The Kids Are Not Okay.

[@The.Foolosopher]

I'm a teacher and a veteran. I was involved in Iraq and Afghanistan. None of that has was nearly as traumatizing as being a middle school teacher this past three years. I finally quit and moved on to teaching prisoners. Felons. Drug addicts. And they are SO much better behaved than my old students. I've had students stalk me online. Try to catfish me. Harass me. Take unflattering photos of myself and post them online. I've had multiple students make up stories about me as revenge for taking their phones, try to ruin my whole career over their phone. And not once did I have a parent or admin help back me up. I've had students curse me out and try to physically assault me and the only person who ever got punished for it was me. It's simply not worth being a teacher anymore. You can't teach. You're just a babysitter for psychos.

[@KittyKatz]

OMG I'm so sorry that happened to you. Nobody deserves that. Is it any better at private schools there?

[@marge7041]

This is just so sad ....Thank you for still trying to find a way of being helpful to society after you've experienced something like that . I wish you well!

[@artfire28]

Kids who know nothing about the outside world are being brainwashed by the govt and Hollywood to become SJW zombies to vote for wrong leaders. Where has our country gone?

[@tarapeters6711]

Private schools are no better. The students in private schools are spoiled rotten and administrators do nothing because the rich parents pay their salaries.

[@captainhamhog8136]

First off, thank you so freaking much for your service. And not to make light on this, but would a war be better than teaching kids? I’m legit curious now, because that kinda sounds better than teaching.

[@EvelynPhoenix]

As a teacher, I can say that it is a normal situation when you have a few naughty kids in your class/group, but when 90% of them behave in such an inappropriate manner, it is definitely not normal.

[@timothyruggles3031]

No you fail as a teacher if you don't DEMAND RESPECT AND DISCIPLINE IF A CHILD DOESN'T LISTEN YOU GIVE THEM A 0 ZERO FOR THE DAY ENOUGH zeros then they are left back

[@Undomaranel]

​@@timothyruggles3031 Tell me you've never taught without telling me... Your expectations have merit, but they are impractical. I recommend you watch the Sound of Music and maybe rethink what raising kids like soldiers does to them.

[@HappyWallFlower]

Oh heck no!! If I missed behaved in school I got a paddle to my back side, along with a note explaining my actions and discipline ( to be signed and brought back ) which then led to another paddle to my backside from my mom or dad! As far as people females and males sticking their rear end up in the air…..well to be honest that’s what dogs do….on the side of the street…..behind the trash dumpster……hmmmmmm…….

[@embro2.0]

@@timothyruggles3031administration does not allow you to give zeros or let children be “held back.” Look into it.

[@mirrorreflex]

​@@timothyruggles3031Children can no longer be kept back a year, unless a parent agrees. You can advise that their child is not ready, but a parent can ignore you and do what they want. Also, some schools apparently don't let you fail kids. The biggest consequence that you can currently give children at the moment is something like a suspension from school, but if the parent is really bad then the child just gets a vacation.

[@looti2]

Kids are out here telling their teacher "You're not my mom!" but when I was their age, I accidentally called my second-grade teacher "mom" because I respected her so much. It is crazy how different these kids are today.

[@dihiyaa]

so true

[@rydbthatsme]

Same! She was also my favorite teacher lol

[@faridawiser5441]

@@rydbthatsme lol me too1

[@ConservativeGrouch]

@@faridawiser5441 One-on-one interactions involving those kids will be fun to watch during their young adult years: "Ma'am, I clocked you at 25 miles over the speed limit. Step out of your vehicle and keep your hands in plain sight." "YOU CAN'T TELL *_ME_* WHAT TO DO!!"

[@faridawiser5441]

@@ConservativeGrouch Haha, yea!They would grow up to literally have no self awarness🤦🏻🤦🏻

[@brittanyv6594]

I recently saw an article titled "parents shouldn't be ashamed of their children's screen time"...and then it goes to cite studies on how increased screen time correlates to worse relationships between child and parent...like what?? I think it's time to be ashamed guys.

[@nahuelramos5739]

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[@Dyianweh]

And i’m in sixth grade in fifth grade. A lot of my classmate started calling me, the N word and a RETARED and wanna know why because I’m a Sonic fan and I like video game music it’s crazy they also made fun of me for not getting a phone till I was 11 keep in mind, the one calling me the N-word ship bokugo and duku from mha and the people calling me a retard had bad grades I also occasionally see them in school in the hallways.

[@lenibeni7421]

That was probably intentional…. To get parents to click it and read it… maybe get a realisation and change it. If you tell them "you should be ashamed and here is why!" Less people would click it, it’s sad, but it is a fact. People and especially these type of people are not interested in being told what they are doing wrong, however telling them it isn’t "that bad" and it’s "fine" will get them to be more interested.

[@lenibeni7421]

That was probably intentional…. To get parents to click it and read it… maybe get a realisation and change it. If you tell them "you should be ashamed and here is why!" Less people would click it, it’s sad, but it is a fact. People and especially these type of people are not interested in being told what they are doing wrong, however telling them it isn’t "that bad" and it’s "fine" will get them to be more interested.

[@The_SeoulJourner]

It's a form of child abuse when you fail to PARENT your child to be respectful and responsible for themselves and toward others.

[@graciecat7389]

The specific word would probably be neglect.

[@sivc.29]

Hey, I get your point but we can't call everything ABUSE, every mistake, every fail, I think it will be counterproductive... The right word is neglect.

[@Itzshorts917]

Atleast someone said it

[@The_SeoulJourner]

"Children who are abused or neglected are also at increased risk for experiencing future violence victimization and perpetration, substance abuse, sexually transmitted infections, delayed brain development, lower educational attainment, and limited employment opportunities." -CDC

[@KlutzyNinjaKitty]

⁠@@sivc.29 - except that neglect is officially listed as a type of abuse by professionals. Failing to provide for your childs needs, whether it’s physical like food and clean clothes, medical, or even mental/emotional can inflict just as much damage as if you were putting out cigarettes on their skin or screaming at them all day.

[@WiseLittleOwl]

As a teacher, all I can say is that society has no idea what we have to go through simply to “do our job.” Kids have attacked me, mocked me, cussed at and cursed me, posted ugly pictures of me online as a meme to make fun of me, argued with me because I tell them to work with me in class, spread untruthful career-ending rumors about me, stalked me, tried to catfish me, vandalized my classroom, thrown garbage all over my floor (for no reason other than just to be mean to me), stolen some of my personal possessions, purposefully damaged my car… the list goes on. I’ve been disrespected in almost every way possible - and I’ve only been teaching for 2 years. Guys. It’s BAD.

[@hkiajtaqks5253]

How do we fix it?

[@nicolasmeyer282]

damn that is horrible having to have experienced that. i lookied into becoming a teacher myself but noticed early on that thsi job isn't for me. when i read your text i assumed that to be the experience of someone teaching for decade(s)..

[@Falconlibrary]

Now you know why 50% of teachers quit in 5 years. I made it thirty years before retirement, but if I started teaching now, in this day and age? I wouldn't have lasted. How can we change this?

[@Falconlibrary]

@@hkiajtaqks5253 Schools are a reflection of society. How do we fix our society?

[@meganluck4352]

That is truly disgusting that they have done all that to you who is just trying to teach them what they need to know to become normal humans .

[@barrimiles8618]

I used to be a high school teacher. I used to open my school year with the following speech: “You are 15 or 16 years old. 200 years ago people your age were married, planted crops, had children, and build a cabin by winter. You can do your homework. The bar set for you historically is embarrassingly low. You are not dealing with regional famine or plague. You do not have to save your family from marauders or go into battle to destroy your enemies with a broadsword. You have to sit down and learn from someone who cares about you in a safe, air-conditioned room. You have no excuses.”

[@bakhytgul4457]

Preach! This is somewhat close to what I tell my kids. Giving them historical perspective is helpful, in fact.

[@Sunny-dw6xe]

This is how the teachers are in Texas. We’re all so grateful!!!

[@mickeymoose9368]

💯

[@elian958]

James Monroe was 18 and Alexander Hamilton was 21by the time they signed the Constitution.

[@salamander6014]

😭

[@ratelman9883]

I have a 7yo cousin who was born with an ipad in her hands. She doesn't take "no" as an answer, and if you dare to refuse something she will hit you, insult you and try to force things to fit in her way. When it happens, her parents just give her what she wants, give her the phone / tablet and hugs her so she calms down. They're raising a real psycho.

[@thecatfarm]

It's not gentle parenting, it's just neglect.

[@cmanhanks1]

Time to bring back the belt....

[@SnickerDoodleBug05]

​@@cmanhanks1 no, just bring back discipline, you know like taking away the things causing them to act poorly.

[@ITGuy84]

And the belt

[@cmanhanks1]

@@SnickerDoodleBug05 the belt IS discipline. Nothing like the sound of a belt clearing belt loops to make a kid straighten up their adittude.

[@Not_a_Norm1e]

​@@cmanhanks1 your literally promoting child abuse

[@beyonddisbelief6451]

So these parents are paying for a ballet class but are okay with their children not following instruction? crazy.

[@EnderOfFlops]

Those children may benefit from those Russian ballet teachers who are straight up drill sergeants ngl

[@RichardChappell1]

They are not paying for ballet instruction, but for keeping their kid out of their hair ofr a while every day...

[@deadzoneternity]

Odds are the ballet class is cheaper than daycare or their kids were kicked out of daycare for misbehaving, and the parents are just dropping their kids off with no care about whether they learn anything and just don't want to be parents.

[@jrawing]

I know right? And I am thinking that it could be an issue regarding the child's disinterest in ballet (okay, maybe fair enough) but then why not just pull the child out?? literally no one is benefitting from the current arrangement.

[@user-tw2jt9mg4d]

Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy. Crazy? I was crazy once. They locked me in a room. A rubber room. A rubber room with rats. And rats make me crazy

[@nifthevulicorn]

It's parental neglect and letting society raise your children. That's what the problem is here.

[@KawaiiAriiYT]

very well said. Society and TikTok

[@markaja2]

Even these types of parents care about their children, but most just don't know how to be a parent. Many parents don't talk about the stuff they should because they don't want to be judged as neglectful. Like the state is going to take their kids away if they say the wrong thing, or how simply how they stand in their community.

[@Boudicaisback]

You mean letting the internet and television raise them.

[@Volknsarr]

Its also most of these parents are confronted with poordome and mental illness, so they cant fix their own problems but still want kids, i think this goes far deeper than just parents and society, there is also this extreme political view in parents where they rather fight for their own opinions than the health of their children and i dont understand why these children have vapes normally you need someone who is 18 years old to show an id for it now you see 9 year old children running around with it i dontunderstand how these children get these things it was hard to get pack of cigs with 16y now its standart to have a gaystick in your mouth.

[@Volknsarr]

@@markaja2 I agree but to have children needs to be really carefully chosen bc things like that occur.

[@Stefanovic-eu7iv]

The “look how cute she is” story hit me hard. My younger cousins are terrible and their mom don’t discipline them. So in my tradition for Easter we bake a cake and in that cake we put coins. If your slice has a coin that means luck and wealth. It’s just fun and games. My grandma always bakes that cake and it takes her one evening one day and the entire morning the next day. My cousins took a slice of the cake before anyone else and they just happened to not get a coin. Upset they asked for another slice and when their mom said sure they just ripped piece after piece until all that was left was crumbles of it. They didn’t even eat it, worst of all their mom was laughing. My grandma became upset but still said that it was fine. Me a 17 year old at the time started screaming at my cousins and their mom scolding all of them, had to force all three to go give grandma a hug and say sorry. A 17 YEAR OLD? My aunt (their mom) afterwards told me that I was right and apologised so we’re good but guess who is the most hated cousin out of me and my siblings:)

[@WhyNot4764]

As a 13 year old myself it's tragic watching my own sister become one of these monsters, "TABLET" she screams this at 7 in the morning and i'm sick of it

[@kangaru975]

I'm 14 and I had no idea what pound town was

[@WhyNot4764]

@@kangaru975 same and when i looked up the lyrics i was shook, like the kids prolly don't know what they mean but still

[@conlangknow8787]

Im 17 and got a younger sister like this, youre so real for that damn

[@pikminologueraisin2139]

wtf man I'm sorry for your loss

[@Ducklover-nj7kv]

This is sadly relatable

[@LionKimbro]

I have observed “modern parenting” up close, and it is the worst. I was sitting at a dinner table talking with house mates, and a 3 year old demanded my seat. I was raised that kids can’t demand things from adults, and know this, but she persisted. Then her mom demanded I give up my seat (we both lived in the house together,) and I said, “if you are into permissive parenting, you are the mom and I don’t have a say, but for myself, I am holding this boundary between kids and adults.” Dinner time started later and I went to get a plate of food. The three year old RACED for my seat. When I got back, I put my food down, and gently removed the three year old from the seat, and sat myself in it. The kid went NUCLEAR but I calmly held my ground. Half the community was suddenly arguing with the other half of the community. I was accused of being an egotist, a bully, cruel, the whole nine yards. My position was very simple: kids have to know that there is a difference between the world of adults and the world of children, and this is necessary for kids well being. I was accused of being self righteous, absurd, thinking I am the child’s dad, etc.,. Exasperating. The parents have held this against me for years now. And their poor kid and yet younger sister now have become absolute monsters. And the parents are genuinely BAFFLED- “why is this happening?!?” Their answer is “it must be something about society.” Well, we agree on SOMETHING here…

[@Ogletort]

That’s terrible, kids who can’t take no end up being some pretty terrible people when they grow up.

[@monikade9901]

I was raised that way too, respect your elders. My kids will be raised to respect their elders too. Also I believe if you love your child, you discipline them so other people love them too. Parents who just let the kid have whatever the kid wants, let the kid decide, end up raising monsters that nobody could love. The kid grows up thinking about themself and like nobody else matters. And always so unhappy. I'll be 40 soon and my oldest just turned 2. I've seen for myself the result of slack parenting and I'm determined to raise good people.

[@mistergooseman7047]

Rousseauians

[@azazellon]

Hah, if I tried that I'd be put into the corner. Does anyone do that now? Just stand in a corner, nothing, no reading, phone, just fucking stand there and think about what you did

[@ashlaw4392]

If our child misbehaves in school the teacher tells us. Only happened one but when told my child misbehaved with another kid. I made him apologise and make up for it. Other parent had a go at teacher, how can they win when parents don't care.

[@purelightapologetics4930]

Nanny here. Parents are trying to avoid paying attention to their kids like it’s the olympics. It’s plain old negligence. They want electronics to babysit their kids, school to babysit their kids, and nannies to babysit their kids because they don’t LOVE their kids. It’s one of the saddest things I’ve ever seen. So much laziness and selfishness and greed. Honestly, it boils my blood.

[@v4v819]

It's not that they don't love their kids it's that they got no time cause they got to work all day most double jobs and simply don't have the time to both support their kids and be with them as much as they want to or need to be! This is a society problem on a pandemic level!

[@CuriouslyCute]

I'm fortunate that the parents I know who live near me aren't like that.

[@AbramHadnot]

You guys are overlooking the most productive under compensated job era that we live in that is contributing to this debacle

[@purelightapologetics4930]

@@v4v819 With all due respect, I disagree. I’ve talked to parents who would rather sit on their phones then play with their children. They give their children iPads in order to amuse them because they don’t want to interact with their own children. That is a lack of love.

[@skyhightabby]

I've nannied in many different houses, and I now have two children of my own (I am 26, they 4 and 2). My mom was also in childcare for years. It is nothing new, for generations parents have chosen not to acknowledge their children. It is just SO EASY now! Everything is made available to pass them off. The behavior and attitudes of the kids are reflective of the adults they model after. It is simply a cultural fallout. Many Americans are just surviving for the sake of doing it, no other initiative. For what? "We didn't choose this life" entitled and self-pitying.

[@mamabairds]

I'm 36 and have 3 kids (8,7,7) I am not the toughest and I let them run over me more than I should, but never out and about or with someone else. I heard the other day that my generation are easy on their kids because they are afraid to traumatize them. We had overly strict parents that constantly reminded us the world doesn't revolve around us and that we don't matter, so now we over corrected with our kids and are too easy on them. I'm working on fixing MY bad habits I started with my kids and turning it into GOOD habits with way less tech and more outside play! Thank you for these videos to help remind parents what is important and to think of the long game, not the day to day.

[@BanishedMom]

Boomer here - I was a single mom with 5 kids. The first time the kids had a fit in the store, I took my cart up front, apologized to the checkout folks, and took the kids home with no groceries. They didn't do it again, even the littlest ones. No yelling, no smacking just a threat and a follow- through.

[@martawalkowiak773]

Exactly! Great parenting :-) I can totally see myself doing that as a mom. Kids need to know their boundaries and to be set straight :-) I was raised in a strict home, but no way are my kids going to be disrespectful, unruly or impolite.

[@rachelschrock7036]

Millennial mom here with an 8 and 4 year old. I did the same thing with my 4 year old when she was 3. Scooped her up and left. Never had to do that again second time.

[@agm97ga]

@OK_Boomer412 I did the same thing with my kids at a Walmart. I never had trouble with them in a store after that.

[@christinas.8980]

Yes key point....the follow through. I hear people constantly making threats and then never following through

[@jocelyn8252]

Thank you for sharing I might even use this in the future with my kids. No yelling no belittling but teaching a lesson of “it’s not all gonna go your way”

[@ohyesitsjackies]

My 7yo daughter is in 1st grade, and she has been consistently getting awards/rewards and praise for being respectful and kind to kids and teachers alike. She’s slightly behind with her speech diction (she didn’t speak until 2yo, so it’s to be expected), but the fact that she’s being a genuinely good person while outside of my watch makes me and my hub so proud

[@Lemonkelptree]

My daughter is 2 and just barely starting to talk and count, but she’s such a sweet heart, she says sorry and thank you, she listens when I tell her no too , I don’t have to be mean either, sometimes I have have to be more stern with my vocal range but she’s so polite and I hope it stays that way

[@declaracionespolemicas]

The fact that they even need to resort to give out rewards to a child for displaying basic decency it's actually so sad tbh 💀 your child's behavior shouldn't be the exception, it should be the rule. I never misbehaved in school and was always respectful, never got an award for it. That sounds insane to me.

[@Jo_mommah]

I’m so nervous about this. I’ve kept my son home and schooled him for 3 years now and I’m going to have to send him to school next year. I hope he can stay strong in the foundation I’ve helped him build over the past 8 years. These kids are wild and my heart is heavy thinking about him being exposed to all of it.

[@LeBronyaJames]

The fact that they’re giving rewards for BASIC human decency is terrifying. The education system is destroying the next generation.

[@saturn6563]

My little sister is 3 going on 4 and she can’t speak or use the toilet yet, time to watch this madness. Anyway, congratulations on being a good parent! Way too many of those are lacking. And no, parents of IPad kids don’t count.

[@shilatskalimba1823]

My sister is 9 years old. About a year ago she decided she didn’t want her smartphone anymore, because it made her angry. She’s also very smart(learnt how to read on her own), and being against tiktok, and just generally knows what’s good for her. I fr salute her, she’s a different breed.

[@FV-le3ip]

That’s amazing that she was able to recognize the detrimental effects the phone was having on her at her age. I notice that too sometimes. Gets you all tightened up and more tense and pained and impatient.

[@FV-le3ip]

The world would be a better place if we were all so in tune with what affects us adversely-and positivity.

[@shilatskalimba1823]

@@FV-le3ip fr

[@FreeAmerica2024]

Ahh this makes me happy. There’s some out there!!! 🙏🙏 I hope she wears off on all of her friends. ❤️

[@timothyruggles3031]

Tell her go to school listen to the teacher but get her facts from books a good source world books ecylkilpeda or goggle everything just to see what comes up

[@_CIRCLEDSTAR_]

Yesterday I was at the doctor’s office for my sister then I saw a 7 year old kid yelling and being bratty at her mom,and her mom didn’t yell at her at all.The 7 year old CHILD literally said “get my phone!” And her phone was the newest one,bigger than mine. Like..dude..I’m sorry your child’s spoiled..And bratty..Even her little brother was less bratty and could read better than her..Keep in mind, her brother is 4.😭🙏

[@whatalovelyplant]

I'm currently in 8th grade and let me just say the direction we’re going in is not good. In my school alone there's been 2 incidents where 7th graders have come to school drunk, several (I think like 3/4?) times were girls nudes were leaked, a bathrooms being shut down over kids being caught having sex and drugs, another bathroom being shut down over kids using it as a vape room, an elderly teacher being pushed down stairs on purpose and about 14ish fights. Want to know the craziest part? all this happened this school year so far,so about in the span of about 2 months. The people here are insufferable, people here think everything revolves around them and it drives me mad. You can tell how many were actually disciplined right and who were not. Something I've noticed is nowadays you're either not disciplined at all or disciplined to a level where you can’t breathe without your parents. I'm talking kids yelling at teachers, throwing desks around and getting physical with our vice principal when their phone gets taken. However on the contrary kids are so sheltered to the point their parents are setting them up for failure. Like they aren’t taught any practical social skills or about violence, which is especially bad considering the area we live in. I’m constantly being complimented over being able to do basic things. Knowing how to cook, speaking politely and not cursing, not being stuck to my phone, helping my parents and really any basic thing. It’s truly sad seeing how the people around me are glued and depend on their phones like it’s what's giving them life. Parents no longer want to parent it seems. I was in elementary school about a year ago. Since my elementary school goes from kinder to 6th, I remember seeing the kindergarteners bring ipads to school and on the playground since many tried sneaking them in. In my school we had this thing where when you got to 6th grade your class would buddy-up with a 2nd grade class. Essentially you would spend time with a 2nd grader for about an hour a week. I got the sweetest little 2nd grader yet she seemed so surprised I was actually willing to play and spend time with her. She mentioned how her siblings were always on the tv and how busy her mom was. If this doesn’t sum up life nowadays I don't know what does. Parents no longer parenting, kids depending on electronics, kids and teens who are well behaved being treated like a rare sighting of some extinct animal, it is genuinely heartbreaking. Please for the love of god only have children if you're willing to do what it takes to be a parent and not just throw a tablet at them.

[@hannahlittle6546]

You are very well spoken for your age. It's such a shame you have to go through this at school.

[@yuhitsloreley]

Same here, I hope these kids and parents will have a come to Jesus soon.

[@JiraiyaSama86]

It seems that some parents either forgot or don't understand how much of a duty they have. More and more, I see boundaries being eroded, as if there's no good reason for the boundaries to be there in the first place.

[@jhawkkw87]

If you look at all the children who misbehave, you'll find that an overwhelming majority of them likely come from a single mother household. The children who are well behaved likely are from a two parent household. Father's have traditionally been the disciplinarian; so when they're absent or have little minimal time with their children, this is often the result.

[@ajdemonheart3928]

This is depressing, and I’m not that much older than you. I’m only 23 and feel like I haven’t been out of school that long, and yet this sounds nothing like the environment I grew up in. I had a really nice public school, diverse, everyone followed the rules for the most part, a fight was an extremely rare sighting, more rare than a bomb threat. At this point, I can’t decide if I wanna have kids, to try to make some decent humans in society, or skip having kids because of the inevitable influence they’ll have around them in class, with friends, and online. I know a lot of people say it, but I’d so much rather go tech free, give them a burner and see how much better they fare. A little tv is one thing, but bingeing and swiping on ten second videos for hours is rotting their brains, more than SpongeBob ever did for my brothers or I.

[@michellehartman2657]

I feel for the ballet teacher. I’m 57 and when I was in ballet class if I had told my teacher I wasn’t going to do anything she told me to do, I’m pretty sure she would have escorted me to the lobby and sent me home with a check refunding my tuition.

[@princessmarlena1359]

I thought ballet in exchange for free tuition for the adult dance classes. The kids I had were really I’ll behaved. I was able to blackmail them into behaving when I was made casting director for the recital…until one dance mom found out and had me fired as well as kicked out of the school.

[@TEWMUCH]

Exactly. Ballet is such an organized environment. Like that behavior is not tolerated. I don't remember a problem like this ever in all my years of dance classes from KY, to MS, to IL. ballet was fun for us girls. U were happy to do what the teacher told u to. It's an extra-curricular activity.!!! The behavior is so bizarre!

[@YasuTaniina]

​@@TEWMUCHI'm 33, and would never had dared to go against a teacher. But I have to say, ballet was not fun for me. My teacher made fun of me for being dyslexic multiple times. I couldn't make friends in the class because she basically encouraged the girls to also make fun of me. I quit ballet at 13 because I was literally being bullied by the teacher.

[@TEWMUCH]

@@YasuTaniina I can see that. I've heard negative ballet stories too. I'm sorry you were bullied by an adult.

[@thetruepatriot7733]

My piano teacher would have done the same thing...minus the refund! Then my parents would have made me do chores until I paid them back for the money they lost!! 😂

[@manettepierce2225]

I have taught for 34 years. Children have become an accessory for many adults. They rather record their child’s bad behavior for TikTok than parent. Parenting is hard work. Many expect their child’s teacher to take care of behavior issues as well as teach skills required for each grade level. Teachers are getting burned out after just a few years in the classroom.

[@dede4004]

Thank you.....TRUTH. We've experienced this. My husband and daughter are both educators. My daughter works in an elementary school, and the kindergarteners are coming in (and have been) and have not been potty trained. And she has to tell them "We can't change diapers or pull ups in school". At 5 years old, this is unthinkable. The college students my husband was teaching were writing single page papers, with no capitals or punctuation, and no sentence structure.....nothing. as seniors in college. THIS IS UNHEARD OF Thank God he retired this year, because it's too bad at this point. The seniors in HS, are now at a working knowledge level of a 5th grader or less. (That's the average) and Biden, the politicians and the MSM have been LYING TO US for YEARS NOW. This HAS TO STOP......and we have to take BACK our country before they destroy it ALL. We're almost there now. And, the Department of Education Must be disbanded and gotten rid of. They are the LARGEST funder for the Democrat party in the entire country, and have done MORE damage to the education system than folks could EVER imagine.

[@LiamColeman-Halla-yq2jl]

Are you single?

[@arielthemermaid3576]

⁠@@dede4004I just graduated from college and the bad grammar point is so true. In every one of my classes, the professor would have us write discussion posts and respond to each other, but the spelling and grammar was so bad in 90%+ of the posts that I couldn’t even respond. They were completely unintelligible. Mind you, this was online, so they had spell checker, autocorrect, Grammarly, etc. The few times where we had to switch papers and correct each other’s essays, I was the only one who ever took it seriously, and well over half the time I spent correcting was just on the grammar and spelling alone. Of course, the other time spent wasn’t much better. They have no understanding of sentence structure, basic essay layout, thesis, conclusion, supporting evidence, etc. They basically just write giant single-paragraph papers of incoherent, casual-speech-type ramblings.

[@SolidKore]

The amount of times I've heard I'm bored/depressed, I want a kid is one of the very many reasons I'm happily single with lakefront property. I knew my generation was fucked, but the adults then only saw it as being negative and hateful. Now we have politicians aged over 80.

[@fmor2779]

I am a millennial, hearing that woman say "I need to ask millennials why are your kids so awful" I saw myself, childless and work oriented and most of my friends, also millennials are like me and we took that decission based on the reality that we weren't going to be good enough parents. And I though "Sure, us millennials. It's the "you guys are lazy" by the boomers all over again". But hey, hers is not my experience, I can't truly judge her in the end.

[@ranayyyyy]

as someone whos admittedly pretty sheltered, i was in absolute horror when the new girl at school told stories of people vaping and doing drugs in the bathroom like she was talking about her weekend

[@idkman356]

I'm a teacher and LORD the amount of parents who shouldn't be allowed to have kids is baffling to me. Every day I have to teach kids basic things like how to spell 'color' or 'I love you'...I wish I was joking. I've tried time and time again to try to get these kids interested in things like singing or art or literally anything that isn't TikTok or their iPad, but when I try to bring this up I always get met with backlash. I have never been more scared in my life than I am in my class. Just today I had a kid (2nd grader) try to hit me... HIT ME. Of course not every kid is horrible for example, I have 2 good kids who might I add are the ONLY 2 students whose parents AREN'T millennials and they are angels. They listen and actually do what i say.

[@mq1847]

@bhante1345it’s color in the US

[@whelkpeopleofdoom]

Ugh, I am so sorry for my generation's parenting, or lack thereof. I generally like being a millennial but millennial parents are making me embarrassed to be one. You'll be glad to know I don't have kids and just talked with my doctor about getting sterilized! Lol

[@pinkdiamond1847]

Lol you can't even spell colour

[@SailorMoonkin]

@@pinkdiamond1847lol you can't even tell what country someone is from by the way they spell something

[@kittensliketoplay]

wait ok my class can be crazy but my class mates would never try to hit a teacher omg

[@Katharine888]

I would be so pissed if I paid for ballet lessons and my kid wasn't following the teacher. I would be extra pissed if other kids were preventing my kid from learning.

[@poogissploogis]

My thoughts exactly! My first instinct would be to trust the teacher's word, not my toddler

[@theirishsaint4324]

That’s my thing when my daughter doesn’t pay attention to her teacher. I freaking pay her you need to pay attention.

[@michelleraborn6886]

Right? My kid acted like that, she'd be in DEEP 💩

[@Matilda-y]

Yes, it’s not fair to the “good” kids. They deserve better.

[@danalittleton4884]

You know mom only takes her to ballet classes so she can take pictures and brag that her daughter is taking ballet. It's not to teach the daughter anything

[@richardgosztyla697]

I separated with my girlfriend 2 weeks ago because her daughter would be on the computer playing games and literally screaming for about 15 hours straight. She started doing it about 3 years ago, and every time I tried to impose restrictions on her time on the computer I was told not to cause problems. She was 12 when this started and now she has graduated to constantly swearing. Saying the F word all the time. I was a soldier for 20 years and I’m no stranger to swearing, but this was on another level. I finally had enough and I said to my girlfriend, “you and your ex husband have caused this, because you refuse to say no!!”. So I packed my things and left. Parents today just refuse to discipline their children and as a result, that have no idea that when they enter the real world, they’re going to be in for a rude shock.

[@iamnotafraid]

I decided a while back that my son wasn't having any more TV time at all. He's a toddler. I instead took him to the store and bought him some toys so that he can play like a normal kid instead of sitting and staring at the TV for entertainment. He did already have toys, but many didn't really appeal to him, and of course kids prefer the TV over playing with their toys anyway, I thought getting him some new ones would be a good idea. He's been doing a lot better, still throws a little tantrum once in a while but I suppose that's normal for little kids, plus it's nowhere near as bad. Before, he threw a really bad tantrum and was throwing stuff around and screaming and I lost it. I spanked him and he looked at me and said "I'm sorry daddy" in the most pathetic way. I'm a combat veteran myself and it just about broke my damn heart. I think it's pretty evident that, especially at a young age, watching TV too much is not good. I was always with him to make sure he wasn't watching anything bad, sometimes I'd even watch some of his favorite shows with him, but I swear that shit is like a drug for kids. My wife and I tried limiting how much TV he would watch in a day, but it still seems to put them in a bad mood. Better to do away with it entirely until they're a bit older at least.

[@trueblueclue]

Don't date single moms

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Man, you should have left sooner. Any mom that doesn't kick their child offline when they start getting angry and teach them ways to stay calm and how to regulate their emotions is NOT PARENTING! But I'm glad you eventuay made it out of there. I do understand why it took you long though..I know it isn't that simple and we all have our reasons for loyalty and wanting better for the people we consider to be our family, but the mom clearly had no respect for you as a man and as a stepfather. I'm sorry you went through that and I'm sure it still affects you to this day because it's not easy trying so long to be a family and grow. Especially in today's world! I hope you can find somebody who deserves you, and in the meantime just focus on yourself and your own growth!

[@moonstruck8245]

I think a small, set amount of tv time - time with certain shows, like Bluey or something you know is safe and decent - is fine for small kids, but they shouldn't be growing up in front of a screen - whether a tablet, phone or TV, and certainly not with unsupervised access to who knows what. My old roommate's nephew knows and says a lot of HORRIBLE things and his mom is always like "I have no idea where he heard that!" Well, maybe if you PAID ATTENTION TO WHAT HE'S DOING ON THAT TABLET HE HAS HAD LITERALLY SINCE BIRTH BECAUSE YOU USED IT AS A BABY MONITOR, you'd know!@@iamnotafraid

[@iamnotafraid]

@@moonstruck8245 Fantastic, that's your opinion, I have my own as well. And I'm pretty sure I said this already, but my son never had unlimited/unrestricted access to the TV/internet. I was also always nearby monitoring what was playing. I have no idea why you're getting so angry when you're the one who's jumping to conclusions.

[@Connor_merkle]

If I ever told a teacher they were not my mom/dad so I don't have to listen to them. I don't even want to know what my dad would've done to me

[@gnericgnome4214]

exactly. the rule used to be, you get in trouble at school, you get in trouble again when you get home.

[@SqueakTheSquirrel]

I saw a lady in Costco with 2 kids in her cart. One of the kids reached for a 2nd cart nearby and almost smashed her own fingers. The girl putting her purchases in the cart told the kids not to do that and the mom went off. She was saying don't yell at my kids, don't you tell them what to do but the only one yelling and out of line was mom. I would have thanked the girl for saving my kids from smashing his fingers.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

This, a lot of parents do that.

[@zekezeikitsune2339]

It shows how daft and incapable of critical thought the mom is. I wonder what grade level education the mom would fall in. (Probably not high school level)

[@dapperfan44]

​@@hopperbopperMore of this. All of this.

[@marthastrayton]

“ you not my mum, you cannot tell me what to do!” Well they do not listen to their parents either! And the parents have no guidance how to teach their kids either! Then also, parents do not stand together on discipline either, which is very important! Parent, sorry but discipline starts with you!!

[@SliceofLifeHousewife]

My two youngest kids got in a tiff with each other while I was putting groceries on the check out belt yesterday. They were in the little ride along basket. The lady behind me told them to straighten up. I appreciated that.

[@mk_wizard]

This is why I firmly believe discipline is love. And no, I don't mean spanking. I don't believe in violence. I mean time outs, no TV, going home if you won't behave in public or waiting in the car with one of your parents until they've finished their errands, and no treat or dessert if you won't behave. And it starts from when your kid is a toddler. From BEFORE they go to school. Kids need to learn boundaries and the concept of rules from early on.

[@DPRK_Best_Korea]

Idk, nothing quite reinforced my old man's authority like a good ol can of whip-ass.

[@JaxonElzinga]

A lack of spankings is exactly why kids are out of control. The actual fuck does a time out do? "Oh, I have to go sit in this spot for five minutes?" big fucking whoop. Kids don't have the ability to actually reflect in such a short timespan. No kid is capable of understanding why they were put in timeout or why they're not getting dessert. Even if you tell them the reason, they'll never fully understand. All they can comprehend is "you're a meanie who hates me." That's literally it. Only tough love with a firm smack to the bottom will instill that what they did was wrong, it'll teach them to never repeat certain behaviors. Pain. Is. A. Teacher.

[@JaxonElzinga]

But it tells them they're doing wrong nonetheless. And at that point, a reason doesn't really matter. And as I said before, basically, kids don't have the ability to fully comprehend the fact that they can do any wrong.@@parfaitheart

[@rheinhartsilvento2576]

​@parfaitheart That's such a non-sequitur. Or a really worn out pious wishful-thinking sentence that was never true. Why do you so staunchly believe it's an either/or situation? SPANK and also EXPLAIN. EXPLAIN and also SPANK. There. Solved it for you.

[@oggieogglethorpe6931]

@@JaxonElzingaask people who went to prison.

[@nighthawk4251]

My wife is pregnant with our first child and a video like this just further motivates me to make sure my kid is a well disciplined, respectful member of society.

[@nightmarerex2035]

i think if aduly says do something, the kid can report the adult to school for abuse? like diddent allow candy = starving nowadays.

[@nighthawk4251]

@@nightmarerex2035 my wife worked for the DCPP for a few years, we know how that whole system works.

[@olgabushak2942]

Best advice I can give you is SPEND time w your kid. Everyday play with them for 30 minutes (minimal) . Don't just give them the iPad or youtube. Stay calm but firm when correcting a behavior. But #1 emotional well being of a child is being there and being interested in what they are doing starting from birth.

[@nighthawk4251]

@@olgabushak2942 ❤️ thank you for the advice

[@cincydooley]

It’s not hard. Books over electronics. Read to them. Easy.

[@NinmahMa]

You said it, “mismanaged by their parents”. Spot On!

[@notoriousrjg9257]

Teacher here. Those videos are absolutely right. I lasted at my first placement fresh out of college for a single year because the behavior was out of control. In that single school year I was threatened so many times I lost count, one kid threatened to "take me out" on my way to the car, principal gave him a single day of ALC (which to those not in the know is the new ISS), and he was right back in my room the next day. I was punched in the face breaking up a fight, I've been shoved, had a chair thrown at me, had my wallet stolen out of my bag, water poured on my desk, not to mention the sheer number of names I've been called, names that if a grown man called me on the street, we'd have a scrap. All of that on top of every bell, seeing 25 phones in the face of 25 kids, kids by the way who would rather die or lose a limb than put their phone away for 5 minutes. Oh, and if you threaten to take it....OOOOOOOOOOOOH boy, now you've done it. I literally had a freshman girl yell in my face about how she's gonna beat my ass if I try to take her phone away. I'm 32 years old, I'm 6'1 covered in tattoos, bald headed with a pointy beard, and she was MAYBE 5ft tall. Kids today are out of control. I know every generation seems to say that about the previous, but in this case, it's absolutely true. I'm a millennial, and I'm lucky enough to now teach at the HS I graduated from, which is a pretty good school, and I'd never even attempt to act the way these kids act. There's no severe consequences because admins are afraid of getting sued, parents don't give a shit and when they do its either because their precious baby couldn't have been wrong or, my favorite, when the put on the concerned act and promise their kid will straighten up, but they never do. We pass kids who can't even read at an appropriate level because if we fail them en masse, the school district might lose funding. There's no standard for excellence anymore. Kids act a fool, constantly in trouble? Well, he has a rough home life. Kids never show up to first bell? Well the parent has a hard time getting them to school, so we let it go. Kids use appalling language? Well, that's just how they talk now, so pick your battles. I'm all for inclusivity, making our schools a welcoming space (instead of a safe space) and providing extra help and time when they're needed, but while doing that can we also maybe take some time make sure the kids can read and write? Because we're graduating an entire generation who doesn't know even the most basic shit

[@banannnabobby6969]

I must ask this question. What state do you live in?

[@cannibalcatgirl]

this. I had to quit after a year and a half. 99 percent of the kids just yelled over my instruction, threw things at me, cussed me out and broke my supplies for 8 hours a day every day. It was torture and the stress has impacted my health to this day. there is no repricussion for poor behavior anymore so they see no point in behaving.

[@HosCreates]

that's a shit show ! It would have never gone down in my high school I gradated from in '07!

[@steviepaterson5951]

I used to be a teacher and the sad thing is that nothing of what you said is exaggerated or misleading in any way. I agree 100%. It’s just sad, maybe us millennials and older gen z will see how bad it is and make a change with their own families.

[@lordsathariel4384]

I'm a early gen z my school experience was basically watching a live Re enactment of Lord of the flies combined with Gladiator my second year of high school someone did me over to the point i needed ice packs and to spend the rest of the day with the nurse then going home the student who did it his punishment was taking a Learning assistant so those few members of staff who assist kids with disabilities during their lessons and having the student who did me in have that learning assistant permanently for the rest of their schooling to watch him. So this kid did me in and his Punishment was taking a assistant permanently from the disabled portion of my year because the school didn't want to expel him and my third year one of his friends had a disagreement with him and one of them ended up with a broken arm and still no one was expelled or truly disciplined which got worse because obviously they kept escalating as they realised there was no real punishment and even with the city council representatives asking the heads of the school directly what actions were taken no one had a answer when the truth of the situation is all these clowns are scared of being sued or just bad press.

[@nicolexarena]

Everyone has Gentle Parenting confused with Passive Parenting. Gentle parenting; you are still implementing authority and discipline but by doing it without screaming, manipulating or laying hands on your child. You can still be authoritative while giving respect to your child who you’re demanding respect from. Passive parenting is letting them do what they want, when they want, no repercussions, authority or boundaries. Also I’m a millennial with an 18 month old and she knows 200 words already so I think it really depends on the child and the parenting.

[@HosCreates]

100% 👏👏👏

[@lolarichter9415]

THIS. So many people don't understand that gentle parenting is just teaching by using emotional intelligence

[@just_a_silly_weenie008]

I think one example of gentle parenting is Bluey. It's gentle, but the parents explain to the kids what they've done wrong, and the show tells us what's wrong/right. I'm a little obsessed with it😅

[@gnericgnome4214]

BS

[@TheFakeBriskeh]

Both ineffective forms of parenting

[@ShootingStarStudio]

My mom teaches middle school. Last year, she was teaching at a school in a low income area. She had an 8th grade girl who dealt drugs in the bathroom. One day, she watched that girl beat up another girl so bad, the girl she assaulted was in the hospital overnight with a concussion, and it took 3 teachers, including my mom, to break up the fight if I remember correctly. The assaulter’s friends didn’t do anything to stop her, they filmed the assault and posted it on social media. My mom met with the victim’s mom the next morning. She was in tears. Couple years ago, she had a kid who refused to listen. Little 6th grader who wore maybe 5 pounds of crap on her eyelashes, fake tan, bleached hair. When she dared to discipline the kid, her grandmother came in and yelled at her in the hallway. That girl’s grandmother wasn’t the only one who yelled at my mom. One kid’s mom had the balls to do it in front of a classroom full of kids. She’s since moved to a much better area, but my heart hurts for those kids and that school because they’re all screwed.

[@itsninjamo752]

There was a altercation the town over from me between two Boyd’s over a girl. A boy pulled out a knife and stabbed the other boy and they filmed it they didn’t call the cops, they didn’t try to get help from the stores that were around the parking lot this happened in. They then posted the video of this boy dying to social media. So horrible, such a scary world to raise children in. I left NY bc I just couldn’t imagine raising my kids there we are in NC and it definitely seems a little better here.

[@TEWMUCH]

Two examples of why im not having children. Don't want my child to have to be around these evil demon children.

[@PurpleGold.]

I think motherhood , teaching and educating is essential and so valuable but underrated and undervalued. The hard work that goes into teaching. It’s so exhausting yet so needed but so under appreciated by society. It’s a paradox.

[@raifthemad]

@@PurpleGold. I bet you a 1000 of your murican currency, that vast majority of those kids come from single mother households.

[@angelagay3792]

My mother us a retired Special Education teacher. Her first year teaching where we live,( we moved to a very small rural town in Southeastern NC from Charlotte NC when she got remarried) she was deliberately stabbed in her thigh with a pencil by a student and she was pregnant at the time as well! My mom has had 2 broken arms, several broken toes, and she's even been groped by male students that were 3-5 times her size.(My mom is about 5'2" at 135lbs) My mother dealt with a lot of bullshit from students and parents, however she's one of the few adults that had a genuine passion and desire to be a Special Education teacher; she obviously wasn't there for the paycheck, I believe before she retired with 30+ years in the public school system she was making roughly $50k-$55k a year. Teachers have to deal with a lot that is not part of the job they are already under paid for!

[@Lordobsidian630]

I work at a restaurant for 8 years now, unfortunately it’s a family friendly restaurant. And I hated it ever since I started, as unfortunately I had no choice. But there are times whenever I served food to families, their kids would either blown up like a nuclear or Run around the damn restaurant floor while the place was very busy only because they aren’t allowed to have their tablets back. The parents would sometimes ignore us while placing the dishes in front of them, no thank yous or just a thanks….. at one point there was one kid who wouldn’t sit down and ran over the place. To where I would stare at the parent until they knowledge me and yell their child back at the table. They felt embarrassed after I stared down on them….

[@LisaSK-m5b]

A hundred years ago, we had kids not going to school, not getting an education. Now most of our kids go to school but they're not getting an education anyway.

[@DrNo64]

Illiteracy hasn't been a problem in literally a hundred years

[@El_chara]

I'm gonna be honest here, I'm from a very expensive highschool, it's a private highschool and the cost to even get in these classes are like half of what my parents pay for the house every month. Everything I learn is from home, not even at school. I learned how to talk in english all by myself because my english teacher does not care, I had to give up on history classes because the techer doesn't care and I simply do not have the time to learn everything myself, I had to give up on spanish because the teacher doesn't care. The only teacher that cares about stuff is the french teacher because she is the one who created this school. I'm from France if you ask so yeah it's not just the US

[@alyssah8756]

Oh and they died of the flu

[@eadecamp]

@@El_chara Do your parents know what a waste of time and money that school is?

[@laglandeuse5973]

​​@@El_charaRah ouais chaud, c'est grave, tes darons savent au moins? histoire d'éviter de se faire arnaquer d'avantage

[@namoisalt]

As an teenager who is in their last year in middle school almost every single kid I’ve known has done drugs, and I’m not just talking about weed. I’m talking about opiates. The attention span of 99% of the kids in my classes cannot even read a paragraph without complaining about it. Some of them don’t even know how to do basic adding because it takes “ too much motivation” it’s really really sad and I definitely think a major play is technology. Please do never let your kid get raised on technology, and given them a device under the age of 13 at least 😑 it destroys their attention span, innocence, personality, and introduces them into topics that can cause mental illness. And also it’s your job as a parent to actually parent your kids and not throw them to a device. Do not have kids if you’re not gonna raise your kids and I think it’s as simple as that.

[@terri639]

Perfectly said. Parents need to actually be a parent. It's hard work and it takes A LOT of energy. I get it...life is hard, work is hard, and people are exhausted. However, raising a kid "right" shouldn't be optional. You chose to have the child...you can't just check out when it gets hard. Honestly, I feel bad for the kids. They are going to grow up and be in for a rude awakening when they become adults. They also don't understand how behaving in those ways can be harmful and can stunt them well into adulthood. It's a shame honestly.

[@HansDampf-bt8jy]

I can only hope there are more people in your generation like you, seems like your parents did their job right too. I agree especially about the technology part, mostly. It's okay even for small kids, but in small degrees. I'm 43 now, when I was a kid I watched TV or played console games (NES back in my day), but my parents only allowed me to do that for 1 hour max per day and only made an exception every now and then when we were watching a movie together.

[@robertsmall1657]

You are unbelievably wise for a teenager. You should be extremely proud of yourself to be able to perceive these things and evaluate them reasonably and fairly. I would be willing to bet you do very well in life!!!

[@lookingglass9966]

When I was in school, we didn't have middle school, it was junior high school, meaning we was mixed in with high school kids & it was a mix of some was coming to school high & others were not, but it was a different time back then because PARENTS would whoop that butt back in the day & Teachers & Principal's didn't take 💩 off the students either. Maybe that's what it needs to go back to & stop the Political Correctness 🤔

[@akwasiampofo5565]

Opiates in middle school?…damn that’s just sad

[@stephaniewhitehead2881]

If I had DARED to talk back to a teacher at school, not only would my mom say I was in the wrong, she would demonstrate JUST how wrong I was when we got back home!

[@mexyo539]

If I just dare to talk back to a teacher my parents will be pissed off and say to the teacher that she/he can punish me for it.

[@keashablew7728]

That’s what I do

[@mackenziej8980]

I feel like gen z was more responsibly raised beacuse most were gen x babies and we have be come self aware becuase of our early social devolopment with social media. I saying this as an almost gen alpha but eased as an early gen z 💀

[@jonasroom578]

DA BELT

[@JackieAnderson17]

I mean, that ain’t ideal either. Glad my mom wasn’t like that. I mean teachers can be assholes, bullies even. That is what I experienced in 1st grade. I mean if an adult name called, screamed at me like that now, lets say they are a boss, I could file serious shit with HR on the grounds of harassment. We like to talk about rights. You know who really has no rights? Same people not allowed to vote. Kids. Parents can full well know their kid is right but are told you have to stand firm, be the infallible ruler.

[@8onnie8oyz]

The high school is brainrot, too. Students always swearing and starting drama. Anyone who calls them out is "bad" and anyone who enables the behavior is "good". They know things they shouldn't learn. I know teens are teens, but they're still too immature to understand how screwed they are.

[@CopiousDoinksLLC]

The problem is deeper than just electronic devices and drugs. We've created a society where parents aren't capable of raising their own children anymore because they're either too busy trying to make enough money to survive or they're the product of terrible upbringings themselves.

[@Slammaa]

i think a huge part that not enough people talk about is how american suburban culture leads to isolation. people need to be able to go outside and meet people, not have to rely on a car to get to and from places and only have social experiences at occasional pre-planned events. giant sprawling suburbs with nothing to do outside leads children to rely on technology for entertainment the majority of the time

[@riseofazrael]

@@Slammaa Suburbs wouldn't even be that terrible IF they actually build 3rd places for kids to go and socialize like playgrounds and skate parks and stuff like that but old NIMBY's never want that stuff in their neighborhoods. I grew up in a suburb that had a skate park, various playgrounds, outdoor basketball court. All of those things were eventually removed from that neighborhood I grew up in. When I go and visit my parents who still live there it is nothing but houses and roads. They even cut down a bunch of the trees along the streets.

[@Slammaa]

@@riseofazrael its not enough just to have places for kids, suburbs need places for adults to have a life too. things like a library, cafe, small local grocery, or community center. sometimes churches fill that gap in suburbs, but its not a good solution though as not everyone wants to be religious or part of the same religion

[@exonymousprime]

Not just that, regardless of how much you were paid as a teacher back in the day, you did your job to the best of your abilities, or if you were caught not doing it, you lost it. This whole excuse that their not being paid enough to put in the effort that was given to them by their teachers is BS and pure laziness. Part of the problem to, is all this woke and leftest BS that's going on to make schools and almost everywhere a worse off place, and it's trying to divide everyone and everything as well

[@okzoomer5728]

Oligarchs need a new generation of unruly, self centered [cannot organize], and uneducated serfs who will obey them and given them their lives in exchange for fake-ass validation and some bread. Parents being overworked and overserfed to enrich a ruling class is another aspect of design by the oligarchs that is meant to make sure these kids have no freedom.

[@atouchofserenity]

The "no child left behind act" started a lot of this. This "pass them on, pass them on pass them on" thing was complained about when I was in elementary school. I'm 31. That part isn't new. However, I am curious about how many of these parents can't monitor their children and are leaving it to the school system because they can't afford rent without working 2-3 jobs. I have no children, have a full time job at an above minimum wage pay and still can't afford rent in a place I feel safe, so those of you with kids? Good luck.

[@aeri_taylors-version]

yeah, the problem’s much more complex than that. sometimes a household needs double income so both parents work. it’s easier said than done to deal with kids after a long day of maybe doing 2-3 shifts just to keep their family afloat. it’s heartbreaking, but i can understand why these parents give their kids ipads, games, etc. so they can have quiet time

[@echo1654]

Don't bring "no child left behind" into this there is so many complicated problems with the whole thing I have learning disabilities and was very much left behind the entire system is messed up

[@DarkAngel2512]

Yep. Im never having kids and cant afford to buy. Thats life for most ppl these days

[@Petra44YT]

Teaching all children together is so wrong! Those with special needs need to go to a special school, such as a school for the blind or a school for the deaf. Those who are brighter need to be taught more complicated subjects or they will get bored. And the more average ones may need to be taught at a somewhat slower pace. But WITHOUT holding everyone else back with them.

[@DarkAngel2512]

@@Petra44YT back in the 80s we had a few special kids in our class and they joined our classes but also had seperate ones. So I think integrating them can be a good idea for them and us. But as long as they dont miss out on the proper education.

[@ZachKimzey]

Growing up, my mom was a teacher, and she always said one of the worst things. The educational system had put in was the no Child left behind policy. We’re seeing effects of that now. Realistically, we just need to start failing kids again, and not allowing them to advance to the next grade, before adults start looking like Jethro Beaudine trying to do math.

[@gardenjoy5223]

No child left behind turned into 'no child moving forward' somehow. Before a few had difficulties and needed extra time. Now they all have difficulties...

[@organicgreenpeace6360]

Dont worry, when the next gen starts doing math wrong as adults, the woke crowd will just say its "their interpretation" of math and people need to be more open minded about it or they're haters

[@bleusky897]

Thank you. Yes, that’s what it was the …no child left behind. I forgot it had a name. I recently interjected into a conversation my family was having about people graduating HS not knowing basic skills ,how, back in the days school would hold kids back…now, they just pass them. My family…pikachu face….😂

[@lizard-breathOG]

Yes the no child left behind act was probably one of the worst ideas for our education system in modern US times. Idk maybe it’s even the worst idea that’s ever gone through 🤣

[@JohnnyTromboner]

Yup "no child left behind" turned into "pass everyone even if they can't read so we can keep our funding" real quickly

[@CACKLEWC]

I was raised by stern parents who were NEVER lazy with teaching me manners and making sure I got the school help I needed. My own CLASSMATES are ruining my learning experience and I am having trouble focusing in school because every 5 minutes the teacher has to tell the class to stop talking. I am ashamed to be apart of this generation. We have genuinely good teachers in our school and half the kids can barely comprehend a basic question. It’s not the education system it’s the kids. I was homeschooled during the pandemic and it helped me stay ahead.

[@louisem.3829]

This is totally on the parents. It’s also cultural. We filled our daughter’s room with books and read to her almost from the day she was born. My husband spent many a night next to her crib reading to her. Yet when a fellow teacher had a baby I literally had to give her a box of baby books to get her reading with her little one. If you value education, you will pass it on.

[@ioanacrisan3684]

Beautiful! I had a 7 months old and in the first months I was buying collections of books and I was so excited to read them to her, I still can't wait for the time she'll actually understand more things. Sometimes a day gets skipped but so far it's one of my favourite activities!

[@filmjusticewarrior]

Great job! I think your daughter will definitely have a head start which will help. Not saying their won't be challenges, but be patient and keep it up and she should do well.

[@P1NKXD]

As a kid myself, my mom would take me to the library a lot. Now as a teenager, I’m awesome at English, reading, and history. Please keep doing what your doing.

[@P1NKXD]

I meant when I was a little kid lol

[@louisem.3829]

@@filmjusticewarrior she’s 17 now, a senior who never brings home anything lower than A/B grades. Works Monday thru Friday at an extended day academy to pay for her own expenses. Today she’s more of an artist than a reader but academically she is still very strong in Language Arts. Our home is still filled with books and just the other day we were packing up her childhood books to clear out our guest room for family … we had a great time together and reminisced over our favorite books and she filled two boxes with her favorites to save for her own children one day.

[@jenniferroberts6498]

Get kids addicted to tech, discourage parents from disciplining, and make sure the kids are getting dumber seems like a great way to make sure the population is easy to control when they become adults.

[@ZLK132]

they have already done it with adults

[@soulserenade.kcn1992]

@@ZLK132not all adults. 😅

[@xZinnie]

They've been on this program for over two decades. Fucking obviously it's working

[@ZLK132]

@@soulserenade.kcn1992 certainly not all but a good part

[@justacursedlego286]

Everything's going according to my plan... ...AND NOBODY WILL BE ABLE TO STOP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (devious laughter)

[@kellyalto2996]

As a teacher I’m carrying these kids. I teach fourth grade and they STRUGGLE. It feels like the millennial parents don’t care. I reach out, I give suggestions, I give referrals for resources, and nothing from the parents. It feels up to me to try to get these kids to learn, it feels so unsupported from parents.

[@sauceysinister7924]

We pray for teachers like you. God bless you.

[@laces.7960]

I appreciate teachers like you! Its refreshing to have a teacher inform me of issues and abilitys.

[@june-cz1cw]

Well I guess you are glad millennials are less likely to have kids and alot are putting a massive amount of thought into the ramifications of having kids

[@songnverse]

I teach fourth too and they are SO BEHIND. I feel like I’m in a battle everyday and NO ONE CARES! Parents actually tell me- I’m too busy. One parent said that’s what I (as a teacher) signed up for . I can’t do this much longer. I hate my life right now.

[@declaracionespolemicas]

​@@june-cz1cw Unfortunately, I bet the ones that are doing that would be 10 times more fit to be parents than the ones who are currently having children or have them. Smart people are opting out of having kids, what does that leave us with? Dumb people reproducing by the masses, which means our next generation will be raised by dumbasses.

[@katelyn492]

i just want to say that as a 19 year old, i didn't have a phone until I was 13 (only because I was involved in a lot of school sports and stuff like that). When I did get a phone, it was heavily restricted and I could only be on certain apps for a certain amount of time. Because of this, I did get made fun of (even by close friends) because I was "the last one in the class" that didn't have a phone, but also for being "too innocent/uncultured". Though I may have suffered temporarily, I am way better off because of the lack of technology in my household. I don't understand why parents of this new generation would ever allow their young children to be on technology in the first place.

[@birdofthegrape]

I was so appalled by my classmates being so fluent in internet culture. My best freind had a Facebook account underage and a KZbin channel and everything that was social media back then. Even when I got a tablet I never reached the level of internet culturing as my class did all I did was play some minecraft and watch box fort and craft videos (And actually do the crafts or use them for ideas to make other crafts. Like i was tryna make solar pannels from scratch at 10 years old) I had no idea what all the memes my class was all into were because my time was limited.

[@ngarcia103]

I'm a millennial (31 to be exact). If a teacher asked me to do something, and I ever said "you're not my mom/dad" like that, my actual mom and dad would have BEYOND punished me for doing so (and I would have 100% deserved it).

[@jamesplymire5342]

💯

[@johnnyculkin4432]

Teachers don't get the support they need from most admins too.

[@dreamcage1801]

My pop would have lightened me up

[@shep9231]

I'm in the same boat as you. only my father was british army drill instructor. Hooo boy. the skies fallin down if he got mad!

[@de341f6]

You would have straight up gotten slapped in the face as a kid if you did that.

[@elishevak.8637]

I've been teaching middle school for more than 30 years. There are a number of reasons for what is happening. Parents are spoiled themselves. They don't like to discipline their kids and they'd rather bribe their kids so the kids live in a world where they always get what they want. Parents behave this way because they are selfish and they don't have spiritual goals. Raising children must be seen as the responsibility to make the world a better place by doing our best to make sure the next generation has values.

[@victorcates9330]

I'd expect that parents with inflated sense of selves might see their children as glowing extensions of them rather than as a reflection of all their personal flaws. However, even if you had well meaning parents, they might be too busy to notice their children's lack of skills. Or, if the homework is online, it may not be as simple as "show me the book". I'd assume the process of taking 15 minutes to check on your child's education would mean that you'd notice if their grade was A but they couldn't spell their own name and convey the notion that education was important. Some people I know work in education. They have various complaints. Recently one of them mentioned that he was used as a substitute. When he asked the kids where they were up to, I think he said they refused to say. So he asked the good kids and they said "please don't make trouble for us". Other complaints i've heard have been that people in admin were so data fixated (and hadn't taught in decades) that doing your job and failing a child might be seen as messing with test scores. If memory serves, there have been instances of widespread teacher fraud. That's gotta speak to incentives, right?

[@BusinessSkrub]

It's extra funny because you're the ones that made them like that..... If you're in your 50s-60s, the millennials are YOUR kids, so any failures on their part were failures on your part first. But heaven forbid a Gen X or boomer take responsibility for the chaos they've caused society lmfao

[@Liannabelle8]

​@@victorcates9330I think one of the biggest issues is that we're currently in a generation of parents who are bombarded with "you have childhood trauma and need to heal" videos. They don't raise their kids with the idea that they're raising a new them, they're still caught up trying to blame someone for the issues they have. We're the most distracted generation of parents in the sense that we have technology at our fingertips constantly to disconnect from whatever situation we're in, even if we don't intent to. I see kids, now, who are screaming for boundaries and connection but they're met with the opposite: parents who feel guilty all the time and aren't capable of connecting with anything that isn't behind their screen. Their kids are being raised the same, "you need to feel connected? Here's a video game where you can talk to people all over the world". We've changed, as a whole, but what children need hasn't. I wish parents today would realize that there's never going to be anything on their phone that's more important than the tiny beautiful humans they created standing in front of them asking for love, connection and confident leadership.

[@AlwaysAlluren]

Highschooler here, these kids are AWFUL. My school is already in a not so great area, but they’ve stolen teachers cars/leys more then once, refuse to go to class and are super loud in the halls, curse at teachers, disrespect teachers, attack teachers, argue back and forth, and are overall just awful to deal with. The bathrooms and hallways often smell like weed, nobody can stay off their phone (a bit guilty of this myself, but I do put it away without needing to be told unlike some people who’d rather go head to head with the teacher just doing their job), they don’t flush the toilet and are always loitering in the bathrooms taking up stalls. I can’t wait to graduate and go college with people who actually WANT to learn. I’m really sick of this. Don’t even get me started on the little kids on my school bus, fighting, making a mess, never sitting down in a moving vehicle after being told multiple times, threatening our drivers, and so. much. sex talk! It’s gross to hear from these little kids, but they’re so loud my headphones aren’t enough 😢.

[@SlowMonoxide]

Quick warning from someone who thought similarly in high school... college/university isn't any better. You think that surely people who literally paid to go there and learn would be focused on that, but... in my experience there's only a very slightly higher rate of that than in public school. Additionally, you tend to think that the quality of education will be at least somewhat proportional to your expense, but that is also mostly illusory. Higher cost generally translates to better/nicer school facilities and services, but rarely seems to impact actual education. It's going to continue to be just as much work to get through an adult society made of these same people as it has been to get through as a minor. Sounds like you're doing your best so far, keep it up, and remember that not *literally* everyone else is happily chasing the lowest common denominator, even though it often feels that way.

[@buettarrr]

my highschool isn't as bad, but the drug problems are definitely there. Its to the point there are usually so many girls in the bathroom vaping between periods that you can't use the bathroom. kids even vape DURING CLASS and on the bus.

[@IWADsarecool]

and i thought i had it rough...

[@JACOBDAVID-d7t]

To be honest I don’t want to learn either

[@burnedbrainz]

​@@SlowMonoxide maybe if I get into Harvard it'll be better 😭

[@giatunon9962]

It's parents using IPad n their phone to babysit them.

[@bloom2663]

I’m Gen Z, I work in retail and some parents allow their kids to run around destroying things consistently. It’s so disappointing to see the disregard they have, both parents and their children.

[@justinsime3786]

Your generation is literally running around trying to destroy our country

[@Lisstarine]

Omg this! I work at a makeup store and people do not give a flying fu** what their kids do to product or how they behave. It’s deplorable.

[@natalijasmirnova7589]

Darling, I used to work in retail 20 years ago and your generation was running around destroying things all the same. Had a boy once, who hit his head on the table so hard he needed stitches, his mum was trying things on, and dad did not care about him running around the store and even shouted at one of my colleagues for gently telling him to calm the child down. Shortly after the incident, GAP outlet UK got round displays tables 🤣🤣

[@coltonsmith3724]

@@natalijasmirnova7589darling, F off if you don’t think it’s worse now

[@TenFalconsMusic]

In most cases, they bring their kids into public so they destroy other people's stuff & get them tired so that when they get home, they don't have enough energy to wreak havoc at home.

[@Megbeabonds]

So much of this rings true. I'm a millennial with a 3rd grader. My son has struggled to find friends because so many kids in his class are loud and disrespectful. My state has around a 50% reading proficiency level. I just met with the teacher and she is frustrated by the school district as they tie her hands on what she is able to do. She can't fail any of the kids and they don't even assign homework because it's considered unfair to some families. (That is the schools words, not mine) I will admit my son started 1st grade a bit behind on reading, but we have worked hard at reading at home and going to the library and he now reads on a 5th grade level. Reading with your kids is such a small thing that can make a huge impact later on.

[@blueredyoyo]

Your son didn’t have to know how to read in first grade: that’s the main skill taught in that year! Don’t beat yourself up over that (if you are). Well done at getting him up to such a high level! 🙌 Do you have friends with nice kids who go to that school? Maybe you could all hang out together.

[@Parakeetfriend4215]

California by any chance?

[@frogfell3126]

There’s only so much parenting can do. At this point schools and the system are failing children as well as their mental health.

[@stacieadams4356]

Good Job Mama ❤

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

@@blueredyoyoyes he does. I wrote my first essay in kindergarten. It was 3 sentences, horribly spelled and very simple. But the fact I had to write an essay means I had to know how to read. OP did a good job with their kid teaching them to read above their grade level and should be proud but don’t spew lies about how we don’t need to know how to read in kindergarten

[@evelyn23435]

Im a gymnastics coach, I work with kids ages 3-12. Yes theres behavioral issues, but whats not as talked about is kids are becoming slower, weaker, and uncoordinated. Obviously theres some kids that arent as naturally strong or athletic as others. But I regularly see kids coming into our gym who cant jump, cant walk on a floor beam, cant stand on one foot, cant stand on their hands even with wall support. I feel so bad when they get frustrated about not being able to do certain skills in class because I know it’ll take years of physical rehabilitation (or whatever it’s called) for them to be just below average in terms of physical fitness.

[@DarkSentinel52]

damn they have worse physical condition than me who can barely run 100 meters

[@trer2834]

This is the part that makes me scream. I was a teacher prepandemic. The issues were there then. Now having my son who has OT issues for specific reasons, I’m being told…all the kids are behind…. It is insane to me. Public school is broken. Our social systems in the US are garbage. It is such a shame that humans have children and don’t invest in them.

[@hat6131]

I can’t stand on my hands but I can do all the other things

[@whelkpeopleofdoom]

I'm sorry but the "can't jump" thing is so ridiculous that it's actually making me laugh. Like how can you not jump, kid?? You can't JUMP? Hold an iPad above their heads and see what happens lmao

[@angeduardoforeromero]

Haha, this sounds like anyone could take gringolandia over very easily if they wanted to 😅🤣

[@mc1h3it]

Kids having withdrawal symptoms in school bc they can't use phone/tablet (drugs) is something I don't see no one talk about. Thank you for pointing it out 💯

[@Rosa-et1cv]

I remember being so annoyed by my parents’ strict no internet policy until high school. Now that I’m an adult, I’m so grateful for it and will be adopting that policy when I have kids.

[@bp2458]

Thanks for sharing this is encouraging.

[@Demonetization_Symbol]

I'm grateful to be raised with internet.

[@Demonetization_Symbol]

​@@bp2458it is discouraging

[@cejayidc]

I feel the exact same way (and I'm 23, so there's going to be a couple of years before I become a parent) but I'm scared that in these times where everyone and everything is so addicted to and dependent on electricity and Internet, it's going to be really difficult to keep them away from it because even if you do, they're going to go over to their friends or neighbours houses and do all of those things anyway and then they'll cry about wanting phones and ipads because everyone else does. I think the best thing you can do to make it work is to yourself stay away from phones and Ipad and stuff like that in their presence if you can, because kids copy more than you think. I wish you the best and good luck 😅😊

[@robcubed9557]

My parents were super restrictive with regards to TV and video games when I was growing up in the 90’s. I used to resent them for this. Now that I’m older, I understand why they did this but I still think they went to an extreme.

[@carouselpigeon6686]

Gen Alpha is one of the scariest groups of kids I’ve ever seen. I’m a girl in my mid-teens and I have relatively short hair due to an old phase I had. I was at my 9 y/o cousin’s birthday party a few weeks ago and she had some of her friends there. To say that I was tormented would be an understatement. They broke multiple rules (eating on the couch, staying up until around 2 a.m., etc.) and were altogether rude. When they weren’t laughing to the point of nausea, they were either scrolling on their phones or staring at me. I heard a girl ask my cousin if I was actually a girl because my hair made me look ugly. It didn’t hurt my feelings or anything, but it got me thinking. If they’re that disrespectful to a random teenager, then how disrespectful are they to their parents or teachers? I appreciate you bringing up this topic because it is a genuine problem nowadays. Happy New Year!

[@cursedstarflight]

i get the question asking whether you are a girl from that kid, one of my cousins used to have short hair around 8 years ago, i was like 6 back then and was dumb enough to ask her if she was a boy, since in my dumb little 6 yrs old brain i thought that long hair=girl and short hair=boy, and i was confused by the fact that my mum told me that she was my 表姐(female older cousin in chinese), so i think that child asking could be somewhat understood as of curiosity, (still doesnt excuse them for their rude behaviors, and i do think they couldve asked you instead of your cousin), tho i expected a 9yrs old to be somewhat smarter than 6yrs old me

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

I'm so glad I'm an Xennial (Gen X and Millennial border). I would be horrified to be a part of Gen Z or Gen A.

[@blizzard1198]

This is 100% the parents fault they don't know what they don't know how to raise kids🤦

[@ImOutsideYourHouse]

@@blizzard1198fr

[@carouselpigeon6686]

@@cursedstarflight I’d understand if she was just asking, but she called me ugly. That makes me think she didn’t actually want to know.

[@caitlinsnowfrost8244]

My mom was *very* gentle with parenting me, and I'd still never dream of doing the things these kids are doing. It's a crude comparison, but I think the reason kids get away with this is the same reason why smaller dogs become so aggressive. Because they're small and cute, they're never *actually* reprimanded for inappropriate behavior (this is why dog trainers say that you need to remember that a Pomeranian biting you *still means the same thing* as a pitbull biting you.)

[@belaaacs]

You are right

[@Jsa460]

Yep. It's not about being nasty or harsh. My parents were very lenient with me at times because I knew my boundaries and would generally stick to them. It's about setting boundaries though and being consistent about enforcing them and having low tolerance for deliberate naughtiness and disrespect and correcting it when it happens rather than tolerating or rewarding it. It sounds bad, but the dog training comparison actually is a good one and I think a lot of parents could actually learn a lot from taking a basic dog obedience class. You train dogs well by being clear and consistent. You don't get angry, you don't let their cuteness allow them to get away with stuff that snowballs into problems later. You set boundaries and apply them in the same way each time so they understand what is ok and what isn't. That's not that different to dealing with unwanted behaviour in a child just applied in a slightly different way. I've been asked so many times how my dog is so well behaved and it's really not rocket science, it's just being consistent. I really do think for some reason there has been a knowledge gap increasing on how to raise kids or train animals happen in recent years although I don't quite understand why. As I'm writing this, I can hear a young kid (sounds like they're probably about 6-ish) screaming at his mother in the street *facepalm*. Scarily on topic.

[@cool-4999]

@@Jsa460 True and sad.

[@just_a_silly_weenie008]

Yeah, same with me. You don't always need to hit or scream (raising voices when necessary is fine), just try and teach them the best you can. One example is Bluey, I wanna be like that one day, but I'm only a teenager rn😅

[@pracs3377]

The kids can’t be that cute😅 Take the iPad!

[@filmedbyclaraandcam]

I'm a sixth grader at my school, and there is this kid in my class that got caught smoking, vaping, stealing alcohol, and even got a girl pregnant. if that doesn't tell you anything, it should.

[@NoopyP]

Frenchie here. The situation in France is very somber as well. My mom is a teacher. She's very patient but a lot of the time she hates her work because 90% of the kids are vulgar, more than some are violent, and she can barely try to correct their bad behaviors because if she says the slightest thing the kid will tell the parents and the parents will come for her throat. Dark times we live in.

[@Liza-gd7jf]

I really think this is a effect of capitalism

[@uikmnhj4me]

As a fellow dance teacher, can confirm. Not only do they not listen, I’ve had kids as young as 8 doing VERY sexual dance movements in class that made me super uncomfortable and disturbed the other children. Acting out the WAP video while singing the lyrics, for example. One time an 11yo full on began simulating sex in the center of the room. I had to stop her, separate her from the group, and her parents said they were upset about it, but clearly she’s getting that through media under their watch so idk if they really care or were just embarrassed.

[@JiraiyaSama86]

Five or six years back, maybe more, I heard from my fellow staff members that during a school show, where other schools brought their kids to put on a show, one school(or was it a few others? I forgot) did a rendition of Work Work Work Work Work. And they were elementary school students!

[@athomewiththemrs9410]

That’s horrifying!! My 8 year old son and I were at the park a couple months ago. A 6 year old got mad at him and started calling him a mother fucker. The dad did nothing.

[@sanderkoekkoek9866]

I wish you were kidding but i know you tell the trueth....

[@David-vt9hr]

Would you say this is a result of kids having easy access to the Internet

[@CLEABEL]

My son plays soccer, and the coach corrected one kid because he was nasty to the other kids on the team, and the kids' dad acted like the coach had committed child abuse for correcting his son. At the very next practice, that same boy hauled off and punched a girl for passing the ball to someone else instead of him. He was kicked off the team on the spot. The dad blamed the coach and said if he taught the girl how to pass properly, then she wouldn't have gotten punched. It was crazy.

[@thecreationist8230]

As an elementary teacher, I'd say the biggest problem is the environments these kids are being exposed to. Kids are sponges. Naturally they learn to mimic the behaviors of others. With so many kids growing up with tiktok and unlimited screen time, these kids are being exposed to so much more that is outside of their age range. I have so many little ones who say things and do things they've been exposed to. Some of them don't truly realize what they are saying/doing but increasingly it feels like a lot of them do. I have 9 year olds telling their classmates to 'get on your knees and suck it' and saying how they are going to 'clap their cheeks'. It's so heartbreaking. I wish I knew how to protect these children. They may seem like 'monsters' but society is their Frankenstein/creator.

[@ashleyserene6846]

😮😮

[@SpocksBabeSonyaSB]

I don’t even know what to say. WOW!!! 😮

[@eadecamp]

If you've never heard of Dr. Spock, do some research on his child care books. Punishing a child would ruin their self esteem. Give in to whatever your child wants. I believe that was a curse that has evolved with every generation since the boomers. The Dr. Spock legacy has turned into a monster.

[@makesgoodcoffee6031]

That is upsetting. i Agree with your thoughts.

[@daniellecoulter1879]

I hope your are referring these kids to child services. Their parents are clearly neglecting and/or abusing them.

[@Hope.q]

I’m 19 and I’ve never heard of pound town😳

[@daniellegardner1658]

I have known one of my elementary school teachers most of my life, and when I spoke to her about this recently she said “20 years ago, my day was 95% teaching, 5% dealing with distractions and behavioral issues, now my day is 80% dealing with distractions and behavioral issues and only 20% teaching because parents aren’t parenting their children anymore” it’s sad.

[@songnverse]

I spend about 90% of my time disciplining. When I taught overseas the last two years, I spent the last year disciplining less than 5% of the time.

[@declaracionespolemicas]

I've been saying all this time, the root of the problem is bad parenting, but everytime someone brings it up, parents are like "you're not allowed to judge or have a say in how I raise my child" or "you don't get to have an opinion if you're not a parent yourself" 🙄 At this point, I think nothing pisses me off more than bad parenting. I may not have a kid myself, but I have good parents who raised me properly and that's all the knowledge I need.

[@donnie96]

I quit teaching because I kept getting reprimanded for using "too harsh a tone" with the students that kicked me in the shins, regularly threatened to beat me, and bullied their classmates. We're already living in clown world, just imagine the hellscape we'll be in when today's kids become adults.

[@Mori1000]

That's mostly happening or much more strongly in the USA tho, in my country this is also getting worse than before but not near that horrible level USA is in...

[@robinsonfamily222]

I believe you 100%. I was on a long-term substitute assignment at an elementary school and left early. A student was around 8 and started fighting an admin, throwing everything, the other students were acting up, and my aide raised his voice at them to stop it. The left wing principal quickly told my aide to not raise his voice. Literally that was her only concern in that moment while another kid was destroying the whole school and we had to move the students out of the area. The dad was called up to the school and all they did was pat the kid on the back. No consequences for that behavior. And special needs is no excuse because even the students in my special ed class didn't behave that way.

[@wakinglife7065]

Imagine when they start having children! They’re illiterate teaching child illiteracy

[@Fromanotherearth]

I doubt these kids will live to be adults if the keep going the way they are.

[@ardius9777]

The fuck? How else are you supposed to get them to listen then? The long ruler which they banned?

[@cdcdogs4961]

20 yrs ago, when my son was in kindergarten, I volunteered to help chaperone over 30, 5 & 6 yr olds for a trip to the zoo. I was in charge of six little boys, one of them was all over the place, had a hard time following directions, including staying off the rhino enclosure. He got tired of me, telling him what to do and finally said, “I don’t have to listen to you, you’re not my mom”. 😮 I responded with, “you’re lucky I’m not your mother, because I would spank your ass!” He gave me a look of fear, and then behaved perfectly the rest of the trip. 🤫😅😂

[@gandalfthewhite.5245]

Oh my mother would have said worse 😂 Good discipline

[@cdcdogs4961]

@@gandalfthewhite.5245 👏🏼🤣✌🏼😎

[@TheBetrunken]

My mother words would be "If you want to lose your teeth, say that again!".

[@cdcdogs4961]

IDK about you guys, but I still duck whenever someone raises their hand to fast. 🥴😱🤣🤣🤣

[@soulserenade.kcn1992]

They gave you six little boys???? Oh hell no! Good thing you knew what to do 😅

[@Cozylittlemenace]

My younger sister has been complaining ever since she sent to public middle school that suddenly she's the smartest in class. She used to go to private school, where all the kids were behaved, but since she has a few learning disadvantages like ADHD, she was always pretty behind all the other kids. Once a kid LITERALLY THREW A CHAIR AT HER ENGLISH TEACHER, AND THE CHAIR KNOCKED OUT THE DAMN TEACHER, AND THE KID WAS ONLY SUSPENDED FOR A DAY. The kid also wasn't punished by their mom period. No whooping. No time-out, not even being grounded. Like I can understand being a little more sympathetic as a parent, and not wanting to physically punish your kids with spanking, but at that point it crosses the line. In comparision, one time i was little and told somebody who i thought was my friend a joke, something along the lines of 'jump off a cliff' sarcastically and I was sent to the princaples office and scolded by my mom for it, recieving a one week grounding. Idk why you read this far. Go seek help if you did ❤ /j

[@cassidygallagher766]

This all started with my generation(I’m 30). The children of my generation are “trophy kids” they were always told they could never do wrong and got rewarded for everything. Bad kids got a pizza party for not getting suspended for a week while honor roll kids got a piece of paper with no celebration. Bad behavior is rewarded much more than good behavior these days, and now the law is starting to back it up.

[@L-zh2cs]

There used to be rewards for the kids at my school for not biting anyone for a week. Meanwhile the only things honor roll kids get are bragging rights.

[@waltermh111]

I agree completely and I'm in my 40s. But I was always an aware and reflective person even as a teenager. So I was going into the 90s into my teens and observing the changing culture. A lot of what happened in the 2000s started by the mid 90s And it's been downhill ever since. Of course that was also the time when they started with all the participation trophies. Parents were becoming more and more gentle with their kids and the trend was be their best friend. Fathers weren't allowed to discipline anymore and schools weren't allowed to discipline anymore. A lot of things were culminating at that point. Things have only gotten worse every decade since.

[@khasualentertainment6734]

Trophy kids started in 1990. Cause remember as a kid parents being hella mad about everyone winning

[@jd6446]

I’m 30 too and i remember George Carlin talking about those “trophy kids” when i was 15 or something. Look at how those trophy kids have raised their kids🙃🥲

[@steph678]

I wasnt raised that way im 33

[@soulserenade.kcn1992]

This is a parenting, a tech, and an overexposure to so much inappropriate media issue. It’s absolutely horrible!!!! Cheers to parents who don’t let society and TV raise their children. WE SEE YOU! ❤

[@AWZool]

Agree, using phones and TV as a babysitter and attention sink is a very comfortable trend, and I'd argue it's a very very harmful way of keeping the kids occupied. Eg: whenever we're at the table, I don't let the kids watch tv or play on the phone - they should be focusing on the food, and BEHAVE themselves without having to have access to multimedia. Harder, but that's the way they're supposed to eat. Then I got couch-parents tell me I let my kids stay tech-illiterate because they only get max 1.5h TV at evenings and 1h PS3 per week..

[@loveall24]

Also too much positivity, these kids aren't being disciplined they aren't having to work for what they want

[@jessicaricker921]

This is a big reason why I'm moving to 165 acre cabin in West Virginia next month. My almost 3 year old son will be able to grow up in nature and learn naturally (along with school). He will not have tablets and phones and TV time will be limited. Children need to learn to entertain themselves without screens, and how to be patient in boring situations. I can't wait to go out in nature with him so we can learn first hand. I can't wait to do activities with him like ATV riding, fishing, taking care of animals, the orchard and the like. I feel like kids these days don't really have a true childhood because they waste it all on screens.

[@carmendevine7244]

I withdrew my kids from the school when they were in 2nd and 3rd grade because as someone who had worked hard to parent well I saw all my work being undermined by the influence of the badly behaved kids. It's so unfair to good kids to be in the chaotic environment of a contemporary classroom, and I have come to the conclusion after homeschooling for 7 years now that schools are an unnatural and damaging environment, and that the family is a healthy social environment. People ask how homeschool kids will be "socialized" and the answer is, in a healthy supportive way, not in a Lord of the Flies way.

[@gardenjoy5223]

As someone, who went to grade school in the 70s, I can testify that schools were disciplined and nice environments to be in and learn. In no way they were an 'unnatural and damaging' environment. That this is the case now, says a lot about the decisions society as a whole has made about what is and what is not acceptable behavior.

[@anastasiya256]

Yeah, schools are simulating the socialization of a gang of bandit kids….

[@kaseycorliss7282]

As a mom getting ready to put my first kid in pre k this is terrifying

[@lilosnow1759]

Kids are not being raised correctly because of the collapse of the nuclear family, blame the feminists

[@lordsathariel4384]

in my school i kept my head down and just wanted to work while listening to everything that was happening most years of my school were a mix of Lord of the flies and unstable kids backstabbing each other at the end of year nine i just said to my mother that I'm not going back to that clown show because I'm not learning anything now because a single teacher cannot teach if 20 out of 30 students are being disruptive so i might as well focus on my own interests and learning from home i think the real issue is a lot of families are not made aware of how bad most schools are in till they get that breakthrough moment of realisation. So year 10 and forwards i had a combination of home-schooling on science maths and English while also learning the fields of knowledge that would actually be useful for what i wanted to do in life and the 4 years i had home-schooled i learned far more then in the ones i was dealing with flying monkey's.

[@blackpearl246]

At 5 I was listening to Bach, Chopin, I knew my 12 time tables backwards and I would read any book put in front of me. I just attempted to watch Pound Town, I got the part where she described her body part colours. I'm so lost. At 5 I was asking my Gran which Hymn she wanted to sing next. Sigh. We need a global exorcism.

[@alexritchie4586]

I'm from England and I'm truly terrified by the amount of young parents, particularly dads, who dress and talk to their very young children like they're their mate down the pub.

[@DarkAngel2512]

I saw one three year old dressed in street wear and walking with a swagger and attitude. And its like how has he learnt that. He wasnt having a playful moment. Its how he was walking down the street infront of his dad which was also late at night when clubs were open on the street the clubs are. It just looked sad. The influence so young about trying to look cool. Shouldnt even be in a 3 year olds head

[@hannaheye]

I like it when parents talk to their kids that way, except they still PROVIDE LEADERSHIP and discipline. You CAN do both. And do NOT let their kids make decisions they are too young to make, etc.

[@historymajor26]

Exactly, childhood is literally vanishing and being replaced by a direct pipeline from birth to adulthood. As soon as these kids get access to social media they want to act like adults (in every negative way possible).

[@tomby_]

I had a classmate who called a teacher a whore, and the whole class cheered for him. My ears almost bled for the whole lesson as everyone just did random stuff, like throwing chairs and fighting each other. And this is a daily occorance.

[@toxicrow5535]

@@tomby_ Daaamn,and I thought I had the most horrible class imaginable back in school considering many teachers left the job specifically because of my class,but my class seemingly was nothing compared to yours. This is not even just bad at that point,it's genuinely terryfying.

[@maryssaann]

I was just in dollar general to get a few household things just this afternoon. My almost four year old was super happy and helpful until I told him he couldn’t have a Bluey themed balloon. Just kept telling him no and we don’t get things by demanding/screaming for them. We left with him crying but I wore that like a badge of honor. The older lady checking us out was telling me that she was happy to see a mom stick to her guns and not give in to her child. He eventually calmed down and we had the same conversation that happens a lot with kids that age: we use manners and respect toward people who care for us and ask politely. I feel the first girl. “Kids these days”. Literally. ETA: my kids do go to public school for various reasons. But I do make them read and they do have reading assigned to them from teachers in my school district. Plus I have workbooks for my kids in subjects like history, science and math. We do workbook activities during the week and especially daily during the summer when they’re out of school and purposely a grade ahead. I wanted to be a teacher so I guess my drive to educate is still there, but for my children now. Parents don’t want to parent anymore. We’re in a “soft parenting” generation now and it’s NOT working.

[@tuduluoo7408]

Soft parenting is oftentimes just not parenting. People don't want to take care of their kids. They'd have to sacrifice their own free time. It's much easier to give into tantrums and set up an iPad.

[@Crisjola]

I was going to say, “soft parenting” isn’t the problem, and OP, I’d class how you handled your boy as “soft parenting.” You didn’t smack him to get him to stop demanding the balloon, or threaten to, in public, beat him hard enough to not walk when you got home. I saw _that_ parenting “style” with a kid who is… probably 16 now? Maybe 14? He was young ten years ago and ran rough shod over literally everyone except his mother who beat him, literally, into submission. And I don’t believe that’s a good, or healthy way to parent (same reason why “blanket training” is ethically wrong in my book.) I am truly at a loss for why most people who don’t seem to _want_ their kid(s) have them. I also won’t be really surprised if little kids end up getting hurt by untrained dogs, because if a parent isn’t remotely guiding their young child, you know the dog they got two years before they had kids wasn’t properly trained or socialized. >.>;

[@timothyruggles3031]

I took a child sykcolage course part was how to raise a brat during a argument you give in you teach the child to act up Never give in and YOU ARE NOT THEIR FRIEND YOU ARE THE PERANTS END OF THAT...

[@bustaarse8190]

more parents now days are spending more time in bars and sitting at home sucking down the wine

[@maryssaann]

@@Crisjola well soft parenting now is just giving in. I’m certainly not going to beat my child in front of strangers, but spanking at the last resort isn’t above my husband and I. Spanking isn’t child abuse and I’ll never see it that way. I was spanked and I’d never think my parents abused my sibling and I for using that method. Just because I carted him away doesn’t mean I didn’t find a way to make it a teachable moment. But my kids know that they’ll be in trouble for acting up. Look up “gentle parenting”. You’ll get a real kick

[@crowqueen3687]

My daughter confirms this to me regularly. She is in high school, and tells me about how wild these kids are. We are in a school district known for being "classy" too.

[@imhis1stlove]

i wouldnt survive if I was a teenager these days 😢😢 i feel bad for the kids in school

[@Greta-e2f5n]

Maybe not make english optional in school

[@francesbrown5116]

Lazy parents .

[@elkmation]

If I was a parent I wouldn’t give my kids I pads or phones until they are old enough to be responsible for them

[@Ella_Vande]

Millennial mother to three gen alpha kids here! There’s a reason I homeschool my kids. My son was falling behind in reading. The pandemic hit when he was in kindergarten, and he never caught up to grade level. The whole class was behind, so I pulled him out last year. His reading and comprehension skills have improved dramatically. We read every day. Between him and his siblings… if I’m not making food, I’m reading. To them, with them, listening to them read out loud, weekly trips to the library to pick out new books to read for fun… it’s a lot, but it’s worth it.

[@JohnPingley]

Bless you for being the exception to the rule.

[@maiafay]

Can we clone you and put you in charge of the rest of the little brats? Lol

[@faithbaasch4415]

Yes! I see that too with Gen Alfa and I as well am looking into homeschooling my 2 children and I'm a millennial mom as well!! My son is 2 grade levels behind I just got his state test results back. 😢

[@HeyyaEyah]

I'm so proud of you. May you inspire many others to do the same.

[@kristiannaline6067]

God bless you! ❤ Your children will be well educated and ready to face the world. Reading is soooo important. Not just for comprehension purposes and every day tasks, but also fiction reading because fiction creates empathy. Fiction gives us the opportunity to step into someone else's shoes and to see the world from another point-of-view.

[@krystalpowell8714]

I get called "that mom" for not allowing ipads and limiting screen time, very supervised on what they are allowed to watch, not letting them get away with anything behavior wise, and homeschool. But guess what? My kids know how to engage in the world, love learning and know how to interact appropriately with others. I refuse to let my kids to become electronic addicted zombies.

[@bp2458]

Same but I can see the difference in behavior and life skills.

[@bp2458]

Keep modeling some will take notice and start asking questions. I'm always full of joy when the blinders fall.

[@Demonetization_Symbol]

Really? Because the internet improved my mental health!

[@rebeccashields9626]

Yeah I think the screens play a huge role in this. It affects your concentration, attention, reward centers of your brain so much. Also I think the lack of free play outside running around like we got as kids.

[@chronischgeheilt]

​@@Demonetization_Symbol she isn't saying they don't get internet access. But there's a too much and too early for everything.

[@supereee7]

I’m a former educator. It would shock most people to know that the majority of students don’t know how to read or have basic life skills.

[@rolytnz]

Scary t hing is, it does not shock me.

[@Damon-qt3fw]

They do not know how to think or solve basic problems.

[@JayeAye-t7o]

Not surprising...I tutor, and sometimes the teacher just throws the students on a tutoring platform and then complains when the student gets a "good tutor" which will help that one student get ahead of the class...teachers aren't getting a free pass as I've seen them be the problem, but, yes, I have come across the entitled brats, too, with no skill and all braindead mouth...

[@JessaGrace091887]

It's not only in US.

[@ivangalic999]

Didnt educate them well.

[@katandbaldi]

One of my family members is a preschool teacher and she said that kids in her class have trouble playing during recess and don’t use their imaginations. She said one of her students wanted to be on his iPad for indoor recess and she said no, so instead of playing with the blocks, other kids, or anything….he just sat at his desk and did NOTHING! Indoor recess was an absolute ball when I was in elementary school! We wrote books, played store, built Legos, played board games, read, drew and colored, and even made up math worksheets for each their to do. It’s so sad these children are relying on a screen for entertainment 😢

[@FarHowling]

They've been set up by their parents to be reliant on screens. Caring for children is exhausting, so a lot of parents turn on easy mode and hand their toddlers an iPad to keep them entertained. I'm already horrified to send my kids to school once they're old enough because they might become ostracized for not growing up glued to TikTok...

[@justmel1395]

My daughter didn't get to go to preschool because of covid, so she learned at home. She's in 3rd grade now, and we're still complementing her education at home, not only because we like it and that was always the plan, but because her class is so behind they still can't read, write, add or subtract. Mind you, we're following the curriculum at home and we're working on fractions and division, we're starting on decimals, but at school, they're still doing additions and subtractions. She's also the only one of her classmates who does not own a cellphone. I once asked her how her classmates message each other if they can't read or write, she said they only send voice messages, which makes sense. Still, idk why it has gotten to a point where what I considered normal parenting growing up, has now made me the most strict parent in my kid's school. So much so that other parents talk about me in front of their kids and their kids then repeat what they say to my daughter. She has told me they say i am controlling and abusive towards her. That I put too much pressure on her having good grades. The latest "issue" they had with me is that I do her hair in different styles each day (because she loves it and asks me to). According to their opinion, I'm raising her to he vain and superficial. They somehow have an issue with her looking put together? They have an issue with her striving to do well academically, with her eating healthy, having a bed time, etc. Things that i thought were the standard for raising happy, healthy children are now considered abusive and they feel the need to voice their concerns for your child, while theirs are raised by the internet.

[@Rapidhedgehoganimationz]

Honestly, those people telling you you're abusive are probably jealous that you're actually parenting your kid and not neglecting her like they are to their own kids.

[@justmel1395]

@@Rapidhedgehoganimationz thank you but I honestly think they actually believe they're in the right, specially because they all agree with and validate each other. Funny, my child is new to this school. I recently transfered her because her class in her old school was also very behind and this school had better scores. I will let her finish the school year, but 4th grade I'm considering homeschool. I do believe the social aspect of on campus school is important for kids her age, so I'm also looking at private schools, but that's also a whole other can of worms.

[@Violet-qf8dr]

Everything seems so backwards and upside down these days. It sounds like you're an amazing parent.

[@valoxsen6003]

Ugh, I'm pregnant with my first child and I am so worried about how he/she will navigate school and peers because of things like this. My husband and I were both high-achieving students when we were in school, and we expect our child to be the same, but what kind of academic hellscape will our child have to go through where the curriculum is several grades behind what it should be? Not to mention there are so many crappy parents raising crappy kids, and I'm not sure the social aspect will even be worth putting my kid in public school. Also, fuck those other parents criticizing you for actually parenting your daughter. They're just mad that your daughter will grow up to be successful while their neglected offspring will be straight out of Idiocracy.

[@justmel1395]

@@valoxsen6003 honestly, I've been looking into all girls private schools, but most of them start at 5th grade so I'll have to deal with what's left of this year and probably the next. I wouldn't mind homeschooling but she's into sports so I'd really like for her to still have that experience. It's going to be expensive though, but sending her to public school is like sending her to the most basic form of daycare. The whole thing has been just a really disappointing experience. Also, congrats on your pregnancy. Your baby might not be out yet, but you're already being a good parent by thinking about his/her education and planning ahead. I wish you the best of luck with it all and hey! Maybe our kids will be the ones to make a difference.

[@LeisLife388]

As a 16 year old kid Ive been homeschooled since the first grade and I thank God and my parents for it. Being homeschooled allowed my parents to be close with me and to RAISE me and teach me their values. I didn't get a computer till I was 11 and it was only for school. I didn't get an Ipad till I was 13 and I didn't get a phone till I turned 16. Nowadays youtube, tiktok and whatever social media is the baby sitter. Instead of parents spending quality time with their kids they let their child watch hours of youtube to keep them busy. As a child I couldn't wait till they taught me to read. I read books for hours and they taught me valuable things and my parents would ask me about the books I was reading and I could tell them the things I learned or the stories I read. What is a child who spends all their time on social media gonna say when you ask them what they learned??? Drugs, New Cuss words, Inappropriate music, and an addiction to all of it. Stop letting your kids be raised by strangers on the internet. Spend quality time with them. Todays society is just breaking up families.

[@KyleT1990]

I have 3 children under 4 years old and I will be raising them this way and pray they recognize the benefits of it like you have.

[@raquelperez3970]

Proud of you kid. Kudos to your parents. Please keep learning and growing.

[@hudaahmad9281]

I also want to homeschool my kiddo at this rate. But I'm also scared because I know a lot of other kids who despise their parents for it. Here's to hoping for the best for the next generations.

[@LeisLife388]

I agree and I used to be upset the they homeschooled me, but we aren't kids forever eventually we are gonna be on our own so whats the rush. @@hudaahmad9281

[@LeisLife388]

Im sure that they will one day.☺ My parents were always truthful and never hid the reason about why they did it and it helped me understand and appreciate. @@KyleT1990

[@joe_zeay]

The movie ' Idiocracy ' was a documentary. And now we are seeing how they arrived there

[@Queen0fHearts0520]

No doubt! 🤦

[@ice319]

I was just thinking that.

[@bobbimcclellandkulkarni]

I use this movie as a reference all the time!!!

[@staewoods6790]

Fun fact, the costume designer wanted to find shoes that were so stupid that everybody in the movie would wear and she found a kickstarter and thought the shoes were so ridiculous that they were perfect...those shoes were Krocs XD

[@dansmaaslet6623]

I'd vote for Dwayne Elizondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho for president

[@yeetissheetsfoot60]

And people are asking gen z why they dont want kids

[@daylightsystem5498]

I'm a teacher (not in a school, but an extra curricular program); I teach kids and teens to paint. Teaching the Gen Z teens is great, even though they often keep to themselves. My classes with Gen Alpha kids are chaos. These kids will open up a bottle of paint and dump it all over themselves, other kids, or me. They will scream and run around when I am trying to teach. They will throw things at me, hit me, kick me, etc. Recently we had one take an entire roll of paper towel and shove it down the toilet (cardboard roll and everything). Took a plumber an entire day to fix. I had an eight year old girl say to me "You're white, you're a maggot lady". I've had kids sneak off and attempt to play games on the company computer we use to process and track payments. I have students that will spend the entire class REFUSING to do any work, and of course their parents get mad at me when they show up and their child has nothing but a blank canvas. Scissors need to be hidden away because these kids will literally attempt to cut each-others hair off if given the opportunity. The worst part is that some kids are genuinely there to learn, but I'm unable to give them the time and attention they deserve, because I'm busy trying to control the "students" whose only purpose of showing up is that their parents don't want to be around them. These parents refuse to pick up the phone when I call them. They know why.

[@mirisoji8406]

People need to be able to fire clients, that sounds insane!

[@msFiBi]

Sometimes I think that the "rate system" shown in Black Mirror E1S3 is a good idea: "if your rate is below certain number u can't enter the building". Sadly, the rate can be hacked or skimmed and so on... So its not perfect. But it works for the Airports and some companies. Should be good for schools and other classes too I think. Sorry if it sounds like segregation but I dont see other ways to deal with the problem fast and strict.

[@pismobiics825]

Pretty much sounds like a pack of demons unleashed....horrible.

[@tonivoul1971]

The funny thing is I was like that in the first grade but far more lighter and the difference here is my behavior changed alot to better and the reason for this change were my parents they knew very well what was happening and they took action

[@pinkdiamond1847]

Can't you just expel the badly behaved ones from the program? Assuming this is an outside of school business when the children who want to learn leave because of the badly behaved kids you will have no business left at all it's easier to cut your losses with the badly behaved ones so you can at least teach the ones who want to learn.

[@MsLEducation]

As a millennial teacher who was in the classroom for a decade before I finally threw in the towel, I can assure you that the issues with uncivilized behavior and poor academic performance were happening well before COVID. It's frustrating when I hear people blame the lockdowns for this mess. Yes, the shutdowns definitely exacerbated certain issues, but in no way can we solely blame COVID for the current state of Education and the behavior of Gen Z / Gen Alpha. It's the PARENTS. Yes, I said it. The PARENTS. There is a complete lack of parenting and home training nowadays... and it shows. Couple this with school administrators who force teachers to placate parents/students and what do you get? You have the crap show that is today's entitled and grossly unprepared generation. For some reason, accountability and discipline have become dirty words. Kids have "rights" and their feelings are all that matter. They are coddled and excuses are constantly being made for why they can’t meet standards and expectations. Teachers that try to hold students accountable and try to maintain the rigor of their courses are seen as "mean" and "too strict." Teachers that implement consequences for students who misbehave are accused of "doing too much." Teachers that grade honestly are reprimanded and told to push the kids through. This happened to me several times. Even though I had high school juniors who could barely string a coherent paragraph together, I was forced to pass them. If I didn't, my job would've been on the line. I've seen students curse teachers out and completely disrupt the learning environment with no punishment. In lieu of punishment, they had a "restorative talk" that was a complete joke and an insult to the teacher who was verbally abused. Not only this, but I've seen school admin essentially blame teachers for students' uncivilized behavior by asking, "Well what did you do that made the student react this way?" I am not kidding. It is utter lawlessness. There were days when I actually felt like I was going crazy. Don't even get me started on the fact that all of these kids have iPhones, iPads, etc., but won't even bother to look up a word they don't know. No executive functioning skills anywhere. The quality of my classroom discussions declined by the year because students won't read! The ability to think critically and analytically has gone by the wayside. Again, I'm a millennial in my 30s. I'm not a cranky boomer. I'm being completely honest when I say that something drastic must happen if we want to salvage the future of this society. We are truly doomed.

[@L-zh2cs]

we are all screwed.

[@PhilPhilson]

I saw this coming back in 2008 when there were some paper-work at my former school that needed doing before my much-anticipated exchange year. And pretty much everything I've heard about the classroom from teachers (traumatized by their profession in the literal sense) has seemingly only confirmed my worst fears and suspicions...

[@cadejust6777]

@@PhilPhilson Teachers Get 3 Months Annual Leave And Push Homework 📚📄 On Parents?.

[@marioluigi9599]

Girl, you should have taken a leaf out of Professor Snape's book. Ain't no kids ever misbehaved in his class

[@L-zh2cs]

@@marioluigi9599 nah, professor snape has favorates. Nobody likes that.

[@ellinskey4422]

The parents who ask their kids about everything are a major problem! Ask them what kind of yoghurt they wanna eat, but ask them how much the parent should open the lid and what colour the spoon should have and if they want the spoon inside the yoghurt or not. It is just so crazy to give toddlers that much free will. They need rules. They need structure.

[@ShyanneSperandio24]

💯

[@larrycutting4514]

I've asked a few parents who the parent was? I get some stares as they've never been challenged to that thought before.

[@terri639]

Actually, we know this in psychology. If you force kids to start making all these decisions at a young age when they aren't fully developed enough, they end up with issues when they get older. It's usually anxiety. Kids shouldn't be making MOST decisions. That's for the parents.

[@naoko7184]

The idea behind asking those questions with small things is to teach young kids how to make choices and get a feeling of autonomy when the stakes are low. It’s supposed to be paired with the parent making the important decisions. The goal is to avoid the learned helplessness of over parented kids who rely on others to make even the smallest decisions, and to teach responsibility for making poor choices. The problem arises when the parents are deferring ALL decisions to the children - that’s passive parenting, and is a recipe for disaster. In addition, those small choices are carefully curated by the parent. You don’t let the child have a choice of every piece of clothing in their closet - you lay out two or three weather appropriate outfits to choose from. You don’t give them the entire cereal aisle - you select a couple of mom or dad approved cereals and let them choose from those. It takes extra work.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

😂 this example is way too specific

[@mrots_]

As a pretty quiet person in school, I moved into a school with probably the worst people, and I can’t believe how misbehaved they are 😭 I sometimes cannot focus on my work as people keep interrupting or questioning the teachers.. also it’s disturbing how low the level of some people seem to be? In the highest english class many people in the classes have incredibly poor vocabulary for their age. I feel disappointed in both their parents and the media

[@emmaschauer5409]

As a millenial mother, this kind of behavior is absolutely unacceptable. It's not cute, and it's not funny. My child is now a teenager. She is mouthy towards me at home, sure. But when she goes to her friends houses or out with a group somewhere, the parents of her peers always tell me how well behaved she is. I'm not sure how I did it, but apparently I did something different than other people my age. I don't get it.

[@cadejust6777]

As If Generation Z Will Be Bee 🐝 Better Parents.

[@1stBarbieAssassin]

same here...I always get " she so behave.. such as sweet girl" I am 30

[@волк-ы1ш]

You probably set up boundaries and didn't let her walk all over you. I've seen it in my own family, there's people that are in their 30s still pushing around their parents and living off of them, acting like children, because they were never told no.

[@colleenlam4505]

I applaud and appreciate you for being a "parent" unlike most millennial parents. And if it makes you feel a bit better, remember that as all teenagers we all get the typical back talking to our parents. When others say "She's so well-behaved." please believe the, and continue being the great parent that you are!

[@AlphaSigmA1]

You really felt the need to post for everyone to see , how well behaved is your daughter based on people's opinion that no one knows 🤔 Why? Maybe for having a bunch of strangers boost your confidence by telling you again..... how good mother you are! 😂

[@MsMoranguinho92]

My sister is a teacher. She worked with Pre-K kids during her practicum period and was HORRIFIED by how many of those kids had parents that just plain did not care about their development. So may of them had MELTDOWNS in the first month of school because of iPad/iPhone withdrawal. Many of them needed to repeat pre-K because they still could not spell/read at the required kindergarten level. They were the wildest bunch because of the lockdown and the practices at home.

[@somebody3558]

I worked at an amusement park as a ride operator and we had an three day event where schools could bring students as a field trip before the regular season started. Those were the three worst days I had ever had on the job. There were high schoolers, middle schoolers, and elementary schoolers are separate days and they were all terrible. They swore at me, refused to listen to safety instructions, broke rules, rushed the entrance to the ride to get on so i couldn’t check height, accused each other of cutting in line. I lost my composure and started yelling at them at one point. They broke several things throughout the park like hand sanitizer dispensers. Every employee I spoke to was complaining about how these kids were acting. Security had their hands full with calls. There was very little supervision from teachers and they didn’t seem able to keep the kids under control. Management said that the park would not hold the event again next season.

[@kristiannaline6067]

Awful! I remember going to Cedar Point in middle school because we deserved to go. We couldn't miss so many days, we had to keep grades up, we had to have so many accelerated reader points (wish this program was still a thing), and couldn't have too many behavioral issues during the school year...in order to go. I don't remember there ever being any behavioral issues when I went with school. (I'm a millennial, btw). What in the world is happening to our society?!

[@pascaleelliott63]

Management decided to never hold an event like that again? I don't effing blame them! Also, they'd be as awful people as those kids if they didn't.

[@RoMayDrako]

LA natural History Museum, I should note there is a kids museum next door-literally. The amount of ankle biters that run loose around the museum screams echoing in the halls not built for loud noises. Not a single teacher shooshing their kids or telling them not to run. Go to the Long Beach aquarium ankle biters loose again pounding on the glass running around screaming. Sure there is a play area but I don't see kidlets use it ever. If this was me on field trips I know my field trip days would be over. You were expected to behave till you were let loose in a kid friendly area but still screaming was discouraged because inside voices. Society stopped expecting kids to behave then use the excuse "there just kids".

[@pascaleelliott63]

It's almost as if a lot of parents nowadays confuse other adults like teachers and employees watching over their child(ren) in their absence, with making the workers do all the basic and entire parenting that they themselves can't be bothered to do.

[@NOAHandmycreations]

0:27 i don't need to i just need to got to school for that

[@dextynlabelle9326]

People like you ruin our society

[@melodyrohr8902]

This is such a scary thing that people are saying unaware of! I’ve nannied for a family for 3 years. Their oldest was 4 when I started. No reading, no counting, not many good motor skills. She’s almost 7, and just starting to sound out words, and do basic addition. She was raised on her tv and iPad during covid. She’s been in 2 different schools, and both parents work everyday. She’s demanding, throws tantrums if she doesn’t get her way, and is very aggressive to her 4 year old brother. Last month I started working for a different family. Their daughter turns four next month. She reads, does math, and loves doing puzzles and coloring. She has had at least one of her parents with her, spending time guiding her in the right way. She doesn’t mind being told no, and she has the longest attention span I’ve seen in a kid in a while. No tv, no iPad, it’s incredible.

[@rictechow231]

It is not surprising iPads cause kids with no concentration.

[@thenonexistinghero]

That basically shows what I've been saying for years. Parents don't give their children enough time and the government is adding to it by make sure both parents have to work fulltime a lot of the time, so that they can't even give their children the attention they need in the first place.

[@AshtonStands4Awesome]

As a previous nanny, I just want to add here that one of the worst things I see is that the parents seem to expect their Nanny to be a maid, a teacher, and a mother who as proper training and understanding of specific illnesses/behavior problems and taking care of five pets, driving the kids to everything and cooking/cleaning everything all while only paying you $10 an hour. Oh and yes, I must be vaccinated, apparently. That is crazy, that the expectations go even beyond my own personal autonomy. When I started babysitting and was 17 and knew only the basics, I was making more. The expectations of the parents for themselves are so low but for everyone else are incredibly crazy high.

[@hengineer]

I think its less the ipad and more clearly the first child had a learning disability that needed extra attention. Instead of HELPING their child, they just threw the ipad in front of her. My son is on the spectrum and I would argue till I'm blue in the face that very specific learning youtube videos helped him to actually become verbal with words. Some specific learning disabilities can be helped tremendously with technology. My son was nonverbal till about 2, was tested into the early-intervention program in my state, has an IEP, and was "diagnosed" with ASD. He is 7 now and is thriving amazingly. He still enjoys lhis tablet but more often than not he prefers puzzles and listening to "kids bop" music lol.

[@bluesun876]

My nephew is 7 years old. He will be on multiple electronics at one time ( like the kid in the video), because it has been modeled for him. Plus an iphone was put into his hands or laid next to him from the time he was a baby to change his diaper because he was uncooperative. He is so heavily medicated just to make his behavior tolerable. It makes me sad because he truly is a sweet kid. But it is easier for the adults in his life to continue to pacify him.with medication & electronics.

[@safetyfirst3132]

I'm terrified of the health care I will receive in 20 years.

[@WFHMM]

Have you seen the nurse and doctor TikToks? I'm terrified of the health care I will receive TODAY!

[@safetyfirst3132]

@@WFHMM actually no, I'm not on TikTok. I can imagine though. I pretty much went 3 years without going to the Dr through Covid and so had to start over with my PCP as a "new" patient. Which meant the 1st appointment was a long wait. So I had to visit an urgent care when I got a sore throat. The Dr was a barely 30 white guy. I told him I hadn't had a sore throat since I'd quit smoking. 1st he smugly said "Oh, so you're vaping now?" Um, no, nicotine free for 9 months now, thank you very much. So he goes "well, you're still going to get COPD." WTF??? CAN YOU JUST DIAGNOSE MY SORE THROAT NOW? No, because I deserve a LIFETIME of shame because I grew up in an era where Dr's smoked inside hospitals. 🤦🤷

[@talyng8919]

I left the healthcare field after 25 years because of the unqualified medical personnel that were being hired but didn't know a damn thing. More and more hospitals will be getting sued in that future and the reason malpractice premiums will go up!

[@YamieDawnHeen-Orrestead]

It's already scary actually. I could share some stories.

[@whatoncewas8480]

Good point

[@Kiefsti]

I don't have children, but as a future resident of a nursing home, I'm TERRIFIED of this upcoming generation that will be in charge of my life.

[@midnight_x_edits]

Hi I’m a current nursing home CNA and while I may only be 21 I promise you that if you were one of my residents id do my damndest to give you the best care I possibly could now there are definitely some people I have met that should not be in this profession whatsoever but I definitely try to take care of all my residents the way I would wanna be taken care of

[@karenk2409]

@@midnight_x_edits You are a sweetheart. What a good soul.

[@cherylmockotr]

I've thought the same... the key is we have to be careful to take care of ourselves now so we won't end up in a nursing home.

[@rudyflores9395]

I tell my kids Hey you FKERS I still have power over what I own so make the nursing a good for your MOM.

[@GG_Booboo]

That's actually a big nightmare for many of us! Hope we can stay healthy and self-depedent at lieast till the last part of our lives!

[@moralmarketing]

To be perfectly honest, this is by design. Humanity will never be truly free if it depends on this generation 😢

[@PlanetLovingMom]

I am a millenial (33yo), I have a 6yo and an 8yo, and my children know that if I give them "the look", they *know* to straighten up. My 8yo can read teen-level comics and chapter books. My 6yo can read videogame subtitles. Guys, good common-sense parents exist out there! Don't lose hope ❤

[@DarkAngel2512]

I had a reading age of a 13 year old at 8 years old and read lots of books. Most kids should have as reading doesnt grow beyond that point. There really us no reason an 8 year old shouldnt be able to fully read barr a few complex words.

[@nomemolesten690]

If you ask any parent all their kids are smart and well behaved. One thing we millennials can do good is being delusional. My nephew is absolutely awful, ill mannered, disrespectful, mean, manipulative. But if you ask his parents he is an angel and also a genius

[@JamesDheartsUndertale]

@@DarkAngel2512 Your grammar is still not appalling however.

[@A5H_01]

Not like other moms

[@blizzard1198]

​@@nomemolesten690 then his parents/ your sibling or cousin is a terrible parent

[@Hootowlsonly]

This is so real. I’m 20 and my youngest sister is 7. She recently had a birthday party and the kids that came over were hardly kids. They were monsters! I was absolutely appalled by their behaviour: shrieking at the top of their lungs in the house, disrespectful to my mom, carelessly spilling their food and drinks, no manners in sight, CURSING. My mom looked at me and said “When I was around you and your friends, you guys were *at least* well behaved.” It wasn’t until she threatened to send one of the instigators home that they *barely* fell into line. And even then they were still incredibly rowdy. The evening couldn’t have ended soon enough. I don’t hate kids, but these ones are exhausting to spend 10 seconds around. It’s insanity.

[@Tabi-Kun]

It’s disgusting how kids today don’t act like kids.. I am 17, I see so many (no joke…) 10 YEAR OLDS twerking, moaning, cussing, and vaping (some are even below that age, like 8!) and I don’t get how this happened! When I was 8 through 10, my mind was innocent, I didn’t know what twerking was, I didn’t moan or know what moaning was for, I didn’t even know the n word existed, and I sure as hell didn’t know how sex worked, I knew vaping was bad, and I didn’t cuss because I knew the consequences of them and had a genuine distaste for hearing cuss words. Now I’m 17, and 10 year olds today are out here knowing how to have sex, cussing out eachother, shouting the n word, moaning, and claiming they have hoes (along with a 10 year old girl I met who claims she herself is a hoe) and I just wonder… what did this world come to?…

[@JFrombaugh]

Crazy, but sounds a lot like my Gen Alpha niece’s recent birthday party. I’m guessing the other parents were MIA, either having dropped their kid(s) off at your house & gone on their merry ways, or they were off somewhere smoking/getting drunk with the other adults & just letting their kid(s) run wild.

[@michellesheppard8245]

Honey, you should have sent them bad kids home child.

[@kellyfreyermuth7057]

My ten year old little sister is going into 5th grade. She only reads graphic novels and doesn’t have her multiplication tables memorized. By 5th grade I could do them easily. She is also obsessed with her iPad, twerking, and backtalks both of my parents by saying they can’t tell her what to do. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched my parents let it go and wanted to scream ‘If I’d acted like that, you would have shouted at me until I’d stopped crying!’ Seeing all this makes me sad. These kids have no future if they don’t shape up.

[@astroherelol]

Nah, when I was in 5th grade, I would BEG my parents to buy me a Rainbow Magic book because I genuinely love reading. It's is actually so upsetting seeing kids behave like that. My school used to bring in book fairs, now they bring people to sell slime and poppets because VERY few people actually read books.

[@deathbyglamourr]

about tables, im in highschool and i still dont have them memorized because i have dyscalculia, so it could be because of that

[@sidikeeturay5452]

same but I'm a younger gen Z (2009 baby) going to 9th grade but my gen alpha siblings who are going to 3rd and 2nd grade I'm not playing I had to teach them to read, write, do math, and even fucking behavior because my Gen X and Millenial parents are so soft with them but with me are strict as hell with me I mean I learned to read and write at FUCKING 4 years old

[@nuts1755]

Youre a good sibling. Nowadays parents doesnt want to parent. It happens to my family too

[@amberkumar4514]

My ex-husband got our 3yo son an ipad and he's not allowed to use it at my house. I would literally send my child to a 3rd world boarding school if he was as big a piece of shit as some of these kids.

[@usakoraw]

The Crazy thing to me is that Ballet is an extracurricular activity!!! Do these kids realize that NOT every kid can grow up learning ballet? Or Band? Or Sports? or Whatever else these kids are NOT behaving in?! *ugh!" I grew up in a home with several siblings of all ages and so that means my parents couldn't afford to put us kids through stuff like that. It felt like we got left out growing up hearing this kid got to do ballet, this kid has a dog, this kid gets to go to Disney World! Seriously, a lot of these kids have no idea how great they have it and they are ruining it for themselves. Smh.