The Secret Trigger Behind Your Depression and Anxiety

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Your Inner Child Matters

Your Inner Child Matters

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@ROORabuser
@ROORabuser Жыл бұрын
Amazing. Thanks truly a lot for your channel and your videos. I watch every night. I'm italian guy 34years old struggling hard with heroin Addiction. Lot of trauma and emotional isolaton inside me, since I was a little beautiful boy. Monday morning I have an appointment to go into rehab. Very close to where I live here in Italy so thats good I guess. I'm ready to change my life but I'm very aware I need help, I just cant do it on my own. I'm all by myself. But I'm confident. Hope they let me in into rehab as soon as they can. Thanks again for your videos, I'm also reading The Myth of Normal just started it but already so good❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story and for your lovely thoughts. Your courage and determination are truly inspirational. Making the decision to enter rehab is a huge and brave step, and you are not alone on this path of recovery. Remember that asking for help is a sign of strength, and there are many people rooting for you, including those in your immediate neighborhood and your online community. Stay strong, maintain your confidence, and keep pushing forward. You're on the road to great transformation, and we're all cheering for you. ❤️ Sending lots of love and virtual hugs to you, bless you 💫💕🙏✨🌈💖
@ROORabuser
@ROORabuser Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you very much! That Means a Lot🧡
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
@@ROORabuser thank you very much too.
@malinivpsp6315
@malinivpsp6315 Жыл бұрын
@nataliacle4502
@nataliacle4502 Жыл бұрын
Wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, my thoughts will be with you on Monday. Stay strong, stay brave, stay focused on a better life which you deserve! Best regards full of love and support from Germany for you beautiful soul
@edgardovillacorte7012
@edgardovillacorte7012 Жыл бұрын
The desire to fit in, to be accepted and liked at the expense of one's true identity is a setup for depression and anxiety.
@josephbelisle5792
@josephbelisle5792 Жыл бұрын
Anxiety is taught to us. As small children, when traumatized, abused and neglected, we dont understand why it is happening to us. We cant find a pattern or reason for our pain. We are made to hurt when are good as well as bad. When you cant detect where and when the next hurt is coming from you end on alert all of the time. You lesrn to remain constantly wary for the next bad thing. The other affect of not understanding why it is happening to us is depression. We are taught that we are the bad ones. Not our abusers. We learn to never be happy because something always happens that ruins it and gives us pain. Depeession and anxiety are not genetic. They are almost universally taught by life and our caregivers. Show me an anxious person, a depressed person, a drug addict and I'll show you someone who was traumatized, neglected and abused as a small child.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing such an insightful and profound reflection. Your words resonated deeply, emphasizing the long-term impact of trauma on our lives. True, the roots of anxiety and depression frequently trace back to our early experiences, which shape our perception of the world. Your insights into how we learn these emotions rather than being born with them brought light on the importance of understanding and compassion. Breaking the cycle of pain necessitates identifying the source and figuring out how to heal. Your willingness to discuss these difficult topics is very valuable. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and your bravery in sharing helps many people gain a better understanding. I wish you courage and healing.💕💖🙏
@whisperingoaks4841
@whisperingoaks4841 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@DaBriars
@DaBriars Жыл бұрын
100% Correct and I am proof of your insight
@Tinyteacher1111
@Tinyteacher1111 Жыл бұрын
Another cause is brain damage from things like meningoencephalitis, which can, and did to my son, damaging his CNS, caused fearfulness and impulsivity, damage to the frontal lobe or side lobes, and extremely important: mold and Lyme infections which are neuropsychiatric disorders manifesting in feeling unsafe, paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, anxiety, irritability in its worst form: Lyme rage! I’m sure Mr Gabe would agree!
@nat3786
@nat3786 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, so much for "caregivers" who are supposed to care and nurture us but end up giving us anxiety and depression instead. Society as a whole acts like a parent can never do any wrong, and just like that the trauma goes on for generation after generation.
@Splatdo
@Splatdo Жыл бұрын
I love that ladies reaction when she poses the open mindedness question and gets the response. She took it perfectly, took it away for analysis and said she would work on herself.....that's class. Well done that lady for a wonderful self analysing response.
@andrewmair7371
@andrewmair7371 Жыл бұрын
Yes… except what is she doing counseling others when she’s not fully equipped❓🤷🏻
@Splatdo
@Splatdo Жыл бұрын
@@andrewmair7371 Its the self analysis and learning that impresses me in anyone and she took that so well. ;-) None of us are perfect but we can strive to be near it.
@Curiouslife5607
@Curiouslife5607 Ай бұрын
@@andrewmair7371no one is fully equipped, it’s a constant process and the ability to self reflect is a huge part of being a therapist. Open mindedness is also a personality trait so that plays a part.
@josephinebly8603
@josephinebly8603 Ай бұрын
Her ability to enable herself to be vulnerable in front of the crowd as she self-analyze her beliefs
@gainsbourg66
@gainsbourg66 Жыл бұрын
I have been a full-time therapist for 27 years. Anxiety and depression are two different things - which is why they have different names. Depression is almost always caused by loss, failure, shattered dreams, disillusion or a combination. Acute anxiety is normal, Chronic anxiety is caused by unremitting stress, or more likely, obsessive, repeated thoughts such as worrying or rationalising. If you think anxious thoughts too often, they begin to occur automatically and an anxiety state can begin. The cure is to find a way of ignoring those thoughts and learn to cope better with problems, fear and stress. The cure for depression is acceptance, gratitude, nature, physical exertion and loving, non directive, support. Sympathy is worth much more than just empathy. Writing out your thoughts and/or story can also help with depression, loss and heartbreak. Acceptance is key. Any creative activity, if possible, like art, poetry or music will help - sometimes a new type is the only one that may appeal.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Жыл бұрын
You may be giving ppl false hope. There is NO cure for depression. Like cancer, it can be in remission. And yes, I’m a big fan of acceptance.
@dany_1111
@dany_1111 Жыл бұрын
​@@robynhope219Of course, there's a cure for depression; I got over a major one. First, you need to identify the root and the trigger of the illness, and then develop a personalized approach to address those underlying issues. Self-knowledge is crucial.
@8__vv__8
@8__vv__8 Жыл бұрын
It seems you mean well, but that’s just not right. The things you list only sometimes work for people with mild or moderate symptoms. Giving someone the skills to cope with a lifelong disability is not a cure. And if your leg were badly broken, and I handed you a cane and told you that the cure is acceptance, you would sue me on the way to the orthopedist. Be better.
@annitagalvan9049
@annitagalvan9049 Жыл бұрын
@gainsbourg66, Did you manage to cure your depression by yourself or get medicine? Myself, I couldn't cope with it alone and decided to get the help of a psychiatrist and it's 9 years now, Im getting medicine. I don't know how easy it is to cure depression alone. I wish whoever is suffering from depression, to get help and find themselves in a better situation. Happy holidays to everyone.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, all those things you mention help, but it is not a cure. I feel much better since I started an SSRI five yrs ago, but don't consider myself cured.
@samidica
@samidica Жыл бұрын
Why do I shed a tear every time I watch his videos. It hits hard.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
I completely get your feelings. His videos have a special way of reaching out to our hearts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.🙏❤️
@pambeni5635
@pambeni5635 Жыл бұрын
I happened upon your videos I suppose by accident. I have been struggling a lot of my life and I think my problem is that I am not smart enough to understand just exactly the ideas and answers that you give to people. I’m in my 70’s and feel in a way I could just get along with a very simple life with a dog. I never had a dog until I was in my 50’s and I realized how much I had been missing all my life. She was the sweetest and gave me such unconditional love and support. I never truly felt that before. What a feeling!
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and feelings with us. I want you to know that you are not alone in how you are feeling. Life may be a lot complicated, and it's easy to become confused by the wide range of information and ideas available. Knowing about your special attachment with your dog in your 50s is very wonderful. One of the most wonderful and fulfilling aspects of life is the unconditional love and support our furry pets bring. It's a great way to find contentment to treasure those moments of connection and simplicity.Age is just a number, and the wisdom you've gained over the years is priceless in and of itself. If you ever have questions or want to explore new ideas, keep in mind that there is no such thing as "not smart enough." Learning is a lifetime adventure, and there is no need to know everything. We all follow our own paths, and what counts most is that we find happiness and peacefulness in the things that actually resonate with us. Your comment touched our hearts, and we appreciate you taking the time to share your story. Continue to enjoy the simple pleasures, and know that your experiences and insights are valuable to us all. Wishing you continued happiness with your pet and in every aspect of your life.💫💕🙏✨
@daviddugan6046
@daviddugan6046 Жыл бұрын
The world needs love and tolerance and it starts with ourselves . I love Dr Matte and Dr Peterson ..
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing your thoughts,💖 💖
@jean6460
@jean6460 Жыл бұрын
Who is Dr Petersen?
@daviddugan6046
@daviddugan6046 Жыл бұрын
Lol
@tslilbearshoppe9870
@tslilbearshoppe9870 Жыл бұрын
I think we are tolerating too much. Too much bad behavior from our youth, too many bad decisions from our govt and too much lazy behavior from ourselves.
@eirigh_suas
@eirigh_suas Жыл бұрын
My god, every video is a gift, an opportunity for self examination, healing, betteent, I feel so blessed
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much. Stay blessed and continue on your path of self-discovery and healing! 🙏🌟
@suzannebigras7071
@suzannebigras7071 Жыл бұрын
An observation from someone who is evolving from childhood developmental disarray. My first gut reaction when listening and watching Dr. Mate was, Comfort and trust. His laid back posture and soft , calm speech is also a huge nerve relaxer but the overall demeanour is one of understanding and compassion. It literally radiates from him. I FEEL his genuine desire to educate and enlighten. Experience is the biggest Asset for Understanding and this soul has. Very Grateful for the progress in understanding Brain Health and It’s affect and effects. Namaste
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your observation and personal experience! It's truly amazing how Dr. Mate's demeanor can have such a positive impact on people. I'm glad you feel his genuine desire to educate and enlighten. It's always inspiring to see progress in understanding brain health and its effects. Namaste!
@stephaniefortney22
@stephaniefortney22 Жыл бұрын
The Awareness and Wisdom in Dr. Gabor’s Work and abilities to articulate and convey is Profound…hitting on every level through compassion we feel safe, we find our truth we find connection….so much freedom, it’s Beautiful
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind and genuine words! I'm very happy to hear that Dr. Gabor's work resonated with you. His ability to make connections by means of compassion is very nice, as is the way he expresses and reflects his point of view. Your comments truly express the heart of his lessons. Continue to be inspired and embrace the freedom that his insight brings! 💫💕🙏✨🌈💖
@thothtrismegistus929
@thothtrismegistus929 Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmattersI think these videos would be way better if you only include video of him talking.
@petemc5070
@petemc5070 Жыл бұрын
His response to the question at 03:58 is the best bit. Brilliant understanding of the issue that we all overlook.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
@giuseppeLizzi-rj3er
@giuseppeLizzi-rj3er Жыл бұрын
Happiness goes down as you get older you feel disappointed by so many issues
@kiramatt6152
@kiramatt6152 Жыл бұрын
Psilocybin mushrooms healed me . I can't explain it but my experience has been spiritual and eye opening . I also started micro dosing . It really helped me get rid of depression and anxiety
@rhysreid9302
@rhysreid9302 Жыл бұрын
I've been looking to get my hands on shrooms for my anxiety and stress levels . Any one knows where I can source ?
@janithglichrist2994
@janithglichrist2994 Жыл бұрын
​@@rhysreid9302Yes dr.jeffshroom
@juttaclemons5002
@juttaclemons5002 Жыл бұрын
​@@janithglichrist2994dr.jeffshroom is the best . He's been my go to for anything psychedelics and shrooms . He's very good
@MarkRoland-ou3qh
@MarkRoland-ou3qh Жыл бұрын
​@@janithglichrist2994Is he on insta?
@heatherldutrow1204
@heatherldutrow1204 Жыл бұрын
​@@MarkRoland-ou3qhYes he's dr. jeffshroom
@dv5019
@dv5019 Жыл бұрын
Being healed and conscious yourself is the starting point for helping others to grow. Even then people are at different stages of being capable of opening themselves for change, depending in your capacities but also timing, the depth of the trauma, the interaction, the power of environment, the necessity for change etc. Dont get fooled by only focusing in your own level of growth 😊
@SuperMrBlaze
@SuperMrBlaze Жыл бұрын
"Depression is the inability to construct a future." Rollo May I haven't found a more precise definition so far and I'm 50, meaning I've been searching for definitions for a long time.
@lc3763
@lc3763 Жыл бұрын
Very well said.
@maryannribble3254
@maryannribble3254 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful! Yes , indeed ! Focusing on what is happening inside of us … is the key to freedom❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your kind words! I absolutely agree. The secret to freedom is to focus on our inner selves and what is going on inside. When we shift our attention inward, we can feel incredible power and progress. Your point of view is truly inspiring. Wishing you continuous freedom and self-discovery on your journey! ❤️
@barbc7211
@barbc7211 Жыл бұрын
Every time I listen to you I come away with something that helps me ❤thank you Dr Gabor
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
✨💖🥰 thanks for watching
@ianpye8938
@ianpye8938 11 ай бұрын
I was brought up in a Catholic household at a time when the Church was obsessed with sin! The outcome of this and my inability to balance minor transgressions of the mind with what the Church described as ultra serious. The net result was a constant state of anxiety and a feeling of utter worthlessness. Still affects me to this day. The Church has a lot to answer for. Hence my long since not being a practising Catholic.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
@laurelcurley3242
@laurelcurley3242 Жыл бұрын
Always, always, always helps me, your words, your unique understandings and articulations. So thankful for you and what you do. Thank you for helping us not only be human but also for helping us to add the 'kind'; for ourselves and so also for others. Much gratitude.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome, thank you very much for watching. 💕🙏✨💖
@alejandrasarmiento3317
@alejandrasarmiento3317 11 ай бұрын
Wow that part about the therapist getting frustrated really hit home… I left my therapist because of that, it was all about behaviors, and she got frustrated at the end… I blamed myself, but now I see where she was coming from… And it had nothing to do with me
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for opening up and sharing your story. It takes courage to recognize and reflect on our experiences with therapy. I'm glad you're able to see things from a different point of view now. bless you
@supdog5923
@supdog5923 Жыл бұрын
I'm going to try and be my true self in every aspect of my life no matter how scary it gets, the scarier part is wearing a mask all your life and not knowing who you trully are...
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
I admire your bravery and commitment to be your true self in the face of difficulties. The path to self-discovery is never easy, but it is very rewarding. You've already taken an important step by acknowledging the value of being authentic to yourself. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and there is a whole community here to support you. Keep shining as your authentic self, and you will inspire others to do the same✨💖🙏
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
That's the society we live in. As I learned decades ago. It's a mask or total ostracization. I know I'll never find friendship or love but at least I won't be totally alone. 😢
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Жыл бұрын
"Anxiety" is the word we use to describe how we FELL when our stress response is triggered and our "toxic culture" causes massive over stimulation of our stress response, this depletes our brain's supplies of the "feel-good" brain chemicals dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, etc., and we experience "depression", which is why physicians are prescribing ever more anti-depressants, as they restore (temporarily) these same chemicals. Questions? Stress R Us
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you
@mindfulmomentswithColm
@mindfulmomentswithColm Жыл бұрын
Very true Im often stressed with noise in where i live. I may have found resiliance but its not natural living like this. I think i need to accept support because my caveman mind thinks i should be able to go and live in a cave...thats maybe one option
@StressRUs
@StressRUs Жыл бұрын
Lots of good research on noise stress and its impact (negative) on health. I live in Marietta, OH, and, sadly, the main river road runs right through the center of town, which explains why so many folks seem to be yelling at one another, even when in a quiet room. So many have damaged hearing. Just Google "noise and heart disease" to scare the crap out of you and support your move to a quieter place. I did this and love my little QUIET apt. across from Mound Cemetery. Never rowdy at night or day, but I have to use ear plugs whenever I walk because of the loud vehicles and the clatter of the brick streets. Good Luck!@@mindfulmomentswithColm
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Жыл бұрын
I take an SSRI the last five yrs...asked for the prescription...and am doing well. Antidepressants are a life saver for some. It also offers neuro protection which I'm grateful for bc I'm a senior.
@miyaiun4723
@miyaiun4723 Жыл бұрын
​@@mindfulmomentswithColmHi. Maybe not a cave, but maybe some place away from all that noise. Its great leaving a stressful place. If you are phisically able to live by your own or even with your fammily or friends în some countryside place..do it. Forgive what you have to forgive. Do breath work, listen to calm music, watch old comedies and establish a relationship with God. I know, I know...we dont believe I Him anymore ..but He is real. And He does love us. We had to be put here to realise what we are missing. With time we just became meaner because we lost our connection with Him . We invented other gods that did no good to us and we became worse for they were not showing us the real way. But He loves us and you can seek Him right now and do what He wants us to do. You will fall, but you can come back up. No matter what happens, dont forget He is there with you. Focus on that and know our Lord Jesus is the way. I am telling you this from experience. I searched alot only to find out that He îs what He says He is. I searched through many cultures and many ways and I know I telling you the truth. Wishing you all the best. And one more thing, we dont have that much time, so call Him now if you havent. What is în front of us all its no joke and He is the way to life, He has always been the only way.
@997JM
@997JM Жыл бұрын
Not even sure I need or could benefit from therapy but if I could, I'd like it to be with someone like Nikki. Her openness and sense of humor would be of great benefit to anyone needing therapy. I'm mining my mind trying to see if I have any addictions that I need help with. All the best to you Nikki! You have a great future in front of you.
@jeremylindemann5117
@jeremylindemann5117 Жыл бұрын
I dunno, it's a big concern that, as a trained counsellor, she failed to identify how she was affecting the counselling process with her own emotional reaction. She could be doing harm to some of the closed minded people who are likely the ones most in need of help.
@997JM
@997JM Жыл бұрын
@@jeremylindemann5117 It might have been an issue for her in the past but what I took from her response is that she 'got it' and wanted to make a change. Her openness was apparent and abundant.
@2strong2cool
@2strong2cool Жыл бұрын
Agreed. Also the way he questions her is very leading. She's likely nervous asking the question in the first place, and he basically out of the blue humiliates her. She handles it very well all things considered
@upendasana7857
@upendasana7857 Жыл бұрын
..having said that,its always easier to see when someone else is doing it then when we are doing it ourselves
@blackdog1392
@blackdog1392 11 ай бұрын
When I left home to go to Uni my housemates were puzzled that I had never learned to play games like Monopoly or Drafts or Cards etc. This was when I began to see the extreme neglect I'd suffered as a child. As the youngest of 4 children nobody had ever read me a bed time story, played games with me, taught me to tie my shoe laces or brush my teeth ! I'd always felt like a ghost in my own life - unseen, unheard except when scolded, criticised or ridiculed for any assertion of my own needs. Many of us suffer life long because of the neglect and or abuse we were subjected to as children. You can alleviate the symptoms, learn to function better but the lack of love at this crucial stage in development never fully resolves.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It takes a lot of courage to open up about the neglect and abuse we may have faced as children. Remember, it's never too late to seek healing and find a supportive community that will love and value you for who you are. bless you and take care 💖🙏
@JesusSaves77799
@JesusSaves77799 Жыл бұрын
This was absolutely wonderful. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate and all who participated in this video and all who are continuing his work. God bless you all! 🙏💖
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your kind words and for taking the time to watch the video! ❤️💖
@JesusSaves77799
@JesusSaves77799 Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for sharing it! 💖🙏
@jishamola.j6383
@jishamola.j6383 Жыл бұрын
Dear Pray for you. You will be all right
@explo.i.s-beatricefournier
@explo.i.s-beatricefournier Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Jennifer! Gabor Maté ans Larry Heller in the same video. It's so amazing to me !!! I recently achieve the Larry's NARM training and what they say both about child developpement and how important is the work on ourself as therapist seems to me so important to ear and to be aware of!!! And the way that Gabor lead Kitty to understand that is so respectful and coherent with his whole talk. I'm so gratful to you to select this part of this conference and let it attainable on KZbin. Thanks a lot!!
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your nice thoughts and support! It's wonderful to hear how powerful this video has been for you, especially with Gabor Maté and Larry Heller's insights. It's interesting how their thoughts on child development and therapist self-work resonate with you. We're happy that you found Gabor's approach to guiding Kitty's comprehension to be both respectful and consistent with his overall message. Your appreciation means a lot to us, and we're happy to have made this part of the talk available on KZbin. Stay tuned for more meaningful content! Have a wonderful day ahead, bless you 💫💕🙏✨
@guisellalosa7557
@guisellalosa7557 11 ай бұрын
I’ve never was alone as a kid. My parents were always with me, al least one of them, or my aunts. Then why I have anxiety and depresión and pánico attacks for the last 11 years?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Hi there! I'm really sorry to hear that you've been going through such a tough time. It's not uncommon for people to experience anxiety and depression, even when they had support growing up. Sometimes, these feelings can be caused by various factors, and it's important to reach out for help. You're not alone in this, and there are people who care about you. Consider talking to a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. They can offer support and guidance to help you through this challenging journey. Take care❤️💖🙏
@lifetime9582
@lifetime9582 Жыл бұрын
You are excellent,thank you.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you so much for watching and for your kind words, bless you ❤
@jean6460
@jean6460 Жыл бұрын
I keep watching this. It’s so powerful and deep!! Thank you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️♥️
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for your thoughtful words! I'm delighted to hear that you find this video, interesting and inspiring. 🙏🏼❤️ It means a lot to me that it resonated with you. Please let me know if you have any further thoughts or if anything in particular has impacted you. Your point of view is greatly appreciated! ✨💖
@isheetampancholi
@isheetampancholi Жыл бұрын
Bohot badhiya, Dhanyavaad :) Mera Neem ka ped mera Best friend hai !❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you 💕🙏
@theblueprintccllc
@theblueprintccllc Жыл бұрын
Its not only about the client. It is also about our own internal. I agree.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you💕🙏✨💖
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
Thiscis first time ive been exposed to the idea that in repressing anger you depress all emotion at the same time. Valuble information i could have used fifty years ago 😢
@geriburrito
@geriburrito Жыл бұрын
Better late than never my friend.
@willisnjim
@willisnjim 11 ай бұрын
So thought provoking. Thank u
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to watch and for your kind words. I appreciate your support!
@yolakin8210
@yolakin8210 11 ай бұрын
Thank you Gabor💫
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video
@yoshidakezi
@yoshidakezi 2 ай бұрын
What a great video. Thank you so much❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words! I really appreciate your support and am glad you found value in the video.
@joseaverboch2579
@joseaverboch2579 Жыл бұрын
Omg pure wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for watching,🙏✨💖
@davidanderson911
@davidanderson911 Жыл бұрын
How is it that questions come so loudly and wisdom comes in whispers? One criticism I have of KZbin is they don't normalize their volume. That makes it difficult for us to have problems hearing, especially listening early in the morning when the rest of the family is asleep. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten in trouble for what I listen to because it woke someone up. When really I'm just asking for it to wake me up.
@otakudinosaur8568
@otakudinosaur8568 Жыл бұрын
While it is true that YT doesn't normalize the volume across all contents, the video's volume discrepancy can actually be controlled by the video producer before the upload. I've noticed it but it didn't cross my mind to make it known. Thanks for writing this. @yourinnerchildmatters: Kindly take note for future videos. Love your channel. Thank you. 🙏
@pawankumarbatra5331
@pawankumarbatra5331 Жыл бұрын
I am well over fifty plus and I myself have had a extremely bad childhood days am married for the last twenty eight plus years and have had a rough extreme dicy relationships issues with my wife and my kids because of my violence nature my angriness stress anxiety and depression my personal experience and advise to all of the people those who r like me or have issues something like these is to first accept that we have all these things inside us, then work on these. Most of the people actually don't accept only that they are having these issues and that's where the maximum problem lies within,
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to share your deeply personal journey and wisdom. Your openness is admirable. Recognizing our inner challenges and working for improvement takes huge courage. Your message of self-acceptance and development is invaluable. 💪💙
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
First you need to learn to live with yourself. Yes I also have a very violent nature. I've learned to set it aside out of view. But denying it only hurts you, IME 😂
@proudchristian77
@proudchristian77 Жыл бұрын
It's because people's beat up on little kids & their mom's & they make them watch , how do we think they going to feel ?if u tramizie them to young is how you get it ! 💝
@Lakshmi235Lakshmi
@Lakshmi235Lakshmi Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 🎩🙏🤗
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for watching, bless you 💖💖💖
@healthylife4eva
@healthylife4eva Жыл бұрын
Link for full lecture please?
@ElevatedVibration11
@ElevatedVibration11 Жыл бұрын
Great explanation and high quality video production. Blessings 🙏
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Much appreciated!
@madanarathimadangopal5890
@madanarathimadangopal5890 Жыл бұрын
Another breathtakimg insight. ❤
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!, hope it helps. Bless you 💕🙏
@irenebotwright5573
@irenebotwright5573 Жыл бұрын
Such insight...amazing
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for your kind words. Bless you 💖💖💖
@yuukihoffner8433
@yuukihoffner8433 Жыл бұрын
Extraordinary, thank you! To be able to understand or even 'enter' the inner world of the other is most important. So how do we do that with a loved one who is schizophrenic?
@shammikalra6174
@shammikalra6174 11 ай бұрын
Always God's Grace! Amen!
@nicolemathis6155
@nicolemathis6155 Жыл бұрын
This is golden!
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
@marylamb6063
@marylamb6063 Жыл бұрын
I had severe depression but went to a Chinese doctor. She traced it to five foods I was eating and the depression left. I went to a Colombian doctor and told him I couldn't eat five foods. He said I needed antibiotics to kill bad gut bacteria. I refused, as antibiotics can kill good bacteria too and effect mood. Years later, I took a bucket load of antibiotics for a nasty sinus infection. The Colombian was right. I can now eat whatever I want and have been depression-free for years. No psychological or metaphysical mumbo-jumbo needed.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! 💖
@danieltene2048
@danieltene2048 Жыл бұрын
What foods you refered to?
@melindasaunders1986
@melindasaunders1986 16 күн бұрын
For you…. and that’s valued information.But, it’s not one size fits all.
@elalek4197
@elalek4197 9 ай бұрын
Thank you
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Ай бұрын
You're very welcome! I appreciate your support!
@adrianavilar7070
@adrianavilar7070 Жыл бұрын
Gracias gracias gracias gracias 🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏
@lauranell2978
@lauranell2978 Жыл бұрын
I experienced the volume and magnitude of the soul in NDE, and I am a woman of various cultural dna backgrounds. Indigenous to me means our soul roots as people, because I see this going into shoots of politics and I truly don’t believe that is what you intended
@suzieq111-sq
@suzieq111-sq Жыл бұрын
Wonderful Thankyou Namaste 🙏
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
@luciamixon4156
@luciamixon4156 11 ай бұрын
Parents fighting in the background says it all. 😢
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
Sending you big big virtual hugs ❤️💖
@LilyWillow22
@LilyWillow22 6 ай бұрын
What if the parents in life ended up working out their things but absolutely recognize that they're arguing hurt their children. What can they do with the damage they caused?
@supreetsidhu4535
@supreetsidhu4535 Жыл бұрын
This was wholesome
@dv5019
@dv5019 Жыл бұрын
Depression is the outcome of someone who has left his soul purpose 🙏
@julianrauch8642
@julianrauch8642 11 ай бұрын
2 siblings within a year & a half apart, with the same parents, environment, upbringing, etc . How do you explain one having chronic depression, one doesn’t?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 11 ай бұрын
It's interesting how different individuals can have such unique experiences and challenges, even within the same family. Mental health is complex and can be influenced by various factors beyond just genetics and upbringing. It's important to remember that everyone's journey is different, and we should offer support and understanding to those dealing with mental health issues.
@g0runse0
@g0runse0 5 ай бұрын
Thank You, Carl Rogers and you, for Reinventing Person Centred Therapy ... How many more inventions will emerge from Carl Rogers Practice
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 5 ай бұрын
It's amazing to see the impact of Carl Rogers on person-centered therapy!
@avx4281
@avx4281 4 ай бұрын
Thank u.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to comment! Your support means a lot to me!
@Justfun-xx6xe
@Justfun-xx6xe 10 ай бұрын
I can't find anything I'm good at, I work as nurse but I don't like it, not because I don't like taking care of people, is just it fucks my feelings being in that environment. I am an empath but personally I think sometimes it is better not to be.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It takes courage to acknowledge when a situation is not serving your well-being. I hope you find a path that brings you fulfillment and peace.
@natalienufer9262
@natalienufer9262 Жыл бұрын
The conversation with Nikki had me loling because it’s so freaking accurate
@thebabadook7366
@thebabadook7366 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for not putting wall to wall music on this one. It's so much better like this. The music is too much, it's anxiety making... X
@ancientsoul809
@ancientsoul809 Жыл бұрын
Is there a full episode of this?
@cameliaturda6472
@cameliaturda6472 Жыл бұрын
Love You 💜
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
💕
@andrewyancy8639
@andrewyancy8639 Жыл бұрын
I have to disagree with the claim that the term "depression" refers to "pushing down" emotions, as in repressing them. "Depression" refers to persistent low mood. There's an argument to be made that repression of painful feelings and memories can contribute to depression, but that's a different issue.
@Dans_adventures_
@Dans_adventures_ 6 ай бұрын
Depression is a term that describes the cycle of the multiple aspects of neurological imbalances and responses that your mind body and soul, withhold and protect vulnerable parts that need expression it has nowhere to go so its pushed down causing imbalance and exhaustion, because all the built up energy has no release so it implodes therefore other parts of you work overdrive to expelle the unfamiliar energy and dont like it either provoking anxiety as a respose to avoid it reoccuring all this happening inside as you live day to day, causes low moods and crash Depression the word it self is the answer to the problem (deep rest )
@lauranell2978
@lauranell2978 Жыл бұрын
Our roots come from the very same place and space , and it’s traced back from our DNA , my kundalini awakening showed me that
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing your thoughts, bless you 🙏
@goddessglow6996
@goddessglow6996 Жыл бұрын
Can you please elaborate on this please
@ProCredits-s8b
@ProCredits-s8b Ай бұрын
I'm in love with Niki ☺
@anandateertha7865
@anandateertha7865 Жыл бұрын
He is genius..
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you 🙏
@yulingo5577
@yulingo5577 Жыл бұрын
This is sooooo goood!
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you 💕🙏
@mammybelle7302
@mammybelle7302 Жыл бұрын
What does it mean by "play?"
@edithnogueira7899
@edithnogueira7899 Жыл бұрын
What amazes me is that I grew up in a large family with very limited resources,where everyone was in survival mode, looking for alternatives to improve life, and none of us had time to suffer depression. Just wondering...
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
It's interesting how your upbringing formed your resilience and focus on practical solutions. The modern world presents new problems, and mental health is an important factor. It's important to recognize that everyone's experiences differs and while some may not have had the time to feel depression, others encounter different difficulties. Let us continue help one another on our individual journeys.🌟
@ROORabuser
@ROORabuser Жыл бұрын
​@@yourinnerchildmatters❤
@mindfulmomentswithColm
@mindfulmomentswithColm Жыл бұрын
Depression brings us into parasympathetic mode whereas anxiety brings us into sympathetic. If you live already in the present you may have nalanced nervous system thats healthy. A healthy amount of stress is called allostatic load it can make us stronger and resiliant. Perhaps you found ways to rest and digest that effectively bypass depression by listening to your needs? Perhaps you stay in fight or flight and support each other as a family?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
@@mindfulmomentswithColm thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Bless you
@thomasmullee3049
@thomasmullee3049 Жыл бұрын
Which book should I read, when I'm dealing with depression, anxiety and lack of emotions, low self-esteem ? Which book of Gabor is best for this ?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
I recommend reading his book: 📚When the Body Says No: amzn.to/3VGyDLD This book addresses the mind-body connection, looking at how our emotional experiences might affect our physical health. 📚In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: amzn.to/3fXD1qn, can help readers gain a better understanding of emotional distress and its relationship to various types of addiction. 📚The Myth of Normal: amzn.to/3UHiUeQ Take care and bless you💫💕🙏
@jean6460
@jean6460 Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmattersthank you!
@jaanarajahalme7045
@jaanarajahalme7045 Жыл бұрын
Woah!!! 🔥
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
💖
@lauranell2978
@lauranell2978 Жыл бұрын
50 generations , we all are related!
@Emil-c1w
@Emil-c1w 3 ай бұрын
I still have no idea how to overcome both
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 3 ай бұрын
It's completely normal to feel that way! Sometimes tackling challenges step by step can help you find your way through. Keep pushing forward!
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Жыл бұрын
I would love to know Gabor’s opinion on psychopaths..:they seem not to get depressed or anxious. Does he link it to trauma?
@isabellaguddat7582
@isabellaguddat7582 Жыл бұрын
How can someone reverse the affects if they Ferberized a baby who may get anxiety from time to time as a 20 year old later in life? Also , if otherwise a loving , caring , secure attachment to the parent could later anxieties be unrelated to the early “ let them sooth themselves sometimes “ approach?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
I understand your concern, and it's important to remember that anxiety in adulthood can be influenced by a variety of things, including early parenting approaches. It's also important to note that a loving and caring bond to parents can play an important part in shaping a person's emotional well-being. Many factors contribute to anxiety, making it difficult to reverse the effects of Ferberizing or any specific parenting technique in adulthood. Seeking help from a mental health professional can be very helpful if someone is experiencing anxiety. They can help in exploring the underlying reasons of anxiety and developing appropriate coping methods, regardless of previous experiences. It is never too late to improve one's personal well-being and emotional health, and getting professional help is a great step toward a better and healthier life.🙏✨💖🥰
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
Unlike most men, immediately denied brest feeding sent directly to sexual mutilation (Circumcision) its only surprising the world isn't full of mad dog killers 😢
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
All my life.ive been denied love and any kind of secure attachment to parental units. 😮
@clarysagequartz9535
@clarysagequartz9535 Жыл бұрын
Love the jui jitsu moment
@upendasana7857
@upendasana7857 Жыл бұрын
wow that question about open mindedness then turned on its head and realising that it was the judgement of the questioner that was the issue not the person for whom she judged to be "closed minded". We do this all the time our judgements based often on how we wish to see ourselves or define ourselves but make us see "ther other"as the problem and not our own unacknowledged feelings.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Absolutely, our impressions frequently tell more about ourselves than the individuals we are criticizing. Self-reflection is necessary for fostering open-mindedness and understanding. Thank you for sharing this valuable viewpoint! 🌟
@healershearttarot3056
@healershearttarot3056 Жыл бұрын
Warning!!! Do not watch at the gym 😭😭😭 I’m bawling like a baby
@mummyd1990
@mummyd1990 Жыл бұрын
Anxiety is all in the mind,simple as that.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thanks💕
@cindyrobertson3780
@cindyrobertson3780 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Gabor would be able to help me like that guy in horse whisperer?
@MichelJDucommun27
@MichelJDucommun27 Ай бұрын
Im sixty…. Are you saying that there is still Hope for me to be well?
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Ай бұрын
Absolutely! It's never too late to make positive changes and improve your well-being. Every day is a new opportunity to start fresh!
@paulwebb2010
@paulwebb2010 Жыл бұрын
We also need to talk about phone addiction and how that is having a impact on society
@richardscathouse
@richardscathouse Жыл бұрын
Weak people become addicted 😢
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Жыл бұрын
What he wont tell you is that when the heart, brain, and gut axis is disrupted, many physical and mental ills can arise: ADHD, OCD, depression, anxiety, Parkinson's, and memory loss. Gabor wont tell you that bc not taught in med school. For more info, pls read Three Brains..by Karen Jensen, ND.
@suetipping4841
@suetipping4841 Жыл бұрын
I'm not an educated psychologist, I'm an accountant by trade, but a foundation in a life with God and belief in Jesus is a great help in living this life. Life has potholes, don't become one.
@mosesmanaka8109
@mosesmanaka8109 Жыл бұрын
Behind every depressed person is a Narcissist parent who has no connection or love or concern or affection towards the child except only towards themselves all the time. No one is born depressed, it is solely an unhappy uncared for parent or parents. Thus you need to do a Forest Gump on your parents, both of them, because they are both sick, and find a community or Church where you are accepted and loved unconditionally. Study it carefully.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
@nickim270
@nickim270 7 ай бұрын
Holy sh*t I feel like I got years worth of therapy in under 10 minutes.
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters 7 ай бұрын
I'm so glad the video resonated with you!
@AAA9549-w7w
@AAA9549-w7w Жыл бұрын
The origins are so many that they cannot be expressed scientifically. Philosophically explaining thus one must be a true metaphysician. However, humans are number one for anxiety and depression. Metaphysician philosophy
@RebeccaFreear
@RebeccaFreear Жыл бұрын
Good content, no need for the clips of actors, in fact they distract and irritate me.
@niceflakey_crust
@niceflakey_crust Жыл бұрын
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
✨💖
@eagledice2008
@eagledice2008 Жыл бұрын
Im all for healing our trauma but this business of blaming our parents for all our brokenness needs to stop we have gone too far those folks only wanted the best for us we need to take responsibility for the drugs we're taking the booze we are abusing and the laziness we have that's why we're broke I am healing now when I accepted that I and I alone are to blame for my brokenness and blaming other people and expecting a sorry is gonna make me a bitter person life is way too short I want to live my best life now not tomorrow but today
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your perspective on taking responsibility for our own actions and not dwelling on blame. It's empowering to realize that we have the power to shape our own lives. Let's focus on healing, growth, and living our best lives. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻🌹💕🤗
@hormazhansotia5982
@hormazhansotia5982 Жыл бұрын
WOW WOW WOW
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
thank you for watching
@angloaust1575
@angloaust1575 Жыл бұрын
Circumstances can create depression Fortunately the Holy Spirit provides comfort when human Love fails!
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch our video and for sharing your insights with us! 💖🙏
@Watchingtheuniverse
@Watchingtheuniverse Жыл бұрын
🦋🌸🌿
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching!
@Watchingtheuniverse
@Watchingtheuniverse Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmatters 🙏
@shamilsyed397
@shamilsyed397 Жыл бұрын
There is no need of graphics in between. They are diluting the feel. Kindly Remove them by editing ASAP...
@yourinnerchildmatters
@yourinnerchildmatters Жыл бұрын
💕💖🙏
@shamilsyed397
@shamilsyed397 Жыл бұрын
@@yourinnerchildmatters Is the editing done!?. Atleast post the links of raw speeches bro...
@montanagal6958
@montanagal6958 Жыл бұрын
Origin-when your gov't tries to kill you and no one tries to stop them.
@guyb7005
@guyb7005 Жыл бұрын
good lecture, no need for all the carton vignettes
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