The secret to building lasting confidence | Philipp Humm | TEDxRoermond

How can "constructive embarrassment" lead to greater confidence? Personal coach Philipp Humm argues that by purposefully doing something embarrassing every day, we can train ourselves to deal with feelings of shame in the workplace and beyond--and build real confidence in any environment.
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[@premmali8206]

Wow loved this, I have been trying this out lately and didn't know this can help in confidence now I will start doing it intentionally, thank you, Philipp!

[@HCoons1975]

Yeah. Makes sense. AFter a while of working in a gas station, I got to a similar point. Embrace people, even if you're awkward.

[@Philipp-Humm]

Working at a gas station, you probably see the other, aka lots of interesting / crazy people coming in!

[@HCoons1975]

@@Philipp-Humm yep. Definitely gave me stories to tell. After a while you learn when to ask questions and when to keep your mouth shut. I learned how to talk with people. At a gas station, you have to be able to treat the homeless with the same respect as your former governors. Sometimes saw both within five minutes of each other. You see people as people. I needed the job to teach me how to communicate with people. Doesn't mean I liked all aspects of the job, but I did learn a lot (worked at multiple stores). In a twisted way I miss customer service, but not necessarily all of the customers. Especially the ones who lived to make others lives more difficult. Learned how to handle the difficult people too. Perspective matters.

[@janhorak287]

This was the best speech I've ever listened to.

[@Philipp-Humm]

You made my day Jan :)

[@enriquevelasco4984]

Great talk! This is gold! indeed a powerful tool for everyone and anyone who wants to build more self-confidence.

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks, Enrique :). Glad you found it helpful!

[@inigobarcaiztegui3799]

I already feel more confident!

[@Philipp-Humm]

You got it Inigo :)

[@deviniveditharajkumar8804]

Wow! What an amazing talk! Build confidence every single day! Create a new challenge and break all the barriers! The CEA system is very effective. I just loved the talk. Thank you for sharing :)

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Devi! Very honoured that you find it helpful! Keep me posted when you you give it a try!

[@Lokatos12]

Tried it in my village, now everybody is convinced that I am a psycho, thank you so much xD

[@Philipp-Humm]

haha great job for giving it a go. But yes, mindful that some of these things are a bit easier in bigger cities where you don't know everyone!

[@pranavmg7133]

😂

[@zainabm3216]

Excellent talk, well done. Things have to think about .

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks, Zainab :)

[@RawAussieAthlete]

Hey Philipp! Great talk my friend! I competed in a salsa partner competition, dancing Salsa On2, against 7 time world champion (David Zepeda). Definitely huge potential for embarrassment but I did my best (after only learning salsa for 9 months). Look forward to seeing you back in Playa some time!

[@Philipp-Humm]

That's terrifying, mate. Your an inspiration to all of us!

[@amaruu23]

Damn that was the best speech I've ever heard thank you so much for sharing that

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks :)

[@achintabrian9042]

Thank you very much 😊👏👏👏👏

[@Philipp-Humm]

My pleasure Achinta. Excited to see ya tryin it out!

[@soksreymom3353]

when we were children, we can do every wired thing as we want, there is no notice or judgement from others, so children don't feel depressed, but as we grow up, we have to do anything in rule, we afraid of being judged by others on our weird behaviour or thought. We feel oppressed that lead us into depression.

[@Philipp-Humm]

So true, Sok. Constructive Embarrassment is actually discovering the inner child that tries out new things without feeling judged!

[@raakshit9]

Amazingly great advice, i felt more confident now 🌞

[@Philipp-Humm]

My pleasure, Rakshit! Go get 'em!

[@shreya953]

Thank you so much 😊 great speech👏👏

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Shreya :)

[@benjamindover4337]

Good talk

[@bbutterfly36]

Wow this is so powerful (and funny lol). Thank you! You made confidence sound like a skill that is attainable. Gonna try it. Really appreciate this!!

[@Philipp-Humm]

Yeah. One more joining :). Hit me up what you gonna try!

[@anuj8855]

I am great full that I am here on this video .I am super shy but from now I will not be what I was, thank you.

[@melraff6578]

Love from Nigeria

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Mel. Love back from the Netherlands :)

[@brettgrady1921]

Great speech

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thx Brett :)

[@aldomendez9085]

so inspiring, thx

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Aldo :)

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you for best TEDx are speaking but to put in life is difficult...🌐😍👍

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Bukurie! Much love from Amsterdam!

[@annadobysh1420]

With hindsight, it was gripping and subtle speach. We will all be able to be confident if we make a splendid afford. Your advices are not for the common palate. I'll try to follow them with great gusto. Thank you!

[@Philipp-Humm]

Very happy to hear that, Анна. Keepe me posted on what exercises you try out :)

[@annadobysh1420]

I've been looking for ways to feel confident for about 5 years. Now, i've got lots of stories in practice. I appreciate what i've just done...one of them... Training of production stuff on Good Documentation Practice without preparation as it was spontaneous task. What was surprised no one got hurt and notice that.

[@haukeachilles9030]

Thank you very much! I think I will use this technique for the things I need to do anyway like facing this machinery of torment aka the normal adults life which includes such inhumane obstacles like responding to clients and using the telephone to solve problems. And I will rename it as "tea" for time, embrace, appreciate. So that after every cup of coffee I can have a cup of tea and after every cup of tea I can reward myself with a cup of coffee 😅 But jokes aside, I truly believe this is a useful tool and can build a lot momentum. Thanks for inspiration ✌

[@Philipp-Humm]

Love the acronym "TEA", Hauke. I might consult you for future talks ;)

[@pinkymeel4975]

I don't have enough knowledge about English but today I wanna avoid my this fear I'm ready for speaking anything in the English infront of everyone 😊 Let's see what happens 😅

[@laa8998]

🙌🏻♥️😌

[@Philipp-Humm]

You got this Pinky. Once you've tried a few of these exercises, speaking in front of your classroom will be a piece of cake. Go for it :)

[@pinkymeel4975]

@@Philipp-Humm thanks 🙏🏻😊

[@alex-lifecoach]

This is amazing Philip!! Very inspiring talk :)

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Alex. Glad you enjoyed it!

[@costi4889]

Amazing talk, Philipp! One day I will try some of your challenges!

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thank you sir! I'll check in with ya ;)

[@paulaz.7707]

Great talk, Philipp!

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Paula :)

[@user-oh7ml3gk3j]

i am going to try it.

[@Philipp-Humm]

Yeaaaah. Go for it :)

[@WeaponGuy117]

These exercises sound like they would be excruciatingly painful. I'll probably give it a shot. Great talk, Thank you Mr. Humm.

[@Philipp-Humm]

haha love the "excruciatingly painful". My pleasure, Weaponguy. Keep me posted once you've given it a try!

[@janushkumaren]

Wow

[@Jiiuygfrr]

C.E.A. Count, embrace, appreciate!

[@Owen-mp8fp]

well done

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Owen :)

[@simplysunmoon]

Thank you it sounds funny 😍

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks, SunMoon. Glad you liked it!

[@michellebloem3193]

I really enjoyed your talk! Such a true, powerful and funny way to build confidence. Thank you for sharing this experience!

[@Philipp-Humm]

Thanks Michelle! This means a lot to me :)

[@amiria703]

Thanks for sharing your story and your method, Maybe in the future I'll be a host in a TV program. Who knows? :) Oops I forgot the funny part: As a stranger, could you give me a hug Philipp? 😂

[@Philipp-Humm]

*Givin you a virtual hug now ;)

[@amiria703]

😂😂😂

[@Philipp-Humm]

Yeaaah, excited (& a little embarrassed ) to see my talk online. Hope it helps y'all build the confidence to live the life you dreamed of. I plan to launch a 30-day constructive embarrassment challenge on social media soon. If you want be part of the movement or just to want to say hi, connect with me on social media (LI / IG / FB): Philipp Humm

[@toolamirjan1941]

Oh wow! Hello Philipp, thank you for the inspiring talk!! I am so in for the challenge. I appreciate it...since I definitely wouldn't have the courage to do it on my own but really want to try it. lol. Just added you on FB!

[@Philipp-Humm]

@@toolamirjan1941 Thanks Toola. Appreciate your kind words and excited to see ya lie down in the supermarket ;)

[@lenac2369]

Loved this talk! Funny and empowering! I’m going to go yell at the stranger 🤣

[@Philipp-Humm]

haha @@lenac2369 just don't say that I told ya soo ;)

[@daniellaisiekwene3651]

Will do

[@Angie-wc3st]

Didn't expect the song though lol

[@Philipp-Humm]

I know, very questionable in hindsight :D

[@magayatribmrraj6769]

Good evening friends

[@TeamMostRequested]

Let’s Goooooo

[@jiroh8123]

Step one: go sit on Starbucks floor to become legendary Heck yes.

[@magayatribmrraj6769]

Love from india(bharat)

[@malcolmtoperoff1305]

Love from borat

[@Philipp-Humm]

Love from Amsterdam :)

[@magayatribmrraj6769]

Where are any audiance?

[@malcolmtoperoff1305]

You can hear them laugh at 13.00

[@magayatribmrraj6769]

यहां 11 बजे है हमारे अभी

[@TurboPaskal]

They are on the floor at Starbucks

[@celestialcircledance]

Not doing any of that but the next time a stranger belts it I at least want to be one of the few people clapping !

[@Ivan-fs9nz]

I asked a guy for a hug and I think he gave me Covid lol jk Great speech! 🤩

[@Philipp-Humm]

haha yeah, hugging people has gotten a little harder these past 2 years ;). Great job for going for it, Ivan!

[@SA-lz1vx]

Yes consciously embarrassing yourself does lead to greater confidence. Often you discover that what you thought is embarrassing wasn’t even embarrassing to begin with- it was your own mind making up stories.

[@pdsvag]

Don't know, I will probably find myself in a youtube compilation of crazy things that a single guy did. And I will be traumatized.

[@beppobarrendero74]

You are up here now because one day you were down there.

[@Philipp-Humm]

Truth, Belen. I sometimes wish I had videos of myself a few years back. I was terrified of public speaking...

[@beppobarrendero74]

@@Philipp-Humm for me was exactely the same! I've passed from scenic panic to scenic pleasure. Currently, I can speak in public even better and more confident than most of people. I know that this is a consequence of my old fears. If I hadn't been so afraid in the past, I woudn't be so confident now.

[@Philipp-Humm]

@@beppobarrendero74 That's amazing. What has helped you get comfortable on stage :)?

[@user-ow8hc1mg6g]

Awesome video..

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[@adammartin8556]

They don't stand a better chance, they only did their homework and proper research

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It all about finding the right opportunity in the market and then taking advantage of it

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[@omararizona]

Human beings are so pure and their soul is so pure and beautiful that we fall for anything or anyone who has something to say. I think he has a lot of good things to say but it just reminds me how gullible and how sweet human beings are because as a human being I believe I'm a soul and the body is just a vehicle and the purity beyond imagination of most people it was interesting to watch him and how many people are going to do when he says to do but my religion gives different instructions when it comes to confidence build the relationship with the owner of the universe find a Sufi master who will train you in your character and you will find all the confidence in me because human beings are different and religions.

[@zoniakincaid4107]

A chhuahua will take on al lion any day

[@Philipp-Humm]

Word

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second

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She helped me recover what I lost trying to trade myself

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[@katherine3999]

@Gregory I will leave her number just below this comment

[@kingki1953]

His sounds wasn't loud enough, i can't hear it clearly. :(

[@cgotlb]

U shldve listened to few more seconds n u wld be able to hear him well

[@tiffanystrand4423]

It took me a few minutes, too! Especially when he spoke with accents.

[@kingki1953]

@@tiffanystrand4423 yeah, his accents could be my problem too

[@marwahmohammed5198]

I can't understand everything

[@lovelyakter3306]

The spiffy kitten cosmetically level because scent preclinically consist like a glamorous bomb. youthful, selective humor

[@giftedgreen2152]

Awesome, confidence advice from a beta.

[@Philipp-Humm]

Proud Beta :D