The Rise of the NeoPronoun Trans (they/them, bunny/bunnyself, ze/zir)

[@greenbeans9748]

I'll happily call someone a she, a he, or a they, but if anyone demands me to address them as a tree, I'll just make like one and leave. 💀

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

Why??

[@aliasella488]

@@ASmith-jn7kf Because it's dumb.

[@charlotteelizabeth1239]

best comment

[@m1lkyp4wzzz]

more like make one and leaf

[@MidRunner]

"Why don't you make like a tree and get the f-f-fuck outta here!" - Doc

[@tee8839]

The narcissism and hypocrisy is pure comedy. Tree guy wants everyone to respect this pronoun but he’s also saying he will be calling other people tree too because that’s how he sees them. He wants everyone to validate him but he doesn’t give a shit about your preferred pronoun.

[@duane_313]

Right!!!!! Wtf?!? LUNACY!!!

[@susanoline5823]

Truly narcissistic. And he doesn't even consider we may not want to be trees. What if I want to be a human, because I am one?

[@laurenl2756]

The trans community started off as a community for acceptance. Now it's treated like a FANDOM.

[@spanglelime]

PREACH.

[@letBIGGIErest]

they're worse than furries

[@WolfeByteLabs]

@@letBIGGIErest Furries are fine. Furries are just enamored with a anthropomorphic fantasy and they accept that and don't push their idealizations onto other people.

[@david2618]

@@WolfeByteLabs Sadly not true, they're like vegans 2.

[@Venus.Y]

@@WolfeByteLabs yeah not like these angry liberals

[@JTread2003]

It’s almost like telling a schizophrenic person that the voices are real and that they are valid. It’s toxic

[@eekookmonke1111]

This comment needs more likes, because this is so true

[@hollyhayes9640]

But... but you're DiScRiMiNaTiNg against schizophrenics by not acknowledging their voices. ⁉️🤔

[@siesie8827]

@@hollyhayes9640 it’s scary man

[@itsagayworldnotflat7101]

@@hollyhayes9640 actually you do acknowledge their voices because they are real to the schizophrenic but you don’t validate them through collusion

[@jennatale]

@@hollyhayes9640 😭😭😭

[@SarahsSnakeShop]

If you stop identifying as human, that is definitely something that needs to be addressed with a therapist.

[@natrou2]

what?

[@matthewmurphy5543]

Or a rifle. I love hunting bunnies

[@snowkittten]

Some people just need a good bonk on the head with a pan

[@ninaaniston1717]

@@matthewmurphy5543 literally, was about to say that 🤣 I had a rabbit for dinner this weekend.

[@seank1033]

@Star Boy BINGO🤣👍🏾

[@TheArmyOfOne100]

I’ve been on tumblr 7 years and it’s hysterical seeing this hit the mainstream like a delayed time bomb.

[@LDuke-pc7kq]

Tumblr isn't the same...😪 But I think Alot of people were just posting BS, venting or Flat out just making satire

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

yeah

[@ladiabla2406]

A lot of bs from tumblr has went mainstream and I still don’t understand how they’ve managed to do that. It’s crazy.

[@MarinaDiane]

i dipped out of tumblr in 2015 but can confirm

[@valdos9318]

omfg literally, like ive seen this 5 years ago and it's now coming out so fast

[@silmarilion2667]

this shit has gotten so out of hand. like how can you honestly sit there and want people to refer to you as tree??? i would legit never associate with him

[@katmat294]

*tree

[@lurji]

@@katmat294 fucking cope

[@Sir_Catnip]

@@katmat294 stfu

[@katmat294]

@@lurji lol, I’m so sorry to have offended you by correcting someone else. Do you have neopronouns that I need to correct too?

[@katmat294]

@@Sir_Catnip lol

[@ElanaVital83]

Yes. It's narcissism. They want you to walk on eggshells. Seeing you stumble over things makes them feel powerful.

[@moralityisnotsubjective5]

That's why they get so mad when you refuse to even play their game.

[@jskeptic8742]

so theyre basically bullies ? expected mostly

[@user-qp6ts2dp5g]

That’s so true wtf

[@darmakusuma891]

@@jskeptic8742 yes, they are.

[@pristika9007]

*Egg/eggself

[@taylors445]

These are the types of people who need constant validation and attention but only end up isolating themselves because they are exhausting to hang out with.

[@jldp1215]

Soooo much this.

[@LipSyncLover]

Like fuck I thought I was bad I'm pretty vain but this is next level. I don't ask people to change the way they speak

[@jaegeroo]

they’d probably team up with someone who pigeonholes themselves the same way which would make em valorize their identity even more and be twice as unbearable to other people

[@flouncymom]

Bingo

[@SummersPsycheDelicates]

Exactly. I had a friend that was very kind, polite, we all tried our hardest to be there for her, but she always became exhausting to be around. And it started being all about her all the time because we had to coddle her so much

[@elliemitchell3078]

'Your triggers aren't anyone-else's responsibility.' I have been waiting for someone to say this for years.

[@nickwarner8158]

I've said it for years, but it seems to trigger people and they get all butthurt.

[@AnObviousMjolnir]

@@nickwarner8158 well that’s probably because reducing triggers to an absolutist argument comes off as a bit disingenuous. Am I responsible for a blue t shirt I’m wearing triggering you? No. Am I responsible for triggering PTSD by having a firework display? I’d lean no, but it’s arguable and circumstantial. Am I responsible for triggering if someone with trauma comes to my house and I do something likely to trigger their known trauma (intentionally setting off loud bangs for the PTSD example)? Absolutely. Am I responsible if my family member requests I use she/her pronouns but I don’t think they’ve put enough effort in so use he/him (Blair’s example)? Absolutely.

[@sleepless-o3j]

THANK YOU

[@blueturtle3623]

@@AnObviousMjolnir i agree. If you intentionally trigger someone's ptsd, you're an asshole. But expecting nobody to ever wear blue again? You're a jerk too. The more general the trigger, the less right you have to complain. It also matters if the person even knew you had triggers. My brother gives me trigger warnings for everything before I watch it, I tell him I dont need him to unless its XYZ. But there are smaller details he doesn't know will trigger me, sometimes I dont know it will either. He gets upset and never stops apologizing, I use those exact words. I have to deal with it. That's on me. Likewise, I trigger him sometimes. Usually it's stuff that, if I thought before I spoke, I would not have said. He cringes, I apologize and make sure he's OK, we move on.

[@edwardpaulsen1074]

I keep wondering how this person can even go outside under the blue sky or anywhere near water, or a myriad other things... sorry person, THAT is entirely on YOU...

[@emdale9269]

“At the end of the day everyone’s a tree” “I want whatever tree he’s smoking” I’m dead lmao

[@LittleWing1985]

I know! I died! 😂☠️

[@Chellex93]

Tall people: "umm...yeah no we already get enough jokes"

[@misterwinkybluff]

My first thought was Don Cheadle’s Captain Planet. If you don’t know, watch it.

[@kingofthorns203]

What about Tree of Logic? Someone should tell her she's a pronoun now LOL

[@eekookmonke1111]

If hes a tree im gonna mine him

[@khfan4life365]

I can’t stand these “neo-pronouns”. It’s so damn confusing. I feel sorry for the people that are learning English as a second language. They probably have aneurysms every time they try to learn about this crap.

[@vran.7745]

Does it matter how much the person has been learning English for?

[@jadeandblood]

Fr I try to be respectful but these just makes it exhausting. I just don't befriend them at all lol.

[@enbyenby5953]

Fr

[@khfan4life365]

@@vran.7745 Well, most ESL learners speak a native language that is strictly gendered. They’re used to that. I can’t imagine how confusing it must be for them to learn this crap.

[@gansz_lol]

like, I get when someone wants to be called they/them but coming up with their own pronounce is ridiculous. Just wait untill prople start giving themselves a new first name and last name to refer themselves to like a stage name and get offended when you call them by their birth name/name on the ID 💀

[@rjchavers9267]

Trigger, blue. Imagine seeing the sky daily...

[@drhtldr1587]

Probably only goes out at night and cloudy days 🤣

[@DiodeMom]

I’m ded hahahaha 💀

[@fightingDO]

Just move to London

[@gimygaming8655]

@@fightingDO or China. This is a joke, btw

[@quillclock]

did he not use facebook or twitter?

[@Gunslinger1875]

I'm 55 years old, I don't worry about my pronouns. Everyone just calls me "asshole " I'm good with it.👍

[@Jinkroll]

I think I love you

[@Schizophrenic_void]

I love that

[@gimygaming8655]

Normally people call me *_*eyeroll_** and I know they are talking bout me

[@quillclock]

"Hi my name is gunslinger. My pronouns are asshole / dickhead"

[@xxxtatyonne222]

So edgy

[@jayy17783]

"Your triggers aren't anyone else's responsibility" SAY IT LOUDER👏

[@Shoeytheduck]

I love your pfp

[@kingofdemons948]

Yeah like if you’re triggered by capitalized words you shouldn’t be on the internet in the first place

[@spoonsrattling4]

@@kingofdemons948 this

[@sprigslashvital291]

@@kingofdemons948 Roblox group games staff: take that back right now. 🔫😐

[@chancellorpuddinghead]

OH NO NOT ANOTHER HETALIAN. the last time i tried to socialize the fandom it was filled with the kind of people blair is fighting against and it made me so depressed for a month i just gave up💀 im so glad i havent properly been in the fandom ever since joining in 2016

[@EnnisOracion]

i literally wanna talk abt this but im afraid that ppl will label me as transphobic 😭😭😭 bestie im trans myself but NEOPRONOUNS???? bro is this even a joke?

[@MissTriana127]

I got banned off a social media platform because i spoke out against neopronouns😀

[@itshazzybee]

@@MissTriana127 lemme guess.... twitter? Bitches on that app be smoking the weirdest shit istg🤡 narcissism at its peak i tell you

[@MissTriana127]

@JoeUnlocked OH MY GOSHHH DID U SEE MY FORUM POST THINGY ???

[@MissTriana127]

@JoeUnlocked Omg true lol

[@EJ_XD]

With every new gender and sexuality added the lgbt+ community starts to look like a joke 💀💀💀 And this is from an aroace enby Why couldn’t we keep it simple and say Your either hetro, gay, bi/pan, or ace Same goes with gender You’re male, female, or somewhere inbetween or none Genderfluid and polyamous in my opinion is valid but shouldn’t be considered a gender or sexuality since ‘genderfluid’ isn’t a specific gender and ‘polyamory’ doesn’t describe what gender you’re into but more of how many people you date at a time

[@yuno3703]

As a non native english speaker I can't even get my head around made up words or nouns and use them as pronouns if i want to speak fluently; it just doesnt even make sense

[@barbkeen1221]

Don't feel bad as I have no clue what they mean here and I'm a English speaker! Treeself ? Bunnyself?? These people are nuts!! 🤦‍♀️

[@yuno3703]

@@barbkeen1221 perhaps nutselves

[@barbkeen1221]

@@yuno3703 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏👍 That was perfect!

[@tieiatalks]

I am a 47-year-old suburban housewife with three grown children and I thought I had seen it all. I was wrong.

[@dorkenspache8353]

That is something most people in the U.S. don't even think about in terms of this. They only think about themselves and wanting others to cater to them, but don't want to be considerate to those around them. English is already a hard enough language to learn, and this shit is making it even more complicated.

[@timegirl95]

I definitely used gender as a way to escape my trauma after my dad died. I had it in my head that I was genderqueer and I was like trying my best to show masculine qualities like my dad. But no, I was just a depressed girl who lost my dad and didn’t know how to cope, so I went that route.

[@bisboptheclown]

so i agree we should be respectful of people who identify differently bc we never know what they could be going through

[@GikamesShadow]

@@bisboptheclown Respectful of people and their trauma. Respectful to the point of guiding them to the help they need, not to the coping mechanism of their choice. What ignitedsoul went through is effed and I wish they had someone that was there for them during that time. I feel that cause about a year ago I lost my own mother from cancer. Now, I am 28 years old so I got a strong foot in life. But a kid doesnt neccesarily know how to deal with this and can do just about anything from "absolutely reasonable" to "Oh Ima just... jump". You cannot use the fact that people had traumatic experiences as an excuse for people to be able to use "Neo-Pronouns". The people who had traumatic experiences need help, not a coping mechanism which ends up silly at best and destructive at worst.

[@bisboptheclown]

@@GikamesShadow did you just compare using neo-pronouns to wanting to commit suicide

[@Hammytreatshop]

@@GikamesShadow do you realize it’s not like people neo pronouns That’s just one person

[@johnnybravo5087]

See this!

[@brianalynnsantos]

“Your triggers are not anybody else responsibility” Exactly!

[@charliehatch288]

Imagine expecting everyone to remove an entire colour cos you cbf dealing with your issues. What happens if the person sees the sky?

[@quillclock]

like did he not look up outside? did he not use facebook/twitter?

[@brianalynnsantos]

@@quillclock seriously though even the chat bubbles on our phones are blue

[@ladiabla2406]

@@brianalynnsantos They’re team Android 😂

[@cantwin8105]

7:05

[@sunburnedshirts3724]

they/them is far more reasonable than anything like ze/zir

[@michyyy09]

Agreed. Neopronouns are unnecessary and are made up pronouns for the sake of them wanting to ''stand out'' or ''express themselves'' if they want to do that, why with pronouns and not their personality like wth? They want to feel special and want to label themselves like ''pizzaself'' or ''kittyself'' which is weird. More ridiculous is when they force others to call them by those ''pronouns''. They/them is already sufficient, why they gotta make up ''new pronouns''?

[@sunburnedshirts3724]

@@michyyy09 i asked someone why they used neopronouns since i had 0 clue what it was or why people used them they then had their whole followerbase harass me

[@saintshrooms9424]

Hoe the hell do you even say xie/xiem ( literally go look at the pronouns on Pinterest, they’re just so stupid 💀)

[@somethingext]

@@sunburnedshirts3724 ze/zir may just be more comfortable for people!

[@1co293]

@@somethingext and some people can also be uncomfortable using neo pronouns

[@maddihalvin75]

Emo use to be “just leave me alone. Don’t look at me. Don’t pick me.” Neo pronouns are “Validate me. look at me. Pick me”

[@moon4236]

I've seen people be like "I like neopronouns because they made you stand out from the crowd" and honestly that has an incredible amount of "Im not like other girls" energy that I don't think I'll be able to respect neopronouns

[@sarahscunnin1009]

You're 100% correct about the weirdness between the "don't label me" generation to the "everyone needs a label" gen... It's frickin weird, isn't it????

[@ally-nb1cx]

@Brittany Du more like "I label me and the rest of the english language"

[@little_flitter]

I always hated labels, to the point that when I got diagnosed with autism I was so upset cause I thought I was gonna be "labeled" for the rest of my life. Its not a label, it's a disability that I need support with at times.... now there's people who are autistic that make it their whole personality :/

[@samanthasamsimpson7201]

@@little_flitter and the thing is, at least this is what i think, they make things a lot harder for you. I live in a country where just being gay is not normalized yet. Now, it makes everything a lot harder for me bcs every1 thinks that i am an sjw and prob that i'm into some crazy sht like vamp/vampireself.

[@LostTimeLady]

Can we have the next phase be simply "no labels", please? I won't label people, people won't label me and I won't label myself.

[@ally-nb1cx]

@Brittany Du loll whatever happened to "you don't label me, I label me" rules for thee but not for me

[@HimeEvie]

I remember on Myspace all those damn images and slogans "I am not a soup can so don't label me" What the hell happened to that? Can we go back to that?

[@steveowisdom2486]

I wish! My Space days were golden

[@jazminsanchez8046]

Dam miss them myspace days 😁 people were more legit

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Yesssssss pleeease! No more labels!

[@GabrielleTollerson]

I miss myspace.. I REALLY loved customizing my profile 😄

[@redacted2275]

Well, MySpace still exists lol

[@TriggerBud]

“Remember when we were all anti labels? Now we’re collecting them like fuckin Pokémon or somethin” has me wheeeeeezing 🤣

[@NotADood]

Imagine if people applied this energy towards solving real problems.

[@InktoEcho]

“neo pronouns” actually hurt the trans community and nd people

[@user-np8xh8hb1o]

Identity politics is a real problem and needs to be tackled before it gets out of control

[@visionnaire4203]

Deadass

[@lonelychild2765]

Yeah- I mean, just because someone uses neo-pronouns, it doesn’t mean they think the world revolves around them

[@patrickb1439]

I LOOOVVVEEEE YOUR IMAGINATION!!!! You're so creative

[@lanaeh3685]

“I want whatever tree he’s smoking”. Girl same. 😂

[@WJS774]

Remember when Piers Morgan identified as a penguin and that was roundly denounced as offensive mocking of trans people? Why does this shit move _so quickly?_

[@radfemmyy7113]

omg yess the two spirit penguin

[@laurenadams4624]

Piers is a total douche and it was offensive, but this is not any different. I agree with your point 💯

[@meghanmckinlay172]

That's actually hilarious though

[@LManson-g5n]

TWO SPIRIT NUTROISE PANGENDER PENGUIN HAAAAAAAAAA

[@saint-juste]

Neopronouns are also harmful to neurodivergent people like me who have a hard time not only just remembering these new words they've made up for themselves, but also figuring out how to use them in a sentence. Even when I'm shown examples of how to use them in a sentence my brain freezes and I have a really hard time comprehending it, but they never wanna listen when I or others bring that up.

[@lunafelidae]

It was literally made for neuro divergent people ☠️

[@sandyg4646]

@@lunafelidae bs. Neurodivergent people have existed long before neopronouns did. How do you think they coped before?

[@ponikoTV]

I know right I'm neurodivergent and I feel this neonprounos are try to make fun of me

[@forestmint213]

same. people say they were made for nd people, but a large amounnt of nd people i know say that they are much harder for them to understand. plus it infantilizes nd people by implying that they cannot understand the concept of gender the way nts do, which is just not true

[@spoonsrattling4]

yes and you’ll get called ableist for for not calling someone cheese/cheeself

[@arwaf8554]

“Your triggers are not anybody’s responsibility” Please say this to Demi Lovato

[@cyropower7808]

LOL

[@infinitusfinitus]

Oh man what'd she do now?

[@cyropower7808]

@@infinitusfinitus Get mad at a small frozen yogurt business for absolutely no reason

[@saminates2002]

@@cyropower7808 Bruh that junk was so idiotic Celebs have too much power

[@lilkitty2396]

LITERALLY LMAO

[@aishlelle]

Literally yesterday I saw on a neopronoun subreddit that someone identifies kanyewest/kanyewestself.

[@JuwanBuchanan]

Please tell me the person was trolling?

[@tuabuelota]

HAHAHHAHA WHAT

[@bbqtoes]

OMFG LMAOOOO IM PUTTING THAT IN MY BIO RN

[@megano2000]

Kino

[@kaylathompson2111]

LMFAO 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 omg I can’t even

[@angelgirliey]

I think for a lot of young people especially, attaching these labels to themselves makes them feel special. Like, they are saying, my inner self is so complex and so unique that the English language just can't define it. So they pick these "neo pronouns" to feel special. Blair, you hit the nail on the head when you said it is based in narcissism. I also think there is a certain amount of social currency that comes with identifying with a victim or being part of an historically victimized group.

[@benjaminreyes3624]

Omg... The amount of "likes" I want to give this comment is infinite 👍👍👍👍👍

[@benjaminreyes3624]

@Al Kamil Blair looks like a woman all while acknowledging she's biologically male. Because she looks a woman. organically people will address her as such without question.

[@benjaminreyes3624]

@Al Kamil the difference is people associating Blair with "her" organically because she passes as woman.. organic is what's the difference

[@benjaminreyes3624]

@Al Kamil "passing" would be the difference. Tree man. Doesn't look like a tree lol Blair also acknowledges she's male. She can't help that people see her a woman in her everyday life either

[@benjaminreyes3624]

@Al Kamil you need to pass... These people don't pass. Blair herself even admitted that before she started to pass. People would call her "he" at times and she just had to suck it up and do better.

[@selendile030]

If you want to go by he/her/she/he/his/they/them, I am more than happy to respect your identity. I will not call you bunny/prince/prince self/vamp/vampself. We’re not cosplaying FFS.

[@Moss_Guts]

Exactly! If someone uses neo-pronouns I won’t be using them, but if they want me to call them a nickname, I will gladly do that instead!

[@animefan3794]

“because where else but TikTok?” Tumblr. Tumblr is where. I saw several of these originate on Tumblr 5 to 6 years ago.

[@jamisonsjournal9826]

Tumblr should've been deleted by 2015 🙃

[@EatWave]

Also the Furry Fandom. The problem with detecting such things there, though, is that no one was quite sure what was just role play and what was genuine delusion.

[@anxiousfish6962]

All the tumblr people moved to Twitter after the changes in regulations regarding NSFW posts. It's been kinda dead ever since

[@ikarria4161]

When tumblr had their puritanicle purge I laughed like the Irish guy from "Braveheart"

[@kaijudude_]

Tumblr is where I first saw the "otherkin" thing. Like I understand transgender pronouns, my girlfriend is a trans woman. But when people start running around saying they identify as a tree? Like whatever, identify as what you want I guess? Just don't cry discrimination for being a tree when actual transgender people are being discriminated against, attacked and other terrible things.

[@dars5229]

"Hello, I'm a tree." - literally a Monty Python sketch.

[@builder396]

"Hello, tree. Can you gather your friends? I'm looking for a forest." - continuation of that sketch.

[@betenoire1145]

Definitely just as confusing as Monty python 😂and torturing 😭

[@annymus4502]

I'm serious My friend just told me his (or kitten's) idk how that works Anyways their pronouns are cat, kitty and kitten, wtaf do I do now?

[@dars5229]

@@annymus4502 Remind them in a couple of years how dumb they were.

[@sh1ttywidow943]

So I actually have a very affective solution to the pronoun problem. So I am from the Philippines, and my family speaks visayan, which is different from the main language Tagalog, and I don’t speak it myself, but my grandma always mixes up genders when she speaks, which I found weird as a child. But later I found out this is because they don’t have gender pronouns in the language. So everyone can just learn to speak Filipino and everything will be fine, guys. Also I thought we all ultimately came from stardust. Not trees

[@sh1ttywidow943]

*effective

[@sava-k-mus]

Yeah, persian is the same way, no gender pronouns, I wish we could do that for English

[@tinkly_winkly]

Honestly yeah lol I don't know any filipino dialects myself, but both my parents use Ilocano in the household. They both mix up pronouns when referring to each other like when my mom calls my dad a "she" and vice versa to the point where it's just normal/expected and I don't even question it haha

[@courtney4942]

Star self

[@Trashalchemy]

Singular "they" isn't a neopronoun, it's been used forever. Neopronouns are... something else entirely... but singular they/them has been grammatically correct for a long time. Example: "Go find someone who works here and ask them if they can help us get this item down off the top shelf."

[@cradica]

I remember using they in a report and my mom said I had to change it to he or she because I was referring to a single person

[@ashbtn]

thinking about it, i wonder if these people who use neo pronouns like bun bunny self actually come out to their extended family and ask everyone they know to refer to them with those pronouns?? because from what i've seen, it's purely an internet thing

[@ohwellwhateverr]

See, in real life if someone announced that their pronouns were bun/bunself they’d be laughed out of it. But thanks to the internet, people can find obscure communities online of like-minded people who affirm and encourage their weird behaviours and who end up normalising it. So when that person is back in the real world, they’re confronted by the reality that their behaviour isn’t universally socially accepted. And so they feel attacked and run back to their online community where they can feel coddled and safe. It’s a cycle. Same goes for any kind of extremist who’s radicalised online.

[@ashbtn]

@@ohwellwhateverr right, and then they start saying it’s transphobic that people in the real world won’t call them bun/bunself and that takes away from real transphobia and makes being trans seem like a joke

[@MiskyBee]

@@ashbtn I often think how they would function in a workplace. Do you think really think colleagues will take you seriously if you force them to call you buns/bunself?

[@ohwellwhateverr]

@Zainab Maliki I’m fairly sure she’s taking the piss. She can’t be serious.

[@bookofmaps1402]

a lot of people that i know that use neopronouns don’t expect for their neopronouns to be used irl. Neopronouns, for them, is just a nice way for them to feel accepted and safe online.

[@rachelschn8]

As a therapist myself, thank you for talking about trans-hood as a trauma response. Gender dysphoria is a real thing that is scientifically and factually distinct from an identity crisis yet we now live in a world where they are conflated. I cannot touch on their differences, even in my professional role, without being labeled transphobic.

[@Jinkroll]

Actually please tell me. I’m studying psychology and I might have transgender clients one day

[@bea4156]

Extremely well put 💯

[@esmeraldabandz8652]

ugh but y not!? like u could save kids from transitioning n regretting it! therapy should be an outside yet respectful perspective

[@riledmouse4677]

My son (daughter?) came out to me as trans a few weeks ago and has begun hormone therapy. She’s seemed distant over the past year and now says this is what she’s been dealing with. She doesn’t talk a lot, so at this point (her therapist and) I just have to trust that she’s correctly identifying her feelings of dysphoria. The fact that any inkling of questioning her, reads as me not supporting her transition, makes it *really* difficult to know how similar her experience may be to the extreme dysphoria I felt at her age (17). Back then, it wouldn’t have occurred to me that I might have been born the wrong gender for my sex. All I know is that I honestly thought she was “all boy,” in every way, while she was growing up. She still dresses the same now, and says she’s just a tomboy. Sometimes I feel like I’m jumping off a cliff, knowing that all I can do is support her but not having any idea where we will land.

[@Traigame2cervezas]

@Brittany Du you didn't even got what this person is saying

[@JessZomb]

'We come from trees' Someone call an ambulance, I think I just had a stroke. I can smell toast and taste ice cream.

[@Jinkroll]

I fucking wish we came from trees. Woodland nymphs are kinda badass

[@MyName-bi4pt]

😂😂😂👏👏👏

[@cassm2812]

Idk ab y’all but I came from my mom🤨

[@Jinkroll]

@@cassm2812 Lame and generic. I came into this world as a manifestation of the faith of frog supremacists.

[@papirojo4228]

I thought we came from chickens since someone had to get layed.

[@harptastic]

people are changing their names to the weirdest shit. I'm not calling you "it", that's just dehumanizing. as someone who is a part of the trans community, I can say this is going way too far. these kids need to chill.

[@beefairy8620]

But someone who wants to be called “it” would feel appreciated by it

[@popsicIes]

@@beefairy8620 Both parties are clearly uncomfortable. What to do next?

[@cherryxfanta]

My friend uses it/itself and all of us support it, I just don't get how someone is offended of others Neopronouns, it dosen't have to mean their gender ;-:

[@auberginemanproductions1608]

@@cherryxfanta Because it is a word used for objects or non humans, and thus it isn't exactly a great word to refer to a minority of any sort. Regardless of whether they care or not, if I called a minority "it" in a public place it would probably be taken as hate speech by a passerby. It shouldn't be used to refer to humans at all

[@adamnasir2]

@@cherryxfanta Those aren't real pronouns, tell your friend to stop making shit up and you shouldn't enable this type of utter idiocy

[@user-T0BY]

i have a friend who has a friend who uses “it/itself”. I saw them in a picture together and i didnt know the person with the neopronouns was in the picture, and i commented on the picture, accidentally misgendering them because they look like a girl. they literally started freaking out, cursing at me and going ballistic 💀 i apologized several times too, but they just kept going on and on is it just me or do people who use neopronouns get really easily offended?

[@kluskazrosolu]

jesus christ please say you arent friends with them anymore

[@shilothompson1509]

No. It’s not just you.

[@GikamesShadow]

Ima be real with you: F*cking Run for the hills

[@tfgenobatssasin1788]

Its not yout fault tho as youre accidantly said it. Your friend need to realized that shes overreacting

[@asharadayne1355]

Never apologize after saying it was not intentional

[@Vain737]

"I'm a tree, treat me like a tree!" Righto, into the woodchipper you go.

[@MyName-bi4pt]

Hilarious!!!😂😂😂

[@madtabby66]

If he falls down, do we chop him up?

[@jessicalaurin3064]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 you made me snort!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@improvwithlions4173]

If he falls in the forest and no one is around, does he make a sound?

[@babyfishmouth-sweepingnations]

Piss on the tree haha

[@n-wordaficianado2990]

When the color blue triggers someone, you can tell they don't go out a lot.

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Lol yes 💯%

[@beacurnearecurvata188]

When you're traumatized the wierdest most random things can trigger you and give somebody a genuine panic attack.

[@cecilyerker]

@@beacurnearecurvata188 That’s your responsibility to handle, you can’t trigger proof the entire world to suit your neuroses.

[@NotADood]

Anyone claiming to be triggered by a color is a lying narcissistic control freak.

[@Gwenhwyfar7]

only on very cloudy days, no wonder they are depressed.

[@krasnerjessica2967]

as a straight woman I am so affraid to speak to anyone trans...cause I would absolutely refuse to refer to anyone as a tree. You are a human being why isnt that enough?...why can't we just be people and get along. I'm 100% supportive but genuinly so confused 😕.

[@megalou6567]

Same . And I refuse to call anyone the opposite gender . Just bc your confused doesn’t mean you are going to force me to be confused . My brain cannot keep up

[@megalou6567]

@@lauresart all due respect … you say you “simply” use they/them . There is nothing simple about that. It’s cool if you feel like you are several people combined but I’m not gonna call you they /them. If that offends you, frankly that’s too bad

[@randomperson1943]

The person who identifies as Tree and Treeself wants to call people Treeself’s pronouns? I’m a biological woman. Those aren’t MY pronouns. *to clarify: just cuz I’m a biological woman, doesn’t mean I’m okay with someone forcing a pronoun on me that doesn’t belong to me. not right to do to anyone*

[@Houndoomgirl77]

Well duh its not you. Its THEM not YOU. no one asked your pronouns or accused you of being a tree??

[@KixsMyLocs]

@@Houndoomgirl77 That person wants to call EVERYONE Tree

[@Salindrastowecroft]

I also do not really understand the topic with pronouns, but if in our world there are people who believe that a man lives in heaven and that he created us, then what are we talking about? and they also teach those who do not want to believe in it. let Blair speak on this topic, it is high time to admit that there is no God and believers have no right to teach others.

[@redacted2275]

People who likes trees were called pansexuals some years ago... why change it?

[@redacted2275]

@@Salindrastowecroft God is not forcing you to believe in him. If anything, their believers are doing this. God is God and he is there, somewhere, for people to believe or not. Ironically, the same people who care about pronouns are the ones who care how Jesus look like even though they don't believe in him. Why is that? Is it the same thing like you've pointed it out? No. And I'm Buddhist, by the way. Blaire already said she doesn't have a deep connection with religion some videos ago. That's it.

[@AlquimistEd]

This is legit the apache helicopter meme that everyone was complaining about a couple years ago. It literally came true.

[@LightBoltDash]

It's transphobic joke when we do it, it's "liberating and brave" when they do it, lol

[@samanthasamsimpson7201]

@@LightBoltDash it is only transphobic if u use it when ur talking abt a REAL transgender person, not a non binary shapeshifter mixer

[@caitswildecake2582]

People complained about piers Morgan calling himself a penguin, but it’s only valid when “actual” trans people do it

[@nickwarner8158]

I identify as a blackhawk not an apache and it is assault for you to refer to me as an apache you evil bigot

[@domm5715]

I was gonna comment the same thing, like...I thought this was a joke that pissed these activists off, but they literally came around and did the same thing

[@CthulhuTheory]

Trans Community 2015: Self-identifying as an "attack helicopter" is transphobic! Trans Community 2021: Not calling a trans person "tree" is transphobic!

[@user-sb7lt5wh9c]

It's for neurodivergent trans people there's a big difference

[@somewhatsurprisedpikachu2887]

@Doofus No what? 😂

[@somewhatsurprisedpikachu2887]

@Doofus Well just because you as a Neurodivergent person find it cringe It doesn't mean everyone else has to follow suit because you have no idea what they're going through And no, a lot of Neurodivergent people (like myself) have a hard time putting themselves into a large box that comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes as it makes it more difficult to find specified information they can relate to as Neurodivergent people (especially Autistic people) see the world differently

[@xai788]

Not respecting people's pronouns* is transphobic. Not all trans people use neopronouns and not all neopronouns users are trans! now get a job my friend

[@CthulhuTheory]

@@xai788 "Not all trans!" Yeah, this whole "trans" term is way too broad and vague anymore. You don't have to be trans to choose different personal pronouns, a cis person can choose they/them without being trans. When you disrespect their pronouns you're not being transphobic, you're just being a disrespectful asshole. Kind of like how you're being a disrespectful asshole now with your condescending suggestion that I might need to get a job. And since I believe in giving as good as you get, I'll have you know, I'm gainfully employed and manage a delightfully diverse team of women, including your mom and you should take pride in knowing she's one of my top earners.

[@Miuu2]

If you think your a bunny then you’re either a furry or delusional

[@mukatsuku4397]

i thought we already knew pronouns dont = what you identify as..

[@jiminie8261]

@@mukatsuku4397 then don’t expect to be called bun/bunself… it’s just weird no matter how you spin it

[@maithreyirao8060]

@@mukatsuku4397 pronouns do infact relate to gender. They were created so that it becomes easier to refer to a person rather than using a name. 'she' will always refer to a girl and 'he' will always refer to a boy. So yes, pronouns do relate to gender and what you identify as.

[@Moss_Guts]

@@mukatsuku4397wait what? Pronouns are related to gender, so yes, pronouns do associate what you identify as. /gen

[@rebecca...s]

Imagine everyone used neo pronouns and you had to remember all of them for every person you know 💀

[@LipSyncLover]

Right that's what names were for. It's redundant

[@sleepparalysisfish3950]

Bruh you need to remember peoples pronouns regardless

[@simfimpim]

@@sleepparalysisfish3950 You don't need to remember people's pronouns. If they look like a man or a woman you know what pronoun to use. This is true in virtually all people, until recent years when people starting saying gender is not related to sex.

[@Name-gt3uz]

@@simfimpim Because gender is not at all related to sex? gender is a social construct

[@simfimpim]

@@Name-gt3uz Gender is directly related to sex. Gender norms and gender expression is both biologically and socially constructed. But gender = sex. "Sex" is the scientific term for male and female. Male=man=the masculine, female=woman=the feminine.

[@beachwizard9701]

Neopronouns reminds me of those scenes from “The Crown” when they hand commoners a Royal protocol sheet, “these are the terms to be used when you’re in the Presence.”

[@2Ten1Ryu]

Also, why even invent new ones when the existing ones are not even fully established yet.

[@Salindrastowecroft]

I also do not really understand the topic with pronouns, but if in our world there are people who believe that a man lives in heaven and that he created us, then what are we talking about? and they also teach those who do not want to believe in it. let Blair speak on this topic, it is high time to admit that there is no God and believers have no right to teach others.

[@ragefacememeaholic5366]

@@Salindrastowecroft Well that came out of left field. This is not a theological debate. Nothing about this was religious. If you want to talk about religions and people who believe in religion go find a space for it, this is not it chief.

[@summahthevegan3796]

@@Salindrastowecroft STOP. Nobody mentioned religion yet you keep bringing it up. Find an appropriate audience and space for your argument. this ain't it.

[@dracotempest7851]

“we all come from trees” no honey, we share more dna with fungi. Therefore i decree we all use “shroom/shroomself” exclusively from this day forth.

[@CoopStewy]

Nah, all matter is recycled, very well we may come from trees, fungi everything around us

[@minagica]

@@CoopStewy and stardust! 😘

[@CoopStewy]

@@minagica yep

[@3mPeRaToR]

@@minagica The only here, we're all stardust

[@n0bod15]

nice neopronouns!

[@modelstatus3456]

Show Twitter this video and they'll start calling you ableist 😭

[@ari5232]

nah fr they're all 14 years old that probably had no idea what even gender is lol and put disabled and adhd on bio. According to them, they're all neodivergent😂

[@ponikoTV]

As someone whit aspegers and ADHD Shes not ableist

[@Idkanymore9029]

As someone with autism, she ain't ableist. She's speaking facts

[@princesskayla1400]

I was on tumblr years ago and when I was a teenager I used to call myself “Grand Duchess Ehriana” and my old pronouns were “Your grace” “her grace” etc and I was really stupid and I’m glad I don’t do that anymore.

[@xdchinchilla6918]

oh my lord lol

[@GikamesShadow]

Listen, I called myself X, was refered to as "Leader X" and was the great savior of humanity We were all at that point once lol

[@noahpierce3167]

I call myself god a lot but that’s just me coping with my shitty confidence lmao

[@WheeInDisBeech]

That’s fucking great actually I love that 😭😭😭

[@Carriehammer718]

Wtf

[@y.2734]

kids discover nicknames 👏

[@HippyMetalhead]

They are definitely children.

[@Ariesairlines]

@@HippyMetalhead did u watch the vid? There was fully grown adults.

[@valdos9318]

the funny thing is that they all admit they use those pronouns for aesthetic and bc they want to feel "different", like that's not what you use pronouns for lmao

[@didyouexpectaname2586]

"At the end of the day, everyone's a tree." *starts photosynthesis* *all trees die*

[@Avery_37]

Alternate ending: *All trees become human*

[@Cyberjoker14]

As an actual non-binary person it really sickens me to see these people give us a bad name with all these labels and pronouns they do it for attention and their own personal gain, I personally couldn't care less what pronouns people use on me or what they call me, I present myself the way I present myself and people can see me however they like, It's only natural to use whatever pronouns you want on a person. These people really need to understand that gender and sexuality aren't something you just suddenly call yourself, It's something you realize about yourself, and how you handle that realization is your choice, as much as I support being yourself and doing whatever makes you happy I think making new labels for literally everything damages the community and segregates us further.

[@davidhill5582]

Yeah that is the point I think. But I think with the right people representing or supporting I think that we can get traction on people thinking rational again!

[@girlfailure_69]

Also, neo-pronouns were actually made by transphobic people on 4-Chan in an attempt to mock/make fun of actual trans and non-binary people.

[@4skin4sale71]

It’s super trendy, we are in a time where everyone is trying to be super cosy and privileged it’s a privilege to be able to be so sensitive and have all these labelsss, it’s all trendy but feels super toxic

[@melissamoonchild9216]

It is a privilege I agree.

[@malawisupasoldier7478]

Facts

[@mattmerced1148]

It is toxic

[@Dootsmama91]

‘James Charles victim’s age’ I’m grossed out that I knew exactly the ages you meant. 😭

[@TimmyVision]

😂

[@Rachelxxc]

how old were they even? I didn't keep up with the drama

[@orishahar]

@@T19835dght how old is james?

[@elisa9992]

@@orishahar 21

[@donutbevil9669]

I swing both ways, and there are _far_ better prospects out there that are *above* the drinking age, let alone much older. Charles is desperation personified.

[@MoltenMonsters]

my pronouns are sidewwalk/sidewalkself because everyones always walking over me 😔😔😔

[@jessicadekrey4511]

😂😂😂

[@curespicy_]

they them is acceptable but "bunny bunself, cat catself" is wth..

[@Kaineeee]

Next thing you know they're gonna come up with something dumb again like Curtain/Curtainself

[@LManson-g5n]

the acceptance of "they them" is the reason why these people feel enabled to run wild

[@antzooma]

@@LManson-g5n agree, accepting they them was the start of the problem, and also accepting non binary under the trans umbrella which it should never be

[@whoopzitsray]

i remember years ago on tumblr the lgbt community thought that neopronouns made us look bad and actively tried to separate themselves from the teens who used neopronouns and now all of a sudden its mainstream and idk why???

[@Chris-db5gy]

It's trendy

[@user-np8xh8hb1o]

@OH not that GREAT it’s mainstream on specific parts of social media. Such as on ‘stan’ Twitter. They’ll literally doxx you and harass you if u speak against the “popular opinion” such as seeing neopronouns as dumb.

[@Chris-db5gy]

@OH not that GREAT yes it is

[@reesemalo]

@OH not that GREAT are you trans as well?

[@louisianimal5044]

Because those teens are not adults and doing the same thing

[@jaredfromhr2711]

As someone who is studying psychology, given the right conditions literally anything can be a trigger and that trigger can be at any intensity and it is so unfair to put this burden onto other people who have no idea/understanding of making sure you don't experience that trigger. This just bandaids the problem at best. Instead we should encourage ppl to seek counseling and if they wanna do some exposure therapy, do it under the guidance of someone who knows their shit

[@vegainthestreets]

we can at least give warnings to the most common triggers

[@MrWood-qd6kr]

Yup, I studied Biology and Chemistry soo.. yup

[@HexManiacQuinn]

@@vegainthestreets ok yeah, but giving a content warning for if a movie or TV show has animal cruelty or sexual violence or something is a different matter entirely from having a break-down because a friend has the color blue in their house. Like, I have an animal cruelty trigger (for lack of a better term), among other things. I got into Jojo's Bizarre Adventure, got hit REALLY hard with Part 1 Episode 1, and really wish someone warned me about it ahead of time. (Season 2 (aka, Part 3) onward the animal cruelty elements come back, but I was engaging more with the community and came in fully prepared). So I know how important something like that can be. That being said, I am under no disillusion about people going a little too widespread and honestly authoritarian with their triggers. Little "triggered" didn't become a meme because of assholes just feeling like making fun of mental trauma... it's because the people who consider themselves advocates made memes out of themselves in the first place. Note how I said "content warning" instead of "trigger warning" a while back? That's because the whole issue has been made such a farce that I choose to not engage with that vocabulary, even with matters as politically neutral as this that I feel I can believe in. I feel like I invite mockery if I use the term "trigger warning", so I say "content warning" in its place when applicable. 100% I blame the people who lose their shit over THEIR "color blue" and put that weight on the people around them, making anyone else with these struggles look bad, tbh.

[@weswolever7477]

The only trigger warning anyone needs is ...don’t touch it until you’re ready to shoot

[@N0die]

“Trigger” when an Over Eaters Anonymous member claims a conditional environmental factor is responsible for their relapses

[@sarahmegyeri9250]

As someone who lives in Canada and has to deal with the bill in my workplace, I openly explained to a coworker who uses they/them pronouns who is male presenting that any accidental misgendering that may occurs is not in a malicious way whatsoever it’s a busy workplace mistakes happen all the time and that’s all it is and luckily they understood and they don’t take it to heart but it was so worrisome to be afraid of misgendering someone accidentally and having to worry about potentially receiving a fine for it

[@samanthathompson9812]

Ridiculous. We all have so much draw on our mental bandwith in a digital age that this asking something beyond common courtesy. . I hope people push back but the law is a scary thing.

[@lustrousandlovely6847]

I cant believe Canada is doing this to you. So putrid. A fine? Omg

[@kaitlynzuniga]

so ridiculous that's even a thing. there's so many worse things the government could be focusing on, but they're concerned with how you alter your language to cater to someone else's perception of themselves?? like its a workplace, why are you even focused if someone calls you he instead of "they/them". just work

[@jacobbarnes1453]

Screw pronouns feeling have nothing to do with gender r

[@sakiraa222]

People are reviving fines for accidentally misgendering people? Wtf

[@pseudonymous3984]

I was assaulted as a fifth grader and thought I was FtM for five years. I’m so lucky I didn’t start hormones or blockers. Thank God for my parents having me wait.

[@glisteningicosa]

This happened to me too.

[@xXxChiefxXx]

These people want me to change my whole vocabulary every time I see them. Girl unless you're a puppy I probably don't even remember your name.

[@ryanawilson8549]

Bc puppies are a gift

[@coyotethibodaux]

Don’t give them any ideas girl lol

[@pawsore]

Hey maybe if you understood how ND people see gender then you’d understand why neopronouns exist

[@samanthasamsimpson7201]

@@pawsore i literally understand everything...but bunny?vampire?werewolf? Gurl......please.

[@justausername5749]

@@pawsore they see gender as different personalities. We know.

[@zm0rc]

Trigger guy at party: if i see blue..it triggers me *im blue starts playing as he stares off into the distance*

[@andrepettersson175]

Anyone triggered by Purple must start sobbing in a corner everytime Purple Rain starts playing.

[@mandyk4988]

This comment made me see red 😆😆😁

[@jeffreysommer3292]

Sutter Cain: "Did I ever mention that my favorite color is blue?"

[@GabrielleTollerson]

LOL

[@redacted2275]

You whisper in his ear: "Da ba dee da ba daa beech" lmao

[@lissaylissean9940]

Neopronouns is something that only exists on the internet. It does not translate to real life in any way. Pronouns exist to streamline communication, and are used mostly when you are not present. Dictating that other people use incredibly inorganic words to refer to you is completely nonfunctional in the real world.

[@dannyd1752]

Actually the craze about pronouns exists in real life too, i have received numerous email from HR asking me 'if i want to put pronouns' on my email signature. I ignored most of them until i actually answered back, asking them to leave me alone, i know i have the option if i want to so stop harassing me. This wasn't a couple of years ago. Also, Argentina has now recognised non binary people as an separate gender category and offers passports etc under X category. Of course, Argentina has one woman murdered a day and rape crimes are though the roof but who cares, the important thing is that delusional people can feel validated.

[@lustrousandlovely6847]

Omg I agree. No one should attack me for not using “they” i said above its not proper English and its going to take a long time (if ever) for people to use the “they” pronoun. Its just so off! Sorry i speak proper English!

[@kingofdemons948]

So in short: neopronouns have literally no reason to exist

[@kaitlynzuniga]

and like blaire said...NARCISSISTIC! how are you going to dictate the way other people speak because it makes you feel better

[@darryljones3009]

@@lustrousandlovely6847 The singular "they" has been in use in English since the 14th century, it's not new, and it is "proper English".

[@ascent8487]

YES! I do remember when people were anti label. I’m hating the opposite. Why is everyone so obsessed with gender, labels and pronouns now? How did we get here?

[@raaaaaaarr]

How did we get here.. I think with the internet young people are desperate to stand out because it's romantized and praised over and over again to get attention (likes, followers) and you have to be something to stand out. Young people do not know their defining factors yet. Also when you're a teen finding yourself out and putting labels on your personality is fun because it's all new. So you contemplate everything about yourself and feel a dopamine high when you find a new characteristic, like you're special.

[@alexas2378]

"i want whatever tree he's smoking" LMFAOO DEAD

[@shan6405]

Oh fuck, this was on Tumblr years ago - can’t believe it actually spread

[@emilymulcahy]

I'm down with she/her, he/him/ they/them etc but I draw the line at non human or mythical beings, you have to at least be human and understanding that, pick a pronoun that fits that, I will call you whatever it is you want as long as they fall into that guideline

[@WolfeLeon23]

And here I thought we were getting away from "head-mates" and "demi-humans" sounds to me like it's just taking on a new form.

[@ladiabla2406]

@@Schizophrenic_void Triggered

[@evie5631]

@@Schizophrenic_void ur sentence makes no sense

[@Schizophrenic_void]

@@ladiabla2406 I’m not triggered lol

[@Schizophrenic_void]

@@evie5631 sorry I’m autistic 🥲

[@YourFavoriteVampiree]

Not to mention their only comebacks are that "you're transphobic"

[@Gndlf_TheOrange]

"It's highly narcissistic..." you hit the nail on the head. There's a difference between wanting to be addressed in a certain way and demanding people must talk a certain way. Who is anyone to decide what other people must say?

[@orvali]

but by using ur logic why should we accommodate to blind or deaf people, people with depression, anxiety? pronouns are literally just words, and demanding basic human respect is not much of a demand at all. you wouldn't get mad that a blind person might require help, why get mad when someone with dysphoria wants to be treated like their actual self? i think you'd be a bit mad if i failed to recognise your identity or existence lmfao

[@marissa7334]

@@orvali exactly!!! I don’t understand why people think it’s so hard to say someone’s preferred pronouns, people aren’t trying to police what people say they’re simply asking for a basic level of respect. And going out of your way to use what pronouns you see fit for a person takes more energy then simply being a decent human and using the persons pronouns. Disgusting how this has become a weapon people use against others.

[@user-np8xh8hb1o]

@@orvali physical impairments aren’t the same as mental issues or dysphoria firstly. Secondly anxiety and depression are issues that have to be solved actively. Imagine if all people who were depressed and had anxiety never went to therapy and were told by others that their feelings and behaviour is okay, “suicidal thoughts and all the other side effects are totally fine, just live with it” etc. Clearly that wouldn’t be okay and would cause more harm. The same with dysphoria. Why all of a sudden should people cater to your psychological issues? If you don’t want to associate yourself with being a woman or man, if you hate your biological sex etc, you need help. You need to resolve those issues and speak about what caused it. Not normalise ridiculous behaviour and ask people to call you a ‘wall’ or a ‘cat’ because you “feel better” calling yourself that.

[@ohwellwhateverr]

@@orvali Also, another point. When I’m talking directly to someone, the only pronouns I’m likely to use are “you”, which is gender neutral anyway. So where’s the issue?

[@orvali]

@@ohwellwhateverr degendering can also be misgendering, purposely avoiding using someones pronouns out of "fear" is to me, more harmful than making a mistake every once in a while. if it's just how u talk it's fine but in a conversation with more than one person using names or purposely beating around the bush is just plain transphobic

[@TheTechnoWulfeh]

not only is it extremely entitled to demand such absurd pronouns to be used, but i feel like this is just another vessel to ignore whatever issues/trauma someone may be dealing with at hand and instead choose to take on an entirely new identity to rid themselves of their issues instead of tacking them head-on. it's very upsetting to see. EDIT: i posted this before you mentioned it. thank you for talking about it.

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Oh definitely

[@pea5062]

Honestly.... I Have OCD, and my bookcases are all in alphabetical order and odd volume triggers me. I DO NOT expect everyone to re-arrange their goddamn bookcases for when I visit them god damn... and when they mess with the volume I just don't look cz I can't get upset if I don't know. Its up to us to try and get along in society the best we can. Imagine if I went to a friends house and demanded they put everything in alphabetical order or like screamed the house down because they didnt. You're spot on girl, its narcissistic af x

[@tynellesharratt463]

OMG 😳 I thought I was the only one with the volume thing?!? And I'm also ok, as long as I don't know!!! It's exhausting - especially when the perfect volume is actually an odd number 😭

[@pea5062]

@@tynellesharratt463 What annoys me is when you tell people and then they go out of their way to be like OH ITS ON AN ODD NUMBER DOES THAT UPSET YOU and your just like....yes dickhead...I literally just told you this like you're not funny mocking someone with a disorder

[@troyperry411]

Bun is just so full of bunself. Y’all actually expect us to talk like this? GTFOH

[@smileyearth4896]

This reminds me of when people would jokingly say, “I identify as a dinosaur” ...that was only 5 years ago

[@benjamingoldstein1111]

Dinosaurs are dead for 5 years already. Time flies.

[@bookofgrimoire9193]

@Al Kamil if you are that stupid thinking the person making the comment is making some kind of argument......

[@WizardToby]

Attack Helicopter was another popular one in 2016 XD

[@bookofgrimoire9193]

@Al Kamil oh, is that your comeback, lo?. Can’t be a man/woman to own up your mistake? Pathetic.

[@minagica]

These pronouns were already out by then 🙄😭😭😭

[@edwardduda4222]

If people get like this, I will literally just avoid them and not be friends with them.

[@luckynevx]

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[@kokopowder3162]

Honestly Same! Its just plain annoying, they seem to do it to feel special. They don't seem to realize that the world doesn't revolve around them at all times.

[@luckynevx]

@@kokopowder3162 No lol

[@somewhatsurprisedpikachu2887]

You're pretty much doing them a favor so rock on 😂😂😂

[@justmadithings2luv]

@@luckynevx Wtf did I just watch?

[@natatavaresbocampagni9539]

Everybody's non-binary now apparently LOL Like, can't you just understand that you can be a feminine man or a more masculine woman? What happend to gender roles that everybody was talking about for the last 6 years?

[@BlackWolf207]

THATS WHAT I’VE BEEN SAYING. Glad to know others know what’s up

[@sw-hg8eq]

We can simply agree that the gender roles don't exist the same way as they used to do which clears all the "non-binary status". Those non-binaries don't need lame titles to feel special, they need a personality!

[@viysnjor4811]

Yeah they're like "wow I don't fit exactly into the perfect stereotype of hyper masculine man/hyper feminine woman, clearly I must not be either of them!" did they forget things like tomboys exist?

[@ladiabla2406]

@@viysnjor4811 And Tom girls. Their hypocrisy knows no bounds.

[@brianalynnsantos]

It almost makes it feel like their mocking it just like Blaire said at the end.

[@supergingerr]

Imagine how much harder it is for people learning to speak English, it’s already a hard language and now the words can change definition one a dime.

[@vran.7745]

I mean if they know enough they should be able to recognise the meaning from context and shit so

[@eriksigalraven8340]

Nit hard, german is hard

[@antzooma]

only if we accept it, which we haven't

[@shhhentient]

Thank you for calling this what it is: narcissistic and self-centered. I do think kids who are doing this are just lost, but I can't even excuse it in adults.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly..and there's a clown in this comment section calling it science and facts lmfao.

[@justbelieve4258]

What are we doing to our children? We are just creating a circus of confusing labels and words to describe what we can't. We are all different, and a label shouldn't be important. I had trouble coming to terms with the fact that I'm gay, because I don't want that label slapped on me. There is more to me than "gay". It's literally the smallest part of my being. But other people seem to be desperately grabbing for labels. And for what? All we are doing is making it so confusing and messy for our children that they won't be able to work out what their sexuality or gender is, because we've placed so much doubt in their minds. Kids who never would have questioned if they'd been born in past generations will now start to soul search and attach labels to themselves that aren't necessary or accurate. It's not fair that we are creating so much confusion for them.

[@Arcania9516]

Their parents raised them wrong.

[@Arcania9516]

@Mr Demen I see

[@Arcania9516]

@@GabrielleTollerson Britney D again huh?

[@BunsBooks]

I once met a dude named Tree, he was a 6’8” elder hippie who sold pickles at a festival. We bonded cause I also have a hippie name, Bunni (yes it’s my legal name). And ironically all my friends and family just call me Bun or Bunbun 👀 so I guess I’ve had bun pronouns since before it was cool, get in line waistcoat human

[@breem2134]

That is actually so cool! You both sound nice to be around!

[@vitameatavegaminmeata]

nicknames aren’t pronouns tho

[@feliciab5019]

@@vitameatavegaminmeata she knows lol. :)

[@chargingyellow]

@@vitameatavegaminmeata can you not tell it was a joke

[@oddbobproductions781]

Did you know Bunni is a biblical name? True. Book of Nehemiah. Bunni means “built”

[@tatsusama3192]

"I don't feel special/unique enough, so you must now call me *this* or be branded transphobic"

[@ladiabla2406]

I don’t get their trans argument. Like what? 😂 People will say anything to try to manipulate and control people. It’s getting out of hand and scary.

[@SkaterBlades]

Back in school we were taught that everyone is different and it's okay but these people let it go to their heads. Now they have to be the most different

[@ethanjake5639]

@Echo Foxtrot We literally just want you to call us a word. A preferred name is a word. if you can call us narcissists and attention seekers you can call us our preferred pronouns.

[@samanthasamsimpson7201]

@@ladiabla2406 the scariest thing is that they're not even trans...

[@RonCrown]

@@ethanjake5639My tolerance for you and your community has reached zero. You'll be called a man or woman depending on what you look like to me

[@CaleighBirdArt]

You are so right about the celebs "Coming out" now. 98% trend followers

[@pikminman13]

Pronouns: Exist to make things simpler so you don't have to use proper nouns Some people: Well actually I am now the element Xenon please refer to the periodic table of pronouns to address me

[@michaellawson6170]

This has been my issue the entire time, people are forgetting the entire purpose of a pronoun in the first place

[@rachelmazza4079]

Blair is so correct: therapy. These people need therapy and some one to talk to in order to work through things in their life that happened to them.

[@bisboptheclown]

therapy is expensive. being kind and respectful to strangers is free.

[@rachelmazza4079]

@@bisboptheclown Note how I also said 'someone to talk to' which could be a trusted friend or family member which is free.

[@bisboptheclown]

@@rachelmazza4079 talking to people who understand and support you is important for everyone. you know what might also help their mental health? huge internet figures like blaire and random people on the internet degrading them. blaire is not right.

[@quemepartaunrayoiyo]

@@bisboptheclown look at you, you came here, to a video almost not one agrees with you with the hope of changing minds. IF TERAPHY IS EXPENSIVE THEM HELP TO MAKE IT MORE AFFORDABLE. As someone who is studying, friends aren't therapists, and not even therapists can diagnose themselves.

[@bisboptheclown]

@@quemepartaunrayoiyo wow sorry for trying to engage in the free marketplace of ideas 🙄

[@wesleydamaschino8047]

Those kinds of people are why it took me a while to warm up to the idea of trans rights. So much of the LGBTQIA+ community is self-righteous that I’m almost embarrassed to be gay. It’s nice to see a trans person who’s openly saying that being trans shouldn’t be a fun, stylish new label, and that people need to be able to deal with their personal issues. I’m autistic, but I’m more well-adjusted to social settings than most in the spectrum, and I would attribute that at least partially to not getting QUITE enough support to grow up with a normal amount of challenge. The extra challenge forced me to close the gap myself, and gave me thicker skin than the snowflakes of my generation. AT LEAST TO A CERTAIN EXTENT, adversity is a good thing for growth.

[@leeriches8841]

My partner and I don't really have anything to do with LGBT community as it is so cliquey and bitchy, with people literally gatekeeping sexuality.

[@ioanwade3141]

Look to the LGB Alliance. They support and centre LGB. They do not exclude trans as is sometimes claimed. They want to support the specific needs of LGB.

[@yootoobsuks4210]

I have come to think of gay as very much a social construct. It seems to have very little to do with sexual orientation, and is much more concerned with sociopolitics and a way of life. I no longer use it when talking about myself. I either use the more clinical word homosexual, or sometimes simply "H". But I'm sure that's just me.

[@annymus4502]

Help! My friend just told me he uses kitten, kitty and cat pronouns What do I do now? I don't wanna sound rude, but I am aware of the consequences that could arise from me doing nothing

[@wesleydamaschino8047]

@@annymus4502 I don't know what to do in that situation. That sounds really rough.

[@ymixy1584]

This is why I don’t have tiktok 😫

[@kirtu9035]

lmao fr and also its banned

[@karmakweenie3576]

Honestly im glad you speak out on ppl who identify as trans due to trauma and not letting children transition. In my early teens 11-15 i thought i was trans bc of past sexual trauma and trauma from sexist culture in my personal life. Now im 19, cis, and want kids so im glad i didnt ruin my body

[@crystalpeaches7825]

yes thank you 😭

[@tanitasanchez6343]

Same here. I thought I was trans because of past trauma. I'm now a cis woman. I'm glad I took the time to do allot of research and looking within myself before I did anything that would affect my body.

[@drewlax23]

I love that you commented your story. I know others who have had the same experience as you and it takes a strong sense of self awareness and understanding to accept and share those parts of yourself. I had a similar experience in identifying as a lesbian in my teens due to sexual trauma and abuse. I felt emotionally safe with women and scared of men. I had a crippling anxiety surrounding sex with men and assumed it must just be because I was gay. It wasn't until I healed the deeper stuff going on that I started slowly trusting in men again and coming to my own understanding of my sexuality.

[@mariniikk]

Fair warning: kids might ruin your body in a different way... Regardless, I’m glad you found the strength to untie yourself from the past traumas!

[@l_a_u_y8916]

All of you mean super straight 😉

[@melbbb5673]

"your triggers are not anyone else's responsibility" yes!!! thankyou for breathing some common sense back into society!!!

[@cennix]

god I've been saying this for YEARS. A Friend deadass told me that people should remove girl and boy from the dictionary as she's trans and i told her that that's dumb as fuck lol and she called be trasnphobic?? like I'm being logical. it's a breath of fresh fucking air when someone like Blair talks about this

[@melbbb5673]

@@cennix it's crazy! If you're not in COMPLETE agreement you're transphobic....what the hell??

[@SM-qv2om]

If its something serious like epilepsy, eating disorders, rape or suicide or anything related to self harm, there should be a tw. however, something as common as a colour should not. if it triggers you, you yourself should take action and be responsible enough to avoid something like that. if loud noises trigger you, because I knew a girl who was triggered by clapping and loud laughter, then you should try to avoid that. the girl I knew would avoid going to place that she knew would be noisy, and if there was an unexpected loud noise she would remove herself from that situation. she also wore noise cancelling headphones.

[@cennix]

@@melbbb5673 yeah exactly I've been saying most of the things that Blair has spoken out about, for example that trans women aren't biologically women and how they don't know what it feels like to get their periods for ages.

[@cennix]

@@melbbb5673 but you know, using common sense is apparently trasnphobic... >->

[@elizabethchavez7789]

Okay this is almost EXACTLY kind of crap Demi Lovato tried to pull the other day. Just because you are triggered by the sight of sugar free cookies does not give you the right to go after a small business and send your fanbase over to relentlessly attack them. Like you said, YOUR TRIGGERS ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. You cannot expect the world to change itself for you, because it’s never going to.

[@cheryl8466]

Did she really do that? I don't normally pay attention to celebrity stuff.

[@lee-kl6qr]

@@cheryl8466 yogurt said it was guilty free bc it had less sugar i think. Demi said its not good for young people to see it bc they are some people who are struggling with eating disorders and shouldnr feel bad what they eat

[@MyName-bi4pt]

Yeah but Demi is a junkie. I don’t take them seriously. She injects heroin into her arm, I mean...urgh!🤪🤦‍♀️😂🤪

[@arabellas70s]

@@MyName-bi4pt you severely lack empathy 🤪🤩🤣

[@Laura-Yu]

@@arabellas70s Expecting empathy is even worse.

[@RedxRiot]

I feel the same about the whole “Latinx” and forcibly adding gender neutral words into a gendered language

[@zombies4evadude24]

But hey, at least German already has the gender neutral language thing going for it.

[@LManson-g5n]

@@zombies4evadude24 lame

[@laurenl2756]

I will say they/them if I don't know what someone is. No way in hell I'd call anyone "bunnyself"

[@notch8716]

Exactly! If someone prefers for me to use they/them pronouns then I'll use them, it's not a big deal. But there's a difference between they/them which is actual pronouns that we use on a daily basis in the English language and bunnyself which is just made up.

[@vran.7745]

@@notch8716 literally every single word in every single language is made up

[@guacbird]

same

[@jathpurr]

@@vran.7745 not in the same way as neopronouns are. People don't just pick a random word and use it in place of a major English function such as verbs, adjectives or pronouns. Its a massive change that suddenly needs to be hyper individualized and creates mass confusion just so some people can be special and feel different

[@vran.7745]

@@jathpurr "just so some people be special and feel different" yeah my fucking ass. People use neopronouns because they feel more comfortable with them, some may choose them because they mean something to them, me as an example. I'm not special nor I feel different, I just find myself in certain words that serve to better describe me. Also, a friendly reminder: she/her used to be a set of neopronouns and the first set of neos was created somewhere in 1800 (thon/thons if i remember correctly)

[@username8448]

Neopronouns just gives off big "I'm not like other girls I'm quirky" energy.

[@gamera5160]

I'd say more "I really hate myself and I don't want to be me. Being a bunny is better than being a person." It's not trying to be quirky. It's advertising that you're a hot mess.

[@tyler439]

yeah they were literally started on tumblr bc people wanted “cute” pronouns

[@Jeff-ok6dr]

Also "pay attention to me" and "I need constant validation" energy

[@GabrielleTollerson]

@@Jeff-ok6dr ikr

[@smirkingdog6924]

They’re truly not like other girls, they’re not girls per their own request

[@mileymbclimb17]

I think definitely blaires on to something about the narcissism because look how argumentative, self victimizing, reality denying people that claim these neopronouns. Very self centered, totally disconnected with the earth, and always rooted in spending too much time in a city or the internet/gaming. I've met people with this same behavior (forcing everyone else to adjust to them not them adjust to the room type) and they still claim traditional pronouns

[@ashleehowell3117]

Sadly the internet is a feeding ground for narcissism all across the board. Our culture celebrates, enables, and creates narcissistic behaviours. The internet has caused it to spread like wildfire.

[@ireneshusband_]

He/she/they. Those are the ones I understand. When people use xe/xem or something like that, I’ll respect it and try my hardest to use them (no promises), but my issue starts when they try to use animals or inanimate objects. And coming from a non trans person, it just SEEMS disrespectful towards trans people who have cried so many tears and put in so much money and work for them to be where they are now, just to be in the right body, just for people to respect and use their pronouns. It begins to be an issue, and I usually don’t think we as a generation are very sensitive, but when it comes to this, they need to grow up.

[@thankyouforbeingafriend9632]

Yes exactly!!!

[@kristoferpaunonen9650]

As a trans man with gender dysphoria, neopronouns are, in my opinion, 100% offensive and a mockery of real trans people

[@RJIS]

he and she are the only valid ones tbh

[@ireneshusband_]

@@RJIS I respectfully have to disagree

[@fauziaaisyh]

Exactly 💯 this whole neopronouns thing truly is crazy.... I'm either referring you as he, she or they. No way in hell I would refer someone IN PUBLIC/public spaces as bug/tree/vampire. Yikes

[@professor-hamstring]

I use they/them pronouns and even I think that neopronouns are kind of out of control, like, your favorite animal or color isn’t a gender. I don’t think it’s too crazy to have she/her, he/him, and they/them. That’s only three options. Myself and a few others I know don’t get offended by people assuming binary pronouns like “she“ or “he” (mostly “she” for me) because how are they supposed to know? It’s natural for most people to want to assign a gender to someone even if they look ambiguous. On a rational level I don’t think I need to be offended by someone who “assumes my gender” 🤷🏼. It’s just annoying when people have to throw a huge tantrum over someone using they/them pronouns. (And yes, I’m actually intersex, although I don’t believe you have to be to go by they/them pronouns).

[@clairecosio]

@em ! I'm definitely not intersex, but I'm gender fluid (afab) and I think it's arbitrary to say there is a set number of genders. people experience everything differently, and that's the same with genders. even if you said there are 100+ genders or something like that, there is always going to be people that don't fit into that. the only answer is to let people identify how they feel fit because everyone knows themselves best. I hope that answers your question :)

[@clairecosio]

@em ! yeah, that's a great question! everyone's gender is different and is basically apart of your personality, so it's kind of like thinking about and part of your personality. you kinda know if you're introverted or extroverted, and gender is similar (in my opinion). it's like there is some part of you that just knows where you fit in (or don't fit in) even if it takes a while to find out the term for it. gender dysphoria also is a good indicator, though not all transgender people experience that

[@clairecosio]

@em ! there isn't any "right" or "correct" feelings for each gender. just look up some genders and figure out which one fits you best! there is no right or wrong answers because you know yourself best. play around with different labels and pronouns and figure what works best for you. even if you later realize that a certain gender isn't who you are (or even realizing that you weren't even trans), all that matters is finding out what makes you feel comfortable and that there are no "mistakes." you don't have to fit into someone else's definition of a certain gender because you are you! (and I totally don't mind answering questions) :)

[@Qsrjeiwjwj]

Like it or not but you are part of the problem.

[@clairecosio]

@@Qsrjeiwjwj what problem am I apart of?

[@satanlucifer4437]

The trigger story Blaire told us reminded me of Demi Lovato sending all her fans to hate a small baking business because the business has sugar free cookie options and it triggered Demi for some reason..smh. Your triggers are not my responsibility

[@cursedee8767]

She did WHAT?!

[@satanlucifer4437]

@@cursedee8767 yep, it all went down about a week ago

[@susannahmarie7848]

@@cursedee8767 lmao, she said it triggered her eating disorder that they had sugar free options and claimed they should have had it labelled as “frozen yogurt for diabetic people” 😭. Her “apology” was offering to help them “fix” these apparent labelling issue btw

[@stephaniemoore8013]

Thats not an accurate use of the word trigger. It pissed her off yes but her ptsd was not triggered by this incident. Thats the real use for the word trigger and what blaire was talking about with her sexual assault. Triggering PTSD is what trigger is supposed to refer to. I understand everyone uses it wrong so not calling you out or anything. :)

[@susannahmarie7848]

@@stephaniemoore8013 we were just quoting what Demi Lovato said

[@michelleshire3105]

No matter what we’ve been through, or are going through, no matter what our “triggers”, we still have to live in the world. And as harsh as it may sound, the world’s job isn’t to bend to every whim and will of every person who has been victimized. I say this as a survivor who chose to eventually rejoin this scary but beautiful world after my trauma, as flawed as it is.

[@sibyinthewild1289]

exactly, I've had to go to therapy for an intense phobia I had, notice how I chose therapy over simply expecting the world to cater to my exact needs. This is what these neo pronoun ppl need, Therapy, bcz I am not anyones coping mechanism.

[@sweettea1193]

Exactly. I'm blind, and I would love every single item in all grocery and clothing store to have an attached sheet next to the product detailing the colour, ingredients, type of product and all other relevant info in braille so I could read it like all sighties do. But does the world owe me that? No

[@moralityisnotsubjective5]

I've had mental health issues my whole life and I agree. My personal issues are no one else's burdens. They are mine and mine alone.

[@michelleshire3105]

@@moralityisnotsubjective5 ❤️

[@WaterDefysGravity]

What about for autistic people?

[@polinakonovalova1101]

I’ve always had the question, these people say that sex and gender are different. Why are they now changing pronouns to fit with gender versus sex? What is their reasoning for that?

[@nikola7609]

Who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️ they make everything so damn complicated for nothing