The Lies We Believe About Sex | The Naked Marriage Podcast | Dave and Ashley Willis

In this episode based on Dave and Ashley's upcoming book, "The Counterfeit Climax," we'll explore the 4 biggest lies about sex and how those lies can sabotage your sex life.
XO Marriage exists to help couples have a healthy and strong marriage. We do this by hosting conferences, creating resources, and offering encouraging digital content. Our world-class speakers offer leading marriage advice to equip couples with the necessary tools for a successful marriage. We believe that every marriage can thrive.
‍
XO CONFERENCES
XO Conferences are a live environment for couples to come together, be encouraged, and learn from leading marriage experts. Conferences offer a Biblical perspective on marriage and allow couples to connect and grow in a fun and encouraging setting.
‍
XO PUBLISHING
XO Publishing, founded in 2019, exists to create marriage books and resources for couples in every stage of their relationship. Our vast library of content offers a more in-depth learning experience for couples, small groups, and churches.
‍
DIGITAL MEDIA
Through podcasts, videos, blog posts, and more, we create engaging and relevant content for people to connect with online. Our content is centered around providing couples with tools and teachings to establish and maintain a strong foundation for their marriage.

[@worshipwhilewewait]

So much good information here in this podcast!! The 'sex is dirty thing' I had sex once before Marriage (got pregnant at 15) and was told by everyone that sex is dirty and I was a whore for having sex let alone having a Baby. For the next 30+ yrs I didn't even think about sex and then this Guy comes along and fell in Love with Me and I fell for Him and We Married and We started doing what Married Couples do (lol) and He asks Me "ok, You're having waaaaaaaay too much fun with this sex thing - how many have You been with???" and I flatout told Him not a single person (except at 15) and told Him the Story of a Prayer I Prayed before We got Married that I wanted God to Bless Our Bedroom and it to be a Place of Love and FUN." I used those exact Words. He's now 61 and I'm 53 - been Married now for going on 8 yrs and THANK YOU JESUS I Prayed that Prayer in complete sincerity because for Us, it's the way it's supposed to be. One last thing - CLASSIC LINE in this whole podcast - that..."God is watching and is embarrassed..." Gonna have to bring that one up the next Time...lol LOVE YOU TWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@rochelleallgyer122]

Agreed 1000%. As a wife of an overcomer, there’s so much freedom when you heal unhealthy sexual habits for both spouses. God takes my hurt as He works with my husband new frame of mind. The oneness that continues, was well worth all the pain, because God walked us both through it. I pray for all you couples that are in the midst of this healing, keep seeking Him, and He’ll comfort you both. 🙏🏻

[@everett8610]

I love ya'll ya'll are the only people I've found that deal with marriage issues with care and love and complete honesty so thank you you've been a God send.

[@lisafarmen9367]

Thank you for your ministry and talking openly about life saving issues that other ministries won't touch..May God continue to use you both...thank you lisa

[@theologicalmutts]

This is such a great podcast! We have learned so much from Dave and Ashley!

[@breonda_]

You guys are such a blessing! ❤️

[@tolistical]

This is great! I absolutely like your perspective and how you spoke about every aspect of sex. God bless you both.

[@marisolcorrales6861]

Thank you for this! Do ya’ll teach on soul ties? I learned about this via marriage today on one of Jimmy Evan’s teachings. There are so many that are not aware of this and I can testify that it effects your marriage if they are not dealt with.

[@stephaniemckown7489]

2 years late finding this video but for what it's worth i would like to see a video on dealing with the underlying issue that takes a lot of people down the path to sexual sin. Sex addiction is a symptom of something deeper. Many men live lives completely frustrated because they watch videos like this that just say "don't do it" or "You need to stop". So they try and they are defeated because the deeper issue isn't being addressed. If there's a video on this someone please direct me to it. Thank you.

[@annettehowse185]

Speak on video games addictions in marriage and a lack of sex in marriage!

[@erosh747]

The biggest regrets in life is when you are no more able to get or have sex. Why wasted those youthful years in fear or social stigmas unecessarilly are the greatest regrets.

[@goodnesschidimma326]

Thanks

[@phanindragoud1303]

Hi Dave thanks for this video, I am suffering from porn addiction, i am watching porn whenever I am frustrated and tired. This issue has become big headache for me. Can you please help with some resources, where I can get out of it. Thank you.

[@johnmathews2022]

I've got one for you. A Christian friend told me that Adam and Eve didn't have a sexual relationship until after the fall. Where could that come from?

[@RDCFemmes]

So how were they going to reproduce? Surely God is the one who created the reproductive system. Did God created the genital parts after the fall? Did animal only started reproducing after the fall?

[@sitka49]

@@RDCFemmes I think it was going to work as mitosis and we would divided like cells.

[@mauricesmith3608]

The only unforgivable sin I know is blaspheming the Holy Spirit.

[@sitka49]

Its physiologically difficult to flip that switch when your A sexual 20,25 years, and being indoctrinated ( pounded into your head ) from a early age that sex is dirty and a sin but after the pastor or priest says a few magic words and you sign a paper its all good, and you can be a freak in sheets. so you had sexual problems and you where a virgin ? and as you claim if they/you have sex before marriage your more than likely going have problems so either way its a no win? I don't think there is a couple that doesn't have sexual problems at some point in there marriage/relationship whether you wait or not. I seen a report that one of the top cities in the U.S for google search for porn was salt lake city go figure! Here's another sad fact a lot of Christian women are afraid to look at there vagina because they think its a sin before marriage ( this goes back to the indoctrination ) and maybe some after marriage and then don't how it works or what feels good ..By the way nice hat!

[@raymondjames2590]

Ha some one erased our messages on here I can't relate with you

[@raymondjames2590]

Ha this is what happens to churches who say they want to help but don't know what they are doing in reality

[@sitka49]

@@raymondjames2590 I think whoever was the original poster deleted their message that's why it was all deleted

[@sitka49]

@@raymondjames2590 And sometimes if your opinion doesn't fit into the narrative they like , that's what happens you get deleted

[@ernestgillam9992]

@@sitka49 my message was deleted. But why?

[@AbcAbc-nv9kz]

The nofap movement and NNN showed people the benefits of it. Which is attraction etc. Religions need to honor this. For many years christians didn't touch this topic because they were so fixated on rules that they missed and the benefits of a practice like this.

[@analiza265]

Better for singles to go solo than fornicate. For one thing some singles will never marry or remarry.

[@ashleyspurling5701]

And deal with the physical mental and emotional negative health effects from abstaining from sex too long? Yeah as someone who has suffered these effects and still deal with the aftermath of purity culture, I'm gonna say no.

[@larrys9879]

I was a Christian fundamentalist for 47 years. I served as an Elder, Deacon, teacher, and evangelist during that time. In the late 90’s I began a deep dive into the actual historical origins and evolution of the Bible and the Christian faith. My study and research is still ongoing. All religions require “faith” to believe their dogma because there simply is no evidence of any kind that validates any of the beliefs, teachings, or traditions. Sexual purity is one of the most evil teachings in modern Christianity. It reflects ancient cultural beliefs and practices. Women were property to be bought and sold. The buyer required his newly acquired property to be a virgin, for obvious reasons. Humanity has evolved since then. Religions want people to live by long dead ancient cultural beliefs and customs. Education is the only way people can free themselves from religions beliefs and customs that make people live in long dead ancient cultures. Fear, indoctrination, and intimidation are the tools religion uses to obtain obedience. They fear education and truth. The internet has become religions greatest threat because the truth about religion is now available to the masses.

[@ernestgillam9992]

About the Q and A question: the husband sounded frustrated and embarrassed that his wife couldn't get an orgasm without the vibrator. It helps her, but it's making him feel like the vibrator can replace him anytime, like she doesn't need him. That hurts a man and makes him feel less of a man

[@sitka49]

Is she suppose to lie there and take while he gets off ? and she gets nothing out it ? can you say future sexless marriage

[@lydiaclibon118]

Did you not hear their answer? Plus there are ways he can pleasure her.

[@sitka49]

@@lydiaclibon118 I would think if they were married long enough they've already gone that route And it's not working for her and he's probably no good at it

[@raymondjames2590]

Yup the guy needs to understand that when you make love to your wife make sure you put her to sleep and saying I can't take no more lol It sounds like the guy doesn't know what he is doing toys will ruin a woman if she uses it to much it's like porn for guys. He should learn how to give his wife the deeper satisfying orgasms that are hidden in her mind and body. If a woman needs her clit to get off then he or any man has home work to do.

[@sitka49]

@@raymondjames2590 yeah but that might take work , maybe he's one not to put in the effort. And then again maybe she doesn't even know what works for her in that realm other than a vibrator , and it's kind of hard to find your way if you don't have a map.