The more you react to a Narcissistic man the more he starts treating you like his mother

[@StephP2025]

Yes true....and if you don't act like their mother they complain about you to their mother.

[@SUZIJ5]

1000% true!!!! They and their mothers, and their relationship, are very sick!!!!

[@wendyhare1600]

Last year at Christmas she sat on his lap asked me take pictures… weird!!!!

[@Amy-h9i]

Agreed!

[@connie9492]

OH SO VERY SICK!

[@JesuisLord]

@@wendyhare1600yikes

[@naomigatford7252]

Nooo 😢

[@sajnanair5050]

‘Taking out their mothers hatred on you’👌👌🙏🙏

[@main2333]

Yet they still take care of their mothers. Had two of these type of men in my life

[@sajnanair5050]

@@main2333 very true.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

The Mother who can solve everything but her own problems.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@main2333 eww

[@miraleatardiff8543]

So true. And the more he resents his mother, the more rage and hatred he harbours for his mother, the more aggressive and dangerous he will become towards you over time. If you are in a relationship with one of these individuals, grab your children and/or pets and run.

[@Mary-fl2eq]

Mother's hatred. That's interesting and so true. I would say so many times I'M NOT YOUR MOTHER

[@kajalnanda5806]

Even they show affection too towards their mothers, very horrible relationship narcissistic son and mother share. Hatred+ superficial love- Demons😞

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@kajalnanda5806ooh oof soo bad! bad😢

[@Grace-mg8kv]

Your videos are so accurate it’s scary

[@cathyjackson1150]

True. So sickening. Their mother damaged their minds and they treat you sick minded

[@naomigatford7252]

Aww yep aye its so bad. I believe maybe they do! But shouldn't project or abuse, take out on.

[@bellesterbeatty3571]

All male narcs has mommy issues.

[@Freethnkr]

Some have mommies & daddy wounds. My ex was dealing with trauma & neglect from both parents.

[@Grgiana071]

@@Freethnkrsame with my husband, he have crazy psychopath mother and sex addicted father.😔

[@ashton1952]

​@@Freethnkrit can be that, or they spoiled them rotten instead of setting boundaries. Like those parents who go and tell their child's teacher to give them a good grade when they haven't earned it. The narc was raised with either, or both, and nothing consistent about any of it.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@Freethnkrtrauma what means trauma?

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@ashton1952yeah I've heard that even without so called abuse or the trauma but just got spoiled & still into later life, like my narc also told me mentioned no bad like this or treatment from them but hic parents never told him "no" to anything with anything ever even. They was his words before i saw all the patterns! Fr. Unless he was not telling the whole story or behind that if anything. If fabricated made up bc he didn't tell the truth about the not so gd parts or dysfunctional fam/parents or dysfunction & other things!? If there was behind it but just made it look like the gd doting & allowing all behaviours even when it's bad but trying to make out. It's a hard one unless u know of learn more or see it! From word or by urself 😮

[@sarahcarrasco]

Ah! They're so annoying. My ex narcissist is now texting me he's sorry for cheating blah blah. I haven't spoken to him in a year. He must need supply. Not interested buddy...

[@naomigatford7252]

Ur right, just don't go there. U know their mind!

[@rachelvasquez2871]

@@sarahcarrasco Smart move

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@rachelvasquez2871 yes 100%

[@LindsayLoo-q5d]

You got away!!!!! Celebration! You put you first!

[@kerri4992]

My husband says that to me and I tell him I shouldn't have to remind him to take the trash out and put his clothes in the hamper.

[@jewelswilliams6532]

You are still with a narcissit? They never change.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@jewelswilliams6532 Exactly but true when ppl know they wouldn't last 5 minutes as my bsfs said if was on the end of it from what yeh saw with worst toxic narc mummas boy

[@naomigatford7252]

He maybe want his ahhh wipes too 😂

[@kerri4992]

@naomigatford7252 lmfao 🤣

[@angelofthemosthigh7292]

Its horrible, even when she's gone, he's still wounded

[@DesertLife4me2]

Bam!!! Nailed it!!

[@saturdayschild8535]

My mother in law wasn’t controlling. She was well controlled. He still hated her for not protecting him from his dad’s neglect and passive aggression. So I still heard you’re not my mother because they like to confuse and irritate you.

[@lynnsmith9976]

WOW ! This is exactly how he treats me & I so Sick of it ! He told me his Mom was Controlling & Abusive.. I fell for his sad story ‼️ I wish Id known this as yrs ago.! Im Done with his controlling BS🤬‼️

[@naomigatford7252]

Good for u. Me too his arse is gone!

[@karenlynch8348]

But what they might think is controlling in their mind from childhood might be their own rebellion as a belligerent- bad tempered child.

[@babylonisfallen5142]

Exactly. She tried to discipline while the dad didn’t. His dad was golden.

[@naomigatford7252]

Exactly like mine

[@yonettekelly2406]

My husband's mother gave him away when he was 3 months old. And now he takes out that hatred on me.

[@aleahc2299]

So sad that he carried that wound practically from birth. Did he not have a mother figure to replace his bio mom

[@naomigatford7252]

How u know oh is bc of that, tho?

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@aleahc2299yes sad i agree 👍 not gd

[@createa.googleaccount713]

🎯🏆 BINGO! I'm going Through THIS TODAY!!! And I'm So Confused! However it's an Elder Woman! NOT a man. She HATED her Mother! We have a new friendship, she put me on a Pedestal! Today Cold, Distant... Me??? UNTIL I LISTEN to THIS! I was disappointed in in her inaction and softly let it me known, to be accountable, butttt... 🎯 Now, I feel like the SHOE FITS!!! With what you are saying here SUPER THANK YOU! YOU HAVE A GIFT! THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM WITH US ❤

[@naomigatford7252]

I agree he does. He's also very intyit with things and ways words!

[@donnaedwards5115]

They get their anger issues from their mother as well.Then turn around and act like she was the salt of the earth. My mother in law has passed. God rest her soul.

[@naomigatford7252]

Just why say she is the salt of? To this what u say. Clearly not tho? If she exhibits & displays such anger like that. I dk!

[@naomigatford7252]

This is terrible tho their dynamic

[@MR-ly4xt]

Yes, he has said it's like I'm his mother when I am calling him out for his actions.

[@lindabermudez-hafer5440]

Mine started calling me “Mom” & I had to keep reminding him of my name and that I WASN’T His Mom!!

[@naomigatford7252]

My dad does that before calling me but was away from them years n whole family but ig some traditions & cultures are differnt

[@naomigatford7252]

Omg eww and odd

[@Bike4Life231]

I agree with this, but i feel like i also was treated like a little child. He would talk down to me like i was completely helpless, stupid and incapable of doing anything right, like i needed someone to hold my hand to was dishes or clean up a mess. I know that's the control part of narcissism, but it's like they want it both ways. They want you to be squashed, and they want you to be their mother

[@lizapedersen8435]

@@Bike4Life231 True, I experienced similar 😔

[@KremenaYanakieva-tu6ud]

Absolutely

[@ashton1952]

Same here, my ex husband would come with me to my part time job to watch that no other guy would talk to me and sat in on the meetings (he wasn't working). Treated me like a ten year old, he didn't want me to have my own bank account, I wasn't allowed to have friends... Yet also expected me to clean up after him and cook.. no affection but I got dragged by the hand if we went out anywhere because he wanted to show off to the community that he was married.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@lizapedersen8435oh damn 😮

[@Shukra9665]

So right!! 👌👌👌

[@charmee4045]

Once you become their mother, they go looking for their lover........truth

[@lizapedersen8435]

@@charmee4045 I believe you

[@KremenaYanakieva-tu6ud]

True

[@rachelvasquez2871]

He needs to step up🎉 No way in Hell am I his MOTHER🎉 How he hated her "he slipped with this comment ." In conservation.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@rachelvasquez2871 what comment? Sorry

[@naomigatford7252]

Ogb🎉how he hated

[@vickihutto7916]

Ohhhh, the rage fit I endured when I asked him to keep in touch when he went out to sea for a few days , which he did often either sailing or taking tourists out around Oahu on a tourist business with his buddies...” I’M 59 years old, and YOU’RE treating me like a child.. my explanation of it being just for my peace of mind he would ok, as I have suffered the loss of my entire immediate family, of which my father drowned when I was 21.. I suffer from trauma and CPTSD , and just trying to protect myself from further triggering, or at least find a way to cope, got me the most outraged judgement possible from him.. Thank god I am away from his toxicity now but the path getting here was rocky as HELL

[@naomigatford7252]

I'm so sorry he should of bn understanding of this & why bc of ur sad tragic past, I feel u. But he should of realised that & that u just cared him him so much & that's why i was doing it worried about & concerned. But they dc! Exactly 😮 just blow up even when u try to explain to them just same coldness & sick narc behaviours. Right?

[@judee7480]

Absolutely 💯! True

[@stingray0033]

They are misogynist which is why i was so annoyed when the ex narc husband always acted as of he was such an empowere of women when he's really just trying to get supply

[@honeybadgerisme]

*sigh you are very accurate, once again Danish! Keep growing! We love you. You helps us so much. Just please take a break from these heavy feelings now and then, ok? Everything in moderation.

[@ChelleMEis]

I very much used to think that!! However in hindsight, having met my mother inlaws in my youth and nearing 50 now and having a broader perspective, I lean towards - they labelled their mothers as domineering and controlling but they were just being good mothers and the toxic individuals took offense over stupid things, played the victim so I could become their next supply, didn't understand love or positive parenting and needed someone to blame instead of taking accountability. They just need someone to blame. Anyone.

[@naomigatford7252]

It's soo bad 😞

[@ravenjohnson1431]

This was definitely told to me! And this was also told RIGHT BACK to him by me ✅️

[@JohnMartin-gg8uj]

It's the same for narc women, except they project all their bad feelings about their father onto you.

[@Jessanda89]

Another message so on point. Thanks a lot for this.

[@adriandejesus4473]

OMG 😱 I EVEN SAID YOU DONT NEED A WIFE YOU NEED A MOTHER 😂MAKES ALOT OF SENSE I CANT WAIT FOR MY NEW JOURNEY LET SOMEONE ELSE DEAL WITH THAT IM OUT

[@naomigatford7252]

Amen to that. Uv got the right mind, ur smart!!

[@KAT-wo1js]

This is true. I used to tell him that. He'd told me his mom left him at a young age and returned when he was 17 only to pass away of cancer shortly afterward. I told him he was angry with her, so he was mistreating me due to that. I didn't deserve that. It's almost as if he was trying to punish her through me. Tricked, love bombed, built me up in the relationship then body slammed me basically and discarded me. Mad at his mom.

[@donnamaniscalco]

I was told “ quit be a Jewish mother “ to which I responded “ yes I am Jewish, I am a mother, but I’m not your mother. He does indeed have mommy issues.

[@TR-nv3if]

Mine exactly.. same exact words! 100% right on target!

[@usmc-brian6575]

Yup, tried telling my nephew (17) to be careful with any traits that may be cycled down. Very controlling situation that I knew was harmful.

[@naomigatford7252]

Oof

[@mariafemarquezdeguia4431]

I totally agree, Sir!

[@michellegaines3568]

So true thank you ❤❤❤

[@TheKezmeister2011]

His mother was so overbearing and micromanaged me and tried to take over as mother to my daughter and had little interest in my son...treating him differently....shouting at him to stop crying....and smacked him. She is grandiose, triangulates...her kids can do no wrong...she would elicit care from her grown up kids and put me in double binds....and then...on top, I had him....taking the mother wound out on me....becoming abusive and defiant, oppositional, cold....

[@naomigatford7252]

What's is meaning of trianglilates?

[@YaninaDavidovich]

💯 percent true facts

[@priyanakkina8855]

Very true 👍👍👍

[@aleahc2299]

Spot on!

[@Nitya-r86]

woah...never thought about this..

[@irinaivanovic9792]

OMG this is precisely how my ex boyfriend acted toward me. He'd say "STOP SCOLDING ME LIKE A CHILD!" It was downright ridiculous. And he had major anger issues as well. He was totally in love with himself and proud of anything he did. Including treating me like garbage toward the end of the relationship. NO apologies whatsoever. He also once admitted he hates women, but then he also said he hates men also. He's a trained professional actor, if that contributes at all to anything.

[@naomigatford7252]

Mine same like garbage n no apologies. At all!

[@Patricia-v9t1l]

Yes most male Narccastic men wld do things to their mothers apart frm disrespect would be immorale Overprotective or pure hatred due to hurtful dad They protect mom then get all confused as to WY tht women went back to tht man Mom / dad such a deep intensive topic Out in the wild baby animals cling to mommy's due to nasty preditors their animal father beings on top of this list❤

[@michellesparacio764]

Yes, I've gone through this.

[@sammyrizzo1199]

Exactly what i said to him. "Wtf did your mom do to you growing up? Its obviously why you treat women like shit. I know it crushed him.

[@jewelswilliams6532]

Great content.

[@xoxjelloxox]

What if he thinks his mother raised him very well and she takes care of everything at home and he wants his future wife to do the same

[@jacquidanke1263]

GOOD LUCK ON FINDING A WOMAN WHO FITS "MOMMY'S PANTS". HE HATES HIS MOTHER BUT $ IS ALL HE HAS ON HIS MIND. I DODGED A BULLET BY NEVER MARRYING INTO THIS FAMILY.

[@lizapedersen8435]

@@xoxjelloxox been there, done that and now done with that 🥴

[@sneharanabagale1846]

So true.

[@Grgiana071]

Disgusting behave. I was made huge mistakes treated my husband very special. He treat me like his dumb little sister, like his rival if I have achievements, put me down in front of strangers. My dream is to see him hit by karma with his low immoral women….. Painful and waste my life for almost 30 years😔

[@lizapedersen8435]

Sadly it took me 19,5 years to figure that out

[@jacquidanke1263]

YOU ARE BRAVE. GOD BLESS YOU. I WISH I WAS ABLE TO LEAVE, TOO.

[@naomigatford7252]

Yes oof just get out of that

[@randymaidl2631]

So true

[@junecleaver4099]

Absolutely accurate!

[@kimberlylamantia7794]

Mine is 32 years older than me but acts like he's 32 years younger

[@Itzanunnya2019]

Please refrain from labeling as "yours". You are not responsible for his flaws. Be good to YOU!! 😊

[@60sGirl123]

Sounds like you picked up someone’s recycled trash. Older men are single for a reason.

[@brendarewan7441]

OMG! He was 32 when you were born!!

[@kimberlylamantia7794]

@@60sGirl123 His first wife unalived herself after almost 30 years of marriage. Should have been a red flag. My character flaw is that I see the good in people. This life is teaching me to see everything about a person

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@60sGirl123omg makes sense yes

[@ConnieMitchell-k3n]

My ex narc is back with his mother after 40 years. She mever took care of him. Now she's getting a dose of her own meds for unleasing her child into the community.

[@wendyg.2664]

💯💯

[@dawledivya9978]

Sir how to get out of these narcissistic men & a narc mil😢

[@Shve18-o6x]

Facts. !!!!

[@kazidurba7042]

I know a narcissist man who's mother is like his best friend! She from the childhood brought him up in a way that this guy thinks he can get away with anything! Whatever he does his mom supports him! Now his mentality is he is the best and no matter whatever he does there is one person with him! What to do with this kind of narcissist man!

[@naomigatford7252]

That's not gd. She sounds as toxic! 😅

[@kazidurba7042]

​​@@naomigatford7252 yes! She did a very bad job as a parent!

[@bintefiroz7319]

true

[@alexismillet7772]

Same goes with narcissistic women. It's always about the mother, isn't it ?

[@LezelSchoeman]

So true!

[@Donati1114]

My ex MIL had the audacity to call my dad, when I was six months pregnant, to ask him to protect my ex husband in case he and I were fighting and he needed to stay at a hotel. After knowing her son had already been violent toward me. She egged my ex husband on saying I was dangerous and then the next day would send a text like “I hope you guys have a wonderful day, I’m going to stay out of things now.” The mothers are worst than the son they created.

[@naomigatford7252]

I agree sometimes

[@tokyoblur24]

My narcissist older brother and our mother had this relationship. Even though he lied, cheated, abused and stole from her for years, she treated him as her golden child and targeted me with her hateful words and abuse.

[@naomigatford7252]

Eww. Favourable, & maybe bc he's just like her. Like u kniw what they say about the apple that doesn't fall far from?

[@tokyoblur24]

@naomigatford7252 It was a painful pill to swallow, but the joy of being disconnected from them both is immeasurable. 😊

[@SumonaRoyChoudhury]

Can it be Father Wound...???

[@naomigatford7252]

I think so too, bc sometimes the dad is toxic, dysfunctional or abusive or sometimes both. I mean just when the father is like that or a mean old man! I think it can if someone brought up in a household like that!?

[@maryw4609]

True I figured that out the hard way over time his mother the narcissist he was Fighting his mama 😢😮😅

[@amyshoneye5455]

My ex thoroughly abhorred his mother 😢 I in my 18yrs of nievety Wholeheartedly believed that he'd turn into his Father ❤ I Adored him ❤ Ex just got older and more mean spirited 😘❤️🙏

[@naomigatford7252]

Same as gig older realised worse with everyday & time, month just as time went from initial meet as he wasn't so old then as me. But ikr enought to know better, & I'm ways just got totally worse! I noticed this thru my time with them from start to the end when they treated me v.badly & like s**t crap.

[@janiceandrus3109]

True

[@main2333]

I react by saying stop treating me like a 2 year old!

[@AbuYakubu-iw9rm]

Amen 🙏🙏✝️

[@michellesparacio764]

It's tough

[@eiME696]

that's my husband!

[@Julie-e1m]

Yes

[@janvandenhalen6321]

You know too much & on dot always

[@Isabela2024-yr]

The narc used to tell me that. I don't know what changed him. Anything I asked him to do today, he doesn't complain anymore. I don't know if narcissists can change. I actually soap his head over the years. Maybe I made him a little better. I guess he got big lessons. I have the feeling God gave him to me on purposely to clean his maggot head. His family said no one could straighten him up.

[@naomigatford7252]

What means soap his head?

[@naomigatford7252]

But to other comments u made just wow. I don't think it's possible, like normally if once a narc always a narc!

[@talithamarko4291]

Sorry not all were controlling. Some of their mothers were abandoners. And they are looking for what they never had, however non can live up to the fantasy. I have been with 2. And as a single mother of three my girls loved me. I couldn't do them wrong. However no matter what I did with the narcissist is was.

[@wendyhare1600]

Haha soooo true

[@Prabhunathachari]

my narc frnd calls me amma 😂😂some times

[@naomigatford7252]

Weird, right? I wonder why they do that. Ur friend to them not mum 😅

[@Prabhunathachari]

@@naomigatford7252 I googled how to take revenge on narcissist it shown some points I already did them last thing is I must become best version of mine.......

[@drrupalvinayak9401]

But ....in my case toh he's giving me divorce as his mom demands

[@bk-nb2il]

💯💯💯💯💯💯%

[@solmazsurvivor]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@Glo-u7x]

Shut up about narcissists!

[@pelephant2024]

My bf unloads every life responsibility on me while playing video games, but his mother is nice to him, I don't get why he is like this.

[@nessauk2786]

You deserve better than this man child.

[@naomigatford7252]

​@@nessauk2786 I agree clearly he isn't grown imo sound very immature & pandered to even with this behavior. Tsk tsk! Mum shud grow some & get her son to grow up & act responsible & adult.

[@TheKezmeister2011]

100%

[@aleksandrakettner905]

💌💌

[@delenthiairby9156]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Phillyphysi]

super super super

[@monalikaremore4250]

My hv a bitch MIL who gave birth to super narsasstic son .infact my whole in law's family is Narsasistic.

[@maira5624]

the sataerday in the sgueare they saend it from my ,,,,,,,,,,,,,treat me with wauter above me i sick antill today. the tusday they thiefing my mobile 'i must keep go faster again becouse of ole this mess.i don, it this......

[@timblock3483]

H

[@Grgiana071]

Disgusting behave. I was made huge mistakes treated my husband very special. He treat me like his dumb little sister, like his rival if I have achievements, put me down in front of strangers. My dream is to see him hit by karma with his low immoral women….. Painful and waste my life for almost 30 years😔

[@aleahc2299]

Sending you love and light

[@naomigatford7252]

Poor u, sorry. Yes their something to regret! I wish to and is left n stayed gone the 1st time when i did to rake a break & to sort things with them. But no as saw bc the narc is just a narc!

[@katyacatiche]

So true!

[@hazelrivers7642]

True

[@kayodudu5190]

True