The Narcissist Family KNOWS (YES THEY DO)

[@uyoebyik]

The family members are often narcissists too. A non narcissist in the family will be scapegoated

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree they need agreeable people… who will support and remain silent

[@readysince1963]

Yip….took me years to figure out but yes 👍

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Thank you Frida

[@onelife7247]

Yup! 😞 Thank God for the objective perspective of outsiders who could see what was happening

[@sebelzahntigerkind3923]

Yes, maybe lower grade Narcissists than the one in question, but still ones too, or at least ENABLERS of the Narcs. Empaths/HSPs will always be scapegoated by the whole lot.

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

I see them whispering together,then total silence when I appear.

[@yvonnevaldez5817]

The family is dysfunctional. First red flag I ignored 😒

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

There are so many red flags 🚩 in the relationship.. looking back we see these clearly.. in the beginning we refused to acknowledge them 🥲

[@newandoldtech5634]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone We, and by we I primarily mean I, had a bias that all people were like me. And had standards, trying to do good, seeing to the greater good. And they use the phrase The Greater Good in a way one would never expect. Just like The Lesser Of Two Evil. Never working to make things better.

[@Scorpscorpdorp]

Me too. Even worse, his dad is the biggest Narc and was friends with my dad we met as children, my N Ex and I before meeting again as adults. Major chaos, it took moving far away to get away and stay safe definitely. Flying monkeys of that circus still trying to abuse or hoover by proxy its sickening.

[@yvonnevaldez5817]

@@Scorpscorpdorp I knew him when I was younger too. His father worked with my mother.

[@trudymitchell804]

Hmmm they agree with them. And I think their fooled into believing the lies. They don't know what's wrong just like us it's because their ignorant and not educated on subject

[@darcybarwick3766]

Yep they know and they sit back in silence whilst someone’s life is about to be destroyed, bunch of cowards

[@lewhellickson3130]

They know, but enable and protect because of the status of the family cult. They are well aware of the cycle with a secret eye roll 🙄

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree.. I see it the same way 🙌

[@lizelli66]

YES!!!!!!

[@carlosgarza1701]

Definitely

[@loopyloo788]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Got to disagree on this one. I have had to completely block my adult son because of the vile, cruel way he’s treats people. I could not stand back and watch him ruin life after life without a second thought. It breaks my heart so much but I no longer have a choice if I want to remain a sane, healthy human being. Believe me we’ve tried but his repetitive cruelty, greed and selfish ways are not the way I want to live my life. The pain is unbearable every day.

[@doc5536]

I have to disagree on this one too. The narc was my brother and I was his supply (until recently going NC). I never understood it and was spinning for years trying to make sense of it. My family saw it every holiday (and more)...and we discussed it, but didn't have any answers. We thought it was mental illness... I tried to help his ex to manage it and get him professional help to no avail. So while I understand that sometimes this in en-grained in the family, you can't paint every family with the same brush. I didn't know...but I wish I had known. I would have gone NC a long time ago.

[@Itsher-jh7xx]

Their family will know how dirty they’re doing you, and try to use you too because they think you’re a sucker. All smiles in your face; clowning you behind your back. Narcs and their family are snakes.

[@zulemaflores1234]

Yes, the narcissist family is aware that the narcissist is indeed a narcissist. The sad part is that they did not tell us, and they would never mentioned this to us! The narcissist family is also a pack of wolves, the whole family is a narcissist; preying on an innocent sheep.

[@gladiammgtow4092]

💯

[@brianb7869]

Tragedy is not just a song by the BeeGees, who I found out at the tender age of forty were, indeed, English, not from New York as I had assumed.

[@ellasoes8325]

@@brianb7869 Not English. Australian. Brothers Gibb .

[@brianb7869]

@@ellasoes8325 thank you. I assumed they were English since they both talked and looked funny. noted and gratefully corrected.

[@michelledanelle]

This is why I educate my children and tell them straight up whats going on

[@ireneugeba5282]

My dad was with narcissistic woman, my mother, from a narcissistic family and their friends. He was totally destroyed and killed age 44. I was 16 when dad passed away. They set me up created a huge smear campaign against me and absolutely destroyed my life at age 19. I am 45 and am still recovering. It was very very tough; I had a legion of enemies disguised as family and friends against me. God rescued me, saved me and renewed my body. I have a very powerful testimony. This topic is real, its spiritual and demonic.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@marcellamiller7808]

Yes it’s evil and demonic . Ppl who destroy ppl and set out to hurt ppl on purpose are wicked!

[@brendawashburn6261]

I agree that it feels criminal and family are accomplices. This has been awful and almost feel like I was deliberately targeted. No justice other than moving on! Shame!!

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

The little games they play that add up over time will put you in a bad mind space. These are terrible people who are not mentally healthy. To manipulate and torture someone like narcs do should be a crime.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏..

[@amazingjane2703]

It is a crime. It is time it was accepted as such. However, many lawyers are narcissists too. They stick together consciously or unconsciously. They are the same 'person'.

[@LiebeXHaine]

going through it as we speak. will be fine, going about my day, feeling good and then randomly will hear or see something that triggers a memory and then i think about the conversation over again, or the random thing said and im like....I SEE NOW.....its torture. sometimes it even wakes me up from my sleep. which...is what happened just now, its 3am and woke up from a nightmare of him and couldnt fall back asleep so here i am watching these videos trying to ease my mind.

[@deb2319]

Look at our governements- their mentality is criminal.

[@antoniarivers7636]

Indeed, we'll never know the number of people that lost their lives to a "Silent Suicide" behind the mental, emotional abuse, and possibly physical as well. By these sick individuals lurking the planet, undiagnosable predators in pursuit with full impunity.

[@Plumduff3303]

That was my family..was horrible...as a child i was sent to my room for days with no food because of my crime...the crime was squeezing the toothpaste wrong. Welcome to the sick world of having narcissist parents

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💜

[@lrx54]

The family members are thick as thieves. They know and they watch you being targeted and will sacrifice you every gathering, to achieve their goals. In my case to keep up appearances as a ‘perfect family’. They showered me with love in the beginning, but it was all a lie. The day I filed for divorce was the last day any of them would speak to me. Very, very hurtful memory, for sure 😔

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@rosered3919]

They know. It runs in families. There are many red flags when you first meeting their families.

[@Joshdifferent]

💯💯💯

[@freeradical1567]

For me, I saw it in her family’s facial expressions and in their eyes. I saw their expressions as strange at the time and I forever kept wondering what those faces were trying to express, to ascertain. It seems as though their faces were asking me, “Do you know?” Their expressions forever haunted me… until now… 19 years later! Andrew, it’s been a long and winding and terrible road I have been on. Thank you for being transparent and willing to pass along the wisdom and the knowledge.

[@brit0309]

They’re most likely narcissists as well. Those looks and that feeling..is the total lack of The Spirit. Feels so crazy because it is so sudden. That’s how shitty narcissus are, The Spirit can’t leave quick enough. In my experience, this is due to their un-Christlike thoughts and feelings toward you. They are like anti-Christs. That’s why they feel so terribly. All imo ❤

[@christinagipperich2780]

In my case, the narcissist’s family were absolutely aware of his mindset. They created it, they encouraged it, and worst of all they supported his discard of me because I wouldn’t accept the dynamic. I’ve watched that family go through so many friends over the years because the friends no longer served their purpose. On at least two occasions family friends directly asked us if they did something wrong because the narc’s family ghosted them. Looking back, I see it so clearly now. My narcissist was raised to be just that. If he was ever going to win his parents approval he had to be just like them. I tried to show him another way but that only made it worse because it helped him justify his discard of me. Family of origin issues are a goldmine when we talk about narcissism. There’s just so much to be considered!

[@RiriLove88]

I can relate to this so much.

[@kathrynbarnes4256]

👏👏👏🌳🌳🌳🌳👏👏👏👏👏

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

Yes I tried to show her "another\better" way,which was totally rejected,as there is nothing wrong in the way they are,as they see it.

[@beckymusgrove4784]

Exactly! I found out from my ex’s daughter that his sister “encouraged” him to break up with/discard me. All the while, she’s acting nice to my face. I came in and disturbed the family dynamic and pushed back against the enmeshment and dysfunction, so I became the enemy. It’s truly sickening. All they care about is preserving the image of a caring Christian family when they are anything but that-they talk about each other behind their backs and everyone outside of the family is always the problem. The enabling and lack of accountability is staggering-they are all a part of the system of abuse.

[@christinagipperich2780]

@@beckymusgrove4784 Yep! I think I was simply tolerated by the in-laws for our entire relationship. I’m wondering if I’m in for a Hoover attempt when one or both of his parents die. I suspect he’ll have an awakening once they aren’t around and he realizes he doesn’t have to seek their approval anymore.

[@TheAmazingRandy]

Like the crazy aunt in the attic, there are family members that know something is rotten in Denmark. The day before I married a covert narcissist, her 13 year old brother came to me and said, "You seem like a good guy, but my sister is playing you. She's more trouble than you can imagine."

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙌

[@blessed162]

😮

[@paulwisdom1090]

What the actually heck???!!! I would've ran for the hills!!! That's crazy, insane man smh

[@slobo5568]

My ex has BPD.. Her family loved/loves me and completely understood why i had to cut ties.. They ultimately have her back at the end of the day obviously. But they respect the effort I tried to put in.. They made it very clear that they appreciate me and wish me nothing but the best... They KNOW how she is and that shes untreated.. Do they know what "it" is? I dont believe so. But I do.

[@BeautifulJoy54321]

My in-laws never cared for me. I always knew because I was born with discernment. They never respected me. I felt like I was in a minni cult dealing with my in-laws. My husband wanted to spend every weekend for years at my in-laws. He never took me on dates or took us on family vacations. His idea of fun was watching television for hours or watching movies for hours or being on his phone for hours. If we ever missed a weekend my inlaws would get mad 😡 and question our whereabouts. They always treated us like children even to this day and I will be 45 years old this year. I was 15 when I meet my husband but it took me by the grace of God to get out after 27 years. My husband and in-laws were so draining and very toxic. After a while even my son's told me verbally they didn't like going over to their grandparents house anymore. Thank God I made it out in my right mind it was really taking a toll on my mental health and my physical health.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this..🙏💯😌

[@atirliag2833]

He triangulated me with his sister, and she knew, by her uncomfortable words and tone, I didnt know it until now. I believe the family know. The sister spoke to him in a greyrock style sometimes.

[@lorrainehutter6677]

My ex's mother blamed all his troubles as an adult on an undiagnosed learning disability.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤔😉💯

[@BarkingForBroccoliBG]

I used to think "why didn't they warn me? " But I realized I would not have listened anyway

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯

[@Linky100]

Yes, afterwards the family admitted they had known but: "you are such a nice lady, we thought he would change." What?!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@JacOnMac]

The hardest part is looking back I know now his family and friends absolutely knew about all the other supply UGHHHH … I think about dinners over their house they were absolutely lying and covering his stories for him … it was like masterpiece dinner theater they all had to be acting out of fear that the narc would terrorize them too if they didn’t play along … TERRIBLE TIMES GLAD IT’S OVER 🙏🏽

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes the family does know and they hide the secret from us unsuspecting people.

[@michelledanelle]

This is why. I am distanced from my family now.

[@yaseminureorion]

This is so true. My father is a narcissist and for many years he held the financial power in his hands. I am the second and last child in our family and my elder sister was always the first victim, after my mother... My sister argued, fought and tried to stay normal... But the fights were horrible and tense. We were talking about our narcissist among us, but never told him the truth about his narcissism - only when we fought a harsh fight with him, while crying in despair - . I added the detail of being the second kid in family because I tried to avoid all these confrontations with my father. Because I witnessed all the fights and heard all the horrible devaluating words all those years... And I think as a survival instinct, I developed a calmer attitude to everyone and especially to the narcissist of family. Narcissist harms everyone in every different way. They always create sad memories and a sad feeling along the years... Just wanted to share. Thank you for this honest and important video.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your beautiful message and support. I am grateful to be able to help share my experiences and knowledge. 🙏🙌 Thank you 🙏

[@readysince1963]

You’ve got this …. That’s amazing .

[@yaseminureorion]

@@readysince1963 thank you

[@yaseminureorion]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you

[@kastelletskole]

Hear, hear! Yes, of course, of course! A narcissist displays his/her true face within the family. In society, they want to shine bright like a diamond. 💎 This was a very good one. 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏💯😊

[@jackiecoare7199]

Yes. My ex narc wa strong Tunisia and he moved to the UK so we could be together. Of course he wanted to escape a poor country. He used supporting his parents as an excuse not to pay a penny towards the household bills. It turned out he hardly helped them at all and both his brothers were not taking to him at the time of our split. They knew something of his true character. I was always the one who had to buy or send the presents. He always pleaded poverty or bought a few cheap things. He had an agenda from day one to rinse me financially and did very well for 10 years. Thank God he pushed me too far and I am out now.

[@newandoldtech5634]

Of course they knew. They said things that in hindsight made it perfecly clear that the acted in opposition to my inetrests. And they were unable to talk about certain topics. That was openly stated early on. Red flag, beware of people who limit the number of topics allowed.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great reply thank you.. i🙌🙏

[@sandys2672]

So true! That sign is one of the most important red flags.

[@jayjo77144]

Narc knows exactly what their doing Hurting people unfortunately

[@nanam9179]

Yes. They know, and usually all of them are narcisist and good actors and actresses. All are liars and fakers.

[@tylerjablonski2491]

Holy shnikes…this describes my persons family to a T. After I had my awakening I have refused to go to the narc mothers house. I do not even speak to her. All the lies and manipulation, they can have their own freak show without me!

[@LN-jr6nj]

In my experience they know, enable, encourage and facilitate the abuse. Its hard to accept but true.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯

[@jwilkens5710]

just found this older posting... when i broke up with the narcissist, after 14 years, one of his daughters actually said... I don't know how you stayed with him as long as you did. I was a bit shocked. But it was very confirming to hear that of course and made me realize even more I had made the right decision. That was before I was educated on what a narcissist was. I am now educated.

[@stuartwigmore3738]

My own opinion is that it's generational. It's learned behaviour and it has to have been learned somewhere. My wife has the most odious self absorbed narc mother. A great teacher.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I agree with this.. my ex mother in law is a narcissist and my ex wife of course is one.. hoping this doesn’t get passed down to the next generation

[@kristinej.4182]

That’s a great point, Stuart. 👍🏻

[@kristinej.4182]

Now that I think about it, my ex narc’s father was a narcissist. He was not liked by his own parents and his siblings. He was termed an outcast by his whole family due to his behavior. I bet my ex narc got it from his father. It’s too creepy as I unravel all the dark secrets of his family.

[@sdshawn798]

Learned behavior and family demons being passed down from generation to generation

[@lesliesmart4595]

Yess! This is so true. I had to detach myself from it. Always some drama, secret, and lies. Their enablers of the foolishness!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Leslie.. I experienced this also. 🙌🙏

[@riahorvat5207]

So true , they were happy I let him into my family. Their secret was covered. It was a strange family, all weird in their head. Secretive, there was something I could not put my finger on. The ex was the crazy uncle. I am happy to be out of this circus. A full time job for a psyciatrist ....

[@dr.cynthiabroughton1240]

I figured they knew, and you're right, nobody wants to be the target of the bully! Thank you, Andrew. NAMASTE

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌🙏❤️

[@shahadah1451]

My ex-husband's sister said one year into our marriage that she expected our marriage would last no longer than two years. I was surprised and mystified at the time, wondering what she could possibly mean! Now I see that she meant he is a narcissist and was not sincere. She also remonstrated with me when I overgave during the marriage. They didn't ever really love and accept me, but they watched while he used me up.

[@maryw4609]

Little den of lies the narcissist orchestrates the show only he is privy To everything going on plans other people’s problems they just don’t share and your right if you confront them you will be verbally attacked and if there are multiple narcissist they will double down on you it emotionally is paralyzing I usually get very very quiet or silent to pull myself back together Hope you talk about emotional loading when they barrage you with their worries anger resentment blasted verbally and cut you off from expressing yourself

[@maryw4609]

The hardest part if you don’t play the game they’ll cut you off from the kids or grandkids they control everything everything is centered around them it’s not what the kids want I often see them rolling eyes or in near tears when their narcissist parent is denying them a simple pleasure there is no rhyme or reason no logic to their decisions 😢😢

[@maryw4609]

The BIG secrete is out The kids know …. We all know…

[@amyt7378]

The narc actually said to me in a moment of weakness “All I know and my family knows is divide and conquer.”

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💯

[@FirehorseG]

Yes, they know. But they all play along. Weirdly enough, their family is made up of equal Narcs and empaths. It's the empaths who keep giving the Narcs the fuel. Secrets, enabling, all top show to strangers, manipulation, mind games. It's taken me 5 years to realise this.

[@Christynmaine]

My former mother in law told me she dropped my ex when he was a baby and that’s why he behaves the way he does.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😌💯

[@maryannecomment3302]

People, who are with a narcisist are forced to have narcisistic behavior towards other people as well. They cannot go against a narcisist, because that is a dead end en never will work. When the narcisist leaves and they are on their own, this behavior disappears. The narcisist is not able to change, but the people around him/her who tend to copy his/her behavior, can change.

[@melinatedvessel6840]

So very true! You are correct in them not wanting to being the next victim.We know it's that way,because what us narcissism...believing you are and wanting to be in control...in all aspects and environments...The narc feels really powerful knowing that everyone is playing their GAME...That they have this ability to affect every one else mood and personality....These people are sick and dangerous....

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Extremely well said. Thank you 😊

[@billdux3271]

I found it so odd that when I met my covert lady friend that she was never allowed to any family get togethers. None! Not Christmas, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Birthdays. She blamed it on her son’s wife, and she was also was never allowed to babysit their daughter alone. I am pretty sure now that I know now why.

[@Sharons_Garden]

Sometimes the family just wants to off-load them on to you, in my experience

[@winnie879]

My ex narc’s family warned me, I don’t think they know he’s a narc but they know something is wrong with him. So they warned me about his controlling behaviors, strange behaviors and actions-and would even call him out and defend me. I was lucky and got out after a year. Folks, when the family warns you, get out! The grass is greener on the other side!

[@purplehorsemanners]

Thank you! I was/am very hurt that my ex-narc’s family did not reach out to me after we broke up but this helps explain why. Also, one of the red flags that I ignored were odd little comments and behaviors by his family that make sense now that I know who/what he really is.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Shawn this same thing happened to me.. once the relationship was over.. radio silence from my in law’s.. the people who I took on vacations every year and had at my house weekly for gatherings. Ice cold people

[@BlueJeansandJellyBeans]

Same thing with me with the narc for a little over a year and not one member of a fairly large family reached out at all. Even those I thought liked me....crickets! Thank God I am out!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

@@BlueJeansandJellyBeans same thing with me.. after 6 years

[@sandys2672]

Thats because you were smeared after you left.

[@deniseclarke8580]

So true. My ex narcissist family kept their distance from him, they never wanted him to stay in their homes for long. When he occasionally visited them they would tell him how great he was but were always wanting him to leave. His father actually thanked me for looking after him, I was a little shocked as I thought I had a relationship with him and wasn't a care worker 😅

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌

[@dirtnibMike]

I agree 💯, the direct family never said anything about my ex narc wife it to me but the distant cousins would mention things like " I hope your able to hang in there when the games start, your a good person." Or "If you want to cheat, I won't tell." I didn't think much of it then being much Younger than I am now. As time has passed, I understand what happened to me for just shy of a decade. If only I had the knowledge of this years ago. Thank you for providing quality information.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏.. most of us learn about the narcissist after the fact. It is my goal to educate people as early as possible on this issue. ♥️🙏🙌

[@sinceresong9907]

My ex partners family dropped hints

[@matilda4406]

like "high school secrets" yes, like immature little brats. The narc does manipulate people in many different ways. "always some sort of secretive drama", a den of lies, yes!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉😉

[@sajor1847]

When he would talk to his mother every week or 2 I thought they were having a close mother son relationship. He slipped once and told me how uncomfortable he was whenever he would have to talk to her. I was so shocked cause he had me believing they were close. All lies!

[@Diana-ss9bo]

Also... the major enablers! Be safe, well & happy

[@elizabethflorez2372]

I do now. I’ve always known something wasn’t right . I have always seen patterns . The control & manipulative ways . Hurtful words . So much more negative drama , shift blaming . So much. 😢But I just took it all .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@inekedubbeldam5164]

I have never seen my ex husband's fam.again.that is a closed chapter.i do know that his mother was also a narssecist.she had 8 children and she loved only 3 off them.how sad is that.namaste

[@RichD2024]

My narc ex, when we went to visit her family in Houston got into a discussion about her cousin's husband. He would take these mysterious trips to Central America to "visit his family" but wouldn't take his wife with him. My narc ex chimed in with "that's not right something is going on" and her aunt replied to her with "you're one to talk, you have your issues too", and the room got silent. My narc ex demeanor changed for the rest of the night after that comment. They knew. Maybe not the clinical term, but they knew she had issues.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 😉😉💯

[@meredithyoung9200]

This is so true. I think back to all the family members who would stare at me like “watch out”

[@SavedbyGrace19]

They always say don't say anything..enablers

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Enablers is right.. so frustrating and manipulative 🥲

[@montzerattejones3823]

My exes family was composed of either Narcissists or their shriveled up, defeated supply with no will to resist. It was amazing how fast they wrote me and my children off when I stood up and refused her abuse anymore.. I will never open myself to people and their families again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

They always told me: dont mind him🙄

[@lindagodwin3680]

Yes, the family knew 😢

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@Mark-gv4xv]

I had the exact same experience . Her close relatives were telling me things about her when she was in another room etc. I wish I had listened it cost me thousands . Thanks Andrew for your guidance 😊

[@deb2319]

First time i met the family, the sis in law- awkwardly hugged me for a long tight hug- i knew that was a direct message. Peace All.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@susanweaver6946]

I understand what you mean. once the fog lifts you can clearly see the destructive things the narcissist done.

[@kitsmith693]

I’ve been ostracized for over five years once, for protecting my child from family violence. I am ostracized again for objecting to my brothers violence towards me. I made it official by blocking this time. They know they’re abusive or there wouldn’t be a code of secrecy.

[@lacygilman6191]

Only recently have I come to the realization that my oldest son (62) is a narcissist. I am 78 and I'm sure you know all that I have been subjected to by him. Cry a river. Thousands of dollars in loans or through decent never an effort to repay. Always hoping he would change and wow, sometimes I would get hooked all over again. Andrew, thank you for your valuable videos. My daughter in law, is married to him and she is watching your videos. She is the one who suggested I watch you. May you be blessed and your videos reach those in need. Love, Lacy

[@amna7936]

YES YES YES the family is quiet for financial purposes.

[@mariebonet8521]

Yes. I believe so. I believe they enable them and their behavior.

[@charmee4045]

So true, I would go to a family function and depending on what lies the narcissist was telling them currently, they were either like deer in the headlights or all over me. It was an eerie feeling. They spent alot of their time and effort trying to sort out, manage, solve the narcissists problems. They were war weary from it. They would give each other knowing looks. When in a crowd with their friends, they always made offhand comments, like "probably won't be seeing you again" etc. They knew what I didn't, that it wasn't a forever thing....... Sometimes I thought I was in a play where everyone had a copy of the script but me. Freaky.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@wisdaniel]

Narcissist sister. Figured it out in my late 20's. Now the rage, the thin skin, the hatred for individuals both family and non-family, it made sense once I figured it out and got educated. Honestly she is not the only one. There are a few in the family, and a few empaths like myself.

[@earthling8585]

I reached out directly. These was no response. That explains everything.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@willowclay5406]

The truth always shines bright in the light of God!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌☀️🙏

[@lesleyewen-foster3629]

My mother-in-law-to- be told me that her son tended to be selfish, a little like calling a tsunami a bit of a high tide. In a way it felt like I had known him my whole life because I was very good at spotting and avoiding a lot of those land mines. Gradually I realized that being with both my husband and my mother was intolerable. They would both struggle for control of ME. Neither of them gave a damn about what that did to me. Slowly it dawned on me that I was raised by a narcissist (although I didn't know that term) and then I had married one. That's why it seemed I had known him my whole life. Sadly, I signed him into the USA (from England) which made me responsible for his finances. No escape, unless he became a citizen or committed a felony. And guess what!!, my dad had signed my mother into the USA from England too. Dad was a good guy, good career, laughed a lot and he ended up dying at age 48. Mom, with NO empathy at all, informed me that he was MY father and I would have to handle the funeral arrangements. Losing him broke my heart. Many years later, when my mother died, I didn't shed a tear. What I felt was relief. I think my brother married a narcissist too. Does this often happen in families?

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌😌🙏

[@mytinyvictories]

This fully resonates with my experience…I’m forty one years old and my eyes are just now opening to the spiritual warfare that goes on in the the world. My goodness.

[@marcellamiller7808]

Mine opened at 30 . It’s wild!!

[@seameology]

Yes! Nex supports his whole family now. And, started businesses for our kids. They're no contact with me for aa couple decades!

[@TheSeekeroftruth1]

I was lured in by the promise that his large extended Italian family would love me, the opposite was true. His adult children from his first marriage never said a word, they were afraid of him, despite not really having anything to do with him much, they still have that child parent bond they protected. They thought things would be different with me, apparently, but they never told me anything. We had to live with his mother for 5 months, which was hell, and made me a nervous wreck and which took 4 months to recover. It ended up with her not having contact with us and our child for several years, but I was eventually convinced by my narc that she had changed and to have communication with her again, after all she was a little old lady. Now I am in the discard stage and am being smear campaigned at every opportunity, lies upon lies, I had the chance to try to speak with her over the phone, but there was no sign of any sweet little old lady on the other end, her tone of voice was acid and vile, it was like she would support whatever her son did and wanted nothing to do with me. I realised there and then that she was a narc too, I never knew in the beginning, just that there was something antagonistic about her. All of his family are cold, Im glad Im out.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏😉💯

[@freeindeed5393]

Oh for sure they know! Her mom tried to warn me in a subtle way! She said “I can’t count how many times I have had to help her move”. I still remember the look that her brother gave me when we met…it was kind of a smirk, like “you have no idea what is about to happen to you!” Narc families are so co-dependent and jacked up! My family is still like that.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯😉

[@valeriebonnier830]

I call it the sick circle.

[@ryannorman8898]

I’m a grown man and I’m still confused about this issue. I always thought it was my fault that I was looked down on, and to a certain extent it was. But once I got away from all of it my mind cleared up.

[@patricialongo5870]

Yes, we always knew but I'm the only one who said something. I'm out! Dumped permanently by the happy crew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

You are amazing and blessed 🙏🙌💯

[@stephaniedriscoll4067]

My God our experience of their family is identical! It makes me sick

[@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel]

Andrew...this came up on my feed. You look so much different today. Stronger .....healed. God bless you

[@km_6181]

His cousin once said “he’s fighting his own demons”

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Very telling..😉💯😳

[@Cowgirlkate]

So raw, and so real. I can honestly say, I can relate. I married into an oriental family and I didn’t speak the language, but I could feel (empath I am) everything. My brother in law told me through his limited English, that he didn’t want me to tell his brother that he and his bride to be were pregnant. I was so happy for them, but my BIL said, “my brother will get very angry.” I sat there stunned and almost in disbelief. Fast forward 23 years later, and I now totally understand what he was talking about. There was so much I didn’t know about my husband, and the mask finally came off in 2011 after his mother died. He said to me, “now I can be myself” I was shocked, and wondered who the person was that I married. Well, he’s a full blown narcissist, and it’s scary, but I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s over over over. When he confessed that he broke his moms ribs by pushing her, I lost complete respect for him. Time to get the plan solidified and move on down the road. Thanks for all your heart and support, brother Andrew. Namaste 🙏

[@maxwellking3326]

Seriously fundamental Andrew!!

[@grizzleegurr7421]

Andrew, I could go further in with this topic, also, and I will. I've been with narc since '90. Only twice have I/we had family gatherings. All those times were eggshell moments. I thought that maybe it was my breath!!! lololol

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💜🙏😌

[@mattlyons6134]

Yes! This happened to me exactly as you said. I was a fool and trusted people in her family that they had my best interest at heart. They played me. I gave up so much that I could have fought for, but they convinced me that it wasn't necessary. Ten years later and I am just being woken by you Andrew. Thank you and God bless!

[@riahorvat5207]

Thank you Andrew for this video. 🙏 You say what I always thought about the N's family I was in. As if they had a secret. Protecting him. Being in this family for such a long time but not really being in. Not really accepted. And he was the weird uncle. The outcast. Not treated as an adult. They had no direct contact with him. As if they were avoiding him. But they were so happy with me they said. I never noticed this happines. Not towards me. I have 2 daughters, they never knew their names!! Strange!! I think I took care of their problem. Hided their secret. When I stopped the relationship with N, they said I imagined Narcisism. It was something I picked up from face book. I blocked them as well. They kept on greeting me when I saw them in my village. Like a happy family. So weird...

[@seameology]

We were young parents. Our baby needed to be rushed to the hospital. An ambulance was never an option where we lived. So, my father in law rushed me and the baby. He knew his son wouldn't do it.

[@bettinacarol1301]

Oh yes, the family & the best friends always knew about it. His sister f.ex. told/warned me: ...you know he is not the marrying kind.. nope. One of his bestest friends told me:...he is not treating you right.. The wife of one of his old school friends was the only one, who dared to kinda say straight out whats up & I was told she is depressed & nuts.. why did we not listen to the words? The red flags were there all along. The family is scared of the narcissist & they often also depend on his wallet. Dirty games. Let"s not play them anymore. Thxs Andrew💫

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯💯😉🙌

[@zmi5717]

Sad truth and im trying for the narcissist to change their mind😢happy day my friend ❤some family are more worse then others and if you have a great, loving kind family hold them close

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😌

[@shadvaira3231]

They knew and they hid it from me. They would joke about it in front of me calling “it” the big family secret, but not tell me what it was. Took many years to figure it out.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💡💡💯😌

[@RogueMamaStitcher1]

I kind of get the feeling that my own mother's family is very narcissistic, but she seems like the main narcissist they're all afraid of.

[@jeffreyexposito3803]

At least one parent usually the mother is also a narcassist.

[@suzannedaoust7687]

Yes family members know! I received confirmation from one of my spouse's siblings that said even his mother knew there was something not right in his childhood...had issues ....and demonstrated cruelty towards them.

[@stellawilliams9303]

Yes, the memories come back, it's a real wake up call

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy 💯🙌☀️

[@susanagutierrez5925]

Aaaaaah! The same over here! They play his game because as long as they do, they get to enjoy his house in Orlando, money, and other commodities. They also serve as flying monkeys! They all know!

[@JerneyMarisha]

Yes, his stepdad expressed his concerns to me on several occasions. He didn’t use the term narcissist but he was worried that I would take my own life and how maybe I would be better off alone. At the time I didn’t understand why he would think that I would be wt risk of committing suicide, but now I know why he would separate me from the others to have these little talks. Even his mom tried to support me, saying: “I love my son but I know him”. This was all before I even knew what a narcissist is.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏💯🙌

[@marcellamiller7808]

When the mother warns you …RUNNN! I learned this the hard way .

[@michelleleebento1888]

Omg..I couldn't help but laugh..but yes my ex narc.sister would say 'oh....( his name) what's in it for him.' Now I understand like you said...even the sister knew it's all about him

[@rolandberendonck3900]

My God Andrew I can still see and feel the condition you're in here and this was just one year ago. I am so glad for you that you are doing so much better now 😊 However I can also see how courageous you are that you are making this video despite of all these feelings and the condition you are in here and you keep going forward here. Well done! 💯🙏😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯😉

[@pamcole8949]

This is the absolute truth...no one wants to be the next victim!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😉