The Real conversation about Unhealed parents and the lasting affects

"Unhealed parents" typically refers to parents who have unresolved emotional, psychological, or interpersonal issues from their own past that continue to impact their parenting and family dynamics. These unresolved issues can manifest in various ways, affecting both the parents themselves and their children.
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[@FreeBLKWoman]

My grandma was horrible to my mother, but my mom promised me she'd never harm me like that. And she's kept her word she broke the abusive curse because my great grandmother was abusive to my grandmother as well. My mom did the opposite by loving me, supporting me, uplifting me, etc. ❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

So glad you truly experienced this! This is truly beautiful ❤️

[@AHMEDKONE20]

​@@SeasonedDialogue​You may read it,,, you may not .. but if I hope you'd read about Islam, find out what Islam is and become a Muslim Inch'Allah .. peace and respect...

[@dianewilliams4508]

My grandmother abandoned my mom at the age of 11 and my mom was left to raise her siblings it was 6 of them. My mom and her oldest sister came together and raised them along with their children.my mom was the BEST MOTHER EVER IT WASN’T ANYTHING THAT SHE WOULD NOT DO FOR US.and God blessed her with a great life she passed away in January 2022. I try to take care of my kids like my mom did for me.

[@246Shanti]

My Grandmother was abusive to my Mother she became very protective of me but she loved me and cared for me however she died on December 1st 2021,my mother confessed everything to me what she went through as a child and I cried and said I will not let that be my story nor my daughter's I love my mother sooo much and she learnt love from me , my Daddy mother and father was abusive to him and he was emotionally unavailable to me , I am in the process of forgiving him, I am a mother now and I am breaking that Generational Curse . Thanks for this ❤❤❤

[@lakishamccomb5513]

Love this! My siblings and I were definitely victims of an unhealed young, abused mother. We’ve done our best to break those generational curses. I’ll speak personally for myself to say that it’s not easy because I neglected to instill healthy boundaries between mother and child. They sometimes fail to realize I’m their mom and not their friend.

[@Zen-cx5tc]

I’m currently in therapy because my unhealed mother and absent father caused me severe trauma. I’m looking forward to the healed version of myself ❤🙏

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@latishaturner1964]

I’m praying for you!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@shennelllambie7052]

Wow...its true though. I choose to forgive because how I ended up in a hospital idk but I know it brought my family closer. Hope u get better and stronger because of this

[@keepingitrealwithchinell7565]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@rellyb8224]

My Aha moment with my mom was, when I asked her why didn't you just leave? Why she tolerated abuse and put us under the same w my father. She said, "I just wanted to be loved." All of a sudden, I saw my Mom as a little girl, and I understood that she had never truly been loved before and is still searching for love from a male today.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Wow! This is so deep!!! This happens to SO many women :(

[@yvonnebroadnax2648]

I can truly understand where your coming from, however it doesn't stop the pain from hurting so bad,I sit and watch my mother treat my brothers with so much love,go beyond,She say that she love me,but I don't receive the same energy or love,She told me many years ago,that my grandmother had 5 child and she was treated badly,she was the black sheep,my grandmother never heard her cry, and she delivers the same energy too me, and she doesn't see the generational curse.....She turned her back on me when I needed her the most, because I was to young to protect myself,and the abuse is still going on ,At times, I have to pray and ask Jehovah to forgive me for the hurtful and disrespect ful things that I feel within my inner man towards her,I love her with my whole heart,but it hurts like HELL.......when will it change??????Thank you for letting me know that I am not the only one that had to endure such abnormal living.......😢😢😢😢

[@TysonMichael77]

Forgiveness and peace was the best thing i could’ve ever done. It took me decades but I’m happy I’m here

[@shantyfrancis9606]

This speaks volumes, and my mom had me young as well she wasn't ready or equipped to deal with a child. A lot of her actions affected me, but I did the work myself, and I forgave because I know back then she didn't know better.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness, when we understand we can understand from their level many times❤️. It takes a healed person to grasp the concept....or a person in the process who is starting to see and understand from a different perspective. Much love to you! Thank you so much for sharing❤️❤️

[@shantyfrancis9606]

@SeasonedDialogue Thank you for your page. I found it in a time when I was searching for direction, and it has been a great inspiration to my journey.

[@apolishedtouchnailstudio]

Both of my parents had their own issues 🙄 I was a Prom baby they got married divorced when I was 12. My mother was not equipped to raise a child because she didn't have a mother to show her but them neither did I. I LEARNED FROM OTHER MOTHER'S. 2 Beautiful daughter's successful and don't play about their mother

[@TysonMichael77]

Girrrrll I damn near cried listening to this. As a kid I felt dismissed and emotionally disregarded for confronting my parents on ways I didn’t like being treated or spoken too and was met with so much gaslighting or just mean. I grew up being mean to others and in relationships treating my partners like children and dismissing their emotions. These experiences triggered me to not want to talk about my feelings, finances or anything with my parents w/o feeling this sense of shame or judgements energy. I’m so grateful for healing and communities like this 🦋

[@tizone8477]

Lisa … Part of why this resonates with me so much is the factor that I went through so much as a child, because of my parents. My childhood was taken away from me. My father was physically abusive and I asked my mother, at the age of eleven, if he was my father, because of his actions. She said he was and told me to stop asking stupid questions. What I didn’t realize was that my mother was mentally and emotionally abusive towards me as well ( I learned later). It was all as too much to handle and I went down a very dark path when I got into my teenage years. I’ll leave that there, in this forum. But, suffice it to say that just three years ago, my mother revealed that he really wasn’t my biological father after all and proceeded to name the person who was. To say that I was hurt is an understatement. Had she been honest with me and protected me as my mother, instead of being complicit in my mistreatment, I conceivably would have ventured down that dark path. One of those most detrimental things that can prevail in one’s life is to be abandoned by one’s own parents, but especially one’s mother. I later realized that she was a scarred person and that infected how she treated me. There’s so much more to the story, believe me. Both of my parents … and my biological father (I did get to meet him during a weekend in February of last year and he died the following weekend) have all passed on, but I took care of my parents in spite of all they did to me, until their last breath. If you only knew how much I endured … and have overcome … you would truly understand why I am so touched by your messages. You see, it’s nurturing and it’s the kind of nurturing I wish I had as a child. So, it’s just as important to hear it now.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness! Your story...a mere reflection. I do understand WHOLE HEARTEDLY where this pain comes from BELIEVE me! These things affect us tremendously...we feel lonely, isolated, confused, and many times powerless. This is such a reality...such honesty as well. Thank you so much for this depth. Thank you SOOO very much for this vulnerability.

[@selestineshiro3918]

I am definitely breaking generation curses through intentional parenting. I thank God for the awakening.

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@christianlynsutton8259]

Great content! My mother is toxic, and I’ve tried to love her even though. She effects and affects all of my relationships, and I’m choosing to walk away from her even now because she constantly keeps hurting me.

[@newmamaful]

You might want to read "You're Not Crazy, It's Your Mother," by Danu Morrigan.

[@christianlynsutton8259]

I will.Thank you 🫂🌹

[@amonioda]

I’ve argued with my mother for the last time. I’ve already apologized for things she STILL chooses to hold against me. It’s hurtful. She’s even made herself sick with all of the negativity (masses on her brain, sinus issues - loss of smell). My sister is following in her pattern. I am the cycle breaker and the cycle maker! I’ll continue the work so that my trauma isn’t passed down to my children when I start my family! Even coming into a relationship at the space I’m in now makes me so happy. I’ve worked hard. I’m a light in the room and it sucks that my mom doesn’t see that.

[@empresskee6615]

I understand my parents' journey and I do not take anything personally. I do want to be able to have these healing conversations with them, however I do accept that some of my family members are not yet ready to have those types of conversations and that's ok. I have been able to heal by freeing my voice, honoring my thoughts and feelings about my experience and that is enough for me. I trust that my healing will continue to be inspiration to my family members and everyone else around me to heal from childhood trauma. This choice can be lonely but when you find community like this, soul family who are on this similar journey, it's a comforting reminder that we are not alone. As always thank you for sharing and having healing conversations like this!

[@ahlynelormeus2088]

1. Yes I have come to the understanding that they weren’t MATURE and balanced enough to correctly Steward me well as a child; lack of knowledge and growth. 2. Because I KNOW BETTER now as a first time parent and coming to the conclusion that they didn’t know any better, I am now breaking generational curses

[@pamadderley]

So I got the notification for this video and had a moment to sit and listen! Lisa-Marie you are in my season! I am healing in a relationship with a “don’t know they need healing” parent. I recognize the lack on her part which gave me a lifelong feeling of rejection. The lack caused her to not show up for my emotions. BUT I’ve broken that generational curse with my children! Thank you Lisa for your wisdom❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

YESSSSSSS!!!! It's so hard when we begin to heal. We want others to heal as well, but we also understand after many attempts that it is individual work that we can't make people do. Good for you for breaking the curse....it's not easy at all.

[@kdogg1372]

I just told my mother this yesterday. That mess stops right here right now!

[@dawncarter6401]

Excellent topic. Generational trauma is prevalent. I find comfort in understanding that people are the sum total of their experiences/traumas! Forgiveness is a choice and necessary in this human experience.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

I absolutely agree. When we choose to recognize that resources were not accessible to a generation of adults who were told to just deal...we recognize that the lack of allows us to learn through it and show up differently intentionally.

[@TapInWithGio11223]

The AHA moment for me was realizing in my early 20’s that my father was a much better parent to my three younger half siblings than he was with me, but of course it wasn’t until I turned 28 (just half his age) that I understood both my parents were roughly my age when I was conceived. All in all understanding the current challenges I’m facing lead me to dropping the resentment I was harboring towards them, forgiving them and ended up doing the “work” for all three of us. At the end of the day, our parents are only humans too🙏🏾 -Thank you for your videos❤

[@sharonbeverly9261]

Yes at 16. I forgiven but waited to late to have the conversation face to face . They have taken there wings . I learn a respect I deserve

[@rikim1693]

All you said is Truth..God has healed me from childhood trauma.I also broke generational curses through fasting and pray. Its been a 6 year journey. My mom passed in 2021.I forgave her. I came to understood my mom had her own trauma she was dealing with . Jesus is the healer. I am not broken anymore. Its been a intense journey. Healing is so important especially before we get in marriage. It can have a effect on our Destiny and fulfilling Destiny. Unhealed parent. Many broken men and women Many of us marry toxic.Narcissistic people. Unhealed trauma Deliverance and Healing is a Journey. A ongoing journey. Many not prepared to put the effort to get healed Many emotionally unavailable.

[@lizalopez1594]

This Story hits me Both of my parents were and are still toxic I am a young mother of 3 beautiful children. I learned not long ago that I was given the Trauma from my parents But I am willing to get therapy asap to break this generational curse🎉❤ Love your Videos Greetings from Germany 🙏🏽

[@SeasonedDialogue]

This is beautiful!!!! Let’s change the outcomes!

[@ohokapparel3867]

I’m the one in my family who’s breaking the generational curse! After 47 years I realized how negative, selfish and miserable my mom is. My mom is very toxic and jealous of her children for no reason. She’s jealous of my positive energy, how everyone show me so much love and attention (I don’t ask for). She’s jealous of my sister and her husband. It’s like she tries to suck all of my positive energy out of me. She started treating me bad 3yrs ago when I found out who my real father is (someone I didn’t go looking for). It’s like I’m being punished for the lie she told for 47 years. I’m not and never was mad at her I was hurt because when I questioned her she said “Not that I know of “. My heart dropped! She still haven’t answered I had to find out through DNA. I was told by my spiritual counselor to stay away from her… so I keep my distance 💔

[@Meggawoman]

Wow...And this is why I didn't date, because I was very weak and not that I wouldn't have protected my children, I just couldn't stand to put them in that potential situation due to the appearance of my vulnerability. But also by not dating, my children didn't observe what a healthy relationship looks like.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you for your honesty. It's so very hard to make decisions when trust has been broken from the foundation. You went into protection mode (I don't blame you). Sometimes we do what we think is the best in the situations we were given. Thank you for sharing!

[@Meggawoman]

@@SeasonedDialogue so true...Thank you🙏🏾

[@claudialuis9173]

This made cry as a child and as a parent it's hard but it's worth it making the changes and noticing the outburst and knowing that I'm always learning and life is journey we're all learning as we go thank you for this one

[@rakeshamurray5603]

I concur, that's why counselling is important.. It allows us to give grace to our family

[@will_drew]

I’ve acknowledged this and I accepted them for who they are.. they will never change..

[@FancyLegacy]

I appreciate your breakdown of this. Just recently I was speaking with an aunt who sees herself as helping to “raise” me. I’ve felt like most of my interactions with my dad and his enablers (one being this aunt/his sister) has caused me to separate myself from the toxicity. So when speaking with this aunt, I asked her about my dad (as his health is not the best). She shifted blame and attempted to shame me for not coming around or showing up to help take care of a person who consistently made me feel worse than how I felt before encountering him (he it over the phone, on a holiday or if he stopped by her house). This aunt dismissed my feelings and attempted to make me feel like I was making a mountain out of a molehill…she literally said that. She then said that my dad treated me the way that he did because he wanted more out of me when all that I saw out of him was abuse, neglect and drunkenness towards my brothers and I. I was always a great student, and a meek child/teen. I did have my first child at 21, but even then I was well on my own. This conversation with her made me feel like it would still be best to not visit her home to visit my dad in order to avoid more toxic behavior from both her & him. I know that he is a person too, and with that I came to terms to understand and forgive but does this mean that I need to still show up when these people are still not caring to change for the better? He always finds a way to put me down regardless of if he was healthy or is sickly. Let my aunt tell it, her childhood was wonderful. Their parents were everything they needed so how could my dad be the way he was as a father. I truly feel abandoned by him. I have chosen to break this generational curse while raising my children to feel loved, seen, and heard. I may not get everything right, but I refuse to have them grow up the way I did.

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@AlignedLibra]

My mother had me at 16 years old. I understand that she was a teenage mother battling and enduring her own trauma, trials, and tribulations. Your discussion brought to light how my mother was dismissive, emotionally unavailable, disconnected, self-absorbed, and lacked a nurturing nature as a parent. I have forgiven her and my absent father. I know healing will be continuous along with the implementation of distance & boundaries so that my healing will deepen. My mother exposed years ago that she was molested by her stepfather and that ties into how she wouldn't talk to me about boys, dating, or even curiosity. I never had a mother-daughter relationship and seeked that closeness from other women in my family or those I met along the way. Throughout my childhood I felt unprotected, unloved, and insignificant so I took on a lot of trauma and situations because I had to deal with them on my own. I didn't trust my mother or even think of her as someone to talk to because she was always absent mentally and emotionally. Even when I was touched inappropriately as a child, I kept it to myself. I have forgiven the family member and no longer have negative feelings towards them but as I reflect, I was not supported in the ways I should have been growing up. I kept so many things I endured to myself, burying them away, and now as a 31-year-old woman healing has definitely helped me release everything I stored away subconsciously. If I have children, I want to enter motherhood healed. I want to be a mother who encourages my children to express themselves, prioritizes a healthy, loving relationship with my children, and that I make my children feel safe, noticed, heard, and seen.

[@MaxineShaw-de7bh]

This right here resonates with me so much, because my mom was toxic to me growing up. Im not sure if my siblings ever came ro the realization as to how toxiv mom was. She's always say mean things like, "I'll slap your azz into next week" or "I'll slap them damn teeth out your mouth." What mom didn't realize is that every time she said things as such, it mentally broke me down to where I didn't want to share with her about how I felt. She was dismissive of my feelings and when it came to men, she didn't give a damn. She did what ahe always wanted to do. Went to the bingo hall seven days a week and her way of spending time with us was taking me and my siblings to the store and spending money. Now dont get me wrong, we went to the park and things like that. Yet we never had one on one times where we could sit down and talk. It was always "My way or the highway" or "You do what I tell you and thats that." One moment that will forever stick with me was when I was late to my own 8th grade graduation. The night before I had a fresh perm put in and the edges were slayed, lol 😂. I cant remember the time I had to be there but I remember waking up that morning and putting on my clothes (a black skirt and white blouse). After I got myself dressed, i literally walked to my junior high school and when i walked in the gym, everyone looked at me and it was so embarrassing. I found my seat and the ceremony proceeded. After a while, I saw my mom and gma in the stands with flowers and balloons. When it was all over, of course I cried yet it wasnt tears of excitement. It was tears of "Why did mama let me down on one of the most important days of my life?" A day that has been ingrained in my memory since the age of 11 or 12 and im nearing 40. I still have a picture of that day and I had my Dallas Cowboys jacket on and my eyes were redder than strawberries. A day I will never forget. There were other things that mom had control over, yet she didn't care. And to this day when i bring up stuff, its like "Oh I dont remember that happening" and my response is, "Well it did because I was there when it happned". I know im still a work in progress and have healed from some things albeit I know that certain things will be with me. I've learned to forgive yet I will never forget and it's the main reason why I chose to love her from a distance. I will do for her when she needs something yet I still keep my distance that way I don't get sucked into the guilt - trip talk or victim blaming cycle. I keep my peace by being away and that has worked for me and it continues to work. The aha moment for me was when I had my kids ans vowed to be there for them, show up for them, and unlearn what I thought was healthy. Im a mother to three beautiful children and I make sure they are #1 in my life. I just hope that people do the healing thats required for themselves to move forward with their lives. Wishing you all peace and blessings. Ase. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@selestineshiro3918]

Hey Lisa, this is such a deep conversation. Thanks for sharing. I have decided to forgive my parents. They only used the knowledge and resources available at a young age to bring us up. My mom is now my friend after many years of resenting her emotional absence. I feel peaceful and she is also healing by God's Grace

[@kemahnorville8102]

Hi, yes I have come to the understanding that my mom was and still do not have the mental ability to face all the hurt and pain she has caused me. She still doesn't take accountability for the things she have done. She plays the victim in every situation. She likes to play me and my sister against each other and that have caused us to not have a relationship. I am 40 years old and I got my aha moment 3 years ago. I am on my healing journey! Thank you seasoned dialogue.

[@Blys6]

My mother was 30 almost 31/when she had my I was the last of 4 children. I have three older brothers. I think she was maturely equiped but very much in need of healing from the past traumas. She died at the early age of 37/ 38yrs of age so I don't know much about her. I am now 40 myself healing key childhood wombs for my teen soon and his future. We are Breaking generational curses just with our communication with each other alone that's not including the work I'm putting in. Much gratitude for this topic. Fairly new Subscriber.

[@padme.india.essence]

aha moment was in my 20’s - 22 now , and starting to detach from them slowly . foundationally i have many things to learn to detach fully , although i am building myself back up to stand on my own feet & i am very proud of myself .

[@DannielleSudena]

My aha moment just happened a few days ago after reading a book my therapist recommended. It’s hard to forgive one of my parents because they are healing their trauma by trying to make me exactly like them, but a perfect them instead of a genuine me. I’m breaking the cycle by healing first before I have children. I also choose to be married first.

[@brianeasterling1645]

Both my parents were terrorist. I never walked on eggshells and still won't. I am 63 now Igrew up and have been told I have a heart of gold.I knew something was wrong with them I knew that I knew. Turns out I was the punching bag or scapegoat of my family I loved her deeply. she gave me a backhanded compliment thru grand nephew on her death bed.She told him she shouldn't have treated me so terribly and that I still came out a real man never cussed her.I accepted it fully I always loved my Mama.The cancer came back and I quit my job to go take care of her.She said Dennis who would have ever thought you would be the one to come to take care of me.She died at 88 but finally I met my mother 😢😢😢😢

[@theevolvingmindset333]

Sis, your videos, your words are so on point. I pretty much watch and listen to everything you post on YT and IG. THANK YOU for sharing your gift with me and so many others. 🌿🌿 17:08 This is where I am now in my season. I am healing and have been on my healing journey for 4 years now (I'm 52 y/o). My relationship with my mother is strained because she doesn't know or realize she needs healing and I've learned to accept that. I have forgiven her. She asked me in an email almost a year ago, "well how long is it going to take you to "heal"? I responded "It's a lifelong journey, Ma" I haven't heard from her since. It makes me sad but I have to keep healing, growing and evolving anyway, I'm breaking generational curses and dysfunction. 💚💚

[@SeasonedDialogue]

I want to share this with you....same situation years ago with the same question asked to me. My response was like yours....but I also understood that some people don't know what to do when the damage is done. It's much easier for them to hide and not face it. You are doing your self a great justice by healing FOR you. Parents can't help us heal when they have the inability to recognize their deep traumas. Many times we simply need a recognition of the pain inflicted, explanation, then I'm sorry, followed by changed behavior. But many parents simply cannot. That's why we have to heal so that we show up better for the people in our lives.

[@theevolvingmindset333]

@@SeasonedDialogue This was divine. Thank you for sharing. I’m growing to understand that. My mother has been the hardest human to ‘let go’ but I’m evolving to get to that level of peace about it. Thank you, I appreciate you. 🌿💚

[@pamadderley]

Hey @nichelleb I’m right there with you. I’m 52 and healing from a strained relationship with my mother. I admire the fact that you’ve gone almost a year w/o talking to her. I reach out to my mom once a week and the majority of the time she ignores my call and don’t return them. She sent me a message at 11 pm on my birthday. Broke my heart. But I’ve forgiven and learning to live in this healing journey. I’m so grateful for Lisa Marie, this platform that she created and her wise words💕

[@theevolvingmindset333]

@@pamadderley Hey Pam. We're aligned in our seasons. My mother didn't call me on my birthday at all this year, it broke my heart as well. I'm starting to learn how to not continue to break my own heart by not reaching out to her because each time, I get disappointed and hurt. It's NOT an easy process but it's best for me, my mental health and my healing. I pray that you keep going on your healing journey and find your peace & happiness. If you ever want to chat more about it, let me know and we can exchange email or Instagram handles. Have a beautiful day, on purpose!

[@theevolvingmindset333]

@@pamadderley Just checking in. How's it going for you?

[@iopakayalo3459]

My parents lacked the necessary resources to bring us up, and God bless them. I don't hold them responsible. Nevertheless, I observed a recurrence of familiar abusive patterns in my own life when I established myself. Unintentionally, I drew a narcissistic partner into my world. Although we've since separated, I've recognized these patterns and silently built barriers to provide my daughter with a more affectionate and tranquil upbringing. I am seen as indifferent by my family and ex partner but that's ok because I know better now. Peace and love to all who are healing✌️💕🙏.

[@chav916]

Thank you so much! I appreciate you taking the time break down mentally what is going on with the trauma our previous generations have gone through. I started my healing journey when I was 24, I am now 27, and realized how much trauma I had pent up inside my heart. Then soon realized that trauma is just energy, and it was just simply transferred into me. My mother and her siblings have been a lot growing up. Fortunately, I have a mother who is more understanding then most and willing to listen. She does have her moments. Yet, I have big issues with my aunts and their narcissistic selfish mannerisms. Due to them I do my absolute best to be self-aware of my actions and reactions on a daily basis. However, the older I get the more I want to create distance from them to maintain my peace. I tell myself to approach them with an almost childlike mentality, yet they push me into a realm I don't want to be ever. I hope as I grow, I learn to handle those moments better because I am knowledgeable of the many things they have gone through. Just wanted to thank you! I am an active listener on audible yet when I can catch a KZbin video I definitely do!

[@betty1hope]

Such wisdom!! Forgiveness is a gift unto ourselves and it is directly connected with our healing. This is amazing Lisa. ❤❤❤Blessings

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you! Blessings to you ❤️

[@kookiemilkofficial1730]

You did so well on this and as a mother who also got abuse as a child I appreciate this video. Happy I chose to stay positive & my children don't have an abusive dismissive mother❤

[@tizone8477]

✍️🏾 Oh, I am definitely not new and not only do I 👍🏾, I always share with others. Your messages are always so insightful and motivational. I perpetually thank the Holy Spirit for what comes through you to all of us. ❤🙏🏾

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Oh my goodness....thank you so very much! I thank GOD for the vulnerability and people like you who really show up to this channel ❤️

[@tizone8477]

Part of why this resonates with me so much is the factor that I went through so much as a child, because of my parents. My father was physically abusive and I asked my mother, at the age of eleven, if he was my father, because of his actions. She said he was and told me to stop asking stupid questions. What I didn’t realize was that my mother was mentally and emotionally abusive towards me as well ( I learned later). It was all as too much to handle and I went down a very dark path when I got into my teenage years. I’ll leave that there, in this forum. But, suffice it to say that just three years ago, my mother revealed that he really wasn’t my biological father after all and proceeded to name the person who was. To say that I was hurt is an understatement. Had she been honest with me and protected me as my mother, instead of being complicit in my mistreatment, I conceivably would have ventured down that dark path. One of those most detrimental things that can prevail in one’s life is to be abandoned by one’s own parents, but especially one’s mother. I later realized that she was a scarred person and that infected how she treated me. There’s so much more to the story, believe me. Both of my parents … and my biological father (I did get to meet him during a weekend in February of last year and he died the following weekend) have all passed on, but I took care of my parents in spite of all they did to me, until their last breath. If you only knew how much I endured … and have overcome … you would truly understand why I am so touched by your messages. You see, it’s nurturing and it’s the kind of nurturing I wish I had as a child. So, it’s just as important to hear it now.

[@tyshonking9757]

I AGREE with every word .. I had my AHHAA moment when i was 24years of age .My parents did not want to Change for the better but stay the same and not Mature or Heal their toxic ways. I was going through my understanding /healing stage at the time of that . I REcongnize YOU LISA 💚💚💚 . YOU are EVERYTHING You Beautiful Soul. I am Grateful for Your Spoken Word Of Light ... Bless You 🙏🙂 - YADI

[@KmarieKennedy-hh2bw]

Yess I couldn’t express my feelings when I was younger 38 yrs later still the same and I had to realize she have some unhealed issues and condition to feel like it’s ok.

[@Zen-cx5tc]

My mother turned to alcohol to deal with her trauma. I'm positive that I'll be breaking the generational curses. I don't have kids, however, if I do have kids in the future I will do better.

[@masaniifadamilola7474]

I am still stuck in the process of not forgiving my parents for what them neglected in protecting me and loving me unconditionally, my mother is still married to the man that molested me, and I decided to have no contact with them over the past decade its been unhealthy and traumatising for me, the dismissiveness on my mother and my dad behalf has shaped my relationships with women and men in my life, I did want to work to breaking the cycle with my two sons, but it hasn't with my oldest son, he has kids of his own, his relationship with women is toxic, due to being born and raised in my toxic pains, I've been in therapy since 19, and I really wanted my kids to be different, I wanted to never treat my kids how my parents treated me and hurt me, and I thought sharing and communicating would have resolved it, but now my oldest doesn't speak to me because of the involvement my mother his grandmother has had in his life which has ultimately back fired on her, and his relationships with the mothers of his kids, I pray for healing and therapy for all of us,

[@joannegomes5099]

*A part of you dies when you are abused*.. this resonates with me.. its so very true.. takes a lot to breath life back into the part of your soul that dies.. to let go of the pain.. to forgive yourself and the parent who did not protect you.

[@geraldinephakedi7413]

Lisa, listen!!! You never disappoint. Thank you for this SEASONAL message. I recently met my father after 35 years of not knowing him. Well, it was 35 years of a confirmed death(lol). He has shown all these signs of an unhealed parent and I am still trying to reconcile with all that I was told and what I am witnessing. Despite this, I have forgiven! Thank you for your dialogues, you are God-sent. Stay blessed.

[@danesiawilliams4310]

Just on Time Mrs.Lisa Marie, I am a parent and how I was parented was not the Best,but I also over stand that my parents weren't given the necessary tools to parent and unheal in many ways also, I've choose to be the Healed,Present, understand, gentle,loving,all the things I missed as a child to my children. Girl I love you❤

[@marviamiller7692]

Whoa you are so on point, after what happened to me as a child and what I did to my children then I woke up and said no , no more. I apologized to my children and told them we evolve and learn and when you have children they will be raised with love and understanding

[@sharpernorvell]

My Dad growing up I thought was a mean mad man who I learned through being a father myself is exactly the man he should have been and had grown 10times over. My father didn't finish high school, raised his brother along with my moms brothers without a father , a mother on drugs , and no one to look up to. He's a fighter, aggressive, argumentative and after 28 I realized he's human. He's given me tools and knowledge along the way I wasn't receptive of it comments he said repeatedly I didn't take as constructive because he didn't word it right and I didn't take it well. I told myself I never wanted to be like him and being a dad myself and having him help me and be able to get in touch with my feelings as a man and as a dad. Love your videos always but this one here really hit home.

[@montaylor5300]

I’m the survivor of unspoken chronic abuse levied in me by my birth mother..I’m the product of an affair she had with her best friend’s husband-my dad.. she abused me beyond human comprehension, only Gods grace got me to adulthood-I married early to escape, ive unconsciously been unable to fully love my children as my self love cup has been near empty… ive forgiven my mom but won’t attend her funeral…i continue to travel life’s path n live in the moment. Aseò 🙏🏾💫❤️

[@JSimone91]

I feel that you took my story and read it aloud for everyone to hear. Now I’m a mother to a beautiful daughter and I’m battling with her over her feelings for my current partner. This really helped me beyond measure. I thought I was healed from my past but this revealed that I have more healing to do. Thank you!❤

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@erikagoldson2995]

Thank you Lisa-Marie for executing a marvellous episode of your truth telling ❤, its real to every core word you have spoken, had to forgiven my parent (dad) it took 27 years of me being angry, and full of regret for my upbringing, but as i got on my healing journey, i realize it was only eating me away inside and had to forgive him, nothing has changed, so I've kept it moving .

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Goodness!!!! Yes, we can only heal ourselves and vow to show up better than those before us. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@veronicabennett2343]

My grandmother placed a lot of responsibilities on my mother starting at the age of 5 . Me being the oldest grandchild was responsible for all my cousins under me and my younger sister, I got married had two children of my own with a man that had four, his children were older but our family blended. As soon as I finished raising my children now his children are parenting or not parenting leaving me to raise one of my granddaughters from 2 months until 5 years old. During my childhood I was molested by two of my grandmothers boyfriends grew up in a house filled with toxicity. My ah ha moment happened when my mother spoke to her mother about how she felt. My grandmother replied she did the best she knew how she was 22 with 6 children married at 14 and her mother had left her so she never learned. I understood my mother only could do for me what she was taught. My parenting is very different I became a people pleaser, out of three marriages two were toxic but I show up for my children and my grandchildren I ask questions , and allow them open spaces to speak regardless of how I feel about what they share. Thank you for this your videos are helping me so much even though I am and have been in therapy. Your perspective is added relief as a drug and alcohol counselor I could help others but forgot to help myself ❤❤❤❤❤

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@briannakelly26]

People with all the resources have ended up making damaged children because they refused to heal even if they were living the sober life. There's also many who chose to heal who drink and smoke (as well as those who don't) who's children have come out without parental trauma, who are well rounded, happy and healthy. Often the latter faced no need to be strong or were sheltered so when they faced the inevitability of the traumas/abuses of the world it devastated them to their complete end. That's why on my journey I just try to stay as balanced as possible

[@zettataylor2380]

I recognize this from my mother's ways and life bringing in my 30s. I'm the only child, im 54 now. Mother was 20 when she and my father conceived me. It was so hard to deal with. I didn't understand and blamed her for not being able to love me. I saw myself in her as I raised my own...Wow. I'm working on my trigger with my mom. I forgive her.

[@zettataylor2380]

I also Forgive myself

[@zettataylor2380]

I also Forgive myself

[@natshalane5247]

This is a perpetual situation however I am working to heal my daughter ,she knows it and uses this against me.. still doing the work.. prayers please. 😢

[@bossbabe888]

I love your videos Marie🫶🏾 Your voice is so calming. I binged watched when I subscribed. Thank you very much for this wholesome content🤍 Sending you so much love from Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@SeasonedDialogue]

AWWWW Thank you so much for subbing! Thank you so much for the kind words as well ❤️

[@bossbabe888]

My parents are unhealed. They didn’t have access to the tools I currently have. But since they are sticking to their ways. I choose to go no contact. I have healed and forgiven. But every time I was with them they just did things that were creating new wounds and trauma. I love them so much and I pray that one day if God wills they will be better. My story is so long too I can’t write all of it But one thing for sure I am breaking general curses. As a mom and a wife I’m doing everything differently by the grace of God. This episode has been healing and enlightening for me as usual. Thank you again.

[@bossbabe888]

You’re welcome 🫶🏾

[@ClassyWithChrist]

I was always told as a kid i was lair, no matter what i said or did i always second guessing my own feelings and speaking up on certain things now i dont know which part of my childhood is true or not. I tried talking to my parents and that didnt go anywhere. I also ask my parents for a DNA test at age 28. Im currently healing and getting the proper help i need. I did find myself repeating things ive seen my parents do. Now i catch it and work on it immediately.

[@simplescrap8868]

I intellectually understood them - I healed - but I will never forgive. They were sufficiently aware of psychology to change their lives if they wanted. They didn’t make this effort. I turned my back and this was the happiest moment in my resurrection ! But forgiving ? No way !

[@michellesimpson4093]

We must forgive our parents for what they didn't know, They too were struggling and often times didn't know. I now work at loving myself and giving myself what I think they didn't give me. I am grateful because at least it taught me what I don't want. Let's give ourselves the peace, love and joy we deserve let the healing begin

[@jordenbaker43877]

❤❤❤ this was a beautiful message❤❤❤ I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to talk to my mother and get clarity of things growing up... I'm forgiving her for it. It's a blessing that the person that you speak of was able to talk with her mother to be able to get that information to be able to know the core of the situation to get through it and gather understanding. Challenging as this can be.. Breaking generational curses is what I'll fight towards and continue to break so that way this isn't passed over to my children and the children to come down the line. ❤❤❤❤

[@user-rd7nm2kb8t]

You are “ALL OVER MY SOUL RIGHT NOW“‼️♥️ Thank You… full confirmation of understanding ❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome and it truly takes understanding to heal.

[@shannontho7363]

yay! I always wanted longer videos from you :). this title resonated with me because i wrestle with these things.

[@maximuri20]

This video made me cry ....praying that God gives me the strength to forgive... thanks Lisa Marie for the wisdom and kindness you shared through this video..

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome! It will take time, but I believe in you!

[@user-lc3te4qz5m]

Hi Lisa, I was excited to watch this video. It validated so much of my life. I want to heal so badly and move on from the pain I feel when I think of my mother. I know I haven’t forgiven her because I cry every time I think about her. (We talk sparingly, nothing deep.) I ask myself daily what have I done wrong for her to not care about me or anything in my life. I never knew my father (I was told a lot during my younger years that he never wanted me, and that she even tried to abort me) She left my in Jamaica when was a baby, came to states to make a life for herself and she did. But, there was no connection with her when I came to live with her. . Thoughts of inadequacy came to mind when I became a mother. I expected my own mother to care, guide me somehow. But she didn’t care. Didn’t come for showers, birth, birthdays, dinners, she even refused to acknowledge my son by his name. I did everything I thought she would want, but I get nothing. I have two small kids and have been married for almost 10 years, Army veteran, nurse and many other accomplishments, and all I’ve ever wanted was for her to see me. Tell me she’s proud. Something. . I am crying even now just writing this. I have to heal for my daughter and my son and myself. I will let it go. Thank you so much for this message, it has touched my soul.

[@zanamccants1261]

I’m glad you have made this content on this it will help so many people start to heal it’s something that’s hard to do from my experience I can say but it taught me to give nothing but unconditional love to my child. Thank you for sharing

[@DonelleMurray-dm6zm]

This is such a powerful message to me in ways you wouldn't believe...I lost my mom..a year and 8 months ago ..I'll never repair form that ..we'd a strained relationship in the year leading to her passing siblings strife..my dad and I can't see eye to eye because some ppl just don't wanna hear the truth..my son and I recently had a falling out because he says I never listen to what he wants but I just can't sit and watch him throw away his future....he wants to quit school to work. God knows I tried so hard to be all the things my parents weren't..i forwarded this message to him in the hope that it resonates with him they way it did with me..Thank you 🙏🏽

[@wendyjoy8674]

So good!

[@carmenortizfeatherstone8034]

Wow eye opener!! 😢

[@AJ-ml7xu]

Thank you

[@_Renee2]

Mother’s who overlook SA (molestation) in order to keep a man scare me. We are supposed to protect our babies not assist in their abuse. I forgive my parents. Forgiveness does not include reconciliation. I have mastered loving folks from afar to protect my children and my peace. Severing ties allows me the space to break generational trauma.

[@dylanfrasier4054]

Bless you lisa.This is soo right on.

[@catherinefagan3614]

So relate to this thankyou❤

[@jamesanderson7711]

Much Love @lisa Marie!!!

[@flexflash7890]

You are so my vibe I just su surprised I’m just coming across your channel but maybe I wasn’t on the right frequency. Anyway, thank you for all your advice and conversations. I’m addicted now lol.

[@bykelvinkean]

It took me years to understand the cycle of generational trauma where there's a limit to what I am able to do.... at present I am only capable to hold space if they want to heal but honoring myself so I won't need to self sacrifice ... .. we can only heal ourself and hold space if the family dynamics would want to heal too... love this sharing Lisa... ❤

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@apolishedtouchnailstudio]

through some unresolved issues with my father that recently passed in February. His Homegoing Celebration was 8/26 I didn't go at the last moment. I never dealt with the pain and hurt he caused me. My family on his side never reached out to me. So Im in therapy now and this was in 1998

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Wounds are so hard to heal..... Did the death of your father present more resent and anger in your opinion?

[@apolishedtouchnailstudio]

@SeasonedDialogue You know my therapist told me I'm grieving the fantasy of not having a father in my life and anger and hurt of it

[@apolishedtouchnailstudio]

@SeasonedDialogue It's going to take time , I couldn't stay out of the bed all during the week prior. Emotionally eating and drinking 🍸

[@FlorenceW101]

This was deep, and I needed to hear it.

[@user-mp8jo1xo3l]

I’m breaking generational curse. I choose to forgive 😊

[@rashandajefferson2412]

Thank you for this video

[@latishaturner1964]

I am an abused woman.. from some men… and now my husbands family.. meaning mom, dad and sisters…… I’m now trying to recover and heal..

[@lovelye11ep]

Mrs. Lisa ❤I thank God for your yes. You are helping me tremendously. I appreciate you and thank you for the effort and thought you put into every video. I pray our God blesses you and your family above all you can ask or think. ❤

[@ThatsD.]

First and Foremost, Thank you for allowing your spirit and bravery to post this video. It resonate with me so much. Which led me to believe that I'm on the right track. Thank You Ms. Lisa

[@nacholuva_]

listening as a unhealed parent w an unhealed parent thank you for this commentary ❤️⭐️

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@sparklesdiva310]

These Videos are so amazing and enlightening. Thank you for doing what you do.❤❤

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome and thank you fr being here!

[@thebrittannytaylor]

Thank you for this video. It was all too relatable.

[@shemeccawilliams6648]

💜This resonates. Thank you

[@kingmicahtheinfamous4309]

Through therapy, I've learned to honor the feelings I have towards my parents. I forgiven my parents and considered they've done the best for me. But I still felt bitter because I never been vocal about what they've done to the public. But I didn't say what I needed to say to myself: I needed more than what they could give me at the time.

[@apolishedtouchnailstudio]

This helped so much❤ it reminded of things I already knew but put in the back corner of my mind❤❤❤❤🥰

[@badhabit714]

Love this channel.

[@stephanieclemmer7552]

You are Precious . Healing words you have given to Many. A Higher understanding and Loving awareness you've given to me this day. Thank you Love from my whole heart! Thank you

[@shahdanielson8779]

Thank you for these words, truly helped me release my tears today. God bless you amazing beautiful soul❤️

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You are so welcome

[@jamielockett2547]

Wise words beautifully conveyed, thank you for your insight.

[@SosoBrene12]

Love this & with your calming voice makes easy listening.

[@Maple_loop222]

Ur a great storyteller ❤

[@floritadaniel2285]

Breaking Generational Curses!!!!❤ I am so grateful that Higher Power guided me thru and for the blessing of my Sons 🙏🏾 My youngest son has seriously been helping me get more healed as he has been on his healing journey. Thank You for Seasoned Dialogue ❤

[@theevolvingmindset333]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Bee-ft8xv]

Beautiful healing message!

[@dhurbaacharya5261]

Thank you welcome for lisa to make the friend for love. praying to god .

[@916_Onyx]

Again Sis…. You cover all grounds… So anointed. My heart cries on this subject matter for the babies and the grown babies that experienced this. Help them Sis… Give them perspective. ✨Respect.✨

[@SeasonedDialogue]

Thank you

[@conniegale]

Thank you.

[@SeasonedDialogue]

You're welcome!

[@hb6764]

Your work is beautiful and your words need to be heard. Gwan wid yuh great self.

[@montaylor5300]

God bless you sis, keep rising 🙏🏾💫❤️

[@paulcohen1832]

Women are not the only ones that go through this

[@AD-pr8sh]

Did she say that? You don’t seem ready to have healthy conversations. You are bringing in whatever you already dealing with to an unrelated conversation. Heal and find peace