The Proper Way to Ask for a Favor

From borrowing money to watching someone’s kids, is there a proper way to ask for a favor? Plus, would you stay on social media if there was a ban on filters? We weigh in.

[@TheRealDaytime]

Is there a proper way to ask for a favor?

[@melissalitus8879]

Yea if you are asking for a favor be polite and sincere. Don't be rude or assume someone will do it for you. Nowadays people lack basic communication skills 😩 also please and thank you goes a along way 💯

[@victoriacharles9950]

Please tell me where Adrienne got her dress 😍

[@tposeinify]

We got rid of likes on Instagram here in Canada a couple years ago and the results have been AMAZING for our youth especially!

[@QueenHayati]

@@melissalitus8879 is

[@QueenHayati]

@@melissalitus8879 and hiii u

[@maureene7138]

I totally understand what Adrienne was talking about. It's so hard for me to ask for help as well.

[@melissalitus8879]

I only ask for help if I know you well or if it's my parents. I don't ask certain people because they might throw it in my face or become annoyed of me. But I usually do stuff on my own unless I really need help

[@MarlinaDangervil]

Felt that, Adrienne, I absolutely hate asking for a favor or help as well. It’s super hard and it makes me so uncomfortable. Growing up my parents always told me to never accept things from people and to never ask for things as well. If anyone asks me for help though, man I got you! I’d love to help anyway I can

[@KarmaCame]

My family was the same way I've just learned for myself though that's is good to have a flow of giving and receiving like when someone offers,just gives to you or you really feel inclined to ask.Good to have that balance ya know.

[@ALINAA]

This is raising a kid in “the world is your enemy” kind of environment

[@chidilove8394]

Same!

[@9188jenni]

when you judge yourself for asking for help you also subconsciously place the same judgement on the people you help as well ...and when you ask for help you will DEFINITELY see how much people are judging you as well. And at least youll know who is not in your corner

[@ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy]

Fax

[@yasgladz6415]

I can't get over how beautiful Jeannie is.

[@anapaulaamaral95]

She has never looked better!!!

[@devrobinson8607]

That has got to be being a strong woman and great living bc men as a collective don't age as gracefully and this entire cast is stunning and we have seen most of this cast grow over the years.

[@ValeryKavezepa]

💯💯

[@tracyhowell3409]

Well... you should! Because she's not a Beautiful woman

[@jemmontiel4883]

@@tracyhowell3409 how bitter

[@taniasxoxo]

“there ain’t no filter for ya ugly spirit” 🤣 Adrienne bro

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@linac.7191]

Garcelle said “Everyone isn’t beautiful” damn 😂😂😂 All y’all are beautiful in your own ways don’t listen to her

[@babydollers2586]

It’s true tho... not everyone is beautiful whether it’s the inside or outside. If that’s the case all would get along or fall in love with each other 😂😂

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯

[@alexandraanderson3988]

I was like uh 👀👀😦She was being a savage here just plain mean🥴🤭😶

[@MsTiggytig]

Lol....Ms Garcelle said " Everybody isn't photogenic Everybody isn't beautiful " Lol

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@KarmaCame]

One of my teachers in college gave me some of the best advice.He said if your gonna give just make it a gift so your only giving what you can and not taking from what you need,not expecting it back and keeping the relationship in tact bc it was just a gift.So everyones happy.

[@therealfan4430]

Great advice! It is such a hassle and drag to have to chase a person down so they can pay back money they owe you! 😒

[@donne32701]

Wise

[@Tan87ful]

Good idea

[@sandrokozlovski9965]

jeannie looks beautiful

[@ThePrettymiss21]

I strongly dislike when ppl ask me for favors in this manner.... person: what are you doing on Friday night Me: nothing much. I don't have any plans Person: can you watch my kids for me? Am I the love only person who feels set up when ppl ask for favors this way? I feel forced into saying yes. I'm currently working on my saying no routine.

[@LucySpink]

Hahaha! That is so messed up and manipulative! But I hate also when they ask what you're doing right now, when they want to hang out too! So I always say "working", and then if they bring up what they want to do, and it's not awful/I can be bothered, I'll say I can take a break haha. But it's awkward when you say you're not doing anything, and then they ask if you want to hang out, and you're like... No. How can you say no!?

[@ChangeIsGood7775]

Oh hell no! That’s hella manipulative! Goodness! 😳 I’d say, “no, I cannot and I do not appreciate being asked in this manner.” And keep it moving.

[@ThePrettymiss21]

@@LucySpink I'm going to adopt that one. I like that

[@deilugo4813]

Ugh so inconsiderate.. girls need to stop having kids if they aren't ready to give up thierr life for them. Stop pawning off your responsibility bc you want to go out on the town.

[@LucySpink]

@@deilugo4813 I think you mean *couples. It takes two to make kids. If the mum wants to go out the dad can take care of the kids and vice versa. Asking for a babysitter isn't a tall ask. It's how they ask. How ThePrettymiss21 was asked was rude and manipulative, the audacity is laughable. Really we shouldn't feel we can't say no. But it's not easy. Especially if you aren't doing anything else - but I choose not to do anything else! Haha! That's my me time!

[@shivonneadams30]

I absolutely feel Adrienne on this one. I find it difficult to ask anyone for help. I'd break myself to do for others but I can never bring myself to ask anyone to help me. I overthink and in my mind I already see nobody being able to help me, even though I've come to their rescue numerous times and that would hurt a little, so I'd rather not go there at all.

[@ReemThearab]

These ladies are so wonderful. Love them so much!! ❤️❤️

[@wonderwonderful5351]

I would help someone else, but it would be hard for me to ask someone else for help for myself. You can be beautiful on the outside and ugly on the inside, you can be ugly on the outside and beautiful on the inside. That's why beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[@signalfire15]

My mom will always ask me for money and when I ask her how much she NEEDS, she always says "whatever the Lord lays upon your heart." It infuriates me!! People have no idea how to ask someone for help properly. If you need a favor, ask for exactly what you want, don't expect others to figure out how they can help you when you are the one who needs help. This was a good topic.

[@nancypreciado8350]

I appreciate that Adrienne didn’t cut anyone off today 💜 they all found a way to let eachother talk in turns

[@tamerilee]

🤣🤣🤣

[@vanessa-ul7nj]

lmaoo🤣🤣😩😩

[@MarlinaDangervil]

The ladies stay looking beautiful! Y'all better slay! 😍

[@abigailgraham591]

Adrienne is literally me. I just cannot😩😩 I gotta take a shot, pace the room a couple times and sit there working out in my mind if I really need to ask the favor. It literally gives me anxiety, I often just do without whatever it is😂😂 My pride I tell yuh

[@jessielynn]

I can relate to Adrienne. I hate asking for favors. I miss out on events where children aren’t allowed because I don’t want to ask someone to watch my son. I’m even willing to pay them and it’s still hard to ask. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@ajemroberts3903]

Lolol!!! @ Loni throwing Garcelle under the rug 🤣

[@jojocluddy2534]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tashingav]

Wow, this was so healing. Great convo, ladies 💕

[@eunicejp7624]

Loni- the green suits you. So beautiful. You are all amazing ladies. Greetings from The Netherlands 🇳🇱

[@bookbag6432]

I think I understood what Garcelle was saying with give a reason why this person specifically is the right one to do this favor. If I get asked a favor anyone can do or someone else would be better suited to do, I most likely will not do it. Explain to me why I'm the right one for the job.

[@Godschild0922]

Tamara who I thought I will miss her I actually like the real more she was always acting to perfect and Garcelle brings sunshine to the panel

[@tposeinify]

I could never ask anyone for money except a bank 🏦 it’s all about pride 🤷‍♀️

[@meaganhildebrand55]

Jeannie's skin and makeup looks extra beautiful in this video 🙌

[@chandlersearcy4281]

Adrienne always has the "idgaf" answer, Garcelle has the "wise" choice, Loni has the "simplistic" choice and Jeannie has the "if we lived in a perfect world choice"

[@deemichelle]

And Adrienne has the longest answers. She interrupts too much and monopolizes conversations. My husband. My mother. My sister. And SO loud. I turn down the television when she speaks. Garceille doesn't seem to have an opportunity to speak much.

[@yahnaza6619]

@@deemichelle oh Waow! I’m sure that felt good going off your chest. Adrienne is just being herself- expressive and so proud of her family. Ain’t nothing wrong with that at all. I actually LOVE! LOVE! LOVE! It. Go Adrienne! Love all the ladies btw.

[@helenmayberry6010]

@@deemichelle Exactly 💯%

[@rhodanaleli8386]

I so love Garcelle's laughter

[@alexandraanderson3988]

Right😊

[@teresamarie7460]

Yes. Please please ban the filters. It is bad enough people think wearing makeup is natural beauty. These filters have people mocking others for showing their makeup and filter free face.

[@debbierees2789]

Jeanie looks absolutely Stunning!!! Such a beautiful girl inside as well as out 🌻

[@destinychristaunique1695]

miss jeanie lookin amaaaazeballs im in love with the makeup subtle glow the lip liner DAMM the shirt the earrings she DID that

[@jyn88]

I don't like asking for favors especially from people outside my immediate family. I only ask favors from my mom and my sister because we are close and I feel comfortable. We have a consistent give and take relationship so it's not a problem. My favors are usually to do something for me (e.g. drop off package at UPS). I don't ask for money.

[@shamimkagere]

Im like Adrienne when it comes to the fear of asking for help, exactly like her!!!

[@mt3388]

It’s so true what Jeannie said about people who love you are jumping at the opportunity to help you. My family literally has shamed me before for not asking for more help, for whatever it might’ve been. They even go out of their way now to offer me things that I actually don’t need and politely have to decline, because they know me 🤣

[@Tan87ful]

Yep. Lol. Me too 😂😂😂😂💯💯💯

[@glittery566]

I'm so un-photogenic that I seriously need the filters lol

[@Tan87ful]

Me too 😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯💯

[@michellemorales4202]

Someone tell me if I’m crazy but,what is it with society putting blame on material things or the internet for their actions, I grew up with social media and all that came with it and did it affect me? Absolutely! But at some point I had to understand that no one and nothing can stop you from being who you are because they are not you, your opinion is the only one that matters in your life, people come and go, there’s always another job, we need to stop letting societal expectations dictate how we live our lives and just do thing because they are what we genuinely want to do. Don’t say yes to someone else if it means saying no to yourself.

[@Keaira_Johnson]

I honestly just say "hey can you do me a favor" 🤣🤣🤣

[@jemmontiel4883]

“Pride girl just let it go” was allll I needed from loni .. put me in my place girl 😂

[@truelove-lo7fn]

Loni has beautiful eyes

[@lilian7864]

Her makeup is on point. She definitely is glowing.

[@flowersforreal2026]

I'm the person that always wants to help, but I also identify with Adrienne when it comes to asking for help. It's weird.

[@MaryBieber7]

Adrienne is me lol

[@summmmer5041]

Yes me too, I struggle asking for help and accepting help. I don’t like how people expect u to literally cut your hand off over the dollar they gave you.🚮 so I am happy living within my means.

[@veronicalopez6187]

Ssaaammmmeeee 😭😭 I will starve before I ask for a dime

[@TheBrandC_J]

I think there should be a proper way to ask for favour. Particularly financial favor. However, we need to learn to how to be polite in our everyday conversation. It will help a lot.

[@danishawilliams7204]

I'm like Adrienne on this one, I can't ask for help

[@ChangeIsGood7775]

Garcelle said “no you won’t with my pockets” 😂

[@Amberrechelle]

LORDD! I don’t like asking for help !!!! I WONT !! Literally unless it’s certain people I trust that when I ask them they won’t hold it over my head

[@Nique1986]

I was just like Adrienne I never wanted to asked for help I remember when I got divorce it was a ruff time me and my daughter and family would ask if we were ok if we needed help I would say no I’m good and continue working two jobs tired etc all because of pride and not wanting to be seen as weak so I still don’t ask for help as much as I should but I am a work in progress lol😂😂

[@Bee-wd4mh]

I think you are kind enough to want to help me😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🏾

[@zeytunaden9165]

I’m just like Adrienne, it’s hard for me to ask for help

[@9188jenni]

I was just like her and then God put me in life or death situations and i had to ask repeatedly over and over again. I even annoyed myself. And felt every horrible emotion. I judged myself. People judged me, so i knew they werent my people. And i WAS rejected many times. But guess what now im freee. i can ask for help and face the rejection and judgement. Its ok

[@ullthankmelater]

I’m like Adrienne I don’t ask for help/money from ANYONE. EVER. If I can’t find a way to get it myself, I’ll go without it. I will never give anyone the opportunity to say no to me in my lowest moments.

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly 💯💯👏🏽👏🏽

[@jessecorrea1297]

Jeannie’s INSANELY beautiful 😢

[@teresamarie7460]

Most people are INSANELY beautiful with makeup, filters, and/or lighting. She just admitted it...

[@jessecorrea1297]

@@teresamarie7460 chill lol

[@alexafoote1928]

The kids I can understand since they are young and impressionable. It's the ADULTS that live for social media validation that concern me the most. They can't even lead by example.

[@teresamarie7460]

🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@unnderneath]

9:56 Garcelle had me rolling LMFAO! 🤣

[@mommab1969]

As a parent, it difficult to see how these affect young people. The likes,the filters... teens and young adults with unrealistic expectations of beauty and believe they are ugly because they don't look like those filtered pictures out there. Natural is beautiful too. How about we as adults strive to teach these young people that. A filter is just a mask, like a Halloween costume. Be real, and truthful about who you are and what you look like. Without a mask/filter ...you...are...beautiful!

[@mt3388]

Agreed! 💕

[@ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy]

Love these ladies 💜

[@mt3388]

Would I still be up on the gram without filters? Heck yes. I’m a 90’s baby. I’m used to the no filters LOL. In fact, I purposefully either don’t use filters, or use the mildest ones, because I’m so aware that I don’t look that way - I don’t want to get caught in person looking less than. I feel like the filters thing is for either famous or younger people. I want to look and feel good in real life.

[@rashidareeves78]

Adrienne, as a Christian you should know "Pride cometh before the fall". 💚

[@Anas-rx1he]

Did anyone else get flashbacks of the lie detector test on The Real and everyone said they wouldn’t loan Adrienne money? Lmao.

[@jyn88]

Oh yes Tamar was still around that time. That was a funny question.

[@Starmafengu5335]

🤣🤣🤣

[@a.sydney5036]

Dammmmmn, Loni looks pretty today.

[@annedumornay95]

I agree ladies. Honestly is the best policy‼️

[@breshanjasper4182]

I hate asking for favors, I give before I ask anything

[@jessielynn]

As far as giving money, if I don’t have it to gift, I don’t have it to loan.

[@hannahbean9655]

I'm with A on this. I am terrified to post pictures of myself WITH a filter because I’m afraid that I won’t want to post another picture of myself without it once I see howi look with it. I love Garcelle‘s earngs by the way! And y’all need to like chill out with the "you do you" because there is a ripple effect in case y'all forgot. Js.

[@Prosper927]

🤣😂🤣😂 Gotta love Loni and her jokes 👌🏿😁

[@anitaspencer3885]

goodness gracious, I’m like Adrienne, I can’t ask for help.

[@latoyah07]

Correction Garcelle - not everyone is stereotypically “beautiful”

[@maureene7138]

The ladies look amazing 👏 😍

[@zolfaabdulmalik3610]

I totally feel Adrienne

[@freshangel1]

Gravelly is soooooo BEAUTIFUL! This is her beautiful

[@alexandraanderson3988]

Garcelle* but yeah even tho this wasn't really my favorite look from her but yeah she is

[@tashawilliams8093]

Certain moments in my childhood caused me to be like Adrienne when it comes to asking for help even at work.

[@lilyeri8937]

Omg I’m exactly like Adrienne I cringe at the thought of asking for help

[@mt3388]

Same I just can’t...why do you think it is? Is it the fear that we feel like someone could hold it against us? The fear that we’re in debt to someone? The fear that we couldn’t do something on our own? I’m not sure but I annoy my own self sometimes by being like this lol. The things I’ve put myself through just to not ask for help...just ridiculous.

[@fransayss]

Bruh sitting here and realizing I’m like Adrienne when it comes to guys specifically 😂

[@thuang2800]

I also think ppl are afraid to ask for a favor is because they rarely help people out

[@piyushwagh8363]

Nope! I get immense joy in helping people but cant ask for no favour. I just makes my skin crawl.

[@sandrahilaire-madsen8105]

Not true. I would empty my savings to help someone but would never ask people for money when I'm in need.

[@thuang2800]

Ok. Thats another angle. Thanks guys

[@alittlebitofthisandthatwit3143]

Those days in the club was strobe light fever 😂

[@madalynmellor4391]

Love watching you guys from across the pond ☺️🇬🇧💓

[@darldinaebot3814]

Beauty should be measured by personality, not a face.

[@paigecammack5445]

It’s crazy because I am just like Adrienne I will Starve before I ask someone for a penny and it’s not pride at all it’s just some women are just so use to being independent if I don’t have it I just don’t have it

[@MajesticMyronn]

I think somebody asking for a favor no matter what... as long as they are able to give back to the same person they’re always asking to help then it should!!

[@LIFEwithAnsu]

Totally off topic but the ladies look absolutely gorgeous!!!

[@anatvtime4323]

Do away with likes and followers like Garcell said. Ppl are. Obsessed

[@jayekisses]

If u keep getting bad/mean comments on your page...turn your comments off or block the person doing it U don’t like what u see on social media unfollow & block the people that u don’t like U have the control of what u see on your social media. It’s not that hard to fix these things that hurt your feelings or make u insecure. Your page is YOURS so don’t let others dictate what u see it’s that simple. Apps & socials getting rid of the filters aren’t going to make your insecurities go away u have to work on them for yourself

[@tiffanychestnut6513]

Adrienne I would like to say please be mindful of something they call Tech Neck. Holding your head down on the phone reading and just bad posture. Man when I heal from this neck pain that causes very bad headaches. I pay attention to my neck and posture now. I retired from playing Candy Crush and being on social media all the time.

[@ALINAA]

Adrienne was your mom able to ask your dad for money comfortably when you were a kid?

[@rosecineas5822]

hello hunny Jeannie Mai HUNNY you look beautiful, YOU ARE GLOWING!!

[@yenitaylor683]

Jeannie at 6:39-6:43 😭😭

[@ashleyprude3662]

I love y'all ladies y'all so cute.

[@cavavillven508]

If asking me for a favor is anything other than a direct question I get pissed. Don't butter me up with random conversation. Pisses me off lol! Just ask what you want to ask!

[@London2231]

Loni looks gorgeous

[@hollyshropshire6458]

It’s really sad actually, some girls were never taught to love themselves and As a teenager or someone in their 20s heck even 30s it’s a journey to self love. The thing is some people ( celebrities) have resources at their disposal to make themselves permanently filtered

[@hollyshropshire6458]

Then when an average person doesn’t have that resource mental illness sets in

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@sindisiwekunene2154]

Today Jeannie looks like Brenda Song - a lot!

[@moniquemontes4202]

I'm totally like Adrienne in this way to.

[@oliviabulanda9715]

I am like Adrian a person who needs help and I feel so ashamed For asking.

[@deilugo4813]

I realize I'm a better friend then my friends are to me.... Tell me why a friend asked me for money to pay for rent and bills for her and her baby, I met up with her on Monday to give her money, and tell me why, when I saw her on Thursday, the same week, she had her nails done, hair did????? I never been so bothered in my life.

[@tashawilliams8093]

SMH.

[@jojocluddy2534]

Loni @6:38 😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheBrandC_J]

Why is it that whenever one ask for a favor our minds will be directed to MONEY. 💭🤔

[@jyn88]

Right. I didn't think of it because I don't ask for money lol. I was thinking of like doing some errand or providing some kind of service.

[@evek2572]

📍good point

[@lilianagarcia2965]

Yes Garclelle with doing away with Likes 👏👏👏

[@RealTakerslady]

I agree with Jeannie

[@KarmaCame]

You can still use filters straight from your cell phone now....and apps.

[@ryangrahamndoro7747]

Yeah yeah I'd do what Adrienne is saying

[@celestesharp6120]

Adults, what you're saying is true about social media. But children and teens are very impressionable, and they are the most influenced by these things. It depends on the age of a majority of your audience.

[@Tressesbyjoanmary]

Tv is totally a filter! 😂 the fun of Instagram are the filters tho!