The Reason I Have Been Gone Lately..

[@emilycarder6516]

"she lost him but she found herself, and somehow that was everything"

[@annakowalczyk5251]

love that so much

[@erincorey4205]

TAYLOR swifttttt

[@emmagrace9453]

Taylor!! ❤️❤️

[@stina6376]

Taylor Swift (2015)

[@taylorsingh1464]

TAYLOR SWIFT

[@us5freaak]

"It feels like someone died" ...yes

[@mayapapaya00]

Can't believe how relatable this is, the timeline and everything.

[@hananagaty9077]

Maya Hammer same girl same

[@hananagaty9077]

How old are you ? Just wondering , I'm turning 16 in a few months

[@mayapapaya00]

18 :)

[@jimbooo5713]

Honestly I think many guys just want play with girls emotions and shit. Man I dont understand why a guy can NOT stick to a single girl. It's fucked up. But Hey if yall ever need anyone to talk about some shit a guy did to you I'll be here for you!!

[@georgiabloomfield9903]

IKR!!!! Damn I feel for someone in freshman year in hs, and 7 years later he still holds a place in my heart. Recently, he got engaged and that actually hurt a little, but now i'm happy for him and his fiance!!! Monica you are strong and beautiful and an inspiration. You will get through this girly. just focus on the positive and live life for you!!!

[@Lynn3Gigliotti]

My fiancée broke up with me recently. He did it three weeks before our wedding. I never saw it coming. You are not alone and its nothing you did. Take it one hour at a time and time will heal. Always know there is something much better out there for you and in the meantime just focus on yourself.

[@milastark839]

Lynne Gigliotti I was wondering how you are doing? One year later...?

[@valeriav7333]

I was wondering how you are doing one year later too... Hope you are fine, im going through a break up and im really struggling

[@milastark839]

valeria V keep your head up. Use this as an opportunity to do everything you ever wanted and couldn’t of were hesitant to. Rediscover or define yourself because you as an human being are UNIQUE and awesome! As a single person it’s the best and only time to use all your time to invest in yourself :) you’ll fall in love again - but with yourself

[@valeriav7333]

@@milastark839 thank you so much for your kind words it's been really hard we were together for two years but everyone has been so supportive and it has been making things a little bit easier I am really trying to ReDiscover myself and loving myself again So that I can be ready in the future for a relationship that is healthier

[@katcvm]

Lynne Gigliotti aw girl I’m so so sorry :(. I hope you’ve grown!! 🥺❤️

[@cristalcontreras5034]

"its like someone died"...there is a certain type of heartache that truly feels like mourning and grief

[@valerieshinia8526]

I get panick attacks

[@katiew505]

"I finally realized I was never going to be it for him and that's okay it doesn't make me less of anything." YES YES YES. That's the BEST perspective to have because it's the freakin truth Monica. 💕

[@EarlsFamilyVlogs]

One of the things that helped me move on from a time like this was thinking "If I thought this was so wonderful/ he was so great- and this isn't what is meant to be- then it only means that something SO much better is out there and God had someone so incredible in mind for me." Instead of it making me sad (don't get me wrong I was sad for awhile and it took a lot of personal healing) it totally fired me up and made me excited for what was to come some day. Now years later I can say holy cow there is not even the slightest bit of comparison to that image I had in my head with that guy to the love that I share with my husband. God completely blew me away with His plans for me. It's hard and it's okay to be sad- your emotions are valid.

[@akabugssy]

"I'm strong because I've been weak. I'm fearless because I've been afraid. I'm wise because I've been foolish" time heals all wounds, use this experience to become a better version of yourself.

[@KiahKramer]

I'm so glad you posted this...this is something that happens to so many of us and it's easy to feel like you're alone when nobody talks about it, so thank you for talking about it

[@JeanineAmapola]

I love you tons, Monica! God has an AMAZING guy out there for you. Do not settle. You keep doing you and being you. Don't change. When the right person comes along, you will know. You are a special gem and you deserve to be treated like that.

[@latumbleuse1430]

@@ajde8644 what do you mean??

[@jesssticks9391]

This is why I'm so scared of falling for a guy, everytime I start liking a guy I try to avoid them as much as possible because I'll just be sucked into a hole! It's a horrible way to deal with boys but that's how I control myself.

[@Emily-wb7pc]

Jessica Sticks me too!

[@ShamsMakeup]

The more you avoid it the worse it would be so just let it be and live :P

[@shamyshamuswow213]

Fear is my favorite ride

[@AE-vu9rz]

Jessica Sticks I feel you. But you’ll never find love, I used to be that way too. What I did was not save their number in my phone. I left it as a plain old series of digits and gave them their name once I felt they deserved it 😂

[@angeliannabryce6653]

Jessica Sticks I agree with you

[@SharkyB4]

"Its so easy for a guy to say something that feels really special ... and its so easy for them to not mean it." Yep 👌 Hit the nail on the head on that one.

[@SharkyB4]

Get back to your own happiness Monica. 💜 It won't feel like this for too long, it WILL get easier.

[@ameehan8301]

I was dating a guy for a few months back in January, he wound up ghosting me and it screwed me up so bad because it came out of nowhere, he took me to a firemans dinner and when he dropped me off he said see you tomorrow and then never spoke to me again after months of dating...... I still haven't been able to get over the whole thing and I also feel very embarrassed about it. He moves 3 houses down from me on august 30th and I am DREADING it and seeing him every day now. Love is hard.

[@QueenKaleGardener]

Ashley Meehan JAW DROP! wooooow..... What a jerk!

[@blueditto]

Ashley Meehan ghosting is the fucking worst. :(

[@susanh1104]

Whoa..... WTF?!? --What a wimp! Can't even break up properly.... :/ .... Also why is he moving so close to you? I'm so confused 0_o ...

[@oldthrowawayyoutube3676]

I'm just as confused! Basically I bought a house in late April (while he and I were still together) and he was also looking for houses at the time and we "broke up" before he found a property..... two weeks ago he texts me out of no where to tell me we are going to be neighbors now..... (we have known each other for a long time because we both grew up in the town we bought our houses in and we are both mid/late 20s)

[@victoriacarvajal4553]

I feel you, okay. You have to know that there was you before him and there will be you after him. Do not acknowledge his presence. Do not beg for time from someone who would not do the same. You cannot hold onto the good times. You cannot hold onto them being loving. You cannot hold onto what is no longer there. It hurts. But you heal and you have to know that your heart will heal while you're busy doing the things you love. I promise you there will be days you miss them more, but then they will leave your mind again. Things go on, it doesn't feel that way, but they will.

[@anastasiamariediaries]

I have been through this EXACT same thing before and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. It was just becoming so toxic for me to hang out with that person and I also had to walk away like you did. It truly will feel better in time. I promise. I'm 24 and I've only been in two very short relationships. You are still so young and have plenty of time and I know that someday, you'll find someone who sees all your amazing qualities and feels the same way as you do about them.

[@rachelk3259]

It sounds like he was being emotionally manipulative. He definitely knew you liked him, but he strung you on and gave you false hope. I'm proud of you, Monica. Life is tough, but you get through it and learn.

[@anushkaa28]

That is exactly MY STORY. " definitely knew everything but gave false hopes" 🖤

[@sfi369]

Rather than just being manipulative, I think he was also a coward

[@summerkrightnow]

This is lowkey exactly what I'm going through right now too. Like you know you need to cut him out but something in you isn't letting you, ughhhhh the struggles!!

[@summerkrightnow]

and the actions speak louder than words hit me hard

[@Juli56681]

How are you today?🥰

[@Lovelmd]

I can relate to this sm Monica.. I'm glad I'm not alone. Thank you for opening up to us it means a lot❤️

[@hananagaty9077]

L M23 same girl same

[@Kyle-nf7vx]

Hey Monica! I've been interning in Seattle over the summer, and I leave in a week and I'd love to take you out to coffee before I go. I didn't want to leave without at least trying to meet up!

[@sydsvlogs]

GET KYLE A DAMN DATE, Y'ALL.

[@torrisunshine]

Get Kyle a date!!!!

[@BLHxglam]

KyleInCollege give Kyle a shot MONICA!

[@kozycactus]

Did none of you just see the video? She's healing and trying to work through this. She literally said she's going to focus on herself and what makes her happy. She doesn't need people in the comments trying to set her up.

[@sydsvlogs]

Alicia Kohler Calm down, Jan. It's a joke.

[@danim1655]

This happened to me in February and I felt the exact same way because I'm also the type of person to not fall for people/open up easily, and I was upset for a good month afterwards especially because I had to see him every day around campus. But I'm telling you now that it really helps you find yourself and appreciate other people in your life more. Stay strong Monica because everything happens for a reason💖 much love

[@luckynguyener3940]

CmatthYBR okay you REALLY need to stop. You're becoming really annoying. Who has time to correct everyone on every little mistake they make??? You really just need to let things go. This isn't an essay and you aren't a teacher so stop correcting everyone. You're being annoying.

[@txyznerd5995]

Dani Miranda I

[@tessmarie7651]

It’s scary how relatable this is

[@mariaglez8275]

Seriously, you couldn't have uploaded this in a better moment.. The same thing kinda happen to me this past 5-6 months and this past week I came with the sane conclusion. God how I understand you! You know I always felt so reflected in you, like your character and attitude and all and today I confirm that. You're gonna get through it, and so will I. Love from Spain

[@LifewithGoldie]

Both of you are so beautiful. Everything is going to workout and true love will come your way when you least expect it!! Such a great learning and growing experience 💕

[@LizzyHodgins]

So relatable... don't let this close you off to the idea of someone who will accept every vulnerability that you have Monica. I've been exactly where you are and it's really easy to keep yourself at arms length from everyone afterwards. Someone will come into your life that will love and appreciate you in the way you deserve, don't ever give up on that. You've done the right thing. Sending you love and strength! xo

[@annakowalczyk5251]

[@LeonJamesDeWyzeLover]

car cries are the best cries!!

[@heavythinker16]

"If you really meant it, you would've done something about it."

[@kenzieelizabeth]

i am so proud of u

[@othermonica]

miss ya

[@HolaJulen]

You are such a strong person! You will be great soon! I know! :)

[@vanessac105]

Awwww Monica its all good, cry it all out. Let all of it out and then pick yourself up, get yourself ready, put on your Lululemon leggings, and go do something for yourself

[@annacoker2252]

Vanessa Haertig Preach!!

[@izabelalodangco5714]

Vanessa Haertig saving this comment. This might be my new mantra whenever i'm said

[@izabelalodangco5714]

SAD

[@ghostie7790]

yes!!!!!!

[@KN-is2ty]

Hey Monica! I'm going right now through the same thing but with my best girl friend. I know it's not the same as a relationship breakup but it sure feels like it. She was my best friend for like 3 years and all of a sudden she started ditching me and ghosting me out and it was so hard for me to let go of her. And it just sucked knowing I liked her way more then she liked me but I had to let go because it was tearing me up inside. Stay strong, it will get better 💕

[@LuceItUp]

K N I know that feeling. I had to let go of two of my best friends recently. I'm only now beginning to realise how awful one of them was to me, and how the other would validate what she was doing, with no thought of how I might feel. But if course, I couldn't see how much they were really hurting me until I let go. Enough was enough, and though I wish things had turned out differently, we are all fortunate to be able to grow, learn, and make new, better friends who appreciate us as much as we do them (: Know that you'll find more best friends, who deserve you & vice versa. You'll get through it! ☺️

[@jessicaskelton2246]

I get the feeling... Recently with college and other things in my life, I've been changing as a person slowly (but still staying true to myself in my core), and I feel like one of my friends doesn't truly support me, and the other one is supporting everyone but me it feels like. They were my best friends back in middle school and HS, but now they are just... well... friends.... If my boyfriend and I break up (we have been dating for a year and almost 3 months), then I will have really no best friend.. it's tough, but I am very optimistic about where my life will be heading. I'm proud of myself, I just hope that I can try to keep going.

[@abbiebutler9473]

The exact thing just happened with me and my best friend we were so close and would hang out every single day but last month out of the blue she says shes tired of me and totally cut me out of her life and took my two other best friends with her. For a while I was sad, but I'm just starting a realize that I don't need them to be happy.

[@sude3498]

i feel you. that happened to me too

[@CaitlinJohnson1990]

abbie butler I am so sorry girl, but you deserve better! You'll find TRUE friends who don't take sides. 😊

[@cicadahero]

It takes a lot to share something like this and by reading through the comments I can tell that you are not alone on this. Your situation is relatable to a lot of people and it hurts so bad when you have to cut someone out of your life and it hurts right now but in the long run it'll be so much better for you. Props to you for being strong enough to walk away

[@sophiefleming8375]

How could someone not want to date Monica😂 she is so perfect!!

[@kaitlynbrewer8883]

Virtual Hugs,They don't deserve you.Feel better.

[@HannahNoelle2158]

I was date raped a year ago. Every day, night, evening, second I suffer from severe PTSD. I'm not the innocent individual I was. I'm suicidal, living in hell on earth. Although our stories are different, they relate. I'm praying for you, Monica. I believe in you wholeheartedly, despite not knowing you personally. I really do. "Sometimes we miss the memories, not the person." - you deserve better. Damn him for making you feel otherwise. He lost the ONLY thing going for him. You ARE beautiful - inside & out.

[@pinouna000]

HannahNoelle2158 Hope things get better.

[@juliai6656]

Hey, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I run a mental health awareness community over on Instagram and there's over 5.5k people in the community and there are people who have been through what you went through and a ton of them are open to helping others in need. I've made a few posts in the past asking people to comment if they're open to people contacting them and if you scroll back a bit on the IG feed you'll be able to find it. Here's the instagram handle: @howamifeelingg

[@savannahbarrientos7212]

HannahNoelle2158 whoa. Praying for you as well. Even though that's something that never should have happened to you, and never is okay, it's incredible to see you using your past to encourage someone in the now. Who knows who may be reading these comments and saw yours, and they related. The strength you have gained may be one many will learn from. Also, super crazy I use to watch your videos consistently when I was in middle school, and it was during once of the roughest seasons of my life. I had heavy depression and suicidal thinking (thankfully, God completely healed and freed me from it), and my dream was to sing. Idk, watching you felt relatable, like I could. You sang the music I was teased for listening to. Now, I lead worship for hundreds of people every week, and I mentor girls going through depression. But it was crazy to see you here and your comment, considering the effect you had on younger me. Hopefully, I can be of some encouragement to you! 💗

[@shertbertpie]

Giving you a virtual hug ☹️

[@caycebatcheller8304]

HannahNoelle2158 I am so sorry to hear that. I know the pain you're feeling and you're not alone sister. I was raped a year ago as well and I also suffer from ptsd. But I'd like to share that one the 1 year anniversary of my rape, I will enter my second trimester on an unexpected pregnancy. Whether you believe in God or not, I do and I know he brought me this far. You can overcome this. I'm so sorry for you and I'm here for you.

[@hayleylarkin4200]

I'm sorry Monica, but your doing something great for you and will be happy! And I know it's hard and sucks but you are a an amazing person. I love you so much!😘❤️

[@mollybros]

Sometimes someone breaking our heart is the best gift they can give us. I’m glad to see things got better for you. I’m looking forward to being there. Thanks for sharing!

[@ginnyh7254]

I'm so proud you did this Monica , I'm sure someone out there needed just this rn and you helped them by opening up. Take care of yourself , we all love you💗

[@emmacat04]

"When you're someone that feels the way I felt you kind of cling onto those words" soooo relatable. Felt like I was listening to my life story lol. Hang in there girl, its hard to break the ties especially when its been so long, and that's okay. At least you felt something! So many people won't even let themselves feel something for someone, so you opened your heart up and that's commendable.

[@Lifewithdarien]

Monica, I really admire you because you share things like this even when it's really hard. It's so cool how you can turn your tough situations into a learning experience and make something good of it!-- I strive to be more like that. Keep doing what you're doing! ♡

[@annakowalczyk5251]

fuck off

[@princesspro21]

You are such a bad ass and hella brave for making this video. You are helping so many people by showing that this happens to everyone. You rock.

[@GloomBloomGroove]

I love how real you are! Like you said, you wouldn't be who you are without this experience. I believe that in life you are meant to go through these lessons. It's supposed to be a struggle to appreciate what you have even more. With that being said, if you don't learn your lesson you're supposed to learn, it's going to keep appearing in your life over and over until you come away with it learning what you need. Keep up your amazing work!

[@marlenemadrigal2186]

This is so true!

[@annakowalczyk5251]

I couldn't agree more ~

[@veronicaandvanessa]

I like that line, "I have myself back," we're all proud of you! 💕

[@msbeautybubbles411]

Once you get your heartbroken, when someone else is heartbroken you relate on such a deeper level. Hang in there Monica it will get better eventually :/

[@maryrosa1997]

I feel like almost every guy says and does the same shit..... unbelievable. Hang in there girl and don't go back!!

[@zeldapj8760]

This is so unbelievably relatable! You absolutely did not have to tell us, but I appreciate you taking the time because the people who watch your videos weirdly care about you (despite not actually knowing you).

[@Floralexox]

I like how open you are about it. It's hard to let go when you're attached and their not I've been there trust me. I always say to myself in situations no matter how hard it is do what is right and not the easy option because the easy option won't stay easy for long. Stay strong Monica 😊x

[@luckynguyener3940]

You're always so happy. It's heartbreaking to see you cry ☹️

[@jasjumbalaya]

speaking for all of your viewers over 20, I respect the hell out of ya for having the courage to post something so raw and personal. We have all been here...I didn't ever think i was gonna get wine drunk and cry over a guy but it happened to me this summer too. it sucks...but you will be okay!

[@sammer7762]

Sweetheart it hurts but I promise you are going to be fine and remember your life is for you and for no one else so do what you love and I think your viewer(me included) are going to be here for you love your videos. Oh it's fine to just take your time off to deal with your problems. Love you and your videos 😆 Wish you with all my heart to live the best life you can😘💙

[@Emmmmmlay]

It's nothing to be embarrassed about, in fact it's extremely brave of you to step forward and be public about your experience - You're right, everyone at some point will fall for another person who does not reciprocate their feelings, but not everyone is willing to be honest about their emotions in a way that shows strength and fortitude. Love is such a weird emotion, as it is more of a spectrum of experiences that completely overwhelms a person, rather than one steady stream of Hollywood-like feelings. This experience has changed you, it will continue to change you, and one day you'll wake up, look in the mirror and realize why all of the pieces had to fall and move about in the way they did. Hang in there Monica, you've got this!

[@leilamalkani7718]

Don't worry Monica your freaking human things happen for a reason this same situation has happened to us all you've gotta get your ass up and be the better person after this don't keep your guard up recognise how this isn't a bad thing there is someone out there will want what you have about you and don't change your self for anyone girl your prince will come one day wait on it and everyone knows your better than him tbh he's missing out on all of your amazing qualities falling for someone isn't a crime you've gotta get up from this and this experience should make you a better person and make you a stronger person and say yeah I've been there and done that and you sure had some guts to do this like not ALOT of girls would do this and be so confident to face the truth . Find your true self and find who you really are boo xWe're all here for you your not the only one who's felt this way we got you girl❤️x

[@popcorn01230]

CmatthYBR Leilani put the effort into writing an inspiring and kind comment. This is KZbin, not the time to correct someone's grammar.

[@laurenwaddle]

Stay strong beautiful, I'm in the same situation. Things get better with time, I know that's awful advice. But it really does, stay strong baby girl ❤️

[@livvvjordan]

stay strong girl. if he didn't fall for you then it wasn't meant to be. your man is out there somewhere and one day "the right day" he will find you or you will find him. love youuuuuu!

[@ashtonpatrice6137]

ooh, girl. I have been there. You'll going to look back at this video from now and be like "What was I crying about?" Lol I wish you peace, love, and healing.

[@bethanygolding1418]

you honestly don't owe us anything but I am so proud of you for making your voice known in this world to try and help others out. love you!!

[@shaniquawegoindown]

thank you for making this video monica💗 i'm so sorry you're going through this but i know exactly what you're going through i think we all do. but sharing you're situation just reminds us we're not alone

[@laurenc2980]

CmatthYBR stop being an ass I keep seeing you on every damn comment being such a critique pls go find something else to do with your time

[@colombetricaud3069]

@CmatthYBR lol when u so dumb u dont know critique is also used so u take it out on hurt people

[@astridflorencex]

You are soooo strong Monica, thank you so much for opening up to us

[@thelionkingrox]

8 months later and I still come back to this to try to get the courage to do the same thing you did. I'm so happy you found a man who sees what you have to offer and appreciates you. You're such a great person Monica!

[@jasminemichellethomas]

Virtual hug. It'll be ok. We've all been there. Let it hurt, but then let it go.

[@SkatingChik629]

Oh so so relatable. I believe I'm a few years older than you but I've absolutely had my heart broken in these ways a few times and I totally get it. Let yourself have the emotions. It's absolutely okay.

[@saskiacarr2923]

You're so incredibly brave for posting this and for being so real. You're so strong for facing this issue so maturely. You're such a role model for so many of us and it really feels like we're all your friends. We're here for you Monica xx

[@darnabedwell2115]

I'm viewing this a year later. By now I hope you're feeling better Monica. Yes we all go through it. It's very likely that showing this vulnerability will help others. Because it seems to me that you've done a good job working through it. These things do take time. You're very special Monica. God bless you. 💖

[@robbuglass6199]

Monica , get a firm grip of yourself . Have a look in the mirror , you are bright , talented , attractive ( even your shoulders lol) I fully expect long lasting love to knock you flying just when your not expecting . Get out of the US , travel more and live more .

[@sarahmg1883]

CmatthYBR Man you are the grammar nazi! I see you all around the comments😂

[@SwirlyGirls1]

CmatthYBR This is fuckin KZbin no one cares or is looking for you to proof read their comments

[@jsowels19]

Good advice! It sucks at first but time heals!

[@robbuglass6199]

kailee lenae she hates her shoulders

[@rochelle1199]

Very true. Travelling educates and liberates💕

[@kellydoll17]

Thanks for being so raw and honest with us. Your story made me tear up because it really resonated with me. I'm sure that lots of girls can relate and it's nice to know we are not alone.

[@golddesignco]

love you so much girl. take your time and take care of yourself

[@ashleeptrs]

I went through this for the past two years, it was hard because he made me believe he loved me, but when we were out in public, we were always just friends. It broke me for so long and I felt so stupid because I never ever thought I'd be the one to cry over a boy. But there I was. But here I am, FINALLY over him (it took a LOT to like him and it took even more to get over him) and I'm so happy that I'm over him. It's hard and it doesn't help to say that time heals all, but it really does. I'm sorry this happened to you Monica, you're such a kind hearted and loving soul, you deserve the best, and you'll find that. And again, I know that doesn't help, but trust me, it'll happen.

[@mariedamico5632]

I just came across your vlogs recently and I was very touched and impressed by your honesty and how articulate you were in this video. No matter what your age, this happens and could happen again but at least now you’re in touch with what that disparity in feelings is like, and won’t prolong a situation that won’t work out. I give you a lot of credit for making this video. Just keep doing what you’re passionate about, and do it well. Everything else will work out.

[@CourtneyDavisX]

Ugh this is so relatable. I've been there girl. I went through this right out of high school. But that experience altered who I am as a person & how I treated every relationship after that. I don't wish that feeling of confusion & desperation on anyone. It's exhausting. You got this girl 💪🏼 💕 proud of you for standing up for yourself.

[@aquagamer1212]

I'm 21 almost 22 and Ive never a bf. I've been dealing with the lack of reciprocating (is that the right word?) love/like back.

[@alittlebitoflondon5262]

You're not dramatic Monica. I understand you. Stay strong you will get through it. Thanks for being brave and keeping your subscribers in the loop about your life.

[@emilykennedy4628]

the fact that the linked video at the end is with george.... that definitely means that she was talking about george in this

[@MichaelAWoods-mj8ss]

Sooo this helped me... watching in 2020. it helps because i watch your recent videos and i see everything you’re doing for yourself and working for! and now that i go back to this video it’s almost like it was never apart of your life, if that makes sense? what i mean is you’re so strong and you built yourself back up bigger and better than before and continue to do so and that’s who i want to be. you’re such an inspiration tho, you and your sister! watching this video helps me realize to not stress the little things and just make bigger better things lol

[@chloecohn2335]

I hope the best for you Monica, heartbreak is a tough thing and you don't owe us anything until you're entirely comfortable with it. ❤️

[@teenafofeena1567]

I just experienced this kind of heartbreak. I had to cut out someone who meant a lot to me and who was in my life for the last 2 years. He also wasn’t 100% about me and he wasn’t truthful about it. I think he liked the idea of having someone like me around: someone who would always support him, love him, and listen to his dreams and ideas. But he was never that for me. I fell hard for him and he didn’t do the same. Im learning to know that is okay and this video has really informed me in how im feeling. Thank you for sharing this, i really needed it 💜

[@katiew505]

All the love Monica. 💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@kylarae3254]

Went through the same exact thing ... I do not fall for people easily and I met a guy I immediately fell head over heels for. He didn't feel the same. I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason so it didn't make sense why I would feel so strongly for someone who didn't feel the same. Same timeline for me too! I felt so hard for you thru this video. Take care it'll get better.

[@emmylou444]

People have no idea how much what they do and say has an impact on people.

[@VictoriaWilder95]

Girl, you have no idea how much this helped me. I’ve just been facing this, the entire past week and I feel like I want to die, I feel like everything inside me is dead. I can’t even feel the breeze on my face anymore

[@ginnyh7254]

Love you monica💗 we are always here for you and have your back xxxxx

[@princessm8977]

I went through the same thing!!! Now, the moment a man indicates he doesn't like me or likes someone else, that's the end. No waiting. No hoping. There is nothing he has that I can't find somewhere else.

[@kristynamarie1556]

i couldn’t relate more thank you for posting this

[@meganswing5012]

You are such an inspiration! Don't ever forgot how much you mean to your viewers. Unbelievable how you could be so strong and post this but I'm so glad you did. People need to hear this!!!

[@meganconley2224]

I don't know you and I have never watched your videos. This came up on my KZbin main page so I thought I should say something. Sometimes you hold onto people because you love them and you want them to love you back so badly. You think his feelings will eventually change, but they probably won't. He will probably never love you back, but your decision to let him go will open up many doors. Also, this is probably going to happen to you more than once in your life. I am 30 and going through it again right now. I can tell you're amazing, you're loving and you WILL meet someone who loves you back! Also, cry it out and be emotional, take time to get over it, but get back out there and kick some serious ass!!!

[@KaylaMarieYT]

i’m in the same boat right now. the other person isn’t a bad person by any means, but you’re right. it’s so hard being around someone you feel so much for when they don’t. and it’s not fair to them because they are just living their life. but it hurts. i relate to every single thing you said in this video, but it’s so hard to let go.

[@annakowalczyk5251]

I love KZbin for the fact that this platform allows for people to be vulnerable in a more "in person" way then other social medias. Monica, as you can see in the comments you have allowed for others to open up about something that does take such a mental toll on your body and express their feelings about it which is such a blessing. Thank you for always being honest, real and loving towards the community you have created.

[@JunkieCharm]

Me too, Monica. Me too.

[@kkandbabyj]

I love you❤️

[@rebekahmerrill254]

I accidentally clicked on this video having no idea what it was going to be about, but it was literally just what I needed to hear. I'm going through the same thing, and I feel the exact same way. Your words made me realize a lot, and that I do need to just let go for myself. I feel like I'm just holding on because I don't want to go through the pain of not having him there, or I think maybe his feelings will change, but really holdings on is just going to make it worse in the long run. Thank you so much for uploading this video, you have no idea how much it spoke to me.

[@judyoger]

Monica you also made yourself vulnerable by sharing with us. That is one step closer to healing. I know your heart is tender. And it will take time, you didn't just fall in one day and it will definitely take time to really heal. You are right you will grow stronger as a woman from this experience. And it may even happen again, but all of life is a learning lesson. Hugs dear lady, use your love of music and your other work to help find your independent self again. The people who truly care are your family and friend, they will always be there for you.

[@Julia-mk5qy]

Yes! You are not alone. I am currently in the same place. I think I'm about a few days from completely being over it. Good for you! Finally getting over it. Your year still "drowing" this out, I've been going through it for two years! It's crazy to believe. Thanks for the video Monica! Love you! Girl Power!

[@ivaroa]

Hoooooooney. You are not alone. Relationships as a young person are hard whether you're in a long-term commitment or casually dating or simply a crush, it's hard to maintain happiness. Don't worry, you'll find someone who'll reciprocate the same feelings and you'll get married and have kids and you'll be more scared than you when you were alone. Don't worry, WE love you and that's all that matters.

[@abbyruff5984]

MONICA. I never comment on videos but holy cow girl this helped me take a HUGE step today. I was in the same situation and couldn't bring myself to walk away and this helped me do it!!! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your heartache. Youre beautiful, sweet girl

[@jadecestari92]

Monica, you are going to be ok. I meant it. I've been through the same a couple years ago. I was the same, I never once thought that I would seek love and validation from a guy before or go home crying because of pain and heartbreak of it until I fell for this guy and was rejected by him. It hurt at the time but now, I know it is for the better. I am in such a better place right now and learned so much about myself. Stay strong Monica, everything will be alright 💜

[@HannahMillergamergirl031602]

monica, i give you credit. thank you for this. this is relatable and something that people always need in their life. kinda like a reality check. thank you. you are strong and youve got this sweetie. love you so much

[@IntoAlysReef]

I'm so sorry. I hate seeing people hurt and upset 😕 but you will forsure be stronger when you go through obstacles like this. I went through a similar situation but i let it go on for years. And now him and i have been together for 5 years. Everyones outcome is different. I'm not saying it was easy for me but i did go through hell and allot of pain before we got together. So i know exactly how you feel. All because he was young and didnt really know what he wanted. Some people don't get as lucky as i did. But i'm here to tell you what you did was very strong and brave and inspirational. A tip to get things off your mind is to maybe take a girls trip to hawaii or a tropical island and just do adventurous things and meet new people. 😊 You're a gorgeous girl surrounded by allot of friends and family. I really hope you can find your way back to being happy. I wish we were friends. If you ever need anything i know you might not even see this comment but i'm here. 💜 I have my youtube channel so if you ever check it out and need anything leave a comment and we can talk.

[@EmilysLook]

I'm actually really proud of you for being able to cut them out because I've yet to do that in my own life.

[@kaykay7434]

Soooooo glad you shared this! I'm in the same boat

[@Emalieee]

I'm so sorry you're going through this... I want you to know how comforting it is to see you share this because I am going through the same thing and it's the hardest thing in the world. Thank you.

[@mollyappleton2019]

The exact same thing happened to me a few weeks ago :( sending huge hugs and all my love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx it gets easier and remember there is always someone out there just waiting for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[@Emmylovestofly]

This is the most level-headed heartbreak-move-on-discussion, like, ever. I enjoyed listening to this actually. You were able to weigh the pros and cons of all of this with a clear mind and it was really interesting.

[@chloecohn2335]

Also, don't want to seem ignorant or inconsiderate or anything but I really hope this isn't aviv or George because I love all of your friendship with them.

[@bl517]

Girlllll - unrequited love. Been there. Took me a long time to get over it but eventually found my "kindred spirit". Distance yourself and live for your happiness.