The trick that all confident people use to stay positive | Chapter 4 from The High 5 Habit (Part 5)

➡️ This is the trick that all confident and successful people use to stay positive…
1️⃣ CATCH the negative thought.
(it’s some version of I’m not enough).
2️⃣ BREAK the negative thought.
Try talking back to it - I usually say - “I’m not thinking about that.”
3️⃣ REPLACE the negative thought.
With whatever you want to think...or with what I, Mel Robbins would tell you to think.
By Catching, Breaking and Replacing the negative thought you will reprogram your mind.
You must follow these three steps.
If you just catch the negative thought - it’ll keep repeating.
If you only break it - it’ll come back bc it’s programmed into your mental circuitry.
You must REPLACE it - so that new thought over time becomes your new default.
In this video view - I also tie a confident and positive mind back to your core emotional needs.
☑️ to be seen,
☑️ to be heard,
☑️ to be accepted or celebrated for the unique individual you are.
When you don’t feel seen, heard or accepted, you end up feeling stuck, invisible and unfulfilled. When you take control of your mind by catching, breaking, and replacing those negative thoughts, you fulfill those needs for yourself.
All of this is from Chapter 4 in The High 5 Habit, which I’m reading in this video. We start on page 59 if you want to follow along. I also answer two questions:
➡️ 3 things to do if you feel misunderstood by your family
➡️ 4 ways to make your kids feel loved unconditionally but still be the parent.
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[@parrissullivan1693]

I started high 5’ing myself in the mirror every morning, less than a week ago and my life is starting to transform. I am 54 and all I have ever wanted is to love myself! I have an 11 year old daughter and am so grateful that I can now be a healthy role model and break those generational patterns! Thank you for all you do Mel, I have so much gratitude to have you in my life!! xoxo

[@privateequityguy]

*"If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can't hear them..."* If you are reading this, I hope you have an amazing day!

[@kimlamie7264]

Hahahaha- love this🤣 so awesome you say so😊 exactly😘

[@vanessasmith1258]

Thank u

[@michemiche1764]

💯💯💯

[@JaneG]

Period!

[@floydsmithjr7999]

Excellent. What other people think about you is useless bullshit. What you think about you is all that matters.

[@fabianotoma8401]

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[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@rebeccagrace1509]

THIS IS SOoo SWEET😍🌏!!! BLESS YOUR GOLDEN HEART🙏🏽🙌🏽💖!!! and Same to Youu😘💌🌌🌻

[@jasminapetrovic594]

Thank you.

[@TamiVroma1]

But you won't make it through it if you don't take the steps to help yourself! Thank you Mel for giving us the tools and the way to do it!

[@mensuragurda4975]

❤❤❤❤

[@rogers5622]

Thank you

[@DemetriPanici]

*“My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather to have less to do.” - Francine Jay*

[@jodiwest1382]

Beautiful

[@maryloumilyard1909]

Don Aslett would applaud this all the way, his books are a riot but he is spot on.

[@johannariddle9703]

That's me!

[@janinesmith4553]

Me too, I tend to overload myself with tasks because I feel responsible for everything. I need to let go and focus on me for once in my life.

[@LittleTut]

My goodness, this is hitting me right in the core. I don't feel I'm seen, heard and appreciated, even disrespected for a long time now, since childhood really, by many in my life and whom I've come across through my life experiences. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@lori-annefay4138]

You are not alone in this boat. Growing up with Narcissistic abuse, then repeating patterns has led me to feel this way as well. Until you look inward and learn to appreciate and love you for you they way other people act and react to you matters, but once you see, accept, love and validate yourself how other people respond or react to you, no longer matter so much, this leads to freedom and joy.

[@janetfreysanderson5731]

I totally so feel the same way as you.

[@debrayates7807]

Right

[@LittleTut]

@@lori-annefay4138 Yes. I'm agree. Working on it. 🙏🏽

[@LittleTut]

@@janetfreysanderson5731 Now, just working on myself, self love, self like, then that other external stuff doesn't even matter.

[@j_mae999]

The amount of love I felt in my body just giving my self a high five and tell myself how proud of myself I was made me cry. My body reacted immediately and I never felt so loved in my life. At night time I told myself goodnight and that I was beautiful. But also that I was so proud of myself. I started crying. never in my life have I heard those words before bed. again my body reacted immediately. I’m going to keep practicing this. Incredible.

[@wandamanuel6293]

Just found you... I'm 8mo into finding love for ME... Dropping a 30 yr drug addiction... Loving your knowledge...thankful 🙏 🙌 ✨ ... GRATEFUL 🙏 LOVE THIS...

[@Connectingthedots.]

This is beautiful. You are a miracle. You beat the odds of over 1 in a many many many millions to be here. I see you, I hear you, I celebrate you. Sending you so much love ❤️

[@edgreen8140]

You're not enough. I got it right in the past. The people who dis you are not insightful people so let it be known that doesn't define you. You're better than that. They just can't see you. Youre great!

[@P1nkBanj0]

When I was learning Maslow in nursing studies, I wondered how to use this information toward myself. I felt like if I could live the nursing lessons, i could 'promote' others to health care themselves, be their own nurse. I can't believe you have all of this understanding in one tiny book! xo

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

I m so in love with myself!!!!!!!!!!!!! And my dog

[@melissaszarka5718]

My family never approves of me.....I let them all go. I am an adult & I don't need their approval. I hope they are all living their best life.

[@DJAvalonArizona]

The High Five Habit changed me around. Just when I think she couldn’t repeat the success of the 5 second rule, Mel puts her heart & soul into another nuclear truth bomb 💣 😁 I am SO grateful for this book. The painting 🖼 chapter. Get your Kleenex out.

[@kelleysouviney4590]

Love your messages ! I also have learned that a sense of humor is vital as well as great faith can get you through much in this life!

[@recoverywithlee2591]

DETECTING PATTERNS in how speak to ourselves is KEY to transition away from past limiting patterns. WE need to become aware of the specific phrases that continue to give us an un-easy gut reaction. This was crucial in my early days of addiction recovery, and helps those I guide, in all circumstances of limiting behavior. TIP: 1. Make an inventory of these limiting statements. 2. Make it mandatory to combat this with WORDS TO YOURSELF that are accurate and kind. 3. Create and recite an affirmation each morning, specific to you, detailing you deserve happiness. 4. Take an action towards your goal. BEST PRACTICES and WISHES to us ALL!

[@desikamanis9219]

Thank you Mel,my Psychologist told me about you, so I am grateful, as I am going through difficult times, I listen and try to do what you say, going through depression,stress and much more. I am grateful for being alive and what I do have, everyone needs to be loved, needed, wanted that is important. 🙏♥️

[@actinglikeheather]

My setback selftalk is "I'm not smart enough to do that"

[@AccelerateYourSuccess]

Has the High 5 Habit been helping you overcome that erroneous self-talk?

[@actinglikeheather]

@@AccelerateYourSuccess yes it has!

[@AhmetKaan]

*To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...*

[@hansonel]

Love this book so much. And there is actual well researched neuroscience backing these life changing concepts.

[@cassandrac8849]

WOW. FANTASTIC. You just summarized what took me 9 years of therapy to learn. 👏👏👏👏✨👌 Thank you. HANDS DOWN, the only advice I need in life.

[@charisseproffitt3653]

I lost my Mom earlier this year. I miss her tremendously. Be thankful you still have her. And thank you for your time.

[@chrissyhammond9089]

Me too a few years it's so difficult God bless you I'm sorry about your mama not being here with us

[@sharonellery9673]

I lost my mum in 2020. I still miss her everyday!

[@Giselle332]

I have done anything and everything for certain people and they've taken advantage of it and reciprocated nothing but laughed at me instead. I don't see that dynamic changing if I keep giving to them. I just feel depleted, disrespected and like a doormat.

[@Giselle332]

@@Jasmine_Klein thank you. I will do. X

[@Jo_spice_blackwood]

To be heard, to be accepted as I am to be hugged My low thought..I am not loving enough (o am not confident enough to be in the world as me)

[@dsmwreck486]

Thank you Mel Robbins for all you do :)

[@hannaha5111]

8:10 oh my word, light bulb moment! I have never understood the times when I feel disconnected or why no matter how much work I have done on myself. This was a huge lightbulb and like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! Thank you 💟

[@sophxx14]

All you gotta do to love some one or someone to love you is to love yourself first. Saying hurtful things and putting yourself down doesn’t make you feel better, doesn’t it. You are going to be okay. Don’t hate people, even if they hate you or are mean to you. Be kind to everyone. Everyone deserves an amazing life. You are beautiful, kind, smart and an amazing person. Have an amazing day! ❤❤❤

[@jack-gf6jw]

For me I always feel like I annoy people especially my parents because I like to talk to others and I'm passionate about a lot of stuff and I can get easily excited. Thing is, I love that about myself I just wish others did too :/

[@misbahailia3345]

Same.

[@westieyolowinston230]

I’m the same way. Some of my family does this too but I just learned that I’m the person that gets Happy moving in the family. Shame on them. You’re golden

[@patriciacurran3989]

Thank you, my dear. It's Christmas Eve morning and I'm laying in bed planning out my baking tasks for tomorrow's brunch with my daughter, the only family I interact with anymore because of the abusive gaslighting my sister who's favorite motto is "" Suck it up, buttercup " when she would openly disrespect my feelings. She's pretty much invalidates me to the rest of the family to the point where I'm not even included to anything she participates in. It's been a long journey building a new life for myself and I think this " High Five will be the icing on the cake. Thank you.

[@actinglikeheather]

I've started the high five challenge and noticed a change in my self talk. In that moment, I believe in myself a little more and life gets a little lighter.

[@CrimeTimeXY]

I am mostly positive when I am not around my family or close persons. Am I around the wrong people? I added high fiving in my morning routine and it feels nice. But now I see how many people doesnt high five me.

[@kimberleyformacio865]

Mel Robbins you are absolutely amazing! I have learned to love myself, accept myself and understand myself better because of you 🙏🙏 I really loved your parenting tips too because being the best mother to my boys is the most important thing to me ❤️ Thank you for your inspiring words ❤️

[@KishaCole1232]

Thank you Mel. I have been binging your KZbin channel this past week and WOW. I've always been a fan but woman, you amaze me. And provide so much value on this channel. I am always looking to grow and evolve and sometimes I find myself obsessing over negative things. This video is a beautiful reminder of how to be happier! Xoxo 😘

[@cgt7881]

About being respectful but I’ll see it works when the shoe is on the other foot when I already hear so much negative anyways about this relationship..I don’t trash myself it’s what I hear about my relationship.. all the negative remarks from my guy that’s all I hear that I’m not accepted from his family and friend.. that they’re so much better.. when who are they to judge me when they’ve never met me & who are they to feel they are so much better than the next person! Why? Is segregation! Because of money! Nobody will try to make me feel less than! Nobody! I chose somebody else over you because of money! Is what I was told! As if I’m not good enough because of a dollar! I’m just the total opposite! But they said I need to stay positive! How can I? Don’t know if they are good for around! Nobody has ever tried to make feel less than or bring me down ever in my life of living.. I’ve never experienced anything like this... not healthy for me!

[@sophxx14]

I feel so bad😢 poor you

[@melissaszarka5718]

Yes. Love the high five habit! Imagine a life where I am seen, appreciated & truly valued.

[@christyeccles263]

I'm having a hard time. I need to see son. I need my name cleared. I've been getting into trouble by what everyone else did. I've never done anything wrong to anyone. I've always been a solid friend. I've never gave anyone up. Only for them to put their flats on me. And I always get cut down.. it's my birthday today. I can't even call my son. Without facing a 7 year prison sentence. For no reason. Except. My ex lying. And Mr Cooper. Drunk asshole. Wthey all lied . I hate it. Then I totally love this girl, and my broken wing, narcissist who truly needs help. I can't just abandon her. But she sabatoged my relationship with the girl that I love so much. And I'm in big tribal because of it, my broken wing is so mentally abousive to me. It sucks so bad. The girl that I love thinks I'm something that I'm not. And I can't even call her either without facing criminal charges. So the 2 People that I love the most. I can't see. And for no good reason other than other people's lies.... I'm fine already. A few hours ago I wanted to kill myself. I'm already back on point. Except that she is trying to break me down right now. She is so hertfull to me

[@patricehennessy6445]

My weight. My sister's are obese. They are into body positive.....ME!?! All my friends are sz4 Doctors Wives And Believe FAT IS FATAL. so I struggle slot!?!! TY4U M.R.! Yes! After Covid Infection I've been a work in progress.💖hcw

[@graceleach5726]

This was just amazing and well needed. Thank you Mel!

[@melissaszarka5718]

The confidence trick. The old thought? I am not energetic enough to start the day...my mind is running away from being calm. Next, someone taught me the lie that is wrong about me. Say: I am not thinking like that. Replace: I am a miracle! I am good enough....More than a conqueror. (DONT LET YOUR BRAIN GO THROUGH THE NEGATIVE LOOP)

[@edgreen8140]

You see yourself to stop negative thoughts. You were born perfect.

[@paulstaton1918]

I love this message! I am living and breathing and fighting everyday to apply these concepts so that I don’t loose my purpose!!! Thank you for writing the book! Thank you for talking about our basic simple yet so powerful needs! It starts with the man in the mirror!!!! And the power of loving yourself gets you back to your core values and helps you change your habits and then you improve a little every day. I need this on a daily basis for the lowest of the lows and celebrate the fact that I found your message and your guidance and your love! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@bespoke_heirlooms]

I have a similar relationship with my Mum, but her dementia and recent lung cancer diagnosis has started to push all of that aside. Thank you for making me understand her and myself better, I appreciate your willingness to share your story.

[@westieyolowinston230]

GENERATIONAL PATTERNS are a persons key problems. Thanks for helping US break these patterns

[@kmoy]

Thanks Mel for the pep talk needed this! I really do need to get your book! Have a happy and safe holiday everyone. Hope the new year brings you joy, peace and love.

[@littlegirl3263]

The thought that cycles through my head is “I’m not enough.”

[@soundsforrestandrelaxation9412]

Take out a piece of notebook paper and write over and over again “I am enough” or “I am enough for everything I want” until the whole paper is filled! Do that every day for a week. The truth is, you have to rewrite the narrative of your subconscious with repetition. You are a devine being created in the image of God! You can literally do anything! Give it a shot! Good luck and merry Christmas!

[@littlegirl3263]

@@soundsforrestandrelaxation9412 thank you! I will do this! And yes. God created me in His image. So when I say I’m not enough, I’m saying HE is not enough! I KNOW He is…in my head. Repetition of writing “I am enough” will help me know it in my soul. Thank you for taking time to reply. God bless you and Merry Christmas to you too!🎄❤️🎄

[@evolu5144]

@@littlegirl3263 God Bless you on your journey. This just shows how we're all bonded in the journey of breaking free of the poison mindset. Move on from the past and start working towards what God wants for and from us. 🙏🏼💓

[@littlegirl3263]

@@evolu5144 True. Let go and let God!💕

[@johannariddle9703]

Me too! I have Inattentive ADD, depression. and anxiety.

[@The-Conscious-Gardener]

You are so authentic Mel, I appreciate you sister! "The horseshit you tell yourself" this line sold me lol

[@jodiwest1382]

Cut Ties Told My Mom I Loved Her Couldn't Say It Back Hung Up & Said Pointless

[@angelique2653]

My beloved husband of 33 years happy marriage passed away 2 years ago. Since then, in a new town, I have been lost. Ive found it difficult to fit in. Now, I realise I dont have to fit in with people whose interests are different to mine. Now, I am finding myself. I plan to take up my stalled creative writing. I aim to be published in 2022. I am finding my voice. I will shine my light. I have struggled, endured, overcome cancer, dealt with loneliness and bereavement, all in the past 3 years, during lockdown. I am a survivor! 💚💙💜🙏🙏🙏

[@melissaszarka5718]

That's right Mel. They say "stupid stuff" that is rude & it's wrong anyway.

[@tammy6452]

She wrote the book and then reads it out loud to people for free, successful and generous, it is s model for good change. 8:20 "understanding these needs is the key access point to change how you experience life." "To be seen, heard, celebrated, accepted for the unique individual you are" To experience love, safety, security. All of this eluded me much of my life. . I am ever indebted to the kindness and integrity of people in my life that provided the safe place to get these needs met until I found it in myself.( still a work in progress...)

[@donaldmurphy1518]

Thank you Tammy for sharing this piece!

[@melissaszarka5718]

Set an alarm 3x a week to call a person. That's brilliant. Thank you

[@farfetched9296]

You know what all confident ppl do? THEY ALL ACT until it becomes second thought without trying🙂 put your acting skills to the test.

[@TamiUSA]

So simple and so quick for us to forget this! Awesome!

[@jacquelinekeller420]

Theres something wrong with me

[@theyetti90]

Love you, Mel. May God bless your family.

[@catcarr3371]

Thanks Mel …. Words of wisdom indeed. May everything you’ve ever dreamed of work out for you all. My thought that makes me spiral is you’re just yourself … I know deep down I’m not but during Christmas and holiday seasons everyone has someone special ( well I think that !?) and I feel I’m hanging on as an extra …. Daft isn’t it. I think Christmas season is hard, it reminds us of those not with us anymore. Stay strong folks xx🥰🎅🏻👍🏼🎄

[@peedevlin3426]

Thank you this is life changing for me I am so looking forward to moving forward and stopping the cycle. My family is very important to me. God Bless you think you for sharing this valuable information.

[@h.dimsdale2458]

WOW! How true, Mel, now I understand where I need to correct myself as a parent and a friend to myself and others. Outstanding!! Well done, Mel. Take care of yourself, too!

[@fayem1336]

Thanks soooo much for this message! I will definitely use your methods for dealing with my Adult children. I’m always trying to fix their problems especially when I see a situation or person is not good at all for them.

[@sophxx14]

Think positive your gonna have a good day

[@goddessinfinity1]

Thank you so much. This video really added value to my life. It was cosmic because it popped up in the midst of me feeling down and depressed. I really appreciate it. Loved this video. 🥰

[@renatasteele]

Thank you for the amazing information Mel. I was listing to this with my daughter. This will make a big impact in her life too. Can't wait to pick up your book.

[@TamiUSA]

I just found your channel! This totally hits the spot! I do gratitude practice daily. 3 thing written down! I also journal how amazing I am ! lol now I will add the hi 5 to remind myself through the day!!! It changes the energy I exude! Really brilliant!

[@dig1272]

Thank you Mel. I'm going to take your teaching on everything you said, and, specifically, I am going to reach out to my long estranged sister to have lunch. As for my adult live-in daughter, I will practice listening and stop giving advice unless she asks for it. And, when it seems like she wants advice I will ask if she only wants me to listen or listen and give advice. She has even complained that I don't listen well enough, so this is it. My New Year's resolution for 2022. I'm going to listen, not just to her, but to everybody more. And practice no interrupting.

[@soundsforrestandrelaxation9412]

I love your books, Mel!! I’ll be re-reading both the high five habit and the 5 second rule after I read the alchemist, which you recommended! Thanks for all that you do and God bless! Merry Christmas!!

[@saraw112]

May God continue to bless you Mel. Thank you for using your gifts and lifting people up. 🌸🌺😊💕🥰

[@peedevlin3426]

People are mad at me

[@hapi_dna]

✨❤️✨ Thank you Mel! Love this chapter ! So appreciate you , your love and widsom! Xoxo 🤗✨

[@sucessology7570]

Thanks Mel for always delivering quality content 🙏❤️

[@geanebeato3560]

AMAZING! Mel Robbins you are totally a miracle in our lives! I am from Brazil and LOVE your material as history of life! Thanks a lot for inspiring us! We are miracle! 🌻

[@virginiamedeiros1070]

Everyone gets love and success not me. Not enough.

[@bunnynelson9088]

I’m new... and I LOVE what you’re doing. Thank you. I’m gonna look up your TED talks... so cool! Totally getting the book set :) again thank You for everything, all the vids, books etc. I’m in!!! ☀️🙏

[@ooulalah4333]

When Mel listed examples of how we tell ourselves we're not enough, it made me uncomfortable. Those thoughts of doom got to me, so I had to skip ahead. Luckily I don't do negative self talks like I did when I was young, but it's stressful just hearing it. I've used the strategy to snip useless thoughts and redirect w positivity and acceptance, but advice from someone like Mel makes it more powerful. Someone with authority validates these methods work. I've been super motivated implementing them. Love it. Love Mel.

[@artaabazi7544]

I love how you explain things. Greetings from a big fan from Europe❤️

[@millardpureforlife]

I am a coward. I’m fucking afraid of the dark. That’s why I put a profile pic of me looking tuff. This is the first time I’ve ever….ever admitted this. It’s fucking hard to say. But, I say it because….. I’m not that guy anymore. Ma’am. Thank you for your teaching. I’m literally typing this with tears in my eyes. I will walk out who I was created to be. I will high five myself every morning and I will count down from 5 when my alarm goes off and actually get up before I hit the snooze. Thank you. Ya know my son is in the Navy. He is in aviation rescue swimmer, now soon to be a Navy seal. When I said I’ve never admitted to be a coward, I even fooled my kids. Today is my watershed event. I’m so excited for what’s ahead. I own a tile and marble installation company. But today your reading the writings of the future, americas most creative and competent tile installer. Cheers!!

[@timeakiss]

Mel wow this is powerful! Subscribed(:

[@melissaszarka5718]

A transfer of action....its a real way to make your foundation strong & to build on it.

[@danieledwardruhl2504]

You so true I like your style keep up the great work

[@georginarandolphgirl66]

I still struggling with major depression and gad and medication that is not working much and might have to go on a new medication. I have tried many over the years and nothing has helped me much. I have had major depression and anxiety as a kid. Some genetic, some enabling and also alot of physical, mental and sexual abuse. 9 years ago I had a full hysterectomy and I spiraled again and all my future fears that I had since childhood is there and I am now too weak to do amything. I pray often for God to take me but he takes others that don't want to go instead. I have no dreams. I am 55 and terrified of aging alone and haven't been able to work in awhile and financially stressed. I am worth more dead than alive. We might lose everything because I can't work.

[@Lys1234]

Mine was Im unlucky in Love, I always have to work sooo hard for everything. That’s another one. I can’t get ahead. Another one. Oh I gave myself cancer - another one. I love your work Mel thank u.. the high five habit has helped me shift my reality ..

[@georgejbonetsky8686]

Things change real quick nothing keeps me down I just feel deeply and love even deeper and I dont beat around the bush straight forward say what you mean mean what you say gd night mel 44

[@alvaegardner]

Hey Mel! Thank you so much for all the great content! Random question, where did you get the headphone holder that's behind you in this video?

[@litzoween]

May I carve, "You Are Absolutely Correct" on that wood beam behind you? BTW - I have been using the 5,4,3,2,1.... advice for two months now and it has helped GREATLY. sometimes the simplest adjustments make the larger impacts. This latest information is an excellent way to "pile on" for even better improvement.

[@littlegirl3263]

This is gonna make you cringe but when I high five myself in the mirror, the one thing I notice is I mess up my mirror with a hand print. I don’t know if anyone else doesn’t touch the mirror with the high five but I need the touch factor.

[@shaziaqayyoum9571]

Mel you have changed my life I used to love going to the gym and last match 2021 has a massive breakdown felt stuck in my mind started to avoid stuf i really was stuck in my head I kept finding that happiness where has it gone the feeling of being anxious all the time but I came up with the 54321 method and watched your motivation video today it is my second day at the gym pushing my self to find myself again thank you soooo much you are a miracle

[@lolav310]

Mell… i wish you a beautiful merry Christmas 🎄 and a wonderful new year!!. Thank you for share your experiences… you bring light darling. Stay blessed

[@jennifercantu1614]

The thoughts that always brings me down are these: I'm not smart enough, I'm not skinny enough, I'm not disciplined enough.

[@judyapplegarth1016]

I am not go enough, not talented

[@trudymade8008]

Love support acceptance

[@MyrnaScales]

I needed to hear all of this today! Thank you Mel!! 🙂

[@breannaseviour1032]

Mel Robbins your an angel thank you for this 🙏🔥❤

[@nikkik6386]

My Poison: "What is wrong with me?! Why can't I just get it together?!?!?" But I'm not think'n 'bout that! Instead I'm going to think... I am and always will be ENOUGH and will always be a work in progress and that is as it should be! I love me and I'm ok. 🖐️❤️🙏

[@melissaszarka5718]

You are a living miracle. Celebrate the amazing person you are. ❤

[@roseellencarlson3588]

Focus that you are worthy and loved

[@きたきさちこ]

Ialwaysfeellonelywhennobodytalkswithme

[@1ajaun]

Thank you so much for these words. They are life saving for real.

[@WhereTheRainbowEnds1111]

My core emotional needs are to be understood/heard, loved & accepted. Im so happy to hear this from you, Mel. Thank you for keeping me on the right path in life.

[@missk7145]

I was going to comment "bingo!" Immediately but then I thought "hold on" and keep listening. Sooooo I did. Glad I didn't text immediately. There's SO MUCH "bingo", 🎯 bull's-eye and "spot on" not to forgot "true dat!". WONDERFUL especially about giving to those relatives (or whatever relationship you desire to see improve) the needs you do not get from them. We all need and must see they (human) need.

[@caramela4830]

To be seen, heard and celebrated/acceptance.

[@---------------------zzx111]

That 5,4,3,2,1 worked. Thanks Mel!