The Krew Season Podcast Episode 82 | "This Is A Safe Place"

[@KrewSeason]

(01:18) - Battle of the Sexes 4 Review (03:40) - Fresh & Fit/Brittany Renner clip (08:20) - Woman gives selfish demands (13:35) - Wife and mother of 4 is primary provider and doesn’t want to have sex b/c of it (47:43) - Kevin Gates talks about almost taking his life (01:06:35) - Main trait every woman should be looking for in a man (01:12:22) - Main trait every man should be looking for in a woman (01:20:28) - Chancey writes back in to redeem himself; asks should he entertain women while chasing his bag or just wait? (01:28:01) - Should I entertain a woman with kids? (01:36:25) - I’m struggling dealing with my mentally abusive father (01:49:31) - My homie’s girlfriend is shooting at me (01:57:30) - How do women find their lane in dating? Is having good sex innate or learned?

[@nuttry26]

Have yall forgotten about God go to God when all else fails 🙏

[@carloswilson299]

Yall can we get time stamps ertime? Lifesaver

[@dbzcell6269]

DM

[@jazzyone1011]

Taking care of a parent with high level of needs is very hard. Especially being under 40 and single and doing it alone. Its not a joke! Glad y'all incorporated it into the convo. Blessings to the Krew!

[@jayc5756]

FR

[@3phillipscp]

In the interest of taking care of parents. It’s a conversation that should happen in dating. That way both can agree that this is a responsibility we are structuring into the relationship. As for the man who complained with the Lack sexual engagement with his wife. A husband sets the tone and in my eyes a man who can not stand in the role of provision, is mute.‼️

[@Taruukc]

The Gates conversation needs to go viral

[@raniiji_kd1943]

Most definitely teared up.

[@JustSherries]

Otis, I love how you said that, "it's the least you can do." Take care of your parents folks. I took care of my father, and it was tough. Guess what? I was still able to live and enjoy life. Now, I'll add that I'm african, and that is my culture.

[@MissB1216]

I am glad that I found this podcast. You guys are awesome. The taking care of parents with your spouse is the biggest reality check. It is different when you’re fully in it. You guys give great well rounded perspectives. You guys give me a good laugh as well. Many blessings to all of you!

[@DanielleLaShawn]

Great conversation. Love honest conversations with mature, respectable men. Y'all are doing great!

[@mikelleferguson526]

This whole episode hit me from all different angles, at the 20min mark what you all were talking about the man providing or not,and how heavy that is on a woman, that has been me for past 19yrs (recently split) to the part of the parent living With the kids and the stress on the relationship to the kevin gates and how he was on the verge of suicide….my life and relationship with my kids father all wrapped in one episode I love all of you and this podcast…I learn so much! Keep up the great work!

[@ajburns6621]

Wow the convo about parents was shocking. It was never a thought for me to take care of my parents. Yes there are sacrifices but these people gave you the life you have to live. No way I would willingly send parent to nursing home or have a stranger caring for them. Salute to Otis on this one!

[@brittnibenjamin5404]

I love that Kevin Gates talks about mental health of black men, especially as a black man that’s been incarcerated. I feel like that’s the main downfall for black men in our society, their lack of expressing emotion and not having safe spaces to do so. Beam community has great resources that explore mental health and black masculinity. Great pod as always guys!!!! ❤️🔥🔥

[@switzjon8405]

Society never allows us to be emotional. If we aren't clowned by other men , we're clowned by our women. It's a darned if you and darned if you don't.

[@uncleduece2]

13:35, she’s tired of him being a housewife. Her being the primary breadwinner for an extended period of time has lowered her desire to see him as desirable.

[@bibi6978]

Exactly

[@Thatboyroc]

Pod was 🔥🔥 as usual y’all boys keep it goin 💪🏾‼️

[@uncleduece2]

1:28:01, totally agree with Smuv. I personally see her love for me as a plus and her respect as paramount.

[@Lboogs7]

Much love to my guys all the way from Philly 🤝🏾💪🏾💯

[@mustafashaqur9694]

I’m with Otis family before everything. When my mother is old and needs assistance it’s my job as a son to take care of my father or my mother rather it’s me personally or having or hiring. I when. I married my wife I married her and her family it’s a tribe coming together to make a bigger one. Vice versa. We are a team and our family is the most important thing in the world.

[@carloswilson299]

Ready for that BOS 4! Thats the best debate format in manosphere imo! 💪🏾

[@supasketch]

Can we speak on how the visuals leveled up on todays Pod!!!? 🔥🔥🔥 The lighting, The sign, The backdrop. It fit nicely!

[@guybreettaylor5810]

Agree 💯

[@queenirmamay]

My job as a mother is make sure you are ready for the real world grandma/big mama hopefully your children run to them not the streets

[@SBFDonte7]

Ayo smuv hit that note low key 😆

[@uncleduece2]

1:06:35 &1:12:22, be loving, honorable, considerate, reverential, kind and introspective. Those qualities have universal appeal and value.

[@workyourland8435]

From a bw perspective who has been through this at one point ,the guy in the gray sweater and the guy in the hat are correct.They have 4 kids and she is the primary bread winner. She doesn't want more kids and she may have resentment that he gets to stay home while she works her but off. Yes, women want the help at home but we rather you work and be the bread winner. She doesn't want to her hurt his feelings because she loves him.

[@Cahluvca]

Life decisions are no joke.....Both put themselves in that situation

[@gioiacaponera2119]

I agree with Kenny about the men there for their kids being more important than the kids seeing their father work (around 32:50). I can see, how the type of women that are spoken about, choose financial comfortable over the emotional support from a father for their kids. But it does feel like the “city girl” or money focus women that seem to be the constant perspective in these episodes, aren’t the everyday women (most women). I can see how that can be your reality if that’s the women in the setting you choose to be in. It just sucks since a lot of the generalized opinions made about women don’t represent the way I and most women would move (in my settings). I get that some women are birds (the same way some guys are too). It just seems like the women that are generalized aren’t most women. Love the pod-keep up the dope conversations.

[@carloswilson299]

Is that you in your Avatar?

[@gioiacaponera2119]

@@carloswilson299 yep.

[@carloswilson299]

@@gioiacaponera2119 What is your ethnicity?

[@silkence9561]

Exactly she resents him, hell she’s probably ashamed. She’s already feeling resentment while he’s about to start. He got all that energy bc he ain’t at work. She probably still has come home to take care of the kids. To be honest he’s probably not even doing that right.

[@ThePresidentNate]

For both men and women, one of the most important trait you should look for in a significant other is accountability. If this individual can hold themselves responsible for the choices they make; that is usually the first step to that person making better choices. You are welcome!

[@silkence9561]

4 children and primary provider it ain’t just insecurities.

[@shaswanda1]

Have a big enough house that you wouldn't notice your parents being there

[@JustSherries]

Lmbo😂😂😂😂Smuv with that yah, yah!

[@ijayk]

Anthony, you would make a great Counselor. You are good👌.

[@erinmcilvenny8613]

I love you guys, I’m a new Patron. Keep providing amazing content.

[@frankie_aab3261]

Let’s be honest a lot of people have children as a retirement plan. If they didn’t have any children they would work until they die. A lack of planning.

[@jayc5756]

Trill Always gives great tips.

[@uncleduece2]

1:20:28, aside from the unicorns, young women generally don’t wanna truly settle down until she burnt out her clutch and flipped her odometer after a bunch of hard dumb miles.

[@Zayrius-tori]

The shawty with 4 kids is cheating

[@silkence9561]

Yup she’s been done.

[@sandik7992]

I hope so lol

[@jayclearmen411]

facts i got a dub… that says she cheating on old dude. probably with someone at work no 🧢

[@rahkeenclark2254]

@@sandik7992 just like every man should cheat on a stay at home mother

[@Brittanywright331]

It's still residue from being enslaved, vulnerability meant death back in the day. Still to this day being vulnerable can get you killed depending on where you live. It's a complex thing to grasp but I just do my part by encouraging black men that I speak to to take up practices such as journaling, meditation, yoga, etc. in the comfort of their own space where no one has to see it.

[@Bee-sp7mb]

I wish Trill and Smuv would speak from their point of marriage about being celebrated or appreciated because it almost seems as if they are including themselves when they say that no one uplifts black men. The only time I truly see a black man being bashed is in the comments online. Maybe I’m blessed to be surrounded by positive black folks

[@lindaf6274]

Otis is a good son!❤️❤️❤️Don’t put your parents in a nursing home if they’re still able bodied! NOTHING is wrong with that Trill!!! 🗣

[@fooni7400]

Tell Ali to get a journal. If he cant express it in words, take a few weeks and every time he feels depressed, write down how he feels and why he feels that way. Then the next time he goes to the therapist give them the journal if he finds it hard to open up to the therapist in words.

[@MrTampaMan]

I have journals (for my thoughts) and notepads(for goals and planning).

[@Delicious4Ant]

For the issue with the wife working with 4 kids and no longer attracted to her husband....I understand what Kenny is saying. A father can still be valuable without working. However, the issue is that the wife is not attracted. So this may not work for their relationship. I dont think any adult wants to work hard all day and come home to someone who isnt working at all. Of course there are exceptions.

[@theehardpill]

Imagine being the bread winner of your household, with 4 kids to tend to, and YOU don't feel comfortable about yourself. No amount of anything from HIM will make her feel better about herself except her. The question is "what can we do to make you feel more confident so we can be more intimate?"

[@MrTampaMan]

Best comment on that.

[@lindaf6274]

Find a good job outside the home is All he can to to fix that….

[@amaj_lex]

Woman has 4 children and is the PRIMARY provider of the household and he stay home to take care of the house? She's turned off by you buddy. Seek help and guidance.

[@Cahluvca]

What you allow will continue....should be in both of their mirrors

[@HustleHabit]

Shout-out to brother Lee and his Sage Talks on The Lapeef Network! 💪🏽

[@TheSincere20000]

29:00 I can't entirely agree with you on the perception that house husband's are not getting respect. The tradition of men working and women taking care of the house. But if a women can't be a house wife, there's going be issues regardless. Maybe she needs to sew how it feels when she has to do more. Especially if they have young children and now have to pay for child care and help get them ready.Ppl don't frown upon house husbands as harshly anymore there to many men not in the house or doing nothing. I know women right now with guys who don't work or hardly take care of their kids and nobody talks shit about them after awhile. We just go that's there relationship. Yea it's still frowned upon to be a house husband but ppl rather see you taking care of your family. Not everybody can be the alpha you got play ypur role, know your position. Isn't that what game is? Especially if where saying his wife libido is tied to how masculine she perceive him (why she get with him in the first place) or how tired she is from working. Are we saying he suddenly going turn alpha and support the whole family or is he going work n not make enough and make her more tired from now having to do more around the house.

[@dexo1238]

Not choosing to come in this world is a mute point.

[@fedditpiccolo1642]

Fresh and fit to the moon

[@halljo2005]

That Kevin gates part.........bro

[@thomascarlton82]

I forget who said it but i heard someone say, "Would you come up to a fence and just tear it down?". Prob not, so when you see a tradition that had stood for centuries, why do you tear it down without understanding why it was there in the first place. Tradition is the work of your ancestors that had a purpose and its our job to understand why rather than tear it down. Some traditions can be removed but most serve a purpose and werent set up just to look good.

[@F80wizard]

To the guy asking if should mess with a woman with kids. I say No. From my personal experience you don’t benefits from nothing. Even if she give you authorization to discipline her kids. Don’t fall for it cause at the end of the day your always going to be wrong and its her child.

[@jayc5756]

It's all preferential. But yes, you gotta understand these things before getting into it...if they choose to do so.

[@rahkeenclark2254]

It's to many ppl in the world for anybody to b unhappy in a relationship

[@iamzion_yisrael]

#1 trait I think women should look for in a man is self-discipline

[@RockyMaiviaMiami]

We do need to call out these preferences if women arent being reasonable in their expectations. Y’all are speaking with so much ego. I work with the youth and they are a byproduct of women choosing to have baby’s by men that aren’t fathers & don’t want to be. Kids aint pets

[@c.anthonyjohnson259]

Men you need to save your self. Marriage is only for rich men am sorry to say it guys, you will be belittle, speaks down on, and shamed if you don't meet the gender role that ALL women and ALL men have set for us... am 32 single childless making 85k and growing, this podcast shows me that we are never good enough in these times.

[@halljo2005]

Facts....dealing with that shit right now

[@Hangingwithtyrell]

What’s the link to otis podcast???

[@Blindcontroller]

Shoutout to y’all for not going off clips

[@queenirmamay]

If your family member is not able in a bed fine keep them at home but if you got one is able bodied walking I can not explain how hard it is that I seen how hard it's on a family done both jobs home care and residential

[@nakialicreates]

Y’all as far as the wife not having sex she literally probably is not okay with her body, she may be depressed (which can affect anyone) it may be a her issue that she needs assistance through period. I didn’t hear him say she said anything that involved him it may just be her own issues and then why are women wrong for saying my money is my money and his money is ours there wrong but men want their daughters to be able to earn a lot but still be taken care of, like that’s apart of the problem

[@Leniece23]

Your parents took care of you so you should take care of them. Put them in their own part of the house so it want to be uncomfortable for you and the family.

[@HustleHabit]

I agree, I don't think most women think like that... Do most "pretty" women think like that? That's a different story. You're right, though. We gotta stop enabling this behavior. Like Smuv said, it's child-like.

[@SmoothKenny]

Kids don't owe parents ANYTHING! No one chose to be born.😐

[@frankie_aab3261]

The husband thinks he’s carrying to load but like y’all said no mother is gonna come home and not do anything like some husbands. She still feels the load of the family and nothing turns a woman off more than having to carry the load

[@AnnaJPosh]

I like that first trait... I can take care of myself, but need a man to lead!

[@jayc5756]

You also dont know why a person isnt working. I know somebody close that has a wife and family, and desperately wants to work...but cant at the time...because of his condition. And disability been dragging their feet because his young age and shit. So shit is super tight for him. A lot of stress and pressure. He actually attempted to do what Kevin Gates said he was gonna do...he attempted to do that very recently...so it is what it is.

[@emeraldc83]

Otis was mad like home boy who walked out the podcast cause they said woman value go down after they have kids LMAO. Mad mad cause the situation is his.

[@nakalamitchell4835]

Otis my boyfriend look identical to u...and I had a crush on u🙄🤣🤣

[@fireitupjosh]

The women say that identify and leave alone No Good can come Out of it

[@NY-Buddy]

I'm surprised yalI didn't touch on the Drake hot sauce situation Or maybe I missed it

[@phambilidaily]

SETUP 100%

[@switzjon8405]

20:28 What I was thinking. He's the beta male. Not leading and being in masculine role, some men aren't built that way, and it's affecting her because she's the dude in the relationship. Doesn't turn her own. This is what happens when men can't be men.

[@jayc5756]

How you get shamed for not wanting to date women with kids for? SMH! That's your preference. TF

[@JustSherries]

Kenny I'm with you, I thought she was trying to see if they were gay and on the down low.

[@jayclearmen411]

wow i’m am shocked! lol this can’t be serious

[@queenirmamay]

You don't want to hurt no one feelings its not them it's you I am me and sometimes I need no judgement allow me same for him allow him we are individually that came together I p.. off he p... me off but we are still joke with each other

[@queenirmamay]

8.20 team work leave him if got sick not in this lifetime (35 years you get less for life it's a joke) she a child not a grown woman no life experience

[@sarcasm176]

If y’all gettin served on a styrofoam plate something off

[@brolicshawn3567]

At the end of the day some women CANT/WONT be satisfied

[@jayc5756]

Both of them are crazy and toxic and messy AF. Like why stay being messy and cheating and shooting shots at friends if youre sooo unhappy with each other?? TF?? Just leave already. TF. Cmon now. SMH!

[@vaughnettemonroe283]

I don't care how independent we as women are today we still want men who can provide their own and stand own their as men the biggest turn off for women is a non ambitious man

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

So what ya'll saying is men don't value purity like they use to. You prefer a woman thata experienced to one that inexperienced or not as experienced 👀

[@fooni7400]

The girl with 4 kids cheating😂. That man better divorce her and get that child support, alimony, and spousal support.

[@brolicshawn3567]

Black men need to get back to Jesus and not no half way all the way and lay our burdens at the cross then and only then will the healing begin. Black continue to find excuses as to why they shouldn’t get back to Jesus we are in a FALLEN STATE and the love that we need to show each other we will get from Jesus or we’ll be having these same convos for the next 30yrs jus like we been having them for the last 30yrs

[@MrTampaMan]

I disagree

[@queenirmamay]

I don't care how bad you are woman or man have some standards really

[@Execution88]

You see clips and post of women saying this stuff, but then When Fresh n Fit call it out there is an issue lmao.

[@jayclearmen411]

facts it’s lowkey weird..but i guess it’s politicking going on…

[@dmented35]

Have to respect Kenny silence sometimes

[@Gigga101]

Gotta take of your parents man

[@gatabone]

For the algo

[@gatabone]

When it comes to when the husband passes, why not have the life insurance to sustain the lifestyle. LTC and cash value life insurance policies take care of this when you are younger to build that family bank so you don't need to struggle.

[@consumerjo418]

Reaction to 1st 3 clips: 1 & 2- Petty, childlike. A waste of your time (& mine) and not ready for this 'grown folks' podcast. Embarassing me as a woman. #3 Wife breadwinner: he's overlooking the emotional connection which fuels everything. Salute 👑👑.

[@roneshajoy]

To the guy that’s 25 asking if he should deal or entertain with women with kids…..firstly the women you’re dealing with are what ages 18-25 why would you even entertain women that young with kids???? You’re on your purpose there’s plenty of women in your age bracket that doesn’t have any kids go that other way the answer is completely NO NO don’t do it. You’re to young to be a step dad to mistakes another dude don’t even take care of

[@roneshajoy]

Because if you were my son I wouldn’t even take you bringing her home serious