The SAD Truth About the DeBarge Family | Drugs, Prison & Family Secrets

[@YaH-Ra]

10 insanely talented siblings all victims of generational trauma and drug abuse. The Debarge family blessed us with timeless music displaying greatness despite their many adversities. I pray this family finds healing happiness & forgiveness.

[@ST-nz4bf]

Amen 🙏

[@officiall.d1010]

@YaH-Ra I pray for them too.They deserve peace and inner contentment.

[@gracieloyd1439]

​@@ST-nz4bf I would like to comment that I know life is not what we like it to be sometime but we thank God that we do all have some problems one way or the other but by the grace of God we get through them most of the time and when we don't we still have to keep on believing and trusting in God and believe in that we can do all things through Christ

[@MsEvie83]

Amen 🙏🏾💖💯💫💫💫

[@markwalton7165]

Yes Lord 🙏

[@tamlynn786]

I just cannot wrap my mind around how she was able to leave her children knowing that demon was beating and SA them. How?! Huh? I’d die for my kids if it meant protecting them..Mama Debarge went to church, praising Jesus while her kids were living in hell. I’ll never understand it 🥺

[@nancymosby7369]

I hear u!

[@SandraMontano-si3uf]

She abused them by letting the father do it -

[@YouTubeBlueButterflies]

Living in denial

[@Coffeebreak713]

Her and her children were abused. She was a child too. Church was their only peace. People always say what they would do in someone elses life. They're father did exactly what America taught, did and allowed for centuries. We all need God, plenty families enduring these generational curses right now!

[@Candy2Bossy]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😢

[@schemikaspears8184]

Their dad was the DEVIL!!! 😡😡😡& that’s why a lot of them turned to drugs to numb that pain & those memories of what that Devil did them…

[@MONEYAINTATHANG100]

🐻

[@shawnesebletson9308]

😮 Jesus ❤

[@llydiyah13]

And the industry

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

Bobby abused Tommy also! Just so sad. Talk about a generational curse! I hope the Father is rotting in HELL with no relief!

[@PeacenLuv9]

I agree.

[@laraoneal7284]

The mother had a boyfriend who was also molesting the children. The dad was out of the house by then.

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

@@laraoneal7284 The Mother bares A LOT of responsibility also.

[@laraoneal7284]

@@tyardovdabulldht2340 Absolutely. She was compliant in everything that went on.

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

@@laraoneal7284 EVERYYYYY THING!

[@monicaoliver4372]

It is so sad that this family has suffered so much abuse at the hands of their parents. The mother enabled the father to allow him to beat and SA the children .The DeBarges are a very talented family and it is always the case of the abuser using power and control to instill fear in the children so they can do what they tell them to do . They use drugs to numb the pain of abuse.😢😢😢😢😢🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ST-nz4bf]

💯

[@suberts7517]

Relatives and the community have to do better in protecting children from abusive parents when their parent will not.The community has to do better and stop looking the other way!

[@YoshindaMitchell9363]

The DeBarge Family Will Always Be Blessed! No Matter The Family Trauma. They Will Always Be Spectacular Human Beings. Full Of Love And Laughter. I Know Them Personally. And They All Are Some Beautiful Human Beings. And I Love Each And Every One Of Them. The Damage Is Done. And That's Why They Are Being Carried On God's Golden Wings.

[@suberts7517]

@@YoshindaMitchell9363 The village and family has to do better and report child abuse. Bunny told the story to save other children from what they went through ❤

[@YoshindaMitchell9363]

@@suberts7517 Believe Me I Know. It Was The Best Thing She Could Have Ever Done. The Documentary Was. Even Though There Are Several.. It's Not All Accurate.Ijs. Just Thought I Should Add That.

[@user-ce9ji1gc9s]

Etterlene supposedly knows everything or wants to talk about everything, but she won’t address the abuse of her kids. She’s a liar even in her old age. She didn’t protect her kids and still doesn’t. It’s a shame to have birthed 10 kids who all became addicts.

[@michelynndemir9176]

I'm not confused, But Black Queens don't let what she let happen to her children I'm not sorry for what I said either. I'm sorry for the children enduring. That edomite wickiness I hope the children stay strong for each other.

[@ezp8811]

I think she holds back now because it was so horrific and is a reminder/testament of her failure to protect them. Raising the kids I'm sure she was quiet out of fear. Physical, mental/emotinal abuse by a monster that was unbearably controlling. Fear is often why mothers don't protect their children from monsters. STILL, protecting your children is a must at all cost and she failed them.

[@warlenedavis5829]

L

[@tbeautifulmelodies9820]

Unfortunately that’s what happens when children are physically, emotionally, sexually abuse along with neglect causes long-term trauma. I know because I was sexually abused before entering foster care at the ages 3,4, 5 and six.

[@summersifysummers4702]

​@@tbeautifulmelodies9820❤ so sorry for your experience

[@stephenchristian3636]

As a Child Sexual Abuse/Physical abuse survivor I’m heartbroken 💔 hearing the story about Debarge. They’re such a Talented /Beautiful family just tryna overcome their demons. Truth of the matter is Childhood Trauma never leaves you. Addiction/Mental health /Mental illness is real.. I’m a Recovering alcoholic an I’m here to say that without God & Therapy it’s no telling where I’d be right now. Let’s start normalizing therapy in our community. We can’t HEAL what we don’t REVEAL.

[@lilyruby3733]

Amen! We can't heal what we don't reveal

[@TheRealDennisFamilyTV]

Same here. I was so hurt because I know the pain and trauma that they're dealing with. Being sexually abused as a child, that changes your mental quick. 💔

[@foxxyldyfrca]

Amen, 🙏🏾 glad you are doing well today! Praying for you continued healing,God is so GREAT 👍🏾

[@goodmeasure777]

@Stephen Christian, An internet hug to you my friend. Keep keepin on!

[@stephenchristian3636]

@@goodmeasure777 Thank You so much

[@suberts7517]

One of the most talented groups ever who were not protected from a sick abusive parent.They were the most abused children in history and their story brings tears All my love❤🙏Debarge.Hey Chico and El ❤and 🙏Bunny , Great Job with documentary/video

[@mr.madmanswiss1235]

We need BET to do a 4 part series of the Debarge family.. The right way 👍

[@TruthTella314]

BET ? As in the television channel? They have a better chance as doing it independent. BET has been black in the last 15 years

[@feliciawhite8190]

That would be good!

[@rotricesmith5930]

I agree💯

[@lillaura622]

​@@TruthTella314they did an awesome job with new edition, so they should tackle it 💯

[@TruthTella314]

@@lillaura622 ill keep that noted thanks

[@ttopbugatti9430]

Shame on anybody that’s does nothing about the abuse or neglect of children… their mother was despicable😢😢😢

[@rebekahdavis5935]

Agreed. Her refusal to deal with reality has kept her entire family from being able to heal from something she should never have allowed to carry on at all let alone as long as she did. You can't just shrug off that level of abuse which is what she did.

[@pambeforethestorm9784]

She is very much so despicable. I pray for all of the children....they never stood a chance 😥💔🕊🕊🕊🕊

[@2GracefullyAnointed-Savvy1]

​@@rebekahdavis5935 Amen 🙏! Lord God deliver, and heal the entire family members and generations. And save their souls!

[@creations_fe6181]

NOPE THAT'S VERY HORRIBLE THEY HAVE BEEN ROBBED THEIR WHOLE LIFE ALL THY WAY AROUND PERIOD IT SHOWS KIDS TOO. Man this hurts to know this happened to Alot of people

[@jadeabyss9978]

​Many people from the mother's generation are in complete denial about how they treated their families and the generational afflictions they've caused. If they ever had the courage to contend with what they've done, it would drive them mad, so they pretend or bury it. I have the same types in my family. These types create a narrative of how they were the victims and how they were acting in the best interests of their family and how they did no wrong. They are blinded by their martyr/ victim complex and that combined with characteristics of their generation means that they refuse to take accountability. I hope that I'm wrong, but I doubt the DeBarges will ever get an authentic apology from their mother before she passes. I have people in my family like this and they'd rather go to the grave with it. They are all early Boomers or Silent generation like this lady, extremely prideful. I'm grateful that I am the generation of the grandkids, rather than kids so wasn't the direct victim, but has still impacted me greatly. Generational scars. Sorry for what happened to the DeBarges. Every child deserves the best ❤

[@charlenewhite9007]

That's a shame that man did that to his children. Shame on him.

[@thespectraldogg1277]

Shame on their mother also for allowing that to happen upon them.

[@maverick8047]

The dad is the one that did it...always gotta find a way to blame the women smh....n u a female smh

[@schemikaspears8184]

I’m crying 😢I cry every time for the DeBarge family…..it just breaks my heart of the TRAUMA they ALL went through!!

[@tbeautifulmelodies9820]

I read Bunny’s memoir

[@flawedyetredeemed395]

This family is still suffering even down to the twins. The eldest abused all of them. El and Chico haven't addressed it but I don't blame them. I know some things about the family but I don't want to say it but they're really suffering. The only one is really sane is peaches one of the twins and one of the daughters the father had outside the marriage named deathra. It's really sad and tragic. I pray that they're healed spiritually because some of them are angry with their mother and they're not getting closure.

[@Meshagurl28]

Their mother continues to act as if the abuse never happened or that it somehow "wasn't all that bad" smh. I remember Bunny saying in her book how the mom would always brush her off whenever she tried to discuss the abuse with her. Tommy said the same as well smh. I don't blame some of them for still being bitter about it.

[@rebekahdavis5935]

@@Meshagurl28 I would FOR SURE be bitter about it. That's toxic and is keeping the family from healing including the mother herself. She allowed her babies to be abused in the worst way, sounds like even after she left the father. I don't blame the kids one bit for being bitter. No way I could have a relationship with my mother if she blew off that level of abuse.

[@Meshagurl28]

@@rebekahdavis5935 Right, I don't care if she's elderly. She needs to take responsibility for the part she played. The wild part is that she actually has folks that follow her calling her a "loving mother" smh.

[@aviyahchaverim9388]

Robert had a dark personality disorder. Toxic people do not admit when they are wrong. I'm soooo sorry because El has never healed from the trauma caused him. It's very sad.

[@queenlogy1on152]

The only thing that can speed up the healing of the DeBarge family is for the mother to say I'm sorry, she blames everybody else for allowing that monster into her life instead of taking her own Responsibility for the protection of her children, only thing she can say is I'M SORRY AND COULD YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME! those words can heal alot of wounds. The whole family needs to seek mental therapy for the childhood trauma. My Prayers are for them all🙏🏾💕

[@MsAmique]

There’s probably more that we probably don’t know. Just sad.

[@kingt3746]

He used to beat the shit out of that lady, obviously she couldn’t saved them, it probably was the kids or her & since she used to take the beating for the kids, clearly it was going to be her… we can’t say what she should’ve done bcz we weren’t there, we weren’t in her position, we don’t kno exactly what was happening, it’s truly easier said than done in many cases

[@maverick8047]

Right @king

[@Simplylee1916]

Chile..that woman know she is not Janet Jackson or James DeBarge daughter..she looks older than both of them.

[@TheSweetPeaDiaries]

😂😂

[@shawnatv4355]

Lmaoooo

[@jenniferwade7861]

I look more like them than she do🤣! If you gone pick someone to lie, at least make her believable looking!

[@nicolematheny4274]

Hahahahaha older and nothing like either one haha 😂

[@harperstacey9604]

Janet Jackson has claimed that she never had a child with James debarge. I believe her. From Ms. Harper Stacey.

[@zohraelharrak2922]

The kids had no chance. The father abused, and the mother just watched. 😢

[@dianeowsley6529]

God forgives , Judgement Day we all going to stand before Jesus and Mrs.Debarge rest in peace all ready repent.

[@soulangel835a]

the mother was abused as well

[@Nille0212]

I love the music they've created, but the PURE HELL they went through growing up is just heartbreaking. I can't imagine being abused by my father in every way possible, and my mother knew about it but didn't do anything to stop it or help me.

[@MONEYAINTATHANG100]

🧊

[@godsbow8703]

She had to say 5 women 12 kids. You can see she’s messy. Love El❤

[@marilynhouston7394]

I caught that too!

[@Chrysyyyy]

I was thinking that.

[@herberthunter5570]

That Hasselbeck lady is a butthead for that comment. Was uncalled for.

[@eileithiagrayer2998]

Ummm, yeah....I was scrolling and reading then when I heard it I came back to find this comment. She was DEFINITELY being funny!!!!!! 😤 She just couldn't give the man props for having a big beautiful family. 🙄

[@emanualcarr7408]

Exactly smh

[@MsQD]

THEIR FATHER MESSED THOSE KIDS UP 😢

[@VeeDizzle83]

Both parents did...

[@ensghost7833]

If the mom sat by and watched ...she is just as much to blame....same as Joe Jackson and Kathryn

[@maverick8047]

Right @ msqd.....ppl don't know what that woman went thru but they always gotta try n blame the women

[@victoriawilliams1078]

Ppl dont realise the mother was also ABUSED! And was probably in fear of her life and her children this was probably in the late 60's and 70's not a lot of tools for women's with abusive husband and he was not a well person probably tell a bold face lie and hate to say it she was black and he was white who would the higher ups believe? Think about it!

[@yosea8701]

Wow, this is so sad. I'm so happy to see El Debarge is still being embraced by us all.

[@gloriaholland2806]

It's a mothers duty to protect her children... no matter what. Debarges mot FAILED to do this big time. Shame shame shame on her for this. She is the fault of all they've been through

[@rebels42wynn83]

Growing up in the '80s, Debarge was all that!!!! It's so heartbreaking that they had the most painful memories while growing up.

[@55thst_rojos]

I read Tommy’s book, the mom was jealous of Bunny due to that her father was molesting Bunny. She also went to church 7 days a week leaving the kids home with the father. The mother was also warned not to marry Robert by Robert own mother and she used race as a reason why she didn’t want them to marry. Bobby molested Tommy and James however from El on down the father didn’t abuse them, they were abused from the mothers new Spanish bf Pappi and she allowed that to happen as well. There’s a interview with I believe Creflo Dollar on KZbin where Chico discussed this as well as Tommy book. There’s a lot even down to the manipulation of the grandchildren for welfare checks after the money was gone. Please read Tommy books because he never held back

[@veronicacooper4397]

What’s it called??

[@veronicacooper4397]

There’s a lot she didn’t cover that I believe was important. I need that book

[@55thst_rojos]

@@veronicacooper4397 girl it’s called There Never Be by Tommy DeBarge girl if you get it, tell me what you think ok

[@suberts7517]

OMG Just horrific 🙏

[@queenzhavonne2044]

​@@veronicacooper4397 look at Ashley says so video on them. She covers alot

[@lindajones684]

Child molestation is a vicious cycle if people don’t get the proper help!

[@MsDes307]

I am sorry that The Debarge Family had so many horrific tragedies throughout all of heir lives. I send my condolences, love, and prayers to each and every one of them❤️

[@cherylm.3997]

If their mother would've made the decision to leave that demonic husband when he started abusing her only The Lord would have made a way for her and her babies, (after all she had brothers that helped her later) her children would have turned out so much better and maybe never did any drugs to deal with the pain, also and possibly Tommy and Bobby would still be alive, I feel she was a big part of their fall right along with her husband.... How cauld she sit back and allow the HORRIFIC abuse of her children for soo long??? Just wicked OMG! They deserved soo much better that life had to offer

[@ByNature15]

Apparently her being a Jahovah’s Witness plays a big part. Jahovah witness women when they get married are taught to “turn their heads” to things their husbands did in the household, including abuse, and just “trust God” things will get better. Same for the Jackson’s and their abuse from Joe.

[@MsNooneinparticular]

Addiction is a predictable result of childhood trauma. Like as predictable as Type II diabetes resulting from obesity. We need to start viewing it that way. That evil, depraved father chose a poor Black woman because he knew she would have no recourse when he began abusing her and their children. Abusers are experts at choosing and grooming their victims. That said, Etterlene didn't have to marry him or keep having kids. There are always alternatives to allowing your kids to be tortured.

[@travishylton6976]

Women choose men don't because men can rape

[@corporatewellness6452]

I dont think BW had rights or any federal support in the 50s. Police refused to arrest him bc of him crow, no organizations etc

[@alicefountain8456]

It is really heartbreaking that she could stay with DeBarge Sr.knowing that the demon she married abused her children,like that especially seeing that their mother had a way out, God Bless the Debarge family.

[@chulababy2120]

“5 women 12 kids” She didn’t have to even go there Lol 😂

[@peachyqueen7856]

Whew Chile…I know Janet is tried of this damn rumor. Tiffany isn’t the daughter.

[@allendixon7700]

I found out something I did that day I found out that I like a woman just a little bit well maybe a whole lot on the trash said try s*** That's a good song and a Confederate railroad that's a group it doesn't Confederate railroad singing trashy

[@handsome-brute2666]

The father looked like a young George H.W.Bush who also was a 😈

[@ILuvMyBrwnSkin]

RIIIIIIIIIIIGHT! They did a DNA test that showed she wasn't even James' daughter

[@tracycampbell4667]

Mother didn't protect her children from SATAN!!!!!

[@davislouis8181]

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello make you smile!!

[@jazzi1212]

This family has been through it! Well done Sweet Pea!

[@ejakaegypt]

Gosh this family was beautiful and talented All of their stories kinda break my heart They all could’ve been soo much more ❤

[@khaieyaque]

I feel that the mother is a whole liar... That she stuck with that man because she wanted him & she thought that she "lucked up" by marrying him. Him telling her that birth control was a "sin" is the same as most Catholics believe. She continued having kids with him because he stayed leaving her , living with other women & having more kids. Bunny TOLD her about the sexual abuse & she STILL left those kids home with their abuser, claiming it was so she could go to church 😒. She literally gave her kids to that man & even when Bunny got away ...she coerced her to come back into the same situation. The mother was the father's coconspirator

[@MsNooneinparticular]

Yeah it happens all the time. I'm sure he did threaten her & she was scared of him, but in the end you do ANYTHING to protect your kids from sexual and physical abuse. She failed them.

[@flawedyetredeemed395]

And the mother is not really addressing the abuse with them. Tommy said in his book that she is a narcissist and only shows attention to the ones being successful i.e. El. She needs help. She's like a 🧱. She always brings up God which is good to a certain extent but when your children just want you to be mommy and apologize but you don't get that, that's hard.

[@beautifulmirage8322]

She did at least her Dusties made good music and not raggedy mix tapes

[@pjewellful2012]

@KhaieyaQue Wesley…I totally agree! She is just like so many other woman who want to put total blame on the physical abuser but play the victim when it comes to taking responsibility for their end. And I hate these women also throwing church and God in the mix. Surely your God wouldn’t want you to stay in a home where your kids were abused on a regular bases. She is disgusting to me and I give her no grace. I’m so tired of woman getting grace who choose to stay with abusers, yet if a man stayed with a woman who did this to his kids nobody would give him any grace at all!

[@pjewellful2012]

She married that White man thinking she had a way out the hood and cared more about her financial ties with him than her kid’s safety. Totally agree with the comment about her being a total narcissist.

[@angelaharrison4314]

That family would NOT have suffered like this if their mother didn't marry that devil. And now here they are interviewing them tryna act like THEY are the problem. No... that devil their mom married was the problem. Point blank period.

[@jenniferwade7861]

Right! She kept having kids with that demon and left her kids alone with that monster! Sorry excuse for a mother!

[@ShaunasWorld950]

I agree!!

[@erickafergus6842]

For real. All that hot grease and grits around. There is no excuse

[@nicolemoore04]

Yes, scared or not she should've never allowed any of that to happen, imagine not using protection because your bd told you it's a sin 🤦‍♀️🙄

[@powerbadpowerbad]

AGREED.Years ago I saw an UNSUNG episode on this family and was disgusted by the actions of their father.

[@wingchundragon]

Tommy's book kept it real!...like....too real. RIP

[@hungoverpuppy3907]

Bobby had an addiction from 15-39. Maybe I am wrong, but it felt like nobody tried to get him therapy, rehab, or help. It felt like he was expected to just get over it and fix himself.

[@pandora-is-here]

This story is soooo heartbreaking 💔 Thank you for doing this deep dive. Debarge will always be a piece of me.

[@bjbrownbob]

Bunny Debarge told a story about them being rescued from their abusive father but their mother sneakingly asked her pastor to give their dad her phone number so he could come and get them. Bunny refused to go back but their DEMON mother FORCED her to go back!!😔😔

[@TheRealDennisFamilyTV]

Bobby sexually abusing James is a spirit Bobby contacted. Being sexually abused myself by my oldest cousin, I also was partaking in incest. I thought it was okay because of what happened to me.

[@AnnaMaeBullock]

Bobby targeted James because the father didn't abuse James.

[@nechelle0903]

Praying for you healing

[@emanualcarr7408]

Damn 😏

[@chadniradavis6894]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@MaryLou913]

Thank you for having the strength to admit your misunderstanding and hopefully redirection. When you are sexually molested as a child it can be very confusing so in my opinion, you get a pass on what might have been done as a child as a result of that confusion and early sexual awakening, because you were a child. However, by an adult you know better what’s off limits. No matter who you’re sleeping with just make sure they are 1.) adults and it’s 2.) consensual and it’s your business not ours. Thanks for providing some clarity.

[@saundrabrown1873]

I was Facebook friends with Donta DeBarge and he had moved to Atlanta from Chicago and back to Chicago and to California before he passed 😥

[@S.TJohnsun-to3vc]

Sad part is their Father, trying to destroy his own children and wife 👀

[@leahwatson5765]

That abuse definitely played a huge part in all of their drug abuse ❤❤❤

[@cassieh8742]

This was truely awesome and Debarge was one of my favorite family groups. Great job Sweet Pea !!!!

[@arnelevans4803]

As I watch this, I'm determined to visit the city of Grand Rapids, MI. I am a lifelong fan of the Debarge family. My prayer is that they remain united and break the yolk of drug abuse and addiction.

[@thebighousencaaattendancer478]

Just make sure you don't visit here in the winter. We have very harsh winters.

[@jasmineb4787]

Amen

[@arnelevans4803]

@@thebighousencaaattendancer478 Got it

[@georgemaxwell3467]

I was born in Grand Rapids and they grew up 2 blocks from me!! We moved when I was 3 but my older brothers and sisters knew them back then!! This was the early 70s...

[@valeriebolton2607]

Say no to drugs. Get therapy. Don't live alone. Fill your life with clean fun and Godly people. Eat real while foods. Exercise, stretch, do for others and love yourself.

[@theesweetestpeach7957]

Disgusting!! I was shocked to learn this about them, such talent!!

[@TradeWynn65]

Drugs and physical abuse have ravaged this family. They are caught up in a vortex they cannot seem to escape. El, I luv💕 your music and I miss the Dark Gabel look. 💕

[@MaryLou913]

It’s back!

[@SpecialKay4273]

We have to continuously pray for this family as they struggle through their adversities. It's unfortunate that this talented family has endured so much trauma throughout their lives. God has their back and will help them to make it through.

[@nasimaali9646]

Ashleysaysso did a great 2 part video on this family too. So sad.

[@venda1008]

It was through Ashley I learnt these siblings sad story,I still can't get over it

[@feliciawhite8190]

Yes Ashley did a damn good job!

[@lindajones684]

Old Grown Men often take advantage of young women and not in a good way! My prayers go out to the DeBarge family! God will get the victory in the end!!!

[@sandramason1358]

BTW the mother should be ashamed of herself. I love The Most High first, and my children comes after in my world. The men will come and go. That monster destroyed my brothers and sisters, and he will be judged.

[@belindaplanter2230]

He was a monster that was a had his picks of his house slaves. That he abused mentally, physically, and sexually. When the hell he got ready to. I don't understand why they didn't file charges against him when they go it older or something. I am sure that mom went through her own personal hell. But it seemed like at one point in time she should have woken up and put him out of misery. My heart ache for them. Poor Bobby just didn't stand a chance.

[@teresajenkins4061]

You mentioned Royalties and Motown in the same sentence...that is like mentioning Bad Boys and Royalties.

[@ronbanks312]

"Dem boys K'sang" So many brilliant Songs were written by this family it's incredible. Through out the years their music has given me so much happiness, and great memories of the "Good Ole Days". My life's playlist has a lot of Debarge in it.

[@garealemcgill6967]

I noticed Bonnie and Vanity from The Last Dragon has so much in common both were beautiful women both were biracial women both were addicted to hard-core drugs both were abused by their fathers and both were on Motown records and both were saved by Christ in the end I love both of these women ❤️

[@lilyruby3733]

"Saved" by Christ.....are u on the drugs u speak of???? WHERE WAS CHRIST when they were being abused in the first place?????? Religious pacifying is incredibly infuriating especially coming from people who clearly never suffered childhood se,xual abuse....get the f out with nonsense rhetoric

[@ombreyarenee3826]

*Bunny

[@arnelevans4803]

I didn't even realize that

[@janicethomas3483]

Dear GOD, PLEASE ALWAYS PROTECT & KEEP YOUR HANDS ON THIS PRECIOUS FAMILY ALWAYS, IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AMEN!

[@chadniradavis6894]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Astrapionte]

Bobby. BISEXUAL KING. Fine and talented. I wish he didn't have to go through all of that torment and torture that effected him. I wish he didn't have to lose his life, and I wish he could have gotten all of the help he needed to work through his harrowing childhood. Hope that the entire DeBarge family continues healing and overcoming their traumas.

[@squarebear619]

He was a chomo. I understand that he was abused but it is abnormal for someone who goes through that to go on to do it themselves. Most don't and it's an excuse when those that do when they use their victimization as a reason to also victimize. Most everybody got a story about how they grew up and you cannot use it as an excuse to become a predator yourself.

[@Astrapionte]

@@squarebear619 very true, very true.

[@AnnaMaeBullock]

Nicca, you gay.

[@rahmanbanks8517]

My mother Denise Matthews introduced me to the DeBarge family she was on Motown records with them

[@darrentaylor5455]

That's Vanity's real name, she was also on Motown or is Vanity your mom.

[@swannoir7949]

@@darrentaylor5455 Vanity never had kids, though.

[@MaryLou913]

@@swannoir7949Maybe she means like godmother. I saw her in a maternal way also. She was good people.

[@MaryLou913]

🧢

[@ehlerhog]

The father ended up looking like an angry Grandpa Munster. 😱

[@onnabugeisha2841]

He really did😅

[@raycurry4168]

Don't you KNOW that there are NO ROYALTIES from Berry Gordy/Motown if you signed on the dotted line ...unless you were Smokey, Stevie and the "BOSS" Diana.

[@funkpill]

Umm I think Rick James was getting paid. 🤔 Lionel Richie too.

[@mariastewart9820]

Really ???? 😮

[@broddablack5290]

They could have been bigger than the Jacksons

[@chulababy2120]

No matter what we think and feel about this family and what they went through.Those children loved their mother to the very end of her life.

[@missmarage1]

Thank you I really enjoyed it. So detailed. I love the Debarges. They are often overlooked for their contributions to music. Good job telling their story.

[@alita6696]

The dad was a devil terrorizing those kids, however the mother is responsible for leaving the alone with him. I cry because as a parent I wouldn't allow ANYONE to hurt my kids. ALL the Debarges are beautiful inside & out I pray they get rid of the drugs😢

[@leahwatson5765]

Great job at telling the DeBarge family story. They really are a talented family in spite of all the abuse they received. God bless them all 🙏🏼❤❤🎤🎶🎶

[@deevillarreal9475]

I very much understand leaving things in God's hands, but when it comes to protecting your children , God tells us he blesses effort. Our efforts, definitely bring abuse to a dead hault emmediately.

[@katherts]

Thank you for a very comprehensive and well narrated doco on the DeBarges. They have been a lasting fave since the early 80’s and knowing their tragic history just makes me love and appreciate their music even more. Bless you and all your efforts on YT.

[@kenyaspratt4829]

Yo…Chico was high as a kite in that interview 😂

[@deerobinson744]

Man high as a mf

[@zoilarobledo8135]

Awesome job! Well done, Sweet Pea Diaries! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ceoa]

Alcohol and Drugs are a beast. Sexual and physical abuse on top of that is total destruction that can only be conquered by Prayer and intense therapy. So much trauma. I'm glad they have their music but I'm so sad their past has to be brought up and thrown in their faces all the time.

[@chadniradavis6894]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@pandora-is-here]

Omgosh, I remember Time will Reveal and Love me in a Special Way, we’re two of my favorite songs in the early 80’s. Every time I hear those songs, it makes me choke up and cry. So much heartbreak I survived with my Debarge cassette tape.

[@ebonydaise9403]

It’s so sad and heart breaking to hear of this . Mothers everywhere have to be more diligent in protecting there children . Trauma leads to mental illness this is a real sickness that people sweep under the rug . It’s unfortunate they never recieved the proper therapy for the abuses . Glad they were able to turn by there lives around

[@karilari8057]

The mother is not that innocent as well. She let the abuse happen to all her kids

[@rubyaliu4534]

🌺💖🌺 I'm so sad about what the entire DeBarge family endured. It was really hard for me to watch from beginning to end. I pray that God will deliver each one and give them the strength to continue to seek ✨Him and glorify His Name... 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 #Amen...

[@lindajones684]

Their child molesting father will pay for what he did to his children!

[@verablexitasap858]

That woman looked nothing like the product of janet and james!

[@mariastewart9820]

She looked like she was old enough to be their classmate !

[@oldboygeorge7688]

The father was like a nasty slave owner, who had children with a slave woman and mistreated them . I feel he hated himself for loving black people.

[@GoodVibes-wb4fp]

Girl, you did your thang on this one yet again. 👏 Keep em coming. ❤️ SPD

[@shanicewith6amazingkids300]

I would never get how some sick mothers in this world allowed they children to get molested. You had beautiful children and they were gifted but they parents destroyed them.

[@lanjon5509]

It doesn't matter if they were the ugliest no skills having children, you protect your kids at ALL cost!

[@jennifersutton3115]

This family suffered so much. Like so many other families. We don't live in a perfect world. There's always situations, circumstances, difficulties and struggle's. This is the reason why we need a foundation. God is my strength. Let's keep everyone in Prayer's 🙏 Random kindness is necessary ❤

[@patticakes5439]

This family went thru so much, from the beginning of their lives. So much talent, so sad they all went thru so so much.

[@loletavinson2008]

My thoughts and prayers will always be withe the Debarge family. ❤️

[@layparisss]

El DEBARGE is STILL fine. I’ll definitely give him another child if he wants one LOL 😂 I’ll always be an El fan

[@20cutzz]

Girl SAME

[@2463sugarbear]

Was just arrested again last week...smh

[@arnelevans4803]

Same

[@chadniradavis6894]

😂😅😂

[@cherishoneal9108]

I’m not being colorist, but that woman would not match that complexion of James and Janet

[@yosea8701]

Mama Debarge reminds me of Miss Robbie.

[@harperstacey9604]

Mama debarge looks like an older version of Halle berry. From Ms. Harper Stacey.

[@MsAmique]

I just adore El. He has a very pure spirit.

[@MsDes307]

Tiffany is not Janet and James daughter 😂😂😂😂. She is related from Etterlene ‘s side of the family.

[@daniellej7914]

They let her throw out a lie like that for money talk about thirsty

[@squarebear619]

@@daniellej7914 they have drugs to buy. 🥴

[@carolynmoffett5]

Praying for the Debarge family!

[@littlegirlblue9829]

Mama DeBarge know dam well that's not her granddaughter 😆

[@TheSweetPeaDiaries]

😂😂

[@ezp8811]

Yeah El was most trusted and man did he deliver the goods. Bobby was the most gifted though. Bobby was a genius! I think I'll listen to a few songs after this video!

[@rickdorion9149]

Well done documentary. I had no idea...God bless the Debarge family

[@karlijohnson8175]

This is so sad My heart is hurting for them I pray that every generational curse over their lives will be broken forever and God will restore them and their family and future

[@sherricaroberts783]

This just breaks my heart it really does some people have it so hard. My God I just pray for this entire family

[@coachwhite2665]

I love when you do these documentaries Sweet Pea Diaries 💕🖤💕

[@thechurchladytm2683]

I don’t think Tiffany is their child. She doesn’t resemble either parent imo.

[@jenniferwade7861]

She's definitely some random 🙄! The Jacksons got some strong genes, as do the DeBarges!

[@monyamotley3079]

I can't understand how it was possible. Wild horses couldn't keep me off that man🤨 there's no darn way. He wouldn't have lived 77 years that's for darn sure. This makes me angry!

[@AceM-Reacts]

This is gut wrenching. I knew they were hard knock, but damn!

[@marisacruz7651]

I believe that Janet's older sister raised their daughter. She is the correct age and have you seen her!!!? She looks just like them

[@maverick8047]

Yes she looks just like James daughter Tori

[@Colee617-n6q]

Yeah Reebie daughter looks just like Janet :)