THE TRUTH ABOUT MY WEIGHT

[@ElloSteph]

Thank you all so much for the all of the support. I am seriously in awe with how much positive feedback I have been receiving. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for always encouraging me. I wouldn't be where or who I am today if it wasn't for each and every one of you.

[@TheLindamanga]

Yeah !!! I wish that one day you can come visit France ;)

[@aanchalgupta9310]

I wish i could like this video a 1000 times...

[@memetebo1]

your bueatiful steph!!

[@jeanibeaniwood5727]

I recently have lost over 100lbs through weight loss surgery. I made the decision based on health and self esteem. I am not as happy as I thought I would be with the loss but i am in therapy to work on that. What I have noticed is that I am getting comments about not getting too thin. It amazes me that people think they can comment on weight at all. I am also realizing that I can't make anyone else happy but me. Someone will always think I am either too fat, or too thin. After watching your video I realized that the only thing that matters is that I love me and I am doing this for me. My wife loves me, she loved my body at 290lbs and she loves my body at 185lbs. I am loved and so are you. I was bulemic at 16 and weighed 90 lbs, as a serious ballet dancer I was praised for that body, it is sad what society is telling us. My daughter is 5-10 and 174 and there are girls that call her fat. It enrages me. I sent her a link to your videos not only because of this particular video but because she recently cam out at 16. I am so happy there are people like you who can have a positive message for young LGBTQ+ people. Please never stop being the awesome person you are.

[@SBizarre]

:) Yep healthy is sexy. But its a girls personality which is the most beautiful feature of a woman.

[@HeyThere005]

Aw Steph, you are beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story and opening up. This a very tough, but important issue to talk about

[@ElloSteph]

Thank you love :)

[@jasoncastellanos7727]

+ElloSteph Jason bgg 😃

[@rogerthacher7749]

It always astonished me how eloquent you are when talking about social topics that are so near and dear to you. Not only that, you never respond with even a twinge of negativity...even though you have many reasons to be. Anyone who has the privilege of knowing you personally can't help but love the person you are and be proud of the woman you're becoming. Keep being the role model that you are to everyone you touch. Even old, crotchety dudes like me. :)

[@ElloSteph]

Thank you so much Roger. It is I who is the privileged one to know you personally(:

[@girlfriends]

Skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming

[@ZackFacts]

I'm really loving all the attention body image and body shaming has been getting throughout the LGBT youtube community lately! And hearing so much about being over weight (or feeling overweight, at least), this made me realize that it's just as important to hear about being attacked for being "too skinny". I made a video about gay body image 2 weeks ago and the response I got completely floored me too! This community can be so supportive! Thanks for sharing Steph, you're beautiful! :)

[@stevie]

*slow clap* Great job, Steph!

[@elifortunato3645]

i've been diagnosed with both anorexia and bulimia for a few years now over what people have said. although, i am in the process of recovery. body shaming does need to stop and thank you for your perspective on this issue. you are my inspiration and you have made me feel so much more confident. thank you so much ♡

[@WeridmanLol]

This is what I like to see KZbinrs do! Getting the real message out and help change our society for the better. Me and quite of few of my friends have dealt with eating disorders or body weight issues but this video can help everyone who is dealing with that or something of that nature! Amazing video Steph keep making these!

[@tonygeist9793]

Body shaming is out of control in my area. I am a male and I live with a condition called "pectus excavatum". For those of you who aren't familiar with the term, it means "concave chest". They're pictures you can search up. I wanted to achieve a more secure mindset so I joined my HS swim team last year out of confidence, but people looked at me when I got shirtless and said that I looked freaky and like a, quote-- "cereal bowl." It made me feel less than what I'm truly worth. It shocked me that people would have the reactions they did. One boy began to gag. I went through with the swim season and when it ended I had chosen to give it up for coming years. I didn't want to be stared at anymore. I started to become negative topic in the gossip. However, with that said there were a lot people who didn't care and like me for what I really am, which is great! I've come a surgery option to 'fix' my chest-- or condition, through an easy procedure, which I'm considering to take up after school. Thanks Steph more making this wonderful video! I-- and many others really appreciate it! (Even if my experience isn't wholly having to do with my weight.)

[@aidancurtin7358]

people are sick for having reactions how you described. its not like you could help it!

[@Jamestvw]

I also have a concave chest, which I feel super self conscious about. So thanks for making me feel like I wasn't alone. :)

[@malikalovesrainbows]

You made me cry, my body shaming experience comes on a daily basis multiple times from my mum.. It sucks.. I've been anorexic.. I've been bulimic.. This past year has been a lot better, I'm recovering. My friends are amazing with their support, and I try to zone out what my mum says.. Thank you for covering this topic, I don't care what those people said about you not being a good role model.. You're amazing Steph and I'm so grateful that you make these videos, thank you :) x

[@PolymorphicPenguin]

Far from being a bad role model, you are an awesome role model. It is awesome that you are calling society out on these ridiculous expectations for women's bodies. The idea that the most important thing about a woman is her appearance is so archaic and so harmful. Everyone needs to reject these outdated notions.

[@sloanmiller9841]

You are a loving, caring, compassionate person. You care sooo much about others. Not only that, you're beautiful. What people were telling you wasn't body positive. You are such a great role model for anyone. You're definitely one of mine. Love you Steph :)

[@chrisvojkufka3111]

Watching this made me rethink my feelings on my body. I absolutely hate my body because all my life I've been called 'fat' 'overweight' and things like that. And ever since the first time someone called me fat, I've hated my body. Thank you so much, Steph, for giving me a little more confidence :)

[@mazeyquin901]

I think that ellosteph is an inspiration to me and to everyone. I have been getting bullied about my weight ever since i can remember, and that made me so sad. but ounce i heard her say those amazing things it inspired me to not care about what other people think or say about me. Now i dont care what they say. And Steph if you read this, please keep doing what you are doing. Keep inspiring people to be them selfs.

[@sylviastrother7388]

my girlfriend had an eating disorder and she is still unsatisfied with her body. i tell her, 'i will love you if you were 60 pounds or 600 pounds. when it comes to your weight, my only concern is your health." i love you Steph. you are my role model.

[@stephaniegibson6318]

And this is another reason why you're so freaking inspiring. Damn Steph, really, you're amazing, I really am crying. I've been body shamed by people I've never talked to, by "friends", family, and myself. I'm insecure about my body, my face, myself. I feel as if I don't fit in with what is considered beautiful. But, this is one of those things that makes me smile. Personally I don't care about weight or body or anything. If I like a girl, I like her no matter what and she's beautiful to me no matter what anyone says. And I'll make sure she gets to see herself through my eyes.

[@charlottecolls5662]

This video is so so so important. Body shaming is never okay! I have been struggling with body image issues almost my entire life. When I was 7 years old I put myself on my first 'diet' because I saw one of my classmate's ribs stuck out under their skin and mine didn't. I am now 18 years old and my weight is still a struggle. It has gotten to the point where it is too hard for me to go out because always in the back of my mind I am calculating how many calories I probably burnt by walking around the shopping centre with my friends and constantly comparing my body to other women who walk past. The worst part is I cannot turn off the part of me that is always calculating and comparing. I am studying education and nutrition at the moment and trying to recover from an eating disorder. My goal is to write programs aimed at school children that will build them up and help prevent eating disorders. NO ONE deserves to feel uncomfortable in public because of their weight. Hating your own body is such a soul crushing feeling, there really is no other words to describe it... and really no one deserves that pain.

[@kinzjohnson5538]

My doctor has called me fat on many occasions and he is the main reason I starved myself for days and then ate a couple things and starved myself once more. I can't stop thinking 'if my doctor said I'm fat then it HAS to be true'... honestly I cried throughout this video because I would give anything to be skinny and be perfect like you are Steph.

[@camilaarias5513]

Don't listen to that doctor fuck him he has no right to make anyone feel that way your parents could sue him for that plus you shouldn't care what anyone else says if your ok with yourself good and if one day you want to loose weight excercise but don't harm yourself just because of one person

[@girlfriends]

Love you

[@xcluelessbeautyx]

I needed this video. I almost didn't go to a Christmas party tomorrow because I feel so ashamed of my weight and don't want anyone to see me. I know that nobody at the party (it's mostly family and friends I've known my entire life) will judge me at all or probably even notice, but it bothers me that I've gained so much weight since having back surgery and it's really been frustrating for me. Thank you Steph for making this video just when I needed to hear this. I will enjoy myself tomorrow because of your encouraging words.

[@MugglebornGryffindor]

I struggled with an eating disorder for three years and was hospitalized during my freshman year of college due to lack of nutrients. Passing out and waking up in an ambulance was one of the scariest moments of my life. I've also been overweight. When I was in middle school until I was about 14 or 15 I was a little heavier than average. My friends, my family and everyone noticed the fluxuation. I hated being judged for it and to this day I am very self consious of my weight. I always feek either too fat or too thin. I know this is unrealistic, and your video really helped me. I've watched this multiple times. Thank you so much. You have no idea how inspirational you are to me.

[@sweetascookies16]

Steph it's people like you who make me proud of who I am. I'm almost 18, bisexual, 5'11, 147lbs, and because of you I'm comfortable in my skin despite what kids at school say. Your advice gives me strength and gets me through :)

[@commbbold1]

Shame on anyone who made you feel that way Steph. You are gorgeous! You always are! I think as fans we need to find the fine line between mentioning that you might not look as healthy as you normally do (sincere concern for your health), and skinny shaming (ridiculing you for your body). Any true fan would never do the later. But there are benefits to the former. We just want the best for you Steph, always :)

[@BillieVSAvril]

I've known about your channel for a long time and I forgot to subscribe but this just reminded me about who you are and how pure your heart is. You are beautiful and don't ever forget that, never do anything you don't want to do for other people and their comments like giving up being a vegetarian. I've been vegetarian my entire life, I'd never give that up because someone made me think that I was underweight. I've had my fair share of overweight comments everywhere I've gone simply because I don't have a flat stomach. I'm an athlete and was told that I 'don't look like one because I have a belly' which got me so annoyed. You're right, society has changed our views into believing that what is acceptable is no longer ok.

[@cherrylover1997]

Finally. All I ever hear is that we should appreciate curvy girls, and that girls that have more weight are beautiful. I appreciate girls with curves, they do look good. I'm sick of being called too thin though and nobody ever brings up the existence of "thin shaming." I love you and what you're standing up for and I'm so glad to have come across your channel.

[@igotVoldemortsnose]

I've fortunately never been called "fat" or "skinny", but this video still hit me hard and almost brought tears to my eyes. It is the harsh reality and the cruel society we live in that makes people think certain things about how a person looks. And that sucks. Like, a lot. And Steph, what you said is right on, and I can't for a second think how people could ever say you were a bad role model because of your genetically created body size. Thank you, and good luck for your future :) Love, a new fan

[@Xstreambreeze1X]

Wowza. This video nearly made me cry. I just discovered this channel through Arielle and I'm glad I did. I always had problems with my weight and still do actually. I've been struggling with bulimia and I've lost a lot of weight fast. I'm no longer overweight which is good but what I'm doing is unhealthy and shouldn't be praised or followed. I worry my family and my girlfriend by this and this just goes to show that treating your body like I have is more bad than good so it's best to educate yourself about health first before doing anything drastic and end up really hurting yourself. Thank you for reading and thank you steph for spreading body positivity.

[@stephanomalyarts2647]

I know I'm late to the game with this comment, but I only just started watching your channel. This video made me cry because it made me feel like there is at least one person in the world that would see me for me and not my body. I have been overweight my whole life, even as an infant. I have dieted, exercised, eaten healthy and all of that for years, but I can't seem to dip below 200lbs. I just stay at 205-210. And its really hard, because when people see me, I can hear them saying that I must eat all the time, that I'm lazy, that I am gross and it really hurts. But this video has made me feel like I am stronger than letting them hurt me with their words. We are more than what is on the outside. You are such a beautiful person and I am so happy that I found your channel. You have a forever follower in me, now. Thank you!

[@RebelRAC13]

Thank you so much for posting this video. I get body shamed a lot, and to hear these words about body image makes me feel so much better about my self after the last month or so of me feeling like my body is disgusting because of what some mean people said. You're amazing and a truly beautiful person :)

[@TheSugaPlum18]

Steph this is absolutely beautiful and honest and one can really feel you through this video. Thank you for your honesty and bravery in addressing this contraversial international problem we have. I'm from South Africa and around here women have gone from insulting each other by calling them fat to now calling them thin. This is so not okay. I can only hope that one day as women we can call each other sisters without any internal or external judgements.

[@abbeyshock6613]

Steph, your body type is beautiful. They all are in their own way and there's always someone out there who likes this or that and wouldn't be picky about it. Those are scary statistics but more people need to hear them because they bring up a huge point that everyone should know, not just the LGBT community.

[@aliciahettich123]

Steph, you looked fine. You always looked pretty and you're a great role model. I wouldn't let the comments to bother you to much, I know that's better said than done. Just make yourself happy and whatever you do will help someone else. If you're happy than that's all that matters. You're very inspirational! Keep being you!

[@jamiesolis5949]

I have been struggling with anorexia for nearly a year or so now. I usually try my best to not eat at school and a couple of my friends have noticed. I remember somehow it got out at school and last year I was sitting at lunch table and I turned around and this boy was laughing at me. He made some dumbass comment, making fun of me for being anorexic and honestly it's stuck with me. Our society is awful and some days it feels like it's getting worse. Everyone is beautiful. It doesn't matter what their weight is. Thank you so much for making this video, even if I'm three years late watching it. It's really important and inspirational. 💛

[@Anvegokar]

dude, you are an inspiration for a lot of us, don't let them get into you, you are too much for them and they just can't handle happiness, that's all, send you a big hug :D

[@seethestarsflyy]

God bless you. I struggled with anorexia and bulimia. Thank you for being honest and saying such kind words. It really touches people to hear that you "don't care what the scale says". It means so much.

[@BlackDecay1]

Wow, Steph. I went through a stage of being anorexic because when I was in 3rd grade I was a 1x in women's. I was so ashamed of myself that I didn't eat and when I did I didn't eat much or a puked it all up. I'm better now and am at a healthier weight but this video reminded me of the reasons why I changed. Why I self harmed for years and I look back at that and think "If it wasn't for society" I was bullied a lot and lost ton of weight but I was never happy. This video made me feel better about myself and my physical appearance and I thank you or reminding me that I am beautiful no matter what I weigh or what size I wear. Thank you so much, Steph.

[@kylaszone]

Thank you Steph. I feel as if I should watch this every morning to give an amazing start to my day. I'm on the obese scale and because of current society you get mocked for it. You're right about the change, it needs to start with one person and continue from there, just as the body shaming was. Love you.

[@cassandradufour4841]

Steph you are completely right. Everyone has different shapes and seizes and that shouldn't matter. Life is to short to worry so much about that. You are so strong for posting this video! Thank you a million times :D Your amazing and very inspirational :)

[@haleesi2669]

Steph, you aren't letting anyone down. People are assholes and if they want to bring you down they'll do anything they can to do so. Personally, I think you're probably one of the most attractive KZbinr I've watched so far and your weight really shouldn't matter.

[@nothingtoseehere411]

This is so raw! There needs to be more videos like this. Our society needs advocation for self-image issues and eating disorders

[@brodymeinz920]

awww i love you!!! you aren't letting anyone down. we love you and i understand that this was not your choice. love youuu

[@lilly3syou926]

Steph, you're such an amazing human being! You have one of the kindest, most caring hearts this world has had the privilege of having. Every time words come out of your mouth you inspire people. You make us all so happy and lucky to hear your voice and watch your videos. You have helped a countless amount of people. You have shown us all your heart, and we all think you are absolutely wonderful. You will never know the impact you have made in this world. Words cannot express how truly amazing you are. Thank you so much for just being you! We love you!!! 😘

[@Hobgoblin13O]

Preach it sister

[@annie27ful]

Our country needs to cut down on being # 1 country in obesity. That's horrible. I'm not saying you shouldn't love your body but you should take care of it by eating right and exercising.

[@TiBunCosplay]

Actually we are number 2. Mexico is now the #1 country in that aspect last I heard. sadly, not because we got healthier.

[@beautyu1198]

We are #2 Mexico is first becuase America has brought all of their restaurants to Mexico. It's very sad

[@torif190]

Ive had an eating disorder for 3 years now. Km not going to say my age, but I'm more than a year into my teens (meaning on over 13). I know so many girls my age also with eating disorders because people have shamed us and our body shape to the point where we don't even want to live in our own skin anymore, and there is missions of other girls and boys like is in the world that have issues liking what they see in the mirror because of what society thinks we should be. They take away your personality, your abilities, your sense of humour and leave you with nothing but an empty shell that apparently just isn't good enough for the world. This kind of shit needs to stop, because I know the struggle of how hard it is to see yourself in the mirror and not break down into tears. Steph you covered this topic perfectly. Thank you, thank you so much.

[@AnneDroyd333]

A couple of years ago, I lost 25-30 lbs in a very short period of time because I was sick and it took many specialists to diagnose the cause. The sad part was that everyone kept saying how great I looked, but in reality, I was sick and losing weight as a result. I felt terrible because of how tired and lethargic I was. I was cold all through the summer and my skin complexion became very off. It felt like people were adding to the stress that I already had trying to cope with everything by encouraging whatever it was that "I was doing". I am back to my normal body weight, which is not what society ideals are, but I feel healthy and my energy is back to normal. Everyone has a different body type and that is what makes us who we are and unique. Eat healthy, stay active and enjoy being who you are! Thin, curvy, skinny, overweight-whatever! Thank you Steph!

[@LzBnClan]

I used to get teased constantly about my weight. I ate more to relieve the stress of being bullied. I eventually went to cutting. Then I just starved myself. In a year I lost 100 pounds by starving myself for weeks on end.. :/ all my friends say I'm not fat. But my family still says I am. I've been struggling with this problem for so long. I gained like 3 pounds in the passed few months. And because of such judgment by my family. I'm back to starving myself. This is such a huge problem in society. And I'm glad you made this video addressing one of our biggest problems out there. Love you Steph

[@lindsayosterhoff2459]

Due to reasons beyond my control my weight fluctuates a lot. Sometimes I am far to thin and other times I am overweight. I've been to doctors and had tests done over the almost ten years that this has been happening and we still don't know the cause. I've received a lot of comments no matter what my weight is that have been about how it is never the ideal. I've learned to ignore those people though. As long as I feel healthy, I'm happy. It's frustrating to have to keep clothes in sizes that range from a women's (US) size 4 all the way to 14 just in case but I've learned to be happy no matter what. Keep smiling. You are a beautiful person, inside and out, no matter what your size may be!

[@MentosLentosPesosDollaDollajaj]

I love you steph!! Thanx for speaking up for us. Im fed up with that body shame talk too. I was bulimic but ive overcome it. Sometimes i think of throwing up after i eat but then i realize that i dont have to do that anymore, i havent done it like 6 months and it feels like forever, ive had therapy about it, and i just keep reminding myself that im beautiful just the way i am, and my parents would be more than sad n disappointed on me. Im not giving up. Im doing this for me for God, u just pushed me to fight a good fight. Thank you :)

[@charlienz09]

thankyou for putting this up :) I had an eating disorder, (recovered now thankfully) and people would call me fat just because they new that it would make me worse, one comment I got was from a boy who said 'your fat and ugly, you need to loose weight, im telling you this because now you now wont eat today'. at the time it broke me, but now I think wow, how can people actually be like that, it upsets me so much when people discriminate people on what they look like, beauty is the happiness and smiles on peoples faces, not how they look how how much they weigh.

[@BusesTrainsandbubbletea]

Thanks Steph, When I was 12 I started noticing I was bigger then the other girls around me, this followed me through highschool pritty much until now. No one had ever called me fat but I was comparing myself to other girls. I was son in the habbit of sucking in my stomach that I didn't even notice I was doing it. In year 8 I started playing basketball, along with the netball and swimming i was already doing. during both year 8 and 9 I was so concerned about being 'fat'. I lost a little weight but was never really happy. While I was in year 10 my mum would always bug me about being overweight saying cloths didn't look nice on me, she still does this now and my dad sometimes who critisies me for not doing exercise and being lazy. The truth is I love exercising and enjoy every sport that's out there. the only problem is that I have hyper extended joints and hips that aren't even so it is painful to exercise. I am fine with my weight, I know my parents care about me but having your mum drive in that your overweight when no one else is really takes a toll. The really painful part is that I'm not even over weight I'm in the heathy range of the BMI. STOP BODY SHAMMING don't do it to yourself and don't put up with it from your family, friends, peers or society.

[@ChelseyJ10297]

You never let me down steph! You are such an inspiration!

[@katiemccowan7036]

God I could listen to you talk all day! You are an amazing person and I feel this topic needs to be discussed more often. Those numbers are sad and we need to try and stop this. I know this video will help a lot of people out!!!

[@demitranswolf]

This video spoke so many volumes to me, I am a new subscriber and this is the first video I've watched from you and this boosted my self esteem so much. Everyday from bullying at school and by my own father I am body shamed. My father tells me I need to constantly diet and I always have to exercise because I'm fat, at school I am constantly told I am either fat or I am too feminine to be a trans boy. It hurts me so much that I suffer from anorexia and bulimia. I never want to eat food and when I do I immediately regret it and go throw up, I am currently eighty-nine pounds. I am supposed to weigh one hundred and ten pounds for my age and height. I want to gain weight, honestly I do but then all of the body shaming hits me in the face and I think I'm still fat. I wish that people could just accept me and how I look normally. Right now I look like Jack Skellington, I'm really tall and bone thin. I hate it so much and I really want to change, I asked my mom to take me to one of those health specialists that deal with weight and I've been put on an eating schedule and I've been told not to see my father until I feel like I can go there without being hurt from his verbal and mental abuse. I'm proud to say that this has boosted my self esteem in believing that I can love myself no matter what I look like and that society shouldn't tell me how I should look, only I should and I decide that I look beautiful. You are my new role model and I am so glad I found your youtube page, thank you.

[@ADTJ312]

There were a few years when I was overweight. I only remember there ever being one person who made a comment about it, but it bothered me greatly and hurt my self-esteem even for years after I got to a "normal" weight. In my case, it actually lead to healthier diet and lifestyle choices (probably because there are different pressures on and expectations for guys), but for so many people it does a lot more damage. Now I study nutrition and psychology, so weight, body image, and eating disorders come up a lot, and, starting in January, I'll be working on a research project involving anorexia and bulimia. I mention all of this just because I want to say that I think your video is beautiful and just what the world needs a whole lot more of.

[@angipikowski3580]

Thank you EllloSteph for making this video. I have bipolar disorder and when I was really sick I weighted 105lbs. and I was happy with that. Since I was on the drug called Lithium, it made me gain nearly 80lbs. I'm so unhappy with myself because I feel like I should have said no to lithium in the first place because I knew it made people gain weight. This effects me on a daily basis. The medicine I'm on now makes it extremely hard to lose weight and I'm sick of it. I just want to get rid of like forty pounds just to be a regular weight of 120 or even 130. I'd be happy with that. Plus all the stretch marks from gaining the weight so fast, it's unbelievable. I can't help but cry while I'm writing this because it is a HUGE deal to me. Love you, Steph. Thank you for being an awesome youtuber.

[@lilabbiekins1]

When I was very young I was always called chubby and it got to the point where I was so insecure in myself that I did develop an eating disorder that I've been fighting for quite a few years now. It's vile that any individual, not just me, should be made to feel that bad about themselves that they try to change to please other people but the worst part for me was that as soon as I started losing weight the comments about me being too thin started and people kept telling me I looked fragile and ill and like I would break if they so much as touched me. I've come to the realisation in the last year or so that society is simply never satisfied and it is pointless trying to please everyone else when the only person who matters is you. Yes, I still have issues with food and my weight, but I'm starting to get past that because I've finally realised that what other people think doesn't matter and it's made me so much happier in myself. Thank you so much for this video Steph, it's made me happy to hear someone I look up to speak out about this

[@lolzess222]

A couple years ago I lost 2 stone in a short period of time. It was not intentional, but I soon realized that it was a symptom of my depression. I didn't notice that I was eating less but the way I was feeling caused me to do so. I have now put on a stone which I am comfortable with even though some people think I am still too skinny. I did struggle for a while with feeling scared about putting on weight, and I guess I still do get anxious about it. This video really makes me feel a lot better about this, knowing that someone else has went through something similar. Thanks for sharing and I'm sorry people made you feel bad. P.s I think you are absolutely beautiful :)

[@rachelaronson6058]

Oh my god I love you so much, Steph. I've always had body image issues, but this video inspired and helped me. Though I still have moments of dissatisfaction with my weight, I can honestly say that I have been a happier person since I watched this.

[@laurenstrickland6882]

I totally agree with you I have an 8 year old sister in elementary school who is coming home and not wanting to eat barely anything due to the fact that she says that she's too fat and kids at school are saying that she doesn't fit in and she has no friends you are in elementary school and there's no sense to have the kids that age worry about that even in middle school children are starving themselves to want to be thin or have gaps in their thighs why why I don't understand society is making this huge big thing that you have to be thin to be popular there's no sense in it no child should ever have to worry about that no body should.

[@4ChewingGunsKillYou]

lauren strickland There should be some sort of... thing put in place, where teachers tell kids about this stuff. Not in a scolding way, because for a lot of kids, that just makes them want to rebel, but in a gently informative way. : / In the meantime, maybe you can find some beautiful, successful, not-super-thin, women, to show her it's okay to weigh more than the others? The first that come to mind are Melissa McCarthy and Adele, but I'm sure there are others I'm not thinking of right now. :)

[@catycheetah22]

I really admire you steph, you are a true inspiration

[@TimeMovie93150]

oh girl i know how this feels :( you're an amazing role model and i think you should keep it up :) you're helping everybody's self-esteem by making these videos, thank you!

[@myat.242]

You really touched me i know how it feels to be judged on how you look i get called ugly a lot and fat and so many other things it ruined a lot of relationships i have but also saved from some that i shouldn't be in but this video touched me and you are so beautiful Steph inside and out thank you for this

[@pearlypintos]

You know...I've had an eating disorder since I was about 7 years old. I've been trying so hard to recover, and this really gave me a shove in the right direction. To say the least I was brought to tears and this lifted my mood 1000000%

[@GaymerMitch]

I'm so glad I decided to catch up on your videos today(: Steph you are stunning no matter what and I advocate for every word you said. A day before you posted this video I was talking to a close friend of mine who kept calling herself "fat". It frustrated me because I would never conceive her as "fat" and I told her so. I'm glad you talked about this and I'm planning to share this video to her(:

[@Alcanivorax]

This had to be said and I'm glad that I had the chance to see this video! Thank you for your honesty and for being yourself :)

[@hannahproctor6208]

Thank you so much for this! My experience is pretty much identical to yours. I've always been a naturally thin person, and for some reason people have always thought that it's okay to point my body type out. While many people are complimentary, a few people have used the phrase 'too skinny', and I find the use of 'too' quite derogatory in that it suggests that my weight is not to the perfect level of desirable. I know for a fact that regardless of 'BMI charts' etc, I am very healthy and of this build merely because of genetics and my very fast metabolism. When I went vegetarian, people told me not to because I'm 'skinny enough and will only lose more weight' (which turned out to be utter rubbish because I eat a very balanced diet and my weight has remained consistent). My body is the one thing that I've never felt insecure about, but comments like that can bring me down for a while and make me feel quite undesirable. I agree with you in that commenting on someone elses body type - regardless of what it is - is wrong. No body should be shamed! Such a refreshing video. Thanks.

[@MooseMunch11]

You made me realize something. I never told you this before because I honestly thought you've heard it enough times; You are beautiful Steph!! And i'm never going to hold back saying that to someone from now on because I don't think anyone would be sick of hearing that! I think i'm finally going to get up the courage to talk to that girl I've been eyeing for a few months now... Everyone is beautiful, and we all love to hear it once in a while :) Thanks Steph

[@bluecannibaleyes]

This video kind of struck home with me now because I recently had someone ask me if I had an eating disorder in much the same way. Granted, in my case, the person was genuinely concerned rather than trying to shame me, but it had a similar effect of making me feel very uncomfortable. Not only that, but I felt that she probably didn't believe me when I told her that I didn't, and simply struggled with putting on weight. Although I am slightly underweight, it's not because I want to be; I have actually been trying to gain weight for years. Unfortunately, due to a high metabolism, anxiety, laziness, and numerous other factors, I haven't had much success in gaining weight. It made me feel uncomfortable to think that others might assume that I have an eating disorder just because I'm thin. Thank you for bringing this up. I think body shaming is talked about a lot in terms of overweight people being judged, but is rarely discussed from the other side.

[@user-jd6xc6qz6j]

Thank you for speaking about 'Skinny Shaming'.This video hit very close to home.

[@taz1728]

+MELANIE AUFFREY Same...it's crazy how if you're petite you're considered anorexic and if you have a little curves you're considered fat and you're personality is judged based on that. Sometimes it's genetic you can't help it or what if it's just how your body functions...how do we control that? The thought sickens me...

[@LukeGrainger]

When I was younger my brothers and my next door neighbour used to joke and call me fat and when I told my parents they just said to not let it get to me and they'll stop. Eventually they did, but it really go to me and I became anorexic. I got better by myself but struggled with an eating disorder for a year or so before I relapsed and got pretty serious bulimia. At my lowest weight I was almost 15, 5'4 and 37kgs. I'm slowly recovering but it sucks when friends call me 'too thin' or say I should eat more, when I'm eating pretty well at the moment. It's sensitive because it makes me feel people are looking at me and judging my body. You're such a great person for speaking out on this, Steph, and your video really got to me (in a good way :')).

[@ESE1FLAK0z3]

I couldn't even finish the video, made me almost cry.. You're so beautiful!

[@lipkeyb]

Hey, it's your 50th upload! Amazing video to commemorate such a milestone. Thank you as always for your openness and honesty. Kudos.

[@arielsinger5674]

Steph, i am glad you made a video about this. most people ignore this problem. Love you! I know how it feel to be told that i was over weigh even tho i have always been the average weight for my height. even some of my family have told me i was and still is. it put my self-esteem extremely low, i have been paranoid about my weight since i was little. my self-esteem is still low. I know how it feels so i dont judge others for their bodies. Its wrong and hurtful. why would you judge someone in the same way you would be hurt if someone judged you that way? why people judge others for what is on the outside and not on the inside is beyond me. Everyone is beautiful. Society cant be happy. It is always "you're too fat or skinny." etc..... Why would you try to make someone or something happy if that means throwing your happiness out the door?

[@heavenesone]

stephs personality and apperance is awesome and will always be awesome

[@womaninthewave]

Thank you for making this video, I'm so sorry you got all those terrible comments. Honestly, this was a big wake up call for me. I'm not underweight nor overweight, but in my mind all I used to want was to be underweight. I wasn't happy with being average weight, and I'm obsessed with wanting to having a flat stomach and skinny arms. But this gave me a new perspective. Being skinny isn't everything. It's hard to just let go of my weight obsession, but I'm going to try. I don't want to be obsessed with calories, I'm going to try. I never realized how much people can struggle the other way with being underweight, not just overweight. Thank you for making this video.

[@Thisisangslife]

I absolutely love this message. I too struggle with weight and being to skinny. Thanks for this message. You're beautiful just the way You are. You're amazing on the inside and out. Don't let people bring you down. You're one of my role models. I look up to uou.

[@janistransbian]

this video has touched my heart. it hurts me inside when women say terrible things about their appearances. i try to tell them they are beautiful as they are but they do not believe me. we need more like you.

[@geetaxe]

I love this message. I'm also naturally skinny and maintain a healthy lifestyle, I get this all the time. Believe me it's just as harder to find a size 6 (US 0 maybe?) as it is to find bigger sizes. Love yourselves whatever colour, weight, nationality you are. Love you videos Steph, it's nice to see someone normal and sincere making videos.

[@19flutegirl95]

It breaks my heart that you have had to feel insecure and especially as a fellow vegetarian that you had to give that up. I'm 5'8" and I weigh 106 and I actually have a child and I weigh 20lb less than I did before I got pregnant and people tell me all the time that I'm unhealthy looking and that my body is ugly and people assume I have an eating disorder and it really has screwed up my self esteem. What a lot of people don't realize is that body shaming doesn't just harm "bigger" people. I'm very thin and I've got bones sticking out everywhere but I didn't try to be this way this is just how I am and sometimes I almost believe all the hurtful comments people make to me and I'm just really glad you touched on this because I think it's a really important topic so thank you so much. I feel like you were basically telling my body shame story because I've felt exactly that way so much.

[@xoxoxox9344]

This boy in my class was saying how fat this girl was, so I stood up in the middle of the teacher talking and told him how it's not okay to talk to people that way (I was basically giving him a lecture) he still does it unfortunately but no where near as much

[@jesswarner3254]

you're a good person

[@Luna_Christine]

Thank you for being honest with us, Steph. Since I've been subscribes to your channel(not very long) I always thought that it mightn't hurt you to put on just a little extra weight, not out of "your too skinny" or "my god(dess) look at you, have you been eating", but out of "are you okay?"(in the most concerned and caring way as it could be said. I just never got up the courage to message you. The rest of this is to those women who feel that they are too "heavy"; If you have less than about 10-15% body fat, than your monthly cycle will slow down and eventually shut down. The reason is because if you do not get the necessary nutrients, then your bodies will hold on to all the nutrients that it can. It is ALWAYS better to have more weight than it is to have too little weight.

[@dannyvalentine9330]

you are so lovely and im sorry that you recieved disrespect from people who didn't approve of your body. and i'm so glad that you made this video because i've been afraid of myself and afraid that i'm not attractive for the longest time. and the fact that you were strong enough to make this video is wonderful and you're actually quickly becoming a new role model of mine. also dude whoa im wearing the exact shirt you're wearing in this video

[@figgysmezzo]

I'm sorry that you experienced this. I agree with you 100%, and I just wanted to send you some love. I am glad you are feeling better now. I was a theatre major myself, and I have heard similar things. It breaks my heart, but I know it can change. God love you, and thank you.

[@zedshamblin9775]

I am so glad people like you still exist that there is still hope for all of this discrimination to end because it brings people into dark places but it's people like you that bring them out

[@molly9654]

this is so inspirational and i really am sorry for what you went through then. i wish i could be as confident with my body as you are.

[@witchygothmomma]

I have been made fun of for my weight since a young age and it hasn't happened as much recently but last week I got called fat and its really been eating at me. The kids at my school also tease me because I'm gay and I recently had my hair chopped off and a few people keep calling me a dyke and being a dyke isn't a bad thing but they make it sound so horrible and I hate it. I just dont get why people always have to nag at me. Your videos have helped me a lot and I have watched some of Arielle's too and I just want to thank you guys for being such role models and showing me that it is ok to be gay. I was always kind of quiet about my sexuality because I was scared of people hating me for it but when I started watching your guy's videos I realized that I shouldn't be ashamed of who I am. Thank you for that.

[@FangirlProfessional]

That you Steph, I needed this. You have always been a role model for me and to be honest I do struggle with my weight. What you said is right and this just hit me hard. Thank you xx

[@graceaine]

I was recently commissioned to draw a portrait of a woman's two children with their grandmother. When she asked me to "thin down" her perfectly healthy five year old daughter for the image I asked her to not commission me again. I've been struggling with an eating disorder and body image my entire life. I was finally okay again until I dated this awful guy who annihilated what confidence in my image that I had. Now I'm seeing a dietician and therapist to get back on track after getting down to 100lbs. No one else should have to deal with those issues. And the sad fact is, that little girl is probably going to grow up with the same problems that have plagued this society and myself. So thank you for making this video. You are wonderful.

[@kenzijustice9796]

I just saw this video and I want to say that this video helped me a little I'm 16 but I have been big for all my life and was teased and bullied all my life I use to hate myself and the kids made me believe that I was going to be alone forever but then I got some friends and they told me to watch some of your videos and they really helped me accept myself I just was to thank you for making me see there is still good in this world

[@meglee9533]

I just want to hug you and never let go :* Thank you for being so inspiring, Steph

[@artphoto2010]

My best friend is going through the exact same thing. 2 years ago she was trying to lose weight and now she thinks smoking weed will help her gain weight. I keep telling her she should be happy either way because she is very beautiful. You are crazy beautiful Steph the hell with anything negative anyone has to say about you.

[@zylstl1]

Thank you for addressing this!!!!!!!! I lost my best friend because she told me I looked unhealthy and that I had an eating disorder. My weight loss was because of a medical issue. She didn't believe me and thought I was starving myself. She didn't understand how hurtful it was, our relationship was never the same, and eventually I dropped her as a friend.

[@JulieBeanie]

I wish I could like this video infinity times, this brought tears to my eyes. You're amazing thank you so much. You're beautiful!

[@Mymeromero]

I can't believe that you would be self-conscious!! I would always watch your videos being envious of your body Ahaha... You just really brought up my self esteem, thank you. You will always be my role model, you're body is perfect.

[@orlamartin51]

videos like this have helped me so much with my body issues you are so positive and i wish more people were like you . i go to an all girls school and i have been there for 5 years now and every single day there are loads of comments and conversations abou peoples weight personaly i dont talk about it becouse it is an uncomfortabe subject but it upsets me on how many peoples lives revolve arounf their looks and size every person was born to look the way they do and nothing should change that.

[@DarkWaterfall]

MAny people don't realize that telling someone they're too thin is just as bad as calling someone fat. I've been on both ends of the spectrum and it sucks. I've also dealt with body image and eating disorders for a good part of my life. I've been in recovery for 5yrs now, but I still have my days where I don't like my body. Trying to change those negative thinking patterns is one of the hardest things a person will have to do. I struggle with severe digestive issues, metabolic issues, and have gained 15lbs in the last year and that was with doing everything my nutrition said (I'm borderline overweight at the moment). My body is struggling to get enough nutrients and is holding onto fat because it thinks it's starving. It breaks my heart when I see little girls and boys complaining about their bodies. One of the best ways to combat body shaming and body negative remarks is to bring the focus away from weight and appearance. Really show that how you look doesn't define your worth.

[@kaylahurd953]

I constantly get judged for my weight. I tried losing weight and I did. I lost 25 pounds between last May and October and I was proud of that but then I started getting picked on because I'm bigger than most people in my grade and now I'm extremely self conscious. I'm 13 nearly 14 and I've been judged for my weight by a lot of people. When I was 5 a doctor told me I was chubby and needed to lose weight. Its not my fault. Its genetics. Nobody in my family is small. It hurts to know that I'll never be good enough for society when all I want is to fit in...

[@nataliascalvenzi5553]

I totally get you, Kayla. My family thinks I should lose some weight because of my health but I've gone from doctors to doctors and they all say i'm physically fine. I've never had a single problem regarding it. And now I know that my family, mostly my grandma, just wants me to be like the rest of teenage girls. But with videos of people like Steph I've realized that "fitting in" isn't all that matters (it is far away from being all that matters, actually). Ps: By your picture I can see that you are beautiful :D

[@tasneemali4892]

Thank you really thank you. For most of my life I have felt like I am unattractive because of my weight and that I have to wait to have the things I wanted until I was thin because I am currently unworthy. This is hard to admit it's bringing a tear to my eye. I realize, maybe not completly yet, that this is no way to live and that it is actually desrespectful to ourselves and the life we have been given to live in this inhibited manner. I would hug u right now if I could thanks

[@ddianafdez]

You're such an inspirational person. Love the video and hope a lot of people would just stop criticizing a person just by the way they look.