The manipulation of Emily Gilmore: an analysis (season 3)

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[@kierralovestv]

Thank you guys for always being so sweet to me on here ❤ ily and i hope u enjoy the video

[@natyc19]

Lorelai giving back the money makes so much sense to me. As a mom, wouldn't you rather have your daughter come to dinner of her own free will than due to a contract you made.

[@activatedcharcoal]

Lol, but that would involve Emily doing the the most humiliating thing she can imagine- calling up her daughter and inviting her to dinner. Why treat Lor like a fellow human being when you could just order her around like a dog? :D

[@natyc19]

@@activatedcharcoal ofc you're right, I forgot Emily only wants control over Lorelai in every aspect of her life.

[@Iamjustherek]

@@activatedcharcoal reading this made me acutely aware that despite all of the confidence Emily claims to have, she is deeply DEEPLY afraid of rejection. She can’t just ask someone for something, she HAS to make sure there is no possible way for them to say no. Ie family dinners, having DAR meetings at the inn, etc.

[@JillHope-Bailie-xt5gw]

I am so thankful that someone else thinks the same way as I do about this show. Even the tears and laughter I feel we think alike. This show just shows how one minute you are laughing and the next you are crying or shouting at your TV. Keep the good work up thank you

[@Aelffwynn]

@Iamjustherek my mom and another mom I know do something similar. They tend to have a "practical" reason for making plans with their kids. They never just ask to grab lunch together or something. It's always, "Let's do something practical together because it's easier that way, and that makes it harder for you to say no." It's a nicer form of manipulation. We've been working with them on just asking to spend time together when they're free. We don't need a reason, because they're a lot easier to be around than Emily lol

[@natyc19]

Honestly, even the tiniest interaction between lorelai and Emily, Emily is finding a way to put her down. As I get older, I understand why Lorelai left bc she couldn't become the person she is in that household

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yeah I totally understand why lorelai left home when she did

[@Sophie-qg9gw]

It’s so weird how Emily dumped all that Jess stuff on Lorelai. Like “How could you let her date him?” GIRL! You don’t have to like him but why do you blame it on Lorelai. Lorelai doesn’t like him either! Lorelai makes it clear that she doesn’t like Jess, but Rory still dated him. She knew her mom didn’t like him, but she still dated him. And Lorelai deals with it. But Emily decides to blame Lorelai instead of Rory. It was Rory’s choice. She doesn’t have the pride to tell Rory that she’s dating a guy who she doesn’t approve of, but she can tell Lorelai! Like what did she do? All she did was support her daughter and keep up with you but you blame her over the person who you think is making the mistake!

[@kierralovestv]

!!! She treats Lorelai like an emotional punching bag in every situation. She ALWAYS tries to make it Lorelai’s fault somehow even if she wasn’t present for something going on.

[@Aelffwynn]

I think Emily internally blames herself for Lorelai's perceived failings and likewise blames Lorelai for any of Rory's perceived failings. There's no excuse for her to act like that, though.

[@claricesilva2700]

Well. Lorelai is Rory's mother and Rory is still a minor. Emily is an old fashion person and she thinks minors shouldn't date someone their parents don't like, something that honestly is not that crazy seeing the people teenagers date...

[@sofiablanco8052]

it was the same for Rory's birthday, yes Rory was kinda rude to her, but she didn't even ask Rory what she even wanted to do in her birthday and when Rory didn't act in a way she wanted she literally ignore her and became cold and even more rude to her own granddaughter

[@Animefreak242]

Emily was panicking and she could see how Jess was a parallel to Christopher. Emily had already lost her daughter, she didn't want things to spiral and for Rory to predictably do the same thing

[@faithwhite4345]

Ugh I love every one of these analysis videos on Emily. She gets way too much credit and adoration within the Gilmore Girls fandom simply because of how sassy and witty she is, but she’s such a horrible and narcissistic mother that refuses to accept she’s done anything wrong. Lorelai ALWAYS has to make things right and apologize, whilst Emily rarely (if at all) even attempts to apologize. She always places the blame on Lorelai and makes her feel as if she’s not good enough. No wonder Lorelai shuts her out. Thank you for talking about this!

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yeah exactly it's infuriating that some fans adore Emily when it's clear that she's a narcissist

[@paigefoth4926]

As someone who also suffers from ADHD that intro was so valid

[@kierralovestv]

I’m glad you think so bc if you say that to the wrong crowd people are so confused

[@kierralovestv]

They think it’s because you don’t want to complete a task. No I feel guilty when I fail to meet deadlines I set for myself even if there’s no consequence

[@Aelffwynn]

Serious question: do I have ADHD or did I just grow up with too much computer time? Or both lol

[@the_piano_nerd4960]

As a fellow ADHD girlie, SAME GIRL. You’re totally good, happy to watch your posts when you post. But if you rely on guilt to motivate you, I get that too

[@myheart715]

It was so odd to me how Emily made her assistance transactional and always held it over Lorelai’s head. Meanwhile, Lorelei barely had much money or resources but always gave Rory everything and didn’t expect anything back! Lorelai would literally sew clothes, ball gowns, costumes for Rory, basically using whatever she had to help Rory out

[@activatedcharcoal]

Your insights into Emily are my favorite part of your GG analysis. For so many years I have been unable to articulate why she irks me so much, and to properly defend my views to Emily stans. And then you swoop in to explain it all so eloquently (and with receipts

[@kierralovestv]

I’m in tears thank you thank you I totally understand what you mean I hate when I can’t explain why something is wrong which kinda fuels my passion for mental health discussions in general bc not being able to identify what’s bothering you prolongs healing imo yk?

[@activatedcharcoal]

Also I will never forgive Emily for that seat wipe at Luke's. Totally classless. I was brought up that no matter how humble the accommodations, no matter how foreign the food, and no matter the state of a place you're invited; you never, ever act like you are superior to or disgusted with what someone else has worked hard to afford.

[@kierralovestv]

THIS! Like Luke’s doesn’t even look dirty at all which I’m assuming is another reason lorelai made that face bc it was just so ridiculous

[@activatedcharcoal]

@@kierralovestv Lol, it *was* a superb moment of Emilyness though, and I love Kelly Bishop's mannerisms as she does it. But fr, it's not like I've never been to a diner with a sticky seat or anything. It's easy to wipe away some kid's syrupy fingerprints without making a big show of it. But this is Emily and she will belittle and humiliate anyone if it means she gets one extra millisecond to show how much she disapproves of Lor!

[@kierralovestv]

I agree. I love Kelly Bishop’s acting she was a perfect choice for this she actually causes me frustration and I think that’s a testament to how good she is as Emily

[@Ladyofdeath777Weaversoftheweb]

It's an old money thing. I was once told by a woman that as a child she had accidentally set her grandmother's curtains on fire. Her Grandmother responded by telling her, "Well call the fire department and make sure they come around the back entrance without the lights or sirens." Appearance is everything to old money. So when Lorelai doesn't conform, it's a major blow. Regardless... it's all manipulation and bullshit... But there is a, idk if I can really call a socioeconomic status a 'culture' per say, but it's a cultural thing within old money.

[@nathalielvr]

i’d love to see a video analysis on how richard is incredibly avoidant and allows for emily to torment lorelai/his mother torment emily, he stands idly by and i’d love to see a well articulated video on how this has an impact on the dynamic of the gilmore family :)

[@listeningwithleslie1353]

You explain narcissism very well. I’m a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Specialist. And my father was one. Sometimes no contact is best.

[@kierralovestv]

I agree I’ve only found relief from them when I distance myself or become emotionally detached. It becomes tricky when they have a financial hold on you bc they act exactly like emily or worse as I’m sure you know I love when people actually in the mental health field comment thank you!

[@listeningwithleslie1353]

@@kierralovestv my mission is to raise awareness of this kind of abuse. I like how you included reactive abuse because I see a lot of people who blame themselves for a perfectly normal reaction to the kind of poking narcs do. This is my thing. I could talk about it for hours. Emily is pretty textbook. Financial abuse is a thing. And it’s terrible. I’m so sorry if that’s happening to you. Or if you were just referring to the show. Regarding the family, I will never say to this to a client: but it’s your (insert family member). If they’re abusive, distance or extreme modified contact. Gray rock. And my father passed (he started Hoovering before he died). I don’t regret not going to his services. And people said I would.

[@kierralovestv]

Woooow thank you so much for sharing that. Because people often tell you that you can’t go no contact bc if they die you’ll regret it but I’ve never agreed. I think if you make the decision and think it through you won’t because that means you already understand there’s no hope of saving the relationship whether you stick around or not. It’s choosing to be indifferent and I think we all only have one life to live and I’ll be damned if I’m gonna spend it with anyone who makes me feel bad about myself. I always look at it like “well if they lived would you have been able to actually get through to them or is that blind faith” because if the signs are there that they don’t want to make an effort to be better there’s truly nothing you can do. I’ve gone no contact with most of my family for a multitude of reasons. I have my close inner circle of people/family that can respect my boundaries, that’s all I need.

[@kierralovestv]

And I agree with the mission. Because I understand what it’s like to feel powerless and unable to identify what’s happening to you I want other people who watch to learn how to clearly explain why what’s happening to them is wrong because not being able to explain doesn’t mean it’s not happening

[@listeningwithleslie1353]

@@kierralovestv for sure. There’s so much I want to say. My family is incapable of changing because they don’t see the problem. They don’t think they’re doing anything wrong. This type of abuse sets you up to think the victim is the one doing everything wrong. If we just try harder but it’s never enough. They keep you locked in a pattern of intermittent reward (love bombing) and then withholding. It’s an addiction like meth. Harder. But finding support and people that will love you and not abuse you is so so important. I have that too. Family doesn’t always mean blood.

[@user45208]

our queen is back

[@kierralovestv]

😭😭 thank you love 🫶🏽

[@robertaaukstikalnyte916]

Kierra, you seem like a person with such a strong moral compass. You should be proud for being such a mature person with strong values.

[@kierralovestv]

Thank you sm I literally just try my best to keep improving myself I f*ck up just like everyone else everything I am now took loads of therapy and mistakes

[@BrokenDarkFire]

Oooo I forgot about that “Rory takes a loan from her grandparents to pay for Yale” thing until you brought up and I had such chills. Hard agree; that was the smile of a control freak who knows she’s won. Also yay so glad you have a new installment in this series! I feel like I might be in the minority but I personally don’t really pay attention to the creators’ video release dates? I check my subscription feed 2-3 times a week and even if I miss the upload, I rely on creators posting about videos later in their community tab so I can catch anything I missed earlier. 😅 I just don’t have it in me to remember what’s coming up, so I just take every new video as a happy surprise.

[@lilyclay7489]

Anti Emily content will always be worth the wait! and I personally like no dates cuz then every video is a super fun surprise lol

[@katevenhorst1723]

I was shocked when in the episode where Christopher comes over and Lorelai thinks her mother invited him over and they both start yelling at each other until Emily comes in and tells Christopher to leave that Lorelai didn’t turn to her mother and say something to the effect of “see? THAT was why I didn’t want you meddling in my personal business. Is it so hard for you to believe that I have legitimate reasons for not wanting certain people on my life even if you don’t agree with the reasons?!” I couldn’t believe she complimented her and said “aren’t you supposed to wear a cape when you do that?”

[@kierralovestv]

If she would have used that moment to point it out everyone would further villainize her (Lorelai) and blame her for why the relationship doesn’t go anywhere I think the show does clearly tell you who not to root for but also does a good job showing people can be flawed but still likeable I mean hell, even actual cereal k^llers have had supporters in history. People root for bad people even if there’s hardcore evidence showing they shouldn’t unfortunately

[@lizparylo7445]

I also think Lorelai wanted to positively reinforce her mother sticking up for her. Yes, Emily always meddles and violates boundaries, but this moment is one of the very very rare ones where she sees that her logic was flawed and symapthizes with Lorelai. When she tells Christopher to leave, she takes control of the situation in Lorelai’s defense, which might be her trying to atone for her behavior on some level. And I think Lorelai as a character knows that these shining moments where Emily actually treats her like *her daughter* , are few and far between. If she were to turn around and try to make it a teachable moment, it would have reinforced Emily’s tendency to be a martyr and say Lorelai doesn’t appreciate her. Plus, the sheer relief of Emily opening her mouth and it *not* being something evil… I would’ve thanked her too lmao

[@Aelffwynn]

@lizparylo7445 So much this. Lorelai tries to use positive reinforcement. She even does it with Jess. She knows that explaining her point of view doesn't always work (with her family, it never does.)

[@birgitteandersen5886]

I hate the way Richard talks to Lorelai. He talks down to her so often. She shuts down whenever he changes his tone when speaking with her.

[@chrystianaw8256]

So true. He's so uncaring

[@Carolina-761h]

I love your perspective that money to Emily and Richard is more for power, leverage, and image, while to average people money means opportunity and survival. I feel like no one talks about this and as a result the rich keep getting richer

[@nerd-jock]

thank you so much for these - the section on reactive abuse actually helped me understand part of an abusive situation i was in - i often doubt myself ("was it really that bad? maybe I overreacted") because the people who hurt me told me that i overreacted and that they never did anything wrong.

[@karenllamas6473]

Her smile in episode 3x22 botherd me too, but i loved that scene when rory said i think your being really stupid

[@KennieDoll]

I love these bc there are so many people that love Emily so much and while she can be funny I do NOT LIKE THIS WOMAN. Everything lorelai does is a problem and Emily and Richard always want to be mad about something, it must be exhausting to be as mad as they are at all times.

[@unicornlion1037]

I like to be pleasantly surprised when you upload So you don’t have to put the dates out if it conflicts with your life

[@lisacox4984]

That line in "Hammers and Veils" when Lorelai explains to Emily why she didn't tell her about her engagement to Max: "I don't know how to tell you things Mom. I don't know if you've noticed this or not but we don't communicate very well. When something good happens to me I'm just afraid you're gonna make me feel bad about it. When something bad happens to me I'm always afraid you'll say I told you so." That's so grey rock and grey rock is a good strategy, actually!

[@Aelffwynn]

I relate to your spiel about why the video was late. It's encouraging me to keep working on my own projects even though it's been a while since I last tried. 💜 Thank you. (I have no preference about upload schedules/announcements.) Wall of text incoming: Emily displays some narcissistic behavior. But you're right. We don't know her exact intentions/if she's a Narcissist ™️. This is how I see it: The way she was raised, Social Status = Survival. So she does her best to keep her family "alive," despite the "threat to survival" of Lorelai's storyline. And she views it as her *responsibility* to infringe on Lorelai's freedom to make that happen. (In her mind, she's the President issuing an executive order, for the safety of herself and her people.) This is the context through which, I believe, she views the world. You can tell by the sheer panic in her voice anytime there's the slightest social gaffe. That's her role as a wife and mother-- to protect their status. Even in her fun moments, she's usually basing her actions on that social construct (e.g. when she calls Sheera Huntzberger a "two bit gold digger." Yeah, it's a good jab in their world, but it's just classism.) And her (and Richard's) OBSESSION with getting rid of Luke, because he's "low class." They don't care about his character or even his money. It's all about maintaining their delicate status. You can tell even more if you watched her arc on AYITL. (I didn't like a lot of AYITL, but Emily's arc was amazing, imo.) After Richard dies, her world is rocked. And she begins to realize that all the rigid social structure she based her life on is BULLSHIT. Then she acts "crazy," trying out a working-class woman's clothes (!!!), and calling out the DAR ladies in a way that would have sent Season 1 Emily into wild-eyed panic. She's a fish who's finally aware of the water she swims in, and she's having an identity crisis. I'd pay money just to watch a series following Emily on her post-Richard journey of self-discovery. From villain of the show to anti-heroine. I had a LOT of thoughts. Thanks if you read that 😅

[@kierralovestv]

Hi I just wanna say yes I did read it all and I think this is a great lens to look at it through. If you view it that way it makes her alot more tolerable if that’s what they aimed to show us. I agree that the walls began to come down in AYITL. I can’t wait to chat with you guys about my thoughts on Emily in AYITL bc it really was ONE of the best character arcs I’ve ever seen. I don’t wanna ruin a future video for u guys by saying it all here but I agree with this thank you for sharing!

[@Aelffwynn]

@kierralovestv I always appreciate your insight and I can't wait for more videos! 💜 (the Richard one is going to be so good too!)

[@minimalcat1987]

Those 21 minutes went by so fast! Your videos are so good ☺️

[@alicemoody6682]

Glad you’re back! Love the videos… whenever they come out.

[@shinetilly]

I am just happy to see posts 🥰 I don’t need a set schedule for uploads. I’m just happy when I see a new video pop up. It’s like a surprise treat! 🎉

[@Carolina-kc8lr]

As I re-watch the GG I understand each character more and more. I get to see them through different set of eyes. The first time I was young, second time i was a new mom and now that i get ready to warch it with my daughter and talk it out. I can honestly say that Emily took care of the family's PR and she hated the fact that Lorelia didn't care about how it seemed to others. Lorelia didn't want to continue the cycle. She wanted to hug and love her daughter ❤

[@caseyradli8000]

Kueen kierra out here making the best Gilmore content!!! Don’t you ever worry about taking time off for yourself. Your audience will always be here patiently waiting and rewatching Gilmore girls until you get back :)))

[@kierralovestv]

Ily thank you♥️

[@raekat8470]

Kierra thank you so much for brightening my Monday; you know I’d be singing along to your little theme song if I wasn’t on the subway. Hope you have an amazing day and thank you for another amazing video!!

[@kierralovestv]

Thank YOU for sharing your time with me ♥️ I hope u have an even better one stay safe pls 🫶🏽

[@angelicabianca631]

I just want to point out that stonewalling is, or can often be, a coping mechanism, for people who may not have better strategies for dealing with stressful circumstances. It’s not always intentional. (edit) of course Emily is doing things intentionally here but she is a fictional character. Real people are usually not villainous they’re just people with flaws.

[@fawn4444]

I agree completely! I have a MIL that several therapists have told me is probably on the personality disorder spectrum, and I just realized in this video that I have been stonewalling her to cope with her abuse.

[@Animefreak242]

Agreed though we're supposed to know that everyone in the show is based on someone that Amy Palladino has known in her real life (like Lane is modeled after Amy's best friend who worked on the show with her)

[@simmaslen5410]

Your videos are an amazing study brain break for me I can just listen to them without totally checking out of academic mode but taking a break from my specific exam topic. (Idk if that makes sense but like I can take a break from my study without the mindless consumption of content that TikTok or other videos. It like keeps me in the analytical mode without giving burnout)

[@RoryKavanaugh]

I’m late af to this series but Gilmore girls has half of my heart (the golden girls have the other half) and you do such a great job. these have all been so fun to watch. thank you for making all these!!!

[@randomandwayward5571]

Currently watching GG for the first time w my teenager(we’re beginning season 5) And the amount of times we yell at the tv and shake our heads. I’m binging your GG vids accordingly now that I’m further along. I found you for your SATC content. You’re amazing with these videos. Thank you so much for your effort and insight. You’re awesome!

[@kierralovestv]

Thank you so much for this sweet comment I really appreciate it

[@itsmedrawpower]

This show is so close to my heart because of how much I see of my own mom in lorelai. She used to stonewall me when I was younger (she took therapy and is way healthier in her interactions now), and later I learned that my grandma used to do that to her too (even I acquired some traits of stonewalling when dealing with problems). This show is very realistic on how being raised by a manipulator looks like

[@florp3341]

I love these season analysis videos so much! It’s been fun rewatching the seasons and then listening to your take on what went down. I’ve rewatched this show a lot, but every time you always point out multiple things I had never considered before. Looking forward to the next one, but no rush! Honestly the time between uploads gives me enough time to watch through a season without feeling rushed. Take all the time you need making content

[@nemo6205]

Best intro ive seen in a loooooooooong time

[@lightningfurystrike13]

Thank you for these. I've been wanting to get into the fandom but honestly I have a real problem watching the show because Emily's so toxic and triggering

[@activatedcharcoal]

Despite all of her toxicity, Emily does manage to grow and even appreciate Lorelai now and then. ASP does a wonderful job of writing unlikable characters sympathetically. The show reveals that much of her toxic behavior stems from feeling inadequate and useless. She fritters away her life throwing parties and buying baubles- completely unable to even cook a meal. Meanwhile her daughter raises a child singlehandedly, works, buys a home, puts herself through school, and builds a business. Emily is trapped in a gilded cage and the only way she knows how to make herself feel better is by putting others down.

[@Bora_2712]

I really missed your videos, but I'm glad you took some time for yuourself. Glad to see you back, man I love these series on Gilmore Girls and Emily. She is such an interesting character, to analyze.

[@TheTbear103]

Another fabulous & fun video Kierra!!!

[@OzmaOfOzz]

Missed your content ❤ but always take your time and take care of yourself, we'll be here 🥰 also can't wait for a new SATC video, those give me life

[@bethsalgado191]

You’re baaaaack! 🥳

[@kierralovestv]

♥️ yes I ammm

[@_laurenolo_]

IT'S HERE! 🥰 so keen to eat this up

[@lillytheamazing101]

I love your posts! Don’t mind taking the time you need

[@sophiabbrady]

Just glad to see your Gilmore Girls series again! :)

[@LJ-ld1lp]

Okay, I guess I’ll watch Gilmore girls for the 18th time

[@heyummrandommuch]

If a schedule would help *you*, then I'd love a schedule! But if that would add pressure, no need! Also, if these emily manipulation videos are too draining or not fun, it would be perfectly okay for you to retire the series. Just recently came across your channel and love it!

[@MariA-rt4vq]

It’s the way Emily is exactly like my mom in every scenario you brought up and her logic😭💔

[@Sureealven]

WELCOME BACK!!!

[@kierralovestv]

♥️♥️

[@sierra5877]

Love these video essays! But will say that based on title of the video “manipulation OF Emily Gilmore” I thought it was going to be about how Emily was manipulated. Might be clearer to state manipulation by Emily or manipulation tactics used by Emily Gilmore.

[@wings8099]

that intro was fantastic

[@kathleenlittle3487]

As someone with a narcissistic mother, I think you were spot on haha. Love your stuff!

[@Eph_Wilson]

Lol, the funny thing about Emily and Lorelai's transactional nature is that Emily probably justifies this to herself by saying that Lorelai initiated it at the start of the series, when the truth is that the Emily we see in the past was ALWAYS leveraging her actions to make Lorelai do what she said! Classic passive-aggressive, woe-is-me work.

[@OfficialSTJones]

Thank you for covering this! 💯 Facts!!! Emily was somewhat likable at times in rare moments but it’s always automatically contradicted by her doing something manipulative immediately after. I read somewhere that Kelly Bishop, the actress who played Emily, played Emily as unlikable as she could. She did a good job. I mean, her treatment of Lorelai is SO harsh! Emily as a narcissist makes so much sense! 👏What baffles me so much is that no one except Lorelai and occasionally Rory and Richard calls Emily out on her behavior!

[@HydrogenTwoO]

This is my first time watching a video of yours, but I really appreciated this video :) I like Gilmore Girls because it really helped me understand abuse. I have watched the show 22 times... lol

[@joelleweir9535]

When posting content, I usually schedule my posts to upload automatically and then send out an announcement Less stress because it's already done 😅😂❤

[@kierralovestv]

I’ve been thinking about doing this ty

[@xsenobe4396]

Rather than taking from her parents, which is of course a valid possibility, I personally think Emily's behavior comes at large from Richard's mother. I don't think we ever learned anything about Emily's family, it's almost like she started existing right before she got engaged with Richard.

[@aivlysplath]

Oh god the poking and the pushing and the wilful ignorance of narcissists. Spot on.

[@HannahJones-yx1vu]

My father hates Gilmore girls and hates us watching it he acts a lot like Emily very abusive a narcissist I wonder why hmmm is it because seeing it makes him face the horrible parent he is makes him feel uncomfortable

[@natyc19]

Me who have ADHD and understand completely: yeah that checks out

[@kierralovestv]

😂😂😂 “yeah that checks out” adhd burnout is REAL

[@mariannlarrivee2156]

can we talk about the editing🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@kierralovestv]

Thank you!

[@keanuparker1436]

I’m doing a case study in my abnormal psych class and we get to choose a character so I chose Emily, because she reminds me so much of my mother. She got under my skin so bad. Your video is helping me with key points 😂😂😂 thank you

[@NoName-nx4kj]

The theme song literally slapssss tho

[@cuppycakes183]

I feel like Lorelai is always apologizing first when she shouldn't have to. She can sometimes get herself into those situations by not speaking up sooner, but I still don't think that discredits her feelings and reactions. She justifiably gets upset and then somehow, so many people end up manipulating her into an apology, it's infuriating! Emily, Richard, MICHEL, even Sookie!

[@jadebramwell1]

Ahhh I love your videos

[@kierralovestv]

🫶🏽 hi thank you!

[@Christine-sg5gw]

welcome back. :)

[@kaylarizzo3586]

i love watching these as im watching gg for the first time

[@wordswrittenbyme2109]

Listen you are speaking alot of facts about Emily. I liked seeing trix. Give emily a taste of her medicine. It's no surprise Lorelai left with rory. We see glimpses of what their influence over rory has. I'm so curious to know what you're thoughts are on you're revival.

[@AriUgalde]

i would love you reacting to the podcast of Luke!

[@thesaucysassy]

I have maybe seen like 3 episodes of gilmore girls when i was younger. It was too... *coughs* wholesome /pure for me. However i love listening to your analysis

[@kierralovestv]

Thank you!

[@miaisheree]

Finally someone said it!! Emily represents conditional love 💔

[@alyzu4755]

Take whatever time you need. ❤️ No date needed, IMHO.

[@Eph_Wilson]

Kierra's back?! Hallelujah!

[@EmpressJusticeTarot]

If she was celebrated in the same was as an Edina Monsoon or Lucille Bluth for how openly horrible but entertaining they are, I'd give the Emily Gilmore love a pass. But people treat her like a hero of the story, and I find that aggravating.

[@Ntntnt03940]

Emily is to lorelai what my dad is to me.

[@movielifter7712]

I would say it’s a mix for me if you can do a a schedule great if not than that’s fine

[@alexis11250]

😅 i have adhd i get it lol 😂 im a new subscriber btw :)

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

I have a toxic mom too but she's not quite as bad as Emily (thank God). It's hard 😔

[@Tasha-ry6co]

Me too, and that’s why I get so frustrated when people say they love Emily… like if you had to live with her you wouldn’t. I can’t blame lorelai for over correcting with Rory and trying to be her best friend

[@MaluCLBS]

I think Emily views her relationship with Lorelai as a business, but I’m not sure it was this way before Lorelai got pregnant. I think it’s a tit-for-tat kinda thing (hopefully I’m using the term right, English is not my first language) What I think is she had a very strict way to Lorelai’s upbringing, she always treated Lorelai like a 4yo, regardless of her age, wanting to have more control over her, which of course, Lorelai didn’t like. We only have the flashback episode to see exactly how it was, but Lorelai might’ve known Emily was manipulative towards other people she didn’t directly have control over, unlike her daughter. So what I think happened when Lorelai ran away from home, Emily shifts her relationship with Lorelai from being in “total” control to being a worse mother because she never forgave Lorelai for running away. I even think she can’t really understand why she ran away because she thinks her parenting was all right. The problem for her was Lorelai, who wouldn’t be submissive all the time. So she gets to manipulate her now because she’s still hurt she doesn’t have the relationship with her daughter that she wished she had. It’s her retaliation for being hurt. Of course, that doesn’t excuse her for being a terrible mother. It should have been a sign that something was wrong with her parenting but she took it the other way. It’s easy for me to say Emily is a very interesting character to watch because my mother isn’t like that, but I understand why so many people hate her. I love these videos BTW.

[@kyndramb7050]

Me also have ADHD. Me get it.

[@eighthsage4861]

Let us hear your thoughts on love-bombing 🖤💣

[@DeepikaGinger]

When did Lorelai talk about how they hid her away when she was pregnant? Could someone please give me an episode name?

[@kierralovestv]

I can’t remember the exact episode, I’d have to rewatch again but its somewhere in season 2 where she talks about how they hid her and lied about her being pregnant to their friends she mentions it very briefly and laughs I think she mentions it to quickly point out that her parents are non confrontational and that the gilmores are known to avoid things

[@DeepikaGinger]

@@kierralovestv Thanks for replying!!! I love your videos!

[@kierralovestv]

No problem thank you 🫶🏽

[@optigana]

Please do a video on Lane and Dave Rygalsky ❤ Deep fried Corean Thanks Giving it's my gavorite Gilmore Girls episode ever, I think it was a perfect episode. Lane was so happy, they liked each other so much. Please please please ❤ thank you 🧡🧡

[@kierralovestv]

I alr have a video out talking all about Dave and Lane’s relationship ♥️ ty for watchin

[@optigana]

@@kierralovestv looking for the video right now 🧡

[@kierralovestv]

@@optigana thank you, enjoy!

[@jenbialek]

Closed captions please

[@kierralovestv]

They should be there now thx for the reminder 🤟🏽

[@R0W4N-e5y]

before I say this, I'm not trying to be hateful towards you. so in this video you said Emily shows behaviors of/is a narcissist but most narcissists are self aware and are actually very scarred of being a bad person here are some better words that you could use that I think you're trying to say selfish egotistical vanity self- absorbed smug again this isn't hate I just don't like it when people say disorders as a negative adjective

[@aspyn.j_]

ADHD gang heyyyy lol

[@kierralovestv]

HEYYYY its been so long 😭🫶🏽

[@majinally3527]

oh yeeeesssss

[@rkenzie5235]

YAY!

[@Forceprincess]

Forgive me if you've talked about this somewhere else? But do you think that possibly lorelei has adhd? Like, she's so bright. But she also seems to be slightly disorganized, in several places at once, makes weird non-sequitors in conversations. Like, for her job she can mask and be absolutely perfection and then be kinda tired and need all the coffee. Also, the caffeine addiction.

[@kierralovestv]

I think Lorelai might have ADHD too tbh and anxiety. Sometimes people think when people talk a bunch it’s because they’re just a huge talker but sometimes its to fill an uncomfortable silence that’s aiding in their pre-existing anxiety and while Lorelai does talk alot in general some of it may be because of her anxiety. If you watch any scenes with her alone with her parents it comes out even more then. If they showed Lorelai finding out she has ADHD I wouldn’t be shocked at all

[@chrystianaw8256]

I highly doubt that.

[@claricesilva2700]

God, you guys really dive deep into this show right? This is probably the 21000 thousand time i see people make videos like these lol.

[@xeshacinds]

YAY thank you for getting this up for us!! 🤍 there's a lot of discourse online about how Lorelai is insane for not wanting to just 'have a little dinner once a week' and this is exactly why!! Emily doesn't do kind things for free!!

[@promisemochi]

also every dinner there'll be at least ONE time (and that's if we're being nice) that she'll be degraded, have her parenting questioned, her life-style questioned, her job questioned, her abilities questioned. i can't imagine he emotional "hyping up" i'd have to do before going to that every week, plus how emotionally draining it would be to leave there and have to put on a brave happy face for your daughter. it's not just "a little dinner once a week." and i wish more people would see that

[@xeshacinds]

​@@promisemochi ​10000% this!!! I cannot imagine having to sit somewhere for hours on end every week where I'm berated just for existing, especially from someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally. I absolutely wouldn't be able to do it!

[@kierralovestv]

No problem & yeah I see it too maybe the plus side is whoever says that probably has never experienced that level of dysfunction with their family so good for them ig?

[@xeshacinds]

@Kierra loves TV definitely agree with this, I think it's much more apparent when you've been Lorelai unfortunately!

[@kierralovestv]

Exactly

[@alwaysgrace2215]

Don't stress about the dates. 📅 Just love your videos! ❤