The Surprising Truth About Sigma Males Nobody Tells You

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[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

How many Greek letters of men are there? What percentages are in each? Can a man change which one he is, or is it lifelong?

[@Dee-gt9mz]

You are absolutely wrong. All Sigma's are avoidant dismissive. That's what makes them Sigma's not, Optioners. You're "Optioner" description is someone who is not a Sigma. Rather, you are mixing up these Optioners with women's feelings and emotions. It's Not an "Option" to be a Sigma. You're statements are ridiculous. You are female. You wouldn't understand. That would be like me making a video on how it feels to have a menstrual cycle. Best to steer clear from describing a man's choices of status and hierarchy.

[@Brendan-05]

I’m 53 and no one has ever loved me. As I said in the main comments, I’ve seen your channel help men at work and yet not one woman has ever even held my hand. God definitely hates me, I’ll be the only human to die never being loved.

[@Miles-of9ps]

I agree with Dee. You are wrong. You don't become a Sigma by choice. Lady, you should stay out of this one

[@RandomRants525]

Allmost free. WTF. free is free. If ya can't work that out. How can you be trusted to give advice. Oh that's right YOU CAN'T. Just leave us stigmas alone. It's kinda what we want. Women can't handle us so ya just setting people up to fail.

[@cryptojihadi265]

I think a real easy test to weed out the imposters from the true Sigmas, is that True Sigmas are the reluctant leaders. People tend to seek them out based on respect. They recognize the quiet strength and character, if even on a subconscious level. Sigmas don't seek leadership roles, they just end up in them, naturally. Where the Alphas tend to seek it, and with their charm and confidence, tend to get it. The other difference between alpha leadership and Sigma leadership, is it takes time for people to see the value in the Sigma, as the Sigma doesn't advertise, they just do their thing, and people start to notice them and then want to follow them. Sigmas tend to be leaders without the title. This is why I think when people try to explain the Sigma, they get the analogy bassackwards. It's not that Sigmas are a mix of Beta and Alpha traits, but rather Sigmas are the TRUE alphas, in that they bow to NO ONE, not even society. That's about as alpha as it gets (assuming it's not from a position of fear or weakness, as you mentioned). Alphas and Betas are both slaves to the system. Alphas are just more outgoing betas. Both seek approval from society, Alphas are just better at getting it and do it with more confidence than Betas. As Lily Tomlin famously said, "The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat!"

[@paterson90]

@@cryptojihadi265 That is so deep, I really appreciate what you wrote. I also feel like this describes me as I am a deep thinker and quietly successful but don't want to be in charge, but after some time people want my opinions in things and consider me for more responsibilities without me even asking for it.

[@HansBezemer]

Gee, that is so me! I get hired to turn organizations around and structure them. I did a number of guest lectures in my time and always quoted the Tao Te Ching as a summary of how I approach these issues: _"The Master allows things to happen. He shapes events as they come. He steps out of the way. When his work is done the people say "Amazing: we did it, all by ourselves!" Let your workings remain a mystery. Just show the results."_ Another thing is, when people talk about "leadership", I always answer: _"Just do your thing. When you're done, look behind you. If there are people following you, you are a leader. If there is nobody, you're not."_

[@charles2241]

Hmm, I think you're right about the true alpha's. I'm somewhat of a phony sigma myself, because I think myself to be 80%, but I wouldn't change a thing, because that 20% beta really gives me an outlook it seems the more common sigma pool just doesn't get. Yes, you're very correct about the leadership thing. In my case I got it at the first job after a while, and didn't want it of course, but wanted the increase in pay, but more importantly, though I'd allegedly never led before (allegedly because I'd frequently been leading myself) I had to admit it met my main criteria to lead, in that I had to see myself at least an equal to the other people up for the promotion. Once I got into leading, it was alright, and it was better than NOT leading, Why? Because at least in that case, I had some BAD leaders which were over me before the promotion, and I didn't have to answer to them anymore once promoted, and later I actually became their boss. Later, I got promoted again, with basically the same responsibilities, but I was given the really impossible task of training other people to lead. Talk about absurd, because I was barely into leading at that time, and I guess you would classify me as getting by anyway. Once into training others to lead (you can imagine how effortless this was, even though I'd never done it😂) I aced it and it went off the rails. I think I was supposed to train 1 or 2 people at most, but in-between I got a new manager, and he never turned me off, and why would he exactly (interesting to watch a possible train wreck in action)? I can't recall why he didn't, but by the time I was transferred from that store over a year later, we had an unofficial leader training center, and the fruits of this kept growing. I think by the time I was out of there, like 90% of the crew were fully capable leaders. I absolutely LOVED training people to lead (which in most cases were probably people that had never led as well, for they were all teenagers), and yet, just like before, I thought it rather impossible and beyond my capabilities, but I HAD TO do it, so I just did what paltry things I could to nurture it. Never been happier at a job in my life, though, of course, that wouldn't necessarily translate somewhere else. Once out of there, it was back to my old system, not wanting to lead until I felt I was at least the equivalent of everybody else, and I got involved in one stint of basically being my own boss, plus another of having the lead on a shift, but not the title (you saw that coming didn't you?🤣).

[@charles2241]

@@HansBezemer I don't know truly if your saying works for sigma's at all frankly, though it sounds more like it would work for alpha's. In my case I only got leadership because I was given leadership positions, otherwise, typical for sigma's I wouldn't have been leading at all (except myself). I did a very good job too BTW (see my little story below). I think my main training method amounted to saying one thing to those I trained "Do as I do" and that was it. The only time I ever found anybody standing behind me, was at least a couple of girls that didn't work for me, and they just decided to park themselves back there, for five minutes in one case, and not say a word; kind of spooky really. Sigma's are very much like the pattern my story displayed, where we're in and out of leadership all the time. I spent like a third of my working career leading, so obviously I had a good taste of it, but also a larger taste of just sitting back in the scenery. I think most sigma's are perfectly content with never being a lead, but the problem is you get good enough at your jobs, and it's almost embarrassing for the boss to not try to force you into it.

[@HansBezemer]

@charles2241 I think competing who is the true sigma is a thing a sigma would never do. He just doesn't care enough.

[@jakesanchez3202]

I’m not scared of commitment I’m scared of a divorce and wasted time

[@AutoBodyEverything]

I see I see…. I want to hear more.

[@ryanmcguire9951]

@jakesanchez3202 lol.. That's really the same thing.

[@garyhardison9265]

I’ve figured this out for myself… may work for you. When it gets to the point of discussing long term goals I honestly say I’m not interested in marriage, I’m looking for my LTR Lover and companion. I explain the marriage keeps 1 or both in a relationship because of a document… I want someone in my life who wants to be there but yet has the freedom to leave anytime when they choose.., too me this is the ultimate sign someone’s in my life because they choose to be and vice versa

[@SammyStevens]

Determined I was a Sigma 7 years ago, don't think the term was around then. Was married 27 years before losing my wife to brain cancer 2 months ago. My 16 yo daughter asked me if I would remarry, "No" was the word out of my mouth. "I will never pay that price again." Loved her too much for pain like that again.

[@Sigma77-n2u]

@@SammyStevens so sorry man🙏🏼

[@YourWingmam]

May you find peace and strength in the years to come, you are a strong man 🙏 So sorry for your loss, cancer sucks

[@alanbradley9621]

Correct to stay single. Become sigma. Meet whoever with freedom to do so or not. It is the best way.. Divorce is too expensive,Too risky.

[@jack720720]

I also had a loss a few months ago - feel for you, wishing you the best

[@te9591]

Not a family man here, but this is so sad.

[@migmontest]

A sigma male is generally the one that has given up on dating and yet is a peace with himself. It is actually difficult to find that kind of person.

[@jimwalshonline9346]

I tried going sigma (by your definition) and really wish I could have pulled it off.

[@anthonyrab9468]

Your peace is gold.

[@Sigma77-n2u]

Sometimes it’s the hoodie guy at the gym 😅😅🥷

[@rickprice6312]

Sigma's don't "give up on dating." They just don't, until they decide they want to, and then they do and the girl doesn't stand a chance. At least that's how it was for me. I felt bad for all the girls that used to throw themselves at me . . . but I didn't have time and wasn't interested. Lots of tears on the other side. One day I met my wife and knew it instantly. I went all in. We've been married for 40 years. Not sure how it would be these days though. I suspect there are still worthwhile ladies out there, but there sure seems to be a lot more trash than in the past.

[@Sigma77-n2u]

@ I’m married 20yrs but before that I was super picky

[@antoerickson4152]

The sigma vs avoidant attachment is similar like solitude vs lonely. We won't feel lonely when we are in solitude because we choose to be alone, but feeling lonely makes us sad and insecure. Being sigma is not bad at all because we are having independence to be alone or in the relationship and we are not pressured by anyone or anything. Life is hard and Love is tough and it is the biggest risk of all like you mentioned. I remember you mentioned that before as well. You look so beautiful today Anna and you are always having a very good sense of humor. Thanks for the video Anna.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

What percentage of men are sigmas?

[@YourWingmam]

I can’t find any official stats on percentage of sigma men

[@BO4T3N9]

@@antoerickson4152 simp 😀

[@charles2241]

@@YourWingmam I've seen it claimed to be .05%. Since it's rise on the net, I'm willing to think it's larger. You have to realize that when I took up those reigns, all you had was lone wolf, and that was basically societally condemned, but I largely fell into it anyway. IOW, the .05% is mostly guys like me, but it has to rise when you see the approval it's getting these days. It's a lot harder to be the more isolated guy, when it's a lot more condemned and lied about.

[@John-yv6vo]

I think you hit the nail on the head. Sigmas like being alone and enjoying their own company. If you have to make a conscious effort to stay out of relationships and not comply with societal norms you’re probably not a sigma. With sigmas it’s just natural

[@chewhew5045]

Great video as always. Another consideration is that sigma males are often successful with a lot to lose. There is great risk dating anyone in the current milieu, when at any time males can be accused of being sexually inappropriate and lose everything. This tempers any desire to date or have meaningful relationships. Why risk personal success and peace for someone you know nothing about, in a society that hates men?This is not an issue of attachment, but rather a logical and mindful survival choice.

[@YourWingmam]

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[@gadgetman_nz4092]

I'm definitely sigma. Was a true shock to find a partner I wanted to be with. Never had an attachment problem, was always good and close to kids and family. When I finally found my keeper, that I wasn't even looking for, I didn't know how to proceed. I was very happy on my own but actually felt happier just walking and talking to her. She now belongs in my arms.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@jameshunt3504]

My mother passed away, when I was 12 years old from a brain aneurysm unexpectedly, so it's taken me many years to be at peace ✌️ with this emotional experience/loss , but it's also made me much stronger spiritually, & I feel greater self awareness as you've mentioned. We must realize that, there are always risks of loss stepping into any type of relationship unfortunately, and be prepared emotionally for anything. Just my opinion 🤷

[@simondaly9960]

Sigma won't chase, is VERY observant, memorises people, and pays real attention to their chosen partner. Said chosen partner, to keep Sigma lover, MUST be honest, loyal, truthful, just don't bother lying or hiding anything, we will find out. My wife says I'm sometimes scary by stare, statement, thought, however, she realises how true, loyal, real, caring, supportive, and loving I am to never risk destroying us. Life can be tough, easier if you have a Sigma as close friend or lover.

[@abhilash7381]

I agree

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

THIS AND THIS

[@NPSvideo678]

Thanks for posting this Anna! I think I originally came across this when having this on in the background while doing office stuff on day (12-10-24 I think). Had to rewatch it and pay more attention to it this time on Saturday the same week. It’s the first time I’ve seen sigma being compared to attachment styles like this and has made me think. It explains a lot of things. Keep up the good work!

[@YourWingmam]

Glad you gave it a second viewing and got some new insights!

[@matthughesrocks]

Great video thank you! I guess I became a sigma (or lone wolf) after I got sober and ditched all my toxic so called 'friends' years ago and it left me pretty much by myself and so I just enjoy my own company now. People wear me out.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@Tim-57]

Hey Anna Some good points for me to think about. Thank you Take care 😊

[@WFPCo]

Hi Anna. I identify as Sigma. I just want to say thank you for your great videos and presenttions, I've watched a ton of them. They are always interesting , stimulating and engaging. Keep up the great work and wardrobe! (I notice things). ;-)

[@headfirst6227]

Super insightful, and as always, helpful. Much thanks for helping me figure myself out.

[@YourWingmam]

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[@grantsterling3744]

11:22 your sense/feelings on love (especially in the case of the tragically ended, IMHO) and that you chose to let it show, if just for a second, was both heartache and beautiful at the same time... just amazing! Gl🎉ad that I found your videos, they're helping me work through a tough spot, right now. I appreciate it and only regret you aren't actually my "wingmam." Thanks for your time and hard work 💯

[@YourWingmam]

I’m so glad you’ve found value in my videos and I’m honoured to be considered a positive influence through the challenges you’re facing. Big hug, thank you! 🤍

[@matthewvanboven4349]

You nailed this video! Im a true sigma. I am slightly dismissive avoidant. I only like long term relationships but tend to avoid emotionally vulnerable discussions within the long term relationship.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for watching, glad it resonated with you!

[@jameshunt3504]

Great 👍 video btw. I've become I feel a real life superhero 😂😊💪🏽😉✌️⚘️

[@justinfarrell6498]

Great video. I can identify with all of the points. My avoidant traits have ended a lot of relationships but I know the right one is still out there. I just have to work on myself a little more to allow someone in. Thank you for a great video.

[@YourWingmam]

I pray that you receive the one who is truly best for you, the one God has for you 🙏

[@jamesmcbride5428]

So I turned 51 today I started watching your videos like 1 month ago my whole life I felt different people would always make comments about how I carried myself I had always known about alpha and beta males but didn't identify with either so imagine my shock while scrolling you tube I came across your video about the order of the male social order and discovered there's 5 and that I have been a sigma my whole life and didn't know it now I see alot of guys saying they tried to be sigma after watching videos but I ve been doing sigma things before I even knew it existed so I said all of that to say thank you for your channel and keep it coming

[@YourWingmam]

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[@bluebay0]

Hey Anna. As a dismissive avoidant (mom is a narc-working on self-differentiation currently), when I first learned of the term sigma I was similarly concerned as you are with other avoidant males mislabeling themselves as sigmas. I want to thank you for dealing with this issue of the self-mislabeling avoidant very respectfully. There are many men that need this kind of talk.

[@jonathangriffin8060]

As a sigma male, the "independence vs. fear of dependence" comparison describes me to a T. I have no problem asking for help, but most times I hear people say that they are willing to help out, but for some reason, they never show up to assist in anything or call me to let me know why they weren't available and I end up taking care of the situation. It is tough, but in these types of situations, I know that a situation has gotten taken care of whether or not I have any assistance.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@stevengiles346]

Me too. I handle nearly everything myself because most people who said they would be there usually bail. Women are the worst offenders. But I’ve always been very comfortable on my own. I have varied interests and usually have plenty of things to do. Typically not enough time to do the things I like.

[@hasensaurus]

Avoidant attachment, usually due to trauma. In plain term, the fox who can`t reach the cherries says they`re sour.

[@YourWingmam]

Great metaphor!

[@douglasalan5783]

Lots of food for thought in this video, Anna. I’ll have to watch it multiple times. I’ll have to think about it at great length. I identify as a sigma, but the avoidant attachment model puts me in that grey area between a “true sigma” and avoidant. So, it’s not a simple labeling exercise.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@stuartwilson3753]

Definitely number 1. It's nice to not rely on anyone for anything. I'll have a think about this, a very interesting and informative video.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@shaun_philip]

I made my 1st financial contribution today to support your work and say thank you 😊

[@apollo-air11]

“outliving your loved one to save them from suffering your loss” god bless you. your heart is gold

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙏

[@narcisopetty]

This was my wife and my prayer for years, and God honored it, and I miss her, but I am glad she didn't have to navigate this. She left WAY to soon for my liking. Met and married in three weeks time, and truly hated any moment I wasn't with her. Best years of my life, (37). We built a close family (two children), and we all cherish the memories and hate the loss. Got to be retired for a year before she left, and her passing was fast completely unexpected and appeared painless. Can't ask for much more.

[@mypov4343]

What most people don't understand is you can actually have more freedom with the right relationship and not less however that only happens after a lot of work on yourself first

[@YourWingmam]

Truth!

[@RS-ms1bz]

And, your partner has to have put in a lot work on herself as well, or all the work you’ve done on yourself will make no difference in the relationship. Very few relationships like this these days.

[@mypov4343]

@@RS-ms1bz If you've done the work on yourself, you will want the same in your partner...otherwise there is no relationship. Ideally, this is how it should be. Judging by divorce rates however, I have to agree its the exception.

[@calebz5890]

Much need examples and explanation! Thank you

[@YourWingmam]

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[@gazoo7411]

Okay 👌. I agree 👍. No wait. Not sure, maybe 😮

[@Peter-px1tm]

Excellent post, help quite a bit

[@YourWingmam]

I'm glad you found it helpful! 🙏

[@vince8436]

This is a fine line. I can see it being crossed. In other words, I really don't care about a relationship, but I met someone who could possibly change my mind, but probably won't.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@carlrobson5745]

Sigma male married and happliy never speak about my problems no need to burden loved ones on my world problems no friends (have associates ) right now this suits me down to the ground.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@JohnSmith-ij4xe]

Am perfectly fine with being single but I do need deep connections with the right one. I have found too many play the cold and hot bs so I walk away. I have found a few that I did connect with BUT at that point I was not ready. I never saw a point to be in a relationship if I wasn’t ready to settle down.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@joshuasarfati5520]

Im definitely a sigma male. Ive been trying to get close to a Sigma woman for years. We both love and respect each other. She consistently finds a way to avoid getting too close. I don't chase any more but i do show interest and support. At the same time I focus on continual self improvement. Any tips ?

[@YourWingmam]

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[@audioelitist3677]

Most of this can be solved inside of an hour. You go up to this woman. You tell her you like her and want to know her more intimately. You say you're sigma, but you're not being terribly direct any more than she is. Directness is something sigmas aren't afraid of. In a sigma world, you would say... "Hey baby, I fancy you and the cute little dimples you get when you smile.", where she would respond... "sorry, I actually fancy that Dave guy, and I've had you friend zoned for years." There wouldn't be any of this uncertainty, or hesitation to clarify the issue.

[@ali94777]

Nice video Lot of useful info❤

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you! for watching, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity!

[@randelbrooks]

Hello Anna. I would love to see your blooper reel and outtakes. I can sort of tell where some of them are because you chuckle and then there's a cut. Would love to hear what's going on. Thanks I listened carefully and I think I am a true Sigma with perhaps a little crossover. Nobody wants to get their feelings hurt after all.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@zanegrey4364]

I saw a meme recently which said, "When you think that you're sigma, but you find out that you are just autistic with ADHD." This made me laugh out loud and reevaluate my life.😂😂

[@YourWingmam]

Ha! Could be both though 🤔

[@audioelitist3677]

I'm a sigma... wait... what were we talking about? Anyway, check out those baby squirrels.

[@nicholashuff4198]

Why can't we be both?

[@audioelitist3677]

@@nicholashuff4198 I'm many things, depending on which voices in my head are currently talking to me. Right now, they're telling me to post obnoxious comments and non sequiturs to distract from the fact I don't know what I'm taking about. What do you think about Batman themed origami?

[@nicholashuff4198]

@audioelitist3677 i just got done explaining to a friend less than an hour ago how i am also many things. As for Batman origami, i haven't much opinion on it at all; you do you, lol.

[@CalmBeforeTheStorm76]

I was a healthy sigma before meeting my last gf. 18 chaotic months of trying to help her get her life together. Made the mistake getting involved with a dismissive avoidant who had a shit ton of trauma. Initially, we both shared openly. But, ultimately this was because she had BPD... This created a process that was unwinnable, and I am currently recovering and trying to put my life back together. The point? Sigma males can get sucked into bad relationships, even when they practice strength, openness, etc. BPD sufferers find a way to discount all the good, and ultimately discard you. This happened at a low point generally, and it really really knocked me down hard... I'm slowly recovering... but it has been brutal... this is a warning.... there are more and more of these women out there. Just, watch out if they have small kids and are head over heels with you in the beginning...

[@audioelitist3677]

BPD gets diagnosed because they see two distinct personalities, and they can't make sense of it due to their incompetence. What you're dealing with is narcissism, where she's willfully using wildly different tactics to get what she wants out of a given situation. Her behavior is willful, not a condition, and the only suffering she does is by her own hand. This has always and only been about her getting what she wants out of you. Everybody has a ton of trauma in their lives. If you want to improve, study narcissism. Behind every "diagnosed" BPD, is a raging narcissist that has the "I get a bonus when I prescribe this" doctor, fooled.

[@CalmBeforeTheStorm76]

@@audioelitist3677​​⁠Interesting perspective. I'll keep it in mind. Also, it would make sense, as towards the end, this woman accused me repeatedly of being a narcissist... despite me being the one who was bending over backwards for her. Projection is a very real thing for these types... So, the whole "object impermanence" thing is just an excuse for not giving a sh*t about other people, past what it gives them?

[@audioelitist3677]

@@CalmBeforeTheStorm76 You're catching on. The less you give a $h!t about a narcissist, the more they'll try to win you over. Take control.

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

this is exactly my life...

[@jeffreystutzman]

Yes Mam Wingmam, I sure am a Sigma Empath to the Max! Thank You for the confirmation. We need a whole lot more fine ladies in America like you because we definitely need them! I am 67 and a retired and disabled U.S. Marine who lives way back in the woods in N.E. Wisconsin in a nice small cozy cabin on several acres of land alone by choice. After having several long term relationships and 3 failed marriages I decided it was better to live alone over 15 years ago. I love my life and freedom I now have and my garage is 3 times the size of my cabin that houses all my cool toys but it is yet too small for my off road Jeep and Durango. I feed all the wildlife here in the woods and have a black bear family of around 20 bear I socialize with and play with when they are not hibernating and that is a once in a life time experience beyond most peoples comprehension. This is the 14th year of doing this and I had to seriously learn how to become a bear and to be at one with them. I must say My bear love and respect me and appreciate what I do for them more than any woman I have had in my life. That's sad to have to say but it is very true. At times I think it would be nice to have a lady in my life but on the other hand I think, why would I want to ruin a good thing? I could say a whole lot more, but enough said! Thanks again, Enjoy and Be Safe! Later

[@buckleymordecai9605]

Enjoyable vid! Sigma here...one of the things I relish re your vid's is that you make responses 'non-threatening', by that I mean you don't denigrate men for 5, 10 minutes...then ask us to comment!!!. The OTHER thing I notice is that you point out the under lying motivations of a person, and comment on 'how' it hurts them, and possibly the woman in their life. Bravo! Thank you!

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for watching, I appreciate your kind words! 🙏

[@mattymac2329]

"Sigma here" ye sosig

[@78JCarter]

Very well thought out and insightful video as always. One variable that is not discussed is that female dominated ‘pop psyc’ might be projecting their own desire for ‘ideal romantic love’ onto men in the attachment style matrix.

[@audioelitist3677]

Don't complicate what's simple.

[@ReceptiveKing93]

Whether it’s been relationship of any kind romantic, work, or family. I refuse to let my self be vulnerable because people have too advantage of it. For someone to get me to open up it’s gonna be like opening a beer bottle without a bottle opener.

[@jarodorla6949]

My goodness this is profoundly deep. So realistically true from all angles. 😮 wow

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@jarodorla6949]

@YourWingmam Bless you señorita I miss your Tuesday uploads

[@Forced2DoThis1]

Interesting....Food For Reflection.

[@pepecarlos777]

90% true for me. We’re attached to those loyal. Alpha treat in what we need, even in pursuing a woman. Independence=peace. Plan ahead when betrayal is perceived. Successful.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@omegabkg]

I would like you to teach us more on this this is a very fascinating topic for me and involved me in a lot of ways unfortunately I'm at work so I don't have a lot of time to type out my full thoughts but could you also help us understand how not to sabotage a relationship insecure way that you are talking about throughout the video?

[@JC-gw3yo]

I was widowed after being married to a wonderful lady for 39 years. It has been 6 years of searching (a year off for grieving) as lonelyness is debilitating. I have found mature women to be quite heartless. It is all about them. Go very careful men as a mature woman carries a lot of baggage. Be very forthright to understand their intentions.They care little about your feelings. I keep searching however, as I know there has to be a woman with a heart somewhere

[@YourWingmam]

I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has fr you ❤ 🙏

[@G0oNi.E]

So Anna are you referring to the 3 styles (besides secure of course) in general when you say, "Insecurely Attached" ? Or one in particular?

[@AlphaMaleMidwesterner]

Oh my the Memories I have of this Woman ever since I saw her on my KZbin feed November 2019.

[@frankrizzo5262]

Nice words

[@problemslayer3538]

Wow, im a sigma male and this womans knowledge on this subject is impressively accurate and the way she has relayed it in this video is as professional as you would find anywhere else in the world.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you so much for your comment and for watching!

[@KristopherStidd]

Thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@YourWingmam]

I appreciate that! 🙏

[@mightychild1057]

Damn gorgeous baby doll hit all key points on us😍💯💯💯

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback ❤️

[@brewerfireguy]

Interesting. I enjoy engaging in emotional vulnerability with females but not sure about them getting close due to giving them “power” over me through sex, relationships, etc. I’d be interested if this falls under a particular attachment style that you have presented.

[@charles2241]

I knew something was weird about this video. You'll note the wall is bare behind the tv, yet the tv has a screen saver (I guess), which looks like photos you'd put on a wall. Interesting🤔 It's easy to see the tv as being a mosaic of pictures on the wall, and not just a screen saver. Don't think I've ever seen a screen saver like that, at least not on a large screen. The black trim of the tv edge helps complete that illusion, along with that rather bland green color of the background. Hmm.

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate hearing from you!

[@sunnyjim369]

Thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤!!!!!

[@YourWingmam]

I appreciate you, thank you for watching! 💞

[@bluemovie5871]

I think the Lone Wolf archetype is a little overcooked…..I always look at myself as someone who is willing to get hurt if it get’s the attachement/lover that I want most…..the honesty in this…is what works for me…..the pain is real for both people and acknowledging it honestly cuts through the B.S.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@rickmartin8262]

I have always enjoyed your videos, but in the beginning of this one your tone bordered on condescending toward guys who might be avoidant rather than true Sigma. One rule every woman would do well to remember is to never laugh or delight in our imperfections. You are 100% correct in everything you said, but men don't like to feel like a woman is ripping back the curtain on our insecurities with an all-knowing grin on her face. We are men, we have pride, even when we are vulnerable we like that to be respected.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@markallen2984]

I seem to have many of the characteristics of the so-called sigma male, but....I want love and intimacy with a kind, secure, intelligent and and level-headed woman, but I want to win the lottery too. Both seem equally likely 😅

[@YourWingmam]

Yep feels that way nowadays lol

[@charles2241]

That's the way a sigma thinks, ever thinking about reality, and always wanting that kind of woman. I'm actually surprised you said you wanted an "intelligent" woman, because despite being largely sigma myself, for the longest I never would've told you intelligence mattered to me in a woman, and even today it almost doesn't. I think in my own case I wouldn't look for intelligence, but "personality". This is largely because what I've known of intelligent women were as boring as what I know of women that are 10's in looks (entirely dependent on their strength, to the detriment of personality). I can see personality and get along with it great, and she may have great intelligence, I don't know, but personality is much easier to see. I think intelligence usually takes much longer to figure out, plus if she's advertising her intelligence like speaking with complicated words, then she just killed any advantage intelligence would give her. And yes, a girl having diplomas proves intelligence none whatsoever AFAIC, even though it may anyway. If her intelligence is confined down to books, she's definitely going to bore me ("Intelligent" girl: "Wasn't it Cicero that said......😴".

[@audioelitist3677]

I hate to break it to you, but it's much more likely you'll win the lottery.

[@RohrerBulldogs]

One may mimic the other when viewed from a distance but an avoidant and a sigma are polar opposites. An avoidant is controlled by their own negative emotions. A sigma has control over all of their own emotions.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@whitegoldakarawstahh]

def not looking for a relationship as of right now.

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙏

[@glicmathan1771]

Sigma males are unwilling to waste time in ways that are unproductive for them. It’s not avoidance as much as healthy discrimination. This also happens with friends and activities that may not be serving our best interests. I have no fear of bonding with a woman whatsoever and have done so many times before. I’d prefer to have a life partner but am not willing to invest much time in hunting and dating. My own work and interests will always be my top priority over a romantic relationship. A woman should compliment my life; not divert me away from it. I took a huge sabbatical from dating for years after a divorce, and started dating a woman who I soon discovered was a covert narcissist with low integrity and zero accountability. Still, it was a great experience while it lasted. I enjoyed being in a relationship again. But it’s a very tough dating climate now. I rarely see women around me I am attracted to. Now that I’m alone again, I love having my sigma independence back. It’s like starting a new romance with myself!

[@theadministers3533]

When your kindness is mistaken as weakness we will have problems. We have trust issues as most everyone has betrayed us, family and so called friends. As for friends, i have none! As for acquaintances, i have hundreds maybe a thousand. My problem is that at age 4 i was traumatized, that trauma turned out to be beyond repair. Basically, this emotional sabotage in the subconscious mind is sabotaging the conscious mind. Heart and mind coherence is fractured as a result. There isn’t enough spackle or silly putty to permanently fill the gap. We are forever in a fix!

[@AurothTheWyvern]

This whole time I honestly thought a sigma was just some made up term, I had no idea it was a real thing until watching your video and doing some research - turns out that I do carry many of the sigma traits (Prefer quite life and solitude, very sensitive and will very quickly find out what type of person you are, if you have any taint on you I am gone, have been asked to take leadership role but I do not want it) Thank you for helping me learn more about myself!

[@mikehaney6512]

I believe sigma now as being divorced 11 years. Great Anna as always.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for watching, and I hope you're doing well 🙏

[@mikehaney6512]

@YourWingmam 🙏

[@GlenOsborne-ks9jn]

Some interesting information. I did relate to some points, for example l went to Latin Ballroom dancing for five or six years and I still never went out with anyone. I would say that some reasons for my avoidance was for different reasons not mentioned, plus I'd also say that some of my reasons have changed over the decades that has influenced me to remain single in spite of many possibilities. The hole sigma thing seems like another box, there's a lot more to people than labels.

[@rufc777]

Ana i am worried for the cat. You Live in Canada right?😸😬

[@jamesjhonson4568]

Getting in a relationship or getting married isn't going to fix a loneliness problem, you have to examine the reason for being lonely, i.e you can be married or in a relationship and still be lonely. You need to work on your purpose and be comfortable in your own skin before you bring someone in your life. A lot of people seem to think that marriage is a quick fix for whatever is wrong, only to find out later that it wasn't which can lead to disappointment and sour feelings.

[@YourWingmam]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@marvinbanjo]

Good video -- looked at your presentation and I'm still a solid sigma .I've always been independent since I can remember .When I think of sigma I think of Dennis the Menace .Poor Margret is always trying to set Dennis up for one of her agendas and although he likes her she doesn't rule his life . Dennis would rather be out doing something more interesting than one of Margret's fake tea parties. I can't say I didn't feel something when I broke up from the relationships in my life but I didn't let it screw me up.I always had a bunch of hobbies I was really into that were a mental distraction .I had my scuba diving and surfing and ocean fishing or my fly fishing ,not to mention all kinds of other stuff I was curious about . I had my private travel vacations that I always took alone because I didn't want a woman changing the itinerary or messing up my fishing trips . I've always worked hard and looked at my vacations as personal times of rest and re-creation. While going through Canada, I stopped at a rest area manned by a kiosk and stopped for some food from the cooler in my truck and a woman came up to me with a bottle of water .Something happened in that moment and we started a conversation and the girl she was working with finally called her to help close down the kiosk four hours later . I didn't want to go on with my journey and she seemed to just ignore what she was there for .Figuring we just had a good conversation, I went on my way and she on hers .My goal was to explore and catch the biggest Alaskan Salmon of my life on a fly (Which I did --57lbs ). Going down the road, I was glad for the experience of meeting such a great person. Being sigma, not knowing what it was, often bothered me, but once I got a handle on it -- it allowed me to be more of myself and less anxious in relationships . Living with a sigma can be hard on a woman because she is most likely often wondering why she can't always have the female influences she expects to have that can work on a lot of men. I'm still friends with most of my exes and I say most because one tried to steal from me and fortunately for me it didn't work . For me this is why I chose a MGTOW life ,because it puts me out there for independence - I think-- in a pretty honest way . Besides it gives me lots of time for my hobbies .

[@HelloworldWelcometoMylife1]

im not sure if im secure or disorganized

[@kyalomwailu5165]

Thanks for creating and sharing. To me it still appears to be a blurry line betwen the two. Is there not more to a Simga male/female than intimate relationships? Such as hobbies, interests, work etc. I.e Having a preference to working and playing autonomously rather than 'with others'. I'm wondering if its avoidant attachment in early life which can lead to "Sigma" status in later life? When someone learns the only person you can truly need and trust is yourself. I think attachment styles fluctaute dependent on situations with the most important being thaving a secure attachment to your self. Maybe you can be both dismissive/fearful/anxious avoidant to (most)others but ARE safe, happy and secure in yourself.

[@SimonB.]

I am not afraid, I am annoyed by people and relationships. What is that called?

[@audioelitist3677]

I'd call it being realistic, but I'm kind of an @$$h0l3.

[@DUGDOOR]

Anna are your drawers teak? 😅 Met some staunch feminists who say there’s only alpha’s and beta’s. If I’m emotionally vulnerable I might be shamed. If my actions reflect being genuine it’s likely I won’t feel guilty. Mom was easy going. Dad was not. He was old school. I knew this at an early age. Alpha’s don’t ask for help. Therapy is weak. Or so the older generations were conditioned. Most of my relationships are/were longterm. It’s easier to be honest sooner than pay the price later.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@audioelitist3677]

f*m*n*sts aren't women, and even if they were, they couldn't define what a woman was. You can safely ignore what they say.

[@TheJudgementofDog]

A king does not have to convince others that he is a king. The first clue that someone is not who they say they are is when they they feel it's necessary to say who they are.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@sb44-444]

Being an Sigma Empath is a pleasure and a curse. I love my time alone regrouping and reenergizing. The curse is I read people like a book. I read body language, voice inflection, and can tell if a woman is lying immediately, which cuts a potential girl friend out really fast. I'm a retired hair designer of over forty years, I've heard every kind of story imaginable by my female clients because just like a bartender, hair designers are told everything. So, instead of going on meet and greet dates and being lied to for a great first impression, I choose to live alone and love the lack of drama. If any guy likes drama, they are not a sigma.

[@YourWingmam]

Here here. I find the same in all relationships including friends and family and have to remind myself that many (maybe most) people live in fear of being 100% genuine.

[@yegotyp4084]

thanks, Anna ;)

[@YourWingmam]

Glad you’re here! :)

[@FulvioGa]

Nice.

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@juliustabert5613]

Sigma Male here. I find it funny that the responsibility for a break up is always put on the Sigma Male. Nobody takes into consideration the chaotic nature of women, Many women nowadays have so many hidden emotional problems they bring into the relationship, which crushes it and makes it unbearable to live in. Mental health and peace of mind are important in any relationship. The fight outside is already too hard, and who wants to come home to continue an exhausting fight at the homefront. This has nothing to do with emotional availability\unavailability or an avoidance attachment style . This has all to do with how we interact with each other. I just broke up from a 3 1/2 year relationship. My girlfriend had an anxious attachment style and constantly stepped over every barrier/boundary she could find. Breaking up with her what is necessary in order to regain peace. Finger pointing at the Sigma is always easy. Emotional discipline and respecting your partner is the real hard task on hand, and many women don’t like to do that work.

[@MrMockingbird1313]

Hey Anna, I am a true sigma, because I do hard things, and take complicated riskes. I have many women friends, but I can't find a girl friend. It's a hard paradox to understand. I do not feel avoidant; I think most women today are very avoidant. And, as you often say, ask is the fruit worth the squeeze? Also, is the fruit ripe enough, for me? I'm 69 and fit. As time goes by, this situation gets worse.

[@YourWingmam]

Find and watch some of my videos on older men and younger women. They will help!

[@chadwickpainter8212]

I get what you said about the whole dying first thing. I have a terminal illness. I am much younger than most peeps with my illness which means I have a better chance of surviving longer than most, but I've been on death's doorstep several times with it. It makes the decision to date a tough one, because ideally, I want to be married. I don't do the casual thing, as it goes against my religious beliefs. Either way, I keep my eyes open and trust God.

[@YourWingmam]

Big hug, prayers you’re given a life of joy for however long you’re here. Trust can give you strength when you think you have none left. Also, time is not guaranteed for anyone. 🤍

[@chadwickpainter8212]

​@@YourWingmam Word. Thanks for the kind words. God bless you.

[@tod3msn]

The best thing you can do in dating is to practice honesty with yourself. If your not getting accepted move on or being friend zoned move on. Be nice and smile and walk away. Don’t put up with nonsense by walking away.

[@audioelitist3677]

Reading through the comments, it's easy to pick out the ones where people actually say something meaningful, like this comment. I see a bunch of meaningless comments where people are parroting, but yours is a genuine one. Thank you for using your brain.

[@shimon1166]

I've dated hundreds of women, and I'm the prototypical Sigma male. Wingmam looks lovely in this video, but I'd like you to bring back wearing the pearls! Steve from Brooklyn USA speaks.

[@YourWingmam]

For being the prototypical Sigma, it sounds like you've had plenty of experience figuring out what works for you. Keep being yourself, and thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts!

[@0HellSlayer0]

Bonjour vidéo très intéressante certains points que vous décrivez me sont familiers, j'aurais une question être calculateur avant d'être amoureux rentre dans quelle case selon vous , par calculateur je veux dire que je ne consoit pas le fait de tomber amoureux sans réfléchir au risque de perte en terme d'investissement émotionnel et de temps dans une femme.Etant donnée le nombre de statistiques sur le nombre de divorce/tromperie et le nombre de témoignages d'homme étant investi émotionnellement durant plusieurs années pour voir finalement la demoiselle se volatiser et rendre leur investissement nul .

[@davidbigd9047]

I'm a Sigma and definitely prefer my own company while also secure enough to want emotional intimacy. However, I will not participate in "dating" as I see it as a game which I despise games. I would prefer Courting as my strategy for finding my wife so I don't waste weeks, months or years trying to find the right woman who will complement my life. After being neglected emotionally my whole life and never having anyone around me willing to help me get into a relationship, I learned to regulate my emotions in public and around my family while appreciating my uniqueness standing firm in my beliefs and values.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@jermaineloreaux5220]

“I’m a Sigma!”, yeah bro like 99% of those sigmas still employed & having a damn boss

[@davidbigd9047]

@ No, I’m not employed and I’m working on building my off-grid homestead to live off the land.

[@stuartwilson3753]

I will not have any labels attached to me, by anyone. I spent much time in a kids home. I now don't need anyone. A partner is nice to have but not essential.

[@whitegoldakarawstahh]

hello fam 🐺

[@YourWingmam]

Hey there, fam! 🐺 How’s it going? 😊

[@Bada_Boom78]

So I’m a hybrid of both, but more-so Sigma. I’m not afraid of intimacy or getting hurt. I avoid getting me-too’d etc. Women are unstable in my stable world. I’ve also been through divorce and have general trust issues with both sexes. People suck. I like my peace.

[@AndrewTanyaW]

Still true sigma, thanks for the information

[@HelloworldWelcometoMylife1]

what do you think of this im learning to be able to say those from memory Flirting with humor can be a great way to signal romantic interest without being too direct! Here are some ideas on how to convey your intentions in a lighthearted way that can hint at your interest in a relationship: Use playful banter: Say something like, “You know, if I were your boyfriend, I’d be totally biased, but I’d still say you’re the best.” This flirty, fun approach makes it clear you're interested without putting pressure on her to respond seriously. Drop a funny “if we were dating” line: Try something like, “If we were dating, I'd be the best cook… at making toast,” or something quirky that relates to your personality. It subtly suggests the idea of dating without actually asking her out. Turn a compliment into a joke: For example, "You know, I'm not saying you should date me... but I'm just saying, we’d probably be everyone’s favorite couple." It’s a compliment that hints at a relationship without putting her on the spot. Frame it as a “future plan”: Say something playful like, “So, when are we telling everyone we’re officially dating?” with a smile. It’s humorous but implies that you’re interested in moving things forward. Use humor to test the waters: Try something like, “We’d make a great couple - you know, if you’re into smart, quirky guys like me.” This approach uses humor and a touch of confidence to communicate that you’re open to something more, but it’s not too serious. The key with all of these is delivery-keep it light, playful, and gauge her reaction. If she jokes back or seems flattered, that's a good sign.

[@ChristopherFisher_78]

Wonderful explanation! After all that, I am happy to actually be mostly Sigma

[@YourWingmam]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@SerpentBornOfficial]

Im tired of life. Although I like me and find joy seeing people thrive and enjoying nature. I don’t like having more than my intermediate family around for longer than half an hour. I like to work. I don’t date because I’m trying to stabilise my home and work life while funding my interests. I would like to have someone be part of that and share their dreams with them. I can incorporate you into my life but I’m already doing something so you’ll have to ask for my time and I’ll ready some free time.

[@gordonlawrence1448]

There are a few other Sigma traits that are obvious if you look. EG pretty much constant learning. Sigmas actively seek out solitude and rarely ask for help. They have a strong sense of self and as such can focus on their goals

[@lonelyastronautaudio]

I hate labels. Between Sigma, Aloha, MTGOW. Some of us have lost so many best friends and family in very tragic ways, we’re just broken in some ways. How well do you think you would do after your best friend is gunned down for no reason at all, and no idea who did it? And that’s just one best friend and not including family and other best friends. I work hard and actively do the right things to slowly understand how to heal, but dating is not possible. Just the way things worked out..

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing your perspective.

[@camnto]

Actually, I used to think of myself as “serial monogamist” as I’d rather spend some time with that someone I’m comfortable with. Yes, that has allowed disrespect and breaking it off time consuming.

[@Sigma77-n2u]

So true love your Sigma videos ! ❤ I’m married for 20 yrs have 1-2 close friends and value my independence aside from my marriage. Heck I even sleep in my own room 😅

[@YourWingmam]

It sounds like you've got a good balance going! Glad you enjoy my sigma videos :))

[@marcellinden7305]

You just reinforced my suspicions. This 62yo childless widower is definitely a Sigma male.... Well, not exactly childless, I have 4 wonderfully adult not quite adopted people who see and treat me as their dad.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@michaellawson6533]

Only love can light the mirror of the soul.

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙏

[@MAX5WM]

It's true!

[@jameshunt3504]

Insecurely ATTACHED 😂 WHAT⁉️ 🤣