The Journey of Grieving, Feeling and Healing | Dr. Edith Eva Eger | TEDxSanDiego

Dr Edith Eva Eger, best-selling author was just 16 years old when she experienced one of the worst evils the human race has ever known. She and her family were sent to Auschwitz, the heinous death camp. Now, Dr. Eger is a sought-after clinical psychologist and lecturer, helping individuals discard their limitations, discover their powers of self-renewal, and achieve things they previously thought unattainable. Join us for a talk and deep conversation, as she draws on her experiences during the holocaust to talk about how we respond, how to be a "survivor and never a victim of anything, anyone or any circumstance." Dr. Eger’s talk will be followed by a brief interview and a moderated interactive conversation with the audience. MONDAY, AUGUST 10, 2020 from 5 - 6pm PST: A native of Hungary, Edith Eva Eger was just 16 years old in 1944
when she experienced one of the worst evils the human race has
ever known. As a Jew living in Nazi occupied Eastern Europe, she
and her family were sent to Auschwitz, the heinous death camp.
Now, Dr. Eger is a sought after clinical psychologist and lecturer,
helping individuals discard their limitations, discover their powers
of self renewal, and achieve things they previously thought
unattainable. Using her past as a powerful analogy, she inspires
people to tap their full potential and shape their very best destinies. Her book, The Gift, Twelve Lessons to Save your Life
will be released in September 2020. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@GentlRebel]

My son died 8 years ago at the age of 5. My sister, my only sibling and my best friend died the same week 4 years after my son. I can attest to what this lovely lady says. When you walk through the valley of the shadow of death, do not pretend you are not there. You are there. Feel it every step of the way. It will be pure suffering and sorrow. But keep walking. Keep walking because I promise you will slowly begin to see the rays of sunshine. They will be few and far between for a long time but keep going. One day you will realize that you are exiting the valley of the shadow of death. That is not to say you don’t miss and long for your loved ones. You do and you always will. But you will live again and you will be stronger than you could ever imagine. Bless all who are in the midst of deep grief. My heart goes out to you.

[@aggiesart6]

❤

[@dangermenatwork]

this was beautiful. thank you. hope you're doing fine now

[@Fegga1955]

Beautiful thank you so much 🙏❤️

[@lillydeege8394]

😘💞🙏 Thank you. Wish You lots of Light, Love and comfort.

[@sallystubbs7084]

so beautiful - truly beautiful....... you moved me to tears....... horribly wondrous..... bless you - thank you......

[@Starstorm111]

Thankyou. I lost my mother as a kid. She had squizofrenia and came from a poor family of alcoholics. She chose the dark path and had a horrible life. She was abusive and abandoned me, as she could not take care of no one. I asked for adoption at 11 and terrified of all I witnessed as a kid I did not understand the whole thing until now, 31 I’m starting to grieve properly. Not only my loss.. I lost my whole family.. but also her life.. grieving my mothers life.. and knowing every human is in a battle.. and we don’t know what is inside a humans soul , every action is a consequence of something deeper and isolated suffering in a persons soul. I wish I could do something to change the events of her life, my life, my sister life.. but I can not, and the pain is just pouring out through my eyes.. tears and tears.. I didn’t find yet a proper therapist with the required depth to support this level of pain. Everyone seems so scared of seeing another human crying in desolation.. but it’s the only way as you said. I guess only people who went through the darkest paths or witnessed the darkest in humans.. only those can understand… forgiveness, compassion.. I’m so sorry for anyone suffering. Myself included. I’m so thankful for your video and wisdom.. it really really helps.. thankyou so much 🤍

[@projectfitamerica]

Thank you. The best 14 minutes we have spent on social media. " No one can take away from you what you put in your mind."

[@miguelchippsinteligente6072]

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[@anevalverdeinteriorismo]

Yes

[@claudiafegari5116]

This woman is a gift to humanity.

[@bastian6173]

Jesus Christ... The density of wisdom in this 15 minute speech is just too much. I am so glad I found this woman.

[@sharonkrueger3479]

“There’s no grieving without feeling. Give yourself time to feel the feelings.” Learning to feel.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@EBridgeman]

I met Dr Elger today. And it was a great honor to shake her hand. As I looked into her eyes, I could see an immense power but with a deep compassion and a tenderness that was palpable. I am forever grateful for this opportunity. I'll remember today for the rest of my life.

[@simonamuntean3107]

Finally someone that tells us that rage is good. Most tell us to be at peace, acceptance, flower power and move on.....finally someone validates that what I am going through is sane and not that I am a bad person for feeling it. Thank you

[@blissfulbaboon]

So true.Anger and rage has been villainized, when anger is a necessary primal human emotion that must be felt in order to transcend.First feel the anger, just dint stay in it forever.Then you must learn to let it go with forgiveness so you can move on.

[@user-sd9xi5gc8u]

I loved watching this and discovery her. I love that she is so validating of feelings.. I too get frustrated when people try and tell me to just move on, just look on the bright side.

[@praetoriancorps]

I think rage is often a sensation that is justified. However, I think it is important to be aware of this rage and find a proper outlet, rather than let it take over. It's really difficult tho.

[@sophiakh9590]

People often leave out that rage comes before forgiveness, and moving on.

[@Anna-fb6hl]

yes i have always been afraid of rage too and thought telling someone to express their rage and anger was completely nuts but hearing it from this woman has enabled me to process and view it from a different angle because she is calm and understanding so i trust her. i think i trust her very much so if she says that it is good then i will trust in her decision and that it isn't scary, it adds some understanding and compassion to it which i never got before.

[@jeremywu1238]

What an amazing woman - the personification of strength and resilience. I can only wish to have half the perseverance this woman possesses. I will never the be same after my losses but I am and will be a survivor.

[@elizabethzsoldos511]

You are the candle in the dark, Éva! Much-much Love from Hungary!

[@evavegvari1355]

I totally agree with you, amazing Lady. After so many pain, She is so pure and wise. God Bless Her 🙏😍🌹

[@mandydurham3320]

“It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to legitimize that anger. But be careful how long you hold onto it. You got to go through the anger and through the valley of the shadow of death, just don’t camp there or set up house there.”

[@crystalk8364]

Lost my mom Nov 22’…double cancer…grieving, hurting and feeling orphaned. I’ve actually lost 5 people in force years, including both parents…😢 Love to all those who are experiencing any kind of pain or grief. ❤

[@evab6089]

Sending you love, and strength. I lost my mom 6 months ago, a couple of years ago my dad walked out on us - I know how painful it is. You are not alone ♥

[@pumpkin6511]

I cry everyday for my son.. I beat myself up that I didn’t say I LOVE YOU. it’s going be one year since his death. February 29 2020 . Someday I will see you again son🥲

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@emilierogan3136]

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb Please remember what Edith says....love is what you do; not what you say.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

@@emilierogan3136 I don't really get that, are you trying to say words aren't important ?

[@sthot8520]

❤️

[@Prettymapleleaf]

Say I love you out loud to him now, he hears you, he knows. You will meet again.

[@zuzanazahradnickova3616]

Thank you very much. I lost my mom at the beginning of april from Covid. She was 55 and I am 23. I am taking your advice to the heart.

[@ROBLOCFUNNY]

I lost my mom in August from Covid as well. She was 53 and I am 32. I understand how you feel. I’m praying for peace and joy for both of us

[@JF-ce6uh]

I lost my father to Covid this month-- he was 84 and I am 35: my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

[@billwhitmire3159]

I lost my wife to COVID in January. I feel for all of you. My psyche is one long scream.

[@karenmeneghini948]

I lost my mom when she was 55 and I was 25 but that was more than 30 years ago. I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing a mother at any age is difficult. 💔

[@kdani11307982]

Dr. Edith Eva Eger I am battling having OCD and a part of my OCD has to do with germs and diseases. I have chronic insomnia and because I have to work off and drive when I know it’s not safe to drive because I’ve had no sleep. As I listen to you I think somehow I will survive all of us too, because my situation is so much less than you went through.

[@rebeccasantos8790]

I listened to her like she's my grandmother. Thank you. Thank you so much. You don't know how much i needed to hear that today. Thank you Ted talks.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@richardbradshaw7830]

I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

[@linbonn4749]

what comes OUT of your body doesnt hurt...what you keep in does. This WILL BE ON MY SAVED LIST❤💔💔💔💔❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Not why me...what now❤ 9:00🙋👍👏👏💪💪💪

[@sallystubbs7084]

sooooooooo beautifully said..... xx

[@chillycheeks5318]

This lady is quite unique! She is amazing and I have drawn so much from her experience. Dr Eger’s book “The Choice” is one of the most valuable books that I have read. It’s her biography. If it was made into a film, no one would believe it! Rock on Dr Eger, you are precious!

[@joannamccray2607]

Listening to Dr. Edger today has left me! I lost two brothers 3months apart. Awesome speech!

[@geigercourtier]

Social media, cancel culture, cyber bullies, school shootings, police brutality, racial oppression, global pandemic, to this cannot and should not ever compare to the depths of horror this woman and millions and millions endured within a single generation. Her words will never adequately sum the human beings who went through such a thing...there aren’t words I know that ever truly describe the wretchedness of what happened. I am so sorry to everyone who must survive this world, but I am thankful and blessed to have you with us.

[@luckyleo88]

"Never Forget the heroes of the 1915s to the 1940s" I am ever so blessed and grateful for the many men and women who sacrificed their lives for this present day. As such, I live my life full of gratitude, awareness, clarity and compassion. God bless Dr Edith Eger =) Much love and blessings

[@michaelmcgee2026]

She says in her book the choice that the pain people experience isnt any less than hers and not to diminish what we experience or what we feel.

[@namedrop721]

If she, a true survivor understands the necessity of not grading the inhumanity a human being suffers-why don’t you?

[@BobSmith-mv4wu]

What an insensitive comment. Families of police brutality victims and coronavirus victims have every right to be angry at their government and to grieve

[@carebear8655]

“That little girl is never going to be the same. She’s going to be stronger.” Such hopeful words after losing my father unexpectedly yesterday and way before his time. Thank you so much for this video. I wish you health and happiness.

[@Fouani313]

I am so sorry for your loss, as an internet stranger all i can do is offer my condolences. May he rest in paradise, and may you and your family heal. Best of luck, and wishes.

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[@carebear8655]

MOF Thank you a million times, kind internet stranger. Every good wish and condolence warms my heart and reminds me how connected we all are in times of adversity. May he rest in heaven 🙏

[@Fouani313]

Seeing at how wonderful you are, i am sure he is ❤

[@luckyleo88]

Deepest condolences to you and your family. From a stranger in Ireland.

[@babyboy1971]

My mother died a few days after I turned 29, and my dad disappeared without a trace before I was 30. I was very close with them. I’ve been stuck and lost for 22 years. You are helping me. I’m listening to your book, at the advice of a friend. Thank you. Thank you, you are a treasure.

[@mundomagico7787]

❤

[@emilymedina9242]

Hope you are healing ❤

[@karenoneill4661]

I needed to hear this wisdom after losing my son suddenly and unexpectedly. Such inspiration. Thank you ♥️🙏

[@user-pi5td4gq5n]

Me too and this has been so helpful. ❤️

[@Oxana-rm1ux]

This woman is a pure wisdom. Thank you Edith Eva!

[@Shamarie0328]

What an extraordinary woman! My doctor recommended that I read your book 📖 to help alleviate my depression. Thank you! 💜

[@valent579]

It's an amazing book! Hope you're doing better each day! ❤️

[@englishguy1985]

What is the title of the book? Please and thank you 😊

[@lucymcaleney9944]

@@englishguy1985 the choice is dr egers memoir of her time in auschwitz and the gift is her other book 😊

[@Shamarie0328]

@@englishguy1985 Hi, there and thanks. It’s titled ‘The Gift’. She also has another book 📖 called ‘The Choice’. They are both sold on the Amazon Kindle Bookstore site. 😊🙏🏾💜

[@dhanush_metpally_009_]

Ya I finished it The Choice

[@sanb9459]

Thank you Dr Eger, you are such an inspiration. What a journey and the work that you are still doing, helping so many. I am a psychotherapist and currently reading your book the Choice ... it's amazing... I'm learning so much from you.... again, thank you! 🙏

[@sunsetoverflowing]

Edith, reading The Choice has helped me tremendously. I’m walking through life now knowing if you could move through such atrocities, I can move through whatever feels hard or unjust in that moment. I’ll never forget you or your story. Thank you.

[@Cosmicladybug]

I am left speechless by this woman's words. I am moved.

[@Lena-yj4il]

Me 2.

[@robinm8013]

I came across Edith's book by chance, the same day my doctor sent me on sick leave for exhaustion. Within one year I lost my father, and almost two other family members. Both very close calls. I crashed. I've been bad reader most of my life. At the age of 33 I can barely recall reading a single book from start to end in the past 10 years. By chance I entered a book store and was drawn to the cover of Edith's book. It spoke to me, pulled me in, until I just read the last page. I think I cried every time I picked this book up. Though filled with tragedy it gave me hope, and often gave me the feeling of a warm embrace. I'm immensity thankful to Edith and everyone who made this book possible, and go Edith who keeps inspiring the world to embrace the process of grief, and to choose life.

[@otiliadonaire]

Thank you for your beautiful words of wisdom. I do believe suffering brings you strength.

[@Bluelotuslily9]

Thank you for this powerful talk. It covers your history and the present in a way I didn't think possible.

[@Ceciliaester1]

Thank you Dr.Eger. I`ve just finished reading your book and it touched me deeply. Greetings from Argentina.

[@ElCaminoHaciaunDueloConsciente]

The Journey of Grieving is a personal path.

[@TITOFROG1]

She experienced as a young girl the worst that a human being can . . . seeing and knowing that your parents and friends are being led to their death (the gas chamber). This experience made her strong and a survivor but what a high price to pay. So sad. Love you and bless your heart.

[@mariarojas4205]

I am so very sorry 4 what they put u thru. GOD BLESS U ALWAYS😀

[@miastavri5508]

You are an incredible inspiration so humbled to be able to sit and listen to your horrific story and how strong you've had to be to overcome adversity thank you for giving me and so many others strength today!!!

[@richardbradshaw7830]

I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

[@miggrodriguez9996]

I am reading Dr. Edith Eva Eger's book The Choice (I'm half-way through). I'd never heard of her before, and as I am recovering from COVID-19 and having lost my mother and two uncle to the same Coronavirus within two weeks I feel depressed. But reading Dr. Eger's words of wisdom and seeing her here for the first time, I feel like she's beaming the light at the end of the tunnel, for me and I'm sure for many others. Dr. Eger, you're the Angel Gabriel that Dr. Gabby was for you at the time you were recovering from Auschwitz, and after meeting the Angel of Death; J. Mengele. God Bless you Dr. Eger!

[@peternolan4107]

Dr. Eger has brought so much learning and peace to my life!

[@georgethomas8904]

A brilliant, resilient lady ❤️ what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger 👍

[@AlenaJolie]

This woman is so brilliant. I haven't seen this video but saw her on Oprah. She truly turned her life around and it could have ended so differently. She has much to say and I honor her for her choosing to take something so horrific and choose a different path for herself.

[@kymberlysaar7272]

I adore you Edith

[@friederikeboelke4184]

Dear Dr. Eder, when I read your book I was extremely touched by your words full of kindness, hope and peace. Thank you very much for it. I will never forget you. Your power and your kindness are helpful for me and my life.

[@lizzy5437]

What a sweet strong lady 😭

[@agiigisttv]

Thanks for this opportunity to hear from you

[@dinahirmaz7422]

Happy birthday 93 years old

[@frannie7583]

Dr Edger thank u so much I listen to this over and over and it is helping me.. be strong and of good courage tu.

[@Anna-fb6hl]

Edith you fill me with AWE. I'm so inspired since I read your book with your teachings and your compassionate view of the world and people, I hope more people are touched by your message as I was because it was truly inspiring and somehow resonated with me so much, the style of your writing I suppose made me feel like you were talking to me as the reader. I hope to be as wise as you one day :)

[@marthawiedermann2634]

I heard this amazing woman at a church gathering many years ago, and her life story and how she dealt with the trials she went thru impressed me to the core.... never to let people or circumstances control you, as mostly we have no control over external circumstances or people’s actions, but the only thing we can control is our reaction to them. Dr Eddy is an inspiration and truly is a human being who has and is still making a difference in this world. God bless her!

[@candelariarubin]

My dearest Edith, always an inspiration for me an others. Thank you, lots of blessings your way. Lots of love❤️💝❤️💝

[@Aysa_J]

I read your book) Thanks a lot )! Very inspiring🙏🏻

[@books-and-cats]

God bless her. Best advice so far.

[@dalilabanuelos9560]

Thank you...

[@global001]

I love this woman. She is a life saver.

[@scottjohnson9846]

Beautiful strong smart lady. People go listen to her full talk on the Lewis howes (the school of life) amazing and inspiring talk, just go listen. 😊 Thankyou for sharing Dr sending you love and peace 😘🥰

[@rz3101]

Thank you so much! You are truly inspiring! Total respect for you. God bless you!

[@brendatrimble9528]

I'm so sorry for what you and your loved ones went through. God bless you for sharing your strength.

[@champkapilchhetri3836]

Thank you grandma ❤ your words and message cost an arm a leg.

[@miggrodriguez9996]

What?

[@danar6745]

Everyone should read The Choice! I couldn't get it out of my head every day while reading it and for weeks after finishing. I was so moved by her courage and unwillingness to be defeated that it led me on my own healing journey. Many thanks Dr. Eger for sharing your story and being an incredible inspiration for healing!

[@michaelmcgee2026]

And her next book the gift

[@acunchevy54]

Have you guys read the dancer of auschwitz? Wow! Its amazing it shook my grounds for good.

[@ElouiseHam-kv9lf]

Hello danar How are you doing today?

[@magdalenadacunto888]

Thank you! We are all survivours.

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@acunchevy54]

The dancer of auschwitz book needs to be read by everybody. Its amazin how much a person can endure.

[@throughmyview8411]

Amazing, what a talk. It shakes your inner being and forces you to think "are my problems that big ?"

[@JesseDCS1]

What an amazing lady!!! What a testimony. To go through all of that, and still inspire people.... Wow!!! I'm still trying to find my way after my son's suicide, it will be five years on November 9 I am still broken and shattered.

[@throughmyview8411]

@@JesseDCS1 It's easier said than done. No words will be enough to tell a parent how to overcome the grief which you must have felt every moment in the past five years. May your son's soul rest in peace.

[@darkbuddha3307]

She would actually still empathize with you. You should read her memoir. Your experience is just as real to you and she’s also very open about her familial dysfunction, and loneliness, which all came before the war, and started in her own home with her family. Don’t compare your suffering to other’s. That’s not how to come out of it.

[@janswimwild]

If you feel them then yes they are. She tells us to validate our feelings, to dare to feel them without judgement. They get bigger and disproportionate only when we dismiss, minimise or invalidate them. Her compassion is boundless and amazing, so go cry, scream and laugh and dare to feel honestly, and heal and move on ❤️

[@janswimwild]

@@JesseDCS1 I can only send you huge hugs. I can’t imagine how you must feel, but I hope that you can find your space to cry and rage for as long and as loud as you need, and that somewhere in that you can find your love and compassion for yourself, your son and your family. I am so very sorry. ❤️

[@robinfrances8409]

I just do not think that as I go through year 6 of grief, I’m getting better or getting stronger. But I want to get better and stronger. It’s just a long arduous journey that really wears you down.

[@dorothykelly8924]

Thank you wonderful lady

[@colleendeane7888]

Thanku Eva

[@lisaguardia4132]

Bless you woman.

[@amandaadamson2254]

I struggle with the rage. What I could do and what I couldn't when it came to my son. He was severely disabled and I fought for him every minute until the end. I hope to forgive myself someday!

[@Handlegrip]

Sorry for your loss Amanda. Most people know how it is to take care of another person that can't take care of themselves. You can suffer through Caretaker fatigue, Negative emotions. Through the struggle you develop such a intimate relationship with the person you care for. You know them so well.. It really sucks to lose them. They are you life. Everything changes when you lose them. They are your world then you are left with nothing. You wonder if you made the right decisions for them. It hurts to see a decision you made cause someone you love so much pain. Making medical decisions for yourself is one thing but for a child you can hurt more then them. I want Thank you for the sacrifice you made in your life. It shows how much you loved your child. It was not easy but you did your best.

[@amandaadamson2254]

@@Handlegrip Thank you so much for your reply, few people understand what I went through. I only hope I will forgive myself someday.

[@Handlegrip]

@@amandaadamson2254 When you are ready it may help you to share to someone close to you that you can trust. All we can do is our best. It doesn't always go as planned. I hope you can find peace in your heart. I just lost my 93 year old father last week. I was his caretaker. His last days he was bedridden unable to talk. It was so difficult but rewarding at the same time. I think about what I should have done and shouldn't have done. I gave it my all. I need to forgive myself also.

[@aurorasoulshine]

Dr. Edith Eva Eger, thank you so much for sharing!

[@paulinkawira6114]

I lost my love and husband four months ago. I cry everyday. Am in this shadow of the valley of death, God help me.

[@anghietalosig3428]

Same here I just lost him last 23-- im buried with the waves of darkness

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@anghietalosig3428 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@rosemarydiamond6448]

This lady is amazing and such a good role model. What a lovely lady. Thank you.

[@KemiAdekunbi]

God bless you Dr Eger, awesome wisdom you shared with us... ❤

[@StartupFundingEventGlobal]

Such a terrible experience that built a strong character. Keep up the good work!

[@davelui3076]

oh my God, this was fantastic. Thank you for your insights.

[@futuresrush]

This is life changing , hardcore truth and hits on every point in the soul , mind and even today’s current events. This is a must watch for everyone

[@TheLucilleZ]

I wrote two books. The first was everything I learned while I was going through my journey to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. The second one focused on the topic of Post Traumatic Growth. I was so happy when a colleague recently recommended this book. I listened on Audible. It's one of the best books I've ever read. I understand why it has 15,000 five-star reviews. Thank you Dr. Eger, for allowing your pain and your journey to be a beacon the whole world. You are a resilient and incredible women. God bless you.

[@ElouiseHam-kv9lf]

Hello luci How are you doing today??

[@alisonaldrich648]

I love you, Dr. Eger! You are so inspiring! ❤️

[@kerstinkuhl2765]

Yes Mam. Thank you for your courage to talk about.

[@henryalex1597]

What an inspiration! And pure strength yippee

[@henryalex1597]

I love ❤️ this 👩 wise woman

[@CatLadyKorea]

Beautiful, beautiful human being. Thank you.

[@WorldPeaceandLove]

Dr Edith, Just want to let you know every word you said touched the right chords in my mind. Your efforts to do good at this age as well for me has made a lot of difference. I wish I could meet you. Hold your hands and tell you that you are an angel. Everytime I feel my life is getting difficult, I think about what you have gone through, and in that difficult moment too I feel grateful to God. I wish you a good and easy life ahead. Lots of love.

[@Raiya_ru17]

Listening to her stirred up the emotions that I used to feel about myself, but just learned to let go. Her words are so reassuring, calming and comforting for a person feeling lost and don't know what to do. 😞

[@pibbles9]

Anger is a gift. Thank you Dr. Eger.

[@michaeljoyce9732]

Truly wonderful and SO HELPFUL. May you be richly BLESSED....Carmel

[@user-vg9rz8uq7o]

I love you Dr.Edith you're an amazing person

[@lenoremann1032]

Beautiful. I eventually always try to look for a silver lining no matter what the loss or disappointment was when I feel ready. The entire process helps to build our character and to develop more compassion for others. Recently I lost the ability to safely do many of my favourite things: dancing; riding, and hiking. I am able to walk a few miles now and dance a little but not like I used to due to osteoporosis. But I hope I will again but in the meantime I am now learning to do something different with my horse even if I cannot ride her I want to keep her.

[@Lena-yj4il]

You will :)

[@DK-hy2fs]

Thank you so much Edith.

[@liviazambon1682]

Thank you Dr. Edith...

[@debbieflannery150]

Thank you! Your amazing.. God lead me to you! I am working on going through the shadow. Bless you

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@sarahs8118]

so much wisdom Dr. Edith! Thank you for uploading this!

[@willbfreed]

Thank you very much!

[@frannie7583]

Tu for helping me though my brothers sudden death after 4 months bone cancer

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. I pray and hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again!

[@frannie7583]

@@richardmcguinn732 i hope i answered this i think i did.. Im sorry for your losses and pray the comfort of the Lord to be upon you and yours .. Merry Christmas

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@frannie7583 And yes you did answered so thank you very much for your kind words and prayers, it means a lot. They’re so many unanswered questions about death which I don’t think anyone has the answer except the creator of the heaven and earth!

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@frannie7583 Merry Christmas to you and your family as well.

[@frannie7583]

@@richardmcguinn732 yes Only GOD.. He is the only way truth and life and Heaven is real because He doesnt lie.. been a rough Christmas but have to go through grief. tu for replying. Bless u

[@BREATHEwithKimberlyRose]

Thank you so much lovely.

[@jwalker7888]

Thank you. This is very important during this time, when our freedom is being threatened. People need to learn from history. May we all heal and become free and never allow such a heartbreaking experience to happen again.

[@Webbgurl2000]

Well Said

[@carinabrancodias]

Yeah real smart comparing this pandemic with Nazis. By the way both my beloved parents died from covid19 so I found her talk about death, loss and being a survivor really inspiring but not in the the same way that you did... Right now There's an hole in my heart, and I'm angry with people like you who diminishes the real danger of this virus and on doing so allow the spread of the vírus. Because of people like you my parents got sick and died and now I will never see my dear mom and dad again in my life. You disguss me. Really. But I have to absorb this lady life lessons and try to move forward. Not to move on. Because I will always miss my parents.

[@marjoleinevmv]

Just finished your book truly inspiring! Thank you so much for writing this book.

[@brendadunham653]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@susanswartz2546]

Sad experience.... GOD BLESS you

[@dhrwjd333]

Ohh.thank you .. your words make me calm down my sadness ...

[@pr1240]

Thank you so much.

[@sagetheminds]

This helps so much. I just lost another friend to gun violence and honestly idk how to handle all of this 😭I’m only 21 and I’m entering the next chapter of my life, and I’m trying to grieve properly. It’s super difficult

[@gabbie921]

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing ok.

[@kingacocia]

One of my favourite speeches! Every single word is true. Köszönöm 🙏

[@secretsofthekitchen1439]

You are Super ! ! ! May your Life be Better and You will have Good Health and Longevity . God bless You and your Family . ❤️