The Secret to Getting Closure When They End It

[@carmenkamberos1156]

“ Divorce is okay. Breaking up Is okay. Moving on is ok. Being alone is ok. What is not okay is Staying somewhere you are not valued or appreciated.”

[@vidhipandya315]

So true being respected is just as important as being loved...

[@princessjulia5646]

Absolutely

[@vedinthorn]

None of that is okay.

[@Rebecca-xw4ji]

"It's so pointless to ever worry about who we weren't enough for in the past, because you're not who you were in the past." Spot on. Thank you!

[@funnygirlever]

Sometimes there's no closure for now or ever. His actions says it all. Have your own closure. You know your worth. Make peace for yourself. You dodged a bullet again. He came to teach a lesson and learn it fast. Let go to make room for better. I'm letting go and making peace with my own answers. I had enough and I know what I did. I deserve better and won't settle for less. Bye! Peace out! Thanks for the lessons and showing me I need to love myself better and more.

[@rhym6492]

Thank you so much I needed this

[@anastazjamalczyk7683]

So did I. He said he wanted to be close friends but his texts have become increasingly sparse and now I feel he's just not interested in staying in touch, despite him saying he wants us to stay close. Here's for actions which speak louder than words.

[@janelupo6023]

"Don't distract yourself from the moment in your life when it's your turn to be chosen by obsessing over a time when it was your turn to be rejected". DING DING DING! WINNER!!! Thank you Matthew!!!

[@thenotsostarvingartist]

The cognitive dissonance between who we thought/wished they were can be so difficult to reconcile. Accepting that reality is just all we can do, I’ve learned

[@jenmks]

The takeaway for me "there are more of them out there for you, you must apply all of your learnings to the next person. its very tempting to over emphasize the importance of "the one that got away" and feel you need to go back and get something more from them or fix or change something you did to get closure with THAT person, that is a trap. You must realize, it just was not the right time, you are valuable just keep going , keep learning and you'll free yourself and find your best mate.

[@coolbreeze5683]

Well written comment! Past relationships are about learning and sometimes no one is in the wrong when things end. I remember trying so hard in past romantic relationships to the point of trying to force things to work. I had to go through that before meeting my current partner. I stopped trying so hard and learned I needed to be more accepting. There's an effortless feeling to our relationship and he agrees that we both haven't felt more comfortable with anyone else in our pasts. Lessons like this take a long time to learn.

[@coolbreeze5683]

It's so interesting when you start hanging out with someone you haven't seen in decades and realize that a lot about them hasn't changed. I never know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

[@juliekeeney1538]

If decades have gone by, I think that would be a bad thing, generally.

[@coolbreeze5683]

@@juliekeeney1538 it can be a good thing if they look like they haven't aged in decades lol and if they were a great person back then and still a great person now. In terms of their own personal growth, that's something they have to decide. Some people are content with staying the same for years.

[@wootenkristy]

This is the video I needed because my ex-boyfriend blindsided me by breaking up very suddenly, and I’m struggling with moving forward after it. I now feel much better about my own mindset now. I was battling with myself over what I might have done wrong. Looking back more clearly now, it wasn’t about me. It was about him not being in the place he needs to be for a more serious relationship, which I now see. Thanks for all of the wonderful advice, Matthew. I’ve read your book and have been a subscriber, and the growth I’ve been able to achieve over the last 2 years since I’ve been following your advice has been immeasurable.

[@tiffanyle256]

Girl im in the same boat 😭 it sucks & I feel so lost

[@wootenkristy]

@@tiffanyle256 I’m so sorry. It’s difficult to be blindsided by a breakup. I hope with time and reflection, you can find some peace in it.

[@tiffanyle256]

@DukeGal1213 it's been getting better, only 1 week ish has passed but I think I have a bad habit of holding onto the memories because we were childhood friends who reconnected, but didn't work out cause he "felt too lost" in life. Don't know if it's an excuse of his to exit, but I want better closure.

[@tiffanyle256]

@@wootenkristy and I hope you are feeling better as well 💜 thank you for the kind response

[@wootenkristy]

@@tiffanyle256 oh, wow. I see. Having known each other for so long would be hard. Perhaps he may reconsider with time if he values you as he should. I always go back to Matthew reinforcing that we must have standards. I also always come back to investing and testing. I am doing better, yes. My ex and I have reconnected very slowly, and we recently saw each other to talk about perhaps dating again one day. For now, though, we are just talking and working through the initial issues that caused him to “bolt.” Insecurity, fear of being hurt, etc.

[@tomdrummy4984]

There are many people that will never give you a straight answer……..or they may not know the answer themselves.

[@goodshepherd3508]

One point l liked so much" don't think he or she is the only person in the world who can make us happy. Forget them if they ignore you and live life to the fullest, make some changes in life, eat, and do exercise read books and develop hobbies. Thank you so much Matthew your great fan from India.

[@WebProfitSolutions]

My partner of 9 years has just broken it off. She can’t give me a reason why. The weird thing is that we get along brilliantly (even now), we have a heap in common and we rarely argue as we are both good at considering one another’s viewpoints. I know she isn’t seeing anyone else either. It would make it easier if she could at least give me a reason, but without that reason I cannot do anything to rectify any issue that I’m not aware of. Physically on the outside I am a big strong male… but on the inside I feel weak & broken. I want to be angry with her but I just care for her too much to be angry . I just feel sad and am still in shock 😢

[@pedroflexing]

Hang in there buddy. As you said you are still in shock and it's common. Especially in such a long relationship. What you have to do is have some self care and compassion for yourself. Love yourself and then love others. Don't expect anything in return. But first love yourself. There's a lot of joy and beautiful things in this world, just don't let your breakup situation develop tunnel vision that you only see a bleek future path for yourself. Aristotle once said: "Life is defined by movement, what does not move is dead, what has speed and mobility as more possibility." Keep your mind and body moving buddy.

[@HaloHuntress]

Personally I can't be friends or keep in contact with anyone that broke my heart. Especially if they didn't respect me enough to give me a clear answer to why the left. That's just disrespectful and offensive. After 9byears in your case and 2 in mine.

[@joedeboo750]

Maybe she wants you to be angry, have a little fire.

[@satarupaganguly8553]

I'm going through a very rough breakup and thank you so much for this video. I hope I get out of this alive.

[@pranavnairofficial9180]

How are you feeling now? It's been a year

[@sahirarahim5580]

One word; Matthew is one of a kind and genius. ✨ He is a mind-blown!

[@mytwilightobsession1]

sometimes they give you a reason thinking it will provide closure and it doesn't. I was told during the breakup that i'll be the one that gets away and i treated him the best of all others, and that i was the nicest/most thoughtful, that he was attracted to me... Yet he didn't "feel the things he should feel" - this wasn't closure for me, it was for himself. What it left me with was feeling confused. If i was so great, why didn't he feel like he could love me? Been wracking my brain all week. I guess i just need to accept what is and try to move forward, no matter how hurt i am.

[@badlander6369]

Sometimes it's not about if you are good enough, it's about if he was smart enough.

[@Marivi247]

Maybe he was not ready for a serious relationship, and he had commitment issues. Maybe the fact that it would have been possible with you scared him. But you could not have changed that. Sometimes we think we have more power or impact on people than we really have. Maybe it really is not about you but about him, maybe he is just not ready no matter who you are. Some people also prefer bad relationships because subconciously they know that these ones will never get too serious

[@not.toxic.me.]

Yes. I heard exactly the same thing... (girl-to-girl relationship) "You are the prettiest woman I've ever been with, you're the nicest person I know, you're the most non-toxic person I know, you're the most tender and caring person, I've never met anyone like that." "I've never regretted so much that I couldn't be with someone." "I really want to be with you but I can't be with someone without feeling." Today I know that it was my fault - I gave too much and expected too little... "You have too good a heart" she would say sometimes. It's a strange world where the heart can be too good. Today it's been a month since we broke up (mutual decision after our last conversation - how was I supposed to chase someone who said that "she doesn't feel what's needed and she tries so hard". But all these sentences in the head are screaming and the heart is wondering all the time “what if I had acted differently.” I have to fight it.

[@industryliaison]

Oh sooo relatable. I had this same reaction after hearing the person I was dating tell me how great I was but that they were too busy to continue on… like that must have not been great enough qualities right? Lol

[@industryliaison]

@@Marivi247 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 that’s a helpful way to look at it

[@sarahhalawa5926]

I’ve been following Matthew since I was 18 and I’m 25 , never disappointed me Im really glad that I was lucky enough to find out about you ❤

[@zerooskil7161]

I would love to forward think and ask them the question the problem is no one is honest and yet everyone wants everyone to grow and learn, but like how tf would that be possible if no one is honest, honest real answers are what gives learning worthy information and nothing else. 🤦🏻‍♂️🤷🏻

[@sheioyella]

Been trying to get closure but he doesn't want to have a sit down talk with me. And now I have to heal the hard way

[@carmenkamberos1156]

Sheila, you can send him a letter. It’s very important that you get closure. If he answers, good if not at least you won’t feel guilty that you didn’t do your part. Blessings

[@sheioyella]

@@carmenkamberos1156 Thank you. I resent voice recorded message but didn't get any response. To me the response is very important

[@kaoshi_kutie]

Sheila, sometimes you have to give yourself Closure! It sounds like you may never get it from him for whatever reason. You cannot stop yourself healing and moving forward cause of this! ❤️

[@Rebecca-xw4ji]

Sheilla, coming from personal experience - closure is not really closure. There is no such thing as "real closure" from the other person. It has to come from within you. Best of luck!

[@Kate-n2310]

Thank you for this. I’ve been struggling with finding closure, since my ex just left me with so many questions.

[@marinaivanova5863]

Matthew I can’t even describe how grateful I am to you and your videos! You helped me so much during this year to deal with a lot for difficult situations. And somehow you know when to upload the video that is right for me at that time. Thank you so much for everything you do!❤️

[@elvissly2pacboi]

Hi pretty lady

[@m_hall]

I've watched some of your videos on and off over this past year. Absolutely hands down the best video you've ever made. Spoke directly into how I've been feeling lately. It's always good when you feel understood and not alone in circumstances. Appreciate the work you do. Sounds like the area of "challenge" is definitely the biggest area to work on my life. You should make more videos on this subject (if there isn't already I'll have to check)

[@judyheaton3065]

Feelings of self worth are extremely damaging and dangerous

[@stellabandante2727]

Matthew, I thank you for your wisdom and your articulate manner in expressing it. I'm not young, but these issues of the heart and relationship are relevant throughout life. I value your work immensely, like many thousands of others.

[@vaidap1911]

Much more difficult has been for me to get closure when I’m the one that had to walk away

[@vidhipandya315]

Couldn't agree more

[@megsup167]

???

[@Malithi-P]

Me too.

[@carmenkamberos1156]

Vaidap, I read you. I walked away from a beautiful relationship and didn’t have closure. 49 years later, Today, I got to talk to my ex and got somehow some closure. He said have I not being impatient, waited a little more things would have been different . Meanwhile I got married, 45 years now. He got married divorced and remarried. I knew I was hasty and thoughtless with my decision , it was confirmed today. Too late for both of us, we are old now . Hurts, but it is what it is.

[@vidhipandya315]

@@carmenkamberos1156 I had a similar experience my ex keeps telling me I rushed into breaking it off, but the truth is I couldn't put my life on hold in the hopes that things might have gotten better. It's ok to walk away if you were unhappy

[@lucasstuart-chilcote7069]

I’ve been desiring a video on this topic for 5 years when I first subscribed after a break up. It definitely felt like a trap. The second half of your video is soo good! Thank you

[@elliottfireice4394]

9:54 thoes words have changed my life. I spent 10 years showing empathy, love to someone and it was NEVER enough. Only during the worse time of my life did they kick me while I was down. Then I let them go . Their words have constantly hurt me everyday for 7 months straight

[@tomtraveltigard]

I have watched this video several times, and it brings up some thoughtful questions. Thinking forward, asking not only the hard questions, but also being collected enough to hear the hard answers. I appreciate it... The premise is that there is some conversation going on, and that's the hard part of me is that I got a text that she "can't" see me anymore, and then crickets. ... time sure has helped, but the not knowing has taken a toll on me.. I know, that it shows more about her than me, but I hard time responding to discarding, with the same mindset. thanks...Tom

[@FILMCREWProductions1]

Man this video is one of his best on a breakup! Really helpful

[@asinsodojrn]

Amazing video!!! I really resonate with the part of it being EITHER party who maybe wasn't evolved enough for whatever reason or at whatever time... It really takes the pressure off of analyzing the situation any further. Thank you so much!!!

[@ravena.2371]

I’ve already done some of ”forward thinking” and realised that I wasn’t the best at communicating my good feelings and expressing appreciation that guys need in relationships. I was also acting disrespectful towards myself after things was already bad (we weren’t talking but I kept coming to hang out with mutual friends at his place). And maybe that’s why he started to lose interest and being disrespectful. Maybe not. And I understand that all the other things said in the second part are right. But you can’t solve your feelings like some math problem. So I still want closure from him😅

[@planecard7809]

YOUR NOT A PRISONER OF YOUR OWN FEELINGS. THE DOOR IS WIDE OPEN. FREE YOURSELF, LET GO..

[@formerlyuser123]

This one hit me in the feels. Thankyou

[@yesreneau]

The one thing I wish this channel would touch on a little more is how sexism affects finding a partner…

[@mmonikat]

Most people aren’t honest so asking them is pointless

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

aubrey.... will you please start an ASMR channel....?????? your voice gives me asmr tingles. so calming. it would be heaven to hear you speak for 30 minutes. please consider 😄😍 💜

[@avikchatterjee1945]

Yeah MH, FORWARD FACING WITH THE SAME PERSON - that helps our 12 years coupledome a lot....how can I thank you enough.... Love you MH.

[@coraliemangin1175]

I asked one of them. And believe me or not, one of his reasons, after a month of seeing each other, was "you have a different family dynamic than mine" (I have been expelled from my so called family but I still want to build a healthy one). And another of his reasons were : "you are mirroring things to me that I am not and don't recognize". His tantrums were not my doing... Well, I did not loose much. My biggest mistake here I think was not trusting my gut feeling. He told me that he wasn't sure he wanted a relationship... He seemed obsessed with his ex although he told the opposite. And most of all : he pushed for sex. I believe he just wanted to have sex with me, he never wanted something real. Now I don't care. But when he called me to say "I am no longer in love with you", I pushed him away and... Then... I wanted to apologize because it had to be my fault. Afterwards he wanted to he sexfriends and I realized the liar he was. I will never do that again : blaming myself. It was in December and I decided then that I wanted an entire year dating me myself and I only. It's the most therapeutic thing. I am dealing with traumas and making beautiful women friends, having artistic projects that I love. I feel better without guys. I wonder if I won't keep it that way forever. I have never been happier.

[@UntilAllThePiecesFit]

These videos help me so much. Not just in my relationships, but life in general ♥️ thank you Matthew!!

[@jojohanna217]

Thank you for this video as I am struggling with closure

[@ADnA_17]

It hurts a lot, I was in a relationship for 5 years, and that person broke up with me without any closure, it has been 2 months now. Everyday I'm suffering, I'm thinking alot, thinking about this person day and night, and feeling so low self esteemed. Sometimes I'm hoping that person will come back sometimes I'm thinking that it's just for few months, and then that person will be back, asking myself where am I lacking what I need to do, how can I make myself as a better person. This process is killing me. What should I do????

[@chrisramirez3156]

How are you now if you don’t mind replying?

[@discodave1747]

Been waiting for closure for 18 years now.....

[@carmenkamberos1156]

Hi Matt. You should do more videos on this subject, very useful. Thanks God bless.

[@masdox27]

I just broke up with someone last month. I tried to be brave and tell her how I felt... all she did was make it about how bad I was when she was being toxic and belittling me. I had tried to break up with her three times. Honestly, when we were together, it would be rainbow and butterflies, and when i go home or needed a day to myself... she would beat me up for it. I understand her insecurities made her feel negative when I wanted to have my own space. She would get these negative thoughts and had to "self-regulate." I would be on a date. I leave the room and come back. I would see her crudle up in a ball listening to music. I would have asked her what was wrong and later told me I said something that got her hopes up or hurt her. It really hurt me to see this. I couldn't take it anymore and finally ended it with her. She wanted closure, and she threw everything I said back at me.

[@masdox27]

I really tried to ignore the disrespect, but I kept getting hurt. She told me like she told me about her ex husband that i was a narcissist.

[@dana102083]

@@masdox27 oh no, she sounds like the narc. They dont like taking accountability and blame others. My sister is like this. You cant defend yourself or do the right thing for yourself other than walk away. If they dont get their way its your fault. It still hurts..my sister ruined a guy ..and we talked a lot after as he used to believe i was being a bitch but he knew i was defending myself against the narc. I have ptsd too. I hope youre healing. 🙏

[@masdox27]

@@dana102083 Dana, thank you for sharing. It means a lot. I am also learning to forgive as well and ask for forgiveness from God.

[@brodywooddell1904]

She said the relationship wasn’t working for her. But she used to say she had no idea what I saw in her. I have a hard time reconciling that.

[@guidovandenberg2170]

Seems like an attachment style problem to me. I've been with on this. Whenever I said i loved her she would just say she really didn't understand that.

[@blueeyedgirlS]

My ex ended it with me all of a sudden with no explanation, I've been in love with him for half my life (not that we were together for all those years) We spoke about marriage and trying for a baby and him moving to be with me. He became very ill a couple of years ago and his life has changed dramatically. I told him that I loved him no matter what, but I feel like he thinks he isn't the man he used to be and possibly thinks I might not love him as much as I did. He came back into my life a couple of months ago and things were amazing, then he started getting distant on me. And then sent a short email telling me he just wants to be alone and wishing me the best , and I'm sorry 🥺

[@dana102083]

Very similar.. We both are sick..I got a procedure..he got let go from his job..he got surgery..his pain makes him turtle..all he can say is its unfair to me no matter what and pulls away. I cant visit...its long distance..its hard :(

[@blueeyedgirlS]

@@dana102083 I've got a lot of health problems myself, so i know how he feels. Plus I'm dealing with my father having metastatic cancer that is terminal. So I've been under a lot of stress and he (my ex) was my safe place to fall. It's really hard that we live in different countries, but I really thought we could make it this time, he said he wanted to redeem himself for how things ended the last time. I still love him, but how he ended things really hurt me. I haven't contacted him at all, and I'm hoping he feels a lot of regrets about what he did. It would take a lot for me to trust him again. I'm sorry you're going through the same things, distance really sucks 🤗

[@kenmayer5455]

Thank you, Matthew!

[@sempaiG]

Perceived challenge seems to be my challenge . I need to learn more about this topic

[@judyheaton3065]

Matt you do realize if you can't cope with the answer you can never àsk the question

[@kellyburkin500]

Thanks, I got a lot out of this video

[@virtualgigi1220]

Hi Matthew. My question is , should you consider getting back with someone who rebounded?

[@xalxinax]

this is a very difficult topic for me, because i really put everything into this last relationship that i had. i really wanted to do everything right. he also couldn‘t give me any reasons on what i could‘ve done wrong. but still he broke up with me. and this is making it so hard for me to find closure, because i just don‘t understand what happened. and i always tend to think it must be my fault. i‘m trying to understand that maybe it was really just him not being ready for a relationship. but it‘s really hard for me.

[@yvetteepstein1002]

BINGO! Thank you for this! You helped me find the missing piece.

[@Jess-wk5jo]

Hi Matthew please can you help me understand affairs and cheating for people with special needs who don't understand them. Plewse can you help me understand affairs please thank you love from jess xxx

[@gemmah6012]

Im 38 I've never been chosen

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for great advice.

[@rubysundae134]

Wow! Remarkable 11:40

[@IAmJamieAlexander]

This was soooooooo good!!!!! Wow!!!

[@theicewolf714]

What happens when you believe you are adding value buttons your partner cannot see it as that ? Or recognize, or acknowledge you as having great value adding to thier life ?

[@pranavnairofficial9180]

It's not that they can't see it. It's mostly them who can't reciprocate in a similar way. Also, when we add value or invest, we must pay attention if they actually need this or it's just us who think they need this kind of value in their life.

[@sitasingh7519]

Nailed it.

[@katevar5406]

well my ex he broke up with me, out of blue he blocked me i tried to reach him out through mutual friends to ask to give a closure , he denied to give a closure, and now its eating me inside me wondering what have i done ? i will never will get a closure its been 6 months .:(

[@badlander6369]

If he can't talk to you then it's him that is broken, not you.

[@kristinet.3596]

His refusal to reply should be an enough closure. Because it means one thing: he wasn't worth it. No matter what they are going through, they won't add value to your life. You are not alone... I am struggling with the same case myself. And even if I feel so sad every day, I try to think of how I can improve myself. Tell yourself...I can't stay like this.

[@badlander6369]

It's not about you. I know that is hard to believe but it's about him. A refusal to talk could be because he is guilty or ashamed of what he did. My wife did the same thing after 12 years. Realize they are broken and move on. There will not be an answer that would seem sufficient or really give closure . Chances are it would be a lie anyway.

[@ADnA_17]

It hurts a lot, I was in a relationship for 5 years, and that person broke up with me without any closure, it has been 2 months now. Everyday I'm suffering, I'm thinking alot, thinking about this person day and night, and feeling so low self esteemed. Sometimes I'm hoping that person will come back sometimes I'm thinking that it's just for few months, and then that person will be back, asking myself where am I lacking what I need to do, how can I make myself as a better person. This process is killing me. What should I do????

[@Aye-c6f]

Am I the only person who is not getting satisfied by this. I really do want that closure and that last conversation.

[@DM-fs9gw]

Thank you!!

[@HaloHuntress]

What about after a 2 year relationship and they just left and ghosted? We were living together and they were mean to me so I moved out.

[@CG-no7js]

Any advice on how to get closure, after closeted adulterous spouse died?

[@carmenkamberos1156]

Leave it in God’s hands…

[@sarahcaruana4867]

Omg that th...fotful(thoughtful)😂🤣

[@michaelb6729]

This doesn't work if the other person has a Cluster B personality disorder !

[@chelseamassaro3185]

Love ❤ youre brilliant

[@gl9764]

My guy will come Saturday bringing my belongings I'm not sure how to handle it but I want clouser and finish off nice not have grudges between us

[@Odesztiny]

Thank you I needed to hear this today. It’s been over a year 🥹

[@user-pd2yt6gq7i]

❤🙌 thank you

[@litzburger]

My ex left me via phone after 3 year relationship. ok bye

[@missymcdermott5522]

My 59 year old ex broke up with me over text after a 9 month LDR.

[@millybong92]

I'm not sure I understand the true message of this explanation... Is it just "look forward"? What if the interrogations have nothing to do with us and everything to do with them? For example, why the F could he not just be honest with me? Why the web of lies?

[@millybong92]

@Teh Psychedelic Thank you very much for your wise and helpful words ❤️ Although I'm not thinking about how things could have been different in the past, I am still hoping for/expecting him to admit to his lies (I found the truth out through friends in common) and apologise. Somehow I feel like if he apologises, the four years that we spent together are more likely to have been real/authentic/legit/etc.

[@TheEmmiebear]

You deserve an apology. I never got a proper one too. However some people won’t sincerely apologise because it reminds them of how poorly they behaved, they already know this and would rather brush it aside. It’s immature, but some of us are still evolving… You know what you had was real.

[@ColleenBarlow]

@@TheEmmiebear nailed it!

[@theliterarytarot]

Thank you

[@teeve1500]

Why do you assume its the fault of the dumped one? Maybe this person was a jerk and we did nothing wrong?

[@amber4027]

How do I challenge that person? I tend to be a pleaser.

[@louisetaylor6952]

Here's closure: that person doesn't want to be with you so move on...

[@FiaBoomSchack]

He could be Daniel Radcliffe's older brother lol

[@bringmesomeavocados]

WOW!!!!

[@kylejoe5477]

hi

[@samanthagaboo5610]

I don't know who the other guy is, I never cared for him. He was gone and seems to have been back. I mean who is he? Why is he qualified to give advice? Is he married? Has he wrote a book? Why is he qualified to be on the show? I just don't feel he adds anything.

[@tamparongdr]

💯💯💯

[@thomaswilliams801]

You will never get the true reason

[@hediyehh5498]

👌👌👌👌

[@mishawatts2046]

Don’t give a person that where dating sex straight away because they have the sex and go ,should wait to marriage to have sex the way God said and pray to Gods our Maker for the right person to marry God knows best

[@sitasingh7519]

🩷🫶🙏

[@naureenr.s.4065]

What is the name of this 4-part program, I'm very intrigued by it, especially the "challenging the other person" part? Thanks so much!😊😊😊

[@Vivi10670]

Can someone really help me out here…. Just so broken and can’t find out..Meant this Cool guy during summer and he seemed too sweet and we conntected so great ..he even asked me that same day out but couldnt make it..texting was great for about 4 days… He begun Getting Cold then i begun texting which got even more colder….. Then i begun sex texting with him and things got back Well thought that maybe we will have something between us…so our communication got better .. Didn’t tell him am still a vrigin … But the thrid time we met and we begun kissing and things kinda got abite far and we were kissing in the park which i told him we can’t do this here .. And when i droped the BOOM that am still Vrgin..he froze and he was no Way…. He played it Cool but his response was Like its going to be complicated …and that his in SHOCK that am still a vrigin ….he kissed me gd night when he droped me home , The next day he didn’t Text me then i texted him…. Asked him to drive me for some dinner outing with friends and there is where he told me we should Just be friends…. We should stop wat we Are having between us…. Did i do something wrong or his Just goshting … Called him today and he told me to please stop calling HIM…. What can i do about this …? Please someone help me 😢💔🖤

[@MetaPhysStore0770]

Iyou may not like this, but staying a virgin, i.m.o, is like saying im not gonna learn to drive a car until i can get a audi or mecedes or bentley or porsche, THEN i will learn how to drive, why wait to figure out if you like oral sex or finger play or anal play or straight sex or gay sex, theres s much to learn about making your self have an orgasm, each kind of position, like doggy or standard , has different muscles that make someone orgasm differently, how are you gonna learn how to make yourself happy to orgasm and to be able to communicate that to a lover to tell them what you like, your putting a lot of pressure on someone who is gonna have to completely start from scratch with you, which can be very boring, and elementary, when probably they have more exprience and you seem like a dud, but i know this is a difficult idea to accept when you have over valued "being ignorant" about yourself and sex in general

[@ishadhanda1790]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Thank you