How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman | TEDxUniversityofBristol

[@zacgulbranson]

Richard Newman is the absolute man! Such an inspiration . A wealth of knowledge, and great mind . Next level Richard , killing it!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Zac! I gave it my all!

[@peterdgrubb]

The statistics on how changing body language can improve leadership perception by 44% are impressive. It's a practical tip for anyone in a leadership role.

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

for sure, I knew it had an impact but didn't realize just how large

[@brunodstone]

The idea that storytelling can galvanize people and create unity is powerful. It makes me want to be more mindful of the stories I share and how I communicate them.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Glad to hear you were inspired, thanks!

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

His point about needing courage, humility, and vulnerability for real connection is something we should all strive for. It's not easy, but it's worth it.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@marekzagdanski]

From not being able to join a group conversation to being a communications expert is crazy. Really speaks to the power of determination.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

absolutely, I think it's a pretty wonderful transformation

[@therealmyyt]

I love the idea that human connection requires vulnerability. It's something many of us shy away from, but it's clearly so important.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

yes, it took me a really long time to learn that

[@-OpenDiary-]

Seeing him cry while rehearsing part of this talk was really powerful. It showed just how much reconnecting with vulnerability meant to him. Mad respect that he chose to include that

[@kyleighmcdowell]

Absolutely, made him so much more endearing

[@IAmTheRealJoker]

Acting as a tool to learn communication? That's a fresh perspective I hadn't considered.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

It was a game changer for me!

[@MarcoPolo-uh4pn]

The idea that nonverbal cues can increase how inspiring you are by 25% is incredible. It makes me want to be more mindful of my body language.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

same!

[@colincampbell5068]

His approach to communication as an autistic person really strikes a chord, it's good for people to have this kind of insight

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you Colin 🙏

[@TheAmendIsNow]

oh wow I'd actually forgotten that he was autistic by the end of it lol

[@artcornish3520]

His call to use our voices to bring people together and "tilt the world in a positive direction" was kind of wonderful. It makes me want to be more deliberate about connecting with others through how I communicate.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

yeah exactly, what's the point in being able to communicate well if you're not using it to connect in a positive way

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@tonirduran]

His story about feeling disconnected as a child really tugged on my heartstrings... those early experiences shape so much of who we become as a person

[@kasperean]

The whole idea of “Head, Hands, Heart” as a communication tool is so good! Simple but powerful. I can see how it would be practical for daily interactions

[@hinicetrygoodbye]

I loved how genuine he was and how he didn't try to sound all fancy or formal. Being real like that is super important for making true connections, just like he talked about.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

definitely, made it feel way more relatable and actionable

[@ClusterofHope]

Loved how he talks about being open and brave and how it helps us make genuine connections. It's tempting to stay guarded and keep things shallow, but he's right - taking a chance on being rejected is worth it to feel fully alive and connected.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated with you!

[@sukyevers]

Same, I thought this was so wonderful and brave on his behalf

[@actionfigure2191]

I really like how you talked about being a great speaker not just as a skill, but like it's a way to bring people together. It gives it a real sense of purpose beyond just personal success.

[@elisbrokli]

It’s incredible how small changes in body language can influence how others perceive and react to you!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true!

[@iamtheunusualsuspect]

the way he broke down charisma into learnable skills was pretty awesome... I always thought some people were just born with it, but maybe I can level up my own charm game!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Everyone can learn it!

[@iamtheunusualsuspect]

@@richardnewmanspeaks yes, true they can, but will they

[@wildflowerhoney1862]

The comparison of conversation to a 12-lane highway is spot on. It's overwhelming at times, and I can totally relate to that feeling of not knowing how to jump in.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated for you.

[@camerongdowd]

From struggling to connect as a child to teaching monks and studying acting is very cool.

[@frasernicholson8509]

It’s fascinating how he integrates scientific research with personal anecdotes to make his point about effective communication. The study involving 2000 people really adds credibility to his methods.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks yes I was keen to get our theories validated by the best research team we could find.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

yeah you can tell he put a lot of value in doing all the groundwork

[@immayasass]

Wow the bit about going to live with the monks and teach them english is actually so clever. So much of communication is non-verbal, makes sense that it was such a valuable experience

[@sukyevers]

It's an amazing thing for anyone to do, let alone an introverted autistic person

[@VodkaByNight]

The personal story of overcoming communication barriers as someone who is introverted and autistic gives so much hope and inspiration to others facing similar challenges. Glad he was given the opportunity and platform to share his story and advice.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much, glad you liked it!

[@sukyevers]

Definitely, I have an autistic grandchild so seeing things like this is very reassuring

[@marisolroman0-0]

Honestly, I got a bit teary-eyed when he got emotional talking about his childhood struggles to connect. It just goes to show how everyone really craves belonging, especially when we're young

[@hollytrichards]

His explanation of the head, hands, heart model is a game-changer for public speakers. Well done to him on going to such lengths to understand and improve himself.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Holly! Glad it resonated with you!

[@sukyevers]

Yes! To everyone I think, not just public speakers.

[@idanowser]

The 12 lane highway thing absolutely resonated with me. I have talking over people or being talked over so if I'm in a group setting that's more than like 2 other people I just won't make any conversation.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad this resonated with you! I have discovered a few ways into a conversation that may help - I may gently touch the arm of the person talking when I want to interject, or take a breath in while slightly leaning forwards. You'll see other people do this instinctively in conversation and it essentially creates an on-ramp for you to join in.

[@idanowser]

@@richardnewmanspeaks it did thank you

[@jordanbaslier]

Pretty awesome that he got to teach english in a tibetan monastery like that has to have been an epic experience

[@granmabecker]

Yes! How amazing that would have been for him

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes - it was life defining for me!

[@aaronereid]

Love that he just kept taking it to the next level in terms of learning about communication. Really cool that he drew from so many different sources as well

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Aaron!

[@khloetaylor1674]

His breakdown of the 3-part storytelling structure blew my mind. I bet I’m going to start seeing it everywhere now

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Khloe! Yes, it's everywhere!

[@PostNowIMeanNow]

You could tell this topic wasn't just something he thought about academically, but a lifelong journey that came from personal pain. There's just so much emotion in it, it makes the importance of his message come through so strongly

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you 🙏

[@sukyevers]

Yes, he really speaks from his experiences and it is a testament to the power of perseverance and self growth.

[@hazrexall]

The part where he talked about the emotional masks we wear and the importance of vulnerability in genuine connections really struck a chord with me. It's crazy how much closer to someone you can feel once you've shared a moment that's rooted in being vulnerable

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true! Thank you.

[@alexaphillips8911]

The reference to the pandemic and emotional masks was very relatable. We've all experienced some level of disconnection, and it's a good reminder to strive for real connection where and when we can

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes its so important to work on this now!

[@bestnewtunes8363]

The idea of conversations being like a 12-lane highway totally made sense to me haha. As an introvert, I could really relate to that. I'm happy he figured out how to join in and make himself heard, especially by using things like acting techniques, I thought that part was really clever

[@mickeyrat-da-rat]

Loved how candid he was about his struggles with autism. I think way more people have it than what we even realize and content like this goes a long way towards destigmatizing

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@kiankaskert7925]

Really appreciate how he demystifies the art of communication with clear, actionable steps.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you , glad you enjoyed it!

[@maryyouson4404]

The idea that storytelling is what makes humans the dominant species is so interesting... I've never heard or thought that.

[@samanthaabadi]

His experiences make me wonder what I could achieve if I pushed myself out of my comfort zone more often, super inspiring, thank you.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Go for it, Samantha!

[@bencycaitlin]

The research he did with UCL was impressive. It's good to see that his insights are backed by scientific studies and not just anecdotal evidence.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thank you!

[@katyabradova]

That moment when he described his first day at school was heartbreaking but so powerful in understanding his journey.

[@liftretreat9821]

Thank you Katya 🙏🏻

[@katyabradova]

@@liftretreat9821 , you are so welcome...

[@judeblyth3606]

That shove experiment was funny! It showed how even small changes in posture can make you seem more confident and powerful. I'm definitely keeping my feet shoulder-width apart from now on

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Jude!

[@eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean]

the feet together vs. shoulder-width apart demonstration was pretty cool! Love that such a small and easy change can make such a difference in how we're perceived.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes, small changes that are easy to make can have a massive impact

[@katarinabloom]

The examples from popular stories like Harry Potter, Star Wars, and Barbie really illustrated his points well. It's interesting to see how these storytelling techniques apply to everyday communication.

[@dannyduncduncan]

The scientific backing of his techniques adds a lot of credibility. Really appreciate the evidence-based approach over just opinion and experience

[@Take-Away-Step]

His time with the Tibetan monks sounds so cool! A challenge for sure given that there was no common language but still so cool.

[@TheyCallMeYellowGello]

the part about autism and social interactions was eye-opening. gave me a new perspective on the challenges some people face daily. I'm going to try to be more patient and understanding in my interactions from now on.

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

what an awesome thing to take away from this

[@taylorpjansen]

Loved how he explained the Triune brain theory and how it relates to storytelling and communication. Making complex scientific concepts accessible is a true skill!

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks Taylor! Yes my goal is to make everything simple and straightforward for everyone.

[@hurleveur9606]

The liberation of feeling happened to me, too. Took a while to understand what was going on but it allowed me to feel others too.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So glad you got there!

[@jackbenns]

The three-part brain theory and how it applies to storytelling was really insightful! It makes sense to engage all those parts of the mind to make an impact

[@oilverdennison]

The breakdown of how storytelling, body language, and emotional presence can be merged to improve personal impact was very insightful. It's amazing how simple adjustments in nonverbal cues can drastically change perception.

[@sukyevers]

Yes, and it makes it all the more easier when we're aware of it

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

[@oilverdennison]

@@richardnewmanspeaks I did, thanks for speaking...

[@58vette]

Never knew that gesturing more could actually help us think better! Guess it explains why I always talk with my hands when I'm trying to explain something complicated

[@idimarus3278]

I appreciate the practical advice on storytelling and engaging an audience effectively.

[@raquel-mercedes]

The scientific backing really strengthens his points on body language and communication effectiveness! Well done on putting it all together in a way that makes sense

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

I appreciate that!

[@iamthetroublefinder]

I think this speaks to the truth of how what we do is often way more important than what we say

[@laelresands5016]

Loved the overall message about using our voices and stories to unite people. So inspiring and makes you feel like you can make a real difference in another persons life!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

You can! The power of story and your voice is amazing!

[@yoghurt-cup]

The concept of “emotional masks” post-pandemic is so relatable. Many of us are still learning how to reconnect without those walls up.

[@umadelecois]

Oh wow I can't believe he got teased so early on. I was also brutaIIy teased all throughout grade school and well into my teens but I remember the first couple of years of school were actually nice. Like everyone got along, there wasn't that mean kid buIIy vibe yet.

[@tinycockcroft]

The studies about body language and its impact on how others perceive you were really interesting. Had no idea such small changes can make a big difference in how you're received.

[@lorrainegracelacson]

that scientific study on nonverbal communication blew my mind. a 57% increase in voting likelihood just by changing body language? that's insane! makes you think about how much we’re influenced by subtle cues without even realizing it.

[@thephilosopher59]

Wow, I'm speechless in a good way. This has truly gone right to the heart of things. You may have heard these secrets before in different ways, though never like this. Definitely he walks the talk, exactly in what he's talking about. The best of all is his recommendation on what to drop. So worth watching, and more than once!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much! I appreciate your message and feel grateful this connected with you.

[@granmabecker]

One of my grandkids is Autistic and I'm glad for people like Richard who are paving the way for younger people to have less difficult experiences with it. He's in his teens now and the way he jokes about it and allows other people to have fun with it is such a relief compared to how we thought things would be for him

[@liftretreat9821]

Thanks! I’m glad you found this useful. It’s so important that we talk openly about these things, to help others.

[@sukyevers]

Yes, same! And at first I'll admit I felt so heartbroken, thinking about how much harder life is going to be for them this talk and your comment gives me hope though, he's still a child but to think it isn't actually as big of a deal these days in terms of acceptance is really wonderful

[@carlyberstani]

I'm sending this to my son. He needs to be encouraged to know he's capable of engaging with people just as well as anyone else! (He is Autistic too.)

[@janetsplace1953]

3:45 I get this, connection is everything🥰🥰🥰

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

Thanks for emailing this JP, wonderful - means a lot going through what I am.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much, yes connection is so important! We need this to thrive!

[@TheFirstSocialScoop]

This is a really impressive transformation and honestly it makes so much sense that he chose to go down this path.

[@sofiatclara]

mind blown by this talk! never realized how much our body language impacts others' perceptions. gonna be way more aware of my stance and gestures from now on.

[@lynnecousins]

I appreicate his call to take off our emotional masks and connect more deeply. I think it's very timely too, considering the effects of the pandemic and how disconnected a lot of people are feeling

[@elaineclouston]

the idea of transmitting ideas from mind to mind is powerful. never thought of communication that way.

[@maureenwatters321]

This is really amazing, thank you. My son is Autistic and I know he struggles to jump into conversations too.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

I'm glad the message was helpful!

[@sangjhatnih]

this is crazy good, will be watching my body language more from now

[@everybodyworksinsales]

As a fellow TEDx speaker, massive congratulations Richard. I remember reading the monk story in your first book, You Were Born to Speak which I absolutely love. This is a valuable talk and superb storytelling

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Niraj! I appreciate your support!

[@thedoctoryami]

Great talk from a dedicated speaker and teacher! So thankful for the work you’ve done to help us all be better communicators!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much!!

[@EverDragMedia]

Definitely felt the chaos and anxiety in his description of conversation as a 12-lane highway. It really can be so overwhelming

[@thebespokedoctor]

What an amazing talk….. I learned so much..! Thank you for your vulnerability and expertise.. you’ve communicated your knowledge beautifully! ❤

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much! So pleased that you liked it!

[@saajidahlip]

Thank you for the tips! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@bridgettemsanders]

Loving this advice, thank you!

[@keranskeckter]

interesting how he connected public speaking skills to everyday interactions. never thought my casual chats could benefit from presentation techniques. might give it a try.

[@ThanhNguyen-pq4ky]

Thanks for such an inspirational speech, Newman.

[@warddouglas1982]

I appreciated how he tied communication skills to global issues. I think a lot of things would get better if we just learnt how to communicate honestly and openly with one another, without the fear of judgement or being taken advantage of

[@---nameless---]

Wasn’t sure about the effectiveness of nonverbal communication changes, but his research proves it works. Gonna try it.

[@jemmajames5056]

Love this! Thank you for sharing your insights Richard. Inspiring!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks so much Jemma! I appreciate your support!

[@FirewalkProphesy]

feeling inspired to work on my own communication skills after this talk. there's clearly so much room for improvement. might look into some workshops or courses to further develop these skills.

[@TheAffinityAdvocate]

Communication is the key to any successful relationship be it personal or professional! Always thought it was unfair that introverts or people with learning disabilities are negatively impacted in that context

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

A simple practice for a complicated life, I needed this today; thank you, Richard!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks! Yes my aim was to keep this simple and easy for everyone to benefit from.

[@ThePizzaPriestess]

@@richardnewmanspeaks You did a fantastic job!

[@dustyevans2130]

Having people skills like these feels more and more important in our modern world of digital interactions that can feel pretty shallow. We're hungry for genuine human connections but unfortunately so many of us don't know how to get them

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks Dusty, yes that's exactly what drove me to give this talk.

[@oscarnotreallyawiener]

The bit about more hand gestures correlating to tedx talk popularity was so funny. I get so many on my home page and when I scroll the mouse across it's like they all have the same hand movements

[@thebespokedoctor]

I was fully expecting everyone to fall over with the shoulder push!! 😂

[@kendrasroom]

Yeah I can realte to this big time, especially when I was at school, trying to jump into group discussions was pretty much impossible

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true! Glad to hear you can relate to this.

[@RavishingDamsel]

I'm glad you mentioned the role of humility too - often get the vibe that self-help/communication "gurus" can come across selfish or arrogant. You seemed the opposite.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

True he seems super humble

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks, yes I believe humility is key to all human connection.

[@TheAmendIsNow]

this kinda reminded me of that old saying "they may not remember what you said, but they'll remember how you made them feel"

[@kyleighmcdowell]

Interesting... I don't know that quote! But I immediately thought of a few people who yes, really stuck out because of how they made me feel

[@timmymckinley]

I'm wondering how much of what he taught would work in different cultures. Obviously, body language norms can be different, but the main ideas about storytelling and connecting from the heart seem like they'd apply pretty much everywhere.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Yes body language varies from one culture to the next, but many fundamentals of communication stay the same!

[@jacquelinehogan3313]

Oh boy when he talks about conversation being like a 12 line super highway I just had this memory of a guy I worked with who would very awkwardly jump into conversations exactly like that. It was only as he was leaving that I found out he had Asperger's and now here I am years later realizing what things are like for people on the spectrum.

[@cliftonwilliams7489]

That bit about taking off our emotional armor hit different. feels like everyone's got their guard up these days. maybe if we all chilled a bit, we'd actually connect for real, ya know?

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

So true!

[@jakobdewl]

Love this kind of content, so many more people are neurodivergent and need this kind of help than what we realize

[@skyec8562]

Absolutely!! So many more people are neurodivergent than even they realize 😂😂

[@Gemmasnewman]

Such a brilliant talk 🗣️ that needs to be seen by everyone. I loved the tip on standing and especially the palms up and palms down concept. So simple yet crazily effective!!

[@simonoshlor]

The bit about emotional masks post-pandemic hit close to home. I've definitely been guilty of keeping mine on too long. maybe it's time to be a bit more vulnerable and see what happens. scary but probably worth it.

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

I agree it's scary and takes some work but definitely worth it

[@ZigWagon]

I'm curious if the body language techniques work equally well on video calls/virtual settings nowadays? or if there are specific tips for better online presence. Would've been cool if he addressed that too.

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks - yes they are key to virtual communication too. The pieces I mention around palms up, palms down and posture all apply through a screen. You also need to remember to have the webcam raised to the height of your eyes, have light coming towards you (not behind you) and gesture within the frame. In a longer talk I certainly would have taught these!

[@KittyFest]

The part about emotional armor really struck me hard. I know I've been guarding myself for a long time now, but I've always seen it as a way of protecting myself, I'ven ever thought it might be holding me back from anything. The thought of opening up is scary though lol I don't know that I'm ready to take the armor off just yet

[@skyec8562]

I get what you mean and yes for sure it is scary but so, so worth it 💖💖

[@KittyFest]

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[@richardnewmanspeaks]

One step at a time! It takes work but you'll get there!

[@fonzellevon]

the idea of communication as a learnable skill gives me hope that I can improve too.. I always thought some people were just naturally good at it and those who aren't have to stay like that

[@dannyordtil]

Cool talk, I even took notes!!!!

[@richardnewmanspeaks]

Thanks!

[@nextgendynasty]

The connection between communication and leadership was interesting... makes me think about famous leaders and their speaking styles.

[@IAmTheRealRoblox]

I've never thought about how it must be hard for people who can't just naturally yap away

[@IAmASeaMonkey]

wow really you've never thought about that?