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[@lavendaire]

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[@conradorondera3054]

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[@notpearll]

"Happiness is not something you need to achieve. You can still feel happy during the process of achieving something " -Kim Namjoon

[@lavendaire]

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[@user-xb7vt7pk7l]

Omg I was like "hey this quote seems familiar"

[@jntluv]

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[@taehyungtaetae1242]

Yea 😭

[@vbgcfan]

💜💜💜

[@joymae]

The secret to happiness is learning to be in the present moment.

[@nathaliacampanario7733]

The power of now it's really powerful. This have changed my life

[@SteAndRach]

Be you and let your light inspire. That was one of the pieces of advice that will smith gave us in our dream! 😄; we collab with Will in our last video, and we share things that we have been doing to build happiness in our life.

[@ElectricLegend14]

The present moment is where we have our ability to be, improve, change, heal, win :)

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“When a person can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” ― Viktor E. Frankl

[@simplyredislandgirl]

True statement!👏👍

[@hy930807]

Me right now...

[@karnageartist]

I love Frankl! Mans Search for Meaning changed my life

[@stellajang2870]

@James Two weeks after applying his method to my life, my life has completely changed. Public speaking, social anxi ety problems, and various types of addi ctions have begun to disappear. search youtube "paradox of I can do it"

[@omyunseo5342]

And that’s how my lunch break became a meaningful break 🥰

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[@sun-wo9vp]

Same!! I just ate my lunch.

[@lavendaire]

:)

[@annaaando]

🥰

[@Gabriellabnd]

Same, i‘m watching this in my break and I feel so relaxed 🥰

[@VerenaSatriani]

"Focusing on what you can control". I totally agree with eveything Aileen said here. Most of all I highlight that part, we need to focus on what we can control rather than what we can't.

[@lavendaire]

yes always!!

[@veganlunchmom]

💗

[@SteAndRach]

Totally, we need to focus on what we can control; in fact, that's one of the stoicism tips that we had been applying in our lives and brings us incredible results. We focus on what we can control and put all our energy in that; we got really into it and actually made a video on our channel about the 5 stoic hacks to reduce stress! If you want to learn how to be happier and deal with the stress, we would love to check it out! 🤗

[@ytjbl]

A lot of unhappiness stems from a lack of awareness within, and not having a northstar of your life 🌱

[@QuestforBeauty]

yes, lack of awareness and a mind either in the past or in the future.

[@SteAndRach]

Yes, I agree with you, dude, when we have a Northstar of our life, we can focus on following that dream and be happy; in our last video, we collab with Will Smith in our dreams, He Gave Us His Top Life Advice 😄 You should check it out if you are interested in that topic!

[@botanologia841]

I really like the part where you explain that Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs has to be commented because the catergories can be different from each individual. Sometimes, the need of self-accomplishment (put at the top) is more fondamental than financial security. Very interesting to create our own hierarchy of needs !

[@QuestforBeauty]

It's so true. The beauty of the present moment. When we just let the 'I' dissolve, and we trust in the now. We trust the creator, this beautiful force that lies inside of all of us.😍

[@CrisSaur]

true

[@babbybrenner8945]

"beauty of the present moment" love it!

[@lavendaire]

the most powerful place to be - the present

[@Dineshkumar-ve4dt]

Lavendaire channel is just growing and spreading positivity all over the world .....

[@rituparna4370]

"Happiness is a journey of small gifts of joy and smiles". Such an inspiration, love ya Aileen !💜

[@MoonSignInsight]

I haven't looked into the hierarchy of needs in so long. It's really interesting how it got developed in the expanded version! I definitely struggled with self value and worth, but I really feel like that's changing for me so much this past 2 years. Now I'm currently struggling with Safety. This was so helpful, thank you!

[@lavendaire]

happy this helped! yeah it was a good refresher for me too :)

[@chanelamber218]

I honestly didn't known about maslow's hierarchy of needs especially about the "aesthetic need" I didn't know that aesthetic could be a need but now that I think about it I think I do have the need for aesthetic. Thank you Aileen again for this video I love your content so much!! 😭💜 Lets all do our best to feel happy and fulfilled! 😊

[@lavendaire]

thank you! yes aesthetics do matter esp if the other lower needs are fulfilled too :)

[@SteAndRach]

💜 Maybe as she said in the video, "Aesthetic" is not the primordial thing to do but is so please to see when you come to your house, and you see all in order and clean and beautiful, maybe with your favorites colors and the style you like, that makes you feel good, makes you smile. In our last video, we share how he learn from will smith and apply his tips to create a better life and a happy life for us; if you are inspired by Will Smith, we would love for you to check it out on our channel 🙌

[@ughrowie]

Yes, it was mentioned in his actual theory. I study Psychology and we learned about it. I didn't know about the expanded version but those were mentioned in the textbook I've read. Self-actualization is hard to achieve because of the complexity of the concepts there. All in all, his theory is really amazing to learn even if you're not majoring in psych. 💜

[@minoalymeg]

Lately I’ve been asking myself why I haven’t felt fulfilled in so long and this video just popped up. A coincidence? I don't think so. THANK YOU

[@jlnbhl]

Growing Up🥺 Glowing Up🧚‍♀️

[@LisaTran]

Omg Aileen! I literally just posted up a video about my career journey and my made-up 'maslow's hierarchy of CAREER needs' 😂 I've noticed how negatively I've looked at my own career - how time after time, despite changing careers, I still felt like my 'needs' weren't fulfilled. When you spoke about 'growth needs' though, it made me realise that this whole time, it's not like my needs weren't fulfilled, it was that I had fulfilled a need and was looking to satisfy the next! You've put a positive spin on this and I'm sending you much love for it!

[@SteAndRach]

I will check it out your video right away - We are trying to grow our channel as well, We actually collabed with Will Smith on our latest video...in our dreams 😅 We shared some of the most impactful life lessons we have learned from him, if you are inspired by Will we would love for you to check it out on our channel 🙌, our mission is to make self-improvement fun and create a beautiful community there!

[@arinikusumawardhani1630]

After I tried your "what makes me happy?" , I tried to think more deeply and suddenly I cried. I don't have many things that make me happy. but I am grateful for what I received in this life. Thanks Ailee

[@meamela9820]

In my pedagogic studies the hirearcy of needs has thaught me one important thing: I child can't learn it they don't feel safe. When they are struggling with learning, you must first make sure that the child feels safe, then after that, they have the mind space to begin learning and growing.

[@TrishBlackwell]

"Focusing on what you can control". totally agree, Thanks lavendaire.

[@powermeditation4445]

Thank you for using this platform to change someone’s life! You’re an angel 😇

[@DoodlesintheMembrane]

Honestly, I needed this, for the past 4 months I have been creating multiple educational infographics every day to help students study online throughout these difficult times. Yesterday was the first day I did not create a new graphic, and I went to bed feeling terrible and anxious. I really needed this video to start off a new and better day, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@PAULAOGETheChosenOne]

Shout out to all new KZbinrs and viewers, I love you

[@ReynaSingh]

Happiness is the product of our outer and inner environment. Even if everything around us is perfect, we still may never be happy. Happiness comes from within.

[@cebj7121]

Thank you so much for caring! Blessings to you! 😷🙏🙂

[@sushmasharma8324]

I've been waiting for a week for your video.. you just made my day💜💜💜💜💜

[@ARYAN-iv7tx]

'You dont need a reason to be happy, choose to be happy' ❤️😍🥰

[@na0m1fes51]

💯💯🙂😊thats right

[@aaishaharfan187]

True

[@priscillajimenez27]

Amen

[@katymason1222]

Aileen, I so appreciate all the positivity you put out in the world. Do you ever think about the ripple effect your work has on the world? Just watching your videos helps me to be more engaged and kind throughout my day. 💕

[@lavendaire]

thank you so much

[@ICEcoldJT]

Glad I came across this channel, lots of videos on how to raise vibrations and become happier💜

[@prernajha8522]

This whole year I've dedicated to self growth & personality improvement , this is the year when I realized my true essence when I came into spirituality. I feel I'm getting fulfilled at every level . This is the year I found you answering exactly the question I was asking universe about. I learnt & realized & accepted & changed so many things about me through introspection. When I came across your worksheets I was super super grateful now I know what exactly to ask myself to grow. Thank you Aileen❤️

[@mukulikamukherjee5754]

You don't know how you have helped me through a very bad phase in my life. I will always be grateful to you.. Keep doing the good work... 🌼🌼🌼

[@RobWill5864]

Knowledge is the best tool against fear and feeling unsafe..

[@pushparao4316]

Just love you , girl you are doing a great job . You will reach great heights in life and be really successful . For all the good things you are doing and the positivity you are spreading in the world , the almighty will definitely bless you and your family

[@SteAndRach]

Love the positivity you are spreading and totally agree with you! She is amazing, she actually inspired us to create our own KZbin channel last month!! Which has been one of the most fun experiences of our life so far 🙌☺️ Would love for you to check it out if you have time 💛

[@misssuga6259]

I want to thank you for helping me make my life more worthy .Thanks Aileen Xu .

[@niroblimon3056]

THANK YOU

[@she_was_here]

Hey Aileen! I love your videos! You're an inspiration! Stay happy & Healthy!! Loads of love from India 🇮🇳

[@Rg-es9kv]

I love the reasoning behind these videos, it's real empowerment not idealising a lifestyle or obtaining things or being an identified with a group that's better than others, those things are fake happiness. 😖

[@maezeu3358]

I'm struggling with the level of Esteem. I used to be a bright student in school but now in college, with all the competition and not being able to do upto the mark like before, with time I have lost all my self confidence and even if I knew I'd do well in a particular exam, somehow I just couldn't make it. I started procrastinating a lot in these years but before I used to be a lot sincere. I've been working a lot with self love since last couple of months and still healing. It still seems a long way to be back with the same believe and confidence, that I can do better and be good in studies. I just hope I can be back soon. Your videos have helped me a lot. Lots of love to you❤️❤️

[@narcoticm7165]

I feel you, i am also going through this self development process, dealing with lack of confidence,social anxiety, fear of failure and low self esteem... Hope we both can grow out of this situation we are in. Wish you all the good luck 💜

[@maezeu3358]

@@narcoticm7165 yes I hope that too. We just need to be more forgiving to ourselves and dont let negative hit us. Even if the progress is slow, let's just keep working on a better self. Lots of love and energy to you❤️❤️ Good luck 🤗🤗

[@laurine1263]

@@maezeu3358 I also feel this way, and seeing your comment made me feel a little better :) So, thanks for that, I'm sure we can get through this all together ❤️

[@maezeu3358]

@@laurine1263 I'm really glad to hear that🥺🥺❤️ We'll get through, we just gotta be brave and consistent. Sending you energy and warm hugs🤗🤗🤗

[@laurine1263]

@@maezeu3358 thanks a lot, sending you positive energy too ! ♡

[@AHuve]

I love your content! You seem like such a centered intelligent woman. Thank you for this. I think this hierarchy should be imperative in all of our lives in order to reach that transcendence, but apart from that, let’s focus on living in the moment of now and awareness! I’m also glad two more levels were added! Those are so important as well! Love and light to you!💜✨

[@SteAndRach]

Love and light to you too!💜✨ Those two levels make a huge difference, and you are right; she's so intelligent - We are trying to make self-improvement fun! We are building a likeminded community in our channel of people who wants to bring happiness and fulfill to their life, we would love to hear your thoughts since you seem to have similar interest.

[@azbahansari]

Connection makes me happy, be it with self, family, friends, strangers or nature. The sense of being able to connect with something or someone, that makes me happy.

[@mahimag1148]

Her videos gives my life value😭She is soooo positive😍keep going❤️❤️

[@plutolip319]

You are an inspiration 💛

[@priscillajimenez27]

It is true that our basic needs can come into play into our happiness but like you said I think it's mostly a state of mind or mindset. Like I feel like many who lack in their basic needs or don't have them consistently are more prone to looking to the spirituality/religion in the transcendence level to find inner peace and joy despite what's going on around them or what they may be lacking because of their inner peace and faith that keeps them going and appreciate what they do have and experience. I love how you keep reiterating to make changes in what you can control which is ourselves and to go forth looking to do what we can despite what obstacles (life) come in our way.

[@anushaseechurn2359]

Your channel has become my favourite of all KZbin. I love your energy, clean heart happy soul

[@niahjoe5341]

Right now I’m struggling with Esteem as well. With a lot of tragic family events that recently happened and being pregnant , I just don’t feel like I’m good enough or can’t do anything right. Holding on to any ounce of happiness has been difficult. Thank you so much for the video! It really brightened my morning

[@laurine1263]

Hi Aileen, I thought I would just take some time to thank you. I usually watch all of your videos without commenting. But I need to tell you how inspiring you are ! You help so many people to feel better, and we will never thank you enough for that ❤️ lots of love from France, merci :) !

[@lavendaire]

Aw thank you, means a lot 🥰

[@gaganam8201]

I was really waiting for your video. Recently I lost my grandpa and I'm currently searching for happiness. This doesn't make sense but listening to your video makes me calm and silences my negative thoughts. Love you Aileen!!

[@brennabeloved8540]

I tried flipping the pyramid upside down. Now, I don't mean to minimize the reality or importance of our physical needs and what a struggle it is for many people to feel safe. However, I found it much easier to work on these things in my life when I started from a place of transcendence. I'd love to hear others' thoughts on this idea! I realize it is definitely a more privileged perspective to take but as someone who lacked a lot of safety, love, and esteem in their life, this perspective was extremely freeing.

[@TheCosmicBaddie]

True happiness comes from within. When we are happy despite our external circumstances, we come to understand that we are in control of how we feel at all times :)

[@akshatasharma7249]

You're a beautiful person!💜

[@tonyc200708]

Thanks Aileen. I am somewhat familiar with the original Maslow Hierarchy of Needs but not the expanded version. My pyramid is interchangeable especially the growth level. I also believe happiness and fulfillment is inner feeling not just by choice.

[@DebraWilderMeditation]

I think a person can have only the self-actualization and spirituality needs met and be very happy. It’s about mindset with so many unemployed living in tents or cars yet enjoying simple things like meditation and laughter.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

[@vijaypatil8702]

She deserves a lot more subscribers! ☺She inspires so many people💖 and make our lives a billion times better!😉 I was missing you babe! 🥰 Love you as always😍.

[@ojaswitaramteke3775]

I get so excited when she posts because I already know that it's going to be so good! 💙

[@sushma150690]

Couldn’t get over how your skin is glowing in this video

[@lightwhispersreiki]

Learned Maslow Hierarchy in university but haven't thought about it in years. Definitely think the expanded version is so much more in depth.

[@ritika6600]

I had been waiting for your video for a long time

[@angelicaquero5205]

Hi Lavilove Aileen! I hope you are doing well. Thank you for being an inspiration to me and other ladies too. ❤

[@melanysuarez5733]

Thank you, Aileen. I didn't know the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It is very helpful. I think most of us are now going through a time of uncertainty and feel like many of our needs aren't being met and fall into the idea that everything is out of our control when maybe it's not entirely true. What is true though, is that we are experiencing a challenging moment and that is ok if sometimes we don't feel ok. Sending you love

[@lavendaire]

it's okay to not be okay - we're here to experience the spectrum of life. and experiencing low times makes happy times even sweeter

[@vanessalandrock]

it would be really interesting if everyone put the 8 levels into a different more personal order. I love all the levels but the higher the pyramid gets the less I identify with its order. I looooove this video, you are so calm and aesthetic 💖 I think I am currently working on mastering the fourth level „esteem“ 😊

[@RT3747]

I have no words , Aileen I am very grateful that I found u and trust me ur helping a lot of people . The content is very practical and ur voice is really soothing , I am sure that the exercises u have recommended is goin to help me a lot and another thing I love is how u give ur very own opinion at the end . It just makes the whole video more natural and makes me feel we are listening to a right and experienced person . JUST KEEP GOING and ima SUPPORT you ❤️

[@mahimag1148]

Take a moment for appreciating her video skills😍So aesthetic and calm-full🥰

[@doucedarling6009]

and alsoooo you are so eloquent you speak very beautifully and clear 🤍

[@janinea5786]

Aileen, you are an inspiration! Thank you for posting this uplifting video! I totally agree with what you said, it's definitely about finding joy in the process.

[@SuccessOsato]

I learned this in business management,but I never considered how I could apply this to my life.Thanks for the wake up call

[@RobWill5864]

knowledge is power for sure! I've gained much of my confidence and lack of fear in situations, especially with everything that is going on in 2020, simply due to the knowledge I have gained from my hunger to learn more.

[@leneasuncionofficial]

you make me cry right now. thankyou 😭❤

[@lavendaire]

Spanish & Turkish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributors listed in the description 💕

[@sarahkabir176]

Omg, you are looking like a cherry blossoms flower.🌸🌸

[@feylovemgk7281]

I love her color schemes

[@aliceswonderland3248]

I recently stumbled upon your video on how to figure out what you want to do with your life, and I loved it so much I watched your other videos as well. I'm just 15, but I agree with a lot of things you said and I'm glad to learn more, things I did not know, or things that change my mindset. I just want to thank you. your videos get me thinking and they're giving me so much motivation to get the best out of my life, and improve as a person. ❤️

[@niffrincontrols8607]

Awesome job Thanks

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

[@learnwithme2330]

But now all of us have become very selfish .. ( kadva such hai )

[@dhanalakshmik7519]

We think why should we

[@waelfaraj6705]

You can not help others before you help yourself first ...

[@40koolcatzpm]

@@waelfaraj6705 I think you can, A lot of people do and they dont realise that they want to help and they're helping from an empty place. That does not in the end negate that they actually helped the other person

[@waelfaraj6705]

@@40koolcatzpm Yes , possible ...However, the better you become , the more you can help ...

[@nourianoir6488]

To be happy you should be satisfied and grateful for what you already have and also for what you are going to have

[@sugandhkatyal]

Thank you for sharing. Your knowledge in the subject and viewpoints are pretty well. The moment I think on a point you mention it. Like for example, the needs cannot necessarily be in order and I always used to wonder the same when I studied in classes Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs but this updated version I learnt from you today. Thank you. I also feel the transcende needs actually liberates us and makes us feel more empowered and confident when we are able to be of service to others even in a small way. I also believe that self care first is imp. Its important to fill your cup first then others but being of service to others is why we are here on the planet. Thank you Lavendaire.

[@stevenhamilton801]

And to add to being present as a key to happiness, we must detach from material possessions and emotions in relationships.

[@millennialgeisha2192]

Been sharing this with others, but you’ve explained it SO much better that I ever could 🙌 Mahalo & shared 💗

[@ayanorika5766]

I just started studying tourism management and got hyped when I saw Maslows hierarchy of needs. Just knowing that I understand something hyped me up lol

[@KellyMorita]

There's also the Ikigai Self actualization pyramid which I LIVE by!

[@meerasharma1534]

This was so much needed ❤ Thank you favourite 😇

[@yaseensinsights]

Love you so much Lavendaire! 😍😍😍

[@lavendaire]

love you!

[@sam73322]

I like how you incorporated more personal experiences of yourself, this video was very interesting. I can definitely see an improvement content wise over the past few weeks. It seems like you’re growing a lot as a person. 💕

[@LunaJoy]

This is the first time I heard of this hierarchy period and it’s really intriguing and can change one’s perception in focusing life

[@am4nhays]

This video saves me,I'm actually crying,and I opened the video to feel better,and magically,I am. Hahah thanks Aileen

[@em_ik1956]

Send you too much love !!! You're not alone sister❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@rhymemajotra3205]

You have an amazing style❤️ I love the way you dress and embrace your natural beauty, you are my inspo❤️ long hair looks so stunning on you!

[@dallelbe]

May God bless you ♡ , you taught me about life more than my ppl did . Thank you infinitely

[@fauziaphyu491]

Your videos always come at the right time

[@sukrunnisak4457]

Everytime I need motivation in life, I go to this channel. And I never regret. Thanks Ailee..💝

[@savitanagar1105]

Hi di i love watching ur video bcz they r like amazing. .......they helped me a lot ......thanks for all ur helpful videos ......thank u sooo much 😍

[@Michaela-sh9mw]

oh yes! loved this so much! 🍒💕

[@maya1256]

I agree with your sharing Ms. Aileen of this concept, theoretical basis. Though it can vary depends on the environment of a person. Of what he value or meaning of his life.💕

[@ruqayyamateen2513]

Thank you, Aileen I really needed this and I am soo grateful to you for it your videos come at the perfect time.

[@rynautumns7601]

Could not have come at a better time! Thank you

[@Diaryofz]

Your podcast and workshops and videos have helped me so much in my self growth process sending you so much love 🥺♥️and thank you ❤️

[@r099manzeetakhumanthem8]

My guardian angel❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@pushpahr7447]

Hi Aileen Hope you are doing greaat Just wantee to tell you that whatever you are doing for the world is an amazing job You are always there in my prayers May all the forces be with you and support you You have helped me change my life and bring to the proper track when I needed to . Thanks a lot May the Almighty bless u girl!!

[@ABetterYouEm]

I've been in a rut lately and this is actually super helpful - thank you 💙

[@40koolcatzpm]

I subscribed to lavendaire.com as just one of those things to see what it's about but every now and then I get emails and they end up being so timely. Thank you so much is all I want to say really. Thank you!!!

[@lavendaire]

Happy to hear that!!

[@missladylexi]

Your videos always realign my energy and get me so positive and motivated. Thank you 💜✨

[@ismirawahyu5217]

This video coming in the right time

[@azbahansari]

Needed right now for self awareness and self care