We have ALL of us settled for men who are emotionally immature, demanding, and pathetic. The fairy tales which end with ‘happily ever after’ are lies fed to young girls to keep women in the patriarchy to make us accept all of the BS men dole out.

[@goddessvibes08]

I prefer bring single than being someone's play toy or doll. Red pillers scare me

[@tyerannical3650]

It's gonna be scarier when the economy tanks and you don't have anything to eat

[@goddessvibes08]

@@tyerannical3650What does economy have anything to do with what I said? I was guilt tripped by men into giving them physical intimacy. Someone using my body for physical pleasure is disgusting to me. I practice celibacy. No one has the right to my body for his selfish purpose

[@nini6619]

We need to look who is complaining about women having high standards and that they’re going to be sad and lonely because of it. Weirdly it’s mostly men I wonder who’s actually going to be sad and lonely about it 😂

[@aztekenen1]

having standards implies a desire for companionship. what if you're 40 and have no one, wouldn't that cause a sense of sadness? even if just a little.

[@anka6356]

@@aztekenen1 For you surely

[@nini6619]

@@aztekenen1 let me tell you the most miserable people I have seen in my life were in a relationship, the kids that come out off those relationships are having issues. So for the sake of the people that might be impacted by an unhappy relationship it’s better to have high standards and live alone. The thing is that if that person wants a family no matter what, they can still settle and risk an unhappy relationship that could impact the eventual child, it’s a gamble to settle.

[@aztekenen1]

@@nini6619 standards are good, but how high is 'high'? If it is as high as the crazies that go viral over it, you might as well adopt by yourself if anything.

[@nini6619]

@@aztekenen1 people on the internet just want to go viral obviously those crazy takes aren’t real.

[@bridgettt.d]

settle?? how about yall start working on yall selves? how about yall seek the therapy yall SERIOUSLY need? goodness.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Women do the healing work and better themselves. It's men who refuse to put in the work, they demsnd that woman just live with their toxic traits.

[@painunending4610]

Like you've worked on yourself? Like how you've undone your patriarchal conditioning Go to therapy sweetheart

[@bridgettt.d]

@@painunending4610 lmao i have but anyways 😂

[@edenwilliams2959]

😮that’s not partnership. That’s the slave and the slave master.

[@thewolf9816]

Judging by the comments, this is more feminist propaganda

[@afriendorfoe]

I just wish this gender war crap would stop. It's like men blame women, and women blame men, so there's no changing happening. Its both can be at fault, now fix it already.

[@Kim-Yo-jong]

It will never end because women won't let go of the toxic gender expectations they have for their men.

[@oess855]

It's literally that simple

[@mek2472]

This war nonsense which i was neither tbh. I feel like I’m just hated for existing. Sadly i have a gender and it starts with m or w I ain’t admitting it tho!

[@mikearchangel7998]

I'm a man and the settling message is dumb to me too. I've obviously been exposed to the red pill talking points and I grew up conservative but geez man. The marriage, the career, building value talking points are really grating. Especially when some dudes out here treat it like its a message from god himself.

[@bmay282]

Brilliant. Loving your content, thanks for using your voice to help women. 💕

[@Nate-vk7gu]

There is a point where both men and women’s standards become unobtainable and unrealistic and when that happens you see people point fingers at each other but there’s one caveat. None of it is real. It’s only for terminally online people who spend more time on the internet than anything else. Most normal people will have 3 points of criteria that a partner has to meet and most of the time it’s “care about me” and that’s enough for most people. When men say they don’t need women they are lying when women say they don’t need men they are lying.

[@rubikksu3913]

calling himself perfect with a tat on his neck and a cross necklace on is a double whammy

[@brettdavidson3866]

As a man, I always wanted a wife and kids, but now that im getting older, i changed my mind. i dont want it anymore

[@oess855]

That's sad

[@KandyGTV]

Men don't have to settle but women do 🙄😒

[@aftabsayed2825]

Because men have realistic goals and women don't... 😂

[@aftabsayed2825]

Because men have realistic goals and women don't...😂

[@aftabsayed2825]

Because men have realistic goals and women don't... 😂

[@Maybe-cg2tn]

Settling is not going to be beneficial to either sex.

[@BriannaWilliams-ps5oc]

@@aftabsayed2825my guys so pissed off he commented three times😂

[@voice-of-reason318]

The difference between the women's movement and men's movement is that women are just stating their lived experiences and stating what they will no longer tolerate. The men's movement's goal seems to be to imvalidate what women feel and want. The system is set up for them, but equality is "unfair." Give me a break! I love all the men in my family, as well as friends and co-workers. I want them to be happy and thrive. And they are/and do because they have emotional intelligence and don't treat their significant others as servants. Women haven't had the luxury to compromise, because society was set up to oppress us. We are not the ones who need to change. We can't expect women to be responsible for fixing the fact that men can't cope. They have to fix this themselves. I know they can. They need to support each other in positive ways, instead of in toxicity. Enough is enough.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

💯💯

[@m.h.f3350]

If your society oppresses you, try to go to USA or Skandinavia. I don't know where you are living now, like Iran etc. But you shouldn't stay if they keep you down.

[@yaboyjosh3023]

I think there are 2 groups of people. Chronically single and repeat offenders. There are people who want loyalty and want commitment. Yet, there are also people who can't stand a single month without being in a relationship or causing chaos in someones life because they're too bored with their own lives. And of course in the dating landscape, unless you manage to clearly state what your looking for, NO ONE CAN TELL WHOS WHO!

[@Itiswhatitis90]

I’m just glad I’m not expected to start small talk anymore I can just keep to myself

[@maxineh9160]

I remember being 9 years old and thinking "I want a career. I don't want to be dependent on a man like my mom is to my dad". It wasn't until my late teens when I learned how abusive my parents marriage was with my mom being a SAHM for years then working part time and my dad being the main breadwinner. I knew that I had to learn to provide for myself because at the end of the day I would have no one but myself. I have an amazing partner of 7 years who is also learning to not repeat the same mistakes of his parents marriage. Together we are working on being the best verisons of us for ourselves and each other

[@maryadams-vs1zk]

I love my husband 26years married, ladies please don't settle, the men need to grow up and treat women right if men want to be married, women work harder than the husband's do, and by the time you are 50, you are to exhausted and never get to take care of yourself or your mental health, so think hard before taking on a man that never helps you, SO don't settle for the crappy men, do better ladies, you deserve it

[@m.h.f3350]

Myabe you should look for a guy from Europe or USA. Maybe you are from Middleast or Asia, there the men have crazy attitudes.

[@sleeprelaxationsfx8186]

just don’t settle. be realistic and know everyone has flaws just like you. they’re human beings, male or female. stop looking for people to tell you what you should want & find it for yourself. if being alone works, great. I think it’s ridiculous to believe an entire gender is out to get you, hope that you suffer and want you in the worst position possible. then once that belief has been developed, go into the world treating humans you’ve never met before as an adversary & judge them based off flaws and shortcomings as if you have none. everyone is trying to figure this out but nobody has patience for or understanding of themselves, let alone an ENTIRE gender. can we start conversations about being better people to our children and significant others… this is getting played out.

[@KTQ333]

I stopped by just to say stop consuming all of this content. Including this video. Ignore it from the male perspective and the female perspective. All of it hurts your relationships. The problem is no one is thinking for themselves and theyre creating false narratives that generalize most people.If you're having issues creating boundaries and learning how to navigate, go seek therapy not a yt video. Those of us who dont participate in this relationship social media debate mess are actually in happy healthy relationships. We're thinking for ourselves

[@painunending4610]

Love how the comments on a video about gender wars just reinforces the gender war

[@AwashiAtake]

U right

[@incisivecommenter5974]

Im teaching my daughter to never settle, her purpose in life is whatever she chooses it to be. To value education, make her own money stand on her own 2 feet. Nothing is worse than being married to an A-hole.

[@gailainsley6939]

6:07 That uncle said that so she can help his relative out with a ‘green card’. This is what they do (especially with western women). They will arrange for them to marry a dude from abroad only for him to get here and then do a total 180. It happens a lot. Some even pay for this honour. It’s all about getting over to the West (USA/ UK / CANADA etc)… chile please 😅😴

[@pla4825]

People always try to shame women when we don’t want to give into the pressures of society. If a woman don’t want to get married and have kids people tell us we will end up old, sad and lonely or have a bunch of cats. That woman might enjoy her cats more compared to being in a relationship where she is not happy. Just because a person is single does not mean they are lonely some people might really enjoy their personal space and me time 😊

[@WillowT442]

What this man doesn’t realize women that we can be happy without a man. I would rather have nothing then have a man that gives or adds nothing. The loneliest I was in life was when I was married to my ex husband. Now that am divorced and single I am alone but I am not unhappy nor am I lonely.

[@missp498]

Korea has one of the highest rates of debt in the world too.

[@weirdgalstudios]

So the tradwife content, I believe, is largely performative. Most of these women have plenty of money and have a nanny or in home childcare to make content as well as a team for their videos. The only issue I really see is women being influenced to believe that homemaking is a simple and romantic way of life and potentially put themselves at risk of financially and emotionally abusive partners by essentially giving up their rights even within the home. Im a stay at home mom/homemaker in a single income/low income household. It requires a very healthy and trusting relationship between the money maker and the homemaker in order for it to work. It's not easy or simple. Its hard work and ill probably go back to some form of income earning when my children start school but right now this is what we can afford and i dont want my kids in daycare. I dont trust anyone with my babies and its extremely expensive. Ladies, protect your wombs! Do not settle with men who dont respect you or value your input and opinions. Don't put yourself in potentially harmful situations in order to attain an influencer lifestyle. ETA: the stay at home wives that dont have children and glorify being a homemaker make me giggle. Try curling your hair and putting on makeup "for your husband" when your kids are throwing paint at the wall and jumping off furniture.😂

[@angelaramirez4144]

My bf has bipolar 1 and is a narcissist. Now he subscribes to the red pill. So, basically, I live in hell. He stopped being human and became a monster. He is trying to brainwash my son into misogyny and how to look down on women. They believe that no matter what they do to you, they never apologize, never explain themselves, don't take women seriously because everything they say is a "shit test," never acknowledge their pain or suffering, etc. They are also told it's okay for men to cheat. It's their biology to spread their seed. Women absolutely cannot cheat, because they get "emotionally invested." It's just insane and abusive.

[@Tash.the.indigo]

I love this video. Dating is exhausting, and a lot of men want a mother lol. I'm good, peaceful and happy on my own, wny would I disturb my well deserved peace? 😂

[@johnmaddern3519]

Massive numbers of Men have overflowing wallets are loving their hobbies and sport along with travelling since walking away from marriage and relationships. I hope Women find that level of happiness by walking away also. There will be many less Men in the future willing to settle down, so it may help everyone.

[@zerotolerance2026]

Good! Men and women are not compatible for relationships. Only should be together for a moment to procreate.. Only the top males, who are evolved, deserve to procreate. The rest of you are not needed.

[@chiefrocka9159]

💯

[@hannahward4703]

American woman will own 2/3rds of americas wealth by 2030, out wallets are overflowing. And I’ve traveled the globe and run into FAR more women traveling than men. Women are in their era…but sureee….keep that 2007 fantasy life alive and well I. Your mind 😂

[@hannahward4703]

Also, women are the ones walking away from marriage and relationships by the thousands, to the point mainstream publications are writing about it….gaslighting reality may make you feel more comfortable, but it’s not healthy to rely on coping mechanisms long term

[@JuFu1110]

@@hannahward4703 recent survey's show that over 50% of single men are not looking for relationships, so we're all in agreement

[@Bartholomew1572]

Some thoughts, comes across as the limited luxury concerns of first world entitlement, all coming to an end on the front lines in Ukraine. Gender roles will revert to the historic norm once the free money runs out and we’ll see then the value of a women to society. On top of that the future belongs only to those who have children. To those who choose not to do this fine, they’ll die out and be forgotten. Can’t help but wonder how disrespectful that is to all the prior millennia of generations that sacrificed and struggled to ensure the current generation exist at all. Leans into the argument that it’s the last days of a civilisation.

[@mekahlazoe9811]

The 4 B movement is a slay 💅🏼

[@wmarch88]

I'm from Costa Rica, my mom told me that the property was her gift from one of her uncles but because was on her name she had to give it to my dad for signing the mortgage documents, like 35 years ago, before divorce the property was transfer to her children, me and my siblings, fortunately now we as women can have houses and not be forced to give it to the men only for getting a mortgage, and I know that sigle women can buy houses.

[@heyhey439]

I would love a family, but at this time, I DO have to settle by being happy by myself. A less than wonderful partner is a huge liability for heterosexual women. Always a big tell when men talk more about women lowering their standards, etc, instead of helping their fellow men achieve the bare minimum requirements.

[@yegra]

5:06 very heavy on our aunts and uncles telling us to settle

[@MissDoffy]

They telling us to settle and that we're asking for "too much" but will never say the same to THEIR kids 🙃

[@sentimentalcircuscurator]

I dont think its PERMANENTLY ending them. But, although THERE ARE A LOT, of GOOD MEN, there are SOME men who needs to... in the lack of better words "go talk to the brick wall" for a while. We just need to have a period of time where, women needs to go "to the other side of the wall", and "wait it out". NOT as blackmail, not as a punishment, not to be mean to men, or "to be clever". I think for a lot of women, it has gotten USELESS to talk to men, because we ASK to be treated better, we ASK them to be more considerate, we talk with them eye to eye, we are VERY CLEAR, but if he then ALWAYS thinks HIS WAY IS BETTER, and constantly CONSTANTLY "forgets" why we feel that some things they do are HURTFUL, and TO NOT DO THOSE THINGS PLEASE. Now, as a very blunt person (woman) I can understand the other side of the equation as well, this CANNOT be a "control the man via him walking on eggshells around you"-thing EITHER. But if we have IN FACT asked you to please NOT do a specific thing, or in general behave badly towards us, and the guy STILL DOES NOT LISTEN and KEEPS ON DOING IT...then Im not gonna consider myself in a relationship. Then I am in fact being ignored. Then I am, in fact ALREADY alone, even though we are two in the room. And the dude, kinda is too. Because then Im just a piece of furniture or a houseplant, because NOTHING I say, MATTERS, and therefore I CLEARLY DONT MATTER EITHER. At least not more than the toaster, that gives him toast, or the microwave to warm up his tv dinner. Im human, NOT a (bleeping!) convenient appliance. "She can MAKE him a better man"-concept doesnt work either. You cant MAKE someone better, unless they want to first LISTEN, and also WANT to be better themselves. What do they want women to do ARMWRESTLE MEN INTO SUBMISSION ? Yeah No, DONT EVEN START. If you cant even hear us over the fortnite game, dont bother complaining. (and no, Im not saying you cant play, I love gaming, but if thats more IMPORTANT...bye!) I think what we women, have done wrong not just this generations but GENERATIONS BACK is, something like the "quantity of seamlessness" we perform. We do things, we dont say peep about it, because we just want EVERYBODY to enjoy themselves, without a fuss, or making a big deal, and then, it just became "expected" and "perpetuated". And, since people love being comfortable, THEY GET USED TO IT. Im gonna start saying like moms did in the 80s to their toddlers "what do we say (name)?", and if the person DOESNT say thank you, it goes in the bin or down the drain or OUT THE (BLEEPING) window. Unless its chocolate. Im EATING THE CHOCOLATE then. AND the icecream. To all my male relatives and "prospects". RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM. Also, IVE NEVER looked down on housewives. I think its risky, though. I would at least have some small source of income thats mine, that I can do from home, but Im not interested in the housewife thing so its irrelevant to me. IT IS good for the kids, but, is it GOOD FOR THE WOMAN ? Think about it. If the man should die in a car accident or some other sudden thing, what the (bleep!) is she gonna do to provide for the kids, without experience, or possibly even an education?Nah, to risky, EVEN FROM A TRADITIONAL STANDPOINT. Not these days, with what EVERYTHING costs. But Ive never looked down on housewives. I just think its stupid and risky for THE FAMILY to "put all your eggs in the same basket" a.k.a. "the man and his salary".

[@doctorcatnip2551]

I am MGTOW and I 100% agree. I stay alone and you stay alone. Win - win.

[@Honeyflowerrr]

That is sad

[@doctorcatnip2551]

@@Honeyflowerrr If other people winning makes you sad, that's your problem, not ours. Haters gonna hate.

[@BridgetWalker-xu8sw]

Then why are you here?

[@doctorcatnip2551]

@@BridgetWalker-xu8sw To show support!

[@doctorcatnip2551]

@@BridgetWalker-xu8sw Why not?

[@esaritac]

Previously many women got into relationships as survival mechanisms. Now women can have homes, money, careers, and social status independent of males…women have choices now and choosing not to marry or procreate are part of those choices….

[@tyerannical3650]

It's gonna be real hard to convince men to keep funding all these women as the economy tanks. Can't wait to see the single moms starving

[@CrazyMama75]

Men really so reluctant to see women as equals that women are opting for single life while men and govs try to push them towards relationships they don't want or need is almost funny to me. As someone who was raised, very much trained to be a tradwife and ended up, shockingly, in a horribly DV relationship (he was so horrid I can't even talk to friends about what happened cos it upsets them so much and I'm physically and mentally disabled since leaving him), I have two amazing kids but raise them to know they don't have to rely on traditional romance relationships to be happy, that friendships are just as special and they should never settle. I'm so much happier without the weight of dealing with mens BS. When I've tried dating, once the initial love bombing good behaviour period is over, men are so unwilling to adapt with the times. Not all men, obvs, but enough men that it's worth it for most of us to be single and enjoy life on our terms.

[@christinamendonca6185]

Settle where😂😂😂😂😂we can be single with our pets, great friends .. settle for a man!!!!!....lots of people don't even want kids

[@melaineyisaac6672]

but pastor p been preaching that there are 70 million more males that females. not every man can even have a woman

[@rubikksu3913]

me a lesbian watching form the side lines

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Do Lesbians have better romantic relationships?

[@rubikksu3913]

@@CordeliaWagner1999 i wouldn't say better but the problems are often different then what the common problems in straight relationship would be. plus as a women i often have an easier time seeing where my partner is coming from because we think the same ,rather then a women trying to understand why her man is upset but not able to see it from his male perspective or vice versa because i mean men and women simply think differently yk

[@Soundsofthewood]

​@@CordeliaWagner1999no they don't. I watched a absolute train wreck for a few years on that and eventually one of them cheated. Gay man on the other hand. Most successful marriages I ever seen.

[@abor1males]

@@Soundsofthewood And the most std gay men get between them

[@fairygodmother139]

@@SoundsofthewoodIncel comment

[@kiliancraig8115]

People should be happy that women arent rushing into relationships that they wont be happy in, and raising the divorce rates even higher

[@moon_0207]

It always boggles my mind about the whole thing where men want a virgin. I get it, but if you’re not a virgin yourself then you have no right to DEMAND for a virgin woman. No respectable woman would go for a man who’s been in hundreds of women.

[@subspacescout9951]

There’s no such thing as ‘happy settling’ as it slowly eats away @ your Soul. Besides Mama said … ‘Men need Women more than Women need Men.’ Eventually, it’ll all Balance out yet right now it’s a massive shake down. ¡Best of luck out there!

[@oess855]

And you and your mama are embarrassingly delusional😂

[@soulshadoww55]

Many women wind up alone in their later years anyway because women live longer than men. I’m 68 and almost all of my friends (or my 70 year old sister’s friends) husbands have passed. Either because of cancer, heartache or accident. So you still may be alone as an older woman. So many women are content with being alone with their cats or even if they did have a child, they are fine with babysitting their grandchildren. Also, lots of older women travel, spent lots of time with their friends, volunteer and just live their lives. It’s not this lonely tragic life that men imagine it to be. A lot of what men are saying is their projection of what they imagine their single older life will be. Because men don’t cultivate relationships with their children or families like women do. I have a 40 year old nephew. He’s got 4 kids by 4 different women. He said himself that he can’t be alone. He hates being alone. He goes from woman to woman trying to mask his mental issues. He keeps thinking that the next woman is going to solve his problems but it’s him, not the woman. Lots of women just stop dating men and just reevaluate themselves. They do the mental and emotional work to be better people. Men don’t tend to do that. They blame all of their problems on women.

[@twinqt578]

I showed a man I was interested in some red pill content. He responded with, "THATS BULL CRAP" I knew then I would give him a chance. Our anniversary is next week. 🥰

[@someanimefan5990]

That...sounds like a test. Kinda manipulative don't you think?

[@twinqt578]

@someanimefan5990 It was a test. Manipulative....not sure. Don't care tho. Wasn't about to waste my time with anyone that could be a possible red piller. So it is what it is. I can tell you he's a happy man and he loves it here for whatever that's worth.

[@someanimefan5990]

@@twinqt578 yep I predict your relationship is gonna go down the drain

[@twinqt578]

@@someanimefan5990 👍

[@twinqt578]

@@someanimefan5990 👍 I'll keep you updated.😉

[@MethosFilms]

See the thing is u want a traditional man but do not want to be traditional women. That just didn’t work out

[@brettdavidson3866]

Love how she talks about traditional women as if she knows anything about Traditional women most women today grew up without dads to discipline them so they have no respect for the men in there lives and go after bad boys then cry when those bad boys dont wanna commit