The public speaking lesson you never had | DK . | TEDxNelson

Got an important presentation or pitch coming up and struggling to prepare? This will help: explore the three elements which make up a great talk plus a Jedi-mind trick that reframes those nerves once and for all. DK justadandak.com is a Creative Producer who 'crafts delicious learning experiences' online, in-studio or in-person. He spent nearly a decade as the TEDxWellington / TEDxWellingtonWomen licensee plus founder of the unique video podcast Creative Welly www.creativewelly.com and the annual Creative Leadership NZ conference www.creativeleadership.nz.
He’s also a Speaker Coach, working with CEO’s and senior executives plus a random ex-All Black and Dame thrown into the mix plus delivers internal masterclasses on the topics of 'purposeful storytelling' to leadership groups.
He has spoken on five continents to audiences large & small, and is driven to enable people find and have voice. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@RiccardoCugnasco]

Very cool speech! "You're not nervous, you're excited." Changed everything for me🔥

[@justadandak]

Thanks for taking the time to watch and so glad reframing your nerves to excitement had such a positive impact 🙂

[@RiccardoCugnasco]

@@justadandak 🙏♥️🔥

[@XMostaxX]

I think that's lying to yourself, but if it works then that's great. I believe you should acknowledge that you have a problem and work on it, instead of calling it something that it is not it.

[@rwatson2609]

@@XMostaxX That would be true with driving a car, performing ballet or even being into an MMA fight. With those things the result could be bad if you really weren't any good. But if what separates you from a regular conversation with your friends that flows well, and a complete washout of a conversation, is 150 pairs of eyes, then lying to yourself is Legit. Matter of fact, I seriously thought of putting on glasses that blurred everything.

[@ma.2733]

I never knew the difference of nervous/excited either when I was young but, I knew I was good at what I was about to do everytime

[@user-hn4nk1lm7p]

"You are not nervous, you are exited" love it!

[@justadandak]

Many thanks - hope it helps 🙂

[@SriGoverdhanSam]

3 points to note when presenting (and preparing) 1. Grace 2. Credibility 3. Resonance Change the perspective of "I am nervous" to "I am excited."! and Box breathing.

[@justadandak]

Great summary - thanks for watching / sharing!

[@Ionic457]

Based comment

[@riccanourma]

Thanx for your notes

[@soujiroshinmercado3805]

s🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:01 Overcoming *fear of public speaking involves mastering three key elements: Grace, Credibility, and Resonance.* 01:41 The *speaker shares a personal journey of overcoming a hearing impairment and turning a deficiency into a speaking skill.* 03:34 The *importance of vulnerability in public speaking is highlighted, with an example of a successful and impactful talk that involved audience interaction and dancing.* 04:30 The *key components of a great talk are revealed: Grace (how you say it), Credibility (what you say), and Resonance (how the audience feels).* 05:28 The *speaker discusses the importance of physicality, focusing on avoiding distracting movements like the "hip Bop" and "one-legged walk-in," and introduces the "soft rock star pose."* 07:33 Techniques *to control body movements are shared, such as avoiding excessive swiveling and addressing shaking hands by giving them a purpose.* 08:57 The *pitfalls of using a script in public speaking are outlined, emphasizing the negative impact of visible nervousness when holding a script.* 11:14 The *influence of TED talks on raising audience expectations is discussed, and the speaker advises on crafting a great story with brevity and lived experience.* 14:30 The *speaker warns against using bullet points in presentations, stressing the importance of breaking up complex information to maintain audience attention.* 15:54 Resonance *is introduced as the emotional connection with the audience, and the speaker emphasizes the need to humanize information and consider the emotional spectrum.* 17:30 A *Jedi mind trick involving a breathing exercise is shared to help speakers overcome nervousness by reframing it as excitement.* Made with HARPA AIu

[@theresabennett915]

God bless you for this information. Everything you said was very helpful. I am so glad you had caring parents that made sure you had the necessary medical tear with your hearing and speech. God is Grace! May God continue blessing you with public speaking. I pray I can keep an audience attention when I speak. Blessings! 🙏🙏

[@justadandak]

Thank you for the kind words

[@raiderkeno]

I used to be terrified to speak in front of crowds. Even very small Crowds. The build up And anticipating going into the meeting gets super physical, shaking, sweating, can’t breathe. I have even had to excuse myself, horrible. My high paying job required me to do this. I contemplated quitting my job it was bad because I have a family to take care of. I ended up going to the doctors and they were able to give me something which really helped me get through a couple years and then it got to the point I needed less, and then none. I had built my confidence up enough and I realized I wasn’t going to die standing up there. Another life hurdle behind me.

[@justadandak]

Great to hear you were able to tackle the challenge and now flourishing!

[@Brainbuster]

What did the doctor give you?

[@raiderkeno]

@@Brainbuster Propranolol

[@Brainbuster]

@@raiderkeno Thank you.

[@inara6350]

Tbh this is one of the best videos I've seen on public speaking. Great advice, hope it helps me next week! 😬 (excited, not nervous)😁

[@justadandak]

Wow, thank you and wishing you all the best for next week, you got this!

[@sabrasheedy9205]

I Could Not Agree with you More. I'm going To be presenting a seminar in the Very near future.

[@ZIDANz]

and after 6 months I'm curious what happened in the session?

[@Doomman213]

How did it go

[@inara6350]

@@ZIDANz so I totally forgot to reply...lol. It went well, I was obv nervous and my voice was cracking AND I AM SO GLAD IT'S OVER😅 We got all the points, so that's great, there were also nice comments by my colleagues. But damn that was such a scary thing😭

[@traciblom7764]

“Speaking is more about listening than talking.” If you get the right components together, you can get people to move. GRACE - It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. Feet Stop the Hip Bop. Lean on one hip. Then lean on the other. Stop One-Leg Walking. Step forward with one foot again and again. Do the Soft Rock Star Pose. Squarely plant your feet shoulder width apart. Stand first before you speak. Waist Do not do the Swivel Around move. Hands Hand gestures are good, but doing a hand gesture for every point is distracting. Shaking. Give the hands something to do instead (like hold the clicker by the side of the body). Hold onto a hankie and put your hand into your pocket. Don’t use a script Paper begins to rock for you since your hands are shaking. You can’t practice public speaking. You can only prepare how you’re going to feel (physiological responses) when you do public speaking. Condense speech down to bullet points. They become what you say and the stories you tell. CREDIBILITY - The stories you choose to tell and how you tell them. Woodrow Wilson - “If I am to speak for ten minutes, I need a week for preparation; if fifteen minutes, three days, if half an hour, two days; if an hour, I am ready now.” Brevity is tough to do. Use any of the many outline options. It can be as simple as the basic “Tell me what you’re going to tell me. Tell me. Tell me what you told me.” Tell lived-experienced stories. If you use bullet points, start with the picture first. Then add the bullet point after you have finished. Then talk about the next point before showing it on the screen. If all the bullet points are on the screen, people will be reading. RESONANCE - Audience’s role in the talk. It’s how you leave them feeling. Maya Angelou - “...People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” You don’t want people to leave with a sense of meh - no feeling; just information. Instead, humanize the information as much as possible. The presenter of the information needs to give emotional cues to the audience about how they should be feeling at certain points in the story. People will mirror your emotions. JEDI MIND TRICK Calm parasympathetic system before you begin. Breathe deeply and yawn as you match your breathing to the breathing circle that goes in and out. Tell yourself, “You’re not nervous; you’re excited.”

[@guisellavillavicencio2721]

Wow thanks

[@mandianthony7065]

❤

[@abasionojohn4040]

You're awesome for doing this! Thanks!

[@justadandak]

Impressive notes that - thanks for doing that for others and for your time 🙂

[@rajatjhingan8258]

God Bless You

[@LandoPiastri]

Thanks for this and all your content! This channel helps so many people from all walks of life and it is so underrated. Keep giving education and the internet a good name please

[@adnansamir1288]

In summary : Learn the importance of grace, credibility, and resonance when delivering a great talk. Use the "soft rock star pose" to exude confidence, condense your script to tell lived experience stories, and engage the audience emotionally for better resonance.

[@justadandak]

Boom - nailed it 🙂

[@lolalee6256]

The most practical public speaking advice I've been given! Thank you for this great gift! Looking forward to showing my students your video next week.

[@justadandak]

Appreciate those very kind words - an easy gift to share and love the re-gifting now to your students 😉

[@lolalee6256]

🥰🥰🥰@@justadandak

[@godivaodonata]

DK-great Talk! (And, if you haven't already, you should check out the graphic novel, El Deafo.) Looking forward to more from you! 👏

[@justadandak]

Thank you and yes will check it out

[@kingofwakanda091]

He changed the way I speak and think about public speaking. I wish I could have seen this video earlier!🔥

[@justadandak]

Thanks for leaving the comment and all the best in your current & future speaking endeavours!

[@happinessyogateacher]

Best vocal quality I’ve heard yet on TED. Someone get all the tech details and let us know. Fabulously rich baritone vocals help, too!

[@justadandak]

All down to the TEDxNelson tech crew (plus my parents and their genes along with growing up in the valleys of South Wales) 🙂

[@brittanyjordan6284]

I listened this ted talk maybe a year or two ago. I was doing some research on Public Speaking again and came across this video. At the time I didn't think I had seen it before, until I realized I have utilized his tips without even knowing it. Awesome.

[@justadandak]

Glad it had a positive impact 🙂

[@ramsesrameez5430]

Indeed having fun sometime even you are alone creates a huge change into your mind and your body behaviour

[@user-dd2gi1er6m]

The speech is really incredible. Most non verbal cues like the shaking of hands are not intentional. It's a ashamed that I'm that kind of person.

[@justadandak]

Thank you for such kind words and no reason to be ashamed of shaking - I used to for years then after lots of exposure and preparedness I no longer shake :-)

[@goldenspark24]

This is Golden I'm not nervous, I'm Excited... - Grace, Credibility and Resonance

[@justadandak]

You are Golden!

[@delilah8482]

watching this before my speech that's happening in 12 hours, let me tell you, it made me very excited, not nervous at all thank you sir

[@justadandak]

WONDERFUL - how did it go?

[@leratomangena514]

You helped come to the realisation that I get excited more than I get nervous about the opportunity to MC events at work. Thank you for your work.

[@justadandak]

Thank you for the comment and attention - all the best in your future MC work :-)

[@Stephanie-vy4zs]

This was wonderful advice. I will be taking my first public speaking class in college this January and I will be returning to this video for pointers!

[@JohnFitzgeraldKennedy.]

Hey Stephanie I hope it went great....🤜🏽🤛🏽

[@sarasavanovic6708]

Let us know how it went. 😊

[@justadandak]

Truly hope the class went well and you were able to apply some of the lessons here, there 🙂

[@justadandak]

Sorry I missed this comment and thanks for the compliment - do hope it helped in your class :-)

[@emmanuelbaraka]

its very wise to teach people on public speaking

[@justadandak]

I think so as well 🙂

[@mariastevenson1291]

Hearing this segment helped out a lot because I have to a speech and I am terrible about speaking in public, especially to people whom I don't know. Thanks again for this!

[@justadandak]

And thank you for leaving such a lovely comment - wishing you all the success in future speeches you have!

[@netaroberts8996]

That’s the opposite for me, it’s more my colleagues / peers I get more nervous with. Awesome video though

[@LittleChimpZerg]

​@@netaroberts8996I'm with you bud

[@daveanthony6710]

@@justadandak pop

[@daveanthony6710]

@@justadandak ppp

[@learnenglishwithpallavianand]

Absolutely wonderful presentation dear speaker. Thanks for sharing your insights! 👍

[@justadandak]

Thank you for the wonderful comment - all the best!

[@ramsesrameez5430]

Well indeed you have given a good advise to your listeners..

[@Nisaa587]

This language is very important and use develope our knowledge

[@marycjey4141]

A person like me who wants to become an effective communicator, Tedtalk has been a huge help. Thank you for your good platform.👏

[@justadandak]

Glad it had a positive impact. All the best with your journey 🙂

[@DearDragonfly]

Engaging presentation with great tips and advice. I have favourited this video so I can revisit it again in the future :)

[@justadandak]

*double thumbs up*

[@thekaywehtv]

This was so awesome. It definitely motivated me to make my next KZbin video literally right now! Thank you for this. Wow!

[@justadandak]

Whoop whoop!

[@Lyndsey-shelley]

Loved this ❤ very engaging talk with some great tips , agree with the last bit about excitement… My personal definition of fear is FEELING EXCITED AND READY 🔥🔥🔥

[@justadandak]

Thanks for making the time to watch and leave the kind comment - great reframe of 'fear' here as well, totally energising.

[@amaangamer9607]

A very good speech to tell us that you are not nervous but you are just excited

[@justadandak]

Thank you.

[@rezkinaitlaziz1040]

Thank you soooo much I did great just by applying your advices 🙏

[@justadandak]

Thank you for leaving a comment and letting us know it had a positive impact - brilliant to hear 😊

[@pollybuthelezi8889]

Thank you, Nelson 💫

[@Maynificent]

I'm preparing for big job interview tomorrow and I feel like I'm spiraling into a nervous breakdown lol but hearing this reminds me to see it as a something cool and fun I get to experience. Excited, not nervous! Thank you 🫶

[@justadandak]

WONDERFUL to hear it had such a positive impact in reframing those nerves - how did the interview go?

[@OmerAsh]

Yo we need an update.

[@sabrasheedy9205]

You'll Do Awesomely.

[@moircandlecompany]

Hope your interview went well🎉

[@HYPOTHALAMUS99]

Thanks for sharing, amazing speech!

[@justadandak]

Thanks for watching.

[@ramsesrameez5430]

Well speaking power comes when your are confident and good at your emotional

[@justadandak]

You are right - such a challenge for many to control both aspects though hence the talk 🙂

[@pharmclare]

Resonate indeed. Thank you for sharing

[@justadandak]

And thank you for watching / leaving a thanks 🙂

[@webbfamily3694]

As someone who is hearing impaired and scheduled to tell my story in front of 130 ppl. I’m running to it. Ty!!

[@justadandak]

Wow wishing you nothing but positivity and I have no doubt it will be a great experience for all - let us know how it went!

[@yashodalakshmaiah7157]

I am being a confident person while I am typing this lesson

[@thetwistedhealer]

I really needed this!! Loved it❤

[@justadandak]

Many thanks 🙂

[@susinayatapia87]

Thank you very much....this talk has literally helped me overcome my nervousness and fear...❤🙏

[@justadandak]

Amazing to hear about the positive impact and thanks for leaving the comment.

[@omotoshopius4900]

Hi susina

[@susinayatapia87]

@@omotoshopius4900 hello

[@graceHumphreyy]

After watching this video, I feel empowered!

[@justadandak]

Amazing to hear - makes it worthwhile 🙂

[@openwindowsopendoors2688]

Awesome job!!!❤

[@justadandak]

*bows*

[@Nisaa587]

Public speech is very clear....and easy

[@ramsesrameez5430]

It's simple like you have to be in focused you have to mind your self your thoughts. Speak Valve words and only speak when others are interested in you want you to listen.

[@NicoleDMunoz]

I’m not nervous to speak, im excited ❤

[@justadandak]

That you are 🙂

[@sabrasheedy9205]

Thank You So Much for this. I'm Going Too Be presenting a seminar in the Very near future. I'm excited about Doing this. Can't Wait. Watching And getting What I needed You Gave me. I thank you So Much. I'm So Ready for This seminar it's So Very important! Given to what's going on in the world. I would Love To see More of Your speaking. Thanks again for your help and Time.

[@justadandak]

Thanks for taking the time to watch and all the best with the presentation you're giving - please do let us know how it goes and remember: you're not nervous you're excited!

[@soulfitlitinft]

Very professional very top g class

[@justadandak]

Thank you

[@francescomanier1246]

13:30 lived experience stories is the main message from this speech!

[@justadandak]

Boom - definitely an important element in delivering great presentations!

[@_NAANMIBAWA_]

This was a great talk. Thank you.🤗

[@justadandak]

Thank you for taking the time to watch and leave a kind message 🙂

[@sortasussy]

This is very helpful for pace🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@justadandak]

Great that it aids 🙂

[@nikhilkjoshi]

Thank you DK - Jedi trick is awesome

[@justadandak]

Appreciated and glad you liked the little trick ;-)

[@TheCodeCobalt]

This is good. Thanks so much for this.

[@justadandak]

Thanks for spending time watching and sharing such a positive review 🙂

[@womayibrian3845]

Have a presentation tomorrow.Thought i was nervous.....turns out am just excited.Good luck to me

[@justadandak]

Good luck indeed - sorry I missed the opportunity to say that before your presentation - how did it go with your new found excitement?

[@akaKendraProctor]

This was a gem! 💎

[@justadandak]

You're a 💎

[@onaopemipodara1634]

Nailed it!👏

[@justadandak]

*bows*

[@dariopalmieri7572]

4:30

[@dr.aanotnot3726]

Why is not anyone laughing 😭

[@obeserage3075]

Why is English broken 😂

[@Shadoufang]

Member cause the mic isn't picking up the extra sounds such as laughter and squeaky seats.

[@leprotagonist2197]

That’s New Zealand for you 🧐

[@hello5007]

They’re not a very responsive audience, are they? Poor guy (unless the mic is just not picking up the sounds from the audience).

[@francescomanier1246]

They laughed once, if I counted correctly!

[@ramsesrameez5430]

Just take sometime for your self go and chill out do what ever is your passion you will aromatically be at your peak of your good emotional

[@ricardoxmit2010]

Super well done mate! Great tips!!

[@justadandak]

*deep waist bows*

[@lodzkapatologia]

Excellent tips actually

[@justadandak]

Appreciated.

[@rwatson2609]

Excellent advice, I really never thought of how I looked on stage, will need a bit of glue on my shoes to solve that problem. Great Ted talk, Also, Nice old 2 stroke 250.

[@justadandak]

So glad it resonated - in the past I've put some tape on the bottoms of my clients shoes to make then 'feel' how much they were walking, try that 😉 thanks again!

[@sulbhakuttabadkar]

Very good presenting by the person

[@FKU7777]

Great speech mate. I breathe really shallow and run out of breath due to massive anxiety, it’s so bad it’s a vicious circle as I’m anticipating the short breaths. Would be good to see how to combat this in terms of breathing cadence.

[@johnmaclean9915]

I had anxiety about public speaking, so I joined Toastmasters. It's been a huge help to me.

[@financefoundations]

You’re not anxious, you’re excited ☺️

[@wendylorimer5663]

Maybe do some breathing exercise without thinking about the public speaking part?

[@justadandak]

I hear you and used to be like that. If you practice breathing slow before any talk for a few minutes then attempt to slow your speaking down a little also, you'll hopefully find that has a massive impact in your oratory practice. You can also add in pauses between your statements, to break up the pattern of speech, which in turn gives you time to deeply inhale as well. Hope that helps and all the best in your future talks.

[@teresiadlamini138]

This was well presented.

[@justadandak]

Thank you

[@wealthynotrichwnr6874]

I wish I watched this earlier , great video!!

[@justadandak]

Thanks for the compliment :-)

[@challengeyourperception]

He made some good points

[@rahmaba4793]

I liked the bullet point slide 😅

[@rnoga90]

بسم الله ماشاء الله تبارك الله ربي يحفظك ويبارك فيك ويسعدك يارب اخي العزيز ❤تحياتي واحترامي لحضرتك أن شاءالله يدوم الود ❤

[@vikivoicecoach]

hands down one of the best speeches ever :)

[@justadandak]

Wow that's such high praise - thank you!!!

[@thepeckhampoet1909]

I'm a hip hoper, I never noticed it while on stage I only noticed it when watching a video back I noticed me swaying side to side.

[@justadandak]

Hope the 'soft rockstar pose' helps you going forward - a fun thing to do is watch yourself back via a recording that's sped up and then you'll see more clearly the repeated nuances 🙂

[@thepeckhampoet1909]

@@justadandak thanks, that's a good idea watching it back speeded up a little. Cheers

[@user-ue8hi2he3i]

Very great speech

[@justadandak]

Thank you for your time in watching :-)

[@Samsung-qn4cq]

Good job🥰🥰

[@justadandak]

*smiles*

[@penab5983]

Great lesson

[@justadandak]

So glad it connected and thanks for making time to watch / leave a comment.

[@marcohinojosa1997]

Sooooo good

[@justadandak]

Appreciated.

[@oisikabhanja]

excellent!! so cool!! thanks :)

[@justadandak]

Thank you 🙂

[@rosenatasha2734]

I rarely feel anxious or feel fear before and during public speaking. It's the aftermath when I start wondering about any mistakes and things I didn't say but should have said. Also, any tips to keep speeches much shorter but sweet?

[@justadandak]

Ah yeh that negative reflective loop and regret - this could be about spending more time preparing what you're going to say. Simple bullet points of stories and how they relate to the topic being discussed. This will help with brevity also (a skill to master) - my fav quote on this is: "Make sure that you have finished speaking before your audience has finished listening! " -Dorothy Sarnoff -> again this is about being that preparation - good luck 🙂

[@simonmulengamwila328]

Great tips mate

[@justadandak]

Appreciate your time / comment 🙂

[@subratadesign]

❤❤

[@omotoshopius4900]

I wish to be mentor by you sir😔

[@ringtone7007]

This was wonderful advice ! 💖

[@justadandak]

So nice of you to say, thank you.

[@Ionic457]

Epic

[@av928]

helpful..

[@Laura-xt9ch]

Tough audience!!!

[@justadandak]

They were great actually - the mics aren't picking up the responses so it sounds like there weren't any (although there was).

[@roseleenezackariyas6257]

For a moment I thought it's Sandeep Maheshwari

[@paulinewachira5839]

1.simple speech model: Glet up,tell me what you gonna tell me,tell me,tell me what you told me 2.Segmetize_bullet points kill attention 3.Grace, credibility &resonance

[@justadandak]

Nailed it - thanks for taking the time to watch and leaving these summarising breadcrumbs for others to find 🙂

[@paulinewachira5839]

You're welcome

[@user-cx1uu1yd4f]

How to improve my public speaking at frist stage

[@harrypearle9781]

TERRIFIC I think it would be great to have the TEXT of this talk, as well, to focus on parts. THANKS so much. I feel more confident, already, after listening just one time. BWELL ======================================================================

[@harrypearle9781]

thanks much

[@jmccullough662]

You can find the transcript if you click on 'more' under the title.

[@justadandak]

Thanks Harry for those kind words and well wishes, plus hope you found the transcript as 'jmccullough662' suggested - all the best to you.

[@avinashmokashe527]

🔥🇮🇳

[@MargaretGibson-tg8xc]

why isn't the only research that should be considered reliable created directly from the experience and opinions of the handicapped when it concerns all things concerning the handicapped

[@DennisPinpin]

I could not find the name of the speaker until I settled on the cryptic DK. Turned out that’s what his handle is. but what does it stand for?

[@emmanuelbaraka]

nice

[@valeriebwilliams701]

Oh wow. ASL

[@praburaj1127]

* tell me what you gonna tell me ; tell me ; tell me what you toll me ; * Nancy Duarte - The secret structure of great talks

[@AbodiE-yl3mm]

Why it's not translated

[@user-mw1kv7vh8n]

Where can I get this GIF :)

[@inceleni]

ayyy can i have that video's link!!

[@justadandak]

Feel free to reach out direct if you want the link to the expanding and contracting gif (if that's what you mean - link in desciption to my website where I can be easily contacted direct) - if not, what link do you mean?

[@suhsienkuan]

@@justadandaklove your talk, and the accent! Can you share the contracting and expanding blue dot please?

[@justadandak]

@@suhsienkuan thank you and yes, happy to - drop us a note via my website (link in video description)

[@DronkenDrenthen]

just sniff a few lines of pure colombian, you'll do just fine.

[@emmanuel64042]

Dalu Nelson

[@Anthophile03]

I'm only 15 years old but I also want to become a public speaker but idk which subject i should choose in 11th and what to do???😢

[@justadandak]

Hey there - choose the subjects which both align with your interest and talent as well as have opportunities to present verbally the most. Other than that attend other TEDx events in your area, Pecha Kuchas, Ignite sessions, Creative Mornings meetups etc to also get exposure to other speakers plus potentially put yourself forward to speak yourself. All the best!

[@Anthophile03]

@@justadandak thank you very much sir 🙏🏻