The Stages a Narcissist Goes Through When You Leave Him

[@RawMotivations]

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[@parrymylogicthen290]

And soon as you go back. The abuse get worst! Don't go back!!!

[@robin2319]

History repeats, stay gone

[@Maria-bb]

That's the true. Never look back....

[@KM-oy5yh]

#ABSOLUTELY 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@kristinaaslanyan5150]

They revenge

[@writingpad7142]

Yep!

[@cierrabennett206]

DON'T YOU NEVER, EVER, EVER GO BACK!!!!!! YOU GET OUT, YOU STAY OUT!!!!!!!

[@MichaelMcDonald-r6h]

Can’t be reminded tooooo many times. Only advice needed

[@cierrabennett206]

@@MichaelMcDonald-r6h Right!!!! 👏

[@terridillon3053]

The audacity that THEY feel betrayed. What a f-ing joke. 😂

[@jennyskoblikoff173]

Yes. Absolutely what he does.

[@empress9857]

They always the victim

[@ak-47intelligence75]

You betrayed the image of the false self. The real them deserved the penalty.

[@sandistyles9890]

Right!! Its so annoying!!!

[@arbaknumbskull]

hahaha These beings work for satan. They hate everyone even themselves deep inside.

[@over-comer]

I didn't think my wife would leave either. When I learned what narcissism was, and that I had strong narcissistic traits, I slowly had to accept that I had been a toxic husband. I'm not diagnosed, nor do I qualify for a diagnosis, but you don't have to have NPD to be a narcissist. Don't want to remain one though. Focusing on healing.

[@RuboXing]

Man i wish more people with those traits would be mature as you are . have a nice day sir

[@mammadingo9165]

Good job mate keep it up

[@topguncat]

You have the rest of your life to do better for yourself and others. Use your time wisely and change will come.

[@phililemosia6956]

I'm so proud of u bcz u cn come out and accept. U will definitely be better bcz of this . Wishing u all the best 👍

[@temekosanders3421]

I wish there was more like you. Once you realize that you need help, you can definitely change.

[@PatricaKing]

Week 3 of the silent treatment. It hurt at first but now I'm just mad, who does he think he is to treat me this way! So he drops a bomb that he hasn't wanted to be together for 17 of the 22 years. 22years! HE has sacrificed his happiness. OMG. He spent all the money I had when we met, sold all the properties I bought, ran me into bancruptcy. My 2 older kids were shunned and my son actually took his own life 11 yrs ago. He is slowly turning our 2 boys against me. Then he goes silent. So I went silent too. He thinks I'm going to apologize to him for what HE said. Not gonna happen. I'm done. Good luck loser. I rather live under a bridge in a box than one more day with this evil, hollow, man child.😢 just pray for me! God will make a way❤

[@ellejee74]

🙏🙏🙏✌✌✌

[@cc1k435]

I'll pray for you, because I always say that I'D rather live under a bridge than do another round of this crap. 😂

[@giselleaberdeen3697]

6 mths later, curious what ended up happening...?

[@Ms.SelfFabulous]

Sending up prayers🙏🏾🙌🏾! Sorry you lost your son . Sometimes, people feel that's their only way out of what they are going through😢.

[@Helenaorange]

I have just read your comment and wanted to reach out to you and say that I hope you stuck to your guns and that you are healing nicely and caring for yourself in mind body and soul. I'm sorry you had to go through so much pain but I hope you've used it to become your strength and that life is bringing you more peace and joy and light these days. Sending those things out to you and good vibes , bless you 🤗

[@mortischahicks5341]

I JUST LEFT MY EX. NARC DAY 4 NO CONTACT!! And I feel good about my decision..

[@jessika_alice]

💪💪💪🥳🥳🥳🥳 Keep rollin' and NEVER EVER LOOK BACK!!! You got this!🌟🌟🌟😎

[@QueenBee-fg1iz]

Good for you! Stay strong 💪🏻 It does get better but please practice self care. I’ve been free a year and am doing well now.

[@vashhLOVE]

Stop talking to everyone that knows him too 👍🏾

[@juliemcdonald9178]

The difference on leaving a narcissist or pair of them behind is you’ll feel you’ve been reborn! Don’t stop to analyse your roll in the break up just keep walking. Load all that angst Energy into self care. You are worth every second of your time. Much love and light to you all.

[@irielion3748]

I left her 3 months ago. I'm glad I decided enough was enough.

[@karenhayes2014]

Left mine 30 days ago with just the clothes on my back, after 18 yrs,stress of abuse got down to 94 lbs.had to walk out while I could still walk

[@trishflorida4250]

Same here, I'm about to leave after 21 years of marriage and weighed 96 pounds.

[@karenhayes2014]

@trishflorida4250 I wasn't gone 3 days and he packed my things, while I was in hospice watching my sister die

[@Serendipity04130]

It’s scary at first, prepare and mentally prepare yourself before you leave. You will be okay, I promise!!! Xoxo. I’m like the terminator now, you will be too!!!! They’re all a joke!

[@KM-oy5yh]

#WOW,,Sister I went through the #Same thing, Went from #156lbs to #94lbs..#Lose #62 lbs...To make a long story short I #LOOK GOOD, NOW, #ABBA kept me n #STILL IS🎉

[@crystalhenry6939]

Left mine 2 years ago after 20 years. I had gotten down to 125, I'm kind of tall, so it was low for me. Since I've been away from him, I've put on weight, and I swear my hair feels thicker. I'm no longer constantly sick to my stomach.

[@KleeKaiPuppies]

Narcs are so mean and they enjoy seeing you suffer. I went no contact over a year ago now and it was very hard. I divorced him. The narc did exactly what this video outlines to a T. It’s been six months now with no attempts from him or his flying monkeys. I blocked them all and for awhile I’d get mean messages from other unknown numbers calling me a whore, a gold digger, a piece of sheet… And he’s the one who cheated on me several times. I loved him and was devastated. Narcs will never stop needing an insane amount of attention. Narcs are so hungry and thirsty that it’s actually scary. Bye bye narcie.

[@kaycampbell8532]

Good for you. Be proud you got away from him. The only thing is, it's still early and they may try to trick you again. Even if there's a lull in time they sometimes return to test you. Just be wary and don't fall for it. Bless you in moving forward to a better life.

[@KleeKaiPuppies]

@@kaycampbell8532 Thank you❤️

[@vonvon986]

I'm on the " new supply stage" 😂 since he can't deal with what he has done he's trying to fill that void.. but at the end of the day he will STILL be empty inside..

[@MsSemera]

Likewise. It's all for show the " new supply" it's a sad and pathetic tactic/ploy to create havoc and distress in your life. But the gig is up. We know and study all the horrendous strategies. We're so ready and understand the mission. It's a game for them. But we're armored and ready to fight back with clear wisdom and utter silence. Give them no energy in return. Stay in silence. It'll eat them up. The final word is your smarter and wiser then them. The real discard is them in themselves. They don't know it yet. You can't love anyone unless you dig deep and clean out the mess from within first. I hope you stay focused and out of the way. Eventually they'll stumble and fall like humpty dumpy. 🤦‍♀️ 😂

[@clintonnagy1662]

Me too. I saw the new supply and hold on while I laugh... " Bhahahahaha"... Yeah ok...good luck with that!!!

[@delaw2xoxo269]

You are 100% correct he accused me of cheating which I never did and discovered he was the one cheating the whole time. I'm glad and sad its all over for good. He use to drain me emotionally dealing with him. all the cycles were to much.

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[@kaitlynek]

He has accused me of multiple adulteries during this divorce phase of nearly 3 years, due to his delays.(He claims I am delaying. I am working toward a good settlement.) I am supposed to take the settlement he offers, according to him. Anyhow, as I mentioned, I found out that he has a woman on the side. He was always flirtatious and too familiar and looking at other women during the marriage, but i never knew if he had committed adultery. He is now.

[@ItsSoarTime]

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[@melj3880]

@@delaw2xoxo269 they are doing a projection of their own behavior their own lies their own betrayal on you.

[@vixter28]

The guilty, one always accuses the innocent one !

[@missee7951]

I left the Narc 6 years ago and he went through all those stages….. pissed him off so much that he couldn’t get to me. He even married his new supply….lol….didn’t last long. She left him too!

[@maggiemcdonald3185]

Discarded my ex 3 and half years ago was the smartest wisest decision i'v ever made in my entire life 🙌🙏

[@hibbertsh]

Stay silent, keep away, you loved them... they don't even like you, this is what IT told me!

[@KS-ne5mq]

They control everything they can including telling you not to be saying anything about anything that goes on in our home. 🛑

[@KM-oy5yh]

AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉

[@lindaflesch9083]

It was the dirty family secret, we couldn't tell anyone what was happening.

[@KM-oy5yh]

@@lindaflesch9083 AMEN AMEN, Sister, #Same here🙏❤️

[@k.nicole6846]

Mine is the polar opposite. The smear campaign is in full effect, but id never because being private versus secretive is a concept that he doesn't comprehend. I sent him alone to visit his family for Xmas this week, and I'm all packed up!

[@GabrielleHarris-np7jq]

He made me feel almost crazy that he abused me financially and emotionally for so long. Then when I left, he contacted all my friends and family (flying monkeys) he stalked my home, he begged, he accused me of never loving or caring about him after all I had done for him. Listening to this was shocking but felt like a breath of air, thank you for making me feel sane and not alone. ❤

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[@casiemarcel7762]

You can’t beat a narcissist, I have tried but you can’t. Their a waste of time. I had my run in with one & stayed 4yrs. I was dumb & I put myself in that situation. My fault for staying, he was just doing what he does & I allowed it by staying. So if anyone is reading this. If anyone is dealing with a narcissist & you continue to stay & allow them to run you crazy. It’s your own fault, a heart heals in time & the longer you stay away remember that. Stop being their toy & hope they meet someone who is exactly like them.

[@lauraoliver525]

It took me having a massive heart attack to realize I can't take his abuse anymore. 4 years of my life wasted. Thankfully we never lived together. He didn't even visit me in the hospital when I had my heart attack. Then weeks later told me I needed to start bringing in an income. I hadn't even been cleared by my doctor for work, and was still very weak. He didn't even pay for anything at my house, so why was this his concern? He complained about money but blew 600 dollars at a casino. Its painful, but im relieved to not be so stressed and anxious about jumping through all his hoops and still getting raged at for no reason. I just can't imagined that anyone else would endure his crap. So good luck to him...

[@christinacouncill8037]

I’m in the stage where he came back after a 2 year break up and now not even a year back together the cheating has continued. It’s a cycle

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[@blaisemom3103]

After 14yrs one son I left my narcissist 16 days ago after seeing in his phone at least 7 different women that he is in a relationship with including his ex girlfriend that he has 2 children with and swore that he was just co parenting with. Im struggling this is so hard so painful I feel like I'm going through withdrawal 😢 these videos are helping so thank you!

[@0neandOnlyyy]

💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@aizzamoque5569]

You deserve so much better. I know its going to be hard but eventually a better you will emerge. I'm going through so much c ra p with my narc husband and I'm just done like I dont care what he does anymore or what happens to him.

[@cherrybacon3319]

You will get there. Be strong. 🍒

[@nataliew8529]

You so deserve better. I hope you have a happier and more peaceful life without the narcissistic person in your life.

[@keniag5]

These video help SO much 😊 YOU will be ok. Hang in there, you got this! ❤

[@traceykibble7518]

Not one person that we knew will come anywhere near me. I was kind to these people for near on a decade, his family, our so called friends but ofcourse they will tell a different story. As hard as it is to realise the mindset of the narcissist, its even harder to accept that people who seemed like 'normal' compassionate people would as good as leave you for dead to save themselves. Its a painful lesson to learn about people in general.

[@lisaaube3139]

Absolutely. I’ll never understand it. Victim of a smear campaign.

[@phil692]

It's ok, before it's over the truth will come to light... because after you , it will be someone else...

[@kathleenquinn6053]

The hoovering & begging is the worst part. Don't let them back. It will only get worse

[@angieb9076]

I'm in the discard stage. I was told he HAD to go to the new supply b/C I treat him so terribly. After realizing that he is a narcissist I believe it's best I was discarded, but it still stings knowing I meant nothing.

[@JoisannaKirby]

Same.. I’m glad I was able to get clarity and be done with his sickness n games.. it’s hard knowing it was lies, fake, disgusting behaviors over all the years we were married and had a child together but at least he’s off feeding from his new supply. Hopefully he’ll finally be able to enjoy himself with his new shiny things since I was so horrible and never ever call me, leave voicemails or send any texts to me directly again. I say peace out!! ✌🏼😂

[@ladyjay9668]

You can't mean anything to Mr NOTHING

[@haneefahmuhammad3447]

Its been a month since I discarded my ex narc....BLOCKED HIM EVERYWHERE!!! He messaged me on a social media app that he blocked me on a while prior. I thought to myself, so after i went no contact, now im good enough to unblock? I didn't bother responding and blocked him there too...the thing that keeps me strong in my decision is knowing i was just a means for him...Grade A supply....but i am a great person to me. I also have a way better outlook of what boundaries are. This is all about you....and focusing on the fact that you are everything to you....meaning nothing to your ex is no longer a factor....STAY STRONG!!!!

[@Shalom.4.4.]

This is theeeeeee most accurate description of what I experienced with the narc! I’m defs saving this video 👌🔥 I’m 6 years post divorce and I STILL struggle with validation, and getting people to understand what I went through and how evil it was and why it changed me into a completely different person! It’s so hard to explain, it kinda makes me feel crazy 😭😭 But I really appreciate this video! Thank you ❤️

[@lisaaube3139]

Yes! The lacking validation force get we went through is tough… combined with the guilt that the narc tries to place upon us.

[@jasmith8438]

Yes, you speak my heart and my own frustrations and sadness feeling seen and known and understood ❤ such a crazy experience 😂😢😅

[@pattimcclelland6635]

Find a way to validate yourself. Don't look for it in anyone else. They were not with you, when you were being mistreated. They won't get it. Find your new Happy!

[@LC-gu2sc]

You should not have to repeatedly explain. Let it go, stop reliving the experience. Move on, except the change and allow time to help you heal. I was not real.

[@missee7951]

I’m 6 years away from the narc too. And don’t judge yourself….I literally just started therapy 3 weeks ago because I still deal with the pain.

[@Beanp2025]

The abuse escalates, hope to help others identify narcissists and save themselves from the endless abuse, exploitation and torture.

[@meuresouza1880]

I left a boyfriend who was so nice on the first 3 months and then I started to see/hear things that I was not happy about it. Some stupid jokes, words, making fun of something in my body. I had an emocional breakdown and then left him. He made me feel so guilt that I wanted to go back to him and he did not wanted the relationship anymore. Why would I want to go back to somenone who does not care at ALL?I have no Idea why I was begging him to continue. I have no idea why I got so angry that day. I guess I had a "Full Cup"of every little things that happened during the relationship.

[@Beanp2025]

@@meuresouza1880 You dodged a bullet, lucky you!

[@meuresouza1880]

@@Beanp2025 It was a 6 month relationship, but after I left "he decided" that we could be only friends and I said "No". Yesterday, after 0 contact, he sent me an email telling me that he have found another person. I don't understand why he had to tell me that...How sick!??he knew I liked him...

[@vladimiraszegenyova1509]

Omg this exactly how it was with my ex he started saying things about me and insulting me attacking my appearance and body etc...and then blame me for it and played victim​@meuresouza1880

[@vladimiraszegenyova1509]

​@@meuresouza1880because that's what narcissists do...they love cause pain

[@debbier9555]

Love your statement; 'Hover does not mean 'care'.'. 'Hover is Control' Very important to realize these truths.😮

[@SafeWorkouts]

I had to stop and think what is it that I need to straighten out inside me that has me tolerating this crap, forget about him, why do I let it happen. I realize that I have work to do on my post trauma before he showed up, he’s just a predator that detected an injured prey because if I was healthy I’d have no problem walking away from the bullshit cause I know what love is but fact that I let it happen is a concern to me

[@kmduarte2005]

The fact that you even became aware of how these dynamics came to be is HUGE! Plus, questioning how the traumas you endured before the narc entered your life, and how those traumas played a role in any of it, that’s HUGE!! Consider yourself fortunate to be so emotionally evolved that you are able to see it from that perspective. Many never do, and they go to their graves thinking they were defective, or unworthy of being loved. Keep investing your time and effort into your healing, and the good people will gravitate toward you. You deserve that.

[@lauralynn2210]

I'm soooooooo glad you mentioned "hoover does NOT mean care" that is SO IMPORTANT!!!!! That is so important because for years, yes years that was my assumption. It was wrong. I assumed hoover meant care, UNTIL that hoover trapped me in and used against me in a very manipulative way. I was blackmailed. I always thought hoover meant care, no it certainly does not mean care. When you deal with someone so messed up, they don't think logical, they can try to rope you back in just to plow you down in their tracks and laugh in your face, or to have the last say/situation. They want the ability to trample all over you. I've been there, I've been trampled on. Yes they are that evil

[@NehaSharma-777]

Right. They just want revenge.

[@BlackthornBetty]

Accurate information. I barely survived having a relationship with a narcissist. Never again. I can spot that love bombing now a mile away and it makes me want to be physically ill when I see it.

[@Therealdonaldtrumpusa]

I’ve been through this with 4 guys since 16 and I’m 32 now. My absent father and single working mom really left me as pray for these insecure energy vampires. I never forgave my dad (he was murdered) for this either. Just dumped this last bf who I thought was the one, but I caught him ignoring me and adding an ex (who has a bf) on fb. I don’t understand why some people feel the need to be “parented” by their partner, it’s sick and not fair. I’m an only child and basically raised myself so no, I’m not going to coddle some dude in how to behave correctly. That’s not love it’s enabling. As a woman I only want to entertain a man please, not a project.

[@CD-DMV]

We may be twins cause SAME!!

[@NehaSharma-777]

A project 😂

[@arbaknumbskull]

Aloha There appears to be more Narcs than not. You are a kind person which is a bright light for them to see. Best to love yourself.

[@guyincognito7808]

Nope, sounds like a narc yourself. Projection, playing the victim...

[@prinsessaization]

Just got away from my narc ex boss and boy was it the best CHOICE I ever MADE! 🥳

[@amberelston809]

Currently being exposed to the smearing stage. Day 3 of no contact.

[@emmajackson5139]

Stay strong. You know the truth

[@RawMotivations]

It's been a while, how are you doing now?

[@yungkaos3500]

@@RawMotivationsi’m curious to know as well

[@heal801]

He's currently acting like a victim and begging me to come back. Sending me pictures of empty liquor bottles and ash trays full of cigarette butts (because he knows I hate when he uses those substances excessively). He told me yesterday that he went to the ER for an ulcer (to make me feel bad for him), then said he was going to the bar to drink immediately after. He told me he started up his dating apps again and added a bunch of new females on Instagram (I'm assuming to make me feel hurt and jealous). He's such a child. I pray that he gets help.

[@AngelsHikari]

I always see the hoover stage as their performance. Their act...its never authentic, just a ploy to not only reel you back in but to perform and win other potential supplies. I noticed these maneuvers also happen in public to semi-public areas and its kinda like a peacock dance. When its starts I ghost quickly or vanish in a crowd.

[@CarniBarbie]

Just told my husband tonight that I want him to leave. I’m so done.

[@jennykoekemoer7013]

Im in the stage of leaving him! I'm done, gave my all and cannot go on like this anymore 😞 I got to stay strong after a bad session yet again today...I have to build a new life as far from this man as possible! With God, my children, family and friends by my side, im finally at the point of leaving this toxic relationship after 10 years of total hell. 💪💪💪🙏

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[@Cryoniczz11]

I’m in “no contact” but now I’m getting random phone calls. I downloaded an app on my phone to where the notifications get automatically forwarded. 💪🏽 all good.

[@elisehamilton7878]

Exactly and found out over my 44 years of life that they have secret friends who are exactly the same.

[@stephenlassiter7066]

You've proven that your narcissist shouldn't be trusted under any circumstances.

[@elmaswanepoel1598]

Yup. What I experience all the time. TIME TO GET OUT FOR GOOD. Please pray for me, for courage and strength to do it in spite of the trauma bond.

[@celestemcmillan2006]

I left him , he was gaslighting and lies constantly, texts bs and calls and hangs up , i had to block his accounts

[@miraclehands9040]

Thanks for this video. It is helpful. Im having difficulty at 66, recovering myself and my life after recently leaving my X fiance narc.

[@RawMotivations]

Hi , how are you now? Hope you are still healing and better

[@miraclehands9040]

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[@miraclehands9040]

@@RawMotivations I am feeling a l ittle better, thx, however, there is still a specific situation, which I mentioned before, and with which Im at a loss to move ahead on. I seriously need to. It is holding up my ability to completely move on, and it is very stressful as it affects my safety.

[@arturitodingo6635]

I left my narcissistic wife after 23 years of putting up with everything hoping she would eventually change. Not sure what stage I am or she is, but let me tell you that I probably unleashed WW3 but is way too early to make an assessment. I know i will start fighting battles but my goal is to win the war and go back to my usual self, before this horrific story. Really liked your video, you are telling my life story. Thank you!

[@louiseelliott6404]

106 days NC. He’s blocked and deleted. Tried a hoover just over a week ago by sending me a friend request via Snapchat. I don’t even have a Snapchat account. I ignored it. No contact I remain forever. He disrespected me totally after emotionally and financially abusing me. The least he deserved was for me to blindside him by one day just removing myself from the toxic situation I’d found myself in. I totally lost myself in the manipulation, lies and deceit. I didn’t know him. I just knew the man who wore the mask (not the man behind the mask) who love bombed me by mirroring me. Essentially you initially fall in love with yourself not the narc.

[@LoveEndures7]

It was painful but im so grateful for the strength I never knew I had

[@PsychedPerspective]

I essentially left months ago (3 months to be exact, and really pulled back 2 months ago) and finally Wednesday made up my mind I was done after nearly a year of bullshit. Finally sent the last message bc I refuse to ghost 👻. Said my piece. Blocked him on everything. Removed his contact months ago …. I know his number though lol by heart but …. I blocked his number too. So I can actually heal and move the hell on with my life.

[@ElaineUnicorn]

first....I love your videos. second....my narcissist is my brother. It is difficult to remove a family member from your life. It had to be done. This video made me cry & realize things about myself. Many thanks for your help. :)

[@RawMotivations]

Thanks for sharing!! Wish you the best on yourhealing journey

[@WaterBug46]

In mirroring/Hoover stage. I left him but came back. The nastiness still peaks out occasionally bc he just can’t help it, but overall he’s being very good. I’m still divorcing him. I’ve been here before and know what is coming. Nothing is worth abuse.

[@mystiquelareaux]

It's the arrested development for me when they're in denial about the ish they put you through meanwhile they've cheated the entire one sided situationshit and expect you to stick around...yes their delusional for sure!!! Trust everyone will see them for the toxic shits they truly are...

[@cherrybacon3319]

They apply whichever part of the cycle fits at that particular moment because we get the upper hand. Its almost amusing to watch, but they can akso turn insidious in their revenge. 🍒

[@mstashfish5796]

It makes so much sense now when you said that they keep the channels open with all of their exes to keep access available. I never understood why my narc was friends on social media and still talked sometimes to several of his exes! He would say "we are just friends".

[@robin2319]

Everything you say is how it is , so confusing to understand, but it’s just how they are , the narc will not change to a better person no Matter what and to save yourself just leave them

[@marymotherofgod4861]

They get very angry cuz they gotta seek another sucker to groom manipulate they r evil sneaky cunning to the bone NEVER EVER GO BACK LESSON LEARNED MOVE ON 💜🙏

[@Tallcookielover]

My ex called the police on me after I changed the locks and acted like such a victim that they locked me in a room for three hours while he stole all my valuables. Three months later after no contact, he sets a fire in my backyard and tried to burn down my house. Be careful! If I were to do it again, I wouldn’t have told him exactly what I thought of him when I broke up with him.

[@Sun_moon_1111]

It is good that she has humbled you and teached a lesson.

[@stillraisincaine]

This is spot on, he has done everything you said. Now him and the new supply in smearing mode.

[@Dorythefish13]

Currently in no contact - successfully for 5 months. There has been some mild hoovering attempts this time, but I went back after 3 catastrophic implosions of our "situationship" over the past 14 years. But really I first dated him 30 years ago - had other relationships from age 19 to 33 - then we reconnected. What a mistake, my biggest regret. This time my eyes are finally fully open, and I finally understand what has been going on. I will never return. I will never respond. I am holding fast, attending therapy and working on myself to be the kind of strong, self-loving, boundaried person a narc would avoid.

[@ReginaFisher-hx5rj]

Thank you for what you’re doing. This made me step away completely.

[@RawMotivations]

Glad I could help

[@debbier9555]

@RawMotivation Great honest, important information to help abused victims see reality and move towards healing. Thank you!

[@Zoeybelle13]

Correct on all accounts! “I never thought you’d really leave…😢” after HE broke off the relationship twice before. And I foolishly went back both times. 😣 This time I left - for good. Now the smear campaign. The things he has said about me are so distorted and untrue. Took getting a PPO to get him to leave me alone. He requested a hearing to get it revoked - but the judge determined it should stay in place! 🎉I think he got the message this time. He can say whatever he wants to. I no longer care.

[@Tania...eastjava]

I'm with you. Never look back

[@MissPrettyNPink]

He is ghosting me at this point. He kept reaching out and I would not respond.. He reached out to tell me he had a woman and to leave him alone. So I did. Even though I wasn’t contacting him before at all. Then he contacts me to say Im mean etc. I almost kinda let him back in. Then I was like NO.. Finally I did reach out because he said he has an std on social media. I opened the lines of communication and he was like I never said that ? I’m fine. So I said okay I’ll just go get tested. Then I said do you have anything to say? Nothing total silence. I got so mad 😡 it’s like you have been bugging me for months. So I get mad and say I just wanted closure etc but of course I block him before he can respond. I was feeling horrible because I can tell he doesn’t care. He has stopped basically chasing me on his Facebook he is talking about all the women he is dealing with etc. so I am in the ghosting phase. After they chase you for so long when they stop it has you wanting to chase them. Just evil people

[@Zoeybelle13]

@@MissPrettyNPink I think everything he is doing (talking about all the women he is dealing with, having an STD, etc.) is just a way to keep you engaged with his life. I would bet none of it’s true! He WANTS to “tease” you and hopes you’ll reach out to him. Don’t do it!! I know it’s hard - took me 4 years to realize what was really happening, how I was controlled and manipulated. It was a challenge to finally ghost my ex-fiancé, but so worth it now that I’m on the other side. 🙌🏻💜

[@Sunflower48034]

OMGGGGG!!!!!!!! Every word, every single word out of your mouth absolutely true. I ignored the flying monkeys so he sent me an email "reminding" me that he owns me, every part of me. 😢 Madness!!!

[@RawMotivations]

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[@Yathome00]

I am in the stage that I dumped him 14 years ago went no contact the entire time and he has intermittently tried to Hoover me, with ZERO success.

[@empressb444]

That's bc he wants what he wants from you, they don't stop either nor take no for an answer. You'll eventually need a restraining order

[@mozhdehmoazedian4727]

I am in the stage that he posted all over social media with the new supply and let everyone see it

[@RawMotivations]

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[@elainesmith5313]

I have already been through all that you spoke of.....the slander continues ... .but I am doing well!!!! Narc husband died. This is coming from the Malignant X Mother in Law. She is 91 yrs OLD and feels entitled to have me take the deceased husband's place...her son..take care of her. She discarded me...issued insults and character assination, and then tried to pull me back in no contact X 1yr. Sold my home and land close to her and his family and moved away. No Contact with any of the Narc Cult Family ....healing with help from you and professionals. It's a no Win situation! Run as fast as you can!! Be Safe.....they are dangerious, milicious, and vindictive............RUN!!

[@inhisservicegodis3287]

❤❤❤❤, BEN I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD TAKE 6 YRS. TO BE FINISH WITH THIS. IT DID ONCE IT WAS FULLY EXPOSED. 😊😊 YOUR COMMENTARYS KEPT ME FOCUS, GROUNDED AND DETERMINED. I HAD TO REVERT BACK TO HOLD ONTO MY MORAL PRINCIPLES. I CAN TELL YOU MY LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER. REGARDS AND LOVE TO YOUR MOM. PLEASE KEEP PRAYING 🙏 FOR ME. HEALTH, OH MY...HOLDING THUS FAR, BUT NOT A GREAT IMPROVEMENT. AGAIN, MANY THANKS, AMEN! GOD IS.. ❤❤❤

[@alouise3557]

This will be the only video ever, other than short funny clips, that I watched twice AND that l emailed to myself.

[@chrissys9968]

Omg. I went through alot like our commenters LOVE and GOD Bless You all. Thank You now there can be healing 🙏

[@tojekproperties2013]

I cut contact from him. So I can get my power back. So he doesn’t know my next move.

[@Red-Iceberg]

That was a whole lot of chaos and craziness no one in their right mind should want any parts of a person filled with utter nonsensical goobly gook. I'm 3 happy years out. When I left I knew I wanted no parts of that unhealthy reality (or non-reality) ALL the stages dude went thru, good for his azz, I wasnt there for it, didnt go thru it and if he's a Narc its a horrible personal problem that he should go get help with. Life is too short, I have no time nor sympathy nor desire to live in HELL❤❤❤Good riddens to the PSYCHO! I MEAN THIS FROM MY HEART. Narcississt are evil they are from the pit of HELL.

[@kristinestanley8100]

I left my ex first a week ago. He ended up in jail got charged with domestic violence

[@Heavyonkim]

Changed my number 4 days ago and couldn’t feel more free !!

[@rhythmnblues9195]

The stage I am in right now is I’ve blocked him on everything. He was completely silent and emotionless during the breakup. I wish I had more answers but I’ve come to the conclusion I’ll never get them and need to work on being a happier and better person. Still love the person I thought he was…he seemed very gentle, kind and supportive. But he’s a liar, and a very good one.

[@kerirogers6923]

I know exactly what you mean. I've been trying to rack my brain for answers and why, why he lied about the stupidest things we would meet for a date in his truck.and I was so stupid. I was intimate because he said he didn't have a place to stay, but then I'd follow him home, and he go to his home, he claimed he sold the lies were just unbelievable, silly and crazy, I don't think I'll ever get the answer he has, he does exactly what the video says, denies blames it on me, so yes, let's keep strong and run don't look back it's so hard when you still care about them and love them, but it's for the best

[@natashahall2134]

Right now I'm just becoming aware of the term narcissist. I'm learning what gaslighting, flying monkeys, scapegoat, Grey rock and all these words even mean. So since he fits the bill for NPD I'm planning my escape. I can't go to any local DV shelters because they're full. And that's sad enough that they're full cause that means there is that much domestic violence happening 😢I'll just keep searching and learning

[@RawMotivations]

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[@sambam9129]

2 years later and he still turns up to places I go to thinking I'm going to talk to him. NOT!

[@donnamaree3047]

Thanks Ben. Straight forward, comprehensive analysis of these extremely complicated situations with narcissists

[@RawMotivations]

Thank you. Would love to help you on your healing journey. If I can be of help feel free to grab a time here at www.rawmotivations.com

[@shawnaclark8266]

I'm in the smear campaign right now but this gives me hope😊

[@RawMotivations]

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[@gayemurphy3271]

Big huge thank you ❣️🙏 ☘️

[@susanturner9023]

Yep, I’m in the Hoovers, flying monkeys are his parents. I’m gonna loose so much of what I have given to this relationship all the love, the time the money, I loose if I stay I loose to leave. I’ve lost closeness with my family and friends he drove away. Why are narcissists the best and worst people you’ll ever meet. A monster catch 22! I have to figure out how to leave with my soul intact and with minimal loss of my financial survival. 😢

[@jlindb2119]

I'm 3 years out and fantastic! Just brushing up so I steer clear of these fools. Thanks for the 411.

[@noramcv]

I'm very appreciatative for this video - what it's like from the narcissist's p.o.v. isn't often addressed. I'm so glad to have discovered this channel - thank you.

[@RawMotivations]

Glad it was helpful! Https://www.rawmotivations.com/survivor

[@liorasitelman1856]

I hope leaving my ex husband caused him HELL! He certainly put me through hell

[@judithargitay9860]

I was the new supply, the previous one dumped him, and fortunately I saw through him a couple of weeks into dating and dumped him, too. Never seen a person so desparate, I suspect I was witnessing a narc collapse, that was too much for him. But that's his problem, not mine. Been no contact since totally, and now I'm off to the mall to check on the new perfume release my besties suggested the other day (I'm into fragrances). Life goes on, I don't need toxic people around. Thanks for this video.

[@the_veronica_k]

He’s been flaunting his new supply for about 2.5 months on his social media now (he has a massive following on Insta and KZbin). 2 weeks before his new supply appeared on his socials, he was telling my I was his girl and that he’s “in love” with me…we were together for almost 2 years. I did the final discard after about 10+ discards I made over 12 months before that, but he kept hoovering with begging, tears, promises to change, fauxpologie’s…and it worked every time. Not this last time…he stopped hoovering and I maintained my no contact n blocked him on everything (including blocking his flying monkeys n mutual friends). He refused to even acknowledge that we’re were still together to all his social media followers for the last 12 months we were together, let alone post a pic of us. That was a huge problem for me cos he was always playing kinda single on socials, and was acting like I didn’t even exist when everyone would be asking where I am. Now he’s flaunting the new supply every couple of days on socials…he knows people that still follow him will tell me about it. He’s doing everything with the new supply that I expected of him. It hurts like hell…but I also know her time is coming. The betrayals with these monsters don’t stop with all the abuse you dealt with during the entire relationship…they keep betraying n hurting you even after you’ve left n are trying to heal. They are literally like the devil!!!!

[@kerirogers6923]

I can't believe how many times I've had that thought with my narcissistic relationship. They're the devil they are just pure evil.

[@kayesmith2518]

This was an on point video. It's the trying to alienate you from your family and friends that gets me, so they can have u all to themselves to abuse u in all the ways they do

[@sallybyrd3712]

Such a clear description. Yes, they say you will never make it without them and they can not believe it when you do. The smear campaign is real.

[@deewarr278]

I’m speechless 😮. Thank you so so much for this message. Praying for all of us! Hoover stage.

[@Boymom515]

Your videos are life rafts to drowning people. 🙏

[@violettarv]

This is so true. When I told my nx hus I wanted to leave he only said he was happy because I was strong enough to leave him. He had this attitude of surprise. I think he thought I would never go. One month after I left he applied a smear campaign against me. Three months later he finally asked why I left. I tried to explain because I was tired of being treated so disrespectfully by him. I didn't want to hear him screaming in my face again or saying such vulgar insults against me, Also because we did not do anything together anymore. But he didn't listen. He concluded that I left because I was jealous. I just thought dude think what you want, the important thing for me was that I was no longer under his verbal and emotional abuse. Then, he tried to send me insulting messages. I was done, so I blocked him. Now I am just waiting for his next movement. I feel threatened by the possibility of receiving another emotional/verbal attack. I hope he continues dedicating his attention to his new supply and forgets all about me.

[@staceycleary8736]

My ex Narc used to point his finger in my face & say “ I own you!” Well I left 11 months ago. How did that work out for ya?!

[@empressb444]

Omg 😮, that degrading of hin to do that to u 😢. Is he bothering u now?

[@Saranja691]

I’m in the “trying to get out “stage again!

[@dorlistorres8034]

Thank you for covering this topic 🙏

[@annettemcclain347]

I think im in a stage after 11 years, and finally blocking him. It's getting to a stage of danger.

[@RawMotivations]

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[@nitaf6794]

Im at the begging stage now and just wish he would stop because im tired of blocking numbers etc etc 😢

[@empressb444]

Restraining order and change ur number, he won't stop bc he's trying to force his way back to u

[@jacksaintjack2844]

(online person over seas) I've been through the love bombing phase and am now struggling in the devalue phase. It is brutal. Ghosted over the weekends leaving me wonder what she is doing and who she is doing it with. Taking up to 7 hours to respond to a message I send. Treating me with indifference and made to feel I am pretty low on the priority list. Too busy to reply to me. I am totally consumed with anxiety and depression. I am going to beat her to the discard phase. That happens tonite. I will discard her BEFORE she can discard me. I will simply outine our relationship to the current devaluing phase (with facts) and then tell I am not going to let you hurt me by discarding me, because I just discarded you. I hang up and then block her in every way. She now has no way to contact me.

[@TheAdventuresOfCollegeGiRL]

I’m so confused. Going back and forth. Is it in my head? Stonewalling, gaslighting, blamed for things that aren’t my fault, one day he’s loving , vulnerable, kind and the next he’s a monster- name calling, yelling, refuses to answer any questions and gets upset when I ask ANYTHING. Defensive, “word-salad.” He told me gaslighting him. Accuses me of sleeping around and I’m not. I haven’t been perfect. I’m so anxious. Calls, texting, unannounced visit. He’ll argue and then block me so I don’t have space to express my feelings @ thoughts 😔 but he says I always make it about me. I can’t recall the last time we actually had a back and forth conversation. I’m confused, depressed, alone.

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[@mamiijayy308]

I went through the EXACT SAME THING and felt your same emotions. It doesn’t get better. Break the soul tie, realize you deserve better and then leave. Staying will only kill your spirit and soul. You’ll begin to convince yourself that you’re worthless and deserve to be mistreated. Love yourself enough to leave

[@TheAdventuresOfCollegeGiRL]

@@mamiijayy308 I'm still not sure.. I know I have things to work on and own. He's convinced I'm lying to myself and need to accept who I am. I KNOW what type of relationship I want, what I've ALWAYS wanted and the one he is proposing isn't it. Yet, he is willing to what I am more comfortable with for our relationship. He can be so deeply understanding. I struggle with the possibility that he is fighting his own trust issues due to past betrayals coupled with the fact that he is truly "in-love" with me and again, distrustful and subconsciously sabotaging to protect. IDK... frustrating and confusing for sure.

[@kerirogers6923]

please don't feel like you're alone, there are so many of us walking in your exact same shoes. I'm trying to get out of a three-year narcissistic relationship, same thing he was like, my soul mate loving kind, and then he would turn rage, lie lie lie, I can't believe the lies, and when I confront him on them, I was the one that didn't know what I was talking about. I was crazy, I didn't know the truth. I had proof of everything, but he still turned it on me, stay strong and know that you are not alone in this it's one of the hardest things I've ever gone through

[@QueenBee-fg1iz]

Spot on! I went through all this with my ex. I’ve been no contact a year after the last hover. When I caught him cheating, he actually texted me that he had told his friends that I left him so he could be the nice guy. When he hovered a year ago, he acted like nothing had happened and lied about being with the new woman. I gray rocked him, he left, and started the smear campaign 5 minutes later. His family were his flying monkeys. He told them that I was standing in the way of them accepting her. I went no contact with them 6 months ago as I needed to heal. Have felt at peace since and glad to be out of their toxic circle.

[@kingaberlakovich5585]

I said to my ex, I am done. He hoovered, said nice things, just to make me hope, and discard me.

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[@laurieberry162]

I guess they follow you when you don’t want them.

[@empressb444]

Yup, they don't care if u don't want them, in their mind I'm not through with u. They feel a sense of ownership over you that's why they do that

[@doreenthompson2672]

Yes he said how could you leave me when I needed you. He said I was cheating !! But there was a new supply as soon as I moved out.

[@Piperhalliwell1982]

He wanted to meet my therapist just to enlighten her about the real truth and how great of a human he really is... What really got me was when you said "how could you do this...you belong to me..." He actually made me say "I am yours, I belong to you" again and again. Specially during sex :( He really things that I am an object! H I S

[@anital5020]

My ex-husband wanted me to come back but I knew he only wanted to be able to discard me. If not discard he would have made my life worse than it was before. The secretaries at my attorney's office told me they thought he was crazy. They knew what his demands were for the divorce and they just laughed about him. He felt I owed him. He had financially abused me, verbally abused me, but I owed him according to him. He threatened me on the phone once telling me I was going to pay for what I had done. I told him off then hung up as I was no longer afraid of him. He tried calling and I would not answer. I had had enough being pushed around.

[@cassiebennet4262]

Same thing happened to my sister. His lawyers thougt he was nuts.

[@CanisLupus123]

The Narcissist so far has tried to contact me despite being blocked, has bad mouthed me and has told lies about me to anyone who will listen and has a different story depending on who the person is, has had people try to contact me about how we need to work on our friendship, driving by my house and work, and has now escalated to the point of filing reports on me to law enforcement. He told people in text messages that he wants to get my animals taken away and that he will help rehome them.