THE GOOD AND THE BEAUTIFUL MATURATION UNIT||END OF COURSE REVIEW||HOW WE DID IT?

[@mstoneify]

We LOVED this study. When my son found out where and how babies came to be - he just kept apologizing. 'I'm so sorry you had to go through that to get pregnant." LOL Oh my word!

[@tiffanywheeler48]

😆😆 so funny!

[@valgal3081]

😆

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Aww...that's so sweet of him!

[@jenfoster128]

LOL!

[@joeltrevor3257]

InstaBlaster.

[@tonyatd4828]

I also did this course with my oldest daughter and thought it was excellent. I would say I HIGHLY recommend the safety unit! I did that the beginning of the year and the second to the last chapter was safety. I had talked to all four kids about this but the way they worked it and the examples they gave were hard but good. They explained that even though someone is family or a good friend that sometime they are the ones who take advantage. It gave examples like grandfather, uncle, cousin etc. I hesitated to give those examples because I didn’t want my kids to think they would do that. No history of any abuse in the family. Sigh... without going into detail it was during this lesson my youngest exposed abuse from a cousin 💔 Turns out he had abused my three plus other cousins and none of them knew others were being abused and non told their parents. I am forever THANKFUL that I followed the curriculum and used the examples given!! It STOPPED the abuse. I’m sure anyone reading this might be wondering so I’ll share that even though it was close family, we reported and said cousin has been sitting in jail for six months awaiting sentencing and is facing 20 plus years in jail. Talk to your kids!!! Our world is scary. This was in a Christian family, even the perpetrator was home schooled. It’s important to have hard conversations and sexual conversations but so important. Do it with prayer and help from the Holy Spirit.

[@GraceandGrit]

Wow I am so incredibly sorry to hear that. Praise God you were informed and able to stop it.

[@ldv02]

I’m so sad your family had to go through that! Thanks for sharing this. I’m very over protective with my children bc I’ve known of ppl who have gone through things like this, and it’s funny how even family make me think I’m crazy and too much sometimes. I rather be crazy and too much, thanks for your words!

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Yes, I agree its hard, but if a child doesn't know that grown ups can do the wrong thing then a child can be caught up in a manipulative situation very quickly and its usually with a trusted adult. I was a victim in this kind of situation and yes also when I was 4 years old when I stayed the night at a cousin's house and guess what it was a girl cousin. If young girls aren't told the hard things and that they have the right to tell grown ups no then it can put them in a rock and a hard place. I'm very very sadden that this happened to your family!! Its so hard for kids to speak out especially when they are scared and confused. This is one of my reason for the no sleep over rule. Then there is no risk of my children being in a situation they can't get out of!! Of course I also started conversation with my kids much earlier in their lives about who can see them in the rest room, bath, ect and how no one is allowed to touch you, this is your body and yours alone, ect. The type of people who do this to young people have a way of making the victim think it was their idea and what they wanted. Thanks for sharing praying for your family. God can and will heal them. I have a very healthy happy sexual relationship with my husband of 18 years, but it did take a lot of time to realize it wasn't my fault and to forgive myself.

[@Belovelyava]

My heart breaks for all involved. Sex abuse between children is actually very high. The easy access to internet porn has made everything worse. May grace find your family as you navigate this tough road. Thank you for sharing! Your testimony alone makes me want this curriculum now!

[@TeacherInspirationStation]

Wow!!! Yes, so important to teach our kids about inappropriate touch and sexual abuse and when it’s done, it is often done by people we know. Glad the children spoke up and it stopped. Sorry your family had to go through that. This stuff happens way more than we think.

[@DavisR111812]

"The Book of Unwanted Truth" 🤭😆 Thank you so much for sharing! 💜💜💜 I really am anxious about this, but definitely want to use this resource when it's time.

[@Aplaceofstory]

Great review. We did not use this study to share about sex and body changes with our children, but we did use another christian based curriculum. For those who are nervous about sharing with their kids, I noticed the number one thing that helped me was to not let myself act nervous, embarrassed, or silly as I was talking. Believe me, I was not looking forward to breaking the tape here. I had heard stories that even home schooled kids were learning about sex at young ages. So I wanted to share with my 10 year old, as she was clearly moving into the next stages of development. I sucked it up, acted calm, and it went really well. I was pleasantly surprised to learn that she had no idea what sex was. But she handled the conversation maturely, and like Ashlee mentioned above, once the conversation was over, that was pretty much it. I may have gotten a question or two since then, but nothing shocking. So mamas and dads out there, it really isn't all that bad! It's so important that we are the first ones to share the true and beautiful reason for what sex is.

[@sharayahsunshine11]

Thanks for sharing as I remember this conversation being extremely awkward for my parents when I was growing up. I remember very vividly before "the talk" I was in 3rd grade and a girl told me what oral sex was. Here I am 9 years old going home and repeating this story and my mother shut down the conversation. So I'm determined to never let it be the same with my kids.

[@shaunamcguire2214]

Thank you so much!! To say I’ve been dreading this with my daughter is an understatement. When you said you were worried about a loss of innocence, it’s like you were reading my mind! She will be 11 in October and I know this info needs to come soon. I think I will go and order my “Book of Unwanted Truths” now. Lol

[@CreatingEssence]

I really, REALLY appreciate this review. Thank you so much for putting this out there for others.

[@GraceandGrit]

Thankyou for watching❣️

[@orangeate2405]

LOVE your reasoning for teaching to both kids at the same time. Also, in the future they may be married and knowing these things about how a persons body functions goes a long way in understanding the other person. Good Job Momma!!!

[@coffeeandcrayons]

I love this! The fact that your kiddos are able to laugh with you and ask questions about such an awkward and serious topic just shows the level of love and trust they have for you. My kiddo is only 8 but when she starts getting curious and asking those kinds of questions I will be using this!

[@faithliving33]

Thank you for sharing! I'm looking to start this with my oldest daughter soon.

[@jademullinax9129]

My son is only 6 and when I saw the good and the beautiful release this course I was so relieved because I knew there would be a perfect way to give him this information when he is ready.

[@HomeschoolHomestead]

I’ve been looking at this on good and beautiful for a week now, as we are needing to do this! This review put my momma heart at ease! Thank you!

[@almablinn9755]

Thank you for this review. I’m going get this for my daughter this year.

[@brendagonzalez2475]

I reeeeeeeally appreciate this review. I have an 11 year old and well I know I have to prepare for this already as he is growing up fast. I appreciate that you highlighted this coruse because I had no clue how I was going to go about this subject. So thank you!!!

[@GraceandGrit]

Glad it was helpful!

[@veronicageorge7982]

I love that you kept them both educated on both genders! I grew up in a household where "period" was a dirty word and not ever to be spoken.

[@aleciamurphy5610]

Thank you for this video! I love the idea of including both parents in the teaching of this!

[@crystalrodgerson3973]

Thanks for the review. We’re no where near the time for this subject but it’s always good to here from someone ahead of me. I like how you taught them both about the opposite gender’s info...I’m sure their future spouses will appreciate that.

[@arianneherglotz5704]

I love your heart, I love how u said what I’m thinking with regard to the loss of some of their innocence, my first born is growing up 🥲 bitter sweet

[@sheenahair5872]

Thank you for this review! It's hard to believe that in the next year or so we will be going through this with my oldest! But I am thankful to have a resource like this to help us!

[@blondestyleslife3017]

Thank you for the review. We have a few years before this will be necessary but I’m glad to know this exists.

[@dinape]

I was aware of all the things as a kiddo. I wasn’t a question asker, but I was a great eavesdropper, apparently!! 🤣🤣🤣 I grew up in a house with my mom and 2 older sisters. I NEVER asked questions and any time my mom would try to talk about periods or sex, my reaction was I already know and I don’t want to discuss. My home is very different. My kids are growing up in a family with very modest parents. We are willing to answer questions, and have already discussed birds and bees with my then 8 year old son because I had a surprise pregnancy at that point. My younger (almost 9) girls have asked not one thing. My concern for them is that they won’t have any prep when their bodies start changing. They aren’t even aware of periods yet because we don’t share a bathroom and I am private. I was thinking we would do this unit together for science (though i am dreading it, lol) as a way to prep them for what is coming and open the conversation about puberty, etc. I’m still not sure if this is the right way to go there and if it is still too early since they are not questioning things. My son, now 11, would probably find it interesting. He has no problem with asking questions and learning and isn’t embarrassed whatsoever. So hard to know how to address it and when!

[@nygal80]

Creative Minds Homeschool My almost 9yo is already showing some early signs of puberty. I developed much later, but I feel it’s important to equip her with the information. I plan to do this unit with her and my 11yo son, but separately, because I don’t think I will necessarily cover all of the info in the same depth with each of them!

[@lindaneuhaus1026]

Thank you again. I watched this video a second time before I order the course. Wish I would have found this for my oldest 5 kids but glad it's here for my 2 youngest.

[@heatherrehm9665]

Thank you so much for this review! I really love your approach to this as well! Your insight is super helpful!❤️

[@confidentgrace]

Thanks for this review! I was planning to do this with my 6th and 8th grader this year, with the shift of our homeschool curriculum, I couldn’t get to it. But, it’s on the top of the list for next year. We’ve had many conversations with our kiddos already, but I am looking forward to having a more formal conversation with them about these topics.

[@ucherek1]

This is so helpful. I’m definitely nervous about it, but your review really helped!

[@toxicharm7239]

I'm so glad this is available!

[@ourthriftyhomeschool]

Thank you so much for this video! I have been waiting for you to review this unit, as I've been trying to decide if I should get it for my daughters. This was so helpful! (And I totally agree with your son about this whole subject being a bunch of unwanted truths! Lol 🤣)

[@somberheart84]

I don't think I'd be able to teach this without crying the whole way through.

[@indigoinkboutique8676]

Thank you so much for this wonderful review. I purchased all the items to use with my 13 year old daughter so I could have "the talk". Plus I noticed there were lots of other topics I had not thought of like p*rnography and birth control. The books cover everything so well. Is there something you could recommend to have a conversation about suicide? My daughter has no idea about this topic and I would like to discuss it with her but the "right" way. Thank you

[@irinasheremet1075]

Thank you for the feedback, we will be doing Marine Biology with my two boys very soon!

[@amielawson8344]

We experienced the same reaction with our daughter when we discussed how babies were made.

[@ldv02]

Ty for this video! I’ve been thinking about using this unit

[@pjengland286]

I think about talking about SEX is SO IMPORTANT!!! I personally feel incredibly AWKWARD with delivering sex from a book (as I was taught about sex that way as a kid). I feel so much more comfortable (still can be awkward) talking about to my kids about sex and reproduction and how our bodies are made in a natural, conversational way throughout the years.

[@sharayahsunshine11]

This is me as well.

[@GraceandGrit]

That’s great. To each his own

[@delightfullyfeasting8351]

I agree, and have talked openly about sex with my children since they were preschool age (in appropriate ways, changing as they grow), and have always used anatomically correct terms. It is SO important that sex is a natural, ongoing conversation. BUT I wanted to add that even still, I found the unit extremely helpful. It helped to formalize the science of the topic. It also reminded me to cover things that I hadn't in my natural conversations.

[@pjengland286]

@@delightfullyfeasting8351 That's great! Yes, I'm sure this is a wonderful tool.

[@jennyb.6847]

Thank you!! Very helpful! I am planning on using that, but am not sure when.

[@Rayisbetter12313]

Thank you Ashlee for sharing this. How great you only have to share possibly only two times.....I have four boys that are spaced apart in age and we get to go through it four times!!!! Yikes!!! ;)

[@GraceandGrit]

By the 4th it’ll be a breeze 😅

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

You'll be a pro in no time! Think of it as any other conversation you talk with your children about and it will go well, in fact you'll feel blessed that your child isn't afraid to ask questions that maybe our generation wouldn't dare ask and it really awesome to see their gears turning and embracing the road to become Godly men.

[@karenposselt8275]

Thanks so much for answering the hard questions!

[@sable747]

Oh, so helpful to know how it went! Thank you.

[@ca6362]

Thank you for the recommendation. I will get it soon 👍

[@gracegreenwell2657]

I am looking to use this with my 10 YO daughter for this next school year!

[@amberdzubinski]

This was a wonderful review. My kids are far from the age we'll be addressing this but it's great to know there is a Christian curriculum out there for this topic.

[@GraceandGrit]

Yes, so thankful

[@christinamiranda6109]

Thank you so much for this review!!

[@megangurwell364]

Hey Ashlee. I have a 9 year old daughter and not really wanting to get in to the full detail of all this but definitely want something that covers hygiene and the basics of our bodies..would you happen to have a recommendation for something that cover that? Thanks!

[@AccordingToTawanda]

Hi Ashlee! Am I correct in thinking that The Good and The Beautiful levels coincide with school grade levels? Thanks for sharing your journey!

[@shirleyrobinson235]

Were there any books/resources that you used in the couple of years leading up to this? (That you'd recommend) My son is ready to be taught about some of this, but not ready for most of what you said is included.

[@MeganMarie1]

Thanks for sharing! I won't be doing this with my little ones for awhile, but I went ahead and bought and downloaded the digital copy to have on hand. :) My oldest is only almost 4, but she knows quite a bit already. We have some books geared towards younger kids we have gone through, and we're pretty open about things. It's very matter of fact for her. I appreciate this resource addresses pornography, and it seems to do a great job with it. That's not a topic we'll talk about for quite awhile, but I'm so glad to have this resource to help out.

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Yes, we talked about pornography when my boys were 5 and 7 and started out slow women on the cover of magazines with to much boobs showing is pornography to my kids and as they get older and ask more see more notice more we add to their knowledge. I will even point out women as we are out and about if they aren't covered well enough and say that's not how godly women should dress or her short are too short ect. And now my kids are 11 and 9 and they are quick to let me know if they see bad magazines or they have to inspect my short before I'm allowed to where them.

[@annikmaillet]

I'm thinking of ordering it for our family! Thank you for this review it was very helpful. Can we order this already printed or do we have to print it?

[@caytiedid]

@graceandgrit find the book "good pictures, bad pictures" when you need to talk more about pornography. It is a great resource for kids. :)

[@Ashley-sz6jp]

Thank you for this! It was very helpful.

[@GraceandGrit]

I'm so glad!

[@hannahc1072]

Could you mention the wifi website security you use again? I’ve heard of covenant eyes program before, but I believe it’s set up differently and pricey!

[@GraceandGrit]

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[@FortNite-jz1wj]

Thank you so much for this video! It was so helpful to hear your thoughts on this unit. I have a 10 year old daughter that is heading into puberty and I'm wanting to equip her with what she'll need to know about her changing body. You said you had already talked to your oldest daughter about her body/menstruation prior to this unit study. Did you use any books to help teach her, or just have conversations with her?

[@GraceandGrit]

I did, I have a few linked on my amazon page I used!

[@FortNite-jz1wj]

Thank you! Was it lies girls believe?

[@MichelleL83]

Thank you so much for this review, it's so helpful!! My 2 oldest kids are girls turning 13 and 11 in the fall. I have had conversations with them and gone through girls' body books, but I'd like to cover this unit. Would you still include your husband if you were teaching this to 2 girls rather than your son and daughter? I can imagine quite a bit of awkwardness. I also wonder if his perspective would still be beneficial? Not sure that my husband will be up for it though, lol! With our son (8 now), I've already told him he's in charge there!

[@GraceandGrit]

Yes I would have: I want him to be someone they can go to as well!

[@christinaw2102]

Thank you so much for this video! ❤️

[@pegginspep1239]

Thank you sooooo much! You’re awesome!!!

[@bingjenn]

Thanks for this review! We’re gonna start this one soon. 💗 Question-how many TGATB science units do you think a family could do realistically in one school year? I’m having a hard time figuring it out! Thank you!

[@GraceandGrit]

3/4

[@bingjenn]

Thanks!

[@kita3256]

Thanks for this review.

[@roberthall1303]

Thank you for making this video. I am so torn on when to start. My daughters are 9 and 11 and i feel rushed because i don't want them to learn it from somewhere else. I also don't want them to lose that innocence either. Could someone tell me the stance on masturbation in the book? I am finding it hard to find a christian curriculum that doesn't make masturbation shameful.

[@mommytooliver]

I'm curious too about the masturbation section specifically. I will have an almost 10 year old boy and we are trying to decide if we should do it this year or wait another year. We have a boys body book that goes over some of this info from the boys perspective, mostly hygiene and body changes that we will be going over too.

[@anikaadamson9910]

A sample of the entire unit is available on TGTB website to read. I can't remember how they handled that issue. I haven't actually done the unit with my kids I just read through it.

[@GraceandGrit]

The stance is that it’s normal to feel desires but ultimately we shouldn’t give into our desires.

[@kacierobson7916]

Robert, I agreed with the whole unit, except for that one part. When we discussed it with my son, we just explained what it was and how we felt about it, the science behind it. Not all Christians believe it is a sin. So, like Ashlee said, you can do a little rearranging when necessary when it comes to personal beliefs/comfort. This was the only part of the curriculum we decided to “change”. It’s very well done and thorough.

[@roberthall1303]

@@GraceandGrit Thanks for the reply .:)

[@amberc.2840]

Thank you for the review! I've been holding on to the unit, and I am about to bite the bullet and teach it. Did your husband lead any of the lessons, or did you lead all of them?

[@GraceandGrit]

I lead them. 👍

[@megroux]

Great review,thank you

[@homeschoolmomof2707]

Do you think you will do another book like this next year for a health type class or doing it once is good enough? Thanks for sharing! :-)

[@GraceandGrit]

It’ll be stuff we revisit over the years and they change and grow

[@sharayahsunshine11]

I'd be interested to know how other cultures approach this subject.

[@deborahpretorius4243]

Hi do they offer this book as a download? It's too costly for delivery to South Africa

[@MeganMarie1]

They do! :)

[@GraceandGrit]

They do

[@sarahbewley8518]

Can I ask how you had the cover/content so nicely bound?

[@GraceandGrit]

Office max!

[@KatherineWeasley]

You mentioned the mental and emotional maturities of your older 2. Did you also take into account teaching this unit when your daughter reached menstruation maturity? From what you said, it sounded like she had been taught and experienced a couple of cycles already; so before the formal unit was taught in school. Please understand I intend for my comment to come across with all respect to her privacy in mind! I am just very intrigued about this unit for when my daughter is old enough and am looking for any feedback that is readily available.

[@GraceandGrit]

I don’t feel comfortable answering questions about my daughters cycles, but I’ll say we did this ahead of all of that

[@KatherineWeasley]

Thank you so much for the speedy response! Again, I wish to convey deep respect for her privacy and that is quite difficult in written form. I hope you understand my question was not meant to delve into parts of her life none but her and your family have business in. I only hoped to gain insight into the timeliness of the unit study instruction. Again, thanks so much! Have a wonderful day ❤

[@gabyrios1024]

Thank you for the info but I’m still dreading the talk 😆 I need to mentally prepare lol

[@kyleighhiles9733]

Same. I’ve had the unit for a year now 😳

[@GraceandGrit]

I did too

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Bite size pieces!

[@SarahNicole0617]

Do you think you will have your older kids sit in for the lessons again when you do them with your younger kids?

[@GraceandGrit]

No I anticipate having different discussions with them at that point considering my oldest will be 18 when my youngest is her age

[@SarahNicole0617]

@@GraceandGrit I just started this unit with my 10 year old son last week and I'm thinking I may have him sit in again when my middle child is ready, probably in 2 or 3 years. I didnt realize your oldest and youngest were that far apart. Thanks.

[@GraceandGrit]

OurHomeschoolJourney yes 4.75 years 😊

[@rachaelmilne5574]

Super helpful thank you !

[@valgal3081]

Thank you!

[@arianneherglotz5704]

I remember when I found out the truth of everything and I looked at my Mom like 😳I can’t believe you did that to make me 😂 poor Mom

[@thecuriouschristiangal]

Are my 14 and 15 year olds too old for this? We’ve never done a “course” but they have public school knowledge 🥴

[@kita3256]

Can you actually tell us what you said to them about the pornography.... I’m like you, I think I will leave some stuff out... but I have no idea how to talk to my tween about pornography.... she has no idea... I kinda don’t want to take away her innocence.... but I know I need to warn her... I just don’t know which words to use 😖

[@GraceandGrit]

I can’t repeat it word for word. Sorry!

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Awesome! So glad it went well! The unit sounds great and laid out very well. I'm with you on the skipping parts to prevent curiosity. I know this might be a strange question, but did it touch on homosexuality? If so how did it go about it? I know from a christian view...I don't know how to word this... its just so prevalent and some what pushed in the next generation and it's probably in my opinion the hardest part of all this to talk about, so I'm curious to know how they present it if at all. Sorry if this is to heavy of a question. Its just something my kids are noticing as we go out and about and of course they ask questions. I'm confident in my own opinion and faith on the subject, but sometimes finding the right words are hard. This was a great review thanks so much for sharing!!

[@GraceandGrit]

it did go over this, it talked about how God created man and woman to be together and that anything outside of that is not Gods plan for us. We explained our version of this to them.

[@Belovelyava]

Great question! I tell my children that we can never make fun of them, we should stand up and defend them if they are getting picked on,and that God’s whole truth hasn’t penetrated their hearts yet, so we should show them love and kindness just like we do everyone else. I also say never argue with them about it being right or wrong, because again there are truths that take time to accept.

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

Thanks ladies!