The Truth about Spontaneous Vs Responsive Desire/Arousal

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
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[@ryderoreilly9807]

Showed this to my hubby. Thank goodness he listens to me. He used to get so upset when I didn't get "turned on" just by looking at him. This Jimmy explained it perfectly. We've been together 21 years and counting (39m ,37f)

[@DuoDynamo]

Good on you guys for being able to work through these issues in a healthy way. Blessings for you and your husband!

[@DollaSignD]

i misread hubby as 'buddy' and i was gonna say he probably is more than a buddy at that point 😂

[@Jojosiwo]

He should not get upset about that what an a zzhole

[@co3138]

OMG!! The sexy crab walk 🤣

[@AstarteRap]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Siquomb1]

🦀 🦀 🦀 🦀 😉 😏

[@PhumiPhakade]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 #dead

[@user-jx8go6hi8i]

Right?!😂

[@Takejiro24]

Had to hold herself back from jumping him right then and there 😳☠️

[@raraavis7782]

Shout it from the rooftops, please. I'm so tired of having to explain/justify/apologize for this. It's such a turn off, to constantly feel pressured in this regard, when the issue isn't even not wanting sex, but needing to be in the right mindspace, for physical arousal to happen.

[@Justinthepenguin]

Please tell me if I am wrong because I am a man that actually sees that I am far from perfect and i guess this is my general view! I am spontaneous But when i think of desire I think of it as first, showing them through the day, " honey i love you" "i appreciate you" "i am here for you" "i want to listen" "i also want to validate through not giving advice and just asking what you need right now" Then also fun, and spontaneous by laughing and being nice to the other people around me. Reminding my wife it's not about if we did it but first addressing emotions, and being happy, then having fun, and at the end of the day or the beginning or whenever there is a time for intamacy doing that without expectations letting them know that overall in the relationship, and being there for them when all they wanna do that night is just lay down! By masaging and tickling their back, whispering to them how good your day was, playing in their hair, and telling them how connected, happy, and good you felt about the day. And that finally well you should tell them first while whispering you love them and that its ok, and you will make more time tomorrow to be intimate and say that there is no expectation and that you just wanna feel them and be emotionally and fully connected! Not being mad for not having sex, rather supporting them if they don't feel good, doing what helps, and then the next day if i feel overwhelming desire, asking for a hug, and to lay my head on their chest tell them i desire them and need their touch rn, and if they don't feel good that is totally ok! Having total control over my emotions, being able to manage them, create tension for love making, not sex. I don't wanna have sex. I wanna engulf my partner in what they desire. Most men take it personally, and think their partner dosen't want "it" but in reality women want " everything" more than men and i will explain! They want to be courted, loved, and held, and told it's ok, and have a space to relax after a friends night out! or even after, any activity where you have a lot of fun and then they get tired, so how do they want it more, becasue they want it ALL. Which is freaking awesome! They want a man they know will take care of them, want sex, and if they don't feel good, not feel rejected. Women are natrual at building tension and if you havn't built enough tension then you aren't trying my friends. I am just saying, find what they like and study them and then do those things and be good to them, they just wana know it's not all about sex, because foreplay is the love before the love making.. In some ways this is more satisfying than the random desires i used to have because whenever i feel that way now, i do someting to make them excited and then not expect sex, and sit back and just have fun with them and try to connect! tbh i think in these times where someone isn't arroused yet through the day it's because the man or woman has lost connection 1 or they havn't studdied their partner enough or cared enough to address them and put themselves in their shoes to see what you do to them 2 cause i am telling you that my wife can make me want sexy time any time and it's because i know she cares about me and she loves me and women need a lot more of that from men because we suck and giving that a lot of the time. The point is, women wanna do it all, fun times, sexy times, loving times, and happy times, but to get sexy times, they have to have the others just like they give you so make it a point to give all of those and be genuine with them. When you tell them in their ears after kissing them and being those other 3 all day in ways that make them go oh damn that was more than usual, or noticable at their level, when you say " I wanna put you down on this bed baby and give you all of me tonight....... gently and fully baby girl, I just love you and feel deeply connected with you" When she sees that it's real, you won't ever feel rejection again, because you realize it's not about when but it's all about communication and when you figure that out your problems will be solved.

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

@@Justinthepenguin no, you are not wrong. You are absolutly right. That's what the video tells!

[@theprodigalson4003]

Can I ask u if u watch pron and do it yourself or is that not how you work? Looking to undestand. Because it doesn’t make sense to me for someone to get hungry and make themselves a meal, and then never get hungry for what I have to offer up Can you help me undestand?

[@Lexi_Con]

​@@Justinthepenguin 🎯💥May I ask your age bc that sounds so wise, objective & mature. After being w/ a man who doesn't seem to have much self-reflection, shows little emotion/affection nor empathy (perhaps due to fear of intimacy & connection or unhealed trust issues), communication is a struggle. I communicate, he holds everything in (despite years of love & trust deveIoped). Wish more men could be a willing, open & conscientious partner like your words convey. 🙌🏼🎉

[@victoriamakhmaltchi3177]

Some of us are not lust based but heart based,,romantic and personal ,not grungy

[@blackcurrant87]

If he spontaneously did the dishes or prepared dinner, that would definitely get me more in the mood.

[@EdwinMaarleveld]

And that's a fact for many. (It was researched.)

[@titan4257]

Explain. ​@@EdwinMaarleveld

[@hobomike6935]

I do the dishes and make dinner every night and I can guarantee it doesnt give you a chance. It just becomes *expected* of you.

[@aubreystrong2780]

@@hobomike6935 Not every woman

[@anemptyspace]

​@@hobomike6935welcome to a woman's world, lol

[@Sanctor95]

As a man who is more responsively aroused, this is validating. The difference between my ex gf and my wife is that my wife never got offended when I wasn't instantly ready to go, and never put that pressure on me.

[@Sanjideroma]

I just learned that you're not even a therapist, damn. You've been the most useful and dear content creator to me for a while now, i hope that one day i can learn how to "suppress" all of my "little toxic traits" one day, and actually learn how to communicate properly. I honestly just want to see my man happy and healthy, both mentally and physically

[@Zusmoariku]

Oh, no. You don't have to suppress anything. In fact, suppression isn't a solution, perhaps a temporary patch if anything. No, the solution to toxic behaviours is awareness and work, pushing them back can cause shame and bring forth a different set of problems, that's never the answer.

[@positivevibe7684]

@alessia It starts with you becoming what you want to share with your partner. ❤❤

[@GiovannaElias-CONNECTIONCODE]

Its very possible Alessia to build the communication skills to get to this place sooner than you think ;)

[@MandyGee000]

Lol therapists don't have all the answers we need. 😊

[@positivevibe7684]

@@MandyGee000 I agree💯 But I must say, therapy is a great tool.❤️❤️

[@dawnkindnesscountsmost5991]

Spending time together on a regular basis, that has _nothing_ to do with sex, can build into a powerful turn-on. It's about feeling like your partner values the whole you all of the time, and that they don't just think of you & treat you like you're a self-powered sex toy.

[@Kritikanbringer]

Oh, come on! Men always cater to women's feelings... "To the privileged, equality feels like oppression."

[@hobomike6935]

I’ve reached a point where I now realize that I am, by nature, a libido kill, and there’s nothing I can do to change that. You can check all the other boxes; provide, housework/errands, stay in shape, spend time with and have conversations with her-you can even make changes about yourself that bother her, such as stopping bad habits or developing good ones that she appreciates. but at the end of the day, no amount of commitment or trying something new can “win” her affection and desire; if you’re not attractive you’re not attractive, and she just doesn’t want you that way. Toys are an excellent fix for this because she can self-satisfy, and you don’t have to be involved and be a constant letdown in the bedroom (which can damage morale and the relationship.) It sucks to suck, but you can’t win every battle.

[@TinyCatSpoons]

“I mean I could use a shave” absolutely sent me. I love your content so much! Hilarious and helpful!

[@JacquelynnFaye]

Omg the crab walk got me

[@gwendolynstanfield2653]

Me too, Rofl

[@jenimolloy6152]

The crab walk really did it for me 😅

[@goingvenus5603]

OMG, have you come from another planet? How do you KNOW this stuff!?!?! You articulate intimate relationship issues so well and make it so clear and obvious what the solutions are. Now, if only the guys could check out your channel because it seems like mostly women comment on your videos. I know men feel like we're beating up on them sometimes (well, most of the time) but when it comes to relationships, I think the culture has betrayed men and taught them that doing the work in a relationship isn't his 'job', it's hers. And people wonder why women initiate the breakup most of the time. It's like living with a rock. There's gotta be some way for men to evolve without feeling like they're being emasculated.

[@Justinthepenguin]

As a married man of 10+ years, I recommend this channel to anyone who dosen't understand how to manage a relationship and most of us don't lul. I asked a good friend of mine if he had ever looked up what a healthy relationship looks like i mean firends and all and when he said no i realized the issue.. it's about introducing the idea to those willing to learn and who want difference in their relationship. Those men who are unwilling have given up. And sometimes telling those men that you will give up or want to is what changes them.. We all love our partners (men) but what are we doing to better them? and ultimately to get rid of this baby mentality of deserving sex. I wish I had this channel 10 years ago, it would have saved me a lot of heartache. Most men have been severely abused by society, so come at them from the standpoint of this is what I want to try, and they may come around! No man ever wants to hear " I'm doing it to make you happy" or " I just wanted a normal relationship" or " I feel like giving up" I have heard all of these. and the fix for me was teaching that there are 0 and i mean abosluly 0 expectations for that, the only expectation i have is loyalty and trying to be loving and happy, and communicate lovingly and without yelling at all.. If you need to yell let me know and i'll grab a pillow for you. That is normal to me, loving and understanding, and communicating is the key to staying happy

[@jujudaku]

Yep. It's "kinda" like living with a rock. One that comes to life behind closed doors to track in dirt, eat, sleep, poop and make a mess in general, without cleaning or picking up after themselves before turning back into stone & still mode. Afterall, rocks have magical cleaning fairies, whose sole purpose is to appear whenever their rock isn't home, to clean up all their mess so they can do it again the next day.

[@Lexi_Con]

​​@@Justinthepenguin🎯💯 I have degrees in Ed & Psychology & also have been through enough relationships to know what is healthy & what isn't. Still single, never married - not that I'm opposed to it but want to be in a loving, committed relationship that's right before saying vows. (As a result I have no children either) Have found a few men w/ almost all the good characteristics yet issues interfered (like unmasked narcissism or avoidant traits). The main one is that they didn't want to put in any (or enough) effort, such as communication - esp solution-oriented but also the daily positive type that builds connection & closeness & PREVENTS conflict. When I was young their #1 goal was apparently physical, all about selfish desires & having fun. In 30's & up, where 9/10 single men are divorced, their goals are (still the above, and/or) kids, jobs, beer or other hobbies. Too many content w/ bachelorhood. So tired of men not seeing my true worth... Or if they do, sabotaging or running away bc they can't face/get help to heal commitment-phobic issues from the past. Why is unconditional love so complicated for some!!!??

[@ajregalia1334]

Mmmm, I think not comparing them to useless rocks might be a good start. In all seriousness though I think there is a slant in Jimmy's content is because a LOT of it is him being critical of guy's behavior with portrayals like...this, where you never see the reverse. It's fun for women because they can laugh and relate at why guys suck but it's not as fun for guys to watch. Even in your comment it's not "how can people improve their relationships" it's "how can men evolve"? It's subtly putting the onus, responsibility, and fault for relationships working or not working on men as if it should be default assumed that women have nothing to work on/don't need to better themselves.

[@jc-rq8or]

I'm sure like many things the fault is with both sides. Men are not paying attention and are to ego driven, and women aren't properly voicing the issue. Instead of just saying no I'm not in the mood or insert whatever excuse to avoid sex all the time, why not try to figure out why you're not and talk to your partner about it. Sure, a lot of men might get butt hurt, but that's better than no intimacy, which will lead to affairs and separation. Instead of saying men need to check out this channel (which I could agree with) why not say we need to personally talk to the men in our lives about this? Both sides need to communicate better.

[@christinaheath3442]

I'm loaded with spontaneous arousal and have (for nearly over a decade) wondered why my husband hasn't taken the same approaches to intimacy as I have. This short really shines some light on a different perspective regarding intimacy. This short makes me so happy, because I finally understand my husband better.

[@aspiringrootwoman24]

This is another check in the box for matchmakers. There's so many different facets of compatibility and we're all out here winging one of the key life decisions with nothing but our tarnished attachment styles and emotional damage and KZbin therapy to help us

[@TheSabadine]

The chemistry between this couple is off the charts! But seriously, great acting, information & delivery.

[@jc-rq8or]

As a man, I'm surprised at how many men don't understand this. At work all you hear is men complaing that their wives/girlfriends never have sex with them. Sometimes i try to talk to them about this and they act like they don't understand.

[@hobomike6935]

Because it’s a fool’s errand. There’s nothing you can “do” to make her feel more open to it, she’s just not going to give you a chance, ever. Forget it. That’s why it’s better to construct the relationship from the ground up where intimacy isn’t part of the relationship. You can love someone without being able to sexually attract them. It’s extremely difficult, but it can be done if you’re dedicated.

[@suzanahas4740]

Please, can someone give a Nobel prize to this guy?!! ❤❤❤

[@orianbazov7800]

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[@stargazer5073]

Hysterical once you have 4 kids, you're lucky to have enough energy on Saturday morning....10 minutes tops before the baby cries.

[@tristanneal9552]

Nature's way of telling you you've hit your limit - can't have more kids if you're too busy to make em 😅

[@misspapillon8889]

I don't know ..that smoulder was irresistible 😂

[@jocelynbrown2961]

Thank you for this because ,I think I have changed from spontaneous desire to responsive because of peri menopause.Now I also understand what my female friends been telling me for years.❤

[@PanicLedisko]

It really sucks, I have problems in that thinking of sex can get me excited BUT the moment there's any actual action it's all gone in the snap of a finger and it just becomes a chore. I prolly have a lot of trauma from my last relationship, in the beginning I was okay with it always being about him but after like 5 years of it that way and sometimes crying in the bathroom afterwards wishing he gave af about me/my turn, I got tired of it it then became either forcing himself on me or he would cheat, and he couldn't understand why I felt uncomfortable with just him bringing it up. It's really traumatic and something that takes many years to go away.. (but he passed away back in 2019)

[@andreimircea2254]

0:54 That is such an important disclaimer! Thank you for putting it! It makes the video 1000 times better.

[@SusieG]

I’m single and this was so enlightening that I spontaneously manifested a husband who makes me feel safe

[@kingduckie9135]

You know he knows what he's doing when he pulls out that Blue Steel look. He certainly doesn't have one look

[@brianbishop4753]

My wife, who is a LPCC-S, told me about your channel on instagram and said you were probably on here too, and yes, you are, on KZbin, too. Your in-site is terrific and she was impressed by it. Even more so by the fact that you are not a therapist. The videos are top notch and I hope to learn more from you, along with some more moves like the sexy crab walk!

[@sendingloveandhugs]

Thank you! Seems “logical” but it’s super helpful to hear it and share it with my hubby. Been married 20 years, about to empty nesters, and working on reconnecting as a married couple! This helps!!!! Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@heathengypsy]

Thank you!!! I can’t tell you how many arguments started with this misunderstanding with ex who couldn’t understand why I wasn’t instantly aroused when he was. I would literally say to him that all he needed to do was kiss and touch me for like 10 minutes to get me going but instead he’d see it as me rejecting him because I couldn’t meet the same energy instantaneous.

[@shebyt9327]

Well done! I love your videos. Keep up the great job. Although traditional stereotypes say women have more responsive desire and men more spontaneous, it's flipped in my relationship. Would love to see a video from you showing this dynamic. Women can feel rejected too and I think it hurts more because we take it so personally.

[@andreimircea2254]

It would be nice to see!

[@MandyGee000]

​@@andreimircea2254nice to see what?

[@andreimircea2254]

@@MandyGee000 This video but with the affection thing flipped.

[@emmatzim1394]

You are always on point (I wish men are watching and paying attention) and very funny!😂👍❤

[@Justinthepenguin]

Trust me, when we realize we were wrong we all will listen, the last thing i want to fail is my wife.

[@lydia-vr1jp]

You sound like a great guy, I hope things go well for you

[@gailrosenberg48]

HILARIOUS!!!! Jimmy and his alter ego are priceless together!

[@Lexi_Con]

Why do relationships have to be such a struggle for some men!? I've never been married. Have had many serious, long term relationships & was engaged once. Seems like the majority of my peers who got married in early 20's are divorced & many remarried, some more than once. I simply want a healthy loving relationship w/ a partner who's mature enough to communicate & handle ups & downs w/o toxicity. Why is it that I'm capable of honesty, commitment, respect, unconditional love, etc & can't find a man equally capable (or willing to try/learn)? I'm not ugly but not getting any younger. Starting to think it won't happen unless I move. 🤔

[@ajregalia1334]

Finding a healthy relationship is a struggle for everyone whether you are a man or woman, gay or straight, or anywhere outside and inbetween. It's not a gender or sexuality thing, it's just that people live very different lives and have many different experiences, perspectives, beliefs, understandings, goals, needs, wants, etc. So finding someone who is compatible enough for you to want to spend your finite life with, who you are willing to compromise with (because all relationships will have a level of compromise), and who wants the same with you can be very difficult. Not to mention we self sabotage ALL the time, we will have blind spots in our own behavior that affect us in ways we can't know that hinder our chances on finding/building romantic relationships. And since everyone else has those blind spots as well there are many cases where two people who might otherwise be a good fit just don't work out due to circumstance. Short answer, it's hard

[@2021noname]

Men and women need to understand each other and their needs more, which change from person to person and over time. Seek to understand yourself and make yourself the best version of you, and be open to listen and learn about individual men before you quickly commit to anyone or share yourself too deeply, good luck!!

[@Cozmonimbus]

Oh my goodness! You just named the condition I've been struggling with for the past year and a half!!! As a guy, I have been approached numerous times by many other guys/girls and being disgusted by their approach even though I too want some with them. Been wondering if I'm "demisexual" "bye-bi-sexual" "graysexual" yadda yadda yadda it confuses a lot of people. But now I can just tell them I have responsive desire and maybe send them this video!!

[@ocami90]

"I can just focus on him for today," OR "I can respect myself and not invest in serving the other person without getting anything back, especially when it comes to my own body." You are allowed to say no when the other person asks you for something like that. And you have the right not to feel under pressure.

[@Kritikanbringer]

I'd recommend the first one. How can you expect the man to deliver a performance to get you in the mood every time but not want to offer sex when you are not in the mood at all? Do you think men like to always have to deliver a performance upfront before they get what they actually/mainly want? Note: Men have to perform all the damn time to even have a chance with a woman to be able to have to perform to get her in the mood to get sex. And you women just do nothing, are ungrateful and don't notice anything of that and if the performance is only 98 %, you complain (instead of relieving your man from the need to perform in 50 % of the cases, which would be the fair solution). #FemalePrivilege #MaleBurdenOfPerformance

[@nathanpetrich7309]

I had an ex say she had responsive arousal and I had spontaneous arousal, but she had that wrong. She just wasn't that in to me, so while I would experience desire when we would cuddle and kiss, she wouldn't. She also said she was sapiosexual, but now I've come to realize she just meant that she didn't find me attractive *and* she thought I was dumb.

[@hobomike6935]

Yup! Same here. It took forever and a lot of pain, but after trying everything else to increase my chances I learned that I’m just not desirable for intimacy.

[@tabbylove86]

I left my narcissistic ex for this reason.we were in a situationship,and within 1 month he just initiated intimacy,in a sudden spur of moment and it was sudden ,shocking ,surprising and I suddenly I felt not safe.i have already talked him about my traumas and intimacy issues and was shocked when he did that.i kept boundaries because it was triggering.he respected my boundaries,we kept distance and when I felt safe and trusted with him I talked to him and I expressed it was uncomfortable when you did touch me without consent and he just casually said an organic relationship doesn't require consent and it's just dumb to take consent all the time.andhe also broke up with me saying I am too strong of a woman.now I need to heal myself 😢

[@hobomike6935]

Sorry to hear that this happened. Consent can never be obtained in some relationships, which is either caused by previous traumas such as your case, or just flat-out not being someone she desires. It puts serious strain and emotional damage on men. You have to learn to love the person without intimacy.

[@tabbylove86]

@@hobomike6935 thank u for this post,but I loved him and liked him without the intimacy,I just wanted to be with him forever,but the trauma he has caused me is significant.and one more thing,keeping boundaries with him made me understand his intentions,he is a narcissist and a misogynist .now that's just it.

[@valedme2957]

@@tabbylove86 the previous comment was victim blaming you. Dt take it seriously. And about ur past experience, I am sorry this happened to you; the trash took itself out. And frankly, him saying that you are too strong of a woman is definitely the best compliment you could have gotten. It had all to do with you boundaries & the way you firmly asserted them. Dt let some1 who doesn’t care about respecting you, ruin that great attitude of yours. Wish you success in your healing journey, and remember that a good man will never try to shame you for your past or guilt trip you into intimacy. You loved him enough; he just was not the one deserving of your love. 🩷

[@anemptyspace]

Wow the part about not having to ask/get consent every time and that it should just happen organically really hit home. Been thinking for a while now that I need to break up with him because we're incompatible and he's caused me too much pain to be able to trust him and feel safe.

[@tabbylove86]

@@anemptyspace I feel you sis,my ex is a narcissistic person and keeping distance from him has protected me from insanity .consent is important for any sexual , intimate relationship,even friends should need consent for everything.that organic intimacy comes after very long time of living together,if only you become comfortable with that, and even after that if you don't like something what your partner does,it comes under abuse .as a sexual assault survivor I can guarantee you that.as for the previous comment,yes it's victim blaming,but the thing is I have been in trauma bond these many days and I couldn't find a way to break free.now I know everything Andi will take a stand

[@cathya6812]

Perhaps the most important video you have made to reduce misunderstandings between men and women. Thank you

[@hobomike6935]

At this point, it’s not a misunderstanding, you just flat-out can’t win.

[@Mythriftedhome214]

Love this! Well done and love the humor❤

[@shelleymadden9128]

Omg! That was awesome! Good job blending understanding and humor!

[@ShadesofSage]

Yes! SAFE 😩🥺🙏🏿!

[@KitsuneFyora]

Trying to stay focused....but that dude be ready NOW lol. Seriously though, i liked this. Most of the time im just not ready. Not just for desire, but for other things too. This makes sense. Thank you

[@karoshi2]

Had been told as a guy I don't need any mood. Thus it was ok to first silent treat me, later slap me awake for a nookie. Ah, those were the days...

[@hobomike6935]

I quit trying because it’s not a fight I can win. Some guys just “have it,” and I don’t have whatever it is. You can do everything in the book to “improve yourself” but at the end of the day if she’s not attracted to you, she’s just not-and you cannot change other people. It hurts, and decreases morale- but you learn to live with it and move on.

[@syrenka6]

This topic needs to be spoken more about. Good job to sharing with us ❤

[@grzegorzmj4881]

Absolutely brilliant video. Great piece of knowledge and advice and I love your frivolous sense of humour!

[@shereensuhail1896]

Wow! I finally understood the difference between a microwave and an oven

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

0:45 Jimmy, you just made me spit out my drink with that one, buahahahaha 🤣

[@katekramer7679]

I love that you lovingly look at "Jimmy" when you're talking about him. Great acting and editing.

[@annilionz]

I totally agree with the safety & trust … I know when I feel those then I can truly let loose & enjoy intimacy…

[@papercranes6886]

Finally a man that gets it!! Hallelujah!

[@lanazak773]

Just read a 70s bodice ripper - sometimes spontaneous is best, but feeling desired and special is important

[@tarapoloskey9706]

Oh my goodness, you are hilarious 😂 !!! The sexy Crab walk!

[@jazzgal51]

These videos are just so funny and spot on. Thank you Jimmy!

[@charmaineleopold3436]

I absolutely love this video so funny 😂 love the crab walk lol you’re great! Thank you for all your advice it’s made me change my life. I’m single now and happy healing. THANK YOU ❤

[@theoriginalmilji]

Hmm, I never thought of intimacy that way. Thanks man.

[@anaovaranao]

Jimmy, you are the best. Thanks for your videos 🎉

[@KJ-wh8fu]

Brilliant, kind, funny, and informative! Many thanks, dear!❤

[@AK-hu5nn]

I always thought I was on the ace spectrum due to this feeling but now I have a new angle to view things from...

[@brybaby89]

Too bad most our culture is too obsessed with hookups for this to even matter.

[@hobomike6935]

I got left behind because I’m not really hookup material. Not sure where all these women are that want spontaneous desire; where I live, there’s *no* desire of any kind (at least not for me) and I’m something of a walking libido kill.

[@haileyt857]

If anyone wants more info, Dr. Emily Nagoski explains this quite well!

[@mushymystic]

Interesting! A bolt of lightning to illuminate something that's been unacknowledged but present always...

[@sarahd.8303]

The sexy crab walk ended me sjjdjfkf. I love this video! You manage to be informative while also peppering in silliness and love, one of your best yet.

[@yupablan]

Educational and funny. The spank did it for me 😂😂😂

[@mariak9085]

“And that’s okay!” I like it 😊 So what he’s more adrenaline, I’m more lactic acid ❤😂

[@vincegreenlee3470]

This is a top ten video for sure! 😂❤

[@guitarplaytoday686]

OMG.. hilarious..omg..loved it....and learned a lot too

[@ry2yb]

How funny! Great content!

[@fabricofdreams.]

I didn't even know this was a thing, so interesting!

[@moonyaan]

thanks algorithm for showing me finally something meaningful 🙏

[@corettagreene1707]

Microwaves and ovens warm up exercises 🎉😂 Love it!❤

[@pryork09]

This was great.. the crab walk almost took me out 😂 thanks Jimmy

[@juliaphillips2518]

OMG… so so funny but so true as well! 👍

[@AlinaTowers]

Jimmy and his wife look so much alike.

[@butterflypathchristiancoach]

😂😂😂the sexy crab 😂😂😂 Is true, affection and attention are more sexy than somebody external aspect.

[@nog0dsnomasters]

Ho. ly. Shit. This was my ex boyfriend's whole deal. I was more the responsive kind, like the EXTREME end of that spectrum and he was the exact opposite. That's why our spicy had a lot of issues that way. I'm a little embarrassed that all it took was a minute long KZbin video for me to realize that, almost 9 months after our splitting up.

[@Shuen.Li.Spirit]

Omg my ex did that too ~ sexy crab walk. No affection, said he didn’t care how I felt (big mistake!) and yet he complained we havent had sex for 8 years. 😂

[@tadejwinsthetour]

Damn you're good!

[@elizabethharrell8707]

yep, the crab walk is the best!

[@JoyAdebambo]

Jimmy is the best

[@Andrea-he5io]

I'm crying I'm laughing so hard. Its informative and hilarious.

[@matthewboyd8689]

Explains why it was a like filling a coin for my first relationships. Didn't always do that part.

[@saraherrick4675]

Some hot moves there Jimmy

[@dulceyprocaz]

Wig wisdom!

[@slosh177]

Oh Jimmy, you had a little too much fun making this video! Lol!

[@ElizabethWilliamsBushey]

Watching with the sound off and my fam is wondering why I’m snort laughing

[@PatMcAnn]

hilarous and true

[@noidiotsplease4760]

😂the sexy crab walk just about killed me!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@user-cl5vk2ug4i]

So funny and important

[@miyabiaizawa9631]

Bang the crab walk was spot on😂😂

[@jennifer55]

Can you be both?? Because sometimes I'm spontaneous and sometimes I'm responsive. And sometimes I just don't feel it at all.

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

I think so!

[@SessKagOnly]

I'd ask if there was anything leading up to the "spontaneous" side that maybe you didn't think would give you a response, but surprisingly did. It could be that, too. Or you could be both. Too little info to say for certainty. Either way, I think the latter part just happens. It's no one's fault. People just aren't in the mood sometimes. Hopefully, you have a partner that respects those times and vice-versa.

[@ajregalia1334]

Spontaneous or Responsive desire describes a type of desire, not a type of person. It's not a back and white definition but a spectrum that people lean more one way or the other, but even that can fluctuate.

[@joanneberry5390]

The sexy crab walk. Haha!

[@m2d5]

You guys are so cute together.

[@moonyaan]

The sexy crab walk tho 🤣🤣

[@sarenisuncokreti6981]

😂great!

[@LilayM]

The crab walk... YES.

[@temp9307]

That crab walk tho 🔥

[@HollieNoelle-rt4vv]

Love this! So funny!

[@lisaallen9339]

I’m getting it, I don’t matter. I’m reminded almost daily. At least that part shows a little hope-

[@Kritikanbringer]

Now that you are old and have #HitTheWall, you complain? Were you thinking that all that attention you hada gotten when you were 18-25, were because of you great personality?! 😂 Now it's your turn to please the man/men, when your natural gift of youth and beauty is used up. Get used to it. Men had to go aout of their ways all up to this age.

[@gyongyiszatmari37]

OMG that "blue steel" was fantastic 🤣🤣🤣

[@lavi707]

Idk man...that crab walk has got me all 🫦

[@valardeeedeyosuri9851]

The "sexy crab walk" 😂😂😂😂

[@Karina_Engr]

1:18 the look lmbo 😂

[@TrangPhamNguyen]

Please release a blooper reel 😂

[@Maybe444-23]

🖤 long time no see