The NO BS Guide for Empaths to Set Boundaries and Say NO Without Feeling Guilty (life-changing)

[@tamiemjoyce]

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[@freebird2772]

@TamieMJoyce That was me who just now commented (Oct 27, 2023) on the nasty review Jen posted on Scam Watcher. She shot herself in the foot with the initial review and subsequent follow up to your response. I felt lead by God to vindicate you although Jens review serves as glaring insight to her behaviors that got her removed from the group. I hope she gets the help she needs indeed.

[@sondralee8539]

@@tamiemjoyce Breaching your boundaries and saying No when it happens gives you internal power.

[@TheDaximus2301]

“Saying no is an act of self-love, not selfishness.” Absolutely brilliant and so so imortant to learn.

[@izawaniek2568]

It is time now to take care of our well-being. Thank you for your support and great advice Tamie❤

[@michellekirk8609]

How do you respond to their responses?

[@johntracey4196]

NO is protecting your healthy boundaries

[@freebird2772]

Tamie I believe God lead me to you and I’m forever grateful. I’ve experienced a great awakening due to your videos. I’m a new person now, more confident than ever. Thank you for ALL you do. Thank you for being you 🙏❤️

[@tamiemjoyce]

You're so welcome! Thanks for tuning in!! 😉

[@CoolSaintKnight]

Having no boundaries all my life till this year, I just wanted to heal everyone. I'll definitely apply cause there's so much that I'm understanding more and more of my senses that I have fined tuned for 30 years now.

[@butterflly13crochetcrafts45]

Self care is not selfish learning this is not easy but I practice it everyday. Journaling, exercising, spending time with friends and loved ones are not selfish but self love.

[@tamiemjoyce]

Exactly! 💕

[@ckaiponen]

So, I am married 6 uears been back together for almost 10. He called me brain dead B infront of our children. After he was done blowing up on me for leaving our child with him while I took the other child with me to go to dinner he was invited to, but said, that didn't sound like fun to him. When I drove off, I left our son with the adult son living with us whom said he would watch him. Then sent a text to my husband 5 minutes later (who lives in the same home). So anyway, he called me that and went off on me for about 30 minutes, saying this relationship isn't working for him, I'm not loving to him, don't think I can stay there, this is his house... blah blah blah. And now almost a week later, he wants me to be over it and act like it never happened. 😂So my question is, (I should have set this boundary so long ago) what do I say when he may come back saying, if I say "I feel insulted and abused when you intentionally say cruel things to me. I need be/feel respected from you 100% of the time." His reason for what he said being ok was that "I was angry. I apologize. Oh I guess I'm not allowed to have feelings." I fear what to say when he sees it as something new coming from me. I'm so fed up. 😢

[@MargauxGuyenne1127]

Need to hear this ☆☆☆ thank YOU Tamie! So grateful to have found you.

[@tamiemjoyce]

You're welcome, Margaux! Thanks for watching!! 💕

[@jasonoud6439]

Thanks for this! I’ve always had difficulties dealing with difficult people. I’m getting better though. This video really helps. Thanks Tammy!

[@jenniferjenks4130]

This is an excellent approach, and the examples are perfect! Be careful though...if you're trying to set boundaries for the first time with someone who is accustomed to taking advantage of you and/or manipulating you (ie a narcissist), they will definitely use what they learned about your vulnerability against you. Try setting small boundaries with such a person at first. If they can't respect those boundaries, don't waste your time or energy trying to draw them a map. Just distance yourself from them, silently.

[@nicolecarnevale3226]

Hi Tammie, Could you tell please tell us some behaviors to identify toxic narcissistic behaviors in the beginning of a relationship? In my marriage my ex was charming, extroverted, and seeming empathic. For instance one morning he said as I was a bit quiet “ a penny for your thoughts”, he would open doors for me, purchased a perfume named Angel and said “ Angel for a goddess”. I thought he was a super empath and slowly morphed into every behavior in your gaslighting video daily as well as using every secret I confided in him against me. It was appalling and can’t believe I willingly tolerated it. I always thought he’d change as when I prepared to leave he seemed to sense it and reverted to pseudo kindness. This cycle broke confidence down and destroyed the love I once felt for him. If I had seen his true manipulative deceitfulness sooner I would have not accepted the diamond bluntly but truthfully. Thanks for your videos. They are empowering.

[@TuerlingsTim]

Accept the uncomfortable feeling when you do it the first times. Afterwards you will found out that it becomes so much easier and brings peace in your life. The second positive part is that negative people are not your match anymore 😉

[@tamiemjoyce]

Exactly!

[@newworldlove7031]

Better to be single, I so don't need all this stress of men who are NOT emotionally able to offer anything worth while. Self surfient, self love.

[@blessmyheart9388]

“You are allowed to take to take care of yourself…no matter who likes it or doesn’t like it.” What a novel thought. I had to gently step back from a very dysfunctional situation with my best friend that went on for over a year that I had been pulled into and given very much of myself to, to try to help her and comfort her. When I did so I was basically told by her that I was selfish and uncaring. By that point I was so emotionally drained I just told her that she was manipulating me and that I refused to be manipulated any longer. I was then called a narcissist. It was then that I permanently ended all communication with her. I don’t regret standing up for myself. It revealed her true personality and her true intention of our friendship. I will continue to love and empathize with others, but will never let it get to that extent again. I will stand up for myself and take care of myself just as much as I do anyone else and if they don’t like that, they can go find someone else to use.

[@tims9434]

One of the most constructive videos I've ever watched. Thanks Tamie

[@tamiemjoyce]

You're welcome, Tim! Thanks for tuning in!! 😉

[@lauramurphey8477]

My soon to be ex husband is a malignant covert narcissist. He is at my old church running a smear campaign so I'll lose my friends and family. Fortunately for me, and unfortunately for him, they are true friends of mine and reporting what's going on to me. Hah!

[@laurindazeerban2599]

Hello very helpful God bless you❤

[@IrishRushandSmiling]

OH MY GOSH ! My issues have a Diagnosis! ?

[@donnajeffcoat4036]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge. My life has changed. Blessings

[@tamiemjoyce]

You're most welcome, Donna! Thanks for watching!! 💕

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Spot on Tamie. Thank you 🙏

[@marie-sophielandry3566]

Just WOW and THANK YOU!!

[@tamiemjoyce]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!! 💕

[@Sam-pl3yd]

Hia Tamie 💕 thank goodness to hear this from you 🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@TheYogadeva]

😊hi AliXandra in Michigan

[@tamiemjoyce]

Hey, Alixandra! Welcome to the channel! Thanks for tuning in!!

[@x_lindsay28]

I love your channel. So helpful.

[@cindyaspden3982]

This method is awesome! Thank you!! I have had success with some. However with another, if I use this, linking their negative behaviour with my feelings, they will endeavor to do that behaviour even more. It's like they are waiting for any tidbit about me to use against me. So, will it eventually improve?

[@tamiemjoyce]

No. That's someone you want to keep your distance from.

[@sanjeevbains690]

❤

[@PricklePrice]

❤❤❤

[@evanmax6080]

Tried this technique and they said "I don't understand, what are you talking about? You're not making any sense"..... I went no contact almost 2 years ago with this twisted family member.

[@moaathj411]

I love this ! I have been having troubles communicating ! I appreciate this work !

[@TheBlondiekitten]

Thank you so much. This is incredibly clear. I will use it in a variety of situations from now on. My main problem person is my mum. She will respond with - there’s something wrong with you -you’re too sensitive - I’ve done nothing wrong -who do you think you are I can see at first that she wants to try but falls very quickly back into belittling, blaming me, seething …. I didn’t do the whole win thing so I may try again but my love for her after 52 years of being gaslit and blamed is incredibly thin ….

[@nicolecarnevale3226]

Hi Tammie, In a text message earlier I asked for behaviors to identify toxic persons early in before falling in love. You actually answered the question later in saying no. In addition to loving behavior a former love didn’t accept boundaries. He bombarded me with texts when in another state visiting a friend. When I asked him to stop and asked why he would interrupt my visit he said “ I love you. I just want to make sure you’re safe.” I pointed out I was safe and having a glass of wine with my friend in another state ( seldom have the opportunity to see in person) and asked him to stop he did for that night. The next day the text bombardment began again and he became agitated when I failed to respond, Thanks for the insight into self and others.

[@jamaalcreator7671]

Thank you Tamie. I’m doing so well with your help. I truly enjoy the love and energy that you bring and give to us, and I just truly truly truly enjoy you. I also finished reading the book on the unseen therapists. ❤😅🤗

[@Silverdragon517]

Love your videos. These are life savers. Thank you

[@juliechurch1799]

Hello I like your no bs vids

[@tatikrukouska]

❤ You help a lot people!

[@christinehallett3197]

Tamie is simply amazing!!❤

[@tamiemjoyce]

@christinehallett3197 That's very kind. Thank you for saying so! 💕