The Girls are Fighting & How to Make Up! - PRETTY BASIC - EP. 284

[@ava.444.]

Alisha the way u described ur anxiety of wanting to cancel plans u originally wanted to go to is SO real. its sooo tiring when you know you will have fun and it will all be worth it, but ur dreading the event

[@jennimg5671]

Alsooo I think the exact same way that Alisha thinks with like anxiety and just how I go about things in my life and that’s also extremely validating to hear someone else goes thru it too😭

[@sarahlandry7156]

Remi is THE ultimate hype queen. I love you both and these laid back episodes are my FAVORITE 😍

[@lucilleestrella]

i felt so validated throughout this episode ❤ glad to know i’m not the only one having these thoughts and problems 😭

[@Lizzysmith3]

Alisha. The trash pile and ADHD? Me. 100%. The way you put it into words I was like “yes! This is how I operate!” And my mom doesn’t get why I don’t just slowly pick up all day but that feeling of the trash pile, productivity, literally the same way my brain works ❤

[@selaaleman1777]

it’s actually terrifying how badly i needed this today. all i can say is thank you. from the bottom of my heart

[@Zaddyydavid]

I relate so hard with Alisha’s thought process and I’m TIREDDDD

[@vanessakleinart]

podcast activity idea maybe go thru old crap in your phones?? notes app, snapchat mems, photos whatever :)) i’m nosey i love watching people go thru their phone lol

[@selaaleman1777]

wow remi, you talking about setting boundaries with parents and healing inner child. so so relates to me right now. really hit home for me touching on those really tough topics and hard conversations to have. i love you remi always, and thank you alisha for being such an incredibly supportive and receptive and respectful and admiring friend. i would feel so lucky to have an alisha to my remi right now. the pretty basic podcast has shown me a relationship between two people who show immense respect, love, and care for their friendship. this is so incredibly inspiring and helpful for me and to me in my life here in texas. i really want to thank you girls for sharing your friendship with the world. it’s really beautiful and means a lot to me at this time of re-evaluating the relationships with the people i have in my life. thank you for your honesty, and vulnerability. truly instills hope in me.

[@Ohmanherewegoo]

8:34 Alisha is right. I’m tracking it right now and trying to understand too. I went off birth control around 7 months ago and I’ve never felt better. My body is actually doing what it should and there is a pattern of how I feel every month. No more Brain fog or hot flashes too. We are pretty amazing humans

[@rebeccamcauley4549]

Brilliant episode as always. I really enjoyed this episode of the podcast. From opening up about mental health and periods, being hormonal. Through to being engaged and the expectations you put on yourself. It's one day that takes planning. Who is there and what the day cements is the key parts. Anyway, cheers for always being transparent with us listeners. It's much appreciated. You both have such a positive outlook on life! 💜✨️🎧🎤

[@lifeof.chrystina]

Couples Therapy is great even for couples who are good and communicate really well, it helps them understand what the other person's boundaries are, what their expectations are in the relationship and that they're fully on the same page when it comes to raising a child, how they feel about religion when it comes to their children. It's also a good place to talk about expectations about splitting the load when you decide to have children and what you're going to want from them, who you'll want to visit, how long after the child you would want visitors, etc. My partner and I were good before we had a child, we would have disagreements like every other couple but having a child really puts a strain on your relationship and really tests you as a couple. We started therapy when our son was a year old and it's been the best thing for us because after having a child, so many things change and getting back to neutral ground and understanding is crucial for making it work.

[@VirginiaCollinsMakeup]

Alisha described my battle with anxiety perfectly. It’s debilitating. I never leave the house. Hardly get out of bed. I thought with therapy/medicine/psychiatrist it would be gone but I still struggle. Even started having PNES (seizures) and they said it’s all anxiety based.

[@gracegcs6860]

Alisha makes me feel so UN crazy. It’s the wanting to go so bad then the day comes and you just wanna cancel. Thank you for being open❤️

[@Christina-Claire]

Just folded all my laundry while watching PB. ❤

[@natashacarruthers8265]

I love these episodes where it’s just the besties sitting down and chatting 🤍

[@A_taylorsversion]

Alisha - I am SO MUCH like you with the anxiety. Especially how you described the anxiety with dating. It's sooooo validating to hear I'm not the one who has this exact same anxiety/fear regarding dating.

[@aaa45028]

man did i need to hear this! instead of doing my university assignment i was scrolling tick tock yelling at Candace owens then making myself stay up all night because theres a byron bay killer. Wow this is soooooooo hlepful, Period is def due in 9 days!

[@W.R.X_K.A.Y]

We appreciate the pod ladies!!! Painted my room while listening. Y’all help me stay productive. Sending love and positivity!

[@allidiaz8991]

The baby pink is def Alisha’s color 👌🏻🥰

[@madayavalos1201]

I actually love your podcast so much and you have such a beautiful mature loving and fun friendship and im so thankful that you both are so open and honest because it really makes me as a woman feel seen heard and I learn alot from you both too♥️

[@Yourcutieamanda]

Love how open you guys are with therapy and how to build better relationships with other 💗

[@JasmineGiesen]

In no shape or form am I a doctor but I was told I had PCOS but I was struggling with really period pain and they were really heavy and I just had surgery that found out that I had endometriosis. I was told a common symptom of PCOS is not painful periods if you haven’t rise this with your doctor it might be an idea because you shouldn’t be having bad pain with periods all the best. Love you both. ❤

[@kathlo3228]

Omg I'm just like alisha. I will think about my plans the day leading up to them and dread going but once I go im actually fine and enjoy it. It's crazy and I don't know why I'm like that.

[@selaaleman1777]

you slay remi. seriously you slay. you inspire me so much.

[@swimwearho32395]

Alisha!! What helped me decide if I could see myself being in a LTR with someone was asking myself if (1) we were compatible (is the chemistry there? Is it easy to talk to them? Does the convo flow?, etc), (2) do they meet my non-negotiables (this is different for everyone, but can be things like values, political views, having and raising children, communication style, etc - make a list of things that are important to you - they should be things you will NOT budge on - but these things can change after more experience with dating and other relationships), and (3) asking yourself if the things that you don’t particularly like about the person (eg things outside your non-negotiable list) will be an issue? Can you be flexible about it and possibly compromise? This helped me A TON. Dating is so hard and scary, so putting yourself out there is already doing something! Hope this helps!

[@gracehollier1969]

alisha u look insanely good in that pink

[@Christina-Claire]

I feel like mamma doctor jones should come on the podcast to talk all things female reproductive health ❤

[@shahiraifrit7992]

This is such a wholesome girlypop chat. I loved this episode so much.

[@kalleemarie1588]

I never comment but Alisha, thank you for validating how I feel😭 I’ve never in my life heard another person express how they operate and handle things and this made me feel so much better. Being self aware is NOT for the weak! Also this comment section also relating- WE SEE EACH OTHER💞

[@gracehartzell452]

1992 Aries girly here and my anxiety is exactly the same about canceling plans!!!!

[@Rosebudd23]

A relationship therapist had said they prefer to see couples at the beginning of the relationship when things are good vs when the couple has problems and they are using therapy as a last resort because they can learn about each other, their communication styles and more early on, rather than later when it may be too late.

[@kathlo3228]

What's crazy is I never got period phases symptoms until my early 20's. Boyyyy when i tell you, I only get a week to be normal 😂😂

[@lyndseyjordan]

i normally only watch zane and heath unfiltered and started watching yalls combined podcast and saw this in my recommended and just decided to give yalls personal podcast a try and OH MY GOD i relate so much to yall and i love yall so much more now thank you guys for being so open

[@jennaawesomeness172]

List of topics: 1. Navigating life in your 20s (dating, living on your own, building career, etc.) 2. Work/life balance 3. “Fan” culture and respecting the boundaries of celebrities or influencers

[@adrianneespiritu2044]

alisha.. it is anxiety, but a lot of this stems from your adhd and executive dysfunction 😖 it’s actually debilitating. AND also the whole period thing makes sense bc our dopamine is already low and when we are going thru out menstrual cycle our dopamine levels drop even LOWER 😫

[@xSweetFancyMoses]

Thank you girls for making my lunch break entertaining! Love ya'll 💖

[@yaritzagonzalez658]

i just walked to and back to trader joe's and this was the perfect podcast ! Perfect length and perfect topic ! Thank you love you 💕

[@fk7771]

Me being a new follower, watching back some old videos of the Asian girl squad or the challenges they did, I see soo much growth, both have gotten mature

[@bsharahourany154]

When are we getting the girls night in reunion episode 🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️

[@carmenalonia9559]

Omggg thank you for uploading early I needed yall for the drive to school this morning 💖

[@YouTubeuserms]

Alisha is a Projector and all of those things are soooo normal. Girls, look up Human Design. It’s insanely accurate! Remi is a Manifesting Generator so obviously her energy is pretty high every day. 😘 I promise it will make sense once you look up Human Design.

[@gemmaramirez9051]

Alisha has made me realize how bad my anxiety is. She is so real for speaking about her anxiety

[@henacampos]

I really thought her and Zane would hit it off because he is tall, funny, brunette and he understands anxiety. He works out and wants to be a father. I think it is up to her what is a deal breaker. He seemed perfect for her but don't know what she didn't like about him. I can relate to Alisha's personality so much. I hope she finds someone to treat her like a queen

[@serenaxg14]

I totally understand you Remi with the wedding planning… ugh people and their opinions too… like it’s really not easy yet everyone thinks it’s easy and want you to “hurry & make decisions” ugh

[@madayavalos1201]

Alisha im requoting you to yourself “happiness is a butterfly”🦋 and so is love, sometimes we take life too seriously which im guilty of, which i believe to be a good thing but sometimes as someone with anxiety myself i tend to freeze and overthink/overworry about the what ifs of the future or the past and i dont live in the present. With happiness and love I’ve learned that we just have to keep going and keep trying although things feel scary because they feel so final they aren’t always, even relationships, friendships, jobs or anything that I thought were so final and so secure didn’t turn out to be at all and it was very devastating but I’ve learned to just enjoy each stage, and if something didn’t work something better will come, dont overthink it too much and have fun💕 love you girls, im so proud of you both in so so many ways💖🥹 keep being yourselves keep shining and thankyou for this podcast it helps so many of us 🫶🏻

[@savannahdugas]

ALISHA… REMI…. What do I have to do for you guys to bring me to see Adele with y’all ? I’ll do anything . My two worlds would collide ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥😭😭

[@nadiadansani2139]

REM - We love wedding updates!!!!

[@FatiAlexa]

Posted 2 days ago and 222k subs, my girls are going to have a good time these next few days ❤

[@Aaliyahjoy-z7o]

about the bee pollen i got some at a local spice market and i got it to help with my estrogen and also the boob tiktok lol i got like a small jar and been using it for 5 months now and i gotta say theyre def growing. nothing noticable yet but i can just feel with my hand yk haha. maybe ill take a full teaspoon instead of half like recommended idk.

[@GabrielaLozano-f1t]

alisha the pink looks sooo good

[@sweetCarolinexo11]

Remy, I know wedding planning can feel really stressful, but I promise it is so worth it! On your special day, you will realize that! It really is true you find out who people really are when you plan a wedding! Try to hang in there!!

[@kaitlinsolomon9701]

Alisha def saw that episode of diary of a ceo episode when referring to the menstrual cycle! Thought that podcast episode was so interesting as well!

[@wendythebaker]

Alish your inner psycho I wanted to like the video but realized I already had liked it. You’re so real and I love

[@ASHLEY-qr2sy]

Completely agree with Alisha abt her periods and phases😭

[@Christina-Claire]

As a sibling you live in the same house but you grow up in different houses. No two people experience the same household.

[@nyka3867]

Im not trying to be mean or disrespectful but when Remi talked about how her brother doesn’t talk about problems or feelings that is why people start having serious sicknesses. There are so much studies done about it, please please talk to people about how you are feeling, don’t keep it inside. I know its hard but its better than getting sick🙏🏼 God bless all of you💖

[@thejanikka]

alisha was so funny on this episode!! always be urself gorgeous

[@MsSmallvillelover]

I’m going through something right now. They thought i was being rude when it was miss communication. They had someone pass away and I didn’t know this . Then they kept snapping at me. I said sorry for the loss twice. This is a friendship of 20 years . They said some very nasty things. I’ve been deleted by them twice . I’m kinda like Alisha . I’m getting tired of being the bigger person . I always feel like I’m getting the bs from people cos they just don’t let me explain. :( we are not speaking .

[@shwetashah6589]

I relate to Alisha so much ❤ like everything she says is me!!!

[@Aaliyahjoy-z7o]

i was also looking into the mensural and ovulation stuff and found out alot with a few articles yesterday lol its the universe telling us libras and libra risings we have a tool, we should learn about to harness and protect our energy. what i was first wondering was why my libido is crazy for just a week then i calm down and also in alishas case im super emotional a few days before my mensural lol, which is ovulation time for me about 10 days then its luteal, mensuration, and follicular stage and repeats. i found out people that have longer luteal phases maybe in rems case often have pcos. also another cool article said that women are more creative and magnetic while in ovulation stage, so thats kinda why its so short but also we feel so good and able to "manifest" better during these 10 days. ughh if only we could feel sexy and confident every day .. lols.

[@theresaidk]

these are my fav episodes 💗

[@sofiajollyrancher]

Love a good therapy sesh, please give us more 🙏

[@abbeyrooke2249]

13:28 so relatable Alisha 🥹🩵

[@hB-kh2kq]

I feel like the topic of having too much time to think is the wrong way around. Thousands of years ago we had more time but we were led by our intuition, so the mind wasn't in charge or as active as it is now. Now we are over-consuming information so our brains are overstimulated. We need more time to just be and exist rather can constantly doing. Relaxing isn't scrolling on our phones and watching TV.

[@whitykitty2651]

the reason remi cant tell the symptoms of a cycle is because she feels those symptoms ALL the time, so to her, thats the normal. she never is getting that release of hormones. (thats why PCOS results in such high estrogen, it is never going down)

[@mightywwfell]

So I follow a girl from tik tok she found her bf on a dating app. He pop the question last Oct 2023 and the are getting married Oct 2024. She is dancing her way to the alter this month time flies fast. For the friendship thing I had a bestfriend that our kids where 5 months apart. We met in college and then things change where she got married had another kid and then her husband pay for everything. We stop talking for like 5 months then talked then stop talking again. Life changes alot when you are grown I don't have any friends know cause I am a single mom that works hard.

[@unathi2012]

53:42 lmaooo I’m cleaning rn. I also have that micro ADHD, Remi. Short-attention-span shorties unite 🤣

[@ciaragrace2905]

I was in the most terrible relationship so bad that by the end I had completely forgotten any good memories we had I was just consumed in the bad ones but I went on a date for the first time since that relationship and still found myself comparing my feelings toward the guy I was on a date with to my relationship even tho I didn’t love the guy anymore it’s a weird thing

[@aubreeleblanc1306]

I would love for you to expose your playlists and comfort songs/artists and songs that have particular memories for you kind of like how vogue used to do playlist of my life

[@tamera5224]

Girl I do the same exact thing with DND! lol I don't feel as weird about that anymore 😅

[@alyssacombs5163]

LOVED this episode!!!!

[@theresag.4188]

My sister hasn't talked to me in 3 weeks for something so small and stupid. I love hearing all of this and how you Interact with your siblings. I stopped trying and I'm gonna be happy and do me. When she's ready to talk I'm here. I got so tired of begging her basically to talk it out and be regular again. Alisha actually reminds me sooo much of my sister! I'm the Ashley for sure!! At this point this will be the first xmas ever I will not be buying her a Xmas gift. Kinda sad but not going to if she doesn't even acknowledge me. 😕 and what's messed up is she came to me crying because her and her bf had a big fight and she said she had no one to talk to and she feels alone. But then she said this doesn't mean she is talking to me again! I listened to her spill her guts. Gave her advice and sympathy. And now she hasn't talk to me and ice me out again! 😱 wtf. So I'm done. No xmas for her. She is ice cold.

[@Demygod0030]

Will you guys be linking platforms for donations for survivors of Hurricane Milton? Or at least using your platform to spread awareness and support for it? I understand it’s a light hearted podcast but they just went through one Hurricane about to endure another And possibly one in the future weeks. Some acknowledgment on your parts on either both platforms or on here would be beneficial.

[@BakerHeidi]

Loveeeeeeed the girl talk this episode

[@itstonycia]

i loved this episode

[@lifelover1170]

Alisha was so funny this episode

[@whitykitty2651]

I think the whole saying, "This is what i saw/felt,/this is my POV/from my POV,--correct me if im wrong" take can be good, especially professionally but also is another slippery slope, especially dealing with certain people, or relationships who may have gain from you being so forgiving if they actually were intentionally being hurtful. if youre already an empathetic person, you don't need to say something like this because it actually weakens your view to someone who may be manipulative. --its already such a feminine thing to do as well, its like apologizing for having an opinion or noticing when someone is being rude/manipulative. you don't have to do that. just call them out. trust your instincts. no man would ever be talking to you like that if the roles were reversed.

[@mygymjournal]

such a wholesome episode ❤

[@ashleythompson1529]

I love you guys!!!!

[@Dan-oy5vd]

Remi not thinking about any influencers besides Zane because the place is reserved for him

[@jaadeybaabey55]

WAIT. NOT EVERYONE’S COMING BEHIND MY BACK?! HUHHH?!?! Alishaaaaa … what test is this…?!

[@reeniie]

this was so real and so informative too

[@madayavalos1201]

Zane, Ryan Trainor (Megan’s brother), henryhenryhenryhenry, Joe Santagato ☺️

[@whitykitty2651]

people have different hormonal reactions, its not that everyone is the same based on their cycle, but if you find you have more symptoms, sometimes things like birth control can help--or you may be more sensitive to birth control, and it can make it worse. for example, some experience a release of those emotional PMS symptoms once their period begins, and they feel better. if thats you thats good. but others may experience PMS for weeks leading up to the period rather than just a week or days. If you have PMS symptoms for weeks, birth control may help to regulate those emotions, emotional eating (craving food all the time when youre not hungry is a symptom of PMS, its your body preparing for pregnancy. it only gives up once the period comes if the period releases those hormones properly) some people experience this also while ON birth control, but if you are experiencing this for weeks in your regular cycle, your hormones are naturally unregulated, so birth control in those cases can sometimes help to regulate your hormones. --to reiterate, if your hormones are already regulated, it is best to not add any other medication, or hormonal changes. (plan b also changes your cycle and hormones and can affect your mood, or weight).

[@emilyparnell4930]

Date Zach Justice, always pictured you would make a cute couple 😂

[@wendythebaker]

Brothers and influencers only

[@ZangieDoes]

Me on my phone while watching this 😭😭

[@Christina-Claire]

I track my period to hack my period!

[@melissaurbain4717]

Damn. You guys started your periods in 6th grade? I had my first one in 10th grade but didn't have my next one until 11th or 12th.

[@KisasDestiny]

Girl - I used bee pollen and I learned I am ALLERGIC. My teeth went numb LMAO

[@nadiadansani2139]

I’m not even gonna hold you, I don’t want Zalisha to happen BECAUSE I don’t want it to ruin the friend dynamic… HOWEVER love you both individually. I don’t think Alisha looks like a toe. I would love to look like Alisha! An influencer I think Alisha should date hmmm maybe Vinny from Jersey Shore

[@tiffanyfleenor]

UNLICIA!!!

[@lylaeyoutube]

WHERE IS ALISHA’S SWEATSET FROM

[@jennimg5671]

Just turned 22 and I’ve started to realize a lot of the things you girls talked abt today and it feels very validating hearing it from someone else as well🥹💞💞

[@Sara-zu4og]

Where is Alisha’s pink set from?

[@TaylaJannee]

Zane 🫶🏽🥹👀

[@sophiakapp9901]

I agree with Alicia, the trash pile is for the trash can. It’s organizing your trips shit

[@DeidraHall-id5bc]

i want pretty pop culture

[@celinevillanueva]

Not me sharing a name with a cyst hahahah But I’m glad she hasn’t grown!