The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck | The Secret of Life, Sex and Money

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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Intro
05:48 - How To Get Girls - With Mark Manson
25:27 - Social Media Is Creating Social Anxiety
41:03 - How Mark Came Up With "The Subtle Art..
01:09:10 - Contemplating Mortality
01:22:05 - How Money Changed Mark Manson
01:28:50 - How Mark Learned To Say No
01:55:02 - Mark's Biggest Insecurity
01:58:26 - Mark's Best Book Recommendations
02:02:42 - Enduring The Right Types Of Pain
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[@IAmMarkManson]

Thanks for having me on guys. Was a blast.

[@biscaynesupercars]

Very insightful interview

[@00mazone]

Thanks Mark, you really have helped me figure some stuff out about myself from your KZbin video's.

[@meaningis]

Wow, I watched the whole two hours. Totally worth it. Mark is so genuine. I love that Graham and Jack seem really serious😄!

[@TrueCrimeLawyer]

Really inciteful interview Mark (and such an awesome book!)

[@ryangrant5879]

Mark is a great author and honestly an AMAZING KZbinr! Love the KZbin content!

[@kikpik1]

His book changed my life! I used to have really bad anxiety, until I realized if I die, none of this matters anyways. Ever since then, I've lived my life freely, facing all my fears. W Author, thank you so much for writing this book and changing my life.

[@kendals3833]

I am a happily married woman now 36 years old with 2 kids... THE BEST PICK UP LINE I ever got was simply ''Hello my name is Dave... I 'm sorry to sound so forward, but I think you are very beautiful... I would love to take you out for coffee or dinner this weekend if you are free''... That is it... If the woman feels like you might be a good match for her, that is all you need to say... Be clean when you say this, and confidence helps (but not entirely needed)... She will sense your energy and if she vibes with you then it will be an automatic yes... Like it was for me.

[@jayzg60]

This man changed my life forever. I am so happy he is getting more recognition. I wish more people would talk about his other book "Models"

[@britishcomedybroncorothschild]

But, he doesn’t practice what he preaches.

[@AccordingtoNicole]

@@britishcomedybroncorothschild What makes you say that?

[@josesixx8197]

Yup, it took me to while to even realize that the guy who wrote models was that super mainstream suble art guy 😂

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Lmao Zero actual receipts.

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[@nolaquev]

Jack is paying a lot of attention to the dating advice 😂

[@KryptonicHD]

he's asking ALL the right questions hahahaha!!

[@petrichors]

Yeah, I noticed 😂.. I truly wish Jack a very beautiful and loyal wife ASAP.

[@shikhaM1]

Haha. So true. I thought girls must be throwing themselves at him coz he is so good looking yet he was so keen on the advise . I do wish him a great love life ❤😊

[@JohnSmith-dm1wo]

Sex is boring as you get older. He probably doesn’t care about it

[@hermitabby]

​@Daniel_S_25 she didnt day he looks like a model that she thinks he looks very handsome. Looks are very subjective. I look like a troll to most people, my ex boyfriend thinks I look really beautiful its just subjective.

[@chimichangalesbo4345]

The iced coffee hour is my new obsession after loving Graham for years!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thank you so much!! Glad you enjoy it !

[@IISourAyyII]

I second that. Its a great evolution

[@blunterwun]

i love how sincere jack is. at first, i thought he was annoying but it adds so much to the show. it’s like a kid asking a father about books. good episode.

[@zipsidian]

Hey Jack! I thought you were an annoying idiot who is worthless but now I don’t! Great comment!

[@sheikhmohammadamin3609]

He is never annoying to me. He seems like a very smart person whos very inquisitive

[@blunterwun]

@@sheikhmohammadamin3609 i think i was self-projecting bro, it’s ALL love i love these guys lol.

[@callit3580]

@@sheikhmohammadamin3609 prejudice. Even the way he describe why he like jack it sounds insulting. Hes probably doesnt think much of jack cause hes young

[@absolutetruth3290]

Great book! I started the journey to not giving a crap about 7 years ago. And it has changed my life. I honestly don’t care what anyone think anymore. It is complete freedom.

[@darleneatkinson3906]

The Iced Coffee Hour & Mark, thank you all for this video, for me is I lived 66 years of my life one of the most feel good experiences I'd ever had is when something turns out better than I expected it to this make my inner heart happy and my soul joyful and that what I live for. Also, I truly love all the access to You-Tube videos 24/7 this is so great for me what an awesome world. thanks again for this video.

[@thatkidhrb]

So glad I found the Iced Coffee Hour through Caleb Hammers channel! Graham and Jack have such an interesting perspective on the influencer and youtube space. I also really appreciate the diverse guests!

[@jes6427]

Caleb is so awesome i tell everyone to watch him

[@1H4NDC14PP1N6]

Favorite episode so far. Jack also killed it this episode. He's becoming a real good podcaster. Obviously starting to look and feel comfortable behind the mic. Nice job guys.

[@andycloward]

You both do such a great job interviewing people. I love the flow

[@gemin1546]

This has quickly become one of my favorite channels. Guest after guests, constant hitters. Sky is the limit!

[@RyanSaplanPT]

Jack, love the questions man. Thank you for asking such great questions!

[@ColombianLNP]

Wooow did not think you would have him on. You guys are doing really well with the guests lately. I really enjoyed his book too ! Great read cheers amigos!

[@rhknow8888]

This convo was one of my favorites from the Iced Coffe hour!! Thank you sm

[@jessbridges564]

I have recommended this book to so many of my patients because they are avoiding their own problems and paying attention to all the crap that isn’t their responsibility in order to not pay attention to their own problems. This book is really or can be curative.

[@followjeff]

Wow this is one of the best podcasts I've consumed in a while.....thanks for this!

[@LandonColvig]

Incredible guest list for the last few episodes. I can’t wait to see who is next!

[@tfkdandsvkc]

This was so amazing the way Mark views life and makes you change perspective of everything he is a great writer👏💪👌

[@sojourner7921]

This. Is one of the best interviews I’ve ever watched in a while. Certainly the best I’ve sat through for this year. Great questions and comments from Jack and Grant. And Mark’s responses were insightful and refreshing, even though I’ve probably heard him articulate the same thing on other podcasts/ in his earlier articles. I didn’t expect to sit through all 2hours of this, but I did and I’m happy I did. Thank you Mark, Jack, and Grant!

[@NeuraPod]

Excellent convo. Matt's awesome. His takes on everything are relatable and they feel honest

[@jasonellis8751]

Love this dude. Thanks for having him!

[@Hockeyb0y3]

I have watched a lot of interesting and insightful I.C.H. videos but this one is definitely one of my favorites and I will most certainly re-watch and share.

[@kingdedede6145]

Holy shit. You have the most AMAZING guests!! Keep up the great work, guys!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thank you!!

[@jordanpowell1402]

@TheIcedCoffeeHour I’ve come straight here after listening to the Hormozi’s podcast. Nice to switch it up with a guest who isn’t full of absolute shite. It’s refreshing to hear some true stories 😂

[@rikkymoller]

This man changed my life. Love his book.

[@scott7756]

its been a while since i felt like i couldn't stop watching a video. great job!

[@SnowyHuskyTV]

Hi Graham and team, please increase the volume on your Iced Coffee Videos please. Awesome videos as always btw. Thanks

[@BelArtist]

Yesss! This is one of my favorite books, I'm a big fan of Mark's writing 😊

[@Nicholas_Charles]

Subtle art is one of those books you reread every so often. Absolutely life changing

[@teresateresa8933]

You guys do the best interviews. You ask the right questions and then let your guest talk. People could learn from you, such as Fallon and others.

[@Chadpbj]

For real! I love that about them

[@Your_pal_jsal]

Definitely had to listen to this one, love mark manson.

[@ryan5959]

Great Conversation! I have found, for myself at least, that the self help content is really an extrapolation from more ancient texts dealing with the nature of reality and the soul. Current physics and quantum mechanics supports this. So to get the full picture you have to go there. The ultimate lesson being that there is no happiness to be found in the always changing physical world. No amount of money, no relationship, nothing will truly satisfy you. You can find pleasure, but that fades. True happiness is found within the permanent unchanging self, found in the thoughtless mind. Jack, once you find that, you won’t care about the girls, which will bring them too you. Graham, once you find that, you won’t be paralyzed by all those feelings of needing to be productive and efficient. My 2 cents from a guy that almost got lost in work and productivity too. Don’t wait until a near death experience or the loss of a loved one to learn this, much love 🤙

[@j.m.7448]

One of the best conversations to listen in on.

[@danielh2869]

Amazing collab... more of this please

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Will do!

[@colinmyers273]

VERY excited for this one.

[@daniel_najar]

“Bad things can lead to good outcomes” So true

[@nicolehines4418]

So loved this episode

[@michaelxdonovan]

This episode was dope. Graham and Jack are so genuinely curious in Mark's answers to their questions - it's why this show works.

[@lovehilaryanne]

This is my first video on this channel and I am definitely following:)

[@Mpiman]

Wonderful! I'm just at a conference with some of the OGs of the seduction world...and I read an excerpt from my book asking for feedback and my friends recommended me to read Mark's book to get inspiration for writing

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Mark is an INCREDIBLE writer!

[@zyzzuschrist3410]

Guest selection is honestly been crazy

[@jennifernelson6187]

Read the book a few years ago it was a great read couldn't put it down.

[@FinancialCharles]

I gotta say this Jack Graham duo is going to go down in history!!!

[@skittlesgarage]

I love this book and love the 4-Hour Work Week. Glad he mentioned that book. Both very liberating philosophies that lead to success.

[@Ateszika]

I've just listened to this whole episode and it was great

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Impossible

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

On what 5000x speed

[@thebigredfish]

Great interview

[@davidlakhter]

looking forward to this!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Enjoy!!

[@Skbrvrisjsbdvetjtrbejudb]

Watched this twice already, amazing.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Did you watch at 100x speed?

[@Skbrvrisjsbdvetjtrbejudb]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHourit’s a short life, need to make the most out of it

[@MultiInko]

wow cool, I read like 1/3 or 2/3 of the book this summer on my computer, I should get back to it cool story about his travels too IIRC

[@darleneatkinson3906]

Hey, Mark in this video, at 59:26 It is like all throughout our lives we deal with stuff, I lose both parents at early age my stuff gotten stolen my car was stolen my house was broken into and my cats died I lose 3 brothers and one sister in the past I had to face all the not so good things that happen plus how it affect my emotions of loses. Yet, I learn how to handle all of this I am still thankful for life, and I still love to help people regardless of all the tragic things I experience along life journey I think most people experience much pain and losses in life, so I read a quota. It is not what happens to you but how you handle what happens to you that matters. You appear. very wise in your young years of life. Thank you for sharing on I.C.H. Video.

[@JohnSmith-dm1wo]

Remind me not to hang out with you. Lol

[@committedtodd]

Jack was on his game for this one. Great convo.

[@skittlesgarage]

As a rich Black Conservative with an immigrant wife, I learned long ago that not caring what people think is not only empowering and liberating it’s attractive. The same people who tell you what to do and think are attracted to rebels and underdogs and will do business with you. It’s strange but true.

[@Thdlsicnekslfjeindk]

This is an awesome anecdote. Thanks

[@thibaultwalter4889]

Amazing podcast 🔥

[@jasondeb]

Jack is the best. Always comes with the best questions

[@onlyagreeingsometimes]

It's fun how people after learning how to come out of their low selves, then say that the people that got them out are just normal people.. yep, they are but you were out of that normal circle and worked your way in via textbooks etc. Give them some level of respect for what they did to pull you up... because all the other groups were there and didn't show themselves to you as that group his. This is what tells you a lot about their character

[@daryltgeorge]

Excellent content

[@KNuzX]

awesome pod gents, Mark has great insight

[@jorgebotello6032]

This podcast hit many aspects of psychology. Loved it, keep up the good work guys

[@BelArtist]

When Mark said that now he only does things because he wants to and because they're worth it, I felt very special as an audience 😊. He could be doing anything and he chose to join the episode for an insightful conversation and that makes it more special 😌

[@evanhiggins7298]

I strongly recommend his recent books and Corey Wayne's books. These guys get it. To clarify I listened to love is not enough and the journal version of the subject in this video.

[@joostjansen1094]

Love this crossover!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Me too!

[@hudooguru2]

This was excellent guys. It's clear you all have read and experienced Manson's work.

[@firebirdwillgaming4193]

Love this podcast. Was chooked to hear about optimistic nihilism wich is my foundation for all my belifes

[@glitterstarbeau]

So fun. I love this guy. And of course, Graham is the best.

[@myopinions1]

It's always trippy when someone says your own thoughts.

[@royfriend89]

Super Great podcast

[@lovehilaryanne]

Lol😂 the rant about advice but don't do it really spoke to my soul. It's my issue with people 😂😂

[@pavilova29]

Jack is killing it 🔥

[@jeffrounsville4961]

Great video

[@beldonhuang]

This video interviewing Mark Manson is extremely needed! The world deserves great content and interviews like this. His book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F#ck is so thought-provoking that I eventually decided to make a video on my channel about it. That book is also what everyone should read. Simple, common sense, yet significant

[@sev7789]

Best episode to date. An example of 3 humans holding respect and appreciation for each other. The comfortability and ease of conversation was a joy. People of the internet this is an example of living with integrity.

[@user-fz8hj6xz2v]

This was awesome

[@louisianabeast]

Still liking!

[@hoseav]

Great episode and and guest!💯 Curious though, as a finance based podcast, why the change in video format the past few months? You guys used to do deep dives into how your guests operate their businesses/how they make their money/how much money they’ve made (Loved those!💯)….now the video format is more, life advice and how to be happy and relationships and philosophy/values, which is all important but not as great as the nitty gritty stuff that motivates and gets your creative juices/thinking going🤔

[@GoTchA08]

Love it!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thanks!

[@etherealexpanse]

I love watching these!! I watch them all the time, how was I not subscribed 😢 fixed ✅

[@danielj3010]

Jack is very focused this interview.

[@tinjooo]

Gread episdode!

[@Godofhouse]

I’m glad I started watching on the toilet I saw the notification 🔔 so I got on it immediately 😊

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

You're the best!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Good luck on the toilet

[@ryanfrank4299]

Totally random but I just noticed (on desktop anyways) that youtube does fancy gradients behind the video based on the colors in the video...and I couldn't stop staring at it the entire time whilst listening to the soft and subtle tones of Manson.

[@adamwall7852]

Very good podcast! Really enjoyed your guest. I’ve had the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck on my list for a while now. I think this is would be a great time to start it!

[@Nc-Wisdom]

Ok im excited for this

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Enjoy!

[@Socsob]

Mark is genuine, insightful and real; big switch up to then bring on tai lopez

[@jtbatista]

I am still reading his book since I am also trying to finish The Rational Male series (on the 3rd book). I love Mark Manson's casual style of writing & thought patterns - very illustrative to the points of life.

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New set looking dope my dude's keep up the hard work 😎😎😎

[@BurnJK]

This is awesome. You should also have Denmo on here sometime

[@chaimkirat3685]

I realized I'm obsessed with this podcast when I just hear Graham and Jack's voice all day

[@Hadw1n]

His book is great, I wish I read it when it came out. I came to similar conclusions after living my life.

[@robertaguirre85]

Nathan fielder would be such a great guest to have on the podcast

[@irrelevantideology9640]

That book is one of my all time favorites. It's incredibly misunderstood.

[@pbm9cje2n]

Graham, his point of sporadic focus and distracting content is unfortunately the reason why i unfollowed your main channel. The substantive information you use to share was replaced with mine numbing "current" hot topics. You used to share what you were effortlessly good at It's also the reason why I still follow this podcast. Your willingness to listen and grow from guests expertise is palatable.

[@cryptoloop999]

Just wanted to say guys you are doing great, I hope that Graham is now very satisfied with earnings/time allocated to podcast obligations 🤣

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

hahah I've been really enjoying the opportunity to meet so many new people!

[@jordanpowell1402]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHourGraham you’re fantastic obviously but Jack you are great at this. Well spoken, articulate, razor sharp. Well done man. Loved watching you both troll the Hormozi’s. You’re a great duo- keep it up 🤙

[@diaking2845]

Great conversation thanks guys! But, Graham you look soo tired! Is you tube starting to weigh heavily on you? Hope your ok.

[@eamonshields2754]

Time Stamps... its 2023 guys...

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Fixing!

[@scottwible1532]

Dang you reached a new level of guest! Wow. Maybe you could get Tim on now. Crazy.

[@williamkreth]

Love his book

[@jordanking9095]

Jacks questions 😂

[@xXCasta21Xx]

YOU NEED TO HAVE ON MAT COXX!!!! If you want a good episode trust me have him on!

[@Burning.Phoenix]

Jack crushing the deep questions.