The Link Between Empaths And Narcissists

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[@cathyglascock1370]

The narcissist is the wind and we are the flame. Stay far enough away so the flame will not be blown out.

[@LittleLulubee]

Wind makes flames bigger, though

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

Fires breathe. You can’t have fire without air.

[@iamtaliba.divine.love1322]

Or stay close so they can cause the flame 🔥 to get bigger, spread, and out of control!!!🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯#SuperEmpath

[@mrazik131]

This is so true specially victim narcissistic and borderline I always seen the best in them and ended up confused and drained!

[@sues3218]

It is just so evil, to use the compassion of others, to hurt them. It is so wrong, on so many levels. I'm not just exhausted from what she (my covert narc) did to me, but I am exhausted by hearing about what they do to others. It just makes me mad and I just want to protect myself and others from these vile people. It took me a while to even get here because I just couldn't believe a person could be this way. I just couldn't grasp it for such a long time. I have only recently accepted it and now I am just mad at them.

[@lyelma3]

Sue s ...I know right and you wanna warn the new supply but you just know you will be made to look jealous and bitter so you just have to watch it unfold and wait until they come to their senses and learn about the condition for themselves x

[@See_Life]

Sue s, I totally feel you

[@liesbethdevries4986]

I am out here. Healing in wisdom. Thank you. Hugs to you.

[@elizabethstengard8318]

So many thanks Debbie for all your very enlightening videos!!😍 Spreading so much awareness on this particular kind of covert narcissism. This is so much needed!! And just wonderful that so many empaths are becoming more and more aware!! 😄👍 Have a beautiful day!!💕🌷🦋

[@marykoch1611]

Thank you for truly understanding what being Empathic means, not everyone gets it, even many Therapists don’t understand💕💕

[@joanofarc1470]

I have experienced a spectrum of Narcissists. My siblings all three had a different spectrum I was the youngest and they tore me down but did not succeed in the distruction of my soul in fact I have gained super strength I had no idea I could get.

[@reema_f]

You are beyond a beautiful soul. I’m in deep recovery and healing and I have no words for how much watching your videos & hearing your words means to me - and how it’s a life line to get me through this. Thank you so much Debbie xx

[@debbiemirza1744]

Oh wow. Thank you! This is amazing to hear. Well done working on your own recovery. I'll keep making more videos for you. xx

[@reema_f]

Debbie Mirza Thank you ♥️♥️♥️

[@henwhisperer]

It took me years to realize that when I walked into a room and felt all the negative energy it wasn’t directed at me. It was the energy of all the people in the room. It was so freeing. I am an empath with a narc brother.

[@trhair1]

Debbie, I absolutely love your work. You have validated so many of my crazy past experiences with my former narc and allowed me to more fully understand what I went through. On my healing journey continuing to make the necessary changes to grow. Blessings to you thank you again for what you do.

[@debbiemirza1744]

Hi Tami! I'm so glad to hear I have helped validate so much for you! That fills my heart to know that. Thank you! xx

[@trhair1]

@@debbiemirza1744 I think there are so many people that go through this type of abuse and have no idea. I am now 2.5 year out of the marriage and only found out what I was dealing with while in couples therapy, it was our third round of therapy and I just got to a point where I did not care, could not give anymore and just wanted to run away, escape. I felt like my life depended on me escaping my marriage, I was so desperate to just get out. A covert narc is one of the worst things to deal with because you literally feel like you are losing your mind. Although my heart goes out to others that have gone through this it helps to know it is not just you. I have so much peace in my life now so happy I got away. Thank you again, there needs to be PSA's about this type of abuse. I am happy it is coming to light and people are recognizing it.

[@nurseneat7452]

Thank you!! I feel the love!! You have help me be a better empath. Strength is growing in me. Have been used by narcissists but it only making me stronger with more powerful boundaries. Love is growing in me for the genuine people who need and deserve our gift.

[@TheRecycledMom]

Debbie, Thank you for this encouragement! I am in the process of healing now ... rediscovering who I really am and letting my light shine again. Looking forward to your new book!!! I appreciate you making these videos. You have been a huge encouragement to me.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so happy to hear that! Sending you so much love! xx

[@mariajacob6996]

I am 37 and never understood why I felt these things I can’t even describe what I feel but feel nervous,sorrow ,physical pain for no reason now I know who I am and why I was made to go through so much endure so many heart breaks and being used and abuse by so many ppl turned kinda heartless but not for long I jumped right back helping ppl right back caring as it never happen I am glad to know who I am and why I am here❤️❤️❤️

[@kathyt.8822]

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and heart with us all.

[@rachel243]

True Debbie. We were never educated on this kind of evil.

[@TinaLindholm]

Very interesting, I have done the same, many times, just having the ide, that "maybe this is not MY thoughts", asking it to leave & everything get silent & empty, them my own beautiful & creative thinking is starting up again. Great video & so greateful that you are out there

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Tina! So grateful you are out there too! xx

[@sambarnes5339]

Amen! Amen!!!

[@ritamead6318]

That was a brilliant and very accurate video Debbie... Good news about writing another book! It will be valuable to many people..

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Rita! xx

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Your joy is infectious! We definately need us empaths! Have a beautiful day sweet one! No one will blow my light out again. 🕊👌

[@candysettle4295]

You're story about the horrible thoughts you had while being on the airplane was an eye opener to me I'm just learning I'm an empath and I often times have fears and thoughts that I would never have on my own or don't seem like it's me at all so that really helped me to understand. I feel like I can sense and pick up on everyone's emotions and it is overwhelming at times. Thank you for this video. God bless you!

[@herculesnadir]

Much love, kindness, and a big smile to you😊 Thank you for your efforts and showing your warmth a ❤ towards us. Good luck🍀 with your new book!

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Miss Brocanti!!! xx

[@runwiththewind3281]

Debbie, thank you helping me understand me.

[@michellehopkins9306]

Thank you for being you and for your wise words of help xo

[@karengrobbelaar4380]

I am so greatful I found you. Thank you for being out there for me.

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Karen! I'm so glad you found me too! xx

[@shizsunshinewachira1344]

Debbie you literally made me clap....I literally need to sedate myself when going to an airport you've helped me see why........ I realised I was an empath last year and just left my Covert narc husband... Thanks for this

[@neweyes6598]

Thank you Debbie for such a positive and beautiful message to us empaths... it’s important that we share and hear these truths and continue on the path of education , love , light and wisdom.. Good luck on your new ventures over the next few weeks 👍🙏

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you New Eyes! xx

[@jenniferfritz5316]

Thank You, Debbie!!!!! 🙏🏼🙌🏼💝

[@abracadabra8799]

I haven't got in contact for a while with someone with this calm, worm energy💚 just bumped into you

[@sambarnes5339]

Thank u...I needed to hear another beautiful soul tell me I am wonderful and not alone. ! Hello sister empath! Special One thank u for helping me and otherS ...I see the light in u ...u were describing in ur clients..! Well said and love!!!

[@vibehigh5280]

Hi I am a new subscriber here, hearing these words just brings life again to my wounded heart. I'm still in a process of healing these wounds.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so happy to hear these words bring life to your heart. You so deserve that. Sending you so much love! xx

[@brahmdevsingh5287]

Thank you so much!

[@lisahutton3754]

Cant wait for the new book!! Sending you my love and admiration.

[@debbiemirza1744]

Thank you Lisa!!! xx

[@shir1801]

Thank you 💐🦋🦋🦋

[@JenAWren]

Thank you Debbie. Xxx

[@sheli3648]

BEST BOOK IVE EVER READ!!! Thank You!! This book explains EVERYTHING I’ve been through for the past 30 years with this monster. You’ve got the best insight and actually know and get it, what I have and am going through. I devoured your book I. 2 hours. I’m rereading it again. 💖 Can’t wait for your next book!!

[@debbiemirza1744]

Yay! Thank you Sheli!!! I'm so happy to know it helped! xx

[@sheli3648]

Debbie Mirza 110% it did. Your new video on CPTSD also explains A LOT!! Thank you from my heart ❤️ You have no idea how all over the map I’ve been (actually YOU do) . Clarity finally. 💖

[@deborahs1608]

Your book was so helpful to me. Thank you so much.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so glad Deborah. You so welcome! xx

[@Baby8Bri]

Thank you

[@heatherpotschka9996]

🙏thank you 🙏

[@sh236]

Oh hey, great! Looking forward to the next Mirza book! Good luck with it!

[@debbiemirza1744]

Yay! Thank you Sky! xx

[@bettyfreddy8377]

Like a sponge, . Empaths absorb other peoples energy. Can Empaths be either Introverts or Extroverts? Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@lsr69wontquit64]

I am an empath and married to a covert P/A and im struggling to find peace in this relationship. As a Christian leaving is not taken lightly, im 67 yrs old with many serious heath issues so starting over would be very difficult.

[@redkings2337]

I am so amused with your story when you were at the airplane... I experienced the same thing. 😊😂💖

[@lanesblitz]

My narc used to tell me with a light envy that I could detect ... but I wasn't worried about that, ... at first it seemed to me sincere appreciation ... "you all light up when you speak ... your eyes light up ..." but then she started adding ... "I love when you speak ABOUT ME with those brilliant eyes" ... that was a huge red flag I didn't notice enough.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I totally relate to that. It's so twisted. Glad you got out.

[@lanesblitz]

@@debbiemirza1744 Thank you Debbie for your help through your videos when I needed it, ... now it's much much better! Love

[@mrazik131]

So excited to hear about your book,I came across this book The art of emotions by Karla McLaren,she is on KZbin by name emotion dynamics what a treasure she is, empath and explains so well what each emotion mean and why we have them, omg i m so happy to learn about my confusing emotions! Hugs 🌸🌼🌷sending 🧡💚🧡

[@redkings2337]

As empaths, why do we get deceived by the narcs??? 😔😔😔 I always have this desire to leave this body instead of being subjected to lies and betrayals by my narc wife. 😔😔😔

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

What we didn’t know is that the “demons” that we were shown were these people

[@lyelma3]

I must attract them , now I know the red flags I've realised there's quite a few in my life 😭

[@KWwest]

Just stumbled on this-WOW I’ve had nothing but train wreck relationships all my life, never knowing a dynamic existed between narc/empath! Only in the last 7 years have I known that I’m an empath- I can feel everything, read others thoughts, communicate w/animals, been clairvoyant and wish I new what all this was. I was just a mess my whole life- loving haters/manipulators, evil people and awful family members. I never got it. I’ve been working hard to regain myself and find a path thru all the sensory overload & manage it in a beneficial and productive way. I’ve not found many others who get me & find I’m so terribly exhausted just getting though a work day. I feel the awful thoughts of others without stop and don’t know how to turn it off or make it a useful tool. Any good resources for crash course in empath management?

[@kirsten878]

Debbie thank you for this. I've just finished your online course on co-parenting with a CN and it's so super helpful. I'd love your thoughts on the beginnings of the narcissist/ empath connection - like are empaths created through dealing with narcissism during childhood, like as a way of coping, and then we attract more of the same? Or if not, are we just born as empaths and then begin attracting narcissists as children? Thank you!

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm so glad it was helpful! My hunch is empaths are born empaths. Because you can have 3 different people raised by the same parents and be very different from each other. And when empaths are not taught to trust and value themselves, when real love is not shown, they can easily become prey to narcissists. I hope that helps. xx

[@mreloo]

40 years having the crap kicked out of me...well i got the message finally, ..why it took long...mmm still working on the answer. ..one reason... childhood trauma of unworthiness

[@phoenixrising4719]

Is this kind of like lantern stealer's when we've been in their presence you know as you feel like they've sucked the life force out of you. I understood this years ago. But trying to get my head around narcissistic people as I have come out of a 31 year relationship. Now I know I was being gas lighted too after counselling and reading women who love too much. I have just found you on here and subscribed and will see when I can get your book. Thank you 🙏

[@pixie8361]

💗💗💗

[@Gigislaps]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@stardustastrology6618]

Being an empath and a narcissistic magnet myself, I don't think it is useful, nor is it the truth, to think of ourselves in terms of "shiny beautiful victims" because it invites no responsibility. If you are an empath willing to take a moment of absolute honesty with yourself, you will see very clearly that your trying to heal or help a narcissist (or whoever) is so that they would feel better, so YOU AS AN EMPATH DO NOT HAVE TO FEEL ALL THEIR UNPLEASANT FEELINGS anymore. It is always about us. If we have that much honesty with ourselves, we may become open to different ways of being responsible for what we feel.

[@mrazik131]

Hi Debi what was the name of the documentary about narcissistic cult leader? For some reason i have to see it again. Hugs...

[@debbiemirza1744]

Hi! The name of the documentary is Holy Hell. Hugs to you too!

[@kamalalovely]

Hi Debbie- I’ve read your book and it helped me to recognize the truth about my new husband. I can’t thank you enough. I am wondering if you know of a lawyer in the Denver/Boulder area who understands narcissism and who can help me get the divorce proceedings going. My husband has no idea that I am planning this and I’m scared. I’ve never needed a lawyer before and I know I’ll need a good one to go up against him in court. I’d love to have a coaching session with you. I’m wondering before I sign up if that might be a resource you can help me with. Thanks in advance. ❤️

[@debbiemirza1744]

Absolutely! I have a lot of helpful information to give you. Yes, we can cover a lot in an hour session. I'm looking forward to meeting you over a video call or a phone call. Whichever you prefer.

[@debbiemirza1744]

I'm getting really booked up lately so let me know if you need an earlier appointment and I can fit you in. Message me on Facebook. I usually see those sooner.

[@kamalalovely]

Debbie Mirza ok thank you!

[@lucyharris1138]

Is it possible for an empath to heal while staying married to a covert passive aggressive narcissist?

[@debbiemirza1744]

I think that would be very difficult to do because of their devaluing and demeaning behavior. And CN's are full of rage that empaths feel no matter how they behave. All of that wears you down physically, emotionally, and mentally. It's like trying to climb a hill with a 100 pound weight on your back.

[@lucyharris1138]

Thank you Debbie

[@joanofarc1470]

I have experienced a spectrum of Narcissists. My siblings all three had a different spectrum I was the youngest and they tore me down but did not succeed in the distruction of my soul in fact I have gained super strength I had no idea I could get.