The Therapist: Laura Jane Grace

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Against Me! singer Laura Jane Grace opens up about being transgender, and how it has impacted her familial and romantic relationships.
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#TheTherapist

[@Fotosynthesis858]

I'm a heterosexual man who always loved his band, Against Me. And my opinion on LJG didn't change one iota when I found out she was trans. It actually made her lyrics & music make more sense to me. I thought she was a badass BEFORE she came out. And now she's even MORE of a badass now that she has. That must've taken a lot of courage knowing the industry she's in.

[@sammytabasco]

Same dude. I was just reminiscing on their old tunes after many years of not hearing them, and was really confused reading Against Me!'s Spotify bio when it kept saying "Laura". Dove a little deeper to find out Thomas came out as Trans, and it totally made me respect her more. Like damn...I can't even imagine the mountain you have to climb in this day and age being someone of fame to come out. Cheers Laura. You rock harder than ever!

[@THEQueeferSutherland]

her

[@itsyaboypotato568]

@@THEQueeferSutherland dude stfu. 🤣🤦

[@brin57]

@@THEQueeferSutherland Yes, her. Deal with it!

[@ToddTurd]

Spot on spot on

[@stephss]

This therapist seems more into the theatrics and presentation of the conversation, then actually helping Laura deconstruct some of her opinions. A little too peacock for my taste. I appreciate how she keeps it real, and how the producers opened up the segment about how "all therapist are not created equal." Her courage is inspiring.

[@mariawickens1370]

That point at 3.50 when the therapist says . "You turned against yourself." The expression on her face. Its gut wrenching. I had to go hug my kids afterwards and tell them I loved them. In my opinion LJG deserves a few things to be easy now because clearly a lot of things have been very, very hard and she's somehow got through it.. Gosh. That expression, just twisted something in me. Such a strong, brave person to be able to speak so articulately and thoughtfully and even smile and laugh . But haunting. That sad, sad expression. I think I'll go hug my boys again.

[@ehcmier]

And the camera pushed in. The power of editing.

[@brin57]

And did you also get make the connection of "You turned against yourself" to the band name "Against Me". She's an amazing human.

[@WATCHTHESTEW4me]

Really like the concept for this series, both seem like they're being very candid and humble. They also seem to be having a real conversation as opposed to being just another fluff piece. Big thumbs up

[@uzitenenbaum952]

I owe Laura grace a lot, perhaps even my life, against me came to me by chance, I went to see the blood brothers and against me was playing their 3rd album, after I heard the then Tom gabel sing I was in love, her, her band, has gotten me through the toughest times in my life, like when I was in the county jail, on the floor of a cell where the lights never get shut off and there's no windows or clocks, so you never knew what time it was, I repeated the lyrics to the song searching for a former clarity to get me through the time in jail where I was going through intense heroin withdrawals, against me some how made the time a bit easier, I guess knowing there's another broken soul whose managed to scream their way into my life is comforting, I have the up most respect for Laura grace and the band as a whole, and admire her even more now than I did when I was 16 and first started to listen to them, it's brave to come out as trans, and has in a way given more trans people a bigger, better and louder platform to share what they're dealing with, I'm 30 years old and I love everything against me as released, I'm normally a guy that would say "they're older stuff is better" but against me is my exception, I thought their transgender dysphoria blues album was incredible. I know no one will read this but I just wanted to get it out their that I think Laura grace is an amazing, brave, intelligent person that I may very well owe my life to, because those days on the floor going through withdrawals I was thinking about killing myself the entire time, and I could have very easily, but I didn't want to give in, and against mes lyrics got me through it, I look forward to and and all future releases, so long as she keeps screaming her soul with smart and passionate lyrics, then they can never fail.

[@DesertWitch666]

Uzi Tenenbaum I hope you’re doing better. You are just as brave and incredible for fighting through that shit. Drug addiction is not easy.

[@ushaani8912]

Love this. I can totally relate. You get so used to fighting and defending yourself that you don't know when to stop.

[@trenaceandblackmetal5621]

Don't you mean fighting yourself?

[@ayelentorres6969]

…same

[@snugglepuff33]

I'd be mighty proud to be Laura's dad. Can't type that in a way that doesn't sound weird but I'm just saying she's a very talented, accomplished person. It's a shame if her family can't recognize that.

[@truffle7153]

I get you Laura. This is jaime. I'm sorry, I've been fucked up since i saw you last. You never knew that I went through the same thing before I moved to Gainesville. All apologies for being a hateful drunk. I love you. Forever.

[@Pietroago666]

Laura is such an inspiration

[@francismotionless393]

Thank you laura for saving my life.. you will most likely never see this though. You and my little brother gave me strength to come out as bisexual.

[@thomasa55]

Can we have Riff Raff at The Therapist ?

[@Catchmarley]

This interview was EVERYTHING why does it have low views?? This the conversation that the world is NOT ready to have. Smh

[@genevieve3467]

LJG is one of the only musicians, like Billie Joe Armstrong, who can really just say what we all need to hear in her music

[@iangoodisDMX]

Green day sucks

[@aligboyakasha]

I find this helpful in my own life. Seeing a huge rockstar has the same fears and struggles I feel and some I don't, it just helps me feel like I'm not worse for not having it figured out or for not having the level of success as my inspirations.

[@johnnj3858]

Laura is so intelligent, talented and beautiful. Overly intelligent people tend to have psychological issues.

[@douglasmonteiro4881]

Love Laura

[@z0mbiepuppy840]

i love her so much im gonna start sobbing

[@LaArtifice]

She is coming to Chile soon. We'll be there, sweet Laura! And, well, maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think we should take responsibility to heal relationships that were broken by other people's ignorance and lack of compassion. Not once and again. It's painful, mourning is better.

[@cleocole493]

Josefa Ruiz-Tagle I agree She doesn’t need to fix her family’s transphobia It’s not on her

[@Mannyroots7]

Great episodes keep em coming!

[@matthewhackett3429]

Her 7yo is very lucky to have a role model like that in her life. transparent honesty and willingness to take advice from older/wiser folks is a great example to set for fans and kids !

[@Danilogott]

oh that last minute hit me so hard, I relate to that in so many ways.

[@masterhazevienna]

i like the talking but i dont like the video cuts of reactions from "the therapist" ;)

[@elainehelmont4647]

Laura is great,I'm planning to start a channel about punk rock and will definitly be talking about your band when it happens.

[@AndyS52]

great job on this series

[@Tormentality]

Except for the wack therapist.

[@timking3990]

Such a real conversation i felt privileged to watch. And great shirt✊ Milk teeth are fukn amazing too just saying.

[@summerstern]

i love this series! always gets me to cry.

[@DayvidHarding]

Which one is "The Therapist"?

[@moviehaus3492]

i have so much love and respect for laura.

[@_AdrianD]

I met Dr. Siri Sat Nam in Sherman Oaks in the middle of a crosswalk. He is an awesome and very humble man! Wish we had more time to talk brother!

[@Jay-pj4rg]

So much love for you Laura Jane Grace!

[@whoiamhowilive]

Love, Love, Love Laura. She is such a baddass on so many levels. 💓 #yourcourageisshowing

[@Ali-xc5xg]

Powerful

[@shannon-daygrant8754]

Nothing like a therapist telling the client how they feel

[@corkhousemedia9106]

Its not the therapists job to affirm emotions based on faulty thinking, its their job to put a mirror up to the client to help them realize that they are responsible for their life decisions. This helps them reestablish control in their life. If they just sit there and nod, all they are doing is feeding the clients ego.

[@estebanb7166]

Who is he hurting? He is licensed. Who are you?

[@youthofyesterdayrecords]

It's on Laura to deal with family members who make love conditional? Fuck that. Love your child, no matter what.

[@reneerobinson3559]

She has a family-her daughter. She should not feel guilty of this. She separated from her wife which is why she likes feels a void. Fuck the remaining family.

[@stephenryan1912]

Im actually not only a believer in therapy. Im a user.

[@LilBouya]

Please upload the others Joey Bada$$ etc..!!

[@southboundguitar]

Love it! Love you, LJG!!

[@adamdudley8736]

who the hell is this guy? he said some really dumb s*** at about 9:30 that irritated the hell out of me

[@rogergoza3180]

She’s wearing a Milk Teeth shirt too

[@alexokeeffe6995]

Roger Pessimistic ikr love it!!

[@Fernandaaa96]

love of my lyf

[@avinmcnew1899]

OK...opinions..judgements...and so forth....it really is unnessesary to add the remarks on how " she" yes she looks...I'm not exactly sure on how her being completely gut hoinest makes her selfish at all...one needs to be true to themselves, their the only ones that have to live with themselves everday...because her parents or intermediate familly doesnt accept her as having the upmost courage to truelly accept these things are real and happening is not at all a selfish act...what and where , who would be if she wasn't honest ? What good would that do for anyone, most impoortantly herself to be what others wanted...it is absolutley an essence of one and a respinsibility to look deep inside ourselves and bring up all the confusion from others and herself in order to lead in her own life and be this example to everyone and her child the spirit of a human being that is whole and pure....because some people live in a conformed , miserable existance , in which is their choice ...to be molded to profection into a puppet or beleif that one needs to grow up and live and become of which whoever expects them to is selfish on their part...to live how peoplle thinks she should is nothing but a person that isnt truelly themselves...and that is no good for anyone...people live in fear..in fear of what kind of life they need to live in order to make others satisfied ....then what? The most selfish thing she could do is to be who everyone els thinks she should be..just to make the mold...fuck that...I totally respect her for sharing what most others are to afraid to...I saw the question of "Tom?What have you done to yourself?" Really ?...Tom was the birth name he was givin...by someone els....man...if someone can have the upmost bravery to claim them selves ...my hats off....!..I could write more...and more...this I say is an upmost act of a human being that is living the life of who they truelly are....

[@joebarrell8045]

Laura love reppin that milk teeth shirt

[@derek4384]

laura is smarter

[@mudlakemicrobes]

What a cringey psychologist. Well done Laura but argh the world needs more people in mental health care who actually understand the experience of living a life with dysphoria and then rebuilding the self. Much love to you, keep on rocking girl.

[@thedavidjscott_]

Beth Tyler I’ve watched many videos with him, and he’s typically fantastic. I don’t really think he knows how to approach transgender dysphoria

[@samuelblinne6040]

Awesome

[@oneidawolf776]

love Milk Teeth

[@alejandravioleta5794]

I love Laura's words but the therapist was like really off-putting with their exaggerated reactions, and finally blaming her and putting the responsability on her to try to make ammends with her family

[@corkhousemedia9106]

She is not a victim, she says straight up that she makes very little attempt to connect with family. Big ego and low self esteem = negative thought process = depression = suicidal idealization.

[@nschultz417]

I didn't read it so much that the therapist was blaming her for her family not getting along. I felt like his point was that the only way her kid will see her grandparents is if Laura does 100% of the work because the rest of the family is too emotionally unhealthy to say sorry or make amends. It's just like with dating someone - the person who cares the least has the most control and the most power. The person who cares about the relationship does all the bargaining and compromising.

[@brin57]

He was not blaming her. Her was giving her the other perspective. A view point she may not have considered.

[@jakeclifford1703]

I didn’t subscribe to this channel wtf??

[@izzie833]

how is this interview?

[@maxwellwhitaker7708]

wow

[@helenasplace]

😪😪😢🙏🙏😘😘💗💗 Seek the truth

[@Tormentality]

The truth is, there is no truth.

[@doloritasvega]

she already sacrificed so much in her life... her identity, her happiness; her own fulfillment as a person for the prejudice of people; prejudice of her own family, and it's on her to sacrifice even more to give her family what? comfortability? There's a lack of understanding by cis therapists of transgender issues... transgender people don't come out for a long time because of shame and guilt and I feel like he is making her feel like it's her fault that her father stopped talking to her. If her father's so "afraid" it's on him to research and open his mind to understand his kid; Laura already sacrificed enough. I don't think this is something he can understand. That's a big point that just disgusted me in this interview (?). Sorry for the rant, but I really feel that point was not fair and it's wrong; honestly if a therapist told me that, i'd never see him again.

[@Mr._Du]

LJG rocks hard.

[@deadaluswushoo]

This must be a mindfuck for the therapist, so much to pick on

[@briansims2497]

Love

[@AlexGordonMusic]

Laura. Meditate. A lot. Some of us have to more than others. Find half hour long guided minfulness mediations, and do it once a day. Do it, and you will be happier. Guaranteed.

[@aligboyakasha]

Yes, though don't expect it to be an all-curing miracle either.

[@AlexGordonMusic]

aligboyakasha honestly, that’s kind of a stupid thing to say People underestimate just how much good can be done by intently caring about your psychology “Won’t be a miracle” ? Our minds are all we have.... and If you can learn how to not let your mind hurt you...... are you under the impression that this is an insignificant capacity to have? I can assure you it isn’t Thus my stressing the point of “do it” Pointing out the fact that meditation won’t allow you to levitate..... doesn’t strike me as a helpful addition to my statement.

[@Shalanaya]

Meditation can do wonders, yet when we're cut and bleeding then sometimes our open third eye is not powerful enough to stop the bleeding. So all-curing it is not, but very much curing to the extent one is willing to dedicate themselves to it. We have not come here to spend only in meditation, so there is a balance. Laura can only do what her spirit guides her to do.

[@chloemcholoe3280]

I can't meditate 0_0

[@stephenryan1912]

Im hearing an h. Is your dead granddad an h?

[@welshhibby]

Is this a trans woman ?

[@iangoodisDMX]

Male to female

[@thekitsunewavefunctionband7168]

[@goodgulfgreyteeth1195]

I hate this "therapist" he so unlikable. I watched the the series and could never relate to anything he said and some of the things he did like having them ring bells and stuff is total quackery

[@estebanb7166]

Jeez. I love this guy. I'm not seeing any of what you're talking about. Just interesting to see how perspective is everything.

[@colinmahony2274]

I love this guy

[@mrraccoon6264]

The results of a Soy based diet

[@Williamstanway]

Lol that's got me on the floor

[@jordanjoanp.6858]

🦗chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp!

[@mothafuckinanarchist5392]

Uhhh I'm so funny I watch Paul Joseph Watson and Ben Shapiro.

[@aus-li]

This is predictable and boring, lol

[@vinny5638]

expectations are everything, sounds like you just had a self fulfilling prophecy lol.

[@aus-li]

Vinny What do you mean?

[@msheehandub]

Idk man, She seems selfish to me. Even said herself she wants it easy. Of course family rejects her. Sad to drag a young child into the mess. She needs to accept that she isn't some super amazing glorious brave exceptional human, and put in the work to fix her broken relationships. She missed her brothers wedding? Never met his mom's new husband? Sounds like they want nothing to do with her. Head up Laura and start by not thinking you are owed something special just because you have a rare mental illness!

[@brin57]

I think you might be more fucked up than LJG.

[@robertaglass]

Looks like his male ego is still intact!

[@dannyboi981]

What do you mean? Also that's a woman so idk

[@robertaglass]

@@dannyboi981 Nope not a woman. A penis bearing man.

[@dannyboi981]

@@robertaglass I think its kinda weird how you're obsessed with what parts she has. Why does it matter?

[@mothafuckinanarchist5392]

@@robertaglass Penises don't define manhood. It's just that the vast majority of men have them. That's like saying having 10 fingers is human so if you're born with less you're not human.

[@Killian1111]

I think you meant her as in woman. This is a woman if you didn't know now you do.

[@oodles86]

Is it a man turning woman or a woman turning man

[@reficul1984]

Man wanting to be a woman.

[@reficul1984]

I wanted to come back and say something because my comment could be taken wrong. I have no problem with trans gays and so on I just feel a man or a woman will always be just that and no surgery will change that anyone can do what they want in their life does not bother me rather I like it or not it is not hurting me. I just wish more people could be understanding of other people's lives.

[@The_Real_Boaz_Priestly]

Like, you say you "have no problem with trans, gays, and so on," but then go on to be pretty blatantly transphobic. Being transgender is not so much "wanting" to be a gender other than what you were assigned at birth, but KNOWING that you are a gender other than what you were assigned at birth. Also, funnily enough, your opinion as a non-transgender person doesn't matter at all in this context sooo *shrug*

[@GrannyBender]

Does it matter to enjoy the music?

[@The_Real_Boaz_Priestly]

It matters if you're being a transphobe, yeah

[@drdead2006]

This dude is crazy lookin.

[@maxwellwhitaker7708]

wow

[@maxwellwhitaker7708]

wow