The not so happy pregnancy diaries | Neema Isa | TEDxLytteltonWomen

[@msaijay1153]

I was nauseous before I even got a positive test. I eagerly waited for well 12-14. If I could just make it to that point.... Week 14 came and went and I didn't feel any better. Finally, halfway through my pregnancy I feel better but I'm not experiencing this amazing energy boost that everyone says you have in the 2nd trimester. I don't like being pregnant. I'm excited to meet my baby and I love feeling the movement but I hate being pregnant!

[@janespeleers1330]

Thank you, thank you, Thank you, I've been feeling so guilty for not "enjoying" like "everyone else". We need more voices our there

[@shubi80]

I am on my 14th week and I throw up 24*7, food smells, throat is sore all the time, skin rashes and dryness, dizziness, muscle cramp. I am not enjoying this journey at all; I ask myself “am I a bad mom to be , don’t I love my baby ? Can this baby feel that I am frustrated, ….” Thank you for sharing this . I need to hear this very badly.

[@erinaa9486]

Women who experience this terrible nausea/weakness are amazing heroes. My sister-in-law is one; she is having her FOURTH baby. I don't know if I would go on to have more than one of I had to go through such a thing.

[@monchichi1208]

Thank you so much for this talk Neema! We need more voices like you! I’m going through the same physically and moreover mentally with guilt trips and depression! Your speech was therapy!

[@selawayman8625]

Wow the prayers on the way to work.. that really hit me. I’d never be so brave as to be honest about those thoughts. My own head is defensive about how I could love all my children, want the best for them, and hate being a mother all at once .

[@daniellepereira7255]

I don't have HG, but I still have pretty severe nausea, and what upsets me most is that in spite of knowing this, everyone's concern is "What have you eaten today" because you have to eat more for the baby. As if I'm deliberately throwing up to starve the baby.

[@mariabrorsson3712]

Danielle Pereira that's because ppl don't understand. On so many levels. It is not that easy to starve an established pregnancy, the placenta will literally eat from you before any harm is done to the baby. Just trust the doctors that they will help you if you need fluids. You will get through this.

[@lindsaywilliams7125]

Same. My mom would always stare at me when ate. Everyone was always concerned that the baby was not eating enough when really its the mom everyone should be worried about.

[@kimberlymagleby7835]

"You're in your pj's today, what're we watching?" 😭 Thank you for sharing the other side. I too find comfort in hearing and learning from women before me. I can do this. 😚

[@dorothycrispin902]

I so needed this I too have this and it's been so horrible that it has me sometimes questioning if I really wanted to keep going on with this and then I'd feel guilty because this pregnancy wasn't an accident or a surprise so how could I feel this way but unless you know what it's like to throw up until your throat bleeds you don't know what it's like

[@zharawillywonka4438]

Dorothy Crispin hey it's your body. don't feel guilty. And if you are getting so sick that your throat bleeds, then do what you feel. there can always be another baby, or another pregnancy. even then, family doesn't end in blood. also see your doctor. tears in the esophagus are very dangerous. especially when they're happening often.

[@Arkenshaw9]

How are you doing now with things, if you dont mind me asking?

[@michellepeacock7716]

Thank you, people need to be aware of how this affects pregnant women & the impact is on on their emotional, physical & mental wellbeing. Their relationship with their bump & their families. It's no fun waking up to be sick & continue been sick for the rest of the day/evening, not been able to eat, drink go out & about because you were at the mercy of the toilet bowl, if you were lucky enough to get there in time. The dark times in pregnancy need to be talked about too & it's impact it has on women & their wellbeing. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@ig3895]

I can relate , I'm pregnant and i get sick everyday .I'm in my pjs all day and not wanting to get off the bed because tbh, this pregnancy is making me depressed and also.... *sigh * I didn't plan this preganancy my husband wants me pregnant. i want to end this agony that's consuming my energy everyday . i feel stuck, imprisoned on this unwanted pregnancy. I don't know what else to do but hope for a miscarriage. I know people won't like this , but it's true . I'm the one going through pregnancy not my husband. he won't understand how miserable I am . I'm sick and tired being in bed

[@fernandacantor8698]

I really hope you feel better❤

[@toomuchcyan]

you deserve to not be pregnant if you don't want to be. i am so sorry that your husband is trying to control your body this way. you do not owe him ANYTHING. if the pregnancy was not planned it shouldn't happen. you can always have another child in due time. just know that ending it is an option, as long as you won't be threatened with violence, mental or physical. i am so so sorry.

[@Tatshy1]

Girl you described it just right! So good to see you on this platform speaking up for so many of us who go through this painful but yet giving experience. Keep going!

[@redsailor101]

I also had horrible pregnancies and spent 9 months being sick in one way or another not able to take care of my self or anything else

[@anna-clarelukoma1456]

Thank you for this. I feel so understood and seen.❤️

[@Ahmahkyah]

Brilliant!!! So on point with what I am experiencing!!! Thank you Neema!

[@TheIVFChapters]

Can definitely relate to this! Great talk, thank you! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@t.r.1457]

A friend of mine had it too, threw up every day. She was losing weight instead of putting some on during pregnancy. Had to be hospitalizes several times during the nine months. It was terrible for her, but now they have a strong, beautiful daughter :-).

[@hinaliyakat7519]

I feel you.....I puked my guts out for the whole 8.5 months 4 times a day or more ...

[@Stephanie-qr2xh]

My mom went through that in her 3 pregnancies I saw her going through this on her last pregnancy and it was horrible I was so sad and worried about her she was losing a lot of weight and did not have an ounce of strenght to leave bed, I am so scared that this could happened to me

[@Rene-uz3eb]

Some women don't want to get pregnant for these reasons.

[@lizzy5437]

Love the robe 👘 for full effect.

[@Soulfulpoetress]

Oh i can relate that bile and droplets of blood and my entire gut trying to come out for five months 😢.. Thanks to covid no smell symptom, I feel better now ☺️ no smell no vomit no sickness ☺️☺️☺️

[@angko-pe]

I had HG my entire pregnancy.

[@jasonwashington5631]

What can I do to support her?

[@angko-pe]

Be there for her, give her a clean towel to lay on in front of the toilet, help her brush her hair, clean the house, pick up all the messes that she's bound to stare at all day as she lays on the sofa. Listen to her, let her cry. Don't invite friends over, don't make plans for her and most importantly stand up for her when people say "oh it's just pregnancy".

[@zharawillywonka4438]

Jason Washington After vomiting a cold drink always helps. And ices teas and waters are good for staying cool, and washing out bad tastes. they also taste good and feel like a treat.And after she's done, kneck, back, and feet massages

[@annazdzieblowska7430]

I was one of the lucky ones

[@sisi5247]

I can relate

[@rahrahpetherbridge]

im there.

[@itsyareli1033]

For me Choleostasis in pregnacy 1 in 1000 pregnany women have it.

[@itsyareli1033]

*pregnant

[@jillronan6786]

Me too!

[@iyakida17]

When pregnant... Its like u want to eat but want puke at the same time.... In my experience....

[@mimie9656]

With my firstborn, I pulled for nine months straight everything I eat or drink I puked it ou, and with my second child wowww I puke I spite for the whole nine my man says that I'm lazy that I project the symptoms that I had 8 years ago with my firstborn on this pregnancy, so now I'm37 and in my 1 trimester with my third laying on the ground with a cup by my side and been called lazy again so after this one I think I'm done.

[@EnchantedWhispers25]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you're feeling better now. If my bf did that he would definitely be kicked out. I hope things are okay for you now

[@patriceoutlaw7390]

🙌🏽

[@guadalupesalinas6776]

Good topic but loosely presented. Not a great presenter, although the topic could be developed way better

[@crysy2444]

That's the point!

[@crysy2444]

I tend to not comment but if you do not understand something...if you cannot relate or sympathize...Just shut up!

[@annazdzieblowska7430]

Btw I am vegan

[@TheCourtneyadventures]

Anna Zdzieblowska lol Don't see what that has to do with anything

[@thehumblepeach9018]

You don’t say 😂

[@ErinEdwardsart]

Can’t empathise with this at all after my pregnancy losses and fertility issues.