The Golden Rule in Christian Dating

[@jackjones3657]

"Lean hard on the people who know you best, love you most and are willing to tell you when you're wrong." Those are words of wisdom.

[@tulipsingles9624]

"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps" - Proverbs 16:9

[@adaliavasquez6552]

I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.

[@tulipsingles9624]

"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps" - Proverbs 16:9

[@aileenprestan1823]

The Lord deliver you from a false christian

[@CKALLY]

From the KZbin videos I’ve been watching on relationships I believe that was God answering your prayer. One of the listed ways God tells you no about a person is if they suddenly get into another relationship.

[@kayaanyadunath9863]

As a man, i dont pursue in this area. If you were giving him mixed feelings. Its obviously that he will go to someone else.

[@hamilton9651]

Not a problem sister. I will never mislead any of you ever! I am committed to long-term celibacy, so a dating relationship is never going to happen!

[@HG51_]

God first in all areas of life. Great message

[@TheDominion37]

Good insight on this issue of dating and relationships. When there is no intentionality in expanding our walk with Jesus Christ, it is impossible to commit to a selfless, dedicated relationship with a significant other. May Christ always be the center: our needs and expectations be laid at the His feet.

[@rosemarythomas4202]

God first in everything, and that is exactly what I have trouble with.

[@daniel.adeyemi]

Rosemary Thomas Lol, why do you have a trouble with that if I may ask ?

[@CEOofSleep]

Reply to the guy ma'am

[@rosemarythomas4202]

Player 1 please don’t rush me ma’am.

[@CEOofSleep]

@@daniel.adeyemi stay alert, your answer can arrive any moment now

[@daniel.adeyemi]

@@CEOofSleep Hahaha, thank you, I'd be waiting.

[@adaytripp]

I waited 3 yrs and was engaged to a man of God and then when I got with him he flipped and was abusive. He did introduce me to John Piper though and for that I'm thankful. After six yrs total I feel hopeless to find a true man of God. Please pray for me 😭

[@amandadangerfieldpiano]

I'm so sorry he was abusive. I will pray for you. How are you now?

[@adaytripp]

@@amandadangerfieldpiano not good just left an abusive unhealthy friendship just tonight 😭

[@altustalent410]

This matter isn't a simple one because it requires somebody closer to examine all that's happened. Commit yourself to the church you worship in and make the matter known. There's reasons for everything and it must be discussed privately and intimately. Do not reject this advice, follow the scriptures and bring the matter before a pastor. You cannot deal with anything through KZbin commentary, everything must be discussed and considered in full. Pray yourself and be submitted to the relevant process under God and his word. Consider that he's not God and can be a man if God even in his flaws just like you are a woman of God though you haven't made the matter clear. Make the matter known under the church you're worshipping at

[@adaytripp]

@@altustalent410 no see that's where abuse culture in the church is a lie I do not have to keep anything in the dark but bring it to light and we all do so that we can address abuse

[@altustalent410]

@@adaytripp "Abuse culture in the church." So the whole church is to blame for the actions of a few, the actions of your partner whom you chose? There's a scriptural way of doing things and your way. You want to do this through KZbin commentary, fine. Go ahead. I think you need someone to be present to walk with you through the issue and discover all things but whatever. Do what you want

[@leahbarajas7478]

Why would others dislike this video? It's truly sound and very encouraging to continue in righteousness. Great video, I appreciated everything in it!

[@samguadalupe9196]

Completelyyfucking agree

[@aileenprestan1823]

Because is ungodly to date

[@soarenstevenson6050]

@@aileenprestan1823 what???

[@Solo_Videos]

I know as a Christian I have often struggled with dating because although I’d love to be in a Godly relationship I’ve often felt either unworthy of a Godly woman or like dating would be a strain on my relationship with God. I’ve never had a situation where I’ve felt that God truly was OK for me to date someone, even when there have been Christian women I’ve liked very much and I knew liked me too. I’ve abstained from dating and honestly have started to think that maybe I’m just not meant to marry

[@brandonoliver8547]

Same dude I feel the same way. I often felt unworthy and would be afraid to open up and I’m trying to find a way to open up

[@brandonoliver8547]

Solomon Umlah but you cannot think that you aren’t meant for marriage. If you choose that life then do that’s all you. But God wants us to find a Godly woman to allow us to know what love is. If we have a Godly woman, she can keep you accountable and be there for you. Just pray and ask God what he wants in your life and trust him. Everything takes time and patience

[@CeceDeAnn]

Brandon Oliver if you feel unworthy of a Godly women, that means your relationship with God is not as strong as you’d like it to be. This inferior attitude is coming from you, not the woman. Maybe strengthen your relationship and revisit dating (: I’m sure God would not mind at all if you found the love of your life ! A team serving God is always better than one (:

[@cathaaaa7236]

Same. I thought I'm the only one who feels unworthy of a Godly partner even tho I prayed Hard for it. Maybe it's just not the right time yet.

[@GeorgePenton-np9rh]

Go online to get a good Christian woman. No arrogant swaggering necessary, no fame playing, much less lusr, no bothering women who don't want to be bothered.

[@rebekahambrose5839]

So good! I wish pastors preached more on this in church.

[@user-nj5cl6xs4n]

Swallow your pride and listen to the people that are coming to you and bringing up whatever potential issue. They love you and they do want what is best for you and it is absolutely their business too. You are a part of their life therefore you are their business. Listen to what they are saying. Take your defenses down, step on your pride and listen to those that genuinely care about you. Its very possible they see something you dont or are trying to ignore/hide from. Faithful are the wounds of a friend.

[@mblv08]

I wish a friend of mine would see this. She doesn’t see the red flags and that her guy is not really after God’s heart. I feel that she would end our friendship over him and it’s unfortunate to see this happening. Please pray for my friend.

[@GeorgePenton-np9rh]

I think humility is one reason it is hard to find a good Christian marriage partner. The guys tend to think that they are too unworthy to ask out good Christian women, and Christian women have such low self esteem that that don't think they are worthy to accept an invitation to a date. Humility makes us shine in Heaven but it can be a real barrier to accomplishing much in this life.

[@ianbetts4435]

I would not trust my family, I did that with my first wife. They encouraged me to marry her, I wish I hadn't listened to them, she was a wolf in sheep's clothing, a narcissist. I should have listened to my gut not friends and family who where taken in by her fake charms. Pray everyday and listen to the spirit of God.

[@allybally0021]

Well said.

[@naohtrevor5340]

Don't blame 🙄

[@itsmarianabeatriz]

my favorite video on this topic! Very precise

[@bullesqgitz1573]

Great topic,believing for Godly man

[@zxx5]

Tell me who you walk with, and I'll tell you who you are. Awesome vid !

[@terri3720]

some of my neighbors here are professing "christians" who practice drunkenness,sleeping around,kids out of wedlock, but are "saved.." i've developed a reputation for calling people out (and i allow ALL to do the same to me..)screwing up and living a life of sin are TWO different things.. when you are NOT convicted about your lifestyle.. be worried.. alot! in the words of one of my former pastors:'better to NOT be assured in salvation than to think you have the cat in the bag..."he of course was saying, that it's better to always "worry" (ask) is this pleasing to the Lord than to have the attitude that you can LIVE as you want. HOW you want, with WHOM you want because God accepts me and doesn't care..if you want that sermon,he used to say, attend Joel Osteen's church..... :))

[@revvanmev2885]

Dating has gotten rather toxic recently tbh

[@necromantic420]

@AAAnderson055 I used to say the same thing but then I realized that were toxic ourselves also, we are equally guilty just in other areas, some people might be worse but we have no right to judge

[@necromantic420]

@AAAnderson055 I agreed with you, whats the problem? All I said was we are toxic in other areas aswell

[@necromantic420]

@AAAnderson055 yeah I just meant that we are all guilty on some level, have a great day 🙏

[@necromantic420]

@AAAnderson055 yeah man I really don't know either I'm just praying that God will show me that one person 🙏 u should too

[@necromantic420]

@AAAnderson055 amen bro

[@CDFFdating]

Really nice message! thank you for sharing and God bless you :)

[@alabamapinksocks]

Amen Jesus! Thank you for this message!!

[@Patrizia4Christ]

Beautiful message bro!

[@williamhenry2408]

I know online aren't good for this, but am using it to search for my life partner but trust me am going to get her

[@jackievangogh7245]

God bless you for this.

[@Fuzzy_Halo]

Thank you for this! I'll definitely take your advice :)

[@kasubakapambwe5621]

This is so valid. Wish I got these tips earlier.

[@DardanellesBy108]

Listen to counsel and advice from your close and trusted friends. Wish I had done that back in 1998! Would have avoided a lot of grief.

[@ashlen8717]

Love this! Thank you!

[@roxysarmogenes]

I really want a Christian dating that honors the Lord.

[@daviddickendon315]

Im here

[@hunj48]

David Dickendon wow 😂

[@bullesqgitz1573]

Longing to have had honouring relationship

[@joswinnoronha1739]

Wonder full May God bless you abundantly

[@jonahcabrera8032]

I do agree that we must love God first if we should love our partner. However, as far as accountability, I do have to cite Matthew 7:3-5. This video seems to promote the picking out of someone’s speck. I understand holding each other accountable, but only when it is agreed upon by both parties. Other than that, I believe we must learn when to see boundaries and mind our own business. It is impolite, uncouth, and flat out disrespectful to ask questions about another person’s sex life. It is also disrespectful to that persons boyfriend or girlfriend, as their personal baggage between the couple and God is seeping out, to people who are pressing for more information. I believe it also shows a lack of faith, since there is no effort to leave it to God in prayer. We must care for others and pray for others, while keeping our nosiness out of certain dirty situations.

[@18wolfspirit]

The Golden Rule is actually this: If someone has done nothing to you is not directly involved in your problems or intentionally committed any heinous, malicious crime or felony, there is no other way for you to treat them except with kindness regardless how much pain you have experienced in life or nonsensical things like deformities, race, skin color or not having met your expectations.

[@tulipsingles9624]

"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps" - Proverbs 16:9

[@mr.irrelevant8826]

As a 16 year old this is a lot of pressure

[@sylence0075]

so what about if you're in a long distance relationship?

[@dovybar]

The same bro, it's a matter of heart. Be blessed

[@morriswilburn9858]

Wise advice.

[@DS-zo8xs]

It's even harder when you're friends are secular

[@Grokford]

This is actually good, I was expecting some purity culture drivel

[@faith-ly3po]

Thank you.

[@irenebrinkmann1473]

Wow is all I can say.

[@nadinegomez8858]

Why is the church never addressing the fact that there are FAR more women in the body of Christ than men??? Why does the church penalize women when they get hurt from dating unbelievers, when literally a big chunk of us ARE bound to be single because are not adding up- *nowhere near* . And if we’re talking genuine men who follow Christ, it is even worse... So a large percentage of Christian women are bound to be single.

[@fearandloathing9976]

Join a convent.

[@Adam-lw8bx]

Maybe if you put your faith in God to find somebody and not in your own works it might work out different

[@jessicasue6604]

Sorry but this isn’t always true! From my personal experience there hasn’t been anyone more or less educated as far as relationships go to be giving me advice in my life! And when I trusted those older and wiser they told me not to pursue someone I knew God wanted me to and had told me to pursue. Those people told me I wasn’t hearing God and they were! That ended up damaging my trust in my ability to hear God and therefore my relationship with him for a very long time! Their lack of compassion and true guidance from an actual educated point of view that came from them actually listening to me about who this person was instead of judging a book by its cover caused so much confusion and heart break and I had to serve ties bc I saw so many of their true colors come out over this!!And thank God I didn’t listen to them bcI wouldn’t have the love of my life with me! He wasn’t a church going perfect fit into a box kinda Christian and that’s why they told me not too! Not bc they heard it from God but they heard their own desires and tried to sway me with what they wanted for me! They were so wrong! This man is more Christian, knows more about love, and has a more beautiful heart then any of them! Go to God first and trust his voice over anyone else!

[@allybally0021]

I agree......go to God for counsel...the admonishment of people can be useful to hear but can be contradictory, unwise, or given in a spirit of veiled malice.

[@mygeorgina]

great advice.

[@TheArtistJ777]

God, the one who has created the Heavens and the earth, gave us a standard of righteousness to live by called the ten commandments, or the law. Anytime we are living contrary to the standard that God has required us to live by is considered sin. The disobedience of God's law, which is punishable by death. Sin brings death. the wages of sin are death the Word says. Disobeying an eternal God brings an eternal punishment, Hell. Hell is the place of punishment your spirit will end up for all eternity for that disobedience against a Holy God. A place of fire and brimstone and weeping and gnashing of teeth, forever. So God by the law revealed how we should live before a Holy God. Now ALL stand guilty before God with no way to justify ourselves because of this knowledge. For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. No one can live up to the standard that God has set for us. Since we are guilty and sin brings death, the only thing to fix our separation from God through sin is the death of something innocent. A substitute, A sacrifice to take our place. That sacrifice has to be PERFECT or the payment isn't permanent. God is Just so he must bring justice on the ones who break His law but God is also loving and wants to provide a way out. Clearly since the only one to meet God's standard is God, God goes Himself as Jesus. God became a man, Jesus Christ, and lived the sinless life we couldn't. Jesus, being in the form of God and equal with God came in the righteousness of God, Being perfect in Holiness He fulfilled those requirements for us and willingly became the substitute for the wrath of the Father which was met to be poured out on us, the ones who could not fulfill the Father's standard of holiness. He took all the Full Force of the wrath of God for all the evil that we are, and He bore it. He took God's punishment, becoming our sin and dying with it. Jesus died in our place, taking our sin upon Himself. The Lord placed on Him the iniquity of us all.Because a perfect sacrifice was the only way to pay a debt for a people as sinful as we are. Someone had to die, so he did it Himself. Cause He wanted us back for Himself. He became payment for a people who could not redeem themselves. Then in three days Jesus rose from the grave by His own power, proving He was God in the flesh and that He had succeeded in paying our debt of sin. Defeating death and the grave meant the redemption was guaranteed, For all who believe. By Jesus paying our penalty in death He frees us from the sin that so easily ensnared us by giving us His righteousness, the Holy Spirit by which He overcome the sin of this world, but only to those who believe in Him and trust in His work of the cross. All you have to do to be declared innocent is Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ. That His death was enough to pay the penalty for your sins and live a lifestyle of repentance. Which means to change one's mind. To turn away from sin, God makes you a new man in Christ, He is the one who regenerates your person to make you a New Creature. With a new heart and new mind who hates to do sin, and to displease God. When we do sin, which we all do, we will repent and ask God for His mercy and Grace to help us to never do it again. Through the Father's plan Jesus has restored us to a proper relationship with the Father! Now we are Justified by Faith apart from the deeds of the law and are no longer called sinners, but SAINTS! It is the goodness of God that leads you to REPENTANCE! God is real, and whether you believe in Him or not, you will stand before Him. It comes down to you believe on Jesus or you die and go to hell. There's no way around it and no way to sugarcoat it for you. It's one or the other. You see, Jesus had to be God or nobody is saved.

[@hhmaster789]

it helps, thank you.

[@allybally0021]

Well.....this emphasises listening to people who are telling you when you are wrong.......that can be valuable but equally if those people are not the friends they claim to be, or grossly unwise then this is not good advice. 2 Corintians 11:19

[@flouserschird]

As a believer who dosent fit in with western Christian culture the thought of “Christian dating” is horrifying. I’ll probably be alone forever. I don’t even have many Christian friends in the first place.

[@mirial2108]

The trouble is, materialism and being a provider seems to be a priority for most attractive "Christian" women in the West. I'm good looking, 6' +, fit, decent personality and good for my age and they don't give me the time of day except for the ones who are not that attractive and who are desperate. Part of me thinks girls in bars are more sincere....at least there is a mutual physical attraction to begin with.

[@Fabreezecat101]

“Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife.” 1 cor 7:27 Dating is anti biblical. It’s a worldly imitation of marriage made up by the enemy in order to lead you into temptation, when Jesus clearly said “lead me not into temptation.” Dating is a euphemism for being sexually immoral. And that which is not part of Gods will for your life is a sin. Therefore, “dating” is living in sin. But because of everyone’s hard heart, God allows some Christian’s that date to get married. But he only does that just so he can get you of that deceptive and sinful lifestyle. You’re either single or married. David was told he would be king. But he never did anything to make that happen. He didn’t chase after it. He let God bring it to him. So be like David and let God be God.

[@GiyuTomiokaTheOneAndOnly]

Dame this guy is good

[@bko5489]

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[@Faith-lj4ex]

I've been hoping and praying for someone to come into my life to love but no one has come yet

[@lahdeedah6859]

Faith Jones same! You are not alone in this!

[@kierrarichardson80]

Faith Jones continue to focus on God and after his righteousness and all these other things will be added to you St. Matthew 6:33

[@estabon2u]

Faith Jones Same here brother. It's been a real struggle for me.

[@cowticket]

Faith Jones Hoping and praying doesn't do anything, idiot

[@Faith-lj4ex]

I've been out looking as well and you misspelled

[@trivetteamy]

Jesus Christ loves you,.

[@Be_Nice1200]

Thanks!👍

[@thomassterrett1905]

Great advice. I just don't have any close friends I can lean on. Maybe 1 or 2! Then there's a Godly Woman. Where am I supposed too find one of those? Church?! 🤔😊😍

[@PeshPatie]

Thomas Sterrett First of all i would encourage you to build a strong relationship with Christ. As you walk faithfully with Him He will by His Precious Holy Spirit guide to the right people, church and even Godly Christian forums just like this one to meet people who are rooted in Him His ways and Word. Ask the Holy Spirit for discernment. I can help stand with you in prayer and we believe God to connect you to the right people. I am now going to make it a point a pray with you. Our God is able.

[@ushindiraha]

@@PeshPatie me too I need that prayer

[@PeshPatie]

@@ushindirahathanks for letting me know i will surely keep you in my Prayers

[@bullesqgitz1573]

Praying for Godly man in my life

[@bullesqgitz1573]

Hello

[@hamilton9651]

I'm so glad for celibacy! I live in solitude and privacy!

[@CP-qn1mn]

Good advice but I don't think this person really understands what he is saying. Love your God with ALL YOUR HEART SOUL & MIND. Think about that for a second............ every bit of your consciousness, every bit of your love focused 100% on God at all times 24/7 365 for your whole life. Now I ask who can say they have done this perfectly? Let's not just through these verses out there without really thinking about them.

[@fleecemaster]

It's the goal we aim for, it's not about attaining it, but the character we build and what we achieve through trying to follow that rule. It's like an ultimate goal, in AI research it's called a terminal goal (or value), in that it is the thing you are always trying to maximise. Hope that helps? :)

[@Parks179-h]

I’m sorry that you assume the worst of your brother who you do not know.

[@m_jay5]

Casual dating without the end goal of marriage is completely pointless as a Christian! I don't want my time wasted now that I'm a single guy in my 30s!

[@chriszablocki2460]

I don't think dating or "mating" should factor into worship.

[@s1n4m1n]

Dating is a secular concept.

[@iWh15tl3]

God is Omnipotent don't date wait on God and He will add everything you need!!! Even a relationship.

[@tulipsingles9624]

#biblicalandreformed

[@felipears2092]

Soo true

[@Dave286i]

young men asking.. atheist girl for phone number: a) yeah sure! my name is sophie btw :) b) i have a boyfriend c) phahahahaha! christian girl for phone number: a) eehmm.. ahhh.. mmhhh.. eehhh.. (looks ashamed to friendgroup who observe the scene carefully) b) i'm 18 years old and marrried (that handsome church guy randomly appears) c) well the lord told me my future husband will be half israeli, half brasilian and he is a vegetarian ingenieer who does crossfit and when the seventh trumpet in heaven blows the lord shall speak: THIS IS YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND! YOU CAN SAFELY GO ON A FIRST DATE WITH HIM!

[@bean7496]

What?

[@jvals]

✊

[@laenga6253]

Is dating Biblical?

[@quintonlutz2301]

Lae Nga No, dating as a concept didn't exist until the last few centuries, maybe even less. In the Bible, women were usually given to men and they were married.

[@origintv900]

No...it's not...the concept just started a hundred years ago.......in the past it was more of courtship

[@samguadalupe9196]

I just want to please my girlfriend

[@meatball5560]

If pleasing your girlfriend means not pleasing God, it’s not worth it

[@peterriverajr6899]

This couldnt be more wrong

[@simonpedersen9703]

Its the fathers job to find you a suitable spouse. Leave it to him.

[@MarchVargas]

What if you don't have a father?

[@UKVATO]

Can you please pray that I find my soulmate please !

[@simonpedersen9703]

Dont date. Ask your father to find you a suitable mate, like they did in old irael.

[@hashtigerwoods]

drink the kool-aid

[@dreamscape405]

While I agree we need good friends, but they should really stay out of your love life. You need to learn your own boundaries if you weren't raised with healthy ones. Your friends don't live your life, you do. This was an indoctrinated cookie cutter video.

[@origintv900]

It's easier for you that way....if you're always alone with someone of the oppsite sex, you'll fall....that's for sure

[@jonahcabrera8032]

@@origintv900 Makes sense, but we also need to know that we aren’t obligated to trust other people with sensitive information. It is disrespectful to ask questions ably another persons love life.

[@that_1_artist364]

Think about this people God created every thing right? There is love,happiness, and kindness. There is also hate, sarrow,death ,and sin. Who created sin,god . He created every thing and in this world ,but why? All of you are saying how good he his, but what kind of God is he to let people dye of cancer. How much love to you see around you? There is more hate than love in this world. Who created illnesses? God did. Who created death. He did. Did he have to punish Adam and Eve. No. He turned his back to his best friend satan. Satan was beautiful. When he needed God most God turned his back to his. Not such a good God huh?

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

Emma Hurst If we assume god is good we also have to assume there is opposite of that which is evil. It automatically exists and is not created. It manifests only trough acts just like goodness manifests trough kind acts. God is obviously capable to do evil but chooses to be good. Evilness breaks and can not build. It corrupts. When man was created God wanted him to be good. In order to man to be able to be good he needed to have free will so he could choose to be good. God wanted so badly man to be good that he made him unaware of evil and unable to do evil deeds. But he needed to preserve the free will so he orderd one thing the man should not do. He wasn't allowed to eat from a one certain trees fruit. He could choose to obey or not. Man decide eat for he was betrayed by satan and became aware of evil and brought death upon himself and his descendants and the world. Now he could also choose to be evil. This happened for evil deeds come with a prize to pay. It corrupted Gods good and perfect world and ruined it. Satan wasn't abandoned by God. He wanted to become like God and overthrow the one who called him to existence. Satan abandoned his high place as a reflector of Gods glory.

[@benjaminmcallister99]

Read the Word to know the truth

[@dansalfetnikov2484]

What’s your email I have a question it’s really important and urgent