The Girlfriend Experience - Are All Relationships Transactional?

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@FlipElliott2]

[@globalismoblackman]

I used to think so but not anymore lol. That's why I am MGTOW 😅

[@SeanT-y8i]

Haha! "More bang for the buck" 😅 I think it comes down to wanting what is best for others. There is such a thing as having a good heart and hopefully those who do find each other. Thanks as always Pea!

[@CarlosfromJersey]

I'm sorry I put it in the wrong video comment.. One of your best yet very clear and informative, intellectually. You are definitely the number one KZbinr from the Philippines that I do highly respect. I have many Filipino friends and they all the same very respectful family-oriented people hopefully one day I will be able to visit the Philippines😊

[@justbrowsing6327]

Well Pea, I think the most important thing to have is common sense. I think a lot of guys get lovestruck over pretty young girls, if they keep an open mind, and common sense when it comes to money, a lot of things show themselves in due course. Just my thoughts anyway. 😊

[@r.p.m4332]

"Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something." Chris Rock.

[@richardroy6179]

Chris Rock made a wise comment there.

[@robertanderson574]

Unfortunately I think you are correct... And also unfortunately it has taken me years and years to realize this...😑

[@glenbolton8555]

no one is loved unconditionally

[@jeremywheeler2122]

I have nothing to provide

[@francoisneko]

Women are loved for their sexual attraction as well and it’s not unconditional, pets for their companionship, kids should be loved unconditionally but they are also a part of ourself and a reflection of our ego

[@romeobodeodo]

I realized the transactional nature of relationships 20 years ago and it changed my life. Being a romantic, I was immensely disappointed, but you can't fault the sky for being blue. It is what it is. So I've adjusted my expectations and appreciate women for what they are instead of what I wish they were. One other observation I've realized is that most women are loathe to admit the true nature of relationships.

[@WOLFSENT1]

I agree. My question is, why are some men so instilled with that romantic and loving nature if women truly aren’t receptive to it. I would love to have a conversation with a panel and try to figure this out. Lol. Off the cuff, I think it might be detrimental to our mental health, but nature doesn’t care about our mental health. Nature’s goal is to propagate the species. So our romanticism is actually nature fooling us so we will do anything for a woman. Even die. Your thoughts?

[@xpusostomos]

No matter how transactional it is, nobody wants to think about it.

[@ronmiller997]

Agreed !

[@mikokun7714]

What is your solution to building a family ?

[@xpusostomos]

@@mikokun7714 do like everybody else, and clean up the divorce later?

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

MARRIAGE is an insurance policy on a woman’s rapidly depreciating MARKET VALUE.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍 That’s why we marry young, so we can still get a good price 😉

[@HunkyMan777]

Dead right

[@antonsaid1467]

feelings are born and grow…they exist and are a valid. There is a huge difference between that and paying for services. Don’t get too cynical! Everyone has obligations in relationships and those are part of what drives feelings.

[@tmangeles7575]

@@TheFilipinaPea Smart

[@theatlantafalcon7410]

I would say marriage is more an short time investment for a woman retirement… Two or three of these short term investments usually takes care of it.

[@TheMojo1865]

Pea... You have better insight into relationships, and sometimes life in general, than most overpriced and over educated therapists! Excellent!!!

[@DerangedAussieMan]

Man this video is 100% true. You described everything so eloquently. I wish everyone could watch this video.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Feel free to share with a friend 👍❤️

[@kendonius4928]

@@TheFilipinaPea Shouldn't 'A FRIEND" be "ALL OF YOUR FRIENDS"!

[@jimsteinmanfan80]

I wish they educated kids in school with the hard thruths of life instead of feminist teachings.

[@kgkgkgkgkg]

Pea, I like how you run your channel. No lies, no clickbait, no sugar coating. Great topic today, I’d like to hear your take on age gap relationships.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS for that, KG 👍❤️

[@Alan-pv2bi]

@kg just go to Pea's library, she tackles that issue in many videos

[@kgkgkgkgkg]

@@Alan-pv2bi haha was having a senior moment, there’s one from 3 weeks ago. Thanks dude.

[@jasonjames4254]

What makes her content especially brave and commendable is the fact that the Pea's audience demographic is likely older white men. If she ruffles too many of the old roosters' feathers, they might get offended and start patronizing all the American expat channels that do nothing but blow feel-good smoke up their viewers behinds. Most people only believe what they want to believe, despite facts that prove otherwise. Hopefully there are enough elderly while men out there to sustain the Pea's channel and revenue stream who can deal with reality vs. fantasy. The best medicine often has a foul taste.

[@Mohawk21-oi1nit]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaexcept for that sheet she wore a couple of videos ago!!!! Hahahahaha, Pea!!!just kidding

[@captainmango1355]

We can count on you, Pea! You always tell it like it is! :)

[@enriquesoul5370]

Ms. Pea you're FEARLESS on this one. Great insight, even if potentially controversial in these divided times, especially in the ongoing social strife between men and women (especially in the West.)

[@michaelschaffer9165]

100% Absolute honesty Pea. This has always been true in male, female relationships. We do the best we can to navigate this ocean.

[@factsnotfeelings4901]

Hypergamy at its best! Men can walk into a restaurant and fall in love with a beautiful poor server, a woman will never walk into a McDonald's and fall for the man taking her order 😂

[@GizmoMaltese]

Is the man falling in love with the waitress because of the sexual pleasure he wants from her any better than a woman interested in material security? Is sexual gratification somehow a more noble goal than economic stability?

[@jasonjames4254]

@@GizmoMaltese That's a great point. An erect penis and an empty stomach both lack a conscience.

[@amariah1980]

Not true, just extremely rare. I knew a gay that claimed to have been had the cash register at a fast food restaurant when a rich woman came in. She told him that she wanted him to be her man. According to him, they dated for several months, and she paid for everything. There was no reason for him to lie to me, especially about that.

[@streetracingmiscreant8589]

@@amariah1980That is called having a boy toy, not falling in love.

[@bradleyw1989]

Biology doesn't lie and directs our desires under duress.

[@coffeebotography]

You sound 100% American today. Not just relatable, but you are the consummate communicator 😇

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@coffeebotography I’m still trying to master your language, but thanks for telling me I’m on the right path 👍❤️

[@leotravel85]

​@@TheFilipinaPeaJust trying? Your speak better than most Americans I know already, not kidding

[@scottkeatts7316]

Seriously I 2nd this! Kudos to the Pea 🎉​@@leotravel85

[@globalismoblackman]

@TheFilipinaPea Though I am not American, I see Afro Americans call it "Trickin" lol 😆 🤣.

[@topjames-b8e]

​@@TheFilipinaPea Pea you are Better with English than lots of westerners hehe= lol.

[@RonaldKaylorPhoto]

I love you taking on tough subjects and the brutally honest commentary you give!!

[@jamesk370]

"Now and then it's clear to me, that need is love, and love is need." - Sheryl Crow

[@gerardshort531]

Wisdom beyond her years. Being hurt tends to bring this to a person. Well done girl. Salamat

[@ericstormdragon3534]

Love? Where you put the needs and desires of the other person first. Where you actually listen, really listen. Ms. Pea, you maid my day.

[@spincube5734]

Well said! I've always strived for a TRANSFORMATIONAL relationship where my partner & I are both fully invested in each others well-being & growth and the relationship is reward in itself. TODAY'S OUTTRO: You maid it quite the pipe dream. Thanx Pea !!

[@DMSProduktions]

Made.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣👍

[@chriselmore1969]

​@@DMSProduktions Duh!

[@DMSProduktions]

@@chriselmore1969 ;o)

[@xpusostomos]

The trouble is, you can't be sure how "invested" the other is. (Ironic you use the word "invested" to argue against transactional)

[@Rocityman]

Didn't realize i came to church, but Pea is preaching 🙌

[@safetynetzero]

Another clear thinking, no BS video from a 'truth seeking' Filipina. How refreshing and attractive!

[@noahcount7132]

Your blatantly honest, brilliantly insightful, no-punches-pulled, cut-to-the-chase videos are magnificent, Pea! Please don't ever consider dialing it back. 👍❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS Noah 👍👍👍❤️

[@lendlalfred7870]

Women, children, and pets get unconditional love. For us men, we get the love for what we can do, the love we receive has conditions. Yes, all relationships are transactional, but there's a difference between an arrangement and genuine attraction. An arrangement is where a man strictly pays for a woman's love. A genuine attraction is where a woman has a burning desire for a man. She is attracted to his physical attributes, personality, and the way he makes her feel. The main difference is money is not the main driving force, but raw attraction. However, in time, for genuine relationships, money will be a factor. Bills, taking care of the kids, groceries, and other expenses require money at the end of the day. Love is not enough. Women are hardwired to seek out providers. It's just the way it is.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Sad, but probably true 🥺

[@madaz13bbp]

Well said 👏👏👏. Couldn't have said it better myself. Thats why genuine desire should the main determining factor on should she be promoted to a "relationship", or just stay something more casual. Without the genuine desire, it's more likely to be, " she's not yours, it's just your turn" 🤷

[@andrewcarlson2178]

Very well said. Pretty much what i was going to comment so I'll just agree here

[@carlosurquiza1021]

I'm hard wired to keep my money to myself 😂 so who wins?

[@TheAdventuresofMrandMrsSmith]

There is an expectation of support in any relationship. Whether is from the heart, the soul or the wallet. We each get something from our partners. Ultimately, I hope that what ever we get from our partners will make us both better people and life more enjoyable. Keep up the great work Miss Pea.

[@Marty_YouTuber]

Low-income male marcels: Different from women, men face a higher chance of remaining sexless when they provide less than 20% of the household income (aOR = 2.27, however only at p

[@Groqx]

Soul

[@johngreynub]

Pea, you are an excellent energy of love, entertainment, and education! May you live long and prosper 👨🏾‍🦱🥜😀🌷🌹❤️🦾🏡😎😯🔩

[@themalejodietaylor2599]

Ms Pea is our Friday treat. The transaction involves clicking the like button and letting the ads play in exchange for pearls of wisdom. Have a great weekend, Pea.

[@bmw_m4255]

Fava beans

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You click the like, and I’ll make the video - sounds fair! 🤣👍

[@Crazykid949]

Pea: Interesting take on this very touchy subject. Most people would take one side or the other, plan their content out to make their side seem the most reasonable to convince the audience to sway to their side of thinking, and then ignore the backlash from the other side. NOT YOU! You found a way to split the hairs right down the middle, and show both sides of the topic and point out the ideology, and flaws with both sides in an entertaining way. The "Pun Intended" comment fit so well to amplify your delivery style of this video, as anyone who has done any dating knows that right from the beginning of a relationship, it's all about searching for what checks off your requirements for what you are looking for in a relationship. Each party has a different checklist, and it normally takes more than just a few encounters to see if the checklist is met, or if it's just another receipt that gets thrown in the trash. Too often relationships are ruined by one member of the relationship holding a part of the relationship hostage until their partner bows to them in one way or another. In my opinion this kind of behavior just shows how selfish the person is that is holding a part of the relationship hostage is and can be. A relationship should be selfless, not selfish. Equally performing duties for the family unit to make it operate smoothly and efficiently is the success of every relationship. Leaning certain tasks on one party's strengths is just a logical and smart plan of action, regardless who does what tasks. All the tasks need to be done, and sharing the load equally will make for a happier exchange between partners. Great video Pea. Keep up the awesome work!

[@xpusostomos]

Ha no, I'm not doing any "tasks".. I bring the money

[@Crazykid949]

@@xpusostomos technically bringing in the money is a task needed to keep a family unit operating

[@denishealey9899]

Hi Little Pea, as always telling it like it is with fun and humour 😂. Keep up the good work.

[@Herv66]

Nothing can detour me from watching, you are just keeping it real!😍👍💯

[@QuinnPrice]

Well said, Pea. We all want something out of a relationship, and some people also end up putting their heart into it and making sacrifices accordingly. That's the key to knowing how transactional it is; earned trust and sacrifice. If the "asks" by the partner continues to rise, you are a cow to milk so don't pretend its anything else.

[@billdeuster-igniteyourcrea6250]

Well thought through, extremely well presented. Thought-provoking, challenging. You have been blessed with a gift for insight and wisdom (and a wonderful heart) - God Bless you in your journey!

[@benlaw4647]

You nailed it Pea! All truth ! I was married for 30 years , and it was exactly as you said ! As my grandad told me when i was a kid , " we all pay for it one way or another" . Thanks Pea! Have a fantastic weekend! 😊💝🙏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Ben 👍👍👍❤️

[@64samsky]

Agreed!

[@problematic3255]

Actually quite wrong the more I think about it

[@TheJuggler14]

Very insightful. You rub my back and i will rub yours in a different way. Mutually beneficial. Thats relationships

[@hughsoule5908]

Have you, miss Pea, done a show on the way Filipina changes when you take her stateside?

[@Walts-Travel]

No holds barred. Hit us with your best shot, Pea. 😮😮😮

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@Walts-Travel Fire Away! 🤣🤣

[@keithdavis6604]

Another great video Pea! Maslow and Masters & Johnson would be proud of you. I actually agree wholeheartedly with your suggestions. Best wishes!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And I’ve read a lot of their opinions / research, so maybe it rubbed off on me 🤣

[@familyguyts9627]

@@TheFilipinaPea 🥰@ "rubbed off on you"...

[@Galahad54]

If you travel to Tokyo, does that make you maid en Japan? Thoughts while listening to GFE - it's an all Pinay Jimi Hendrix cover band. Listening to 51st Anniversary. Next up is When I'm 64. "You'll be older too". Smile! Another great installment of the Filipina Pea Experience.

[@erniealonzo536]

My dearest Pea, there is a saying here in America. If the general is not happy, no body is happy. I think this is true in any relationship. Thank you again for the excellent subject. Great job.❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@leevega9235]

Everything you said is facts... Love the videos. You never cease to amaze me with with you awareness of pop culture phrases and American culture, even sometimes trumping my own even though iv grown up here and am 35

[@ChuckFasst]

I like the term GFE experience. That's the way it was in Olongapo City 50 years ago and it ran smoothly. 😊

[@GCEXTREMEMN]

Hey Pea. Just subscribed to your channel. I met my Filipina wife in 2023, shes 40 now and so am i. She was already here in the US and a citizen for like 10 years, her 1st husband brought her over, he was a Marine. She's originally from Manila. Her and her older sister are here. Anyway, we met on Facebook dating, and yes at first i believed she was a scam. She said she lived in a small town really close to where i previously lived so I was familiar with it. We had our first date on Valentine's day, and 4 months later i proposed. She has a beautiful 9yr old daughter who i also love and adore. My wife also has a KZbin channel where yes she sings and does karaoke and cooking. We brought her mom over for 3 months for our wedding, it was wonderful. Now i have a friend who went over to the Philippines in November last year to meet a lady and now they are engaged and he's working on bringing her over to the US. Him and I both experienced horrible marriages and divorces with our western wives and we are so happy with our new Filipina partners. My wife works and makes good money and she already owned her own home!! I lost my home in my divorce in 2019. Anyway, my friend gave me the link to your channel and my wife and i have been enjoying your videos!! Heres my wifes channel. youtube.com/@josefamaldigan?si=a6H8ve8TmOaMqUyq

[@jeffsobey7380]

Again, you make valid points and thought provoking questions. You are pretty good at this KZbin thing 😉

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Jeff! The comments should be interesting tonight 👍

[@jeffsobey7380]

@TheFilipinaPea I land in Cebu 7 weeks from today. Mentally preparing myself to keep from falling in love with a Filipina every 7min.

[@Captain_Sarcastic]

​@@jeffsobey7380 It's gonna happen every 8 minutes...

[@rayleo529]

Love the transparency of your videos. You're the best Pea. Telling it like it is.......with unique insights.

[@peterm.eggers520]

Great video! I really enjoyed the honesty on a very touchy subject. In fact, when I've thought deeply about it, I come to the same conclusions. I really enjoy your videos!

[@erikgeorge3770]

❤❤ the beautiful Pea ❤❤ all relationships are transactional in one way or another ❤❤ have an awesome weekend

[@luthermcgee3767]

Pea, I don't think I could ever stop watching your channel. If I disagree with anything that you might cover, I merely give it over to further evaluation.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@borisj4054]

It all comes down to a Cost verses Benefit Balance. The listing under each heading is extensive and the weighting of each varies with the individuals involved. When the benefits are greater than the costs the relationship remains intact, a neutral balance is unstable while an excessive cost will result in breakup. That simple.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@borisj4054 Will you be my relationship accountant, please? 🤣

[@bayoumanbryan]

well in the beginning woman Eve was created merely to be a help mate for Adam. in most cases in the Bible the wives/mothers were not considered worthy of even having their name mentioned!

[@williamblack388]

Dear Pea! You are so smart in the ways you break down the complexity of the subject.

[@chadfrazer4110]

I have to say, Ms. Filipina Pea is VERY good at asking the right questions. I truly am impressed!!

[@jackiepoole5422]

Thank you. I think you keep getting better and better..... like wine. 😆

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And I’ll get you drunk, too, if I get the chance 🤣

[@alanaldpal950]

@@TheFilipinaPea He may be right with the wine analogy, because I think I am “under the influence” 🙃

[@jackiepoole5422]

❤​@@TheFilipinaPea

[@jimgilbert9984]

Hi, Pea! This sounds depressing to my shriveled up heart. My heart may be pretty much dead, but there's still a tiny bit of romance in it somewhere, and this video feels like it's wringing out the last bit of romantic nonsense left in it. It may be practical, but it's still not a happy video. As always, I'm looking forward to your next video. Be well, Pea! ❤

[@theRulekeeper]

Relationships have been transactional since the beginning of human history. It’s only been in the last couple generations that the idea of true love has been a thing.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍

[@voice_of_change]

What a refreshingly honest discussion very well articulated and objective look at the reality of all human interactions. They are indeed transactional IMO, based on my life's experiences in business, social and intimate personal relationships. As for unconditional love, I have found that with children, both my own and adopted children as a Daddy. How can you not love, nurture, protect these wonderful growing humans for the future.

[@margieolvida1214]

Thanks I got a man in my life which is we still LDR, I really thankful I got him very responsible even we are not meeting yet... He gives me everything..

[@ausaskar]

For me, there's not a choice between "renting" and "buying". It's a choice between "something" and "nothing". A brief fun fantasy to escape reality.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Whatever works! 👍👍😊

[@fhorst02]

Renting is something and buying is nothing? 😂 I guess many guys who were married and ended up with nothing once the kids are old enough... Kicked out and bled dry... Seems to be the new normal in the USA? In that perspective... You are probably right 😅

[@ausaskar]

@@fhorst02 Haha, I meant I'm not good with the ladies. It's rough out there for us younger blokes.

[@fhorst02]

@@ausaskar out there probably isn't in the Philippines. I'm not young.. 56. Not rich Not good looking Just a regular John Do. Be friendly and yourself, and you will have no problems finding a nice girl (or girls) here!

[@ausaskar]

@@fhorst02 Thanks for the encouragement mate! Looking back on it my post was a bit negative.

[@philausa9629]

Poverty makes people do terrible things … though it’s happening in the west too it’s on a much higher financial level and not prevalent

[@douglasrowland9986]

A lot of things make people do terrible things. I have seen behavior from some rich people that has turned my stomach. At least with poor people, I can understand the need to survive, rich people have no such need. Which ones are truly evil, I will let you decide.

[@bayoumanbryan]

yeah but the western women seem to think that their worth is much more than it is now days. in the last generation not so much so.

[@rogerlenton3335]

It's amazing that after a few hundred thousand years of evolution we are still asking the question, "Are all relationships transactional"? Of course, in some ways, they always have been and always will be; it's what makes us human. The only reason this is even controversial is that many in our societies simply don't like reality. Great video, Pea. Anytime you upset progressives or feminists, it's a great video. 😁 Thanks, Pea!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣🤣👍

[@raygalles2517]

Pea, thank you for this "reals ville" discussion. Met many American transactional women. Few, if any, touched my soul like the total beauty of a Filipina.

[@cruzininblueshoes9422]

I think your video touches upon one of or the most profound topics in the human experience, partnership and love verses transactional relationships. The later is defined by the element of selfishness. In a transaction you are concerned with getting what you want, its not about the other person its about you and what you want. This is the basis of the term. When you buy something or make a deal, a transaction, you are trying to acquire what you want while giving the other person the least that you can, while still making it acceptable for them. Love is about desiring what is best for yourself and your partner. You give, not only, or always, to get, but you give out of motivation of benevolence, without desire for a return. Love is real, and while many relationships may be transactional, when you grow up you seek love and relationships that are about love, even with all ego pollution we often encounter,..... the weeds and swamp often found in any good piece of land. Great job Pea in asking us to think and to do so honestly. Love is what you give. In partnership love is not enough by itself because you have to be able to face the challenges of life as a team, a team that works, and this requires virtue. The more virtue present the stronger you can face life as a couple, a team, as partners. Love is always our North star, shining bright and guiding us home. Lets not be cynical about life and love even if it is full of challenges.

[@bujin5455]

0:19 You could pose that same question back toward the man. I think both genders have their needs and motivations, but that doesn't mean that's the end of the story. But at the same time, what is love, where one party doesn't care at all about the other party's needs?

[@agapitotorres7763]

Marriages now a days comes down to "whats in it for me". That is why i will never get marry again. Maybe when hell freezes over.

[@stevestewart560]

You’re such a perfect woman. It’s rare to find a beautiful, intelligent woman with such a great personality. Thank you for your work.

[@GZhechev]

Nice work breaking down marriage in its simplest form. Very accurate

[@flossietube2065]

That's the key! Unconditional love!! In order for a relationship to NOT be transactional, BOTH parties have to love each other unconditionally!! And yes, that is very hard to find!!! And why, after being divorced for over 20 years, I'm still single. I have found that I am capable of loving my wife unconditionally!!! But I have never met a woman capable of loving me unconditionally. Thus, I remain single.

[@phineashenshaw]

I think it is a balance. I tell my sisters/nieces..."Do not wind up with a man that cannot do anything for you.". At the same time, what happens if a man becomes disabled? Here is the thing, the disabled man that has a woman looking after him EARNED the privilege of having that woman's loyalty, love and respect. The same goes for women. When you see an old couple looking after each other, it is not about roles or submission. A man that carries himself as a good man deserves to be treated well as a man. A woman that carried herself as a good woman deserves to be well treated as a woman. The transaction thing? When was it ever an issue? Love in a marriage is overrated. You do not have to be "in love" for a marriage to work. You just have to want the marriage to work and to do your part. Love grows after time. When you get to a point where cannot imagine life without them. That kind of love goes far and beyond good sex......... Keep up the good work Pea......

[@Marty_YouTuber]

Low-income male marcels: Different from women, men face a higher chance of remaining sexless when they provide less than 20% of the household income (aOR = 2.27, however only at p

[@Marty_YouTuber]

Resources for orgasms or resources for sex is the evolutionary hypothesis common in the manosphere that women have evolved to be dependent on men, and that men having a higher sex drive (due to lower parental investment allowing men to afford more promiscuity), women can effectively trade orgasms (or sex) for resources. A stronger variant of the hypothesis is that women's genetically determined behavior is strongly shaped around this exchange, leading for example to whoring behavior. Due to this exchange, with men being much more interested in sex (on average), women also tend to have a surprising amount of decision power in this exchange (at least in sexually liberated cultures), by virtue of the principle of least interest.

[@jesusblessthesecommentsamen]

I’m disabled my Filipina loves me a God fearing women. 👍

[@jasonjames4254]

@@Marty_KZbinr Yes. Look at the work of Dr. Helen Fisher. From our primordial hunter-gatherer origins until today, women typically seek out strong males who can provide resources AND who are likely to stick around long enough to raise children. However, females know that if the male is too strong and testosterone driven he will quickly stray and then the resources she needs to raise her children are gone. Therefore, women will often select a more beta oriented male as opposed to an aggressive Alpha. The beta is much more likely to stick around and provide support and resources. But she can't pick one who is too weak either because this will also jeopardize the survival of her children. Nothing makes a female's thighs quiver more than a bad boy she can tame. Some voluptuous women select an Alpha male to impregnate her even though she knows he'll soon be gone. Because a voluptuous women can easily attract a beta cuckold to support her children. This is a common transactional arrangement in many of the foreigner/filipina age-gap relationships in the Philippines where the women already have children.

[@rememberstayangry2366]

All I know is love is a real thing. When my parents met it was love at first sight. They were married 59 years until my father passed at 80. 5 years latter and my mom still tells me all the time how much she misses him. It would not mattered if they lived in a tent or a mansion. You know those traditional wedding vows. My parents lived them. Never wavered. They loved each other from day one unconditionally.

[@maltnmetal4085]

That's identical to my parents story :) .

[@elinope4745]

Love at first sight only happens to good looking people.

[@jasonjames4254]

@@elinope4745 🤣😂🤣😂 I am totally gonna steal that!

[@patrickfreeman8257]

I'm pretty sure that all romantic relationships are transactional. But a relationship between two friends, particularly men, can be unconditional.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You mean there’s nothing your friend’s could do to change your feelings? Then I want you as a friend! 🤣👍❤️❤️

[@aaronexner7007]

Ms. PP, You are definitely a woman with wisdom, and i sincerely admire that about you 🤗 Your perspectives are so refreshing. I haven't been to The Philippines yet, but I can relate. Maybe soon... Anyway, it would be an honor just to meet you 🤗 Keep on, keepin' on guapasima 😘

[@jayfoil4037]

Pea, that was a great video! I really liked how you navigated a sensitive topic. Keep up the awesome work!

[@Antwaun7]

Yes it's all transactional. There's no escaping it, men are expected to pay. Women always want men that has money and resources

[@1brasov]

A beautiful and informative video

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Brasov! 😳❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I need I need to give You a Superthanks - you’re certainly a beautiful person, and I’ve learned a lot of information from you too! (Enough to build my own solar array) 🤣🤣❤️❤️❤️

[@aaronrichards19886]

😮

[@mwenengofero]

Are all relationships transactional: Yes. Next question!

[@bobbruce4135]

Yep, even the Chads that don't need money or commitment to get satisfaction, are offering the female something (hot passion). But, money can't buy passion and without passion there can be no romantic love.

[@johnclark7973]

Great, smart writing! Enjoyed this episode. 👏👍 I am blessed to say that I, without a single shadow of doubt, have experienced total uncondtional love for decades in my life. There are no words... 😊

[@johnmurray7557]

Thank you for another great piece beautiful Pea!!!

[@Reshtarc]

Yes and not worth the price or effort. ;)~ A woman love a man with zero conditions...... NEVER HAS OR WILL EVER happen.

[@Coron369]

Happens all the time.depend how many zeros you have after $1

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You could be right - let’s see what people say tonight 👍

[@Reshtarc]

@@Coron369 Nice condition.

[@justinpettingill4426]

Food, shelter and safety, once again pea,perfect analysis

[@fourtywater77]

Pea. You're a real gem. I really appreciate your perspective.

[@JohnQuinones-t1w]

You're a smart young lady--telling it like it is--thanks sweet girl!

[@davelast7487]

i know that you may just be doing these blogs for the income , but you do do a wonderful service for people . thank you for just being you . your parents must be so proud . dave

[@colseverns9848]

Loved this vlog Pea !! I have experienced the GFE in a few of the way’s mentioned. But now being married is this best after all if both people are givers doesn’t this balance things out so that the “cost” is not even thought about ?

[@absufan]

Very profound and thought provoking. Thank you for your insight

[@robertanderson574]

Wow Pea... One of your best for sure... I've been watching you for at least 2 or 3 years, But this is a good one...❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@jredb1]

Pea, this is a profound and powerful group of facts. Most every relationship is transactional. There is literally nothing wrong with that. There are degrees to a transactional relationship. You are 1000000000% truthfully and I appreciate the candor in video.

[@justingoodnow851]

You being up many good questions, some uncomfortable. Your content is always varied and fresh...we love you !

[@tonyjoseph1645]

Pea, I view all relationships as transactional; there’s nothing wrong with that as long as all parties involved are benefiting. In a relationship, you serve your partner & your partner serves you. As for “love,” I perceive it to be an action or choice. For example, selecting to stay with your special someone, in good or bad situations, whether said persons are married or not. Great topic today, Pea. Keep “telling it like it is.” Looking forward to your next video.

[@got2fly799]

You nailed it again Pea. Brilliant. Accurate. True. I keep coming back and listen to you because you're smart. You can articulate what I've thought a thousand times, but I just can't express it like that. I also think that THIS is why character is such an important component in finding a good partner. We want to find someone who has the inward character to keep their promises, to keep producing what they have to offer that makes the relationship worthwhile.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@got2fly799 Thanks, Got2 👍❤️❤️❤️

[@benyoung6655]

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs beautifully translated. It was hard for me to learn that everyone was lied to by the Disney movies, “All you need is love!” Physical needs and Safety and Security, have to be in place first. After that love has the ability to develop. If you haven’t eaten in 3 days or you’re not worried about a romantic relationship…. If you don’t know how you’re going to provide shelter to your child next week, love isn’t a priority. Only after these things are secured can love and personal relationships truly grow. Thank you for illustrating this in your video. I appreciate you and the work you do!!! You have been a major contributor to changing my life. I have moved past my fears and in 9 days I’m flying to Dumaguete and visiting the Philippines for the first time. I’m super nervous but very excited!!!! Thank you for inspiring me and giving me hope!!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@benyoung6655 Just 9 days!! How exciting! Maybe we can have a coffee together 👍👍

[@danilaurin3633]

You are wise beyond your wildest dreams. I agree with you totally. You are apparentlly a deep thinker. It took me 7 decades to come to same collusion. You are amazing and beautiful.

[@oncall21]

I totally agree Ms Pea. Meeting each other’s needs is a transactional. Deep down the greatest need appears to be feeling loved. If you stop giving the love (whatever shape that may be) then the deal is broken. Thanks for sharing.

[@firstnamelastname6717]

I like the way you do your own “personal skits”, or can be flirtatious, In a good way, attracting, funny, cute, a turn on, entertaining and to the point, either way, it’s a good move on your part. , and it works! ( well for me at least , lol! ) but I like it . Please keep doing these personal skits., thanks darling!😘

[@jarridmountford8432]

Thank you!!!! And yes feelings can be involved in any transaction and relationship. It's also why a ltgfe would be difficult. Feelings develope over time. For those that argue what about pet relationships? Seriously! The single best arguement that relationships are transactional! "But I love my dog unconditionally!" And THAT is the transaction!! They make you feel good! In return you provide their every need, clean up after them, pick up theirs crap, put up with the tantrums, buy their meals, all because their companionship makes you feel good.

[@v1kng99]

Hello from Florida, great topic, thanks for the video. Keep up the great work.

[@willg4944]

Hello Ms.Pea. That was an absolutely brilliant video, that I am sure you could end up using as a demo tape to help you further your career. Everything from your clothing, hair and makeup, to the background and even your manner of speaking shows just how well prepared you are when presenting a controversial topic to your audience. Well done young lady, well done.🌟🌟🌟

[@jimbarrow9638]

Very interesting. True in some cases. But love can be a look that shows the happiness. And a touch of the hand can you feel the pulse racing. Great job as always

[@lowtech67]

First. Pea, wow. You look amazing today. Bet you got few hundred marriage proposals! :) On the video? Maybe I'm jaded but all relationships are transactional. Doesn't matter what the country is. Feelings, money, support, intimacy....... it doesn't matter. As soon as the relationship becomes one sided the relationship is over.

[@rayhouse-cz8fb]

As I e said before, I love how you don’t shy away from the difficult topics. Thank you, and you help me appreciate my fiancée even more.

[@koufax174]

🙏🏼

[@hambone5547]

As usual, Ms. Pea is right. For the record, I always preferred an older Porsche to a newer Hyundai.

[@dlundLund-iu2nr]

Pea, you are, intelligent, very articulate, all men and women are conditional, and the conditions have conditions, as we change with the direction of the wind. What is Love, Love is always the truth.

[@garytibo]

Smart and intelligent PEA...LOVE is almost none existing...ALMOST everybody got and agenda...

[@mikehenthorn1778]

Good video. Depending on how you look at it all relationships are transactional. If both parties are getting their needs met and not being harmed all is good. The hard bit is when you didn't explain your needs because you didn't know them yourself. Everyone has ideas what the role " wife" , " girlfriend ", " boyfriend" , and " husband" mean but they may not know all of the things that the role covers. They act on their understanding of their role and expect their partner to act according to the role they have. The partner may have different ideas as to what those roles entail. My wife and i ran into this and we got lucky that we both were willing to dig deep and find out what we didn't know. Then we could work out our transaction with all duties understood.

[@markmccurdy2621]

Your videos are the best on Philippine culture. To the point!

[@Torrisonia]

You're a smart and analytical gal. I like listening to you.

[@skip2it426-]

It’s all about expectations and one hopes to gain and achieve in the agreement ! Thanks for sharing 👏🏾👌🏾

[@daveschramficoexpert1702]

See that, Pea? There was no reason to be concerned about our admiration of you! Keep "tellin' it like it is". That IS You. We love ya for it.