The Mindset Of A Custody Judge: Here's Why It's Important

[@samuelbrown8164]

Whether father or mother in a case...the best way to go to court is to understand that particular coutrs' rules...dress as if you're going on a job interview... answer the questions from the mind of your child(ren)...trust yourself as a parent... remember that 18 years is not forever. Be that parent that your child will be proud of, and have faith and patience. Respectfully answer each question cordially. Show emotions accordingly. Remember you are representing and advocating for your child(ren), and not there for yourself. That's my best advice!

[@whatchawatchawant4175]

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[@mmalithefather1472]

You are so delusional if you really think any of that matters smh

[@the_treyfire3116]

I really like this I’m going to read this when I step into Court next month BBM keeping son me Rn over money and bother father to her new Bf sad but got a keep fighting

[@4everu984]

18 years? Tons of custody goes to 23 year old for child.

[@eliseross6885]

I believe if you suddenly mimic the judges movements like a feeling it's hard to get a good sip of water you do the same ect. The judge will subconsciously align with you and see you as similar or alike themselves. So very thankful to hear similar information

[@allrockfarmllc9909]

“There is no law in family law” hearing that from portlands top attorney is all it took for me to fire my attorney and start studying…i now have custody of my son. Law is stupid easy once you dive into it.

[@stephonriddick5606]

And advice on where to start?

[@Stacy-oq6gt]

If you're a man that's not even impressive. Women only retain custody 7% of the time. The system was built by slave owning men

[@jcarrieivory]

Can you help me, please?

[@danivani5837]

Please share. Please I'm in ky

[@marissajames8865]

I am going through a custody battle right now. I am about ready to fire my lawyer. She sucks. Did you fire your attorney and go before a judge?

[@miguelbermudez5426]

Family court judges are the most incompetent ppl in all of law. They don't care about the best interest of the child at all. For 2 years I was getting extorted for CS by my ex ($5500/month) to be exact only to find out that my daughter was being neglected. I then get custody and guess what the judge didn't do? Yep, make her pay CS to me and even maintain the same lifestyle that she had before. Oh and the judge told me that "I make too much $$ to get CS." i didn’t even want her $$ anyway but it is the principle.

[@Lisa-zs2iy]

Family court is far from even

[@ewave662]

keep up the good work papa

[@oneloveoneheart3563]

I never heard a person could have a child and not have to fulfill there obligations!

[@ms.acbeautiful]

1000% AGREEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDD!!!!!!!!

[@ms.acbeautiful]

Im the ONLY mother in the system it seems where the court doesn’t care about the constant abuse tactics of the father or how much trauma he’s caused my child or the fact that he refuses and evades child support processes in every state or that he extorted CS from ME and I’m the primary! He’s never made any attempt to sanely provide for my child, attempted to kidnap her 2x in 2020 and the court (magistrate aka even ore incompetent than fam judges) disregarded everything gave him joint legal. A indefinite harassment tool for his idiot ass to continue his narcissistic activity. Smh Why not give a single parent that solely provides and cares fora child SINCE BIRTH SOLE LEGAL custody!!?!?! Why must we endure this NARCISSISTIC SAGA LIFE?! Our children are damaged by this and they could care less!!!

[@justinejustice_league1857]

Reminder; there's is no such thing as an unbiased judge especially if they have been serving for long years, time spent has helped them form strong opinions on people. Alot of the time they have sized you up before you even open your mouth to state your concerns and in some cases they have already judged you. This will happen especially if they are prejudice or racist. They already have thier minds made up about your character solely based on thier perception of you.. this could be based on your race, creed, religion and orientation and there's absolutely nothing you can do about that

[@marcusavila2961]

You can pray, and ask the Holy Spirit to cover you and the court room.

[@ProMainMan]

The world could also not exist tomorrow too. Seriously do not feel race, color, creed plays a factor in this topic as you believe. Maybe someone that wants to use that, could see a judge seeing through that and if it’s a good judge he will see the character flaw

[@fitlio3778]

@@ProMainMan you , my friend , you are clearly from another world or have lived under a rock for far too long .

[@Michael-bx7hb]

more than racist is sexist. courts hate men. men pay thousands and judges don't even listen

[@mmalithefather1472]

@@marcusavila2961lmao that is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard lol

[@FatherX2022]

TBH, I am not buying the "judges are people, too, just like us" story. During my ~10 years litigating in family court, I came across ~25 judges, child support magistrates, and family attorneys. When I compare them to the corporate professionals I've worked with at Fortune 500 companies and tech startups (and the competence of these professionals), the family court practitioners rank in the bottom 20-35% in terms of intelligence. I found the family court practitioners to be lazy, incompetent, incapable of any depth of thought or analysis, gender-biased against dads, incapable of asking the right question to get to the truth, overly reliant on the use of cliches instead of real analysis, lacking in character/integrity, and far more interested in just going through the motions instead of finding the best interests of the child. And I WON my custody case, despite this hurdle. Not saying this to be mean...but to bring to light the obvious question: Is Family Court qualified to make competent decisions on behalf of families and children? Is it time to overhaul family court...or abolish it altogether?

[@Mrs.FleetOwner]

It definitely should not be abolished because if it doesn't exist, the Parental Alienation that a lot of bitter, disgruntled mothers impose against the father would be unchecked and will continue to be allowed. If the current family court system needs improvement then improve it but its definitely needed and shouldn't be abolished. The fathers won't stand a chance without something to go to when dealing with difficult mothers of their children

[@ryancox5097]

What ​@@Mrs.FleetOwner just said ^^^

[@candicemessick867]

​@@Mrs.FleetOwner I agree 👍

[@Joe-vs2if]

Let quit teaching a the FEMALE GENDER, THAT having children is a Males Consequence to BURDEN. QUIT ALLOWING THESE COURTS TO WEAPONIZE OUR KIDS!😊

[@Hautenani]

@@Mrs.FleetOwnerstop with this bs. Fathers impose parental alienation just as much but it doesn’t count to you people when they do it. Especially with a stepparent involved 🤦🏽‍♀️ Children are 100x’s more likely to be abused with a stepparent in the home. There’s a reason for the evil step mom stereotype. Toxic men usually marry pick me’s who are more concerned with enabling him than the welfare of the children.

[@lisawomble4719]

Egos are huge in ALL 3 opposition, judge included !

[@yigitfrat5732]

I don't know what I would have done without *usespy online* help in my divorce case. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise were like a lifesaver. You're my hero!

[@SavannahBella-io8lm]

Thanks for this comment i need something like this.

[@danielowens3664]

Didn’t know Donnie wahlburg practiced law

[@judgeanthony]

😂😂😂😂

[@candicemessick867]

I was like hold on a min...is that Donny?!!!!! But then I remembered that's not this guy's name 🤔 but you fooled me for a second hahaha In my defense it's still early in the morning and I haven't had a full cup of coffee yet 😂 but he really does look like donny 🙃 lol

[@theQueenBsHealingHive]

You're not wrong 😂​@@candicemessick867

[@CannaNoir]

​​@@judgeanthony

[@cameronk4582]

I’m ready to have my case heard. It’s been continued twice now.

[@raquelsostre4765]

Just be ready to get your evidence in effectively without thinking of what others might say. You said it, "They are human beings"

[@jarudolphesq]

“You have to learn to get along” Bang gavel

[@LesliWebandMediaSvcsonYouTube]

Such valuable information! I've been in family court (too much) and wish I had seen this before I was in court. So helpful!

[@pinkinkrealtyltd4854]

Those types of judges who berate should be in jail

[@audiojAv]

Great videos and material; thank you! Do u have any material on how to properly appeal and provide feedback on a judge one feels they have improperly decided or treated one improperly? Thanks

[@FatherX2022]

That varies state by state. Appeals take a lot of work to put together, But many people have done it. And you would go to your state's court website to figure out the process and procedures for filing an appeal. process and procedures matter a lot...and they vary by state. As for feedback on a judge, States usually have an office for judicial misconduct... but the name of that office varies by state.

[@annctiis-ij9nq]

I am in the middle of dealing with cps and the courts. I believe that the next court hearing is a case review then termination of parental rights hearing/court. I have two court appointed attorneys and both have quit. They both quit when I asked them about my rights and to defend them. The commissioner said that I don't get another court appointed attorney, that I have to hire an attorney or self rep myself. Well I'm unable to afford attorney. So I started looking at my case files and discoved that I was never officially served. There has been two other court hearing in which there has been a certificate of service attached to the judgment. Am I now able to ask for dismissal due to no service in the beginning of the case

[@florencethompson4161]

Vermilion County Illinois is disgusting when it comes to child custody. My son has been going through his custody case for over FOUR years now and he has YET to even see a judge. The mom has kept his daughter from hlm for over THREE of those years and still he hasn't been able to get in front of a judge. They are slime or whatever is lower than slime! His attorney agrees with anything the opposing side wants and has yet to get anything in writing from the opposing side or anyrhing signed by a judge. No even temp visitation! And this is after his daughter lived with him the 1st four years of her life, until moms new bf decided to cut this side of the family out of the child's life. This has been allowed to go on for over four damn years! Disgusting!

[@candicemessick867]

Oh no. So sorry to hear it. Prayers for you and your son and the child involved 🙏 and prayers that the mothers heart will be softened to bring his child to see him. She's a bad mom for keeping her child from the father. That's so wrong. She's not just hurting him she is hurting her child aswell. 💔 so heartbreaking. I'm a woman but I'm going through a similar battle- because my kids dad has money and I don't. But I haven't seen my kids in a couple years because he left the state and now I can't find them 😢 and I don't have money for a lawyer. That's why I'm here on this channel.

[@bryanharrell4059]

Keep telling your story far and wide! Fathers have been silenced in family court and no one listens to them. Only mothers of sons that are going through family court and understand what's happening to our children and grandchildren will be able to help. For the sake of future generations, your son and future children of divorce need help. Children are growing up with loving, capable fathers. Family court is encouraging and incentivizing fatherless families. I hope something has changed since you last commented.

[@2MissLadyG]

Hey!!! I didn’t know you had a KZbin channel!!! Yes 🙌🏼 thank you

[@Paradise4Nerds]

Mom got served to not move out of the county. Mom moved 4 hrs out of state and hasnt let me see or talk to my kids in 33 days. Court hearing coming up. Mom is now being a narcissist spreading around I sexually abuse my kids. Which isn't true. She moved for a Boyfriend. What are some things you've seen from Judges to fix this issue? She got my kids out of school and moved away from family they grew up to. She's been ignoring mandated mediation who will do abuse screenings as well.

[@Polytrout]

As a custodial parent, I was not allowed to move more than 25 kilometres (about 15miles) away from my kids' mom. But I'm in Canada, specifically Ontario.

[@grahanatha8184]

How do you feel about a feel good “day in the life” video in custody court when there’s been false allegations you have no relationship with the kids? Can these help influence the judge?

[@joshhodge2338]

Going to court can be stressful , take notes educate yourself about your particular situation and always put your family ideas first , do not speak foe yourself speak on behalf of yourself and your children . Another tricky part especially with youth and children's cases is you may not get the same judge that has petitioned you to court you may get a certain judge depending on the case , remember this is a PROCESS and you have to educate yourself .

[@arosenthal531]

Thank you for such great advice 🙏🏼

[@rockbottomcycles4526]

Damn man you are the king of beating around the bush.

[@emkere]

*usespy online,* you're the Beyonce of divorce cases! Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise helped me slay my case and keep my property. You're a King!

[@DeadMouseis]

I am From Franklyn County Ohio...I'll Prove All of This Is Absolutely Wrong...Judges & magistrate's Here Could Care Less About Dads...I'll prove it....With Out Finding My Unfit Or Abusive,Neglectful I Lost Custody Of 4 Kids To A Grand Mother Who Admitted To Watching The Children be Abused For Years With Her Daughter And The Daughters Bf.>With Out ANY complaint Filed Against Me The Judge Seems to Think I Am In The Court's Jurisdiction To Be Judged..This Case Has Been Drug Out for 5 Years with not one complaint Filed against me... So if what you say is right where did my case go wrong?

[@169Aquarius]

Here is my case story Been with my child mother for 9 yrs. I have been in my child life since he was born. He is 11 yrs old now mother decided to let girlfriend manipulate her into cheating we broke up messed up my child and he lost the stability of mom and dad. Then she proceeded to get a person who hated me cause he was bum and I was taking care my child ,working and living in my own place and he was not. Ok then she stated keeping our son away from me, for 3 months I didn’t see my son . I cared her to court I got every weekend for 1 yr . This was bullshit. Then I got another attorney cause after the year was up she stated keeping him away from me again this attorney took my case and I had evidence of contempt and a case against her . The court gave me every other weekend and 1 day the following week. This was the second bullshit how the court fucked me over from 50/50. Then she retaliate with child support after 10 yrs of taking care my son cause she was embarrassed in court by the judge and my attorney. (Bummer for me ) My attorney fucked me over by getting my child support date mixed up and lying to me they had child support over the phone cause I was and 200 mi away. I told him to reschedule he told me they trying to have my case now.My attorney fucked me over with that . I trying to hold it together now got one more attorney and to and go to court for my temporary custody and child support which was temporary. My attorney had pics , text messages, paperwork, phone calls , documents and evidence against her showing she was at fault. We went to court none of the evidence was mention in this case I was like what the fuck and she had no attorney all in this case. To me it was the best interest for our child that what matters in a custody case. Anyways we were going for 50/50 custody the judge told us that he will get back in two weeks of his ruling cause this was a hard case to decide. ( I knew I was about to get fucked my attorney talking I think we got your 50/50 . I knew I had lost and you fucked me in court by not providing no evidence. So I got lost my every other weekend adding some days and still gave her 16 to my 12 days in a month. The story and results that judge made a permanent custody order not in the best interest of our child but to make sure I stay on child support with no reduction and in the system. As a man in the court I realize you cannot get 50/50 custody unless you find reason the mom was unfit or in contempt. I got fucked big time this one ran over my days kept my son from and I built a case up against her and still got shitted on. What do I do now I have no more fight left in my I tried so hard , I have been a good dad and been there for my son and I felt I got shitted on. Sheesh 😒

[@NeeCBaby]

I am so sorry

[@Shakashack2022]

🌟I agree Judge.. it’s a human thing, learn the mindset game (which takes years for most adults to learn, or else we wouldn’t be in a court situation). 😏 Under immense stress at home, at work & in the court when your baby’s life is at stake, it’s effin HARD to keep it together!!!! Do you have a specific play-by-play video on how to play this mindset game? (Like a visual of the courtroom & important points to consider in the game.) Thank you for your help.

[@johnholden9020]

I feel like if My Judge knew what my attny has failed to help her understand...she would have a fit...she would be livid at how much danger that child was allowed to remain in. Here's a skit of my case. Like ClaiminG that Guy "A" stole. But theres a video of guy "b" stealing. Guy "A" is charged and his child taken away. The judge didn't get told about the video of guy "B committed the crime" So guy "A" was presented as guilty. Amd forced to pay and attny still didn't bother showing the evidence of guy "B" stealing. Guy "A" is scared and intimidated into signing filing papers the attny refused to explain. Asking for an investigation.... Meanwhile... Then the other side muddied water....and Guy "a" cant afford the battle. Guy "A" still sits accused 3yrs later. 3yrs innocent as god is alive with out his child.

[@jamesdickens1252]

What about a situation where the father is doing everything he is supposed to but the state is engaging in illegal and corrupt practices in an effort to keep his child away from him that is my current situation. It is weird and unprecedented and I want to know if anyone can relate or have heard something like this

[@PoyTroy]

I feel for you bro. At this point you just need to hire an attorney and come up with all the evidence you can that you’re a great dad.

[@ratchet2622]

What happens when the petitioner has witnesses and the defendant gets the witnesses list, then calls all of the witnesses and messages them non stop and the witnesses feel scared and decide not to witness in the petitioner’s defense of the children?

[@debbieandoliviagiannecchin3421]

they become Hostile witness and they can pursue harassment charges from local authorities.

[@helenwright2325]

I'm in the UK. The judge in our case has disregarded evidence from the Court and Family Liasion Services that concluded my ex-husband to be emotional abusive to both my children, social services and Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services have provided written evidence to say the same. The Judge has dismissed, without even looking at this evidence, and sent me back to mediation with my ex concluding we are parents arguing over days, because this is what my ex keeps saying. Obviously I can disagree with him, but then I am arguing with him which proves her case. Mediation have refused to mediate due to safeguarding concerns over the children. How do i get the Judge to listen to the evience regarding the safeguarding concerns about my children

[@deniseghosn6007]

Our unmarried daughter is in a custody situation with a narcissist. It has been so stressful and heartbreaking! Her baby is 5 months old. Our daughter is 19 and has no income. She has not been able to get child support. Her previous lawyer was not helpful at all. Now she really needs to find a pro bono attorney. We call around to try to get help and everyone keeps saying "Call this number" and we're getting nowhere. 😢 Can you give us some advice?

[@ic3671]

Hey, I’m not a lawyer, but I’m going through the exact same problem is as your daughter. I am in a custody battle with a narcissist and my daughter is 5 months old. He is taking me to court next week for a Temporary Orders Hearing (despite not being involved in the child’s life). I’ve been busting my ass trying to prepare because I don’t have money for an attorney. I’m open to compare notes if you think it will be helpful.

[@laurayancey5094]

Is it beneficial or strange to watch the judge in court during other trials or items on the docket? Veteran Pro Se here, and you are going to help me bring it. I can not thank you enough.

[@laurayancey5094]

Even when it may be just the parties and the families there ?

[@KJ-gx7bg]

So my ex has a high profile attorney that is friends with judges they have been known to go out and have lunch and dinner etc….One of the judges heard our PFA case and actually recused himself because he was my ex attorney for several years, but made an order because my ex got mad and told them to give me whatever I want so he can have his clothes out my house… well when I filed for custody he denied my emergency hearing and the ICC was sent to him as well and I kept having a hard time getting heard because he is not supposed to be on the case since it’s a conflict of interest…so I filed a judicial complaint… now I have another judge who gave me emergency custody, but then turned around and gave my ex a $250 fine, for several PFA violations one of them being he tried to break in my home while out on bail on 3 felony warrants… come to find out my ex is an informant and the police and DA are on his side…. I have some damaging proof of crimes that my ex committed that I offered to the pd and they refused to take it so I plan on bringing it to court and using it for custody and a reason for my relocation…I’m just praying the judge doesn’t get pissed off because it’s not criminal court but I believe it’s vital in my child’s safety because I don’t know who is after my ex for retaliation and I don’t want my son in the crossfire of his bs

[@Ssungoddess]

Praying it went well for you! My story is similar except the involvement from what I know for sure, is with my family. Not including his other illegal dealings.. not sure if the judge is going to be willing to hear It. Sending love ❤

[@carrasco2011sc]

I am going back to court after winning 2 cases. I don't even know how the court accepted to reopen the case when there hasn't been any significant change in our lives.

[@jarradehatcher5666]

My daughter mom messed up twice they keep giving her a slap on the wrist along with DHS this is crazy

[@shersher5076]

Why would you need to know what you can or cant "get away" with in court....this for me implies that there's misconconduct that can go unrecognized if you are skillfull enough....correct me if Im wrong...

[@PangoSSD]

Yes correct it possibly can play out to be a misconduct charge ...but what is really happening is that the advantage is taking advantage of the disadvantage...what the advantage are entitled to so the disadvantage should as well....correct me if I'm wrong???

[@judgeanthony]

I understand your perspective but it’s not. Here’s a simplified example. If you have a very strict and angry judge you better watch what you say and how you act. On the other hand some judges let you ramble and have a much longer leash. There’s a style and mindset to everyone in the courtroom. It would be a disadvantage to not use it to your advantage. 😊

[@fitlio3778]

@@judgeanthony "some judges let you ramble and have a much longer leash"...are we Dogs or slaves ...or desperate loving parents ....does it makes or loving children , little puppies ? Sher Sher , said all "this for me implies that there's misconconduct"...Judge do not resume and oversimply it down to a family court " judge" , the real issues and their deficiencies are laying elsewhere; the family law itself needs to be revisted , rewritten . period

[@timothybinkley688]

AMEN ! I believe you are so right Sher Sher !

[@terriwilliams6092]

Thank you. I'm just learning about u. I'm so scared to lose my God children

[@candicemessick867]

I hope and pray you did NOT lose them 🙏 and if you did I pray for your peace and understanding. Hugs. ..

[@CowgrlAmara]

ABSOLUTELY YES!! TY TY TY!!!💪🌲🔮🦸‍♀️🔮🌲💪- BE

[@YourMom-eq4xw]

Anthony, we have court this month and I found out its going to be over Zoom. What are your thoughts on that?

[@judgeanthony]

Unfortunately many courts are going online. I’ve done them. The effectiveness depends on the type of hearing really.

[@YourMom-eq4xw]

@@judgeanthony Thank you for the response. I appreciate your videos, they are insightful.

[@sergiomedina2328]

My judge was just getting me mad but I didn’t said anything he was telling me if I didn’t pay child support I will go to jail I was just listening to him but I got so tired of listening him over 5 min repeating the same thing to me and he even told the both lawyers to imagine being in jail for not paying children support so I was done I told him judge there’s a reason I stop pay children support he like I don’t what to know n don’t didn’t what to listen and then I told him I don’t care about children support all I what is my daughter and then I stood quite and then he stop with that jail BS

[@TheDiana1988]

You cant stop paying support without a court order.did yoyr child stop eating,ect

[@lo-ul8nq]

I am in new jersey, the family court system here you get the same judge in morris county. My x husband got away with so much in court with his lies and being abusive to me and my children. He got away with everything. The lawyers i got only took my money and didnt do much. Child services is a joke they believe the liars and abusers. My x husband is a Naracist, and he said false assassinations against me to child services when he was the one who was abusive to me and my children. Child services gave him my children and took them away from me. The judge also believe my x husband's lies and he got away with everything.

[@sirwalksoftly]

6:40 "If you cannot settle your case, you're not gonna like the decision I'll have to make." The judge assigned to my case has said this. I'm not sure if it's had an effect on the opposing party. My interpretation was to "scare" us a bit to figure things out, which is what I've been operating at the halfway-mark for, and for the opposing party to meet me there. I hope justice is served.

[@PoyTroy]

Yess you’re not gonna like when the judge steps in. They’re basically gonna just go with normal court order things , and be very much appealing to what the mother wants. Unless you have an attorney to say otherwise. Just from my experience

[@sirwalksoftly]

@@PoyTroy Hello my friend, thanks for your reply. In my experience, you are correct. The court sided with the mother even though she lied her ass off... incredulously disgusting and shameful on the court making that determination with blatant evidence so I suspect collusion to some degree. My attorney was weak and failed me, his heart was not in it. In hindsight, he could've done A LOT more/better but much proof was left on the table. So my next steps are to appeal, and continue fighting for my child. I honestly just wanted 50/50 from the jump but a spiteful mother will make that beyond difficult.

[@thekillerwolfs4587]

My judge is Asian and strict she agrees with cps about everything

[@gabrielledroddy9561]

Can my attorney go through the program with me and receive CLE

[@bashasharawi3193]

Question Please! My daughters mother went MIA with my Son. I filled for custody already. But she will not answer the phone or let me see my Son. Should I keep calling her and take records to the custody hearing???

[@FatherX2022]

I would say yes. You should document all the efforts you made to see your son and her denials of access to your son. This includes phone records. But I think emails are better, because they show the words that you used... As opposed to a phone bill with just her number. Document phone calls and emails and texts. Word of caution... Even if you have the right to contact her, do not let it get to the point of harassment. Everyday might be too much. And you shouldn't leave threatening messages, just plain vanilla, that you want to see your son. Another caution is that if you leave her voicemails and do not have recordings of those, she might come back and claim that you will have to threatening messages... Depends on the kind of person she is. And I assume there are no restraining orders in place to prevent you from contacting her...

[@bashasharawi3193]

@@FatherX2022 Thank you so much. And Yes! There’s no Restraining orders in place.

[@bashasharawi3193]

@@FatherX2022 Thank you so much. And Yes! There’s no Restraining orders in place.

[@nesiboffnicat539]

I didn't think I could win my divorce case, but then *usespy online* swooped in like a knight in shining armor. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise saved the day. Thank you !!

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

I think the female judges I've experienced are more abrupt as they fear they'll be labelled "soft" so they go to the other extreme

[@mushroommcfarmer1766]

Hey...you look like you could be Vin Diesel's brother. 🤔 I want Vin Diesel's brother to represent ME in court! 😃

[@candicemessick867]

He looks more like donny Walberg lol 😆

[@melissavega6243]

Here's my deal, I recently had spine surgery and been raising my daughter without hee father for 14 years. Now, he claims her on his taxes and uses the money to get a lawyer to take me to court. He's been battling heroin addiction his whole adult life and I have never kept my daughter from her father bur now I fear what could happen with her. I don't have a lawyer. I let him deal with his addiction to be a healthy person and it never benefitted my daughter. I feel like he's gonna get my kid and he'll take her to a drug dealers house, again. I did however tell his mother that he could no longer have her unsupervised because I wasn't gonna risk my daughters life like he had many times. I don't have any elders and I have a 10 year old son who is special needs and just feel this stranger just wants to take our kid so he can use her. He can not physically, financially or mentally take care of himself let alone a 14 yr old. What do I do???????😢

[@kgalacticstarseed5978]

When the judges see text messages as "proof" do you or anyone think that they can tell that they are 'baiting' responses

[@laurayancey5094]

I never got a judge to really read the texts. They want it first hand from you and will ask for proof if needed.

[@Hautenani]

You can’t let them bait you though. If you know that’s their strategy why play along? Go to therapy to heal from the invalidation, emotional abuse, reactionary abuse and scapegoating so you can become immune to that bs. They are trying to make you look like a problem just as much as them.

[@nicholezirba7840]

Court commissioner is clearly biased I misunderstood part of a court order and apologized to the court and totally willing to correct my mistake, he yelled at me and asked does he need to spell it out in crayon?! How is this ok? I deserve the same respect that they expect!!! Also at the end of the ex parte emergency hearing dad held he commented saying it doesn’t look good for me come December?!!!! He’s completely biased I want him removed but have no attorney and ex does. Also we have a trial judge assigned at what point do we see this trial judge instead of the biased commissioner?!!

[@rosacam6765]

You can file a complaint against the judge.

[@7_1199]

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[@mml1224]

HEY tony, semi stay at home in TX, wife breadwinner, i do about 75perc of kids stuff etc, and i am between jobs, can i got for primary or joint and not have to also pay child support, what angle do i play? great vid!

[@ProMainMan]

Get a job and save your marriage

[@mml1224]

@@ProMainMan why do you say that, i would lose primary and have to split custody and support if i l cant save my marriage, no guarantee......

[@jasonstermensky3276]

Ty so much Sir

[@melissaroberts-brown9214]

Anthony, what if my judge has had discretions, he’s in the same boat as my stbx husband, my judge left his wife and 2 girls for another woman. When he (the judge) filed, he too gave his wife Primary Custody... circled back around and a year and a 1/2 later is trying to get 50-50 custody, and is in a custody battle. I find this to be soo biases!!! HELP!!!!

[@dumbdonny4824]

Jesus what a nightmare!

[@_ahmeteremgg_]

*usespy online* assistance was invaluable in my divorce case. Their expertise, dedication, and hard work made all the difference. Keep up the fantastic work !

[@Derek-cb9lx]

None of this mattered for me. There was no questioning anything from the judge. Custody was already determined before I walked in the door.

[@ChrystalSimonar]

looking for the link to his video "How to dress for court" - any one have the link?

[@Omertarik123]

Thank you *usespy online,* for being the Hermione Granger of divorce cases! Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise were like magic. you're a wizard!

[@matthewdavis6310]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@erincarranza3886]

So, I had a family court judge in CA tell me I was not allowed to object to anything that my ex said. He also took away my custody because he didnt like my job.....what kind of mindset would you call that?

[@erincarranza3886]

@Makaela I am a CPS family reunification coach. I help parents get their kids out of foster care and back in the home.

[@erincarranza3886]

@Makaela I teach parents how to fight back and get their children away from CPS

[@chocolateshake1130]

@@erincarranza3886 great job 👏🏾

[@Nisheable]

Can you give me some pointers

[@qinwudi7744]

Family law judges in Canada have 2 thoughts: never make a desion until the lawyers get all the billable hours they can, as these were the guys that recommended him to the prime minister he get a judgship. The other thought they have is 'I made alot of personal political donations to get this gig and I am not gonna upset the graveytrain by not protecting the governments managment of the largest voting block.

[@pinkconfidantp2me912]

Judges need to try and understand what the parents are going through, judges aren't the ones going through Hell judges aren't the ones getting anxiety depression faithlessness screw all these judgmental pricks

[@eighty7nines]

How do we get in contact with you for 1-on-1 sessions?

[@joshhodge2338]

Judges that handle children's an juvenile cases can hard on you no matter how good of a parent you are , they look at it like well you got put in front of me so how are you gonna fix this

[@randommaxw4896]

Does a man that is married and fights for 50/50. How often does that happen. Washington State. Paternity was established in 2019. He went for full custody in 2020 and willl settle for 50/50. Temp orders give him every other weekend and Wednesday for 2 hours. I am back with my ex of 18 plus years and he is a great father figure to my son since before birth. How often does 50/50 happen? I have not talked to the wife.

[@laurayancey5094]

I would love to talk to you. I was one of the leaders in parental alienation. We wrote a book. I absolutely would love to talk to you. Thank you for your mindset.

[@oldmarketforge9999]

Thank you for doing this.

[@ashleybellerose7104]

Im worried. Im scared. This is hard. The trial is done. Everythings done. The judge gives his ruling in a month

[@goshazimo8512]

My ex husband is Muslim and the judge is a Muslim woman... he is Muslim when it suits him, she was on his side, for example explaining that he has the right to go to massage workers "prostitutes", spend his money the way he wants because he worked and I was at home with children...my role to be servant, his role earning money provide for us. Its a lot to say... Muslim culture and mentality judge that's what I'm fight with at this moment in London court in XXI century.

[@dumbdonny4824]

Oh my gosh im so sorry

[@TwoScarvesComedy]

Hey! I'm Muslim (American born) and my ex is Muslim. Like your ex, he chooses to be Muslim when it suits him. Of course and unfortunately, the Muslim judge would take his side. My ex is from another country. He just got temporary custody of our only child, she is 9. That man never follows the parenting plan, doesn't go to school activities like I do, doesn't do our daughter's hair or take her to doctor appointments. I'll never be with anyone again if they are from another country or just because they are Muslim. Muslim woman can only marry Muslim men but this time, I'll be with whomever I want. My ex doesn't care about our daughter or what she wants and deserves.

[@goshazimo8512]

@@TwoScarvesComedy I'm so sorry, they are just sperm doner and unfortunately we let them to be on birth certificate- that's why they have rights like "father", but doesn't have idea what responsibility is to be a father. They are abusers, their fathers are abusers, all generation are, they don't know other way and don't want. Woman and children are to serve their purpose and they want them when is convenient for them. My ex works in Qatar Ambassy in London earns lots of money, get paid by cheques, no tax is paid, lives in the house and talk to the house and eats his money and spend for prostitutes but nothing for his children. Of course he will use words like insalla, Allah, halal or not halal, but getting chlamydia from prostitute is halal.

[@mynameisearlb]

If she was truly a Muslim woman she wouldn't be a judge...

[@Dallashygienist]

Wow. That’s a ridiculous. How old are kids.

[@DerekCarpenter53]

JUDGES are ATTORNEYs lol love that side track thought of like ugh corruptions suck in the system

[@LinneaQH]

Santa Clara County Family Court systems are lawless. Judges and attorneys committing bribery & extortion. My judge was charged and convicted of both, & kicked out of criminal court, put in traffic court, & he behaved so well there, they promoted him to family court, because he’s banned from criminal court.

[@Rose.Marie.]

No way!

[@RickyHaggard]

I can hear u good

[@vinceduran2612]

He forgwts one “small” detail family court judges have a financial interest in custody cases since courts receive funding ($1)for every dollar collected in child support cases. Thats why they violatate your parental rights to make a case and relegate one parent (usually the one who makes more money)so he has to pay into the system. So if these judges are”humans” as our judge here says that is debatable.

[@MK-he1jz]

I disagree. When ur nice to a narcissist, it does nothing but show weakness and eagerness. Which they feed off.

[@kozmo2006]

I completely agree with you.

[@nathanmciver6496]

Thiers lots of them and they all work for profit while giving to the needy and feeding the curruption! Weak community, built on strength and arrogance because they think education give's them the right to manipulate and control other people's lifes! Hallow role's stealing from the most important role's or parts of people's life's! Fear makes people work harder, act better than others, get kids to sell more while other's just want a life and not to feel stalked and staired down on

[@angelsandocean2853]

My husband is very tall 6'6" and every woman in Family Court flirts with him😂

[@paulgibbons2320]

Who's gonna pay us the most money 💰 How long can we rinse them for. What kind of slurs or accusations can we use to get a result. This is their mindset. Pure wickedness.

[@darlene2454]

Law book states If arbitrator conflict of interest ( Friends with other lawyer) Dismissal regardless of agreement We have a bias mediator- arbitrator

[@stephaniewalker1580]

What about judge that are friends with attorneys of defendant who failed four drug test. Admitted to what they define as corporal punishment but is abuse towards minor child. The defendants attorney is also married to a family court judge. It’s bias behavior. The judge made jokes about the drugs and thought it was funny.

[@maotse-tung5414]

Thoughts on Judicial Misconduct and corruption in the family court system

[@maotse-tung5414]

I've been asking you this same exact question for months. I would very much appreciate if you could find a moment of your time to address this critical concern. Thank you in advance.

[@MrGoodwinjason]

You dragged out that way too long my guy….. stop telling us what we need to understand and get to the point. My god this was painful

[@lindseyringuette2414]

Do I need to get an attorney for child support when a state is taking the non custodial parent

[@yoelalmeida3259]

Yes and a Good One.

[@beverlygarcia6444]

Can u help me.

[@dougimlach1037]

Ohh and you please judges?

[@lkpeay]

Judge: you’re doing BACKFLIPS defending the IN_DEFENSIBLE. Family “law” is NOT a real court. It does not require evidence, follow procedures, is transparent etc. the ONLY advice you should be giving men is AVOID this schitt like the damm plague

[@fitlio3778]

amen , at least a person with common sense .A real court law consist of having an impartial jury of your peers . Family court is nothing thant juristical dictatorship where children are the least of them concerns.

[@nicholezirba7840]

Dad threatening contempt bc I am keeping son for Halloween since it’s the 5 wkend of the month and he only has 3 wkend a month that he has already had! Pinned the custody agreement to OFW and included gal. Will they see this is continuing harassment? That’s what I got the app for!!!

[@joyhannadewitt1998]

Same here girl. Make a word document of everything. Show the court this along with other exhibits

[@joyhannadewitt1998]

These people are sick. 😢 moms need to be with their mama

[@Eyes_dont_Lie]

U r a judge? Man kudos to u for one, u r young for judge 🫡 Im gna say some things and the truth 1. Child custody is a HUSTLE!!!! 2. It breaks more families than helps 3. As a parent u feel like u have no say in ur childs well being and u cant even say anytbing cuz then judge gets mad and once judge doesnt like what u say he/she isssss gonna be bias. 4. I don’t care who says what almost every judge will take the moms side. 5. How come judges dont have something like internal affairs? 6. U tell the truth and mon lies and u prove she lies and still u r wrong. What type of shit is that? 7. Judge will grant female FAKE RO IMMEDIATELY but will deny ur factual one. So how do report the judge if something is fishy? 8. Not all judges r fair and good. No diff than cops or doctors. 9. So what if ppl dont have money to fight for tjeir kids? Then what? 10. Judge keeps denying ur time w ur kid while mom AND JUDGE TOG. ALIENATE UR CHILD THEN 9 months later they say- oh u have no bond. Dude how does this make sense? What type of reasoning is that? Lol 11. How do u open judges eyes when uve already presented all facts and he still extends hearing after hearing. My case had conclusive pressumtion cuz SHE LIED, and i proved it and he threw it out but still no custody? Lol. Man this is just so wrong

[@FatherX2022]

ummm....dude...all 11 of your points are 200% correct. Your effort needs to be devoted to overcoming the bias and incompetence of the family court...in order to protect your kids. It took me 3+ years and 28 hours of direct testimony, but I did it. Your kids are worth it...stay strong for them. Fight smart. Fight hard.

[@Eyes_dont_Lie]

@@FatherX2022 god bless u bro. Im happy for u. I know in end ill win but bro this shit doesnt stopppp and i dnt shit money man. I have realized though (after 7 hearings ) that i need to stoppppp being real and start acting. I always thought if ur real and honest ull get whats coming to u but nooooo. U gotta act and lie. Which is soooo wrong. Dude everyyyyy lie i prove this judge keeps extending it and keeps creating some new program or involves other ppl. When it comes to my kid i dont play!!!! I will push back even to judge and thats bcuz i got nothing to worry about. My ass is clean and mom is just all the way foul and ive been soooo fair man. Sooo fair. I am just lost. There needsssss to be some type of internal affairs for these judges. Then u cant even change judge cuz new judge is NOT gna like that at all so im screwed man bt thank u for ur response :). The syst is broken for fam court in calif for MOST!!!

[@FatherX2022]

I hear you, brother. Here's a tip... It's not about being real or acting. Research the "best interests of the child" in California state law, Google it. There are things that are considered best for the child. If you focus all of your talking in court about how your parenting is better for your child than the mother's parenting... That's when you start handcuffing the judge and taking away their ability to be gender biased. in court, when everybody talks in circles about nothing, the judge tends to just rubber stamp the mother for everything. So you have to change the conversation to focus on what's best for the child and keep showing evidence and documentation that you are just as good a parent as the mother or better. And remember that judges cannot compete with intelligent thought. But judges can compete with you when it comes to anger and power in the courtroom because they can have you arrested or take your child away. So fight smart. Hope that helps.

[@nicholeashley7651]

So I'm just going to say, it's not a gender based thing all the time! I was a full time stay at home mother to both our kids. Their father is an alcoholic, has two DUIs, was extremely emotionally/mentally abusive to all of us, and physically to me... did not help parent thr kids but took pictures with them ti put on social media and make it look like he loves them and is involved, he mever was though. Then turned his and my entire family against me, convinced them I was crazy and mentally unstable. I never spoke up about it much, the few people I did tell didn't believe me or care really lol then he leaves, and files for divorce in sept. I let him take them for Thanksgiving, he refuses to return them the next day. I call sheriff, they can't do anything. Get them back after 4 days. [He had NEVER had them overnight alone because of the drinking] they were 4 and 1... so I keep them and file for parenting plan. Takes 2 months to see a judge, he gets an attorney by that time. They convinced the judge I am withholding for no reason and just being vindictive. Tell the judge his days off are TH-SUN. no evidence to back it [it's actually SAT/SUN] Judge believes everything they say, gives my kids to him TH-SUN. Even though I had told the judge in my statement about the abuse and about him keeping them from me for 4 days, traumatized them. About his alcohol issues. And him not actually having TH-SUN off... and that my son was in PREK so how would he go Friday? [We live an hour away from each other] Judge didn't care at all. Didn't ask for any evidence from them. And it continues that way to this very day. I am now three years into this divorce, as of September. I always provide evidence, I am always honest and I am always trying to do best for my kids. We see a different judge every time and he uses that to his advantage. If I bring up anything it's brushed off no matter how much evidence I have... I had a lawyer for a brief period and she tried to compel him to provide necessary documents asked for in her interrogatories, it had been 6 months... we needed them for mediation before our settlement conference. The judge DENIED the motion... like HOW DO YOU DENY SOMETHING WE NEED TO FINISH THE DIVORC!?? The system is insane in WA state... he could say I sprout three heads and eat the neighborhood children, and they would look at him and be like..." omg you poor thing! I'm sure she does! I'm so sorry you had to go through that!!!" I have never been disrespectful, my children have never been hurt with me, I have tried to coparent, bent over backwards to make it least stressful for my kids, I log on the OFW, I have teachers concerned, DCYF was concerned, I don't everything right and still get brushed off and treated like i am some mother who ran off and abandoned her kids and never really took care of them. My parenting plan HAS been altered since my oldest started school to M-F but that's the only reason. They beg me not to go every weekend, they hate it there still, even after over 2 years. If he was a good dad, they should love going... [I am not one of those mothers who talks shit about the dad. I believe fuckkng with a kids head space is just as vile as fucking with their body... especially when you hold the position of parent/guardian. Their father DOES do it, though, it has severely damaged my relationship with my kids. Courts don't care though... and I have no clue WHY. So just know you are not alone, and it's not always because of gender... because I was a full-time SAHM from the day my first was born... they were/are both happy and healthy and thriving in my care, but it didn't/doesn't matter. And they wonder why we stay with our abusive partners for so long... at least we can protect them if we are there with them. 🤷🏻‍♀️😵‍💫 Good luck to you!!

[@eliseross6885]

Sounds like the judge your talking about might possibly be an i.n.t.j on Meyers and briggs

[@Lisa-zs2iy]

Can’t dress up professional for a black screen on zoom - when represented by an attorney the attorney has seen on the sound. But the person he represents it’s just a black screen. He ex is representing himself and he actually goes to court. Looking like a ragamuffin. Myself my daughter who is represented by an attorney and the attorney says the judge is biased against my daughter. I was giving the dad a pat on the freaking back! Ex felon , drug addict in recovery , and a woman beater !

[@dougfoster445]

U look just like the KZbinr clash with ash

[@JMthdjhgbnjk]

Why can’t I get the point early on in your vid? That’s a turn off. Work on that please. You’re one of my favorites nonetheless.

[@goshazimo8512]

My ex produced over 100 pages each witness statements. Based on the amount of paper and pictures of him with children which I made the judge said that she wasn't able to read everything but she can see the papers and beautiful pictures of him with kids that he is loving father !!! I can't believe it. He took my children 3 and 5 years old daughter and left on the field with other children, 3 years old broke her arm and he didn't know what happened obviously he wasn't there. The Muslim judge listen to him, he was talking non stop...attacking me, I was in a flight mode. Cafcass will investigate and in December we will have the final court hearing.

[@thealien634]

Hes a Narc. FIGHT. YOU LEAD. NOT HIM. NOT HIM ANYMORE!!!! You are a panther that thirsty and ready to attack anyone for your baby cubs. PUT THAT IN YOUR HEAD! YOU ARE A HUNGRY THIRSTY PANTHER GETTING HER KIDS BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@thealien634]

[@truthsocialmedia]

i hope english isn't your first language.

[@johnholden9020]

We need to get your wordsbout there. They have suppressed your ideas. Anthony I will devote endless hours to promote your class. I give you Unlimited Free Prints of Advertising. Ill pay all costs. I also wanna pay for your class. The attny WILL NOT PUT FORWARD CRUCIAL EVIDENCE. False Sexual assult Allegations. 3yrs no contact with child.

[@joshuabrooks7580]

You can tell that you have been in a relationship with a narcissist. You lost it fumbling around about emotions and the sexes. 😆👍

[@robinmaga6495]

Is he just saying a lot of words and not getting a goddamn point across yet ..I want to be invested here but fuck get a point out ....I liked him he seemed like a straight shooter but ..grrr I'm hanging in there ..I know he knows his shit , that seems to speak for itself..

[@meltemkhan4333]

I don't think I could have won my divorce case without *usespy online* help. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise were like a winning lottery ticket., you're a professional.

[@sassylibra2902]

You need to get to the point quicker 🤦

[@eduardol.1189]

Acho que Deus deveria ter dado gravidez ao homem .

[@GregJohnson-ez3rw]

Talking alot but ain't saying shit get to the damn point

[@lotharofthe]

nah bro not a good vid

[@jeangoad6931]

Thank you for the help. Your advice is good, but your language is disrespectful and unprofessional.