The Shocking Ways Your Childhood Is Still Ruining Your Life (and how to stop it)

[@PracticalPsychologyTips]

I've been spending more time with my dad this year than I ever have in my life and I'm so grateful I get to! Dad jokes are the best

[@n.fer.2596]

Practical Psychology nice to meet you, “so grateful!” I’m Dad!

[@ykc4638]

Practical Psychology WOW

[@Veilzlol]

Finally people are identifying the motifs and archetypes that make us love Star Wars. It is a direct reflection of the most basic of human struggles played out in a grand spectacle. Of course the lineage and becoming who you are is only one aspect that makes the seemingly strange space opera so poetic. I would say I learned a great deal as a small child watching these movies. I believe for all fathers out there, and fathers to be, this is something your children can learn a great deal from. It embodies complex ideas of morality, family, pain, struggle, and loss in a way that I would deem palatable and entertaining to even very young kids. Obviously being a fanboy myself I could be blinded by my love and nostalgia, but it is undeniable these movies evoke a really uncanny ability to teach lessons of humanity in a galaxy far far away.

[@aspenivy3268]

Wilky _ you are who your mother is her seed is is self reprising as simulating. this film is pripaganda

[@kimlarso]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@DecodeChannel]

Great video! TIPS: 1. Accept that at some level you still idolize your dad 2. Accept that he is not perfect 3. His values do not need to be your values and that's ok

[@BakaryD]

Decode Channel I accepted it years ago

[@Waltonruler5]

I think the philosophy of the light side is very misrepresented. It's supposed to be a philosophy of balance, of the natural way. The Jedi aren't supposed to be good guys in the traditional sense. Their job isn't to go around saving everyone. They are only supposed to intervene when the balance of the force is upset. Anakin wasn't corrupted because he wanted to do bad. He was corrupted because he wanted to do good. Save his loved ones, destroy evil. A true Jedi would've respected the natural order, but Anakin thought he could shape the world to his whim, and that's all the seduction the sith needed.

[@dovahkiin2]

well said

[@leightonki6726]

That's the gray Jedi... about balance. Jedi are about enlightenment and freedom.

[@dovahkiin2]

there are no grey jedi n shit

[@TheGatsby94]

while also following arcane rules and traditions

[@javiercampos5154]

I'm so glad to read comments from people who clearly appreciate Star wars beyond the superficial "These guys are good and those are bad".

[@ScottSaysStuff]

Lost my pops before high school. This was especially hard, but over time I realized how imperfect he was and how unlike I am in comparison to him. He was a good man, however, I will live the rest of my life trying to be better.

[@Crick1952]

Scott Foltz Sorry about that bro 😢

[@kfoster3616]

Scott - Sorry you lost your dad so early in life. My children also lost their dad earlier than the usual. My hunch is you are a fine man. We all have flaws that need work. I try to work on some aspect each day....and hopefully, someday they will mesh. I keep the 10 Commandments on my desk and try to improve in all aspects. I thought this was a great video.

[@kfoster3616]

I should add, my first response for a comment was about those who have lost their dads early and you already had that covered. Hope you have a happy life.

[@LimeandMocha]

Hey, could you please do a video on Adam Driver’s charisma? I’ve been watching a lot of his Star Wars press junket interviews and I’ve realised that he really doesn’t play but a lot of the normal ‘charisma’ rules but I still think he’s adorable and very interesting to listen to. I’d like to hear your perspective on why that is. I’ve loved all your other videos on celebrities so far.

[@empirejackson]

Do a video about girls and their dad please

[@AlexandraM689]

empirejackson I second that, it's a important relationship

[@ezekiel3626]

It was really hard for a guy to do that well

[@rodrigomedeirosdasilva6915]

I think he should get a woman on his team first.

[@juskud]

empirejackson p

[@sarahsander785]

I would say that it's not so diffrent, frommy own life experience with a somewhat problematic relationship to my dad (and an almost idolizing one to my granddad). The diffrence would be mostly that due to gender roles as a girl you are more easily able to dissociate your personality from your fathers. Which in turn leaves the same problems as described in the video, just with your mother.

[@keyholebrown]

You described that cycle of burying social anxiety, avoiding the upset of a break up, faking confidence, and secretly being self destructive exactly at a time when I was unknowingly doing those things. I let myself experience some of that pain and I instantly feel better. Thanks Charlie!!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you found it helpful Josh!

[@dannyhill5840]

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[@dannyhill5840]

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[@dstewar]

1) he ended his life when I was 5, so 2) I really have no information on what traits of his I may possess. I did not have a replacement father figure. My mother never remarried. I've been very difficultly forging my own path. So for the most part, I can't really say if this video applies to me. If anything, the lack of a father figure, amplified my mother's traits as well as traits I desired in a father figure, were established in myself. But without an example to learn from, it's been a long hard road.

[@horizonkage]

I didn't meet my dad until I was about 23. People never thought my mom was my mom. I have many traits like him even though I never knew him.

[@kfoster3616]

interesting.

[@paulinemercier4241]

Yes, please do that video on the philosophy of the Light Side! And a video about the father-daughter relationship would be awesome. Thanks for the outstanding content.

[@Crick1952]

People, he said very clearly at the end of the video that this goes for all child and parent relationships. He concentrated on father's and sons because so does Star Wars across all three trilogies.

[@jchoney1000]

Just like my destiny, I don't know my dad

[@janobi8871]

jchoney1000 same

[@gigantedoidao5039]

I was thinking exactly about that

[@gigantedoidao5039]

He could make a video about if this think of not having a present dad or a having a dad at all influences personalities traits

[@pizzapizza2225]

jchoney1000 but he's affected you nonetheless

[@kfoster3616]

I don't understand how men can run away from the children they create. Sorry that you never knew your dad. (I realize some don't know their dad because their dad died before their child was born.) Sorry to anyone who never knew their dad.

[@Darth_Bateman]

My dad was A very caring and loving man, but I realized early how weak he was and how miserable he became and want to be nothing like him. I found that denying the ways I was like my father wasn't working, because I repelled people and reacted too emotionally and took things too personally. Losing friends being socially outcasted gave me the motive to grow beyond that to be better. So, my father is not my destiny. I don't believe in Destiny, I believe in Gravity.

[@joezag9134]

After I watched this I called my father and he helped me overcome my doubts later on I came to realize that by having a relationship with my father made me excel in so many ways I was more disciplined because of the guides my father gave me thus becoming a better person. It took me 6 years to realize this. Thank you Charly you inspired me to change my life

[@maxb2021]

Just rewatched Inglorious Basterds and I feel like you guys should do a video on Hans Landa (or even Christoph Waltz in general) why audiences are drawn to him and why he is able to be so commanding in interviews and questioning, I feel like It would make for a very good video on your channel

[@joelouellette]

Yes! I love Christophe Waltz. I think a big part of his charisma is his sophistication. He follows most charismatic rules, especially smile and calmness. But he's also very well-read and intelligent.

[@charlievillarreal274]

I am sad because of this, my dad is a failure and The only reason I get out of bed is to prove that I am different than him, to become a better man.

[@elvenfay]

charlie villarreal there is likely traits of you dad that you realize had potential. Realize which of these traits you share and use them.

[@ThePurpleman21]

Yes, also please do a philosophy of the sith, they're both interesting extremes and it would be fascinating to see someone do a deconstruction of them!

[@RMO772RMO]

Guys, this whole, deconstructing psychological behaviour patterns thing is gold. Using movies to convey that = even better. I would definitely love to see more content like this !

[@jameshartree884]

Charisma on command is having a massive effect of my life. You are making high value, relevant videos. Your advice is memorable. It is really improving my situation, but recently I've noticed my ego level rise. I really think it would be economical for you guys to make a video about reducing your ego. You've done confidence. You've done self esteem. Why not ego?

[@MarquisVonMonster]

This is probably one of the best videos COC has put out in a while. Most people focus on daddy issues when it comes to party girls/spoiled princess personality types, but nobody ever talks about living in the shadow of your father or the thought of him. Loved this video and I got a lot to think about.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad to hear you loved it!

[@edi9892]

Could you make another video on the topic regarding dads that utterly failed in their father role? Being absent, being horrible examples or just immature to the point that you feel more mature at 15...

[@Brytons_Thoughts]

Personally, I look at my parents and look at their pros and cons, then I think to myself "how can I be better than them?" I accept that I have negative traits from my parents but the next step is that how I can fix those traits and be different from them. My two cents.

[@DrPickleful]

I desperately need more Star Wars content on this channel

[@JL-lc1vp]

We need to ask ourselves constantly "Who do I want to be?", "Is this who I want to be?" to become aware and responsible for out actions.

[@edopelawi]

Thanks for this video, Charlie. It left me crying.

[@yitzgoldberg9393]

-Accept that at some level you will still idolize your dad -Accept your dad is not perfect -Remember your values don't have to be the same as your dad. To be honest, as a therapist, there is truth in this and the reason is- we are learning creatures and we absorb what we see (especially from ppl we idolize). The only way around it is to go on an inner journey of self discovery and to question your own patterns that you view as part of life.❤ Edited: also if you don't like your father and you decided to be the opposite of him, as baby's we are tottaly helpless and dependent on those who take care of us, so also if you want to be the opposite of him, there are still behaviors you absorbed that are going to stick with you, unless you become aware to them and work on changing them. P.s. Don’t check out my channel😉

[@jhonbranden7638]

Yitz Goldberg I am been on that journey for a while

[@michellemarks8606]

It's a long journey

[@jackp9659]

We are learning creatures...

[@zackkk9414]

❤

[@yitzgoldberg9393]

Jason Todd I edited my comment and responded to this question

[@Cormac_YT]

*I DONT HAVE DADDY PROBLEMS CUZ I DONT HAVE A DAD* PROBLEM SOLVED

[@bogdanbeda5023]

that is not good, cuz then u idolize ur mum. And if u are boy i have bad news for u

[@PrototypeNinja16]

I'd say the need to announce that to the world shows that on some level you do.

[@taheemlewis7627]

kylo : i love you dad. han: I know.

[@Burnich]

This hit hard man, i think I have a similar situation like Kylo Ren, a father that wasnt there when he needed it, would like to know him more and see his side. Damn...

[@sonnyj2k]

lol my dad doesn't even know I was born. he had me by cheating on his wife with my mom. they met at a club from what I can gather. he lived in Brazil but was on vacation in Spain. about all I know haha. one thing that can be learned is use protection.

[@hazzmati]

Bummer

[@psuedo6083]

You’re far too valuable to be condom ad.

[@bekahnavarro]

Electric Kool-Aid His loss. Some ppl are just garbage ppl. Sorry tho. Hopefully you have others in your life. I think Family is just someone who loves you, blood or not. If a step parent or father/mother figure can be a great parent, than whoever you choose can be family. My best friend is a sister to me, and always will be. My family feels the same.

[@branthedoneddy]

Hey son, is that yeeew?

[@vladb420]

hahaha bastard

[@bestbry1]

Talk about what’s wrong with “the force philosophy” next week! This weeks is already great! Thanks

[@camilovega9843]

Coincidentally I've been doing this for a while. It has led me to -slowly but steadily- grow. And yes! The next video should be about the philosophy of the light side, and then you shoul'd do one about the dark side. And... -- POSSIBLE SPOILER ALERT -- I think this trilogy centers around achieving true balance. Dark and light side as a whole. Like the Yin-Yang archetype, with Kylo's and Rey's own struggles and journeys through both sides of the force. Maybe you should do a Reylo video with that archetype and how they bond to each other in that manner.

[@falcodarkzz]

At first the only way to survive is to accept and love your father as a child. Then, to carry the torch and step into territories he never explored, you must reject him. Then finally to attain balance you must return to him with love again, only it has depth now. An emotional bond formed between two human beings, not an idolisation. Imo, this last part is one of the hardest things a person can do, and I think few achieve it in a lifetime.

[@bradleynylund6683]

Yes do a video on the flaws of both sides of the force

[@DevilsDeal]

I would like to see you analyze the good and bad points of both the Jedi (who try distance themselves from emotion) and the Sith (who completely embrace them, including the worst ones).

[@Vini-zv3lr]

I have a weird relation with my father. While I love him very much, I feel like we're extremely incompatible in our way of thought, and It's been that way for a while. As I thought of role models when I was a kid, my father never really showed up, he never really embodied what I wanted to be, it was always my uncles or a teacher I had. I guess my character flaws developed from trying to not be him. He's organized, I'm messy, he's passive-agressive , I come off as overly-aggressive , he likes to avoid confrontation while I'm prettty argumentative, to name a few key differences. I still love him for what he is though, and that's what maters in the end, I just don't want to be like him when I'm his age( regarding my relations to other people and where I'm at in life).

[@strawberrygoldie329]

What about females? I am pretty sure since the early days of my life I had idolized my father, recognized his flaws and grew past them recently. This is a great channel and needs to have more content for females. About charisma, friendzone, dating etc. I would be very glad if you grow bigger and get a good mentor like Charlie but female

[@theunknownpersonism]

Do you feel the same way about your mother?

[@amandinelabelle6958]

This has become very frustrating for me as well. All of this content is becoming entirely male-oriented. Come on Charisma on Command.

[@strawberrygoldie329]

Well, I have nothing in common with my mother and never had Electra syndrome. What I see in females generally that we don't want to be like our mothers, especially if they are in a bad marriage. We judge them badly and blame them for not fulfilling the strong woman role society waits from us.

[@ffa661]

Its kind of hard for 2 guys to do the videos about female stuff, I mean some parts they can capture like the Wonder Woman video but they dont have the same experiences like females. They should hire a third, female person in the future for the channel when it grows big enough to afford.

[@kikusha66]

Well he is a guy so of course he is gonna be more male oriented. If he tried to explain female point of view i m sure there would be someone who s like how dare u and how would u know i f u r not a girl bla bla bla. I couldnt explain mens point of view since i m not a guy. And other thing is i ve never noticed that this channel is mainly for guys coz many of the issues he deals with are common for both genders maybe exept for stuff like how to flirt with women. Common lets not look for sexism everywhere i m all up for equality but feminism needs to be called up for some of its bullshit

[@CrapE_DM]

Yup. I've discovered recently that I'm more like my father than I ever imagined. Some of it is good. Some bad.

[@everythingiseconomics9742]

I think my dad's biggest problem (he can be absurdly oblivious to problems in things he agrees with or people he likes) is something I'm pretty much the opposite of. Other than that, we're really similar, and don't know how many other flaws I got from him.

[@TheHyena-ru8bz]

I love Star Wars.

[@ElBlancoPapi]

I like the REAL Star Wars, not this newer Social Justice, multi-culti version

[@madcircle7311]

David Belcher i like the EU

[@_Tekton_]

please do a philosophy break down on both the dark and light side

[@re-membered9398]

It would be really cool if you did one on the relationship b/t Children and mothers.

[@MorseCodeStutters]

When I became aware of all the flaws I've inherited from my father, that's when my acceleration into self work began. I've resented him ever since he first beat me as a child, so young I can't even remember if I ever idolized him before that. I grew up with so much disdain for authority and resorted to violence so handle conflict, just like I learned at home. But once I realized how much it was killing my spirit to be like him; violent, socially inept, and impatience, I saw the tremendous potential in myself to develop virtues opposite to his vices.

[@enzopena1875]

I really dont want my father's life, or even be like him, i dont hate him but i feel like he just haven't acomplish anything and thats very sad

[@Crick1952]

Then recognize how you're like him and don't make his mistakes or you will be just like him.

[@olgak.1139]

Well,you nailed it.Kylo Ren embraced at last Han's influence and became again a Solo.

[@poet279]

I have never wanted to be like my dad.

[@richardscathouse]

I had more than enough grief trying to survive then get ahead. With no connections and a lousy example

[@anthoneyrago]

Thanks so much for making this. I’m a hard core Star Wars fan and I watch a lot of the theory videos and comment on KZbin quite a bit. I’ve said for a long time that Kylo is more like Han than Vader in his personality. A lot of fans don’t see it they just say “he’s a vader fanboy” I’ve always connected Luke and Kylo as having subverted fears. Luke was afraid of becoming just like Vader and Kylo is afraid he’ll never be as strong as Darth Vader. But you just confirmed why he’s wanting to he just like Vader and it’s out of denial to be like Han. He is just like Han though. From his inner conflict to his hilarious fits of frustration when things don’t go his way. I seriously believe Adam Driver was going for playing Kylo as being more like Han. His character is so interesting to me because he’s a horrible villain but I think he’s supposed to be. The whole time of my first viewing I kept thinking “this guy is not in the right place, he’s not doing what he’s supposed to be doing.” I think that’s the point of the character arc. I believe that Kylo is on a reverse Anakin from the prequels. Where Anakin went slowly to the dark, Kylo will go slowly to the light. As a fan though what do you think of a reverse Obiwan with Rey? Where Obiwan left Anakin to die and gave up on him broke from his attachment with him and let go of his compassion for him (biggest problem with the Jedi Order right? Lack of attachment) left him for dead, Rey will Right this wrong, her compassion for Kylo May develop through a deep connection of n the Force (possibly even romantic mirroring Palme and Anakin relationship) and she will never give up perhaps a moment will come when she has to make a decision to leave him for dead or go back for him. Where Obiwan left him Rey will go back for him embracing the connection and compassion for him forming an attachment with Kylo. Especially considering Rey wants belonging and has serious issues with abandonment. What do you guys think Charisma? #reylo

[@theOGsarno]

All. Of. This. You were so right.

[@anthoneyrago]

Amber S. Yeah I guess I was in the end. She struck a fatal blow just like Obiwan did to Anakin. She had the choice to save his life or leave him for dead. She made the compassionate choice and it turned his heart. To be honest I forgot I ever wrote this comment and because of growing weary of so much turmoil in the fandom I haven’t engaged in Star Wars content for a very long time. Thanks for this though it made my day to see your reply and re-read a comment that I had forgotten about.

[@samuelbustillos6450]

Yessss! Please do that video about the philosophy behind the force

[@butters742]

You just made that scene even more deep, didn't take the factor that luke idolized his father.

[@ezekielleveriza4071]

I've never really idolized my dad more so I idolized my mom... like my dad is smart but my mom is a scientist HA MY DAD ISN'T MY DESTINY!

[@diegodipalma8934]

Yes, go for the light side philosophy video please

[@fuelfiredesire9005]

wow, this video helped me so much, you have no idea, i always loved star wars but never thought such a message was in it.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you found it helpful!

[@NightWatchersPet]

I don't think it's only guys that go through this; I'm very nearly a clone of my father in a lot of ways - inherited his temper, his outdoorsman nature, and I'm fairly certain my ADHD came from him as well. I definitely idolized him when I was little, and it turned to anger and denial for a long time before I came to terms with a lot of who my dad is, and how that informed who I became

[@otheraccount2713]

Wow, this one cut deep

[@heavymetalfitness2091]

JustPassingThrough sounds like a personal problem

[@J031w]

Philosophical videos are good. They help us to understand the reasons behind why we do what we do and therefore we can create or own techniques for how to change our behaviours if the ones you give don't work for us, or if we just want to go deeper. Keep them coming 👌

[@Cormac_YT]

*I HAVE DADDY PROBLEMS* SHOOTS DAD= *PROBLEM SOLVED*

[@Darth_Bateman]

Dad : *Wilhelm Scream*

[@thewrathematician1911]

I HAVE MENTAL PROBLEMS SHOOTS BRAIN = PROBLEM SOLVED

[@CollinBuckman]

Pretty sure that's basically what Kylo did.

[@TheBohobemeister]

As always, wonderful video!

[@toptater108]

This video owned my life fr

[@4yourSELFACMS]

Yes more Star Wars Breakdowns!!!

[@callumadams8364]

Wow, great video. I never thought about it like that but you are right. Personal I have see my father as monster but i am trying to see the many good things he did, in all but 3 way he was a great man who did so much good.

[@elithunder]

Good stuff! I'm surprised he didn't speak about Commotus and the Emperor in Gladiator.

[@canary_aye9656]

Thank u very much....I found the trait my dad has, a trait I hated and now I see I adopted it without even knowing. And knowing the truth really sets me free cuz now I know what to work on

[@jasonlamb9400]

Hi Charlie! Your channel is fantastic, one of my favorite places on KZbin. It's brilliant. I've been applying your techniques and for the most part they work great, except in one category: depressed and/or "mean girls". You know the type of people that are jealous of confident people, very insecure and want to deflate others, or can't stand to have someone else shine, or have been raised not to celebrate other people but to be sarcastic and cynical. There are a lot of these people and I find charismatic techniques don't really work with them. Some of these people are co-wrokers and so I need to get through. So, how do you disarm them and get them to your side? Thanks so much!

[@thesquirteler4520]

Would you consider doing a breakdown on Batman's dark and brooding appeal? I just saw Justice League and I'm reminded that so many people are drawn to Batman's grittiness and dark nature.

[@chen2xable]

sheeett... you nailed it with the luke becomes like his father

[@Kal-El_was_taken]

A topic I've recently been struggling with and definitely a great way to explain it thru the use of Star Wars

[@polabluenails]

This is so beautiful! I loved this video, and even not watching TLJ you got it pretty close. Why don't you do something about Reylo, and this new concept of balancing the Force?

[@NoUploadJustComment]

Another thing I love about the Han/Ben dynamic is at the end of episode 9 he forgives himself and basically allows himself to be Han's son. You can see it in his mannerisms and the fact that he literally returns at the end to save the protagonist (like Han did in episode 4). It's great.

[@Dedhaven]

I miss my Dad 🙁 i didnt think id be like him growing up without him but as i mature i start to act more and more like my Father

[@OsagieIsaacHRB]

wow...thank you for this video. I really don't want to end up like my father and hope I can come to terms and balance with the way I might be like him.

[@MrPinkok]

Fantastic and insightful video, thank you very much!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you like it Marco!

[@irisblunt2771]

Can you do a video on why Frank N Furter is so captivating?

[@madebymalachite1464]

Iris Blunt That would be awesome!

[@malachitemcevoy6653]

Iris Blunt Please!

[@halcyonfallow6890]

Iris Blunt I would totally watch that!

[@imagine6213]

Iris Blunt My friends and I need that video!

[@rosellecarmen5677]

Ooh! Rocky Horror Picture Show!

[@poison03nae]

Yessssssssss please amazing video! Mind blown speechless. As a woman we go through this as well. Once I learn that hey my parents are human and make mistakes like I will make mistakes hope someone could forgive me. It's been amazing!

[@andresgomez6575]

Love your videos

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you're loving them Andres!

[@thecrain4162]

Hi! Great video! Could you make please a review of charisma Gannicus from the show Spartacus?

[@Ragd0ll1337]

This video gave me the feels.

[@MelodySmilez]

Thanks for the video. Would love to see more about Star Wars.

[@alexandriab1347]

Great video!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you like it!

[@Dan-pq1tp]

Best video yet! Please more like this one.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Awesome! Glad you're digging it Dan :-)

[@dustybear0606]

Nice job Charlie, I didn't expect to get a video on shadow work. Very powerful stuff.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you liked it!

[@arsenioseslpodcast3143]

Negative by face-value and true by the deeper question. I haven’t spoken to my dad in 16 Years. He practically left all of us at a doorstep and has only just recently came into the lives of my older siblings - asking only for money. I haven’t spoken to him, though. So obviously my dad has nothing to do with my incredible success today. However, if I look at it from a different perception, my dad was suppose to be the man he was so I can become the person I am today.

[@OmbrogBox]

Yea, do a video on the light side philosophy

[@jazzminc.8166]

I'd love more star wars videos :)

[@naikshubhankar]

Yes , we do want the Philosophy video,waitingfor it 😀😊

[@FranDrakeS]

More videos like this please! And yes, dive into the philosophy of the light side of the force...that could be interesting!

[@16shatterglass]

More Star Wars please! But a look at the Captain Kirk/ Spock duo would be cool too.

[@mademoisellepoussy8999]

Great video! Loved it! It is the same in the movie Nocturnal Animals, Amy Adams refuses to accept that she is like her mother and finally does the same mistakes as she did. Keep going with that kind pf philosophical videos it s amazing

[@Brickzie]

Just watched this and luckily I realized this all by myself when my friend told me how much I'm turning into more like my dad and having some of his negative traits(not that it's bad but it's not one of the better traits to have if I were to follow my dreams), but I quickly realized I don't have to be like him despite idolizing him still. One thing I can't figure out though is how to be more like him as I still have a lot to learn from him, while trying to keep myself in check. Anyways, it's an interesting video!

[@Masteroogway40]

I love this. This whole video is so well done. I love the part how you say Luke realizes his own struggle is not with Darkness outside of him like the emperor but with the darkness inside of him. Those make the best stories. Where the hero has to deal with his inner demons. My favorite archetype in stories is the wise old Mentor archetype period in Star Wars it is Yoda. Or Gandalf or Dumbledore or Rafiki or Master Splinter Master Oogway I could go on. But the wise old Mentor archetype is unique in that they have not only defeated all of their external demons no no, it is true that there is no foe left that is a match for them but there is a reason for this. There's no foe left in the universe that is a match for them because they have mastered or defeated their inner demons as well more importantly. They have faced this idolisation or denial of the father and they have reconciled it among many other things. They have put their flaws under control. My favorite example of all is Master Oogway which is why that is my name on here. C Master Shifu is what I would call a trainer, he is not yet the wise old Mentor archetype. Shifu has defeated all of his external demons. There really isn't a match for Master Shifu physically, but the reason Tai Lung beats him at the end of the first Kung Fu Panda movie is because Shifu viewed Tai Lung as a son and he couldn't bring himself to fight him and it messed him up and throw him off. So Shifu still has inner demons to deal with. This is evident in his constant frustration with po and his impatience and short temper and his worry about the return of Tai Lung. Master Oogway is not worried why? Because he knows that everything will work out okay and he also knows that Tai Lung does no match for him so when push comes to shove if he had to stop him he could. He's only there for the growth of the hero and for no other reason. He has no growth left, the wise old Mentor in general has finished all of their growth and the only reason they're still around is to impart something to the hero and as soon as they do that they decide when they leave, no one has the power to take their life from them. And Luke is having to learn this. Yoda did the same thing, he died of old age when he wanted to.

[@dantespimp]

Please do a video on the downside of the Light force. I was doing my own research of this topic, specifically on masculine identities for my thesis. I came to the conclusion that the fall of Darth Vader had to do with the terrible teachings of the Light, which pushes people to suppress and deny their emotions than accept them and mold them in a positive way. In film, Anakin came to Yoda with his emotional conflicts, seeking help. But Yoda basically told him to forget about his feelings. He considered Anakin's emotions a liability, which they were. However, these attachments also gave Luke the strength to save his father. It's not a coincidence that only Darth Vader could defeat the Emperor - not Yoda, no Obi Wan, and not Luke. They all failed. Why? Because Darth Vader truly represented balance. He embodies both light AND dark. His humanity (and all the flaws that come with it) is a part of him. This balance enables him to make the sacrifice for his son.

[@Andry498]

great video, please continue with series :)

[@wongoli]

That scene still gives me goosebumps

[@QUARTERMASTEREMI6]

_“I’m inclined to think we are all ghosts-every one of us. It’s not just what we inherit from our mothers and fathers that haunts us. Its all kinds of old defunct theories, all sorts of old defunct beliefs, and things like that.”_ -Henrik Ibsen Henrik Ibsen had a term which he called "Ghosts" (or in both Danish & Norwegian, is Gengangere, which can be literally translated as "again walkers", "ones who return", or "revenants") stands for the way specific behavior continues to haunt us. Like ghosts, people don't see them, acknowledge them or they simply choose to ignore them, yet those same "ghosts" still haunt us, regardless of if one tries to deny it's there.

[@mwhite9298]

Can you do a follow up video on this about how fathers affect men and women different? This lesson is awesome, and readily applicable for men. Can we give the women some love? I think that would help your viewers (male and female) understand your point better.

[@vladimirmanuylov3013]

Making video about the philosophy of the light side of the force sounds like a great idea, we would love to see this one. I’m not a big fan, but what flaws can it have? I rly can’t imagine

[@youngloenoe]

@charismaoncommand how about talking about the difference between the dark/light side philosophies?

[@pierre9408]

Thank you Charlie ! Yes I'd love to watch a video on the force from you ;)

[@jasong5913]

So well done, thank you so much.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you liked it Jason!

[@KrisUpsideDowns]

Please do the video on the weakness of the Jedi philosophy, that will be awesome! The Super Carlin Brothers did one kind of similar titled something like "are the Jedi evil?"