How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman | TEDxUniversityofBristol

[@zacgulbranson]

Richard Newman is the absolute man! Such an inspiration . A wealth of knowledge, and great mind . Next level Richard , killing it!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Zac! I gave it my all!

[@shannonnikita]

The way that he is able to talk so candidly about his struggles is just so heartfelt, I literally just want to hug him.

[@silviapalagi]

Definitely choked up around the 13:45 mark. I think that little boy would be so proud of who you became 💜

[@UKBodyTalk]

Thanks Silvia!

[@iamtheunusualsuspect]

the way he broke down charisma into learnable skills was pretty awesome... I always thought some people were just born with it, but maybe I can level up my own charm game!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Everyone can learn it!

[@iamtheunusualsuspect]

@@richardnewmanspeaks yes, true they can, but will they

[@khloetaylor1674]

His breakdown of the 3-part storytelling structure blew my mind. I bet I’m going to start seeing it everywhere now

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Khloe! Yes, it's everywhere!

[@kasperean]

The whole idea of “Head, Hands, Heart” as a communication tool is so good! Simple but powerful. I can see how it would be practical for daily interactions

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@kasperean]

@@richardnewmanspeaks you are very welcome..

[@marekzagdanski]

From not being able to join a group conversation to being a communications expert is crazy. Really speaks to the power of determination.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

absolutely, I think it's a pretty wonderful transformation

[@aaronereid]

Love that he just kept taking it to the next level in terms of learning about communication. Really cool that he drew from so many different sources as well

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Aaron!

[@eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean]

the feet together vs. shoulder-width apart demonstration was pretty cool! Love that such a small and easy change can make such a difference in how we're perceived.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes, small changes that are easy to make can have a massive impact

[@ClusterofHope]

Loved how he talks about being open and brave and how it helps us make genuine connections. It's tempting to stay guarded and keep things shallow, but he's right - taking a chance on being rejected is worth it to feel fully alive and connected.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated with you!

[@sukyevers]

Same, I thought this was so wonderful and brave on his behalf

[@kiankaskert7925]

Really appreciate how he demystifies the art of communication with clear, actionable steps.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you , glad you enjoyed it!

[@raquel-mercedes]

The scientific backing really strengthens his points on body language and communication effectiveness! Well done on putting it all together in a way that makes sense

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

I appreciate that!

[@hollytrichards]

His explanation of the head, hands, heart model is a game-changer for public speakers. Well done to him on going to such lengths to understand and improve himself.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Holly! Glad it resonated with you!

[@sukyevers]

Yes! To everyone I think, not just public speakers.

[@thephilosopher59]

Wow, I'm speechless in a good way. This has truly gone right to the heart of things. You may have heard these secrets before in different ways, though never like this. Definitely he walks the talk, exactly in what he's talking about. The best of all is his recommendation on what to drop. So worth watching, and more than once!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much! I appreciate your message and feel grateful this connected with you.

[@elisbrokli]

It’s incredible how small changes in body language can influence how others perceive and react to you!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true!

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

His point about needing courage, humility, and vulnerability for real connection is something we should all strive for. It's not easy, but it's worth it.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@brunodstone]

The idea that storytelling can galvanize people and create unity is powerful. It makes me want to be more mindful of the stories I share and how I communicate them.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Glad to hear you were inspired, thanks!

[@samanthaabadi]

His experiences make me wonder what I could achieve if I pushed myself out of my comfort zone more often, super inspiring, thank you.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Go for it, Samantha!

[@artcornish3520]

His call to use our voices to bring people together and "tilt the world in a positive direction" was kind of wonderful. It makes me want to be more deliberate about connecting with others through how I communicate.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

yeah exactly, what's the point in being able to communicate well if you're not using it to connect in a positive way

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@mickeyrat-da-rat]

Loved how candid he was about his struggles with autism. I think way more people have it than what we even realize and content like this goes a long way towards destigmatizing

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@taylorpjansen]

Loved how he explained the Triune brain theory and how it relates to storytelling and communication. Making complex scientific concepts accessible is a true skill!

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks Taylor! Yes my goal is to make everything simple and straightforward for everyone.

[@58vette]

Never knew that gesturing more could actually help us think better! Guess it explains why I always talk with my hands when I'm trying to explain something complicated

[@TheyCallMeYellowGello]

the part about autism and social interactions was eye-opening. gave me a new perspective on the challenges some people face daily. I'm going to try to be more patient and understanding in my interactions from now on.

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

what an awesome thing to take away from this

[@VodkaByNight]

The personal story of overcoming communication barriers as someone who is introverted and autistic gives so much hope and inspiration to others facing similar challenges. Glad he was given the opportunity and platform to share his story and advice.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much, glad you liked it!

[@sukyevers]

Definitely, I have an autistic grandchild so seeing things like this is very reassuring

[@tinycockcroft]

The studies about body language and its impact on how others perceive you were really interesting. Had no idea such small changes can make a big difference in how you're received.

[@sofiatclara]

mind blown by this talk! never realized how much our body language impacts others' perceptions. gonna be way more aware of my stance and gestures from now on.

[@spaghety9174]

I think this shows such dedication! Not many people would go to this extent to master something, let alone communication

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@thiagodornelas131]

I thought it was really sweet that he was able to be so vulnerable with us, was a great way to demonstrate some of his points.

[@liftretreat9821]

Thank you!

[@katyabradova]

That moment when he described his first day at school was heartbreaking but so powerful in understanding his journey.

[@liftretreat9821]

Thank you Katya 🙏🏻

[@katyabradova]

@@liftretreat9821 , you are so welcome...

[@jackbenns]

The three-part brain theory and how it applies to storytelling was really insightful! It makes sense to engage all those parts of the mind to make an impact

[@-OpenDiary-]

Seeing him cry while rehearsing part of this talk was really powerful. It showed just how much reconnecting with vulnerability meant to him. Mad respect that he chose to include that

[@kyleighmcdowell]

Absolutely, made him so much more endearing

[@oilverdennison]

The breakdown of how storytelling, body language, and emotional presence can be merged to improve personal impact was very insightful. It's amazing how simple adjustments in nonverbal cues can drastically change perception.

[@sukyevers]

Yes, and it makes it all the more easier when we're aware of it

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

[@oilverdennison]

@@richardnewmanspeaks I did, thanks for speaking...

[@amayaroonie2166]

I love his ideals on how storytelling can unify and galvanize people! Really shows how strong narratives can shape human connections

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks Amaya! Yes the power of storytelling can transform how society thinks.

[@hazrexall]

The part where he talked about the emotional masks we wear and the importance of vulnerability in genuine connections really struck a chord with me. It's crazy how much closer to someone you can feel once you've shared a moment that's rooted in being vulnerable

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true! Thank you.

[@babssinnerd]

I really appreciate all the insights into why he started that journey and his realization about his troubles connecting with people. Like he really demonstrated what he meant by taking off the emotional armor and it was beautiful

[@colincampbell5068]

His approach to communication as an autistic person really strikes a chord, it's good for people to have this kind of insight

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you Colin 🙏

[@TheAmendIsNow]

oh wow I'd actually forgotten that he was autistic by the end of it lol

[@laelresands5016]

Loved the overall message about using our voices and stories to unite people. So inspiring and makes you feel like you can make a real difference in another persons life!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

You can! The power of story and your voice is amazing!

[@dannyduncduncan]

The scientific backing of his techniques adds a lot of credibility. Really appreciate the evidence-based approach over just opinion and experience

[@timoguedon]

So much respect for him for recognizing the issues he was having and deciding to to study it.... that's a level of self-awareness and motivation not many people have

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks Tim! It was quite a journey of discovery!

[@alexaphillips8911]

The reference to the pandemic and emotional masks was very relatable. We've all experienced some level of disconnection, and it's a good reminder to strive for real connection where and when we can

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes its so important to work on this now!

[@hurleveur9606]

The liberation of feeling happened to me, too. Took a while to understand what was going on but it allowed me to feel others too.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad you got there!

[@granmabecker]

One of my grandkids is Autistic and I'm glad for people like Richard who are paving the way for younger people to have less difficult experiences with it. He's in his teens now and the way he jokes about it and allows other people to have fun with it is such a relief compared to how we thought things would be for him

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks! I’m glad you found this useful. It’s so important that we talk openly about these things, to help others.

[@sukyevers]

Yes, same! And at first I'll admit I felt so heartbroken, thinking about how much harder life is going to be for them this talk and your comment gives me hope though, he's still a child but to think it isn't actually as big of a deal these days in terms of acceptance is really wonderful

[@jordanbaslier]

Pretty awesome that he got to teach english in a tibetan monastery like that has to have been an epic experience

[@granmabecker]

Yes! How amazing that would have been for him

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes - it was life defining for me!

[@thedoctoryami]

Great talk from a dedicated speaker and teacher! So thankful for the work you’ve done to help us all be better communicators!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much!!

[@actionfigure2191]

I really like how you talked about being a great speaker not just as a skill, but like it's a way to bring people together. It gives it a real sense of purpose beyond just personal success.

[@johnbradey]

I'm just in awe of how dedicated he was to fixing something he realized he struggled with. Not many people willing to do that

[@liftretreat9821]

Cheers John! Much appreciated

[@kirkslapete]

Body language is the most crucial. You can get so much across with just a look

[@frasernicholson8509]

It’s fascinating how he integrates scientific research with personal anecdotes to make his point about effective communication. The study involving 2000 people really adds credibility to his methods.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks yes I was keen to get our theories validated by the best research team we could find.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

yeah you can tell he put a lot of value in doing all the groundwork

[@tonirduran]

His story about feeling disconnected as a child really tugged on my heartstrings... those early experiences shape so much of who we become as a person

[@wildflowerhoney1862]

The comparison of conversation to a 12-lane highway is spot on. It's overwhelming at times, and I can totally relate to that feeling of not knowing how to jump in.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated for you.

[@Take-Away-Step]

His time with the Tibetan monks sounds so cool! A challenge for sure given that there was no common language but still so cool.

[@hinicetrygoodbye]

I loved how genuine he was and how he didn't try to sound all fancy or formal. Being real like that is super important for making true connections, just like he talked about.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

definitely, made it feel way more relatable and actionable

[@everybodyworksinsales]

As a fellow TEDx speaker, massive congratulations Richard. I remember reading the monk story in your first book, You Were Born to Speak which I absolutely love. This is a valuable talk and superb storytelling

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Niraj! I appreciate your support!

[@PostNowIMeanNow]

You could tell this topic wasn't just something he thought about academically, but a lifelong journey that came from personal pain. There's just so much emotion in it, it makes the importance of his message come through so strongly

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you 🙏

[@sukyevers]

Yes, he really speaks from his experiences and it is a testament to the power of perseverance and self growth.

[@idimarus3278]

I appreciate the practical advice on storytelling and engaging an audience effectively.

[@TheFirstSocialScoop]

This is a really impressive transformation and honestly it makes so much sense that he chose to go down this path.

[@TheJazHong]

Thanks for the actual advice on how to do improve communication! So many "how to" tedx talks that don't tell you how to do anything!

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks! I was determined to be practical in my advice so that people could do something with it!

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

A simple practice for a complicated life, I needed this today; thank you, Richard!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks! Yes my aim was to keep this simple and easy for everyone to benefit from.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

@@richardnewmanspeaks You did a fantastic job!

[@elainarogers]

the scientific approach to body language is fascinating. cool to see hard data backing up what some might dismiss as pseudoscience. wonder what other aspects of communication could benefit from this kind of rigorous study?

[@alexdenns]

Everyone should be given tips and guided on how to communicate. Not just for personal impact but for being able to connect with people, because that really comes down to how well you can express yourself and understand the other person too

[@I-AM-MarcoPolo]

The idea that nonverbal cues can increase how inspiring you are by 25% is incredible. It makes me want to be more mindful of my body language.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

same!

[@zoezanders]

I really felt the bit about being bullied as a child. I had the worst time of it as a kid, to the point where I was suicidal at the age of 12 and let me tell you it sticks with you for a long time

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks for sharing Zoe! I agree, it stuck with me for a long time too.

[@helenimnotready]

His example about childhood bullying is powerful. It shows how long-lasting those experiences are and how they can shape us for years, even when we think we've worked through it all

[@marisolroman0-0]

Honestly, I got a bit teary-eyed when he got emotional talking about his childhood struggles to connect. It just goes to show how everyone really craves belonging, especially when we're young

[@peterdgrubb]

The statistics on how changing body language can improve leadership perception by 44% are impressive. It's a practical tip for anyone in a leadership role.

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

for sure, I knew it had an impact but didn't realize just how large

[@bencycaitlin]

The research he did with UCL was impressive. It's good to see that his insights are backed by scientific studies and not just anecdotal evidence.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@carollcole]

The bit about hand gestures was super interesting! I would never have known that it actually helps your thought processes

[@UKBodyTalk]

Yes super important!

[@carollcole]

@@UKBodyTalk

[@ThanhNguyen-pq4ky]

Thanks for such an inspirational speech, Newman.

[@judeblyth3606]

That shove experiment was funny! It showed how even small changes in posture can make you seem more confident and powerful. I'm definitely keeping my feet shoulder-width apart from now on

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Jude!

[@camerongdowd]

From struggling to connect as a child to teaching monks and studying acting is very cool.

[@lamarjacobs]

His comment about being disconnected as a child was sad but also so relatable. I think many people have felt that kind of loneliness growing up.

[@elizabethlasseigne5361]

Fantastic presentation, fantastic information straight from the heart. Thank you so much!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you! I'm so glad it resonated with you!

[@elaineclouston]

the idea of transmitting ideas from mind to mind is powerful. never thought of communication that way.

[@keranskeckter]

interesting how he connected public speaking skills to everyday interactions. never thought my casual chats could benefit from presentation techniques. might give it a try.

[@jemmajames5056]

Love this! Thank you for sharing your insights Richard. Inspiring!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Jemma! I appreciate your support!

[@TheAffinityAdvocate]

Communication is the key to any successful relationship be it personal or professional! Always thought it was unfair that introverts or people with learning disabilities are negatively impacted in that context

[@realdelilahjones]

Okay why did the part about "armor over your heart" make me so emotional?

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

This was really the key message I wanted to express, that we must drop this to truly connect again. Glad it resonated with you 🙏

[@realdelilahjones]

@@richardnewmanspeaks still does, bless you

[@immayasass]

Wow the bit about going to live with the monks and teach them english is actually so clever. So much of communication is non-verbal, makes sense that it was such a valuable experience

[@sukyevers]

It's an amazing thing for anyone to do, let alone an introverted autistic person

[@samacigrist]

I know someone on the autism spectrum, and he is determined to achieve a lot despite his condition. This reminded me of him.

[@idanowser]

The 12 lane highway thing absolutely resonated with me. I have talking over people or being talked over so if I'm in a group setting that's more than like 2 other people I just won't make any conversation.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated with you! I have discovered a few ways into a conversation that may help - I may gently touch the arm of the person talking when I want to interject, or take a breath in while slightly leaning forwards. You'll see other people do this instinctively in conversation and it essentially creates an on-ramp for you to join in.

[@idanowser]

@@richardnewmanspeaks it did thank you

[@FirewalkProphesy]

feeling inspired to work on my own communication skills after this talk. there's clearly so much room for improvement. might look into some workshops or courses to further develop these skills.

[@undeadmerlinisalivenow]

I was not prepared for how emotional this talk got towards the end... he makes such an important point though. It does take courage to connect with people and you never know when you might get hurt but being disconnected from everything around you just leads to isolation and bitterness.

[@iamthetroublefinder]

I think this speaks to the truth of how what we do is often way more important than what we say

[@bestnewtunes8363]

The idea of conversations being like a 12-lane highway totally made sense to me haha. As an introvert, I could really relate to that. I'm happy he figured out how to join in and make himself heard, especially by using things like acting techniques, I thought that part was really clever

[@sangjhatnih]

this is crazy good, will be watching my body language more from now

[@IAmTheRealJoker]

Acting as a tool to learn communication? That's a fresh perspective I hadn't considered.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

It was a game changer for me!

[@thebespokedoctor]

What an amazing talk….. I learned so much..! Thank you for your vulnerability and expertise.. you’ve communicated your knowledge beautifully! ❤

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much! So pleased that you liked it!

[@maureenwatters321]

This is really amazing, thank you. My son is Autistic and I know he struggles to jump into conversations too.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

I'm glad the message was helpful!

[@kendrasroom]

Yeah I can realte to this big time, especially when I was at school, trying to jump into group discussions was pretty much impossible

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true! Glad to hear you can relate to this.

[@carlyberstani]

I'm sending this to my son. He needs to be encouraged to know he's capable of engaging with people just as well as anyone else! (He is Autistic too.)

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

I hope it inspires him!

[@nadiaferchichi]

It gives me a lot of hope to know that you can learn to be better at communicating and socializing

[@Gemmasnewman]

Such a brilliant talk 🗣️ that needs to be seen by everyone. I loved the tip on standing and especially the palms up and palms down concept. So simple yet crazily effective!!

[@yoghurt-cup]

The concept of “emotional masks” post-pandemic is so relatable. Many of us are still learning how to reconnect without those walls up.

[@katarinabloom]

The examples from popular stories like Harry Potter, Star Wars, and Barbie really illustrated his points well. It's interesting to see how these storytelling techniques apply to everyday communication.

[@EverDragMedia]

Definitely felt the chaos and anxiety in his description of conversation as a 12-lane highway. It really can be so overwhelming

[@diegofashiondesign]

Communication really is the key for everything

[@---nameless---]

Wasn’t sure about the effectiveness of nonverbal communication changes, but his research proves it works. Gonna try it.

[@saajidahlip]

Thank you for the tips! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@jakobdewl]

Love this kind of content, so many more people are neurodivergent and need this kind of help than what we realize

[@skyec8562]

Absolutely!! So many more people are neurodivergent than even they realize 😂😂

[@00Zeropie00]

Thanks for the tips! This is all great advice