The Otherside of Male Life (Motivation)

[@Hamza97]

I feel like I'm becoming a better man just by hearing you talk and keeping your wisdom in mind. I've been repeating "Men who think in decades are dangerous" to myself multiple times per day and it's reshaped my goals to be even more aspirational. Thank you for the mention brother. I'm sorry to hear about your father, hope you're doing well

[@Commissiemachine]

We need the collab bro.. that’s gonna be a bunch of knowledge

[@mobeen5644]

you 2 need to collab

[@1STMAN]

Appreciate it Hamza. Yeah that quote gets more and more true the older I get, the compound effect or working in 10 year plans compared to guys my age who live month to month or new car to new car is becoming more apparent everyday. No worries your content is unbelievable man, helping so many guys out and growing quick af

[@PentaKillMedia]

Hamza + 1STMAN podcast! You're welcome :D

[@luisgonzalez5374]

Adoonnnisssss

[@WheresLauretta]

“Never again will I let another man be better than me & if they are, it’s because they worked for it NOT because I didn’t.” 🔥🥂

[@1STMAN]

Might have to clip that one Lauretta - occasionally I make sense haha

[@WheresLauretta]

@@1STMAN more than occasionally Kris 👌🏾 and the quote about being an alien & on a different frequency/plane than most people was hard af too 🚀

[@starfire246810]

@@WheresLauretta I relate to that honestly

[@profundus8946]

This kind of statement isn't at all compatible with that other 'check your ego' bullet point he regularly brings up, though.

[@trousle4719]

"if you are surrounded by mediocrity, don't worry there's always a way out, you'll just have to go alone." thanks

[@OniPutItOn]

working 12hr warehouse shifts listening to your content and hitting the gym afterwards. this shit really giving motivation bro thank you💯

[@blackmamba4494]

Keep Grinding my G, I’ll see you at the top 🤝💯

[@mamoun2938]

inspiring bro

[@cannonball9478]

Keep going 💪

[@ViltrumiteIsRite99]

Goddamn, more power to you. These 8 hr warehouse shifts are becoming fast and busy, but I’m glad I have this guy to listen to..

[@tylerdurden8640]

Working in the kitchen alnost 14h a day (3 days a week- the rest of the week per 8), listening to this is life hack. Hitting gym, pushing limits everyday!!! Stay Beastly! ⚔️

[@antesara1584]

Hey 1stman. Im 18 and just lost my mother this summer and my father doesnt live with me. Your videos motivate me to wake up and start working at 8:00 and keep going hard until 18:00 in my carpentry job

[@Sam-mj5fi]

Stay strong mate, keep going. I'm positive you will make it. 👍

[@smileyworld9557]

proud of u brother, in a few years u gonna have a carpentry business running and that wallet booming, rest in peace to your mother

[@antesara1584]

@@Sam-mj5fi thanks dude means a lot

[@antesara1584]

@@smileyworld9557 just gonna grind while im young. And think what would 1stman say💪

[@javierfranceschi5715]

Keep your head up brother, proud to hear you’re pushing through no matter what. See you at the top.

[@alfredfoster479]

being around drunk people when you're not drunk is such a waste of your time plus the raw content is good and I watched the whole thing

[@youssifseyam3438]

All facts earned my respect, I am 17 and not many boys ( men are really rare ) in my generation have this mentality and I just end up closing myself off studying planning for the future gym etc... so rare nowadays

[@claudiu_npd]

i feel you man, it's great to see there are others likeminded. Let's keep it up. It will pay off !

[@jacquot2596]

Same here! Isn't it great we know all of this and can act accordingly?

[@1STMAN]

Nice man, at 17 all you need is direction. Get it right now and by late 20's you're set. I was drinking heavily until like 21 so you're 4 years ahead of me

[@williammead516]

Good stuff man keep doing what you are doing keep learning and you will do great. Coming from an soon to 26 y/o man that spent too much time in the college mind set and backpacking lifestyle. And believe me nothing glamorous about it.

[@Daniel-rk2qz]

You’re not alone man

[@blackbatman3152]

I got the victim mentality from my mother who was very good at manipulating people into believing she was always kind but she was extremely toxic and dangerous to everyone who actually knew her. I'm lucky that My dad was old fashioned because for the time he was around I got my mindset of constant improvement and Ruthlessness from him.

[@Alxei23456]

Same. Mine was with the grandmother. My mom was pretty much a coward who did nothing about it or was too busy, and never had a father in the home. Good you had the masculine figure to counteract the toxic feminity and put you on your purpose.

[@babybook663]

My mom rinsed me out every month pretending she don’t know how she so broke and in debt when I was young I felt sad for her but by 20 I stopped simping and realise she just sees me as a money man just cause I have a normal job if I keep giving her money to borrow and she don’t pay back by 23 I will have nothing to show for and she will say it’s my fault and I blame her for everything as she already does now I just pay strictly rent and food no borrowing. She didn’t do nothing for me as a kid but make me live with her that’s about it

[@seanjhardy]

Fuck yes. Appreciate you and Hamza coming together. Your confidence and sheer dedication to your principles is unbelievably inspiring

[@anasnadif4674]

Can’t wait for the podcast.. i know it is gonna be a bangger

[@Dayron97]

I FOUND A SEAN IN THE WILD !

[@Dayron97]

Adonis workout evening - we watch a 1 hour 1stman video and do 10 pushups every time he says "ok"

[@seanjhardy]

@@Dayron97 maximus workout - 20 every time he says male advantage ;)

[@benyou3432]

A wild Sean appears!

[@PentaKillMedia]

Damn man, this video hit so close to heart. When you said "You can't just keep wasting time", it hurt hearing that so much, because I know it's true. I'm 24 now and I've spent the past 5 years just wasting time, slugging through universities that i had 0 motivation to finish, changing universities and just sitting home playing video games all day. I've wasted 5 years down the drain, and I'm so angry at myself for not doing anything for those 5 years. Now I've started a new university this year and I told myself that this is my last chance to finish university, get educated and acquire some worthwhile skills. I don't want this life man, I don't want to be addicted to videogames and doing nothing all day. I want to work hard and grind towards a better life, I want to improve myself and level up and make something of myself. I can't believe how lazy I've been... Watching your content is painful because truth hurts. But it's the truth that I need to hear. I have so many goals and dreams that I'm passionate about, but for some reason I guess I don't have mental fortitude and grit to work tirelessly towards them. And this is what I'm trying to change. Nobody ever said life is easy. But I'm optimistic, I believe in myself. I believe that I'm capable of achieving all of my goals. I just need to stop being lazy, stop procrastinating and get off my ass and hustle. Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for making content, it's really helping me shift my mindset to a better direction.

[@mrknarf4438]

I was in the same situation. The solution for me was leaving university, learning skills on my own and getting a job in the IT industry. I've been working there for the past couple of years now and I'm thinking about going back to uni to further my education with renewed energy, in a field I've already worked in and I know I enjoy and am fairly good at. Don't think you have to go to school and then get a job and stop learning, explore, find your way. Best of luck!

[@mamoun2938]

Wish you all the best my guy I know you have it in you

[@vaidenj]

I'm in the same situation bro, use it as motivation.

[@killersnowgoon2661]

Any updates man? Sounds like you had the mentality in place

[@cfandersonz8033]

I used to have the defeatist mindset until I started viewing videos like this, films like fight club, reading books on self improvement, business and I always found reading books written by soldiers telling stories of war good as well, to show the true meaning of grit and perseverance. The mindset comes from school, parents, general society. It’s madness. Ever since I started watching you it’s been a real weight off my shoulders knowing I have time (I’m 22), I know my passion, I work fucking hard in the gym, at my job and on my passion. I know it’s going to happen for me at some point. Thank you Kris for helping me escape the depressing pessimistic attitude of modern day Britain

[@1STMAN]

Great attitude man, love reading comments like this. Black pill etc is cool, it's cool to be the negative one, but long term it doesn't pay. Self-improvement isn't considered sexy as such, but you do it for long enough and your life will be leaps and bounds beyond everyone else's

[@tommorris5304]

Yo Chris, just wanted to stop by and say thank you man. Hitting my mid 20's now and stumbled upon your account earlier this year. So much of the stuff you talk about i'm starting to see first hand; the pressure to get a GF, get married, have kids, get a mortgage. I used to dread getting older because I thought I just had to follow the same path as everyone else. It filled me with dread. Listening to your content and reading all the comments of the thousands of bosses out there about to kill their 20's, 30's, 40's and beyond gives me so much motivation to keep grinding. Keep doing your thing man.

[@1STMAN]

Really appreciate it Tom. It's ridiculous once you reach 25, everyone makes short term decisions and forgets they have another 50-60 years to live. The game of "Am I winning at life at 25" is so silly, marriage, kids, a glorified loan called a mortgage has never been a measurement for me of success. If you can stay clear of the mindset of the masses - it all becomes so easy and obvious. You could literally be broke until 32, everything clicks at 33 and now you're a millionaire with 47 years of doing what you want everyday. I just don't understand the desire we have as young men to remove our freedom in exchange for gratification

[@smileyworld9557]

@@1STMAN exactly, and hearing that story about your dad chilling in spain as an old man with girls by his side in a leather jacket and sunglasses just made me realize how long life is, i used to think being 30 was the end of the world (even with some self improvement practices which i was doing)

[@highstakes1235]

Nice one Tom. Coming from a 36 year old, my experiences have taught me that people you come across rarely stay for the future so just live your purpose with zero apologies.

[@lloydleife2835]

This video hit me. Got mates who get girls, but they are all low value sl*gs from pubs and clubs. One night I was like "we can't keep living like this". One of my friend's reasoning for going out getting drunk every weekend in his 20s is because he will recover from getting drunk faster than he would in his 30s. They are all sound, but in order to live a similar lifestyle to the one you described, sacrifices have to be made. They aren't really sacrifices when you view it from this perspective. What am I missing out on, liver disease and potentially catching an STI from some generic girl I met on a night out in exchange for being absolutely shredded, with minimum 6 figures worth of assets, visiting top class venues, flying around in a private jet whilst everyone queues up at Heathrow etc. Easy decision to make at that point really.

[@KrisVic91]

I cut off nearly all my mates when I was 25. Better with one or none, than "mates" who drag you down.

[@smileyworld9557]

honestly, this video made me realize how dumb college parties, party/alohol/drug culture is and why I want a classy 10 by my side over a "big booty thot". good luck with your path brother

[@1STMAN]

I relate so much to your comment man. I went through the exact same thing. Keep that mindset and start spending more time alone, that's what I did, eventually you'll separate the smooth from the rough and the cards will fall where they fall

[@KrisVic91]

@@smileyworld9557 hmmm. Big booty girls are great.

[@smileyworld9557]

@@KrisVic91 i 100% agree with ya (personally like more slim thick women) but i was referring to - thos who are low lives and basically got ran through by all the "hot guys" or fuck boys and athletes etc etc. What I really liked aqbout 1stmans point about women in this video was about how you want a classy 10, not a hoe with looks of a 10. lmk ur thoughts on this

[@kachowkid7766]

I find that besides all of the drinking and partying, another trap that young men fall into is the abuse of technology. Guys will wake up early and work their jobs but spend almost every other waking second on their computers or phones seeking out some form of low-level entertainment. Right until the end of high school I myself was stuck in that trap, not consciously using my computer for a purpose, like a tool, but instead defaulting to it when I thought I had nothing else to do. I find the days that I don't even use my computer at all as fulfilling and memorable because I always FIND something else to do when I force myself away. I think a major driving factor for a lot of men's lack of motivation, youths in particular, is their inability to step away from a computer or phone and spend an hour just thinking.

[@yourvirtualdad]

thats the truth

[@cryptobungus5778]

21 years old, played videogames for 10-12 hours a day every day since the age of 6 to escape my shitty home life/reality. After some really fucked up stuff happened in my life just recently I know I need to do better and I havent played a game for a few weeks. Im in college and most people just stay in their dorm after lectures and I find it very sad. Trying to get better, wish me luck.

[@moroccobama]

I will say this. Having a good father figure plants IMMENSELY important seeds in your self-esteem growing up, and I genuinely feel that those have manifested into the way I navigate the world today. Im sure it’s part genetics too. But Im sure it’s a mix of nature and nurture. when I see people that are zealously pursuing their full potential, WITHOUT having that type of father figure, is big respect. It’s a way bigger obstacle to INSTILL those seeds by yourself, while growing up and discovering life “alone” in that sense.

[@joe90h34]

You know the quality of your followers and content is next level when every comment is a paragraph. Keep doing the quality as always man. This video is worth 1000 click bait videos. The best on KZbin at the minute in my eyes.

[@1STMAN]

Thanks Joe, that's very kind man. I love reading the comments, everyone is so keen to share their experiences etc, it's like a forum within the channel

[@2021-q2b]

Ohh boy, got Hamza and 1stMan together, this is gonna be crazy. I watch both of your videos for male self improvement and now you have it, an amazing duo I have always admired!

[@rickymatovu867]

Videos like these are a blessing. There are always moments for men like us where motivation is low and you begin to question yourself, the work you're putting in and the sacrifices you're making. Videos like these serve as a much needed reminder of what's on the other side of the discipline and the dedication that we apply on a day to day basis

[@1STMAN]

Absolutely, these videos re-motivate me too because as I'm collecting all the images it's like law of attraction

[@jordanm.official]

Kris, all I can say is that you’re the goat man. I’m 24, turning 25 in October and you have me so damn hyped about optimizing the male advantage. What I love about you is that you make it more than okay to want all of the good aspects of male life and you inspire/motivate us to achieve the things that come from the good side of male life. It’s funny, you always bring up looking like a David Gandy type of man, having a nice 10 with you, having luxurious, well fitted/tailored clothes and suits, driving a nice sports car, with so much money in the bank that you can do whatever the hell you want. That’s the exact type of shit I’ve been striving for in my life and you’re the only other person of great influence that talks about wanting the same things. It’s cool to have that relatability. Keep killing it man. Also, I think you brought this up before, but how can we invest in the streaming platform? I would love to put my money behind a male life style driven streaming platform and knowing that it’s YOU behind the scenes building it, I would be more than comfortable to invest in that.

[@1STMAN]

Jordan! That's kind words man, real big praise I appreciate it. Still 24? With your mentality, that's a dangerous man in the making! 100% society always tells us beautiful women are hollow, expensive cars are stupid and so on, yet married men with kids are the only unhappy ones I see. Yeah absolutely - the crypto side of 1STMAN is something I work on at least once per week. There will be fan tokens which will give exclusive rights and content - ie; early release, bts content, opportunity to win props, meet and greets with the actors, ability to rate content etc - these you guys can buy and then sell for more/enjoy for yourself. Secondly I'd like to do shares/but in a crypto like fashion - coins would kind of work, but i'd like to do it so you guys are part owners. If anything ever happened to me, instead of GQ buying 1STMAN the community would own it. I'm currently working on a men's lifestyle NFT idea I can reveal tomorrow, I think it's really cool, hopefully you guys do too - it'll be a great opportunity for you guys to make money too

[@ShoaibKhan-bz5qm]

How’s it been going?

[@MrElectroReviews]

At my warehouse job grinding rn for the summer break. Going into my second year of med school and this is exactly how I feel, absolutely sick of going out and being surrounded by low level women and guys. That won't be me next year haha. More excited to give that workout plan you made a proper go. Also that Tom Ford mindset is outstanding, there's a reason he's dominating the fashion world. And keep these type of videos up, they're absolutely great!

[@1STMAN]

Really appreciate it man. Your mindset is perfect, the more you distance yourself from the masses the better the clearer the picture gets. Only takes like 1 year to separate yourself from the pack too, it's crazy how quickly that gap can appear with 100% focus. Yeah one of my favourite ads of all time

[@MrElectroReviews]

@@1STMAN yeah just finished listening to the audiobook too, wouldn't surprise me if it did become a classic like "Think & Grow Rich". If most men read it or start to understand the male advantage, westernised culture could be changed significantly I reckon.. bit of an abstract thought but why not haha. Yeah I can tell I'm gonna have to cut off a lot of friends who only wanna go out partying.. anyways, keep up the excellent work Kris!

[@Simba257-o4k]

Your description of the People in the pictures was one of the most hilarious things I’ve heard in a while. Great video by the way

[@renasouza8261]

I can't recite how many times you got me out of a rut man, thank you.

[@1STMAN]

No worries man, glad I can help, it gets rough

[@s4gw590]

Listened to this on a 10km night walk, perfect, easy to digest, super informative.

[@1STMAN]

Nice man, glad the video was useful, thanks for listening

[@alexandrupavel5397]

Yes, I think before 20 years old party is welcomed. After you need to man up. Or you can man up early and have the life you want at an early age. What I think is good instead of party lifestyle is exploring nature/hiking/visiting the sea.

[@rockyblumble]

So glad this is back

[@DanielDavis-kl5cl]

Man, this is coming from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for this content. I and others I am sure really apreciate it, It is really nice to see a person so openly talk about their lifes experiences and really strive to help others. I have just started getting into researching wisdom and you are an absolute tier 10 source I would say. Stay hard!

[@NoContextRDH]

I flew business class twice this year. Once to Qatar and once to New York. It just made me feel like ‘I want more of this lifestyle’

[@tunadoomshitpost]

im 20 and ive never smoked/drank/did drugs my entire life. thank you for being the only person validating my life choices

[@donquixote3292]

You’re not missing out anything. I used to be an alcoholic since its common in Mexican culture, became a Muslim and after leaving alcohol and weed behind I became a beast in my fitness and career.

[@joetrades2472]

What a master piece of a video I just watched. You changed my whole idea of “fun”. God bless you fella, I was missing my “old good times” while grinding lately.

[@lukehaynes429]

The defeat mindset comes from modern day parents stepping in and fixing the kids problems and meaning that the kid will come up against real life issues and look for the solution from a parent so they sit back and watch

[@Ryan-Horgan]

1st man with more WORLD CLASS content. The guy is on top of this game

[@1STMAN]

Appreciate it man. How's your own channel coming along?

[@Ryan-Horgan]

@@1STMAN just started but I'm surprised how much I enjoy it. We'll see how it plays out. I think there is a space on here to bridge the gap with a lot of what your talking about and combining it with fatherhood etc. It's not all a lost cause once you have kids and more dads need to realise that

[@marcussanchez5505]

I just turned 20 about a month ago and these long 1hour visual videos of the male advantage inspire and make me optimistic about the future before i found this channel i was really lost thanks kris coming from california

[@1STMAN]

That's nice to hear man, glad I can help. I always second guess these videos because they are a little weird, but people seem to like them

[@Julian_Bertsch]

Wooooh, please collab with Hamza, this is something I wanted to see for as long as I started watching Hamza 🤟🏼

[@goku324ah]

1stman and Hamza bro that would b the coolest shit in the world y’all are the same dudes with different skin tones lol, that collab would be awesome, great Vid btw Kris these recent ones have been hitting home super hard 💪🏾

[@1STMAN]

Haha - "same dudes with different skin tones" Thanks man

[@lm4363]

I've had this aching feeling in the back of my head everytime I get drunk or go out now that there has got be more to life than this. During lockdown I didn't drink for a few months and it gave me an appreciation for actually being sober being able LIVE during the weekend as opposed to living for the weekend. This video was excellent comparisons on what your life can be like if you put in the work. This makes me really optimistic about life. Thanks for the video brother!

[@greci4376]

Your channel is insanely underrated. You should do more collaborations. Everyone needs to read the Male Advantage E-book

[@1STMAN]

Really appreciate it man, thank you. The next 7 months of winter should result in a weekly podcast and more daily vlogs, trips, gym videos etc so I hope that has a real big effect

[@sakuna5277]

Damn, this is the type of content that I need. 17 and trying to better myself listening to this while thinking of ideas that I would like to do. I really appreciate your videos. Glad I found this channel at this point of my life. Thanks man.

[@Shellings]

Great work seeing where you came from 3 years ago It’s 2025 now and I know you see where you’ve come from

[@atharvshrivastava]

Now these are the kinda things which keep me motivated , I just turned 18 previous month , can't wait to be living this kind of lifestyle. Thanks for making this video Kris, really appreciate it.

[@rpa4093]

Sat through the whole video, please do more of these Kris.

[@1STMAN]

Appreciate your time! Will do, got a few more ideas on this

[@bishoplin9201]

One of the best videos I’ve watched

[@FearlessGentlemenHQ]

Remember Guys : Apps like tinder and TikTok etc. puts such a defeatist mindset in us for many reasons, learn healthy habits like meditation gym training, walks these things put you in the best mindset for beginning your journey and finishing it years later we live in a generation right of soft weak men who have more women tendencies then men believe me I’m from Northern Ireland and it’s embarrassing the amount of guys who are coming towards their 30s and still sit and play Xbox 24/7 and complain about being single “If your dreams don’t scare you there not big enough” Ragnar Lothbrok

[@kharatoh7638]

Glad that both of the best creators for this type of content are making a collaboration. Both you would make it a banger with all the knowledge you both have! :)

[@Pete9071]

The part when you were talking about everybody getting blasted to hell in the UK was cracking me up 😂.

[@jayjamesfilms]

The way you’re raised is everything. My parents were generally very neglectful regarding my development after they got divorced. My father moved on to a new family and has never expressed any interest in what I’m doing, so I never had that positive male role model. I feel like this and pornography were a big reason for my defeatist mindset. Confidence has to be taught and having parents who encourage and support you is also really important when you’re young. I didn’t have a lot of belief in myself when I was younger, but I was very fortunate to have supportive friends that were like family who supported me and helped me boost my confidence and believe in myself more. Also grateful for Hamza and yourself as you guys have also helped tremendously.

[@ryanchen007]

The world is just like that. The key is to close the world in isolation like David goggins says

[@xylonpython5836]

18 year old here. The classy life really motivates me to work hard. Just the overall high quality of living seems so much more appealing. This is , in my opinion, your best video to date.

[@1STMAN]

Appreciate it man, I second guessed putting this out actually

[@TheJacali]

I’m sorry to hear about your dad bro he sounds like an awesome man. The story of him coaching the less confident kids really struck as a cord with me as part of the single mom household crew. Really made me appreciate where you come from philosophically. Super happy that I’m 27 now and I’ve had grand grandfathers and granddads who were late 80s to early 90s. I feel extremely fortunate. Gonna have a ridiculous amount of kids when the time is right financially probably starting in 10-15 years. Gonna get my cpa and make mad dough and be fucking smart. Thanks for all you do bro. All the love from Canada 🇨🇦🔥❤️

[@Justsayingmythoughts]

This is therapy incarnate, I can feel it undoing the toxic mindset I had adopted from other manosphere content out there.

[@ablanchard8540]

I watched the whole video and I agree with everything you have just said. I am currently 16 years old and I have a burning desire to be successful and live like this. Thanks for the video it rly opens my mind. Keep up the good work bro !

[@1STMAN]

Keep dreaming man, you're about to go through 14 years of people telling you to be realistic, make it out the otherside by doing in those 14 years what no one else will be willing to do

[@basseur779]

I think a lot of your advice is really helpful. It's so important that we use our time wisely and get our pleasure from productive and healthy activities rather than getting drunk, wasting our health and money and ultimately feel like shit all the time. What sucks so is that you lay such a huge emphasis on materialistic enjoyments. There are definitely more things to strive for than going on expensive holiday trips, having a huge mansion and spending a shit ton of money on pricy products. I still continued watching because I like your main idea.

[@migueltrio]

Commenting for the algorithm. I wish I found you earlier, doing my best but you and Hamza have really helped set me straight and open my eyes. Love these types of vids man, stayed till the end

[@gregjameson327]

Absolutely fire video brotha. Been grinding through my last year of university while working on business on the side. All my friends have wanted to do is booze, and I’ve been getting down on my self lately. This really helped get me fired up again!

[@InterloperBob]

this is not only absolutely golden motivation, but golden humor you never cease to humor me with your contrast of average and apex men’s life Kris

[@randomnumbers84269]

I'm 35 years old and I think this was one of the most important videos I've seen to date. Thank you!

[@WheresLauretta]

As you’re asking the dope rhetorical question of “how can drinking and doing drugs be your peak as a youth?”, it reminds me of how in many stories, especially good stories, partaking in execsssive consumption especially drugs/alc makes for a terrible tale. Humans enjoy action & momentum in movies/books yet we often get lost in the sauce of not realizing how that’s necessary in our life. Art reflects life and so on & I believe that’s how depression/misery comes into play: when the spirit is stagnant and isn’t growing. Pushing forward/expansion (whether external or internal) is the water/sun/soil for the flower of our souls.

[@1STMAN]

100% - without momentum it's almost impossible to feel good. I've often said the fear of turning 30 depends on momentum. You could be broke, but 10 years into a business journey and feel optimistic about the future. But if you're about to turn 30 and have nothing but drunken nights collected then it's hard to see a route forward

[@Alxei23456]

6:00 I had that defeatist mindset I think because no one in my immediate family had much of a growth mindset and were more about getting by (depressing 9 to 5 etc). And I was pretty much bullied at school by the jock types who blossomed early and roadman types and at home by verbally and physically abuse parents. Basically in my youth and teens I felt like a sub human and that there was no way out of my predicament and it made me pretty socially awkward and depressed. I appreciate the period right after this because it was where I experimented, researched and did alot of reading on philosophy, money, politics, red pill etc. After that in college around 18, 19 I kinda bloomed and uni I started to experience the same kinda life that the guys in highschool did, parties, clubbing alcohol, flirting with women that I used to be terrified of etc. I realised I didn't like it. Fell back into depression as it felt sloppy and low quality. In my solitude I realised I wanted the same lifestyle you talk about in your vids. So started researching again, then started training, learning languages, investing and working.. Now my life has purpose as I know what I am working towards and I'm thinking 20 years ahead and looking forward to my 40s at the age of 22. Damn, comment was longer than I expected 😅

[@LPrulezhard]

I feel you, I got bullied up to 19 years old and from that moment I decided to get into the self improvement world but due to my p addiction I kept being immature. If i worked on my addiction back then and took action in getting a side business and working out hard I'd be completely different. I even played tennis for 6 years and i was kinda good but due to like said addiction my stamina wasnt up to point but yeah gotta keep growing no matter your age.

[@Alxei23456]

@@LPrulezhard yeah similar situation here and lool I played tennis too and really liked it. A part of me dreamed of playing in wimbledon as an early teen like 13 to 16, but I had a defeatist mindset and growing p addiction too. But I'm just glad now that I'm in a position where I have a path / plan and know what I want out of life, and when I become unsure. I know to check myself and find out.

[@LPrulezhard]

@@Alxei23456 I also have a path I want to follow but I need to check myself more and be more active and busy

[@Alxei23456]

@@LPrulezhard me too man. It happened to me over the past weekend where I started to feel sone heavy apathy, but had to re evaluate things and make a plan. So that I could reflect back on it, motivation alone and rough drafts of plans in my head doesn't always do it for me 😅, i set myself some goals for the next 6 months. So I can see good progress. 3 to 6 month increments.

[@LPrulezhard]

@@Alxei23456 same, I got a big party I go to next month but I party sober so I dont need alcohol. Just need to work on my fitness some more and that is my problem for now. I just feel demotivated to work out this past week. So I hope it changes by then but im sure it will

[@deepbluesea3072]

I feel as if you and Hamza have helped me grow exponentially in such a short period of time. I'm only 15 and I'm having so much more fun just reading books and going on walks then I was before. I used to sit on my PC doing nothing all day, now I feel as if I've done something. Thank you, both of you guys. 🙏

[@Ichbinrafa]

This 1 hour video was better than any movie I've watched

[@1STMAN]

Haha thanks man that's very kind

[@blackmamba4494]

You the truth, sending love from the U.S. (Charlotte N.C.)

[@-whackd]

Try a festival like Burning Man, Shambhala, Coachella, or EDC first before you write them off. Try Full Moon Party on Koh Phangan as well. Most of these festivals are hot women in lingerie or bikinis, and really positive, creative people into psychedelics. But yes, being moderately wealthy so you can host your own house parties by your hot tub / pool and outdoor patios is the best. Having a decent boat that you can load girls onto in the summer is great too.

[@SalahSalahez]

Your talks gives me motivation to go to the mountains! I'm 35, stronger than ever! I hike 13,000ft summits easy!

[@themagiccookie2614]

Just as hamza mentioned in the comment section, you man just make me wanna go out be better than any man I meet! The wisdom just oozes out of your content, absolutely love it!

[@JukesTheGreat]

I had that defeatist mindset, I feel like it comes not necessary from being told it by your parents, but by not being correctly guided. sometimes in life we need good role models and mentors, many people don't have that.

[@1STMAN]

That makes sense man. How you getting on now?

[@LPrulezhard]

So after hearing the 1st 5 min I have to agree I'm feeling lazy and demotivated (maybe due to relapsing multiple times in the past week). Right now I feel like I have to push myself really hard to do something, even when I sleep 8 hours I'd still snooze my clock daily. So today I'll work on bodyweight workouts and from tomorrow going back to the gym daily. I need to change and I have to since I don't like what I am right now and also I need to make my goals a priority and disappear from social media for a while.

[@smileyworld9557]

eh trust me, its always the relapse that hits the worst, everytime I relapse (even with a woman), I feel like absolute shit. As for social media, yeah just spend 5 min on it daily and thats all, keep ur dopamine intake very low you got this brother

[@LPrulezhard]

@@smileyworld9557 I'm gonna try to do a weekend dopamine detox and focus on working out and looking for a weekend job

[@smileyworld9557]

@@LPrulezhard you got this man, keep dopamine detoxes for life though with limited dopamine here and there, good luck

[@wessi0407]

Very good! Unhappiness with your situation is always the key for improving!

[@mamoun2938]

Hey I wish you all the best on your journey,. Just know that relapsing is part of the process and that you can't stop fapping overnight, it takes time. So forget about the relapses and move on to the next thing. Hope this helps my brother

[@Clement04]

That's one of the best video on KZbin for real, I promise I'll do a podcast with you in less than 10 years

[@artemknyazev09]

I can relate to this video so much! Even as an 18 year old I never really got the point of going out there drinking, trying to feel it. And then just ending up on a random bench wasted, feeling like shit and not being able to focus on anything for the next few days. I had some stupid belief that that was supposed to be fun but I never could quite feel it. Im glad there are some people on the internet like you who actually talk about that being a problem. And that there is an other side to the idea of fun in male life.

[@margograjki884]

Absolutely true. I'm reading right now Brian Tracy issues worth millions. It's truly life changing. I already got an ideas to improve my life. I will keep moving forward. Stay hard guys, you will succed.

[@user-tw6nx8bm6r]

Im glad i watched this at 15 years old

[@1STMAN]

I'm glad too, if you can avoid the whole drinking years, you'll gain like a 6 year advantage

[@lodersracing]

Good to hear your Dad lived his best life before he passed. Thanks for sharing your content 1st Man. Awesome videos.

[@JustMindgame]

I bet a lot of guys have thought like this once, but never were able to put the thought into concrete words so it just flew away, and they got swept by the usual pattern again. Thanks for opening the eyes of us male that are still floating in life meaninglessly thinking they are actually living.

[@tommyh1135]

Being drunk just seems like an embarrassment

[@pondurosa3792]

I 100% resonate with this but when your surroundings are the opposite it’s soooooo easy to forget.

[@poordoll]

My family has an issue with defeatism. It's very interesting because a lot of them are defeatist but a lot of us are the exact opposite. It seems to all come down to which is more of a driving force in your life, ambition or comfort. If you seek comfort because you are too scared to put yourself out there and possibly crash and burn than you need a good excuse so you don't end up regretting yourself down the road. "Well I couldn't have become X anyway because of Y, so its a good thing I just laid low and got by because the deck was stacked against me anyway".

[@1STMAN]

"you need a good excuse so you don't end up regretting yourself down the road" this is the exact sentence I was trying to say in the video

[@muhayminlamara]

@6:45 you say its the peoples favourite for you to move to the screen, but perosonlly i feel like your face is much better because it gives that personal touch to the video, where its as if youre talking to me alone and no one else. the face videos have helped me a lot

[@lennardg3656]

Watched the whole thing while doing laundry, in my candle lit room because the artificial light messes with the sleep rhythym. Fully enjoyed it and learned a lot. Keep it up

[@Jcbc]

Trust me. This guy is going to the top. Most of the population needs to hear this stuff

[@ME-dj6gm]

Amazing video. I especially liked the mood boards.

[@randymankoto2196]

I think this is one of your best videos honestly, even some of your old ones are still gems

[@Matthew_Ssali]

The harsh reality of life is that we as humans dont like people better than us.We feel less empathy and have resentment towards those who are "better". Some people will want to pull you down when you begin to outshine them.

[@micazo4271]

Mann Chris such an inspiration you are.. appreciate you that you do

[@SaltPepperEconomics]

In the same sense that among us men love girls with class; girls also have a similar demand. And most especially the right girls have that demand. Class beats anything else. It suits both masculine and feminine energies and pushes them to new limits, you have an experience rather than a ‘good time’. Glad to find a community of like minded people

[@androasatashvili3363]

favorite video of 1stman. Truly great Kris, thank you

[@1STMAN]

Thanks Andro, I need to make another one like this soon

[@drupiROM]

44:13 well if more people "did good" for themself, then that balcony would be full of people, just like that pool picture you showed earlier. I agree with what you are saying, but setting more realistic goals is important. I too never enjoyed getting drunk, festivals or big parties and i do live a minimalist lifestyle. But you need to set goals that are achievable and then work your way up to your personal maximum potential. I like how your channel is growing, i started watching while you had about seven thousand subscribers and you are now at almost 35k !

[@smileyworld9557]

goal setting should be like this ----- set small goals/daily habits ---- set a bigger goal which you'll accomplish (something thats likely to happen) within 3 months of consistently doing that daily habit ie workout everyday and eat a particular healthy diet is thedaily habit getting your bf% lower and gaining some muslce (like based on a picture reference or a weight reference) would be the bigger goal within the 3 months or wtv period of time

[@1STMAN]

The balcony comment is so true. I know man, 7k to 35k in 1 year, if we get 5x growth again this year it'll be closer to 200k subs

[@Chucccccy]

I’m loving the raw content. Every video is becoming better than the previous one. Huge respect

[@Julian_Bertsch]

For real, I have commented this so often on this channel already, but I need to say it again, you are so F*CKING MOTIVATIONAL! I kinda think the same way, I started drinking relatively early and I stopped early as I realized that it was just stupid. I graduated this year and I‘m so glad I‘m out of school because most of my class mates only cared about drinking, f*cking and doing drugs. At the same time I focused on improving myself and I couldn’t stand being around these unmotivated peole without any ambitions. I see them getting deunk on holidays and spending useless time with friends while I gor myself a job, workout regularly and work on my KZbin channel and brand. You really need to get out of this environment, if that’s not your energy then cut them all put, they will ruin your drive and demotivate you

[@Commissiemachine]

Feel you bro. Also why I’m planning not to go to university. It’s all about getting wasted and that’s not what I’m on rn

[@1STMAN]

Smart decision IMO

[@1STMAN]

It's so nice for all of us to be here in this community together strengthing this alternative belief. Because the rest of the world frowns upon people like us. In 10 years time when there's like 10,000 1stman millionaires it's going to feel so good

[@lorenzosteele2531]

@@1STMAN Hell yeah man you got a good ass comunity going and im glad to be apart of it. I hope you acheive everything you want man my life and mindset has improved alot from your video about deppression. Thank you.

[@DracosThorne]

I'm only finding this video now but it really has helped me open my eyes, I've always thought that I've had a mental maturity over my peers and thought things like clubbing and drugs are just a waste of time and money, what I don't have however is a role model or any sort of higher life direction to look towards since I was raised in a relatively low-quality family in a low-quality town around low-quality people. I love my family but I'm now 20 and even though I've been progressively building my own success, I never knew what to do with it. Funnily around the time, you said "There are probably people clicking off because I am giving so many examples", I was thinking "Keep going". Thanks a lot for this video, you've earned my sub.

[@skaterphone]

Best channel how are you only at 50k? You seem wiser beyond your years

[@ak_naral]

This guy is the 1% man and I doubt women who ask, "Where did all the good guys go?" will ever find him at a night club or a dating app.

[@oglow100]

I agree with everything your saying. I would just add that social skills and big social circles don't come naturally to everyone. I have made it my mission to get good at it for the next few months while still training hard and working on my career. I go to bars and clubs completely sober and have learned a tremendous amount about myself and about socializing. It has been amazing

[@Bugface]

Kris you are spitting true facts. Blessed to have come across your channel! Such a positive and accountable mindset. Life changing, honestly.

[@bladelazoe]

42:52 you bring up a good point, where most people loved their younger days due to less responsibility and I flat out tell some people…I think I thrive on responsibility. Like when I schedule a hangout or a meeting or something, I take that shit seriously and am on top of things. I’m quite bored when I got nothing going on.

[@1STMAN]

It's so hard to be motivated without momentum, I have no idea how people get up each day without a plan

[@AidenHarrison-bu3so]

Dislikes are from the 45 year olds that have just realised what they lost due to stupidity

[@soccershakib]

I got bullied as a kid and was always put down. But I always had that fighting mind set to keep trying to move forward . I’m 24 years old I’m taking a big step in my life and moving to Europe all on my own . All the way from Canada , it’s not going to be a easy mission. I don’t know anyone in the country , I have enough money to last few months , and in that time I have get my businesses going to support myself

[@kevarlikombat4448]

Everything your saying is what I say to my self nearly everyday but never acting on it hearing you say felt like a real lecture and we are the same age

[@joelk9182]

Just found your channel. I agree. I value those experiences over the shit bars I used to go to in my 20s. Guess my mindset changed so much.

[@khaliylhanson]

Love these types of videos man!

[@1STMAN]

Appreciate your time when watching Khaliyl. Supplement should be with you either today or Monday

[@khaliylhanson]

@@1STMAN got it on thursday brother! Feeling a lot less tired since ive been taking them so thank you for making them.

[@khaliylhanson]

Wednesday infact was when i got it**

[@alexzil2142]

Omg. I have been watching your recent videos and I wasn't even aware your dad had already died. I thought he would recover from the cancer. I'm sorry for your loss man. It's a very painful thing but he's in a better place. I hope you are equally doing better bro?? Please take care of yourself and cry hard when you need to. I'm sorry for your loss

[@Archemik99]

This is kinda like Kobe Bryant's muse board. He was a great inspiration to me and still is. In case you didn't see it, watch his documentary, "Kobe Bryants muse" from 2015. His frame of mind was incredible

[@club.kaizen]

Just changed my perspective on everything. My dream is to have an incredible apartment in Sydney with an unbelievable view of the Harbour Bridge and the Opera House. I've got to try and make that dream reality. Even if I can't make it happen, I'll still be better off in life than the people my age getting drunk every weekend.