The Narcissist's Karma: 7 Things They'll Never Have (But You Do)

[@CommonEgo]

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[@beverleyjoyce3299]

This is the best explanation of a narcissistic I have ever heard, how can I save this video?

[@MegaRockstar48]

I’d love to talk to you about my experience. My narcissistic ex would fill a whole book with how she behaves

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

What is the next video that you’re referring to?

[@garryleach-lq2xc]

That was authentic

[@flightydancer]

One thing a narcissist will never have is my respect and admiration. They will never have their words believed or their dreams fulfilled because it's all fake, so matter how convincing they look.

[@ShaisTime]

So so sooo true !! I agree ‼️💯

[@damienwelch9067]

True 👍

[@jodizellmer994]

Well said!

[@ickypop9255]

I believed my gf when I met her and so does her new partner

[@caroltriana7645]

I agree with you so much

[@chrisfromcanada2818]

Saddest thing is Narcissist will never, ever find Love or even feel it. You have to be able to give it, to receive it. They can do neither.

[@nathanhansen9134]

im sorry your wrong they have a great love buirt its for themselves dont knock what makes them happy verses what makes you happy, empathy is a comfort emotion not a essential one

[@damienwelch9067]

Sad truth 😢

[@cabot100]

@@nathanhansen9134 Are you a narcissist? A narcissist does not love themself.

[@leveticus1461]

​@@nathanhansen9134keep coping with your lies 😂

[@dinab7852]

EXACTLY

[@geminhighpriestess222]

Narcissists will also never have a sense of self & are incredibly insecure at the end of the day. They try to become & mirror the people they date before they start devaluing you down to pet names & clothes. That’s why they choose who they choose. I’ve dated plenty of them & they always try to become me, even trying to match how I dress & everything else I do in life then the abuse comes right after. I’ve been single for four years by choice because of all of this & I finally have peace

[@CedrickBagley]

For 12yrs I was on that hamster wheel. I was constantly in debt, and constantly sick. A year after our divorce I own my own business. I've lost 80 pounds, and I no longer in poor health. And all I had to do is get off the hamster wheel.

[@funkycoldmedina1207]

You motivate me. 17 yrs on my hamster wheel. Discarded 1yr ago. Still picking up the pieces of myself I lost while on the wheel for so long....one day I will write a post similar to yours.....I hope it continues to get better each day for you

[@nathanhansen9134]

did she make you broke and sick?

[@CedrickBagley]

@@nathanhansen9134 Nate, absolutely. I had high blood pressure, diabetes, and other issues that I didn't have before I met her. And don't have now. I also had about $50,000 in the bank when I met her. When we divorced I was in $6000 debt. When I met her, she was driving a 10yr silver Dodge Caravan. When we divorced, she was driving a new silver Lexus. While I was driving a 20yr old Buick.

[@CedrickBagley]

@@funkycoldmedina1207 sounds like we got divorced about the same time. May 5th will be a year for me

[@nathanhansen9134]

@@CedrickBagley touché your right in the situation I’m sorry you got taken advantage of I just to assumptions thank you for responding so tactfully take care of yourself and I’m proud of your actions

[@proanimaluver6487]

A Narcy will NEVER have peace

[@sarahsj8109]

Narcy 😂

[@maxinehurley8824]

Never indeed😆

[@yuu_miran]

And they are not able to realize why probably. Truly a curse.

[@christopherhilliard3681]

Great answers for Hoover text . You where right this break was a great idea thank you . For last text I wish you the best in life full of happiness peace love and empathy. Lol things they will never have . Be the best you for yourself and make an amazing life for yourself take whatever you can from the relationship as a learning experience and do better

[@vanillakiss8701]

Integrity, peace of mind, happiness and empathy

[@fairygurl9269]

Truly Attractive Qualities ☝️😎

[@truthh8597]

7 Things a Narcissist will never have- 1) true genuine relationship 2) empathy 3) healthy vulnerability 4) self reflection 5) authenticity 6) genuine happiness 7)

[@lauradelregno99]

#7 the will never have peace.

[@selinaogorman8380]

They exactly will never have any of these including peace and never will never have a real healthy life because there always in chaos.

[@nicselectronics81]

A personality, morals, love, understanding, truth, communication, endless list.

[@bibbedyboo3532]

Personality is the worst of all I think. Imagine having to imitate others at all times.

[@nicselectronics81]

@@bibbedyboo3532 I did for a time, had to study people because everything I learned was from a fabricated individual.

[@eastcoastgirl3770]

yay...at least they are getting some kind of payback because they are terrible people to deal with...love your channel by the way🙂

[@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw]

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. What she will never have is another kind, selfless and loving me.

[@izawaniek2568]

It is no fun to be a narcisist or be with a narcisist. You have described it really well! Thank you❤

[@ChristiColonel]

Insight is a blessing.

[@Danielle-r5g]

When I realized I was with a narsasist I started seeing what he did. He lied and I knew it. I ended the relationship.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Yes, thank you for breaking down these very confusing traits in simple terms. As a young young child I was so confused. The relationships with my family members who display NPD traits were full of contrast and needless orchestrated conflicts. I realized that my motivation and someone with NPD traits did not match. Example, I was looking for reciprocal conversation, what I received was validation seeking and trauma responses. No bueno! I learned to put my time and energy into people or experiences that fulfill me!

[@emilywillard5389]

I just became a full member of your channel ❤ I have been watching your videos for the past month or so and have very much connected with all of them, but this video is one of my favorites so far. I was recently 'discarded' by my significant other (via text) and boy does it hurt. He threw me away like a piece of trash.. I wanted the relationship to work out so badly. I went out of my way and did everything I could to please this person and in the end he threw me away for something some insignificant and trivial.. and he decided to go that extra mile and pick me apart and tell me all the things that he hated about me (things he once loved.. or said he loved)... I'm just baffled by all of it. But your videos have helped me identify all of the red flags I did not see before, and also helped me be more forgiving to myself. Thank you ❤ sorry for the long post.

[@pamelamuench4900]

Emily, thanks from the bottom of my heart for opening up and sharing your heart. I went through this in not only one but two “relationships” back to back. I sincerely feel your emotional heartbreak. Your words were validating in what I had gone through and that I haven’t gone through this on my own. Other broken hearts are struggling and going through this.

[@MercedPDF]

Don't be sorry for the long post, it's good vent this. We all did it, we all fell like crap after it happened, but be sure that now it will get better and the future will bring better people in your life, because once you know these things, you'll keep away from them in the future.

[@Someoneoutthere67]

Emily, I am so sorry you had to endure this. No one should. But I understand how baffled you are and conflicted. I think that goes with the territory in the relationship being with an individual like that that we get into. You don’t realize over time how an individual like that , in their ways can penetrate your heart and mind. Thank God they are unable to penetrate your soul and intuition. Because that is what we really have to rely on as our back up for self preservation. To listen to our soul and intuition. Oh myself, never realized they were individuals such as Beth, and can’t really say if this individual was a narcissist? I do, however, listen to my guides and the intuition and was coming up from my soul and I let that guide me. You and I and all the others in this group are enough. We truly are enough for the like-minded individuals such as ourselves. I have this saying you live, and you learn, and one truly does.

[@MercedPDF]

As always, great content explained in a way that's easy to understand by all! Thank you!

[@TracyJane67]

Morning Christina, such a great video I really needed to hear this, I think I'm about 10 weeks no contact with a Covert Narc and I must admit I do want him to hurt the way I am, your words have soothed me and assured me that he actually hurts everyday like that and there is no chance that he will recover x

[@ShayShayShay37]

Are you still no contact??

[@TracyJane67]

@@ShayShayShay37 yes, its been about a year and 2 weeks now, I'm well on my road to recovery, its the best thing I ever did, no more dramas just happy days x

[@rossanderson5243]

When we are honest we are vulnerable. So honesty is a sign of weakness.

[@terencehennegan1439]

This is one of the best videos on the subject of narcissism I’ve come across. Very enlightening.

[@yuu_miran]

Christina, your channel is super cosy and 💯precise about narcs. Thank you.

[@Someoneoutthere67]

I would never wait for anyone to “get their karma”, to me wasted energy in a very negative way, counter productive to who I am as a person.

[@frankmc4294]

I am fairly confident that my partner of many years is a Narcissist, however one thing that confuses me, listening to this video, is that they have very little empathy. They cannot put themselves in another persons place to understand what they might be going through. That is how I see my partner, and my partner has confirmed this on several occasions. However when we first met, I heard her say on several occasions that she didn't care how other people thought of her, yet I was sure that I read into that that she was indeed very worried about her other people saw her ... that was though many years ago and these days I would say she doesn't care nor can she feel, even at a simple level, what other people feel.

[@layladee5604]

Thanks!

[@CommonEgo]

Thanks, Layla! ❤️🙏

[@kingaberlakovich5585]

They will never have deep meaningful relationships and friendships.They have no empathy but can read people perfectly. They have a deep shame so they won’t self reflect. It’s too shameful and the weak self could not handle it.

[@lambchop6278]

This was excellent. Thanks! 😊

[@PATISLAV]

I don't think they don't care what others think. On the contrary, thats what drives them.

[@LV4REAL]

Excellent video that explains things really well! Thank you! ☺️♥️

[@stevehopkins1645]

I bet I can guess, unfortunately lol. They are weird creatures

[@Someoneoutthere67]

Hamster wheel - True

[@Cowface]

They’ll never have the experience of loving their inner child, because they’ve dedicated their life to hating it

[@fly4funalso]

this is a great video, ...I got a lot from it ....thanks for making it

[@johnmicallef9276]

I love the way you explain it, sweet

[@crjaded]

Just subbed to your channel Christina. Im struggling with the Narcx posting pictures living her best life with new supply and my daughter. I dont stalk but Im still getting updates that I dont ask for. She cheated on me with new supply and smeared me with claims of DV (that I won in court) and child sexual abuse claims (that were unfounded). Thank you for your videos and being a voice for us.

[@klankie1]

well explained!

[@babycakes8434]

I need to know if it is possible to be happy, even when others make you sad? I don't think I am looking for an external validation, as I used to. I care much less abt what people think. They usually don't make me happy, but they are capable of making me unhappy if that makes any sense. I would prefer not to care than second guessing myself, or having intrussive thoughts abt them and abt what happened or what was said.

[@selinaogorman8380]

Exactly narcissist will also never have anything good in there lives because they always ruin that with us and I cut off a narcissist x friend because I discovered her toxic behavior and she is so toxic so she lost a good person who was myself eventually people will discover who she really is like all narcissist they will be find out and see who they really are.

[@ging-a-roo2429]

I was always told he needed affection and I thought I would get something back, so I tried. Nothing was never good enough because he could not feel the love I was giving.

[@blastprosful]

Love for others more them themselves.

[@kwc7391]

First: I love your eyes! I dated a female Narc. for two stressful years. Got out 3 months ago. 2 months later she is doing the love bombing with someone new.

[@martinfalls6614]

Thanks, Christina. Watching the video a couple times, I count only 5 things: true & genuine relationship, empathy, ability to fully trust, authenticity, genuine happiness. Am I missing something?

[@CommonEgo]

Vulnerability and self-awareness were the other two. I had to check after reading your comment because when I first started this channel, I numbered almost EVERY list wrong. I try to double-check myself these days 😆

[@thiago.assumpcao]

It's weird because the so called empath usually has no idea what it feels like to be a narcissist. The more you understand and learn to see the world from their shoes the less you care for them. In narcissist relationships cognitive and emotional empathy compete with each other.

[@nathanhansen9134]

yor wrong i fight bing a narcassist every day wiht my self awareness constant daily struggle

[@nathanhansen9134]

your so rwrong a emparth cannot handle bwcause a narcistist takes emotions not gives she wants to be with you to feel through you but gives nothing back i woke up happy and by the end of the night shw was asking where i went my eyes sent dark and she forced me to give more it broke me temportarily but a nutual relkationshuip no the narcissit swill kill the empath quickr han heir minds

[@thiago.assumpcao]

@@nathanhansen9134 Maybe you are misunderstanding me. What I said is not a bad thing. Now that you understand how she works you are less likely to put her needs in first place and that's a great thing. Learning to be a bit more selfish is part of therapy, nobody better than yourself to take care of your own needs. The problem with narcissist is not that they put themselves first, it's that they expect and force everyone else to do the same.

[@damienwelch9067]

They only think 🤔 of them selves

[@teripersson1308]

Just saw your dog 😀

[@user-cz8gi2om3n]

Mine could admit that she was incapable of attachment and commitment, but it didn't seem to bother her, as if it were caused by impersonal forces, and not her personal choice and agency.

[@stylist62]

They are completely delusional

[@slimlittle2827]

How about a sense of peace?

[@stevehopkins1645]

I'm planning to find my own Island!! Who's coming? lol

[@freespirit2194]

Count me in 😂😂😂

[@karendalsadik7119]

All I wanted to spend some time with him. He actually cried in frustration and first said he couldn’t be what I wanted him to be. Then he said I was out of his league than said I was out of his league. He wouldn’t answer my calls so I emailed him. He got mad and said he only read half of them because he does didn’t care. 😢 He called me during a bad time and I said things that I wish I never had.

[@michaeljackson8857]

I tried to discuss empathy. All i got was that he has lots of empathy and he shows this at work. Nothing qbout our relationship. It was how dare you say i have no empathy whilst turning anything i asked back on to me. Its weird. Its cruel and if one good thing my husband has showed me is that i am special. I am a good listener despite the fact i find it difficult with my husband. I have spent years trying to talk to my husband but every thing i say is me being a bad wife. All because i desperately wanted intimacy. Now i know hes just running away from himself as he hates himself. Its so sad as i love him still. Although the horrid smirk he left me with tonight and the fact hes thrown his wedding ring at me proves how stupid i have been. He has some poor woman q woman who i can guarentee will be a phillapeno at work as she looks young. I also realise that he has never respected me but saw me as naive so he love bombed me. Three wonderful children later who he does not care about off he goes. Good luck to my husband. 😂

[@amyj.4992]

Like I've been accused of narcissistic behavior but I'm nervous about being seen by people

[@fairygurl9269]

I Trust Me. Much Respect 💞

[@ABIPOWER2024]

It's so hard not to get so satisfied watching my X Narc suffer through health problems as she will the rest of her days. Probably won't be too many more of them because of her own dumb decisions. Am I a bad person because I feel this way. For an Empathetic person, like myself, i feel guilt.

[@Mr7Niice]

Emotional Damage 🧡😁

[@rob-robi]

I think there's lots of grey areas concerning 'narcissism . Some people are only partial narcissists , i think. And some other people truly do overthink many things Maybe that's human nature

[@ddseir1443]

It’s not really karma.I’d say it’s more like a logical chain of cause and effect. I know some people wish to think the narcs will somehow get it, that fate will eventually punish them as if there was an automatic “justice” system for social justice but the truth is, the things narcs don’t get, are things they don’t want or seek. They are not things they would ever get, or they know they aren’t (supposed to be) getting. I mean For me, the things that make up fuel for a narc are insignificant. For them, the same things are the Holy Grail. Don’t think about them. Try to avoid them, try to detect them on early stages of any kind of interaction, try to avoid getting hurt by them. Equally, dont buy into their social media fairytale lives, achievements, communal personas, it’s all fake.

[@jasonbaer6341]

It's going to kill me.

[@pandymaz1719]

What do you think of showing a narcissist one of your videos? My dad's a classic narcissist. Luckily I got myself therapy at 18 and moved away from him. Unfortunately at age 39 I was disabled and pregnant and apparently vulnerable bc I let him back into my life and now he's ruined my 5yr old daughter's life, her father's and mine. I moved to Brazil trusting his wife. That was my mistake. I used to think she was his victim like me...but after what I've been through and saw your vid about the fake empath. This is absolutely her. She fine with us being trapped and secluded in a favela (ghetto) We don't speak the language. The woman is Dr Jeckle and Mr. Hide. I cannot believe what we have been living the past going on 3 yrs. I physically can't travel back to the states and we gave up everything to move here so we'd have to start completely over 😭 sorry don't have anyone to talk to except the cyber world.

[@neechie0507]

You are not alone. You are stronger than you know !❤❤

[@pandymaz1719]

@@neechie0507 thank you 💜

[@pandymaz1719]

@dawnkikong637 no, I never got the opportunity bc things only got worse. I got my family away from them. I plan on never seeing or speaking to my father again and I'm good with that.

[@rileysmiley9585]

Most of them will never have peace and contentment. Some of them get into gambling.

[@noturbo]

why was i desperately trying to save the relationship ?

[@sarahsj8109]

Trauma Bonding. You(we) were conditioned to.

[@fixinfkinsandwiches6183]

Don’t beat yourself up. They make you think everything is your fault, which naturally makes you want to fix it. Problem is, it’s all a lie. They know they are only using you. Mine only admitted it when he didn’t need my attention anymore because he found someone else he could dupe into thinking he was a good catch.

[@skillian3826]

My husband tried murdering me 6 weeks ago. He's been charged with Attempted murder aggravated kidnapping aggravated battery and criminal threat. He's a sociopath.

[@kostadinpantev]

That dog got absolutely deleted!

[@nicholecornes1915]

My husbands house got struck with lightning 😂 trust me dont worry about it

[@missconstrued4695]

You are so pretty ❤

[@michaeljackson8857]

Nothing i have ever kindly given my husband does he cherish. He loves Nothing more than to blame everyone around him for his situation he finds himself in. Im not perfect far from it and one thing he has given me is that i actually like myself. Despite the hate i have been shown by him. He was long gone emotionally once he had a daughter then reached his brothers status of also having a son. That along with him denying me that i found adult baby porn on the computer when my secong daughter was born. He denied me finding it strangely several years later he was messaging a nurse practioner at work who validated his worh at work. Nope hes not ever hid his perversions but at the same time hated me to make him right and also the dogs doodas. Now hes after his new woman. Im just afraid that its a phillopeno at work who he loves to slag off that is alone and i fear for her if this is who he is with. Hes pathetic, he hates me his wife of 23 years because people just like me. No sex for two years hes definitely putting it about. Its time that i finally told my beautiful friends eho he has turned me against the truth.

[@truthh8597]

TIMESTAMPS and SUB HEADERS please

[@mn9120]

Why is it important what narcissist will never have? Comfort won't help victims. ...

[@Danielle-r5g]

He was too jealous, also taking about anyone who didn't agree or anyone who he thought was more important than him.

[@kaaafir1]

But Mam if she finds a man who is super duper handsome and he is financially secure than what will happen ??? She will treat him same as she use to treat me or she will change herself .. I remember once I asked my ex narcissist gf that assume that if I was a super handsome men and I’m wealthy than you ll treat me same as now she said no I ll not .. what should I understand form this ?? Please help me out Mam I’m from india and I am on medication since 5 month It has been 1 year since my breakup now think I was wrong what should I do ??mam i am Also an overthinker

[@tonyconnor5691]

Looks dont matter to a narc it's all about taking emotions from others

[@kaaafir1]

@@tonyconnor5691 yes brother ❤️

[@bondjamesbond1664]

she will never have Me 😊

[@matthewwozniak9138]

If 💓love is the only 🎁gift you can give, it's enough. ☝️Gods 💖love is 🙌divine.

[@ladyloungealot5119]

Have to stop. Something is wrong with audio; your voice is broken and hard to hear.