The Hardest Part of Being a COP

[@collectornick4270]

As a volunteer fireman I'd say this is 100% accurate. Within the past few years more first responders died of suicide than line of duty death's. We're so smart at keeping our selves safe on the scene but dropping the ball off scene.

[@RollerPigg]

I concur. People don't realize what first responders see and go through - even the lowliest of volunteer firemen in rural areas. I've seen more stuff in 3 years as a volunteer on the FD in a township of less than 1000 than I ever have in 20 years military.

[@old8235]

Dentists and psychiateists have higher suicide rates.

[@mariathompson8828]

I'm sorry to hear that. Please, let your coworkers know that we love them and that their lives matter. We want them to live....

[@ArizonaAkinTv]

@@old8235 I’ve always felt like dentists had such high rates because it’s just so dull and boring. arguably FD, PF, Vets see more and psychiatrists at least hear about it. Dentists lives are just depressing 😂😂

[@ZillaMesh]

I'd kill myself too if I had to lock up father's & mother's for no victim crimes & leave children to the state too. Or abuse authority by destroying people's lives so the politicians can get richer while I do everything they tell me to do. But I'm smart enough to never put myself in a position to do that to my fellow men. I wouldn't be an SS & I wouldn't ever be a cop. Firemen I have ultimate respect for because you're not violating people & destroying their lives. So thank you for YOUR service.

[@TheWater111]

Been a cop 8 years, seen some stuff I never can unsee, felt emotions I have never felt, cried on my way home from work from seeing murdered children, lost my marriage, never got support from my spouse, Department always looking to screw you over because some criminal complaints about you calling him an idiot even though he shot someone and is now playing the victim of “ police brutality “. Yup the life of an officer is not for the weak or the thin skinned. #holdtheline.

[@RENEIND]

Really what department is this

[@HUNKMrDeath-lt7kq]

@@RENEIND Have you tried to be a Officer in America? Shit. I feel bad for Police Officers. It’s like being a Marine, your job demands that you die if needed to ensure the safety of others. But thing is, shooting another human isn’t easy. Doesn’t matter who you are, Officer, Soldier, even if it’s in self defense it’s not easy to pull the trigger willingly when you aim at another human. But the survival instinct kicks in, you may not enjoy it, but you know it’s either you go back home to your kids in a body bag, or you take out the person shooting at you. It’s even worse for soldiers sure, but as a cop it’s still pretty damn bad. You never know if the person you pulled over is going to just pull out a weapon and kill you, nor do you know what that person did or anything really. It’s always a risk when you pull someone over, and if the person starts running, you have to assume the worse. If they run who knows what they could of done, killed some poor fuck? Got drugs in the back? Who knows they could of been hiding a corpse. But you don’t want to take the chance that the person running is a bad person, because if they do and manage to get away, the next person they kill is because of you. The issue is, media’s poisoned the minds of Black Minorities who aren’t lucky enough to have good families so much, all you hear about is “Police corrupt, Officer shoots black guy who was running!” on the media. They didn’t care why the officer shot, they don’t know what it’s like, they don’t care about anything, all they care about is they’re own agenda, usually removing police, and replacing them with a corrupt force that doesn’t serve and protect, but oppress and enforce. That being said back to my main point why is it so bad? Well, if you let that person just escape and he turns out to be a murder or something, you just let somebody get away with killing a innocent person, infact that guy likely killed someone else after just because you let him flee. And if you shoot him? Media will call you racist and corrupt, bash you and try to make your life hell. Atleast soldiers have the option to get help and shit. But police? Everybody’s going to hate you no matter what you do as long as you wear blue and a badge.

[@HUNKMrDeath-lt7kq]

@@RENEIND That is the sad state of America right now. Your personality doesn’t define you, your profession and skin color does. You can be black, rich, intelligent, and have white friends, and people will claim your stupid, and poor because of those white “Friends” using you. Yet if you try and speak out, they’ll turn on you and slander you. If you wear blue and a badge your automatically evil and corrupt. . . There is literally a vid on KZbin, on IOS sadly so I can’t link it, but it’s of an officer, whose black, that people were trying to talk to when the whole George Floyd deal happen, anytime he tried to respond to questions someone from BLM or ANTIFA would come over and say “Don’t talk to him, he’s a racist pig.” Could you imagine how that feels? To have your right to speak taken away from you just because of your profession, or because you don’t fit a political narrative being pushed?

[@martinn9485]

Thanks for your service! Going to be a cop once I get my degree

[@longiusaescius2537]

@HUNK Mr. Death blacks are the most racially conscious large minority in America so it not really a surprise. I'd say that only black officers should police them but they would probably react the same no matter who the force is

[@nationalforcetrainingacademy]

Great advice! Explaining this to your Family is important. There have been several times where I walked in the house and simply said “bad day”. My Family understands exactly what that means. I usually go to the gym and hit a punching bag until I feel better, then I take the Family out for dinner to thank them for their understanding. One time I had to check myself is when my son was around 6-7 and rolled his eyes and said I tell him to look for cars when the cross the street. I initially yelled at him that he’s never seen what a vehicle does to a human body or had to pull a dead kid his age out from underneath a car. I realized I overreacted, apologized, and told him I only tell him every time because I love him and don’t want him to get hurt. Being a Law Enforcement Family is a team effort.

[@Xray-lx7iw]

City cop here. This man, no joke speaks the TRUTH. That call he responded to is relatable; when you work for a big department, even more so. You're gonna see the strangest aspects about people. Also relatable when he said "...or watch The Office for an hour and half to de compress." lmao

[@charlesjessie1733]

Or work for a large rural county, only 4 officers on duty, and the closest officer is almost 30 minutes away.

[@jackthomas6952]

I work in San Antonio, I hear ya.

[@DavidLLambertmobile]

I do 👮🏼‍♂️ security in a urban area. Since 2000 where I currently live. I had stressful shifts and times where I had to deal with EDPs(disturbed persons) or violent suspects, thugs, felons. I've also had security mgrs or co-workers who were risk adverse, stupid or complaining about nonsense: how you knocked on a door or who you called first, how you signed a report.

[@hectorhector4617]

Hardest part is turning in bad cops

[@Yugophoto]

I think the greatest thing is coming home to someone who understands that sometimes you aren't going to be all there. I work at a huge hospital. 95% of the time I get home completely normal and ready to do regular life stuff. But that last 5 % of the time when I come home and I'm a little broken, my partner will set aside whatever she had planned for us that evening and just order some food or something (i usually cook) and let me be selfish or vent or whatever. It doesn't happen often, but it means the world.

[@papabaer0572]

Yugophoto CONGRATS on that kind of person in your life! Being a former paramedic I believe I kind of get the picture... 😂😂 Hey always remember: IT WAS THE PATIENT WHO STARTED IT! NOT YOUR FAULT!

[@martinkubanek7213]

Absolutely agree in every single point! I've been a cop for 13 years and most difficult part is be able to "slow down" after hard time shift and explain my family,that I need time for my own.

[@mariathompson8828]

And remember to pray.

[@lukepakseresht4020]

​@@mariathompson8828 Amen, and God bless

[@diannerussell9653]

I heard a police officer say to a guy they pulled over once, this guy had taken a drug and he was driving under the influence, he was having a little trouble driving in a straight line, that’s why they stoped him. When they searched he’s car they found more drugs, a shotgun and a suicide note. Apparently he had a relationship with a lady and she had ended the relationship with him and he was very depressed over it. When the police officer spoke to the guy that was going to end he’s life and he told the police officer what he was going through, the officer said something that changed my life a little, I took on a new perspective, the officer said life is meant to be hard. This officer is right on the money when he said this. This is something I really took on board because he is right. If you have this mindset it will prepare you for life’s challenges. A lot of people think in life that life should be great and everything should run smoothly. Life doesn’t operate that way. My sister said something many years ago too, she said if you think the situation or problem is hard and you go in with that mindset then you are making it hard on yourself already, you have convinced yourself that the problem or thing is to hard to handle when really it isn’t. It’s all about understanding and knowing that life isn’t a bed of roses. I like challenges myself I get to prove to myself that I can take this thing on and deal with it. My Dad taught my younger sister and I that life is tough and you have to toughen up to meet life’s challenges otherwise you will give up. If you except that life has its gory side, it’s unpleasant side, it’s disappointing side, and ugly human nature side, it kind of prepares you for life’s curve balls. I am not saying that people should become detached from their emotions. Just have the mindset of a noble warrior, a good warrior, a peaceful warrior yet a warrior that is prepared for anything and everything that pops up in he’s or her life. Challenges keep us thriving and alive, for me they do anyway. 😊 give me a challenge any day. 🇬🇸⭐️

[@Faji9r]

I heard a testimony by a woman that took her life but Jesus brought her back. She said the Lord told her life is suppose to be hard. She mentioned that we have an adversary the devil he is our enemy. In the Bible it says Endure hardness. We are spirits and the Bible is true.

[@danilocubacub9144]

That's how it was when I transitioned from military to civilian. All my ex would say is get over it.

[@tangotango256]

I like the EX part ... looks like you made a good choice .... maybe she got over it too

[@theoatmanite]

Thank you for being in the military God bless you (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*.✧

[@libertiesbreathe5014]

Shes a dumb bitch

[@TNI141]

Fuck your ex. She is an ass

[@VespertilioGiganticus]

@@TNI141 i bet he did

[@alexnava9304]

I love your videos aside from the educational content but outside of videos. Answering private messages offering great advice is what has helped finally get into my department of choice. I have many fears but my biggest fear is not being able to rely on my training when it comes to.

[@tmotv1769]

I’d just finished 9 months of training for auxiliary police. And I have to say your videos have helped me out a lot. And I am glad there is someone like you out here taking the time to make videos.

[@marccooper76]

He seems like a good guy. Great info. Cops are people to. Show your support. The majority of cops I have met are actually good people. I've met a few that were not nice people and very mean, but you find that with any people at any place of work. We have no clue what they have been through so regardless just show respect and let then know we appreciate them.

[@chrism5086]

To me, the hardest thing is the shitty hours and schedule. I'm so sick of nights, weekends and holidays. Dealing with the idiots can be annoying and yes those high stress calls can have an impact but that's not on the top of the list for me. I'd say another top tier problem with the job is that the vast majority of the time and effort you put into it is basically a waste of time. People want you there to solve problems they are having in the moment but don't actually want to do anything to better thier situation. Most will not follow up in court. Especially in domestic related cases. The job can have it's occasional moments of accomplishment and fulfillment but the vast majority of the time it's a waste of time. And yes, the story you told in this video is an example of the usual bullshit you deal with. You get used as a mechanism of retribution from one person on another. It's a joke much of the time. Just one example of thousands.

[@xephael3485]

Do you like the pay from working nights weekends and holidays though? If not, maybe find a position where you're not on those rotations.

[@chrism5086]

@@xephael3485 Small department man. Not many options.

[@xephael3485]

@@chrism5086 Perhaps consider moving to a bigger department? Express your concerns with superiors? Maybe changes can be made to help keep you from getting burned out in the role you're in. If your superiors are not willing to help they probably don't value you much as a team member. Many departments give the worst shifts to the newest and least senior people...even so, maybe others might be willing to fill in or exchange some holidays with you.

[@chrism5086]

@@xephael3485 I can't say your suggestions are bad but no I won't be moving departments. I'm 14 years in and am lucky in the sense that my employer offers a good pension. Basically for every year I work I aquire 2.8% toward to my pension which caps at 70% after 25 years. Once I work 25 years I also qualify for retirement healthcare. Sooo it's both a blessing and a curse. A blessing because it's a great deal. A curse because if you leave early you get cut out of huge portions of what it offers, thus trapping people in a sense. There have been many disgruntled people at my department over the years and part of the reason is they feel trapped. If they leave early they are screwing themselves financially. If I leave early I'll be stuck working for 15 more years, basically to at least cover my healtcare until I qualify for Medicare

[@FCV0511]

You hit the nail on the head. Constantly being tired, crushed by bureaucratic nonsense and paperwork, and having to deal with a steady stream of occurrences that ultimately don't matter, don't go anywhere, or are otherwise completely unnecessary conflicts. It's grating to say the least, and maddening more often than not. Thanks for your service. Thinking about leaving for greener pastures myself.

[@GeorgeEnke]

Unless you have experienced it and lived it, ppl cannot understand the internal stress. It's like being involved in a serious car crash versus seeing the same crash and describing it.

[@georgiohenderson5998]

I wish i could explain how i relieve myself after 12 hour shifts and on my days off, but everyone's situation is different. Just don't take life too seriously, at the end of the game, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.

[@DarkFire515]

100% truth. For anyone going in to law enforcement: Imagine dealing with insane situations & seeing people at their very worst day in, day out. With no room to decompress and little time to de-stress before doing it all over again the next day. Small wonder that cops suffer incredibly high rates of things like PTSD. As a cop you will, guaranteed, see things that are beyond the most horrible nightmares of sane citizens. Taking the time to decompress after every shift, no excuses, is literally the difference between life and death in the long run. Do not be afraid to seek help if you need it.

[@BreckoniousMaximus]

I'll tell you the most difficult thing. Dealing with 99% of the citizenry who know zero, no, less than zero about Law Enforcement procedure, the Law, their rights, and our rights. It simply amazes me the level of ignorance out there. What makes it worse, is you can't change their minds about being ignorant. Everyone thinks they know better than us. Think I'm wrong? Just wait for the replies to this statement.

[@Youidiott]

What about cops who don't know the law though?

[@ZillaMesh]

How many cops are on camera during an encounter & asked to state the 5 elements of the first amendment & actually do it? I've seen zero. You bootlickers & the cops are ACTUALLY the ignorant ones but your training tells you to get stuck on stupid. Saying replying to your comment shows how ignorant citizens are is like me saying if you reply toy comment you're a pedo beta cuck Satan worshipper. See how stupid your statement is?

[@Motivated754]

@@Youidiott those people are apart of the ignorance then obviously

[@Youidiott]

@@Motivated754 funny how many people defend ignorant cops though...

[@Motivated754]

@@Youidiott yeah, and a lot of people defend criminals, literal murders just because a cop was a little rough with them when they deserve the harsh treatment

[@vVHAVICVv]

Great video brother. One of the top topics that no one ever talks about nor wants to talk about and needs to be said.

[@CatharsisByProxy]

Lmao “ Or whatever it is you do to be normal.” 😂 Yes. On another note, though… I’m not an officer myself, I was actually raised by two cops. My mom retired a Sgt from El Paso PD and my pops was a detective for the same agency when he retired. They have always been very confusing people to me, sometimes I question if I really know my parents at all. This was all so simply put but it helped me feel like I genuinely understand certain parts of them in a way I never did when I was growing up💙 I’m grateful for that. Thanks for sharing your insight, I needed to hear this. Much love from a Texas dispatcher to you and all of yours! 🌵🌞 Stay “normal” 🙃

[@arturoprado6698]

Very true. Been on for 5 years now and I totally agree with you. Great info, keep it up. Very important to decompress after work. Really appreciate it, thanks.

[@0fficer47]

Many thanks for this video. I'm starting my second training cycle in 024. It is a tricky thing to work with, going from 0 to 100, 100 back to 0, going home with more work at home to finish. Bike riding and a very understanding wife helps a lot.

[@singingfan]

Be careful and look after yourself 😊

[@ArizonaAkinTv]

I don’t know if anyones ever gained such a large amount of respect from me in 8 minutes. damn. my adrenaline was minorly pumping just from listening to that damn situation. i could imagine it as you described it. salute to you and all other men and women who suffer quietly to serve the public. God bless you all. i aspire to join you one day.

[@GaldoranGailthros]

Thank you. I am getting into the academy. And this is one of the things I am concerned with. Still won't deter me. But I appreciate the info you have given.

[@singingfan]

Gaston Gosselin just be safe and look after yourself 😊

[@GaldoranGailthros]

@@singingfan I've wanted to be a cop since I was 6. Knew it was gonna be my career for a while

[@Bryan-xu9qn]

Pierre Williston you really have enough time to comment on all these man your sad get a life bum learn how to fucken type too 😂😂

[@UKPIChannel]

I'm not a cop and not from the US (KZbin name kinda gives it away) but that is some kickass advice, well done. Great vid.

[@tangotango256]

we feel badly you all in the UK have weathered the storm of b/s the so called leaders of your nation have placed you in harms way ...just a shame

[@tangotango256]

Prayin for you guys ... i always try to give an officer a relaxed low keyed encounter to keep it light honest and respectful ... it's a rough job ....RESPECT !

[@oldcop18]

Don’t go home and get into the booze in an effort to decompress, I saw my share of this during my 30 years and it never ends well.

[@franks4679]

I work with the guy on this video and he is 100% correct. Tom this is one of the truest things about the stress of the job and the difficulty of the going up and down. And that it seems the older we get the harder it is to get yourself up to 100 and then come back down to zero when you go home only to get yourself back up to 100, 5 hours later or 8 hours when your right back on the street. Great job!!!

[@claudiomalcherfilho4356]

As a cop i agree with you, pretende to be normal is very hard.

[@claudiomalcherfilho4356]

@Pierre Williston Do you know me?

[@emmavandermaas1545]

The first video I've watched in a long time that doesn't have a long winded intro. To the point, clear and with an empathetic attitude. AMAZING! Thank you! :)

[@untitle161]

I support law enforcements.

[@thebigredbrick]

I'm a new paramedic, and I totally agree. We in healthcare also have the additional stress of every time we even try to tell our friends and family what we did today, as soon as we mentioned blood or needles, they get all grossed out and don't want to listen any more. Most of the people I know have know idea what I'm actually capable of doing. It can get pretty lonely at times.

[@thesouthernpatriot24]

Tommy, I must say thank you man this is one of your best videos yet buddy. Thank you for what you do. Every body can go “0 to 100” real quick buts it’s hard going from 100 back down to 0 sometimes. I work in road construction (by no means am I comparing the two) and sometimes it gets a little “hectic” working within inches of the traveling public while they’re acting like they’re in a NASCAR race and it definitely takes some decompressing before being able to deal with home stuff. Like I said I’m not comparing the two just wanted to say thank you for making the videos man.

[@officer_20ramos29]

Thank you for the great advice stay safe out there brother

[@carlosmichael5183]

Switching gears. It takes 24 hours for your body to return to chemical equilibrium after your sympathetic nervous system has been activated. Cops are not afforded the luxury of 24 hours after a stressful situation. Depending on where you work, it may be an entire shift of stressful situations. Some cops think, “why can’t I be normal after work?” Newsflash: you are normal. You experienced true stress, and to be keyed up in your personal life is to be expected AND ENTIRELY NORMAL . Those who say “well... it’s over now so you can relax” say that because they have no idea what they are talking about. Communicating the level of stress you experience with loved ones is the first step being able to return to chemical equilibrium after enduring a fight/flight/freeze/posture/submit scenario.

[@antoniohernandez7481]

love you and your videos keep up the good work

[@BettingOnTheOzarks]

Tommy is absolutely right. My decompression is family guy for a while. Stay safe.

[@saw6323]

Absolutely true! Going from 0-100 on a shit show of a call then back 0 so quickly after work isn't easy. Finding a healthy decompression process is key.

[@MrSeattleguy3098]

To all of you folks out there I really appreciate your service it's a crappy situation you're thrust into your ask to be law enforcement psychologist family Court everything rolled into one God bless you

[@skyDN1974]

Thank you for your dedicated service!

[@MikeMiasuki-vy3xx]

Great videos. Watch out for defense attorneys. 20 years on the job and retired due to health issue. I would not have retired if I could have gotten the operation but had to wait. I love this video. You are so correct. Thank you. Could you do one (if possible) on beat partners who help you get through the shift and how they watch each others backs. Also how one can decompress with the help of a partner.

[@235marine]

You just nailed it. It's hard in public safety all together with high stress. I tell everyone the same thing.

[@abraynor84]

I wanted to add I am a disabled combat veteran. I was in the Marine Corps Infantry from 2003 until 2007. I drive a tractor trailer now. The motoring public doesn't shock me anymore. I have had many close calls when it came to people in their cars, and other truck drivers. I have had cars brake check me also. There may come a time when I won't be able to stop that's why I pay so close attention to what others are doing. Basically keeping your head on a swivel. I even had a Cook County Sheriff's Police squad car cut me off. Luckily I seen him coming from the left from my left corner of my eye. I slowed down before he came in hot. He also had oncoming traffic coming also. He didn't have his cherries and berries on.

[@daddybeagleaz907]

Thanks Tommy. Also, there is a new organization called The Wounded Blue which is formally launching this week. It's founder and CEO is Lt. Randy Sutton (LVMPD Ret 'd) and they are all about reaching out and helping injured officers and their families with resources and assistance all across the country. This specifically includes PTSI, and believe me, Randy knows what he's doing, and is also looking for volunteers across the country.

[@WilliamAndRose1]

Thank you for your service, both as a police officer and the videos you do here on KZbin. I have a friend who's in the sheriff's office and he has a commute that's almost an hour long each direction. I never understood why he was okay with such a long commute, but he has talked about how it gives him time to decompress on the way home. I understand that a lot more now that I've seen this video.

[@bebop_557]

Warrior's Heart is another great one that I support regularly. Tom Spooner is doing the good work.

[@KellySmith4145]

Probably the best video I've seen dealing with this subject.

[@singingfan]

This is true for first responders (which includes cops). My sister has worked as a firefighter EMT and she’s seen some narley shit. At one point she even saved a little kid who had drowned in the backyard pool. He lived! But it’s something she went through. More emotional support is needed for sure. Stigma still exists around getting mental health support, which I’m guessing testosterone filled workers tend to not get help even more commonly. No shame in getting help. People aren’t made of stone. The brain isn’t manufactured that way.

[@daddybeagleaz907]

Truth.

[@v1nnylee925]

Really appreciate your time and making this video. Thank you

[@diannerussell9653]

Alcohol is the worst thing you can reach for if you are stressed or something has really upset you. It’s good to talk to someone and get it out or like you said have some wonderful alone time. I used to walk it out on the nature track. I live near ocean baths so I would swim it out or run on the sand. But for people who have stressful jobs and are married with kids it’s a lot different. You have come from one battleground into another.

[@flyingpotato0282]

Seeking therapy should be absolutely normalized for police. Thank you for your service and I am so sorry for the burden you carry. A few officers really changed my life for the better through simply doing there jobs. Thank you.

[@marktravels9601]

This makes the most sense of any video I ‘ve seen about law enforcement.

[@raymondtorres6883]

Thank you ♥️🙏

[@Freethought2.0]

"I'll be pulling for you."?

[@briangroce1366]

Thx for the video, in my first year of law enforcement and this is definitely the biggest issue for me, that adjustment when off duty.

[@DavidLLambertmobile]

Author, sworn LE, match shooter Massad Ayoob spoke about first responders, stress, risk mgmt. He said to develop hobbies or interests outside of work. Have friends or close support systems not in LE to vary your personal life, emotional fitness, well being. Stay active & exercise too.

[@forsakenmagic]

Some advice: 1. Change and if possible shower at work, to create that physical and emotional separation to leave work at work. 2. Have hobbies that have nothing to do with work. 3. Do your best to not change who you are. Be who you've always been, especially for your family and friends. 4. Maintain and build friendships outside of work.

[@lateshiftsailor]

Thank you Sir and much love to you and your loved ones Sir ❤️

[@SsavageCamaro]

Thanks for the insight. I appreciate it as someone going to the academy soon

[@abraynor84]

I here you man. I hate when I come home and get ambushed with everything. That's why I say no. You can say good luck, but it amazes me when I get home and the wife waits to bring everything up. I put up the stop sign hand signal, and sit on the couch. I will say hold on to that for 20 minutes. The reason you feel that way is you don't take the time, and think. Your mind is red lined. Now I am not a law enforcement officer. I do a job that's very stressful and very dangerous. Now a great comparison is there's a dock on the street, and the street is heavily trafficked. The only way to get in the dock is blind side back a 53' trailer with your tractor unit. You're straight while the hazards are on just waiting for the proper time to set up your back. You're looking forward and backwards. You see a good break in traffic. You set up a 45 degree back on a 4 lane road. Cars are coming and you signal your back with the air horn. Just as you start moving. A minivan starts to drive behind your trailer that you can't see. You stop to avoid running into a vehicle with a family. You look through your mirrors to catch a glimpse of the van driving away. You now continue to back up, and now a car is thinking about pulling the same manuever. You make sure you continue to stop them in their tracks. You make sure you don't back to far back because in case you have to adjust it. You finish your back. Some other guy gives you the finger for doing your job.

[@thetruthsirmadame3247]

Could not have said it better. Stay safe!

[@greylynddavis914]

Why the hell would you dislike this video?

[@Armbarandchill]

Im planning on becmoing an officer sometime next year hopefully. Thanks for the advice.

[@bogreen1872]

Hey I appreciate this video! Good insight! Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences.

[@teresamcmahon9505]

Thank you so much for your service and protection. Your honest share. is great! I am CFRC and appreciate you

[@seanconlin8712]

Thanks for the advice Tommy. It is greatly appreciated

[@fredellarby]

Good video. Another point, too many cops want to keep their significant other "protected" from the job. If they don't know what is happening to you at work, they can't help you and will wonder if they are the cause of your anger/upset. They are your real life partner. Let them in.

[@fordtwofifty2759]

Good words. Great examples. Appreciate the share.

[@tinaodea763]

It’s so sad to listen to this & reading the comments, not only do all you men & women put your life on the line every time you go out the door , you don’t know if you’ll get through the day unscathed mentally,or physically. All you emergency service guys deserve so much more respect . Personally I wouldn’t & couldn’t do what you all do everyday. But the worst part of it all yous don’t get enough credit ,you guys are saints & heroes & without yous we’d all be well & truly in the shit . I just want to say thank you each & everyone of yous god bless & keep you safe. 👮🏻‍♂️🙏🏻

[@Nate16934]

Holy shit bro...you just explained my 20 year career and counting in one KZbin post....

[@jess8532]

Sounds like your problem is you work dayshift. I get home at 3:30am and get to relax lol. Good video, thanks!

[@JLoveCNA18]

Jess working day shift is not the problem

[@tangotango256]

@@JLoveCNA18 Give yourself that extra hour if you end shift at three you tell them 4:00 to unwind some regardless of the situation ... it's best for all involved

[@FLippssalot]

Thank you, very helpful.

[@Daniel-ni4fz]

Preach it Tommy. That's one of the reasons I like working Evenings. Everyone is asleep when punch out so I can decompress, then get some sleep, and not deal with normal people stuff until the next day.

[@jajuja]

Please read Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement: A Guide for Officers and Their Families by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin. A very easy read and he teaches a great class to go along with the book. Total game changer. Thanks for the videos.

[@Robbie7441]

Respect to you officer 👍

[@sabbywort8484]

Thank you man!!!

[@BirdDogey1]

Bad management is one of the greatest stressors. My department was big on very detailed long reports for the most mundane of crimes. This made it very difficult to keep up on the paperwork. I might get 12 reports in a row then get stuck with an injury accident. Work your rear end off and then have to deal with a complaint from report number 8 victim who calls in to complain they didn't think you demonstrated the requisite amount of empathy they thought they deserved. Or get a rewrite because a burrito is mentioned in the report and you didn't indicate what type of burrito it was. Seriously. I've even had a supervisor write me up for doing what they told me to do when a complaint got filed. Point out you did what they told you to do and then buy another write up for insubordination. Almost forget, I got written up once for insubordinate thoughts. Thoughts! You just try to keep your head down until rotation so you get another supervisor.

[@DARKWOLFIV]

I didn't read all of the comments, so it might have been mentioned already. One awesome book that is by far the best source of information for anyone who goes into harm's way and runs towards the sound of the gun is "On Combat" by Col Dave Grossman. And best of all, it is available on the Audible app for all those Jarheads, like me, out there. Or for those who don't have time to read but do have time to listen in the car on the way to and from work, during your workout, making breakfast, or sitting in the hall waiting for your turn in court.

[@jerryolpenda5450]

Ob the tie.dickhead author that wants every police to have a warrior.mentality yeah nice suggestion

[@afterzanzibar]

Do you mean the book "On Killing?"

[@სოსოსულიკაშვილი]

Really appreciate your videos. keep it up.

[@perrytheplumberplatypus8976]

I want to worl for my local county Sheriff's office, as a K9 officer. During your story, I remembered a scene I once saw in a movie, and I thought 'I wish I could be strong enough to do that job, it'll toughen me up fast,' then I thought 'The dog, what if someone kills the dog?' I, personally, have two dogs, and if I even think of something bad happening to them, I tear up

[@tonysmith7874]

The issue for a long time in law Enforcement has been officers not having a healthy release from the every day nonsense. I strongly recommend Muay Thai Kickboxing, BJJ and Judo. Also doing things that have nothing to do with law enforcement on your off time and hanging out with people who are not affiliated with Law Enforcement at all helps tremendously. I have seen more careers lost and get FUBAR from hitting the bottle when off duty. It does nothing but that has been the overall go to for stress relief for officers since the beginning of the profession. My grandfather was an officer for 33 years and worked part time security in housing projects. The poster child for a knuckle dragging, hard ass old school beat cop who would take you behind a dumpster and punch you in the mouth with a cigarette hanging out of his lip. Tough as nails but became a very jaded person inside and out.

[@Bertiesghost]

Decompression is vital after running on adrenaline all day. You need to let body&mind slow down and tell it your safe and in no danger.

[@jeffdoak8444]

Working in the hospital Iwould some days come home and work on my motorcycle. That engine has been rebuilt more times than I can count at this point

[@lastspud7030]

London Cop so firearms calls are few and far between. being unarmed has plenty of other stressors, but even after 20+ years I find, calming down after a tough day and the expectations of family and "civilian" friends that you can just leave work in the office... is dificult. Decompression is so important. For me the hard part is the isolation. only other cops understand what you go through and I don't nessaseraly want to socisalise with other cops. Having a support mechanism is so important.. I have lost 5 friends to suicide and almost went that way myself. Finding some to talk to or spending time doing something that you live doing helps.

[@TheDukeofDoog]

Hey on the topic of stress; would you be able to do a video on police Chaplins and what there role is on the force?

[@jesuschrististruth3731]

Thanks for being real.

[@Floof_Factory]

If other people don't understand you go from high stress to low stress, let them know, stand up for yourself. And if they don't help you or understand you consistently, cut them out of your life

[@alexmalm6406]

I have a family member who is retired federal agent. 0-60 back to 0. He told me about this.

[@CriminalJusticeExpert]

Yeah all true I can relate working in a sheriff's department jail as jail deputy. Went to the police academy waited two years of promise to get road patrol left to become a PO, left PO and now certification expired for both jail and patrol. Sucks so having trouble getting back into law enforcement. Damn I miss it and now don't know what to do. So if u read that's my stress, some won't understand but at least I wish I had that much.

[@chitownrider9247]

Any tips for state exam, I’m in academy now. What laws or procedures you believe are best to know in academy plus outside

[@garretthigham]

How do you figure out what works to decompress ive been going to the bottle for years and have no clue how to figure out if anything else works

[@bencunningham6298]

Matter of trial and error but it all comes down to knowing yourself. What do you do for fun? Whats your hobby? Some guys exercise, some fish and others play sports. When I was still in the fire service I had to switch it up because it would stop working or rather I'd let my outlet cause me stress. I played hockey as my outlet but I overdid it. I played for too many teams all at once and it became a burden rather than my outlet. Finding a balance is key and sometimes you have to change up what your outlet is. I'll say this, surround yourself with those who are outside of your career.

[@Floof_Factory]

Maybe they should do the thing like airport flight control does. Work a few hours a day, get paid a shit ton and take the rest of the day to calm yourself and get collected

[@didafm]

To be fair most people with good paying jobs go home stressed

[@MikeNapoli1989]

Yes

[@Sunny91169]

Thank you

[@victorunbea8451]

What was that saying with 'heat' and 'kitchen'?

[@jessehardin5094]

Been watching you a while and this is the best video I've seen so far. God Bless from GA and stay safe.

[@prankmonkey650]

What video is the thumb nail from?

[@chrissampson4607]

Just started the cop gig a few weeks ago. Second day in the car we responded to a suicide. Gunshot to the head. I’ve never seen anything like that. Really messes with you.

[@mudbutton2]

Basically, you will get stress and anxiety all the time. And if you don't, you're not normal.

[@aaron2001911]

Supportive family could make a cop’s job and life so much easier, stress wise.

[@jeffgiordano2989]

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[@singingfan]

Jeff G go Sox!

[@cokedupcat]

Now hear me out, I've tried weed many times before in the past. That is exactly the reason I used it, to decompress and chill out. Especially during tough times, it helped me transition my mood work to home and vice versa. I probably wouldn't be alive without it. I have never been a police officer and I would like to be a sheriff deputy, I know they're not allowed to use weed and imo, that sucks for them. I feel like they're missing out on something that could help them with the constant stress, you can get addicted just like you can to alcohol or cigarettes but if you see it as a tool and don't make it a constant in your life you won't get addicted. I know everyone will think this comment is dumb and that I'm stupid but I sympathize with your situation. I can't say I know exactly what that feels like but I know for a fact, weed, especially at low to medium doses can get you to chill out without being too high that you don't feel like doing anything else.

[@josephgonzales4802]

Yes, you are absolutely right. I am coming up on thirty years on the job. I for one get away by involving myself in my hobby. I am a Civil War reenactor.