The Narc Alert _ AMBERLYNN REID - High on herself?

In this video we look at Amberlynn Reids live stream " High on ______" I cant use that word :P Whats new with Amber and Becky? Is Amber still pulling her narc tricks?

[@widow237]

That condescending/dismissive “mmmmmm” she does drives me crazy.😡

[@allmine853]

raight ... raight ...

[@TheNarcAlert]

OMG I was gonna comment on that, its so dismissive

[@jamielewis136]

Shes trying to be Alexis from Schitts Creek when she does that..and when she says Love that for you..tell me more..etc..It makes me.want to rage.

[@allmine853]

@@jamielewis136 same. she will glam on to a new personality and use it until it is worn out and everyone is sick to death of it

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

Yes!! That's what my mother used to do to me. I say "used to", because I moved to another country and I am finally free.

[@JoanWhack]

If you guys didn't know 1 Becky always wanted to travel but Amber can't fit into a car seat or just didn't want to go out, so Becky ended up going almost everywhere alone. 2 Becky went to and supported Amber throughout all her cancer treatments and issues. Becky lost her mum, was diagnosed with diabetes, and suffered with severe mental health issues of her own. 3 Becky says she likes to be alone when upset, Amber still uses it as an excuse to not stream. So everytime Becky is brought up in a negative light in order to coo over wifey, remember this. I respect Becky, and I really want her to get away from Amber ASAP

[@4_am]

I feel for Becky, but remember she is not perfict, has major bad treats herself.

[@JoanWhack]

@@4_am absolutely, she's not perfect and has been an enabler if ALR. I still see her as more sympathetic and worthy of being cared about. It's really hard for someone in any form of relationship with a narcissist to come out of it without some parroted traits, it's often adopted to cope with a narcissist and to avoid being more of a victim; so she's in no way without fault. It just irks me to no end how nasty ALR is with Becky and how jealous she comes across, when let's be real, Becky has been supportive. To what extent we will never truly know, we're not living their lives; but surely more than this new woman who's sent her a couple of links.

[@M_SC]

Becky is a kind person. But her blindness to ambers evil makes me crazy

[@JoanWhack]

@@M_SC narcs do know how to pick them. It's nice to see Becky talk up

[@JoanWhack]

@@M_SC as for why she sticks up for ALR. If you'd been convinced for the last 4 years that your partner is being hated on, and you've seen how it hurts them, you too would stick up for them. That to me, it does make me think she's kind

[@ijustrealllylikecats]

My narcissistic/Munchausens mother would have strategically timed medical emergencies too, similar to Amberlynn's ER trips to keep Becky from getting away for the weekend.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Oh yes, this was totally a made-up ailment to counter Becky's actual bad day. If it was real, you know she would have told us what her supposed medical emergency was.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

I think she conveniently "forgot" to take her meds for her gallstones or whatever, so she could be in "extreme pain." So the ER just adjusted her meds and reminded her to take them.

[@Clownbunnycosplay]

I don’t know if it’s Narcissistic?? But when I was younger and would have to go back on chemo, my grandma would post about it, to get sympathy

[@lindamcnamara7803]

Becky’s plan was to go alone to visit Eric and Ricky. Amberlynn invited herself. Wouldn’t stay home alone. I wish Becky would just leave. Let her live alone.

[@cookie_dough_hangover]

Wow. That sucks. I'm so sorry.

[@Fe26man]

Wifey sent a link to a therapist= she cares Becky sent 7ish hours in the er with big AL who couldn't drive herself= she never cared 🤢 I've seen this commented elsewhere and it's so true and that bothers me and makes my stomach feel a bit icky

[@TheNarcAlert]

Spot on!

[@Fe26man]

@@TheNarcAlert it honestly isn't my comment to brag about coming up with, I copied it. But it really hit home to me!

[@Noone-co9pj]

Wow this really makes me sick

[@acadiastrong4446]

She’s trying to impress that new gal, trying to prove she can change with the « right » person. ALR will soon fall back to her old habits. I actually find Amberbaby worst now then before, constantly dismissing Becky. Amberlynn also made a point to say how generous and giving she is to the one she’s in love with. Wipey did you catch that????

[@JP14190]

@@acadiastrong4446 I thought the same thing! I haven't watched her in so long, so I could be off here. However, has she also started changing the way she talks to match wipey? I don't remember her saying "love that" or "love that for us/me/you"

[@sandrad7182]

I didn’t hear it the first time, but as Becky is explaining why she can’t have kids, Amber rolls her eyes mumbles under her breath, “Mhm, you probably can.” It made my heart drop.. Amber has such a horrible personality and hearing her disrespect Becky in that moment was so disgusting. I feel like she never even listens to Becky at all. She explains earlier in the stream that she has PCOS, which can cause infertility yet she still has a go at Becky saying, “must be nice!!!” I pray to god that I never have to have a partner as cruel as Amber..

[@AdirondackRuby]

That hit me hard. I have PCOS and only thanks to an IUD was I able to stop bleeding (I can't go on the pill because it caused Blood Clots that traveled to my lungs). I would bleed for months at a stretch, was so anemic that I had to go to the Hematologist multiple times a week for Intravenous Iron treatments. I always wanted to have kids, lots of them, but that's not my path anymore. Luckily I have supportive, caring people around me who understand my condition & situation.

[@plantwitch7890]

I think Amber fails to realise is that her inability to have children is completely self inflicted. She is spiteful to Becky because yes she still has a uterus but fails to acknowledge Beckys chances of ever having kids is medical. It makes me so angry how she dismisses Beckys issues because “well she can still have a period” 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@jwoolman5]

This just is one more demonstration that Amberlynn has never care about Becky and has never really listened to her. Her partner had PCOS since her mid-teens and she didn’t know anything about it? She was so hot to have a kid but didn’t know that in addition to herself being way too heavy to carry a pregnancy - her partner also was very unlikely to be able to have a successful pregnancy also?

[@jeaninecl]

I don't know if Becky has a wish of ever getting pregnant, but if she doesn't it still is so rude, hurtful and unnecessary to say something like that! It was said out of nowhere, they weren't even talking about having kids or anything. Becky just said she was PMS'ing bad and that made her feel awful and needed some time for herself. And Amber just had to make it about herself and do it in such an awful way.. Hearing that made me so mad and Becky handled it so well

[@thatguy3903]

Jesus Christ, that's awful. Poor Becky.

[@EYE_GOTCHA]

It’s okay for Amber to have a dream of living in Seattle, but Becky wanting to live in Colorado is “lame”, according to Amber. Amber has, somehow, managed to become even more insufferable.

[@daphnia9664]

and amber can make fun of honey bun for having tattoos and lip fillers but she wants tattoos and lip fillers...no self awareness whatsoever

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Isn't the Seattle thing new? If so, it must be Wifey's dream, which Amber is mirroring.

[@lisaatkins9879]

Everytime Becky has the attention, Amber cannot stand it, she talks over her. She pat,pat,Pat's on Becky's arm, so annoying.

[@wakeupandsmelltherain6351]

@CML yeah as someone in the pnw, washington and colorado are pretty similar in some aspects. mountains, snow, lots of trees and wildlife... seattle of course is a different story, but to think that "colorado" is lame means she probably won't even survive the weather here lol

[@mamachungus]

oh my god i don’t watch her often so i didn’t know she wanted to move to seattle. it’s my hometown and i just moved back recently… if she moves to seattle i’m leaving this fucking city immediately 😭😂

[@LaurenWoz421]

Amber doesn’t want Becky to walk away and “cool off” because she doesn’t want her to think about what is happening or what she has said. She just wants to be able to manipulate becky until she can’t think for herself. My narcissist ex didn’t want me to think things over either. I would cool off but I also tried to make sense of how I felt and how he was making me feel. They make you feel CRAZY or get so exhausted by the argument that you just drop it or forgive /apologize just to end it if you don’t go away and think.

[@nadiraohare7854]

Narcs also love negative attention or arguments. Starting arguments in passive aggressive ways or repetitively doing things to push buttons and then once they get a reaction they flip the script on you and say "Look how immature you are you can't even talk about this like an adult" when you need space or "Look how crazy your acting right now" after they've managed to provoke you.

[@mazzyg6186]

I’ve been watching a lot of videos from the channel JCS- Criminal Psychology and this is a common tactic used by interrogators. It overwhelms and mentally exhausts a suspect to reduce their cognitive function and make it harder for them to think critically and create an argument in their defense or favor

[@mazzyg6186]

Reduces their ability to think about how their actions in the moment affect them in the future

[@melissaz1471]

wow, yes...all of this!

[@marye3974]

@@mazzyg6186 hmmmm that's interesting but also a bit worrisome. My ex used to accuse me of things that I didn't do. He would go at me and at me and at me....to the point that sometimes I would start to doubt myself even though I knew better. I would have to mentally tell myself that I didn't do it and not to apologize because I knew it wasn't true.

[@crn1318]

amber: *uses becky’s well-being as an excuse not to livestream* also amber: “you were pmsing?!” (as if she had no idea what was even wrong with becky.)

[@allmine853]

and has no trouble telling the whole of youtube beckys medical troubles

[@dagnydo2472]

I thought the same! She doesn't live stream to support Becky while she's, "going through something." Buuuut, in the live she whips around, "YOU WERE PMSING!?" She's SO full of dung. 🙄

[@johnwick4257]

ALR couldn't care less about Becky. I think Beckster needed a 'me' day...Amber pressured hard about her joining the live stream, and Becky just LOST IT! She's been taking a cr@p ton of bashing from ALR on the live streams lately.

[@Mindyournachos]

Amberlynn used to have horrible periods before ger hysterectomy 🥴 apparently she has forgotten what it's like 🤷‍♀️

[@chloegraves7088]

@@allmine853 but didn't want to say anything about hers immediately after talking about what was wrong with Becky with no hesitation

[@melissaz1471]

ALR'S smug face is such a trigger for me, I've known so many people throughout my lifetime like her. Unfortunately I've got two narc's in my immediate family and it's torture. I'm older and wiser and learned to keep my distance from them because they're so difficult to deal with 😩

[@dawndraper9371]

Same

[@MamaLinz123]

Her smug face makes my slappy-hand get all twitchy!

[@bamboozled1668]

Same...its the most liberating feeling in the world when you let that go

[@sumcoolusername1483]

that smug fucking face and when Becky talks about herself and Hamber cuts into it.... makes my right palm itch. I'm not a violent one but man, she makes me want to slap her into the next decade.... Also, wishing you all, who had to put up with narcs' bullshit, all the best.

[@69SalterStreet]

Best policy is to stay away. They won't change or EVER treat you with kindness or respect. There's no point to engage with them.

[@thatsjustpeachyyy4893]

When Becky is away from Amberlynn for a while she’s going to look back and ask why she ever defended her.

[@daphnia9664]

probably gonna regret the whole relationship aswell...

[@deltasaves]

Yep! I know i felt shame in staying with a narc, i hope Beckster doesn't. Though I have my own issues with her, i want her to spread her wings

[@acadiastrong4446]

At first it was probably ok for Becky to not have to work at the factory anymore. Except she traded that job for a totally different manual labour job. If a job/relationship causes your sanity and health then it’s not worth the money or Walmart tshirts.

[@mysticmoth1111]

One thing that Amber does that really grates me is when she's annoyed with something Becky says and goes "raught raught" in a mocking tone because of how Becky's accent makes her pronounce "right". Every time she does it my blood boils. Smh.

[@evilwhitecat9]

Yrs, she can say she's being supportive because she's saying Becky is "right," but the way she says it is so sarcastic. Oh but she'd say we're just reading into things.

[@stevenrpondue1157]

I did it for you. I actually counted how many lip smacks she did on her live. 121 lip smacks give or take. My ears need a good scrubbing now.

[@TheNarcAlert]

You are a brave and tenacious woman..you deserve many thumbs up for this insane effort..please go listen to a video of waves or rain or something :P

[@stevenrpondue1157]

@@TheNarcAlert I HAVE to watch a looped ASMR to fall asleep, or else those 💋 smacks will haunt my dreams.

[@lilmarco9821]

She doesnt even have lips whats she smacking????

[@rishaa682]

Why would you do that …

[@stevenrpondue1157]

@@rishaa682 it was for the scholars who will in years time, be educated on Lipsmackerlynn. Or I did it for the Vine, your choice.

[@owenb8636]

Love Becky correcting ALR when she tries to speak for her. She's gotten so based

[@deltasaves]

This live redeemed her a bit in my eyes.

[@LanaAndHearts14]

She said no bitch hold up.

[@316lvmnoneofyourbusiness7]

I love watching the micro expressions of Amber. Contempt, irritation, dismissal, Duper's Delight...... But Becky's are priceless. Her sideways glances at Amber, that look of "WTF is your problem?", utter disgust, one sided smiles, ignoring her.....I love it!!!

[@TheNarcAlert]

When Amber speaks I stare at Beckys face, she says so much without saying a word

[@nadiraohare7854]

I think Becky been watching Narc alert. 😆 she seems to at least have a small clue at times and just playing along keeping the peace till she bails.

[@BronzeDragon133]

The spell is utterly broken. Becky knows what's going on, she's there for the Benjamins. And that's the only reason.

[@43MinutesWithJamieRose]

Same. I love being able to read people extremely well. The micro expressions, and body language are my jam.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

I recently learned the term duper's delight on a KZbin about Josh Duggar. It's so useful to understand that concept!

[@chickenlittle5095]

So happy to see Beckster biting back. After so many years of ALR making her feel like crap at every turn, girl is growing a nice, new shiny spine. ‘I love that for her’ rotflmao

[@Katyayay]

The amount of toxicity that has increased since the breakup between them is so uncomfortable. All the little jabs, the shades, the dismissals, the cruel taunts (of course 100% from Amber, and Becky just giving back what's given). I couldn't live in that awful negative environment. No idea how Becky can continue to stay there and not leave immediately

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Becky has realized she's in a pickle. She needs to build up a nest egg in order to afford to run. I'm sure it's hard. I'm not surprised she's feeling irritable and had a "bad day." However, this was Tuesday's stream. She seemed to feel better on Thursday. She's making her plans. She's getting stronger.

[@ginnybean838]

@@magdlynstrouble2036 i have a strong feeling she is really excited for amber to be paying her so she can use it to run. i def think ur right that she needs to save up and find a place i don’t doubt for a second she has something up her sleeve. it’s not that easy to up and move.

[@Euphrosyned]

Yeah I couldn't figure that out either until this vid and saw that amber supports her and pays her... Which makes me see Becky in a new unflattering light.. Of course not taking away the fact that amber is horrible.. But still... If she's been supported to be her caretaker OK but from what I understand they eat out mostly and from what I've seen house isn't like clean.

[@s.a.b.i.]

@@Euphrosyned IMO, I think it has more to do with ALRS hold on her, mentally/emotionally, if you will. I'm sure that ALR has made it a point to manipulate HER needs first....the fact that she literally HAS to have a caregiver. That way, she can make her stay until she has a new supply and Becky feels responsible at the same time. What if she were to fall and Becky wasn't there? She would walk around with her own excrement on her, without someone there. Who would help her shower, put on socks and shoes? What if she had a heart attack and no one were there to take her to the ER?....well now that's all Becky's fault for leaving. (No matter that ALR can hire an actual caretaker) In my experience, you have to be very careful how you leave and what I found was easiest, was to wait for the discard...start to become the "grey rock" and let the narc be done. It was just the easiest way....and of she saves money while doing it, to be able to land on her feet then more power to her.

[@Euphrosyned]

@@s.a.b.i. well that's just horrible if she's made her stay out of that kind of manipulation and guilt.. I've never dated a narc... So that just nuts. But like all those reasons don't seem enough for me to stay.. I mean I've seen 600lb life they can get a long shoe horn to out on socks and shoes.. And if she doesn't leave 5he house why would she need them? And amber has said she showers daily and on her own.. I know this could be a lie but she's not bedridden yet.. Honestly it's lucky Becky broke up with her before she was and if amber is manipulating her like that then she needs to get out before amber makes more reasons for her to stay like becoming bedridden. I mean the heart attack or falling thing she can get like a life alert for. If Becky is staying our of guilt and a morbid sense of responsibility for Amber's health or life then idk I just see that getting worse in the long run.. Especially if wifey doesnt pan out.

[@violetswrath666]

17:04 Amber you got a lot of audacity talking about being a romantic person when you couldn’t even bother to get your partner a birthday present, when you were vlogging about how you didn’t want to go to your potential father in law’s work so he could say happy birthday to his child on their birthday, when you were making tiktoks about lesbian porn while your partner was shopping for gravestones for their deceased mother, when you treated Becky like a caretaker/parent for four years, and then had the audacity to say that you were in love with your ex for a year and a half after you broke up, and you stopped feeling romantic to your ex fiancé TWO. YEARS. AGO.

[@lydia6101]

When Amber said that no one has cared about her like that, was such a major punch in the face to Becky. Did Becky not take care of you for 4 years.. like?? If I was Becky i don’t think I would have the same restraint she has. Ambers face is so punchable, especially with that smug look on her face. Good on Becky for completely checking out on the relationship.

[@deltasaves]

I would have flat out left weeks ago, beg everyone i know if i could just crash there for a bit. Almost Anywhere would be better than with ALR

[@eastcoastj]

"It DEFINITELY wasn't 4." That annoyed me so hard when I first saw it. Thank you for calling it out.

[@BronzeDragon133]

'Round here, "Was it three?" "Something like, close enough." would have been the exchange.

[@silentfriend369]

Becky has found her voice and is forging her unique path in life. I'm genuinely happy for her!! I'm not a fan or hater of "our girl", but I see clearly how becky didn't have her very valid needs met in that relationship. Bless Becky for using her freedom of choice to choose to follow her heart and listen to her intuition.

[@_indaeyo]

well said

[@evirareid1500]

ALSO BECKY IS A RACIST SO ..

[@mykittystinksbad2]

@@evirareid1500 wait what? Please elaborate.

[@brenbrams]

ALR is so hateful! I don’t understand the appeal not only to pay a monthly fee but to also send her money just so that she could read names out loud, make some rude remark about every single “super chat” and then say: “it is what it is!” I don’t get it. She’s just awful!!! Really, really awful! By the way, her dress sleeve is cutting off the circulation on her arm. Just saying… LOVE YOUR CHANNEL! It’s like a breath of fresh air! 😊

[@questioneverything-_-]

You should see shanyforchrist and try to understand how people are sending her and her husband/boyfriend/thing money. She honestly makes ALR look like a saint. Plus she has kids. Which somehow have not been taken away from them.

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

Fools and their money are easily parted 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@laurenc4138]

I’m so glad actually good KZbinrs do it for us, like I couldn’t beat to watch her be a jerk for 4 hours, it I like watching the clips condensed and broken down like this.

[@daintybeigli]

“Manipulationship” is absolutely perfect!!!!!

[@sanabunny1855]

As someone born and raised in Seattle, I’d like to officially say that she is not welcome

[@Jay-gv7jm]

Amber would not stop tearing down Becky and their relationship every chance she got. Beckys face says it all! You could watch this on mute and pick it up!

[@s.a.b.i.]

Yes! That's what I said too! Watch them for just a few minutes on mute and watch their body language tell it all.🙌

[@catwhisperer2358]

I am the same as Becky when in an argument. I want space so I can collect myself and not hurt the other person out of anger. Amber can't control the situation if Becky walks away. She needs to be the center constantly.

[@Mrs_Gorl]

Ohhh please do a break down of the “Pluto” stream. Feel free to make it extra long 😝 Love your insight!

[@melissaz1471]

Haha yes!!

[@liviawang3822]

THIS

[@MamaLinz123]

I feel it in my bones that ‘The Pluto Stream’ will be used in the future for psychology students and trainee therapists to study. It was an absolute masterclass of a narcissist in full, rotten flow!

[@Mrs_Gorl]

@@MamaLinz123 it was my favorite Becky stream to date lol. She has HAD IT. 😂

[@MamaLinz123]

@@Mrs_Gorl YAS! This was her fighting back, at last!!!

[@ijustrealllylikecats]

In the last few streams, Amber looooves to mention how she pays Becky. Amberlynn making herself Becky's employer is just another way for her to add a power/control dynamic. Since they broke up, Amber hasn't had the same control over Becky and she hates that- So her solution is to FORCE Becky into a situation where she suddenly demands half the rent from Becky (knowing that Becky quit working to take care of her and has no money) but offers to be her boss and pay her. It's just another sick little way to have a one-up over Becky since she has been unable to have control over her after breaking up.

[@daphnia9664]

that is exactly what i thought! so disgustingly manipulative! i don't even think alr is self aware of her abusive behaviour it is just so deep in her way of being by now

[@evilwhitecat9]

And she's also so proud of herself for doing that! Oh and also proud of Becky for agreeing to it.

[@jwoolman5]

Amberlynn kept giving things to Becky that Becky herself could easily do without in such quantity. Amberlynn chose the expensive apartment - left to her own devices, Becky would have a much cheaper place to live that she could easily afford with a regular job. Amberlynn chooses the most expensive way to get an iphone (my carrier basically pays me to have one) and phone service and streaming - there are much cheaper ways. Becky can only wear one shirt and one cap at a time and play one game at a time. She does not need a pile of them and can also save considerable $$ by buying such things used. Becky does not need Amberlynn’s money or self-proclaimed “generosity”. Amberlynn owes Becky, sharing that paycheck with her is not charity but is payment of an owed debt. Becky should give Amberlynn a bill for four years of service as her 24/7 driver, housekeeper, personal assistant, dog walker, cat and dog caregiver, etc. It’s going to cost a lot to replace Becky.

[@Euphrosyned]

Idk I mean I agree with everything you said about amber. But I can't help but think people are so apologetic for Becky because next to amber she looks like a Saint. I mean how long has amber supported her? I just have no sympathy for someone who doesn't work and let's someone else take care of them.. Unless they are like working at home cooking cleaning taking care of kids, but they eat out, from the times house is shown its not clean, and the dog isn't taken care of properly as it gets into things and is obese itself.. even if she helps bathe her which amber says she doesn't, idk, I was a caretaker and you don't make enough to pay for everything in your life. If you're a live in caretaker you have a very low stipend.. Certainly nothing extra. Not food out or cell phone payment. Or anything like that. Learning Becky is supported off amber makes me have less respect for her in the sense that as bad as amber treats her she put herself in the position and accepted it. There's a price for everything. So while amber is still horrible and way worse than Becky.. Becky used her too. I mean it's just my thing.. But I have no sympathy for those who are just okay with not making their own money, having no ambition.

[@jwoolman5]

@@Euphrosyned - The point is that Becky worked for everything. She took care of Amberlynn, the cats, the dog, the car, the household, and was 24/7 Amberlynn's personal assistant and driver. That's worth real money, which Amberlynn will find out once Becky walks out the door for the last time. Just because people who do that work are often underpaid doesn't mean the work itself is not valuable. Nowadays when people divorce, assets are often split 50/50 no matter whose name was on the paycheck. There is good reason for that. Saying that Amberlynn supported Becky is forgetting that Becky worked 24/7 to make life more comfortable for Amberlynn, at the expense of her own physical and mental health. Becky was supporting Amberlynn, and not just by sitting in front of a camera occasionally to babble about herself.

[@catwithwifi10]

Whenever Amber goes to the ER, she's always wearing that hospital bracelet the way kids wear those bracelets you get at the fair, yet she's not wearing one now. So..... I call bs.

[@swampophelia2098]

The only point of these painfully boring lives is to give ALR every chance she can get at devaluing and punishing Becky ( in her own eyes ) for daring to dump her, that’s why she is constantly banging on about this new person and claiming this woman is able to motivate her and wants to help her like nobody ever has before ! It’s anything to try and bring Becky down, I love that Becky just doesn’t appear to buy into it any more

[@BronzeDragon133]

"I'm on SIX MEDICATIONS RIGHT NOW!" Oh, boy. Yeah, she's thrilled to be "special," I'd be horrified and making huge life changes. I'm 52, I'm on five medications. Three are for migraine suppression, so they count, but aren't serious. One's for high cholesterol. I'm of normal weight and good diet, my genes just suck. One's for an arrhythmia I was born with.

[@ijustrealllylikecats]

MunchausenLynn

[@M_SC]

Being on medications for things you can’t control is totally different from amber. Some of hers might be for uncontrollable stuff but surely some she could get off if she acted responsibly

[@BronzeDragon133]

@Sherri Doe Exactly. Who cares...this comment stream isn't about you. Talk about being narcissistic. So bye.

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@M_SC So one assumes, but she just...doesn't seem motivated. It's always seemed to me that, barring being uncontrollable, one shouldn't BE on that medication. :-)

[@Twinkie989]

I think your comment is completely valid. I'm 45, post hysterectomy just like Amber, and I'm currently trying to find something that works for my bipolar- but that's it. It isn't normal to be on 6 meds at her age unless you are very unhealthy. It isn't even normal when you get older- or unavoidable.

[@thedreammweaver6274]

Becky had a sick mother in the state of Kentucky of course she didn't want to travel, now that her mother has passed things could be different. That would be understandable if that's the case but Amber has to make a huge deal of it.

[@acadiastrong4446]

Remember the vacation in Lexington where they stayed in a hotel? It was such a production to get ALR there, she had to have her whole bedspread, pillows etc just so she could sit on her bed stuffing her face with food. Imagine all the work Becky had to do, no vacation for her at all (can’t blame her for not wanting to travel w ALR). It truly looked like taking care of a 600 lbs baby who when they don’t get their snack foods throw a tantrum and gets nasty.

[@jwoolman5]

Becky has always said she likes to travel. She just very wisely decided not to move to another state with a 600 lb control-freaky toddler, that’s all. In Kentucky, Becky has her extensive support network of friends and family. One of the first things Amberlynn did when she got with Becky was to try to isolate her from her long-time friends. She was proud of herself and the whole awful tirade is all on video. She convinced Becky that her friends like Rafe were just backstabbers because they were cautious about Amberlynn. It was all very middle school. If Narc Alert is interested in doing retro analysis, that would be a good one to do. It seems to be circulating again in some reaction circles.

[@mallowmallow2070]

I wish Becky would clap back with "I can't travel with you because all you do when we travel is eat" because it's the truth. It's sad that her idea of travelling isn't having experiences, or seeing beautiful sights, but sitting in a Hilton eating takeout....

[@Oonagh72]

One thing we must remember is that this apartment is the first home ALR has ever had.. She has always lived with already established families from foster care to Eric and Rickey’s. She has no concept of what it take to build a life. I think this is part of what is so appealing about wifey. She is in control this time. She has her own income, she has her own place to live, she doesn’t have to fit into someone else’s established life. The thing is that ALR really doesn’t realize she can’t take care of herself. Like a toddle who insists they can pour their own milk, ALR is going to make a huge mess of things. I also think Becky ain’t taking that car nowhere. If she does ALR will constantly remind Becks that she has to do XYZ because that is technically ALR;s car. If I were Becks I’d leave that car and go on and go

[@RS-xf2yr]

She actually had her first apartment/home with Destiny a few years ago. But yes, she still doesn’t have a concept of having her own life.

[@homegrownstranger4661]

Becky should either get a loan and buy the car out right from amber or leave the car behind and have no strings attached.

[@lindamcnamara7803]

@ Oonagh72 Well said I agree with everything you said. I think she should leave the car, just leave her alone to take care of herself. I believe Wifey will not take crap from Amber and not be ordered around.

[@nomdeplume2213]

I thought becky had that car when they first got together.

[@jwoolman5]

@@RS-xf2yr -she and Krystle moved into an apartment from Krystle’s parents’ house also.

[@lolly5453]

I think Becky’s gonna really blossom once Amber let’s her out of her clutches. I think Becky has been dragged down somewhat by Ambers behaviour/emotional manipulation etc. Wish them both every happiness, far far away from one another!

[@akasha3193]

I’m pretty sure Becky went off the script (lies) that Amber had her rehearse before they went live and that’s why she’s reacting this way

[@deltasaves]

Her "puppy" isn't doing the tricks anymore

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

And I'm so here for it;

[@notjimmystewart]

I wish she’d have a moment of clarity and see herself as she is generally perceived...she’s a monster...

[@JoanWhack]

She thinks we're all stupid. She contradicts herself all the time like we don't have access to her catalogue of verbal diarrhoea

[@kaykay1113]

Agreed. She has absolutely zero self awareness.

[@icee_u8231]

That’s never going to happen

[@mizzanni]

My mother had NPD and ruined my childhood. I'm 30 now, and your content is so cathartic. It's actually helped me process a lot of the awful things I went through when I was younger, and has helped me blame myself less. Your voice is also very soothing and pleasant to have playing in the background. Thank you so much. :)

[@TheNarcAlert]

Im flattered and touched that I could be of any help.You arent crazy or not good enough, Im sure she loves you shes just so broken she has no idea how, thats what I like to think about mine. It doesnt excuse the behaviour and it reminds me I am loved ;)

[@marye3974]

@@TheNarcAlert that's one of the saddest statements I've read in a while. Looking through the comments, you're helping a lot of people process whatever they've been through. I think that's amazing. ❤

[@cococrooks2638]

As a Borderline I totally feel you. I hope it helped you heal and you feel more self-worth, empowerment and liberation 😊

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

I agree that this channel is very cathartic and affirming. I can't imagine being raised by a narc. My sympathies. I had a narc bf for just 2.5 years, and that was traumatizing enough! Luckily, as soon as I saw his true colors, I dumped him and cut him out of my life.

[@HollyOak]

@m my mother as well. A lot happened in my childhood which has left me with a lot of emotional issues, I'm 54 and was not able to have kids because of the emotional scarring I would have inflicted on them without meaning to. NPD parents, especially mothers, do really eff you up!

[@gm56379]

Becky finally finds the right medication and realizes ALR is toxic for her, that's eye opening.

[@twoofakindOGDC]

Every single time Becky says anything, Amber always counters with a version of “what she means is....” It’s ridiculous 💯

[@marye3974]

Well yah....AL knows Becky better better than Becky knows Becky. 🙄 Your comment is such a good point.

[@chubbabubba1991]

My ex narc tried to tell the couples therapist that I'm a rage addict and have anger issues etc. I'm like Becky, my narc would wind me up and then follow me around antagonising me when I'd try to go and cool down. The therapist looked him right in his face and told him that she would tell her clients to do EXACTLY what I was doing when there's conflict. Someone who leaves the house to go and calm down doesn't have anger issues. Funnily enough he's the one who went nuts, called her a man-hating f*ck and then stormed out of the building. 😂 ZERO self awareness.

[@hopestuart2313]

yikes you really dodged a bullet! good thing he’s ur ex. hope ur okay now❤️

[@chubbabubba1991]

@@hopestuart2313 That's so sweet of you! I'm so happy now. Can be hard to coparent with my ex for sure but that's a small price to pay. I'm with the man of my dreams, my son calls him Daddy and our youngest son will be a year old in a week. I never thought I'd be this happy. I'm so thankful that I set my boundaries, went to therapy and swore to never settle. I met my partner 6 months after I cancelled my wedding! He's my best friend and the most amazing Father and partner. I really did get my happily ever after once I cut my narc mum out of my life and left my ex. Life is beautiful now 🥰

[@hopestuart2313]

@@chubbabubba1991 that’s beautiful!! I’m so happy for you, and I wish you and your family all the happiness❤️❤️ it’s amazing that your kid will grow up with an amazing father figure instead of ur narc ex!!

[@s.a.b.i.]

Maybe reactive manipulation?(I'm sure theres an actual term for this) Where they purposely wind you up until you react and then sit back like "see? I told you, you do this or that..."

[@chubbabubba1991]

@@s.a.b.i. 100%! Would tell me I'm too emotional and then make me cry deliberately so he could sit there all smug. The closest term I've heard of is 'crazy making'

[@argleblargle8083]

please tell me other people see that ALR specifically uses the "raight raight raiiigghhhhttt" when she wants Becky to stop talking. Also hilarious ALR says "out of respect for Becky" when Becky was sitting there saying she wanted to be left alone and ALR was demanding immediate interaction.

[@qs4196]

Yes. It's like she saying 'right, right' just to stop talking about it.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

As if Amber ever felt respect for anyone, besides herself, in her life. Sure, Jan.

[@shapescolours8105]

ALR says “we don’t need to go into it” with her thing but immediately airs Becky’s personal stuff Edit: “just because I have those parts doesn’t mean I can have a child” YES. FUCKING TELL HER BECKY. Weather you can’t have a child because of physical OR mental health issues it’s all valid. I mentally can not deal with a child. I can’t. It’s too much, that poor kid would have a bad life because of me. Good thing I don’t want kids and know I’m mentally not able to raise one.

[@monstxrblade]

I think Becky had a medical issue but I still agree with what you said. It was also very invasive and nasty of Amber to try to gain sympathy over Becky like that. Also I think Amber talked about adopting kids and I really hope she’s too lazy to go through the process because she would make a terrible mom.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

@@monstxrblade Becky has PCOS, polycystic ovary syndrome. It's a pretty serious hormonal condition. It affects the female cycle, causing irregular periods and infertility. It's also linked to diabetes 2, which Becky has.

[@Clownbunnycosplay]

Amber is very Ableist, even if she won’t admit it, she uses OCD (in my opinion) in correctly, and believes if you don’t experience what she does it’s not valid

[@briaweea02]

THIS. Also, Becky has PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), which is a very difficult reproductive issue. It can cause abnormal periods, infertility, uncontrollable weight gain, depression, cysts and ovarian failure. Someone very close to me has it, so Amber being smug and saying “must be nice” REALLY pissed me off. It shows just how little she cares about Becky’s health and struggles.

[@jeaninecl]

Exactly! The out of nowhere "Must be nice..." made me SO MAD! EmpathyLynn is a myth..

[@AdirondackRuby]

Her dislike of taking time to calm down in a fight fits with her other tendencies, because she hates having to think about her flaws & faults & bad behavior. She doesn't want to calm down, think it through, because she might have to acknowledge what she did wrong or ask for forgiveness. She wants to keep fighting until she can derail the fight into something else that she can win.

[@pandylynn614]

I've said it before and I'll say it again, I'm glad for this channel. I've seen behaviors in myself that I didn't know were hurting people around me. I'm working on those now. Thank you for these videos.

[@pollypocket4323]

That’s a brave and difficult thing to do 👏🏻

[@LaurenWoz421]

Becky has always said she wants to travel and go places with Amber and that she wanted her to get healthy enough to go. Amber wouldnt do that so Becky became complacent for her. Yet amber has said SHE wanted to travel but put HER dreams on a back burner for Becky. Amber didn’t travel before Becky except to each new girlfriends house.

[@moxymarie7243]

This is so off topic, but you’re so gorgeous!

[@sharonperkins8714]

I agree with what you have said - Amber was physically unable to travel, so why would Becky even want to discuss travel with her. Also, in my experience, being trapped in the car with a narcissist is the worst place to be. The passive aggressive torture and gaslighting that occurs in that small space is mental torture. In my opinion when Becky said she was at a point where she didn't want to leave the house, it was probably at the most torturous stages in a relationship. After the love bombing and when they are actively trying to isolate you from family and friends. Just even typing all this brings back memories of times in the car when I literally wanted to jump out.

[@evilwhitecat9]

Someone on another video somewhere suggested that when Amber says "travel" what she really means is "move." That's why Amber said she'd live in Seattle someday, even though travelling was the topic. When Becky says "travel" she means actual travel, with Kentucky as home.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

@@sharonperkins8714 I'm sorry you went through that. You know the time when they were in traffic, and red light was shining into the car, and Becky said, "I look like a big cherry," and Amber quickly, aggressively shifts her enormous bulk to loom over Becky and screech, "BIG?? Are you calling me BIG??" Ugh. It's so frightening.

[@sharonperkins8714]

@@magdlynstrouble2036 Thanks and I do remember. That scene just also showed how huge Amber is and how that makes her so physically close in the car. I am a big gal and probably about Becky's size. Becky looked tiny compared to Amber. Any amount of time in the car with Amber must be exhausting. I have to stay in touch with my narcissist abuser because we have a child together - Becky needs to walk out the door and NEVER LOOK BACK.

[@CannabrannaLammer]

I'm autistic, when people tell me something about themselves I can only keep the conversation going if I relate to it. Otherwise I don't have anything to contribute.

[@TheNarcAlert]

You have found a way to navigate with your challenges, thats a success.... she is not like that

[@borochifox]

Her attitude when she repeated harshly 'BECKY...Must be nice.' was horrible. It was like she was talking to a dog, or just something lowly. You do not speak to another human being that way. It struck me that she was legit offended by Becky not being as invested in that statement, and repeated it expecting Becky to obey and jump through the hoop like a good dog. Thank God Becky stood her ground and even made the point just because you HAVE your parts still does not mean you are fit to have children. Go Becky go!

[@miyubeilschmidt5351]

fr...i cannot believe shes behing like that on stream, considering how calculating she can be...i guess she reall, thinks shes in the right

[@fluidchant]

Oh my goodness I absolutely LOVE to see Becky snapping back at ALR. It feels like vindication for all the times I didn't get to speak up to my narc ex. Kind of like when you come up with a great comeback to an argument days later, and then get to imagine yourself winning the argument. I feel empowered seeing Becky stand up for herself and enjoying it. So satisfying!

[@Sofiakatt]

I see Amber tearing into Becky. Why doesn’t she pack up and go rather than endure these horrible livestreams? If Becky is staying for her “boss” to pay her, that is sad.

[@M_SC]

She might think she has to to pay half the bills amber now demands she pays

[@daphnia9664]

@@M_SC ALR basically forced becky into being her "employee" since now she has to pay half the bills but if becky works for her she will get money to pay said bills...so manipulative

[@thewrongshoes]

Becky said it’s just for a few months until the lease is up

[@slinkywhippet]

This is the first time in the 4 years I've been in the Amberverse that she's mentioned Seattle being her "dream" - before today it's always been California...interesting 🤔

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Thanks for mentioning this. I'm newer to the Amberverse, but I've watched a lot of older videos and I thought Seattle was new. It must be Wifey's dream, which Amber is suddenly mirroring.

[@slinkywhippet]

@@magdlynstrouble2036 You're welcome 😁 Yeah I'm 100% in agreement with you that she's mirroring Wifey! She does that a lot along with straight up copying personality traits and sayings etc from people she admires (mainly other youtubers) 🙄 And these things all come out of nowhere yet she's all "You know it's ALWAYS been my dream to...." or making out that she's always used that phrase... y'know mild gaslighting.

[@chrissiec5810]

she’s just trying on this new ‘pluviophile’ personality... it’s laughable how immature she is

[@hannie.haneul]

My mom and I both suffer from Hashimoto's disease but even at 56 my mom needs NO medications (yet). We manage our condition through healthy diet, supplements, and exercises. And mom takes pride in that. She works so hard to be healthy. Yet here Hamber beaming happily at having to take 6 medications at 30. Yeah girl, what an accomplishment. Be proud of wrecking your own body.

[@uribheidi]

can i ask what diet you follow? i have sjogren's. they frequently co-occur

[@hannie.haneul]

@@uribheidi I follow general autoimmune diet protocol, avoiding potentially harmful foods like grains, dairy, nightshades, sugar, coffee (tbh still occassionally drink), legumes, eggs, alcohol, nuts, seeds, refined sugars, oils, seafood, and food additives. Not necessarily keto but my diet is pretty much low-carb. Also because I have slow metabolism and lower BMR than most people (my BMR is only about 900 kcal a day, TDEE is about 1,200 kcal) I have to watch my calorie closely. I gain weight very easily, I didn't even know I could be this slim, but efforts don't lie 🤩

[@WileyCylas]

I notice it appears as if Becky rarely peers at herself in the camera, unlike our gorl

[@AdirondackRuby]

She looks at the camera when addressing the stream, she looks at Amber when addressing Amber...but Amber is always looking at Amber, regardless. So sad.

[@Smashley1]

She is such a dramatic person- I seriously can’t imagine dealing w her in real life. I wouldn’t be able to do it.

[@justpeachy4851]

My boss does the 4 a.m thing, any little thing to make you feel stupid

[@Amy-cs8yh]

Ugh mine does too! So infuriating.

[@justpeachy4851]

@@Amy-cs8yh you have to continually remind yourself that you're not incompetent due to only hearing negative things about yourself

[@krayozmines]

Ya i know someone who does this too. Argh so annoying

[@sooph1e]

Please do a "retro react" of back when she lived with Eric and Ricky and how she interacted with them!!! It's a GOLDMINE!!

[@marye3974]

Have you watched the channel HXMBER? Thet haven't made videos in a while but they had good livestreams of AL's videos. A lot of the really long ones are gone but there are a few still up plus shorter videos. Right now I'm listening to the You Now playlist. It's crazy how it's all the same crap all these years later. (if you go to that channel look for the one that has rarity cat in the title. It's only a minute or so long but it's worth it 😂)

[@Fauntleroy.]

You've quickly become a favorite. Keep up the awesome work!!! Sorry to hear you have one of these creatures in your own life.

[@TheNarcAlert]

Right!?

[@wonky-t-wonk]

Becky needs to get the heck outta dodge. Amber is just doing more and more damage to her, she’s acting like such a pick-me girl.

[@wonky-t-wonk]

@@MsMorgendorffer1 the kind of girl who goes out of their way to impress others, making it seem like they’re “not like other girls” while simultaneously putting down others with backhanded compliments and whatnot.

[@whl.523]

@@MsMorgendorffer1 To further on, it’s like being in a group of friends. Suddenly when men approach, one of your female friends changes her personality to impresss them and say things like … “Ohhh I could NEVER wear that much makeup it’s sooooo much work,” or “Wow you guys eat SO MUCH! Haha I get full easily I’m really delicate and sensitive. I’m not like a slob but you guys go ahead.”

[@lucyhanna5172]

This is painful to watch. I hope Becky gets out of this situation soon. ALR is so toxic!

[@ChippingAround]

Wow, alr's true personality was front and center during this stream. Her passive-aggressive, narcistic and straight up rude disposition was on full display.

[@Fe26man]

At first I thought big AL tried to tie wifey's time up with the constant communications because she was bored, which I still think is part of the reason. But clicking on this video put the idea that, what if big AL is scared wifey will see this, or other "haydur/ actually big AL truth" channels?! I'm guessing jeoulsy is definitely part of her intentions with the 14hr/ day livestreaming with wifey!

[@TheNarcAlert]

Interesting theory!

[@nadiraohare7854]

Also fits in with Narcs need to lovebomb their victims. I'm sure she texted Becky and all the other gfs constantly too. They do this to make the victim as dependent on them. Wipey will be conditioned to walk on eggshells and accept breadcrumbs. I'm sure she currently knows every minute detail and breath wifey takes but the Narc soon reverts to being self absorbed and withdrawing attention, part of what's called the devaluation phase. Then the victim is left wondering what happened walking on eggshells wondering why their partner is no longer interested or why they are getting silent treatment. So the Narc can get away with what's called breadcrumbing. The victim gets so addicted or hungry for approval and conditioned to accept any small crumb of the lovebombing behavior. Destiny was smart. She got out before the discard phase.

[@Fe26man]

@@nadiraohare7854 absolutely it is! I'm curious how she's handling it, tho having a job (from home according to becky) [I hope she doesn't have confidential meetings with big AL on a facetime secretly through it. Of course AL would promise to not say anything to anyone, but bring what she learned up, in the future, as blackmail to get her way/ make wifey do whatever she (AL) wants. That would be horrible for wifey's future professionalism and prospects.] I wonder if wifey has normal friends and a normal social life... I can't imagine big AL being thrilled about that. She'd be so insecure. I have so many thoughts and questions lol!

[@marye3974]

@@Fe26man since wipey watches AL she has to know how she acts, plus she has to know some people would take it too far and try to contact wipeys employer. AL didn't want it known how much they FaceTimed because wipey was supposedly working?? AL seemed to be a little worried when Becky said how much time they spent talking. Something seems off. Either AL got caught up in her feelings and forgot what happens to people involved with her and is now trying to backpeddle a bit . Which is kind of ironic considering AL brought her to everyone's attention and won't stop talking about her. Or wipey is not being truthful and is messing with AL like a troll. The whole situation is weird. Personally I think it's going to blow up in AL's face and she's going to regret how she's acting. She's going to regret being such a b*tch to Becky and diving into a so called relationship with a stranger over the internet that she's talked to for what...less than a month. The whole situation is nuts. Or they could get married and live happily ever after. (😂😂😂I'm just kidding about the last part)

[@Fe26man]

@@marye3974 I couldn't agree more! I think wifey has not so good intentions as well. Justine on kickinggeese has done a couple of card readings on wifey (and others, just talking about wifey right now) and they came out SUPER sketchy! Not good at all. It's so interesting, but incredibly boring at the same time!

[@ronnie8984]

I don’t doubt that this whole process has been both liberating and difficult for Becky. Leaving a toxic relationship with a non-narc is hard enough.

[@lisaatkins9879]

Amber never let's Becky have a moment of peace. That is how Becky calms herself, and Amber picks & picks at her. Respect her privacy and allow her some peace, I can't stand being picked at when I am stressed. The way she was tapping on Becky's arm trying to get her attention about continuing to do the livestreams caused my blood to boil. The world wasn't built around her or for her, it's Becky's world too & she has a right to some peace from Amber's constant badgering.

[@squeakyfromme83]

If I were Becky I would be livid. ALR saying she had no support, meanwhile, Becky was literally watching her mother die, and it was still all about ALR. She's infuriating

[@Mrs_Gorl]

Thank you for taking the time to point out how happy and smug she is that she is paying her to be in the livestreams. Lol again… I can’t wait for you to breakdown this next one. It’s a hootenberry ferrr shheerrr.

[@TheNarcAlert]

Im petitioning YT to have the "H" word banned :P

[@liberty3928]

AL is and always has been close to 600 lbs and it is absolutely obvious she doesn't shower regularly...who would want to be intimate with that🤢

[@captain_jack_sparkness]

Yeyy now I can fall asleep listening to it 😎👌🏼 Thx The Narc Alert for a new video 🤗

[@Deecams]

Her voice is perfect for that lol

[@captain_jack_sparkness]

@@Deecams yes 😍👌🏼

[@CornbreadOracle]

It’s weird that the older she gets the more ALR sounds like a teenager.

[@brainrot5267]

It looks like Becky is experiencing some personal and even spiritual growth right now, good for her!

[@44ohnny]

I don't understand why she needs Becky there, as soon a Becky starts talking Amber is quick to interrupt to just talk about herself.

[@moviemoth4192]

Becky isn’t asking to separate for a couple days after each argument she said she wanted 20 minutes and Amber can’t even take that. Amber can’t see that that’s such an unhealthy way to be and that what Becky wants is an extremely reasonable and healthy way to settle disputes.

[@morgue-an]

"Stop trying to make hootenberry happen!" That really got me 😂

[@pollypocket4323]

I watched Amber for a long time and always found her annoying and occasionally infuriating but mostly amusing & entertaining. In these latest streams she’s unbearable. Abusive and manipulative.

[@MustAvoidScurvy]

I'm started to think that if Becky don't leave that house soon, she will never leave Amber!! Run Becky, run!!!

[@melt3563]

I mean, I would HOPE losing 600lbs would give Becky a new lease on life.

[@Dawnandlo]

The main reasons that Becky didn't want to travel are gone. Her mother has passed and she's no longer WITH Amber who really likes take out in hotel rooms. Of course she's down to clown now..it could actually be fun.

[@43MinutesWithJamieRose]

I love your channel! 😻 I don’t know if you caught this little gem. The “I’ll let you answer first” is not ALR being nice & having good manners. She does this to stay in control, and to fabricate the answer she feels will paint her in the best light.

[@BlindZubat]

Its really annoying to see her so flippant about therapy. I have been in therapy to recover from the trauma cause by my narc mom and its been the hardest freakin' thing I have ever done. Which is saying a lot since in highschool I started going blind, moved in with my dad, started going to a new public school that had never dealt with someone with my disability before then proceeded to get honors at least eight or nine times in three years. Therapy isn't some easy thing that will just happen to you. Its constant hard work. If she can't handle two streams a week because its to hard, then there is no way that she will have the mental fortitude to do anything in therapy other than burn money...

[@TheNarcAlert]

Hang in there, therapy and solo travel changed my whole life..You are very brave :)

[@BlindZubat]

@@TheNarcAlert Thanks! I think a more accurate word to describe me is stubborn. I didn't let my shiny new disability stop me from doing the things I enjoyed like reading (braille was super fun to learn) and I'm sure as hell not going to let my narc moms BS define and restrict me for the rest of my life because quite frankly she doesn't deserve to be that influential in my life. She deserves to be a background character who I pay no mind to. I hope you are recovering from your narc as well!

[@TheNarcAlert]

@@BlindZubat Good for you..I truly think adversity builds character, as does learning to overcome a narc...I like to say my mom loves me, shes just really broken and doesnt know how to do it right. I am glad you found your peace!

[@Koda_Grey]

Hello from one blind person raised by a narcissistic mother to another. I’m open to talk about either topics anytime. It’s nice to not feel alone.

[@BlindZubat]

@@Koda_Grey Yo! You are absolutely not alone. I am very curious to hear about your experiance as the visually disabled child of a narc. Did your mom ever use your disability as a way to make herself look good or as a means to control you. Cuz i know mine sure did and I can imagine a whole bunch of ways a narc could use their kids disability as a supply for their ego.

[@ThePumpingiron27]

Oh I've been waiting for this! She was so full of herself during this stream and I was hoping you were going to cover it and here you are answering my prayers.

[@Ninja-ty4lw]

Thank you for these videos. They are eye-opening and I'm actually learning and seeing that Amberlynn shares some tendencies with a family member of mine. It is a relief to finally have some 'prove' of that and to not feel like I all imagined it.

[@rasaan2011]

Trying to avoid the narc "getting up on her hind legs" was a perfect description!

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Yes, especially since Amber weighs as much as a black bear.

[@haileemiller]

ALR can’t travel-let us remember the Lexington trip where they just stayed in bed the whole time and ordered food.

[@jwoolman5]

And taste tested candy. Don’t forget that. And remember when Amberlynn was so ticked that the delivered container of something she must have thought was ice cream was actually cookie dough? The name of the place was something like edible cookie dough or something obvious like that and it was all over their web site what it really was. I always figured it was really just a test run to see how food delivery worked in the Lexington area. Becky did not seem to be enjoying it. All sorts of interesting things to see in Lexington and she couldn’t go out, had to babysit Amberlynn.

[@haileemiller]

@@jwoolman5 I’m living for the last live they did where Becky said she wiped ambers butt 😂☠️😂

[@mazzyg6186]

She always says “it took them so long to see me they’re terrible doctors” when the reality is she wasn’t having an emergency and she went to the emergency room. The doctors dont have time for ambers arm feeling weird. She also seemed to have no problem sitting in an ER during a wave of the delta variant for someone who is so afraid of covid she can’t leave her own house. Unless she’s using that as an excuse in which case her saying Becky is the reason she doesnt travel is completely out of pocket

[@evirareid1500]

I worked in an er. It was too intense for me. You're seen by order of severity. Nothing was wrong with her so she say for a while.

[@deltasaves]

She should be happy she's not being seen Immediately, but only she's the one who "truly suffering" in this world. Not the stroke patient, or the couple who suddenly finds themselves with a possible preemie, or the kid who is allergic to bees who got stung and the epi pen only just saved their life. She better hope she'll have someone to call 911 when she really needs it and cant do it herself.

[@mazzyg6186]

@@deltasaves in her eyes she’s the victim and the doctors are incompetent. Other people aren’t on her radar enough for her to notice they’re priority. Amber is the only priority, Amber is special EmpathLynn

[@Twinkie989]

I wonder if she went to that ER, for something that was just routine and should have been handled by a regular doctor, because they aren't currently suing her.

[@Lily-bn4dc]

@@Twinkie989 I feel like she goes to the ER when she should probably be going to an urgent care or med express

[@blu_roan7899]

I can't believe how well-spoken Becky is. Never actually thought she had a voice "love that for her" gawd if you took a shot every time ALR says "love that" you'd need your stomach pumped.

[@delete_ur_life5914]

ALR talks like a teenager whose only personality is from TikTok

[@shaycat13]

Has she only been saying that recently? Cause I don't remember be ever saying "love that for ..." besides in more recent streams

[@jwoolman5]

@@shaycat13 - Amberlynn does have a history of imitating people she admires, so my guess is that she’s picking up these phrases from Wifey. To some extent, that’s pretty normal. We do pick up phrases and words from the people around us, that’s how language changes and spreads. She just seems to do it especially frequently.

[@blu_roan7899]

@@jwoolman5 my partner has a thick accent and my speech pattern has changed because of it! I hadn't thought of that!

[@jwoolman5]

@@blu_roan7899 - I met a woman who was a native Midwesterner (USA) but married a man from Africa. She had lived in his native country for at least 20 years at the time. Her Midwestern accent had been entirely replaced by her husband's African-British English accent.... A friend who taught Russian here said that Russians who were teaching the language in the US pretty quickly had their native language Americanized. He said the cadence was usually the part that vanished first. This is why language teachers and interpreters try to spend a significant amount of time at least every year or two in a country where their language is spoken. Otherwise their accent slips, even if it's their native language. I have never even visited the American South except a little in the DC area. But after a few years living in a town in the Midwest where the local accent has a Southern sound to it (we border a Southern state), my accent changed enough that a colleague who was a native Southerner, after talking with me on the phone, thought that I was one, too!

[@hopefrench4209]

Love your channel!! I think it’d be great to see the pluto live stream on Sunday but do whatever sounds fun to you!! 💕

[@george-qz9un]

If Becky started a Gofundme or whatever to get out of that house I would support asap. Amber is getting so extremely toxic and as someone who just went through a toxic relationship with someone like Amber and also still grieving the loss of a mother I cannot imagine still having to be in a situation like that for a couple of more months.

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

My sympathies 💖

[@kaos-h]

Does anyone else notice that when Amber is asked something specific about Wifey, she makes Beckster answer? This is why I’m coming to the belief that either there is no real wifey or something else is off. She’ll have plausible deniability when called on stuff later and say “I never said (specific)” That’s some low cunning right there!

[@kellylewisfischer181]

I think some of Becky's apprehension towards living in another state and traveling has gone due to her Mother's passing. It might be subconscious but her attachment has lifted some.

[@denisejustdenise]

• • • ALR INSPIRED RHYME • • • There once was a public breaking-up After the fight with no making-up Very interesting changes Revealed in their exchanges Must keep livestream viewing up.

[@deltasaves]

A former partner of mine would do a similar thing to Amber: always wanting to immediately talk about something right after it happened. He didn't like that I needed to walk away from a situation for a little bit. The only time I'm walking away from a conversation could happen is when he initiated the proposal first. Discussion on a topic could *only* occur on his terms. I'm not a fan of Becky, but I'm happy she is now staring to stand up to Amber. One day she's gonna look around her and find no one willing to help her, unless legally obligated to do so. She will have no friends or family to turn to soon. Same is happening to my former partner.

[@firstnamelastname6312]

Been waiting on this messy fun! 😊

[@sonotcute]

I'm only at 2 minutes and already enraged. When Amber is having another one of her toddler-style tantrums she is "going through something", "having a hard time", "being in a dark place" but when Becky has a bad day Amber calls her EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE. She is vile.

[@lacyjane1959]

I hate how Becky can't even talk about herself without Amber making it about herself or saying something like "Oh i just remembered..."

[@sony5029]

can we agree that “please don’t send any snark to our narc” would be fun because it rhymes? 🥳

[@chillout1738]

Love these videos so much, been waiting for someone to point out her narc traits and manipulation tactics shes been using. I think shes mirroring 'wifeys' personality and thats why she suddenly started saying "it is what it is" "love that" "im leaving this planet" so much and at times out of place in the convo. Please review the 'plato' livestream as Becky does speak truth and you can see narc rage peeking through Amber at points. She clearly tries to humiliate becky publicly in it as a way to stop her for speaking truth. Very interesting to see the mask slip live. Happy Becky is escaping her abuser and hopefully will seek therapy for it. She has a lot to be hopeful for once shes out of that prison apartment.

[@Smashley1]

YAAAASSS slay Becky! That is my favorite moment for her, like ever!

You have such a lovely voice and your points are so spot on! Sadly the more I watch your videos the more similarities I see in my sister…

[@TheNarcAlert]

I think we all share some of these tendencies, we arent all narcs..and imho its all born of insecurity..its tough being human sometimes :)

[@alos4025]

This whole video, I wanted to do was reach through the screen and shake AL until she gobbled. I can’t imagine that wipey doesn’t watch these. If she does, and continues to want to be AL’s new butt wiper, then she’s definitely a dumdum. Btw, almost 11k subscribers! I love that for you! 😉❤️

[@johnnyriche9636]

Wow, I'm early, I clicked right away, your videos are so interesting to watch

[@TheNarcAlert]

Yay! Thank you!

[@jessicachavez6774]

Great job on these videos, seriously. Very high quality

[@slinkywhippet]

So sending someone a link to "Better Help" is the ultimate form caring - good to know!

[@kourtenayt1927]

Forget the person who sits with you 7 hours in the ER right...

[@slinkywhippet]

@@kourtenayt1927 IKR!!

[@bossyspaghetti]

At 5:34 when she says "yeah, out of respeehct" it sounds so incredibly cruel towards Becky... and then she brings it back to herself with a "plus I didn't feel like it." She couldn't even resist the urge to make an excuse about herself!

[@samoz6865]

Amber is high on self-worship, like always! Someone should hold up her fupa, so she can go down on herself more. In her most recent stream, it's apparent that she's the only one stunning and brave and willing to do so.

[@Leeanda246]

😂😂😂😂

[@magdlynstrouble2036]

Hahaha