The Loneliness Of Widowhood

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In this emotional podcast episode, Tanya offers a compassionate exploration of the theme of loneliness in widowhood. Drawing upon her own experiences and insights, she delves into the complex emotions that come with grief and the challenges of navigating the many changes that come with losing a partner.
Tanya also touches on the difficulties of maintaining and building relationships during widowhood, and the role that alcohol can play in this process. She shares her personal reflections on topics such as communicating one's feelings, the concept of "widow-brain," forgiveness, and self-regulation, all with sensitivity and empathy.
Throughout the episode, Tanya emphasizes the importance of respecting others' experiences and the value of learning to grow alongside grief, rather than trying to escape it or move on from it. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand and support those going through the difficult journey of widowhood.
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@mechellepillay8801 7 күн бұрын

I am so grateful to have found this. I feel so alone and a sense of not belonging

@sammymartin2775 10 ай бұрын

I’m so very sorry for your loss, but if it helps, you’re definitely not by yourself I lost my wife of 54 years. I just don’t know what I’m gonna do without her.

@susanmendoza2041 26 күн бұрын

So sorry dear I lost my husband 9 mons ago an having a very hard time as for me I’m 80 an will never say I’m single he went so fast witch was shocking we just celebrated our 52 yrs of marriage I miss him so much! Thank u for yr reading it is so true!

@midiaz1319 11 ай бұрын

Really nice words, I lost my wife of 39 years 5 month ago and now I guess that this is really hitting me the hardest. It just not that easy, sure I tell everyone I am ok and they see me smiling but no one see the pain, sorrow and loneliness that I we have to go thru just to make it thru some days. I think we are all really thankful because there is so much good information on grieving on the internet. If it would not been for my faith in Jesus I really do not know how I can survive this. Blessing to all that are going thru this there will be better times as this pain will not last forever.

@gordonkistler916 9 ай бұрын

No one gives a shit about what a man goes through after the loss of his wife, it's like so sad too bad and then everyone abandons you, your friends and family, everyone.

@wizardofahhhs759 9 ай бұрын

I lost my wife of 27 years 3 months ago. We spent our entire adult lives together. There's not a day goes by that I don't miss her. The pain and loneliness can become unbearable at times.

@clarencehogrefe1220 7 ай бұрын

So very true, My Beautiful Wife Jan went to Heaven Feb, 2021. I Miss Jan more than anyone can understand, not saying people dont care.

@SimkiKidwai Ай бұрын

Lost my husband 4 months ago, there is a hole in my heart

@thudtheace 9 ай бұрын

I have been a widower for almost 8 years (lost my wife when we were both 46). Our kids were 9 and 11 when they lost there mom. The things that stand out for me as I look back, was telling a Mom their daughter is never coming home, telling 2 boys their mom is never coming home. That was the worst thing I ever had to do. I remember having my perceived future with my wife wiped out, sitting on the edge of an abyss, and feeling incredibly lonely. So here I am almost 8 years later, and I can say I still feel sad from time to time, but not like it was in the first 2-3 years. Got 1 son off to college, and my youngest is a senior this year. I never remarried, and I actually am enjoying the freedoms of being single. While I am lonely for my wife, I am not lonely. One thing I am glad that I don't get is the sad puppy dog eyes from friends and family anymore. Those early days of not being treated like a normal person, but a broken one, got old after the first 2-3 years. Things do get better, it just takes time.

@DonnaRo 9 ай бұрын

I 100% relate to this! I’m so sorry that you know this pain! I lost my husband of 35 years last year. I’m so incredibly lonely & broken.

@Chreamps65 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I'm a widow today of 7 months, and I cried all the way through. It has forever changed my life and me. I feel lost but trying to make my way through. Bless you and your family.

@sammymartin2775 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. I am going through the same thing I lost my wife of 54 years my soulmate. I just don’t know if I can go on without her.

@maryharrington3404 Жыл бұрын

Woke up this morning, turned on the computer. You are so encouraging. Widowhood began 7 months ago. very lonely.

@angelsisko7157 6 ай бұрын

Tanya thank you 💜 I’m 41 and lost my husband of 18 years 9 months ago. I’ve powered through for my children but the loneliness is overwhelming. The note you wrote yourself & shared is exactly how I’m feeling & has made me feel less alone and I cannot thank you enough

@carolnatera-norey4426 2 ай бұрын

Tough struggle. Thank you for helping me.

@joannetaggart4136 10 ай бұрын

Oh my God I so relate. I'm older. Sixty four and am almost at the 21 month anniversary of my husband's death. Many similarities. Forty one years married and 44 years knowing each other. I appreciate your sharing. I don't know what else to say but thank you and God bless. ❤

@patriciawagstaff6302 9 ай бұрын

Thank you ... I never had the chance to say goodbye after 47 years of marriage. Within 24 hours he was gone. I too still can't go to a restaurant by myself. I tried it once as I could see other couples chatting with each other. I would start crying and leave. It has been 18 months n I still miss him so very much .I miss his loving and have intimate moments n his wonderful kisses and him touching my body. I still have his shirt that they cut off him in ER. I keep that shirt under my pillow. Patricia

@patriciateague8677 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my husband of nearly 40 years last year on July 19 (technically July 16 because he did not regain consciousness after a sudden heart attack in our home.) I can relate to much of your story. In my case, both of my girls are married and on their own. I retired just 2 weeks prior so I was faced with being suddenly totally alone and needing to figure out exactly how I was going to live in my new reality. There are so many emotions and adjustments that occur that it can be overwhelming. In addition to some of the things you mentioned I also felt guilty for feeling like I should have done more for him or guilty for feeling sorry for myself for the loss of the future we had planned. Also fear that if he could die so suddenly and unexpectedly than maybe so can I. As you said you are forever changed by the loss but there is so much to live for and moving forward is the only way to go. My youngest daughter is pregnant with our first grandchild and while I am very happy I am also very sad that they will only know my husband through photos and our memories of him. Tske care.

@ConnieGunnels-gf4fn 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. Finally found someone who UNDERSTANDS what it is like to lose your spouse. I appreciate your encouragement.

@VictoriaGooch-zt8nr 8 ай бұрын

My husband has been gone for 16 months. The loneliness is the worst. At 54 our kids are all grown and gone and I'm left alone. It's the worst.

@moiravw2990 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for being so true with how you feel and thank you for sharing I thought I was going insane but now I know I'm not alone with all the thoughts and emotions 😢you gave me hope ❤ I'm a widow now for nine months and it very hard...God bless you for being true to the world 🙌

@madmoe4 3 ай бұрын

Thank you. I lost my beautiful wife of 36 years to ovarian cancer January 8 2024. I can relate to the loneliness. The only thing that keeps me going is my faith in God, trying to read his words every day. Cheri was my better half. I feel like a shadow of myself. I feel envious of other couples. Some as simple as having my hair cut, she had cut my hair for 36 years so going to a barber was traumatic.

@valeriemckinzie9226 7 ай бұрын

Thank you. I am going through this and feel so alone.

@user-ke2fs7ix8s 4 ай бұрын

Well done and articulates all that we go through with profound loss.

@clarencehogrefe1220 7 ай бұрын

What a great, Loving and very truthful podcast. One of the best i have seen since my Beautiful Wife Jan went to Heaven. I struggle everyday and night with extreme LONELINESS.

@KgomotsoBrooms-hx2fe Ай бұрын

It is so hard being a young widow with lil kids toddlers and a baby....I am 6 months into this journey...but I believe God has a plan for me and my boys.....my soul mate does in a car accident....

@SteveFanell 7 ай бұрын

Thank You :)

@AlrudaCharlton-vi2ip 9 ай бұрын

I lost my husband of 24 awesome years of marriage to sickle cell on the 12 August 23 he was 53 , the doctors say he lived 24 years longer than expected,so I give GOD thanks for the 24 awesome years he blessed me with, but I miss Eugene so much are daughter looks so much like her father so when I look at her I see him so this will be hard.🙏🇧🇸🙏🥰

@skygace5552 9 ай бұрын

Dear how do you cope ? Extremely lonely

@janekipgen9610 9 ай бұрын

I lost my husband to kidney cancer. last Mother's Day, May 14,2023 I will have my 1st Thanksgiving, birthday, and Christmas without him. We were married 38 years ago and dated for 2 years. So 40 years of my life I knew him. I am still getting used to dealing with the loneliness. Thanks for your input.

@genevia7569 2 ай бұрын

I lose my husband last year from liver cancer. We will married for seven years. It still hurts and learning to pressure through with GOD. 🙏🏾😊

@merlinarevolledo9090 9 ай бұрын

I lost my husband 40days ago, we were married for 22yrs, i feel so sad cause i am now alone living on our house, as of now his nieces and sister stay with me during night. I dont know how to start my life without him, i dont even know how to drive our car. He was dead on arrival to the hospital. He was taking his bath when the incident happened, i found hin lying on the floor of our bathroom. He is a very loving husband and i miss him so much😥😥🙏♥️

@tundrawomansays694 8 ай бұрын

Today is the 31st anniversary of my husband’s death. It still hits me like a sledgehammer. I still love my husband. I still wear my rings. I still speak to him every day. The cruelest comment at my husband’s service: “You’re young. You’ll get married again.” Doesn’t work like that.