The narcissistic mother's strange behaviours

[@SB-mm9zh]

The control thing, the twisting things around so that you look like the baddie and others are made to think you are too, the clever manipulation of others in order to turn them against you. It's a nightmare!!! The terrible thing is that as a child you have no way of realising or recognising this behaviour for what it is and end up afraid, confused, upset, sad etc. Thank you for your great explanations.

[@w1ntexx1]

I wish to grow up and get my own family away from her.

[@Dawnsbookreviews]

Painfully true. They are good at setting the stage for something bad to happen, but making sure they are are not seen as the culprit. The acceptance phase, as the child, is extremely difficult.❤

[@kathleendinsmore7588]

Nothing’s harder to deal with than a narcissistic mother, your own flesh and blood. Step mothers often get a bad rep. My stepmother and I didn’t always get along but in the final analysis she was more of a mother to me than my bio mom would ever be capable of being.

[@meowmeow7212]

Yup... true... that's exactly my mother... and my father is a narc too...

[@nicolemctavish9089]

This is an incredible video. You've nailed it. You have described my narcissistic mother in perfect detail. This behavior is all so insane that it's impossible to describe it to anyone else and have them understand or believe you. Once, my mother actually told me that she was jealous of me. I was always afraid of her. I had no doubt that she would kill me if she thought she could get away with it. It's incredibly challenging to grow up like this while simultaneously hearing the societal messages about "maternal love". When my mother died 3 years ago, I discovered that she left virtually everything to her brother - her jewelry, car, etc. I was a single woman heading into retirement after working a bunch of minimum wage jobs for decades. I definitely could have used the support. I now realize that I am extremely fortunate to have been left some money as a beneficiary of her IRA. It was only a fraction of her net worth, and I am certain that she made me a beneficiary only in order to look good and appear to be a loving mother, but I am glad to have it. I had to hire an attorney to wrest it away from my uncle, but for once in my life, I prevailed. I am not young anymore, but I am now wise and informed. I plan to enjoy my remaining years in freedom and peace. With careful management my small inheritance will help me do this. As painful as my life used to be, I am now the one who is alive, healthy, loving, and sane. Life after narcissistic abuse can be good. First you have to survive the abuse, then heal from it, then you can claim your God-given right to live happily. It's been a long, rocky road....

[@noragardner1629]

Most of these things are also true with narcissistic mother in laws, in my experience. Excellent video! I really appreciate all the work you do here. 💕

[@orianam9835]

Must be a nightmare

[@barbaramarshall3164]

My mother in law was kinder and able to have a conversation with me without judgement, unlike my mother whose jealousy just goes on an on and on still even today

[@CourageCoaching]

@@barbaramarshall3164 I am so glad you had a better experience with your stepmother!

[@barbaramarshall3164]

@@CourageCoaching my mother in law and yes she was a much kinder person. She had type 1 diabetes and a glass eye, but she was 100 times a better person than my own mother. It's a bit difficult to forgive someone who has tried to destroy my family, marriage and threatened to take my kids away when they were little. Sadly she was achieving this with my eldest daughter who is on the spectrum with autism. I put up with a lot of meanness, a real lot. The final straw was a week before the first covid lockdown in Perth WA and she has never been allowed in since and she has never apologised for her behaviour either. R.I.P Jennie and Wally my parents in law at least they actually had hearts💗💓💞💕

[@LR-yu3mx]

Mine has done so much damage to her children in her long life, and smeared her own daughter's name far and wide. But when se landed in hospital, The nurses turned against her big time, every time. In her 90's she was bullied in the care home, till death

[@tawheedafayaz7845]

Could you please make a video on relationship between covert narcissistic mother and golden chid ( daughter) ? How they sabotage the scapegoat child / sibling ?

[@O.Sea.D]

My husband has a narcissist mom. One time she started to talk to him about the fact that she doesn't like how we educate our kids, so he responded "why do you always have only bad things to say?" She realized that she cannot run and hide from her own attitude so .. next thing she throws herself to the floor and starts hitting herself 😱😱 my brother and sister in law came up quickly and she was screaming "look what they made me do!!" And they grabbed her from the floor and put her on the bed, and after she calmed down they went back to us and they both said " she needs to see a psychiatrist, urgent." She has an affair with a married man and no matter how many times we have said to her that we wouldn't want to see him, she sends him to our house with all kinds of excuses. She love to insult her grandchildren, for example if they have a new animal or a toy she would say "that's an ugly doll"... She is so obnoxious and reprehensible, the worst woman I've ever met.

[@CourageCoaching]

Thank you for sharing! Narcissists were emotionally arrested at the age of 3!

[@O.Sea.D]

@CourageCoaching I'm not quite sure I fully understand this sentence, what is emotionally arrested? Thanks in advance. And thanks for the reply 💜💜💜

[@CourageCoaching]

@@O.Sea.D It means their emotional age was stunted ‘stuck’ at 3 years old.

[@Anna-Rose-]

What type of mother won't call her dying daughter in hospital? Daughter was grown and had sepsis, pneumonia, bronchitis, and infection of the blood. There was another one or two, but I can't remember. Mother had been jealous of and hateful to daughter her entire life. Daughter was so beaten down, she was afraid of everyone and never spoke up for herself.

[@CourageCoaching]

That is incredibly sad! Life can be so cruel for daughters with such 'mothers'. They don't even deserve being called a 'mother'!

[@justTes3]

that is sad. My sister kept me from taIking to my Mom 2 weeks ago before she died on New Years Eve. She said shed caII me when she woke since she needed sIeep but didn't caII me to Iet me taIk and then bIamed me and toId everyone I didn't caII my Mom or go see her when she died in hospitaI. It is aII wicked and wrong. I decided to teII the truth and that put me back in the bIock and shock phase of bIame and discard, again and again. I know it is hard to grieve a Iifetime of betrayaI. I was not aIIowed to have a voice because I was aIways the probIem and bIamed and hit for everything. When they came bIaming, I wouId try to run away or kiII myseIf. at age 5 and packed my bags, asking for a new famiIy. My first attempt was at 5. They wouId never hear me or see me but they couId bIame and shame me and aIIow me to shame myseIf begging for their Iove and approvaI. My husband is aIso a product of this kind of mother and grandmother and grandfather...and the woman is aIways bIamed, beat etc. Not sure what came first but it was wicked on both sides...they are racist, sexist and abuse chIidren for fun and both women and chIid are not important. She deserves whatever she gets...God HATES VioIence and he is coming to destroy them aII. The AngeI set over chiIdren in utero and infancy aII for me to protect me and give me a voice when I had none. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKC1o5Sjbt2Dr80si=7YF0F7seTlLxGZzr&t=1636

[@barbaramarshall3164]

That sounds like my mother, god she's so awful

[@MeataVore]

Great video and I am kind of going through a bit of a situation that is connected to this video. I was raised by a narcissistic mother and most of what you have described I have gone through with my mum. She ruled the house and it totally frustrated my dad. Now with my own issue I went a head and married a covert narcissist and low and behold she turned my our two sons against me. I am going nuts trying to make contact with them and nothing.

[@CourageCoaching]

That is so tough!I am sorry you are going through this! Parental alienation is a very painful place to be!

[@carolinasalvador9342]

About my birthdays.. my parents many times forgot about my birthday and saying only "Happy birthday" ( My mother didn't even ever baked a cake for my birthday, wich is not that expensive, because I wouldn't expect her to buy my any present because we were poor). But what I wanted to say I rather to laugh when remembering about my 16th birthday wich is even more special because it's a the 16th day. My father told me "Happy Birthday at the day before and my mother did it at the day after. It's so funny, isn't it??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Because they love me soooo much. Anyways of course I didn't say anything to my father unless "thank you" so I just didn't have to face him more seconds pretending he cared about me, and when was my mother's time to congratulate the day after, I complained and said that father and her got it wrong and she said something like" oh your father remembered and you still complain? (🤣🤣🤣) And me too? You think I don't have my mind full of problems to solve? Are you crazy? Did you think I forgot it on purpose? How dare you?"🤣🤣🤣🤣 They never take accountability and never say sorry, not for a thing they don't have advantadge of.😉 PS: Later she buyed me a small baby doll with a facial expression of despair crying out loud and said she saw it at the store and it reminded herself so much of me that she had to offer me, not without laughing hard in my face, full of her pleasure of making me feel sad about her. I think she wanted me to feel rage, but it only made me cry hidden in my bedroom, because of her nasty pleasure of spending money to make me feel bad.

[@HarryBarker-yp1xv]

Bless your heart! I see you. I feel you. Be kind and invest in yourself.

[@CourageCoaching]

@@carolinasalvador9342 Awful behaviour from your parents! I am so sorry! Thank you for sharing! I hope you treat yourself well and enjoy life as much as you can now! 💚

[@Andypandieful]

Mother in laws too

[@w1ntexx1]

I have a narcissistic mother. I am a son. She always says that I hit her even tho I do not, and I have no family at that point. No one loves me. It even came to police many times… Even today… I am mentally abused and being physically abused.

[@CourageCoaching]

I am so sorry for your suffering! Many sons suffer in the hands of their mothers. Are you able to leave in some way?

[@w1ntexx1]

@ no I am not.

[@CourageCoaching]

@@w1ntexx1 I am sorry you can’t leave! I wish you continued strength and know that there is always hope.

[@stellitsa12]

Thank you

[@lenihassveasphaug9634]

All of it, and much more. She was sadist.

[@monsieurhercule]

Be mindful if your mother develops this at an advanced age and wasn't like this before it could be bvFTD, behavioural variant frontotemporal dementia, which can be very similar to NPD.

[@dionzoe6716]

Hugely important point

[@candice9396]

My relationship with my father use to be amazing.. now I'm made to feel as though I'm imposing Everytime.. but it's not a stepmother.. she's my mother 🤯

[@CourageCoaching]

I am sorry to hear this!

[@jeffreyexposito3803]

It is also not beyond the narcassistic mother to flirt and have an affair with the daughters love partner.

[@kristinikolaou6726]

Αν μπορείτε βάλτε στα αγγλικά βίντεο υπότιτλους καο στα ελληνικά. Ευχαριστώ.

[@ShellyMcDonnell123]

You have my passed away mother down to a tea! So typical!

[@LR-yu3mx]

Mine too.