becoming social is easy, actually

[@easyactually]

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[@Swishy7734]

yuhhh

[@Waterisyummy1]

Wsp bro

[@MalookiSalad]

cool.

[@krishnaghosh2043]

The sup community will overthrow you And i will make sure of it

[@bgstm870]

thanks lot bro :0 :) .....i hope meet u one day

[@sedlife4662]

I think bro read the tutorial of life

[@ashishawasthi9796]

fr man

[@realglutenfree]

Thats why you shouldnt skip the tutorial

[@suikinng4232]

He understands life because getting smart is easy, actually

[@saycap]

wait they give you manuals? Can I pick one up somewhere

[@realglutenfree]

@@saycap Too late, you can only do that at the beginning of the game. Might have to try that next run

[@jlf6235]

the gist of all the apps in the beginning was dangerously accurate

[@suvid9490]

Thats how you know he went under cover

[@jlf6235]

@@suvid9490 haha

[@HeeHeeHawHaw-ts8mt]

Thats why I really only use YT and occasionally Reddit; the rest of the social media apps aren’t going to benefit you in any way

[@atomicaxiom7573]

“Discord messages are from people you don’t wanna know” couldn’t be more accurate

[@kiranthomlinson3056]

@@HeeHeeHawHaw-ts8mt i do the same, but dont be tricked, youtube can be just as bad if it isnt in moderation

[@golaxy110]

Video Suggestion: Quitting addictions (social media) Sleeping is easy (Fixing broken sleep schedules improved sleep) Building confidence (would help a lot of ppl)

[@ferlamer4240]

don't out urself like that

[@whenindoubtgotowikipedia.8292]

Bump

[@airconn--]

we're so chronically online 😭😭

[@nohemicamberos9620]

The only thing that made me quit the social media addiction was uninstalling them one by one. First one was facebook years ago, didn't miss it, second one was tiktok, it gave me fomo but ended up not missing it either. Current one is instagram, it's being harder since I'm losing a tiny part of the lives of people I actually care, plus losing some messages from them (I still access on chrome, tho). After some time now I can't stand the influencers I was following, and ig seems boring after few minutes since it's almost impossible to keep doomscrolling when I'm just trying to reply messages. Hope this helps!

[@adisca2k]

+1 for the sleeping one

[@codyy77]

theres a book that really helped me out with anxiety its called escape the comfort cage, and i recommend it to anyone with social anxiety

[@jimmyy677]

thanks, gonna check it out

[@sakakaka4064]

bot

[@codyy77]

@@sakakaka4064 bro knows everything

[@rostxslav]

bot 🤡

[@codyy77]

@@rostxslav bot with more knowledge than u

[@vineballoon]

Holy shit the wall of text about the pressure washing actually gave me a great explanation to why my pressure washer stopped working out of storage, thanks!

[@eob25]

😂😂😂

[@poopoo1533]

no way😂 that's perfect

[@simelisiphomncube3434]

"so what is it like to be red" 💀

[@Rhejdns]

"so what is it like to be yellow" 💀💀

[@jodzict]

he’s colorblind :(

[@Alosuh28]

Imagine asking about this irl "Omg a black person whats it like to be black "

[@dylanbretzjr.8747]

"sure is nice not being blue, right? haha"

[@TheElectreKid]

Like friendship comrade, WE all get our dues equally xD.

[@wackjallace]

I was gonna comment requesting "Drawing is Easy, Actually" but then I realized the art style of this channel and think I'll search elsewhere

[@akapacool]

well he is drawing, and i don't think it brings him any trouble, its serves its purpose, THIS IS A painter!!!

[@pandawithguns]

thats a violation!

[@n.lasagna]

he is drawing. so it's easy, actually

[@christinmoon823]

a doodler as I like to call it, his drawing are very charming and it brings me great joy. :D

[@alinbot5836]

Some people put much less effort in their drawing when it s made just for the sake of the video, but they can make impressive works when they are taking their time to draw something. Maybe after he learn how to draw, he may make a video like that. :)

[@Picobits]

great tips, i find the hardest part of "making" friends is not talking to them initially but keeping it going, this video is useful for that

[@-TonyaKim-]

Yeah same for me bud. It's like I can get along with people easily if it's for a short time but then it becomes difficult to keep up

[@Akshat_Sinha_]

​​@@-TonyaKim-Yeah and then it feels like you can make friends but can't keep friends lol

[@youarepretty5299]

​@Akshat_Sinha_ literally you said it perfectly! I feel like it's a bad thing to be honest and I just kind of hate talking at this point and gets annoyed with myself and the ppl for not talking to me even tho I'm the one who isn't keep on going with convo

[@killerwithoutcanary]

im also struggling with making friends, but its natural to not talk to the same people irl every single day or even via text, especially if you are relatively new friends, people are busy and most of the time if they don't mind talking to you they won't mind you talking to them a week or 2 later without any in between, it's almost never too late and sometimes what you need most is to excuse your lack of speaking to yourself so that you can send them a message and eventually when things or interests you have in common come closer you might be able to strategize meeting up more and getting to know them better to have more to talk about.

[@nakar882]

Here something that helped me when you feel the conversation is becoming boring and dry try to end it smoothly at first when talking to new people its difficult to have long conversations but as you get to know them better it comes naturally so in the meantime just have small fun conversations

[@Mudsson]

This guy is secretly an immortal who has done literally everything.

[@sashanknrl]

being immortal is easy, actually

[@crix_h3eadshotgg992]

@@sashanknrlI need that video ASAP

[@wincentywilk7511]

​@@crix_h3eadshotgg992 You boutta die?

[@meditationwithtyler]

@@crix_h3eadshotgg992really? Note to self…

[@askredditstudios8055]

Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

[@rookiemonster646]

✨ finding a purpose in life is easy, actually ✨ beating depression is easy, actually ✨ losing weight is easy, actually ✨ avoiding emotional eating is easy, actually thankyou very much

[@inedholp1565]

last 2(debatably 3 depending on which is the main topic) could be grouped into one

[@inedholp1565]

i checked his channel again and completley forgot that losing weight was already a topic he covered

[@peace8311]

would looooove to see him do the first 2

[@Haeyvl]

i need this guy to be my financial advisor next

[@JarmaraL]

I can't say I had to lose too much weight, but I gained a ton of muscle recently. My advice would be to just start, pick any exercise and do it. Also when I went on a cut, eating less was WAYYY easier compared to working out more and also more effective.

[@skeptale]

I've never heard the term "filler friend" but now that you used it I'm having a mini existential crisis wondering if I've been the filler friend in all of my circles

[@zxorizonn_3111]

i have no idea where ur pfp is from but it made me giggle

[@carlosmspk]

I've had a conversation with my group of friends about this and came to the conclusion that all of us save for one have felt this way at one point or another. Just my personal experience, but maybe it's not at all an uncommon feeling

[@jemainmalzahar7577]

I think a way to know is asking yourself if your friends come talking to you without starting the conversation yourself and then see if there is another person your friend could talk to and if there isn't, everytime they talk to you, that mean you are, cause they are talking to you only if there is no one else around and if there is someone else, that mean they really want to talk to you because they enjoy you

[@fuchsia02]

I'm the filler friend in most of my circles, but it helps if you have one or two people you're close with. They don't even have to be a part of your main friend group.

[@leahdavis9434]

Basically the filler friend is the one no one is really close to, but everyone assumes they were invited by someone else in the group, or the one most of the group only talks to because they're close to someone in the group. Fastest way to find out if it's you is to see if you can have actual conversations without being in a group (in school you'll notice you don't speak over breaks, or that you don't actually have a way to contact anyone but the one you're close to), or if the whole friend group disappears should you ever fall out of touch with the one who invited you

[@ChSasifras]

I'm really glad other people have summarized How to Win Friends and Influence People; I couldn't get through it because it started to make me feel like a sleezy car salesman. Also, it is very American to respond to "how are you/how's it going" more like a greeting than an actual wellness check. About a dozen years ago, a foreign exchange student pointed this out. He stopped and expected a conversation from the other person but they always kept walking by.

[@SodaDjinn]

The book is... problematic to say the least and not a good source anyway. Not only because It's fallen out of time, it was always a little dodgy. And I guess you could question the whole video because it sourced it to some extend. Life isn't that easy, actually.

[@widget5963]

I started actually responding with how I'm doing and why and most people get a bit weirded out (while still understanding that it's their fault since they literally asked me that) but sometimes it leads to fairly normal/interesting conversations. I think it ties in with the rest of the suggestions in the video.

[@EvanH2000]

You've been killing it since you started the channel, dude. Like idk how you do it. Every single video is well-researched, a script with just enough humour, and what are basically technical drawings that do just enough to get your point across. It's like a singularity of just the right amount of effort in every discipline

[@fwoop4848]

Yeah, exactly! And because they’re so well thought out and researched, they’re actually useful and practical. I keep referring back to his language learning one cuz I’m trying to relearn my native language and it’s been really helpful, and I have a feeling I’ll keep coming back to this video too.

[@manphan6689]

Because making these videos is easy, actually.

[@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999]

Its not really about research

[@jusatesst]

​@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999 1. Research is 100% part of it. 2. If thats what youu think, then mention what its about in your eyes

[@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999]

@@jusatesst he doesnt cite any sources or books for further reading or to support his claims. He doesnt do interviews, surveys or tests to support his theory. he presents everything as common sense street smarts that he's gained through experience, and indeed thats how most life advice is acquired. You think you can learn to socialize with people by reading up about it, by doing "research"? No, you learn to socialize by socializing.

[@lizardparty2000]

So instead of saying "probably nothing" I should say "trying to find more legal ways to harvest bones for my mantle"?

[@Mazurecki56]

that'd work on me and my girlfriend, we have a collection of (legally obtained) animal bones and skulls

[@lizardparty2000]

@@Mazurecki56 sweet ill try this the next time I talk to a stranger

[@Prod.Dizzy0nz]

Would work for me, and no I don't have a collection of bones

[@lizardparty2000]

@@Prod.Dizzy0nz excellent excellent

[@Skadongle]

Genuinely yes

[@KJelly50]

i tried this and now i have a restraining order :(

[@saraky7743]

bro you are fast

[@Markm8]

I tryed it to and now i’am pregnant

[@dizzyprotos262]

Tried, now have a Rizzstraing order.

[@Aluminiaum]

You weren't supposed to use the discord ss as your method of socialization

[@gadeamolina233]

It just been an hour since the video dropped 😭😭😭 IS an speedrun of being weird ?

[@Akaki1999]

I find it hard to maintain relationships. I just tend to disappear from society whenever I get my "ghosting phases" which can last for months, I just simply don't answer anyone on phone or in social media, there's some barrier stopping me lol

[@maslinolovcherik8387]

Brother 😭 Ooooh brother i feel you on that so much I tried to find how to change "ghost phases" but all people said is "You have Anxious-avoidant attachment, be better bebebe" You are bot alone at this, we are just built different And maybe need a therapist or a good friends that can listen about our problem

[@HumeAnn]

Omh I felt that I literally have no energy to text sometimes and it can last for a really long time. Damn.

[@dreamylittleowl727]

Oof I felt that. Still trying to figure that out

[@Levy-p3y]

And after that phase when almost everybody leaves I am Lonely again

[@Akaki1999]

​@@Levy-p3y Yup, people simply think you don't "like them," you have some problem with them, or something like that... I understand how people could take it personally, but yeah it's not personal at all...

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Absolutely agree! Navigating social situations can be tricky, especially when humor is involved. I once bombed a joke in front of a new group, and it felt like I’d hit a wall. It took me a while to realize that laughter often comes from shared moments rather than perfect punchlines. I joined the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x, which helped me appreciate that humor thrives on authenticity, not just cleverness. So keep throwing those jokes out there; it’s all part of building connections and having fun along the way!

[@TehSuperHero]

"Don't constantly expect favors from people if you never do anything nice for anyone. Cause that's not friendship. That's networking" omg I am dying

[@asta3749]

Me reading: #1 Filter out boring people Me looking at my hobbies: Meditating in silence, reading books alone, looking at boring charts all day long Looking at my social skills: zero friends and finding fun things boring Also me: That's not fair

[@millerrepin4452]

(pulls out gun) never has been

[@King_Ameno]

He said that more in the sense that in a group, you should try to look for people that have hobbies or talk about something that interests you. If you find a book lover, you can ask what are his favourite books and stuff like that

[@sweetgirl070707]

I'm also very boring, and I have boring friends with office jobs and kids. Non-boring people are exhausting in the long run. I need people for love and support. If I want to be entertained I'll just watch youtube or something.

[@jujuoof174]

These don’t sound boring! These sound like you’d find chill people like you!

[@janaeporter3513]

maybe join a book club! you only have to meet up with them every now and again and the thing you do together pertains to your interests.... or start a book club and put a bulletin advertising for it in your local church, library, ice cream shop, or grocery store, and then you can get a bunch of random people to also geek out about your favorite books!

[@hiniewinie]

A couple days ago i faced my social fears and talked to thia old lady with really long nails! I told her that they looked like built knives that she can defend herself with if someone dares mess with her. We arent bffs but it felt good following the desire to speak with her.

[@mumtazansari9275]

u actually said that so casually like u 🤣made my day bro what ur ig ? tell me

[@AVERAGECROWD]

The best way I have seen being used is to be authentic. People tend to open up when they know you're acting yourself, and that makes them be themselves too

[@SillyRobot]

Remember that generic advice he mentioned at the start? You’ve done it, pal 😭

[@H-zl8jq]

I agree. What are you doing? What do you want? What you looking for? What you can offer? These are questions always in my head when look at people. But. Some people can sense your intention lurking underneath. So it should be natural. If you pretend to be someone else or fake like something just to get someone to like you, well it's obvious to them. They will walk away. So, only talks to someone when you got the same interest, hobby, or job. Something that connects with both sides. Not because you keep googling about them. It's not good for long run.

[@JackLeaks2]

method 5: be the main character method 6: be a side character sounds easy enough

[@carlosmspk]

method 7: be transparent Bro expects me to be a main character, side character, and background character all at the same time PS: I know that's not what he meant with "transparent"

[@thothii6783]

Bruh he said you must choose only one ​@@carlosmspk

[@frog7863]

OKAY I WONT TELL ANYONE THAT THIS VIDEO IS SPONSORED BY INCOGNI

[@SS801.]

hehe

[@Ayelaeonao]

THIS VIDEO WAS SPONSORED BY INCOGNI?!? NO WAY!1!!!!1

[@francheeze]

rule #1 of incogni: you never talk about invogni

[@Ailaughatmyownjokespewh]

omg hewoo frogiee

[@frog7863]

@@Ailaughatmyownjokespewh good to see u alive :3

[@Chapter0724]

A little summary 💞✨ 1. Be your unfiltered self to exclude boring people 2. talk to ppl about your interests (explain so they can understand) 3. Don’t think your thoughts over to much 4. Don’t force to speak with people who don’t care about you 5. Be the main character (simple questions) 6. Be side character (ask ppl about them) 7. Questions out of your comfort zone (transparent) 8. Ask if anything is bothering them recently and not “How are you?” 9. Do a group chat 10. Do them a favor 11. Ask THEM for a favor 12. Ask a question that everybody could answer (pick up line) -> leads into a conversation 13. When you overwhelmed to talk with everyone in a big group only talk to the one for an example at your side who doesn’t talk so much 14. Act like you are already friends 15. Do something with them they always wanted to do, suggest a meeting 16. Write a SMS

[@meowchinegunkitties]

Attention span too short lol thanks for the highlights :)

[@nickbecerra9580]

Thank you!

[@sandrafrancis3631]

Thanks for the favour!👍🙏

[@althea-io]

This is actually really good advice! Normally, I just make small talk and ask pointless questions with little to no interest to keep the convo going. I'm going to a new school tomorrow, and I'm basically hyping myself up to making more friends and overcoming my anxiety :3 I'll make sure to try these tips out ✨

[@planetnymph8430]

im also starting a new school!! it’s so scary since you don’t know what sort of people you’ll meet or if you’ll even have the courage to initiate a conversation with them, but those r just things to overcome I guess. hope ur first day of school went awesome :)

[@1_TRU3-AM3R1CAN]

How are you doing? I’ve been struggling for the past year or so with a lot of the same issues

[@chalkandrubble5702]

Good luck with it!!!

[@stuffthatsall]

For English we had an assignment about our “Harmless Vice” basically something that we do often of that kinda is an addiction, one guy sitting next to me said Elden ring, and I told him I just killed the godslay duo, and the moment when I blinked after telling him this, he was already across the room and talking to someone else… did I do good chat?

[@moinmaster64]

hell yeah you did good!! f that godskin duo!!! (godskin duo is actually my favourite fight lol)

[@alsjke786yOwilgq]

0:34 "Be patient" *Shows person in a hospital bed* yep, about right

[@EtheRenard]

The AI result lmao

[@A-V01D]

0:25

[@ProfessorWoland_]

Are you alive

[@askredditstudios8055]

Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

[@biasedknowledge]

The ‘act like you're already friends’ tip is so powerful! It's amazing how quickly you can bond with people when you skip the polite phase

[@Sanaa_pio]

‏‪9:10 I think the only problem with this method is that some people treats you in a mean way that is only okay when you've been a friend with them for a while, you can't be mutually disrespectful if you just met them, it only sounds like you're insulting them.

[@H-zl8jq]

True. Some people will be sensitive with certain words. They will be defensive and walk away. Call you with anything. For example, ohh.. you are cute. But like it's genuinely cute. However, some people think different and expect something other than just cute or i was wrong to say it. So awkward.

[@Pooooouey]

Is my yt glitching why is your comment right aligned

[@redseven4040]

Just do a reasonable level of banter that is socially acceptable in your culture. Or just follow up with “lol just kidding brah”

[@chintamani5714]

The thing that sucks about learning to improve your social skills and take initiative and put yourself out there is that it’s actually pretty easy to achieve low-level success and have a lot of acquaintances or casual friends to do fun stuff with, but getting to the next level and finding close friends or a best friend is a lot harder. Having a core group is great, having a core group + wider network is amazing, but lacking a satisfying inner circle while you have a bunch of superficial connections feels like dying of dehydration in the middle of the ocean.

[@spaceofgames3489]

For anyone wondering when you grow up especially in high school people care less around junior year and just talk, anxiety really just kinda fades away(sometimes, try not to overthink it)

[@_sandy_]

true its a great way to start because you will (hopefully) take in peoples responses and get better at socialising from that! and when you get exposed to others who are good at socialising, you can watch what they do and mimic it a bit too maybe

[@creashaksorganzine0]

when I started high school, I had a voice but I spoke to a mic that has active noise cancelling for my voice and a speaker that plays silence on full blast... but in my final year of high schol, I befriended a large amount of my batchmates, even a couple of younger years and teachers and the guards of our schol of all things, a lot of my friends pointed out me having many friends in different ways... so yea it kinda fades away and I just showed the possibility of being very social

[@R3strict]

I honestly js struggle just not knowing how to respond to things or what to even say lol

[@danielsmokesmids]

yeah well i never went to high school all 4 years so i didnt make any friends. no idea what to do now, not old enough to go to bars yet

[@creashaksorganzine0]

​@@R3strict there's many ways to respond lol, the simple direct answer is there, you can also be more philosophical and understand their question deeply (like if they ask where's the teacher, you can ask where they last met or even join in finding), or reflect that to them, redirect it to a nearby friend, socratic ignorance et al but I usually include another nearby friend, like if I'm asked if I know where the teacher is, I say I dunno and end with "maybe [nearby friend] knows" and that other guy will be included, I once did it with my teachers when a teacher sneezed a lot, I was like "bless you, then God bless you [teacher who didn't sneeze], and also you too [friend who walked by]"

[@1upx_boi452]

I do method 14 a lot but thats because I don't really understand social cues a lot and I just want to get to know everyone. In my experience, I find that if it does get to werid for them, just dial it back but not so much you are withdrawn. Keep being there for them.

[@Terminated_Account]

Act like youre already friends is PEAK method to meet people, they instantly know how you are and you also feel more comfortable when meeting them

[@clementemunoz9915]

Very well done video! My biggest problem is feeling a strong connection with someone, only for them to ghost me, which makes me question myself and wonder what I did wrong. It makes me scared to be my real self next time, fearing rejection again. I agree with putting yourself out there, but it still hurts when it ends like that.

[@keelan270]

Gonna keep coming back to this video. This is the most straightforward, down-to-earth vid I’ve seen on this topic. Overthinking really holds me back in this regard. I’ve recently started a new job where the people are really cool and funny but I’m still being too polite and not saying much. The risky things I say aren’t the same as the risky things they joke about. Not in a mean way, my humor is closer to anti-humor, satire, bad puns and just straight-up making myself out to be deranged (for some reason) whereas their humor is mainly centered around light-moderate banter, and in-jokes.

[@sfpt]

i relate to you with the humor thing thats just the problem with being born autistic or german sadly

[@GoalChasers-99]

Great tips! I totally relate - the hardest part isn’t starting the conversation, but keeping it going. This video is really helpful for that!

[@benstoysgames3262]

this guy majored in every subject

[@BananaWasTaken]

Knowing everything about anything is easy, actually.

[@Acubfox]

he made a video about learning lmao

[@TheFlygoniq]

But the first was probably power washing (driveways)

[@BananaWasTaken]

@@TheFlygoniq well I assume the first was cleaning, with power washing being his specialty

[@ello.adib.vaiya143]

Every subject majored in this guy

[@thisaintCosmic]

Actually, easy is friends new making.

[@SpoderMenG]

That of thought never I wow

[@luxnatal]

Right I know, thought always was it intimidating.

[@AmariGuy]

Do u want to be my friend ?

[@officialwolf_for_life]

Extrovert talk

[@ink535]

@@officialwolf_for_life friends, actually new is easy making.

[@self-improver-A]

I was considering reading a book to improve my social skills but I feel like I learned everything I needed to know in this one video. The content you make is flawless as always, keep it up!! 💪❤

[@Dachusttin]

-Puedes dejar una conversación si quieres, no todas tienen que tener éxito y está bien dejarla si es muy incómoda y poco interesante (yo solo haría esto después de probar las otras estrategias en el video) -Haga preguntas, especialmente aquellas que tengan una conexión emocional con la otra persona (es importante mencionar que si acaba de conocer a esta persona, no se ponga vulnerable (como en el caso de un trauma), ya que es posible que no quiera hablar de ello y se sienta incómodo). ) -Intentar conectarse a través de intereses compartidos o preguntarle a alguien sobre sus intereses (me resulta más fácil hacer esto cuando les haces preguntas en un entorno compartido, por ejemplo, si ambos están en un equipo deportivo, pregúntales qué les gusta de él o cómo Hace mucho que han estado jugando) -¡Está bien hacer pausas! No son tan incómodos como cree y puede darle una buena cantidad de tiempo para hacer preguntas de forma natural. No puedes esperar que cada encuentro social sea todo lo que esperabas que fuera, pero es importante seguir adelante, ya que así te acostumbrarás y desarrollarás toneladas de habilidades sociales.

[@lillly1188]

My favorite part was 3:33 the whole monologue that yellow makes about being yellow if you stop and read it is actually hilarious

[@angrazero8296]

For anyone scrolling on the comments looking for more advice, here's what I learned through my experiences: 1: This video is spitting facts, and I've tried many of these methods before I even came across this video 2: The book "How To Win Friend And Influence People" will NOT teach you how to make friends, as much as it will teach you how to fit in society and build connections. 3: "Similar interests and similar values" is what you should try to spot the most when seeking friends, because these are the subjects you will engage in the most (unless the friend has no passions) 4: Don't focus too much on judging character, focus on your dynamic with the friend. quiet people aren't inherently bad, and big talkers aren't inherently good. It depends on the dynamic you have with the person. Someone who talks a lot and always have new life experiences to share, might benefit from listeners. While someone who's laid back, might enjoy listening to people's new stories. (If anyone has more to add, I'd love to hear it.)

[@Zaya7even]

Do one for "reading books is easy, actually" and "improving self esteem is easy, actually"!!!!

[@tempestandacomputer6951]

Your genuine request for the books one says a lot about the viewership

[@Zaya7even]

@@tempestandacomputer6951 yea his content resonates with certain viewers I believe.

[@_sandy_]

but reading books is easy... 💀

[@Zaya7even]

@@_sandy_ obviously, this goes towards hard text to decipher blud lol

[@inedholp1565]

​@@Zaya7even not quite obvious, that'd be better to say "interpreting hard text is easy, actually". But there's many ways you can interpret your version

[@brendanhunter389]

Cooking class one is insane. You get that soooo much and that volunteering

[@annarchy.]

this is the lifeskills class that i used to hope for back in school, but the lifeskill subject teachers would never deliver. thank you so much !

[@sleepysonny3]

I've been shoved into adulthood without any training wheels and you've been helping me so so much. As someone with major social anxiety, I have to thank you a TON for what you do.

[@space_1073]

"with great power comes great potential to be weird." TRUE. I swear if anyone says my name too many times it's pretty obvious they read "how to win friends" and are using the method on me and its so cringe.

[@thatoneguyyouthinkshouldbe2431]

Ima hit you with critiquing people that say your cool name to often is kinda cringe

[@space_1073]

@@thatoneguyyouthinkshouldbe2431 it’s fine but if it’s obvious it’s because they read about it in the book, it comes off as they’re manipulating or trying to win you over or something. That’s all.

[@estrelinhaNove]

I got this friend and she has a very cool name to say and I say it all the time because it just feels good, i am now wondering if she thinks im tryna manipulate her, also im wondering if maybe I succed to manipulate her even tho I didnt mean to? It would be cool

[@GL887]

Ppl should remember how most friendships start,which is not spontaneously. When its visibly evident that people are dogmatically following advice on the internet to be charismatic & co it is cringe n kinda sad.

[@space_1073]

@@GL887 Very true. The internet doesn't just get in the way by distracting people from socializing, but it's remedies and tips on how to be social get in the way as well.

[@zerrrp]

7:48 This concept is really good for me, since i'm more quiet than everyone else in my friend groups, it's easier to talk with people who don't talk ask much like me and engage them (which engages you to into a conversation) and then ease in into the actual conversation after we become comfortable with each-other and get what i call "talk flow" (a flow like state that makes it easier for you to talk with other people by making you less stressed and clearing your mind). You'll basically have a teammate to help you! They'll also probably notice and become friends with you sooner than usual.

[@AlexDings]

So the thing for me is that I generally don't have much of an urge to make friends, but once in a blue moon (think every few years) someone comes along who I _really_ want to befriend. That happened a few months ago. Watching this was very interesting now because I basically did _all_ of the things mentioned here with that particular person 😅 But I did them intuitively, or because these things seemed obvious. I always felt like I was terrible at making friends, but apparently I know the whole playbook lol. I just rarely have the impulse to do these things because I don't tend to feel lonely. But this one person I really wanted to get to know. (And it did work, we quickly became close friends)

[@simple.tomato]

Fantastic video! The content is captivating, and the storytelling is so engaging that I couldn’t take my eyes off it. I really love how the simple visuals effectively convey the message. Great job!

[@Spilzu]

8:10 Stick City? The lore is getting deeper...

[@happyboy4770]

we also see people talking about their colour

[@magico9895]

@@happyboy4770 racism lore

[@albertpokol6863]

Yooo! This video was super helpful! I'm an introverted snowflake that deosn't even know how to start a conversation. My favourite one was to be transparent. I think most of my social problems come from the HUGE walls I've built around myself... Anyways keep up the great adivce!

[@Supershadow301]

All these points legit sounds like pretty sound advice, I did do "the Iso-play" more or less subconsciously with people and it works well. I think the main issue people have with making friends is finding a reason or a way to encounter new people without looking creepy or weird, rather than solidifying a relationship from acquaintance to friends.

[@goofyname3188]

I personally think finding like-minded people is key.

[@S.y567]

The thing is, i can get to know people really easily. Sometimes just making the first move is really hard. Like if someone started a conversation on the road out of the blue to me, I'd be talking to them for hours! But i dont want to go and start a conversation out of the blue of course. One day my mom's friend's cousin's children (my age) were over. My mom's friend introduced me to them and we had a solid time together, because we were kindof forced to talk ro eachother, so initiating conversation wasn't a problem. I need to meet people that aren't complete strangers to me, but we have some kindof title in common, like a colleague, a student, a guy who lives in the same apartment i do, etc. and we'd have to also see eachother often so that conversations can actually start. Often times, i struggle to find friends because my interests are pretty niche and i don't think they'd vibe with it. So maybe starting a conversation about it and getting to know more would help. I already know all the kids at my school, whether it means i have a bad or good relationship w them. And i don't go to work, bc well i have to study n shi. Thank you for listening to my ted talk

[@mishavarsanyi5946]

I loved your ted talk n shi dawg, thank u fir sharing

[@S.y567]

@@mishavarsanyi5946 my names not ted but sure😃

[@chalkandrubble5702]

I'll be going off to university soon in a different country, and I really needed something like this. At my foundation year in my current country, although I was part of the group (we all were jam packed in a three storey building and were a close knit bunch) I found it really hard to find genuine friends. I'm gay, agnostic and have a lot of leftist views, so it was just really hard being in a space where I had fundamental political differences with people. That aside, I'm quite socially awkward and have a hard time staying in the loop. Relationships are so important to me. All I want for the following year is to meet like-minded, artsy, queer people. 2024 brought about a lot of discomfort and loneliness, but I'm hopeful that I will find my people.

[@pokeverseinfo9]

Saying hi to a stranger is probably the most difficult thing for me.

[@ianredes]

try to sell pretty painted rocks

[@dokusha519]

And I have to do it as my job, my anxiety levels go to the sky but I control myself and try to do my best in each occasion

[@pippop5828]

that was... enough advice and insight for a book, crammed in a 10 min vid. Imo the best one on this channel so far. Keep it up dude.

[@e_theonly2758]

0:26 I’ve watched that skin theory video twice

[@emilyr8668]

I always get stuck in the “ask them questions to make sure they’re comfortable and learn about them” but I feel like I never have the reverse :(

[@lemongeth]

What a good time to make this video! I just tried bumble bff, got g-g-ghosted by 8 girls in my area, then started hitting it off much better with 2 coworkers. Wouldn’t say they’re friends yet, but being more confident and excited has definitely been helpful

[@easyactually]

Keep us updated on the coworker storyline

[@ink535]

what the guy above me said

[@Zordyn]

I can't wait to instead focus my anxiety on if I'm using these tactics right instead!

[@HoneySugarMoon]

First step "meet new people" THIS IS WHERE I FAIL

[@Somecreacher]

I have a bad habit of waiting for people to approach me 😭 I am so scared of approaching others randomly omg

[@zepelimopensador2305]

Man, I thank God every day to understand all of your videos. It's very helpful to understand some things that are in our heads it seems to be difficult, but in the end, it's actually easy. Hug from 🇧🇷

[@rottenapple9588]

"With great power comes great potential to be weird" is soooooo true

[@lizwilliams2097]

"just talk to people" is already hard enough

[@chalkandrubble5702]

hi! there, done!

[@muh4025]

​@@chalkandrubble5702hi guys!

[@muh4025]

yo

[@peace8311]

GENUINELY a video i NEEDED in my life right now. thanks man. seriously. actually!!!!

[@zxmbielover]

this makes me feel better. i thought I was going about it wrong but I was actually doing mostly everything on point!

[@maxel499]

Ok I am failing the very first point “filter out boring people” cuz with severity of my alcoholism everyone is beyond boring

[@am-ir2bx]

8:30 oh... So I will be an atypical friend if my kind of friendship is by being serious and telling our problems.

[@-book]

2:36 Tip for this is to keep a couple fun facts ready about your hobbies so you don't automatically start reciting a wikipedia page.

[@methylenedioxymethamphetame]

this is very helpful as a socially anxious friendless (former) shut in neet starting college in september. thank you.

[@someoneelse8295]

covid severely delayed my social development and made me forget how to behave, even tho it ended like a year or 2 ago i still feel affected lmao

[@Jokes_Aside122]

Dude I’ve got to say that all of your videos are like a great guide to becoming your best self I love your content

[@haRdiko9bm]

the 16th( the fastest way possible) method is really the fastest. tried and trusted by me!

[@idk-wc5fs]

Thanks, after this i went from having one best friend and the people around me hating me(oh yea i was introverted too) to, Multiple friends and pretty social (still introverted. Jokes aside, i was a pretty introverted person a while ago and barely had friends, the ppl around me were toxic and stuff so i could never even imagine talking to new ppl but i moved and went to a new school, suprisingly i talked to multiple ppl (and i initiated the conversations first) and made like 3+ friends in a small amount of time and had ppl talking to me all the time. My personal tip is: 1. Talk first and ask stuff like their name, ,maybe talk about the weather that day 2. Have a relaxed and comfortable body language, ppl will half of the time think your chill- Unless you mess up or smth idk 3.Having good first impressions are good and all but the important part is having an actual personality that attracts ppl, dont be toxic or a drama queeen cus thatll bite you in the ass later

[@randomwhisperer3228]

I LOVE THIS CHANNEL SO SO MUCH! You actually sum up all the garbage advice out there and step away from it. You yourself could have stooped that low and made cheap "Charisma on Command" or "Stare at the side of their nose for 5 seconds to show interest" content farm trollop. But no, you decided to be a major help to millions of people by giving actual advice that isn't behind some scummy paywall. Thanks so much, man.

[@inedholp1565]

I don't think those channels are lying, but they just aren't helpful for the types of people who they attract because they're high level concepts that don't really matter to people who don't know where to actually start improvement

[@randomwhisperer3228]

@@inedholp1565 Yeah they don't lie per se but it's just worthless advice

[@c.mirashi]

it's like everyone wants to make friends fr I mean, but when it actually is the case of making in real life no one wants to put the effort so, where are those people?

[@KeenBulldozer]

All great advice. He forgot the most most important thing. Regular showers. Showers = Friends

[@RobertWarrenGilmore]

I've been binging videos to help with social anxiety and this is the best one so far! Thank you! I want you to know that this video inspired me to start taking notes on my social skill growth. I've dedicated a new notebook to it and the first page is notes on this video.

[@famalt8226]

I really appreciate the walls of text you place in these videos, it's like a flood of funny aimless thoughts

[@badouceesay4468]

I think method three is going to help me A LOT. Thank you. I always find myself drifting out of conversations and then overthinking about what i want to say.

[@c.harlotte]

W vid, I’m actively a hermit and haven’t seen the light of day in years. (For real though I have trouble making friends so thanks for this!)

[@maryn4150]

The fact you open up your comment with “W vid” makes me chuckle, you really not lying when you say you a hermit 😂❤ all jokes aside

[@c.harlotte]

@@maryn4150 ❤️

[@Kammi_thegreat]

You and me bro. Hopefully we can make it

[@hankhill-]

Complementing someone who maybe isn't the most secure and won't abuse this to 'overboost' his self-confidence, is one of the most helpful advice to make people you just know to real friends with a binding relationship.

[@bingbong740]

Watching this I realized i've been unintentionally doing method 16 all along!

[@bunniesEri]

see finding people who have the same interests as you is easy but maintaining that relationship is the hardest part imo. Especially if you're a socially awkard bastard like me, like it genuinely feels like im begging and clinging onto them, it feels very pathetic lmao. It also doesnt help in my case where i get randomly sad and isolate myself into not texting anyone. Im also just bad at texting in general lmao, like idk what to talk about

[@ranshi8]

samee how to get rid of this

[@tineczek3683]

I literally love this channel because you don't post that much videos do that they are high quality

[@Lionheart0212]

I find myself always make safe conversations to avoid social pressure😢 Thx bro, this is such a nice video that makes me subscribe❤

[@nerdError0XF]

Fastest click on the video in my life 💀

[@agil6555]

same

[@Barby.K]

Swear, the moment I saw it was easy, actually...

[@thekage100]

Awww....😂

[@zurcarak]

method #13 was natural to me and what i have always done unconsciously

[@fwoop4848]

yeahh I do this too, it really helps in finding other people who are also more quiet at first

[@nonsmarts660]

now if only I weren't deathly scared of people

[@NathanHereford]

relatable

[@sharkie-boo]

So im not the only one??? aAAAAAHHH

[@margaret8775]

me with agoraphobia

[@millerrepin4452]

Overcoming social anxiety is easy, actually.

[@-qi8dt]

I don't have social anxiety, but I fear humans very much. I don't know why

[@vladislavkaras491]

Great advice... Hopefully I would not forget them! Thanks for the video!

[@OneTest123]

Being outside of my head also helps when doing tasks, I'm always so clumsy when I'm stuck in my head.

[@dinosaurguts14]

i saw your other video on how to be smart and you said to remember stuff you have to practice so im gonna practice these today at work and see where that takes me.

[@plateoffrogs4709]

as someone who is starting uni in september this is incredibly helpful

[@notpugal]

these are some cool ideas to make friends. I will try to apply. Thanks for the video!

[@Dachusttin]

Bout to see the vid, I wonder if its gonna work with relationships too (and/or my volley club.. and church.. and upcoming animecon... man I need this)

[@easyactually]

Method 15 definitely

[@nowherecrow777]

I kinda expected this to be another sarcastic venting video about current friend making scenes but I didn’t expect to come out of this with actual useful tips lol you’re really good at making it sound easy actually

[@Vanity0666]

Step 1. Don't be neurodivergent Step 2. Do not be neurodivergent

[@kisukisubE]

LMAOO

[@davidzy4924]

Step 3. If you're neurodivergent, find other neurodivergent people

[@Jancel705]

yup

[@GL887]

What struggles to you have specifically with being neurodivergent?And perhaps can u specify the specific category you fall into?

[@skrulgrills]

LMAOOOOO