The Ultimate Toolkit for CREATING New Habits: The Science Made Easy | The Mel Robbins Podcast

[@melrobbins]

Do you feel ready to create some new habits in your life? Hit the like button if you want to see more videos like this!

[@ellied1931]

I decided to listen to your videos everyday for the next year in order to change my mindset and undo 19 years of toxic childhood trauma because lately I’ve become completely home bound due to getting older and losing motivation. I’ve done so many treatments to help with anxiety, cptsd, adhd (which you helped me discover) and the most recent I’m doing now is acupuncture that helped me stop having frozen margaritas everyday for a few months. Stopped it almost immediately. Love my acupuncturist and we’re working on other things right now like emotional eating.

[@ginawood5991]

Hi Mel, My reward every day when I get up to exercise (walk) is to take you with me. I googled how to reward myself for exercising knowing it couldn’t be a candy bar. Googled said, “take a friend”. Tag, you are it. You are my friend who walks with me everyday. Either I listen to one of your new podcast or listen to an older podcast.

[@cherylhall5214]

and...What a lovely way to explain the process, realising I do the same, walking, cleaning house, travelling, taking a bath!! - thank goodness for phones, ipads , ear pods, eh!. ChesfromOz

[@liveItwell]

Wow! That was very helpful! Changed my views of making a new habit. I came up with an acronym to help me remember the 3 steps: PAR Prompt, Actualize (making it happen), Reward. Now I am “up to PAR”! Thanks Mel! You are loved in return by so many!

[@Renemor]

I love you, Mel - you have no idea how you and dr Ramani are changing my life after 17 years living with a full blown abusive narcissist. You are saving my life!!🙏🏻❤️ All my love, from Norway 🇧🇻

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

I started working on giving myself rewards for good behavior. I give myself grace and compassion, I used to be very critical, but I'm trying to be better to myself and for myself. I used to accept whatever behavior people gave me. Now I expect better, and treat myself better. By doing this, omg the amount of personal growth is amazing. I'm feeling better, being better.

[@carrieheath42]

Thought I would share a quote I heard recently "Where focus goes, energy flows!" I know... its a good one 😁

[@lornaaitchison8732]

Mel you are such an inspiration. Love your stories. I am 84 now and nee d some better habits. I know I will feel much better about myself.

[@jeanbaardsen2863]

I'm glad you're going to talk about triggers, but would also appreciate a session on rewards. I can't think of a single thing that would be a reward for me, in terms of working on a new habit. Thanks!

[@tnijoo5109]

I have the same problem. Things that other people find rewarding I don’t care about at all. Have you figured out any good rewards yet?

[@atee6331]

My rewards are intrinsic… and I’m okay with that. “Me” feeling good about “me” brings about an inner peace that is of great value to me. Praying and gaining a greater understanding of The Bible helps to accelerate that peace. This is my reward because there was a time I did not feel good about myself, and I had no peace. Sometimes the reward can be removing yourself from toxic people, which was my case, and it kept me from that inner peace. Best wishes!

[@theresesilvawalker8407]

I want ideas for rewards

[@JocelynJKahn]

You have the most intimate knowledge of your own life - it’s hard to understand how someone who doesn’t even know you can come up with ideas! Sounds like those asking this question need to begin noticing throughout the day something more fundamental - what “good” feels like for you!

[@joanbrown5823]

Mel....you Brilliant human being...thanks again.

[@Goldenheart2911]

Be kind to yourself, embrace and celebrate your progress no matter how big or small and know that each step you take forward in implementing a new habit in your life is one more step closer to it becoming a part of your daily routine. The more we embrace changes in our life with positivity and optimism the more we are going to be excited, inspired and motivated to keep making them happen. 💛 Great podcast Mel ✋❤️😊💪🕊️

[@rimaalsekait]

Can you also make a video on rewards? Was cleaning my miss that’s been sitting since last year (while listening to this 💪) After finishing a big pile I wanted to reward myself but the only thing I could think of was food 🤪 other examples would be appreciated ❤️ now on with the next pile and another video 😁

[@michelleg8065]

Me too.. food might cancel out going to the gym yeah?

[@IMakeMeSoHappy]

Thank you thank you thank you... For everything

[@senseofwonder4734]

This is the most important podcast I think I have ever listened to. Thank you Mel Robbins!

[@dorothyedwards7225]

Wow Mel, you put in a lot of work and time while doing the Mel Robbins Show!! I would have loved to go exercise with you and go to that NY coffee house and have coffee and a burrito! Yum and Fun experience!! talk about imagination and dreams.

[@vitakhan307]

I would gladly join you both, too😊

[@karlyrothenberg347]

Love you too! Thank you Mel!

[@kay9738]

Thank you Mel, you're amazing, as always with your podcasts ❤️

[@ivettea5368]

7 triggers to hack changing routines & behaviors 1. Sound 2.time of day 3. Location location location 4. Emotional state 5. People I hang out with 6. Things in my environment Post it notes

[@misskbo100]

Thanks Mel, for you candid sense of humor and just being fucking real despite the fact that your an inspirational speaker. Everyone has the same problems no matter their job, financial status, background, etc. Were simply all humans trying to make sense of this more than ever chaotic world.

[@ivettea5368]

New habits 3steps 1. Identify new habit 2. Reinforce w reward 3. Command / cue / trigger new behavior position

[@doctork1708]

Thank you.

[@joanbrown5823]

Happy to have you with us......thanks I know this is going to be so good.

[@nahlaadams]

Thank you so much Mel for all the positive amazing encouragement you always do on your show! I found out also that we have to have the control of our life and the feeling afterwards. Would you mind to talk about how to break a bad habit that you know it effects your life ?! Is it by apply a new one to keep our mind busy ! I honestly love you and love your family and the videos you make. My habit now is to watch you the first thing in the morning with my cup of coffee 😊❤

[@pinkposey8134]

Looking Good Mel! Thank you for a super great video today!💥💫

[@joanbrown5823]

I love you Mel......you are amazing.

[@joanbrown5823]

Applied.....boom!

[@rvillalobos6768]

Yes! Love you Mel! Thanks for the Learn and Laugh session!

[@psychplanet4905]

Wonderful 🔥

[@Christinesobsevations]

Success can be found in small baby steps 🎉

[@marygarrett9724]

I really hope this helps me

[@julianavillanueva7385]

I had to have a drink in the evening, it help me chill out …. I broke this habit ,it was hard. It was in my head every evening. Now I don’t let it get in my head I feel way better.

[@mmiifftt]

Thanks. All your podcasts are incredibly in sync right now with me. Thank you, thank you

[@ligiasommers]

Very well explained and helpful, thank you 🙏🏻🌹✨🙏🏻

[@nancerella2000]

You are so amazing. Love you. 💜

[@cherylhall5214]

hello Mel from Australia, I remain "spell bound" since stumbling upon your words of wisdom - feel as though I have made a good mate and intend to follow through, listen, learn, apply - repeat - truly, no joke - my world is like a roller coaster - "these are the best of times, these are the worst of times" - so I am grateful, feel less fearful and imagine I will remain part of your human pack of friends, kind regards Mate. ChesfromOz

[@alphamercury]

Loving this series, keep it up!

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

We are what we repeatedly do.

[@sarahbhutta251]

I look forward to the next episode! This was helpful.

[@loripatterson8201]

Currently reading Atomic Habits by James Clear which has been super helpful - this is a nice addition!

[@tiffanycarney539]

Can’t wait for the next episode!

[@amylynn7881]

There like a giant middle finger … are my workout clothes 😂😂😂. I love your podcasts!

[@Letyfrance]

I loved what she said '' What is a habit: A habit is something that you do so often that it's automatic. That's it. There's no drama, there's no resistance, there are no feelings involved in it. Habits are something that you do that you even don't think about''

[@michalperi22]

I wish you were here to help me but I'm glad I have you on youtube :) there are many things I want to change, but 2 questions that are bothering me a lot right now are: 1) what kind of reward could we have for a habitual change that is about quiting? for example I want to stop smoking, and I can't imagine an option. 2) how to priorotise when my life needs many changes and I don't know where to start. thank you

[@alexandraalbertz1442]

If the habits is to stop a habits then that space that took you to do the old habits has to be filled out with something else. What needs the smocking filled for you? Then start building other habits for yout "tool box" to have access to when the emotion that you "cover" with smoking will appear again? We need to think what we add în replacments as just giving up at something still leave a void

[@michalperi22]

@@alexandraalbertz1442 You're right :)

[@dianamurcia8438]

The way you said chorizo 😂 i love watching you and listening to all your podcasts. Thank you for the laugh today.

[@joanbrown5823]

This is so awesome.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

Sleep habit is my Main focus in hoping to transform it.

[@nbcareerconsulting9496]

So apt as I'm training a new puppy, doing this exact process and seeing the rewards and results - just need to apply it to my personal goals!!

[@regcrowder9010]

Hi Mel! 🎉 Keep up the good work! 👍

[@chrisietalks]

Hey Mel! I loved this episode. I was hoping to hear more from Caroline about animal behavior and how we can adopt the principles into our own behavior modification. Maybe even have a human behaviorist and an animal behaviorist on sometime! ❤

[@Tidathip-c6u]

Thank you Mel 😊

[@claudiagracego9031]

Thank you, Mel. ❤

[@Its.Aurelius]

Extremely useful 😊

[@genealotech]

Thank you so much for this! Is there a playlist of habit podcasts you’ve made?

[@Tina_G3]

I listened to your Ted Talk years ago, I could kick myself for not making you a habit then. I’m riding the Mel Robbin’s bus now and I’m not getting off. ❤

[@Susan-z5d]

I want to completely change my habits,everything,I'm stuck in a rutt,chronic pain and exhaustion, depression, anxiety, ptsd,ocd,I want to change my life trying to stop thinking I'm in pain,I'm exhausted, depression etc,trying to get my confidence back, I'm 55 and I'm scared I'll die before I allowed myself to live so I'm taking baby steps out of my comfort zone,my biggest hurdle is getting over feeling too ugly to be seen in public,I hate what I see in the mirror because it doesn't reflect what's on the inside.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I have changed one small habit so far. I am on my bed by 11 pm. However. I am still distracted by the phone. It's as if I do not want to close my eyes. Obsessional thoughts occur. I do listen to Jason Stephenson's relaxing music. But I switch it off and back on to check various channels on KZbin. I've improved on the habit of listening or watching to some trashing channels.

[@judysiegel6703]

This so aligns with the program I’m teaching to prisoners. We have to stick to the script but I write some of your quotes on the board. Thanks!

[@tammyshappyplace3343]

Love this topic. Thank you 💕. I’ve been trying to build new habits and routines for many years. I’ve been trying “to build a life worth living”. I’ve made progress but I love the idea of “hacking habit change”. I need to make more progress faster. I can’t wait to try this. 😃

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

The habit of getting distracted with youtube channels before bedtime improves some days and some days like Friday nights onto the weekend I sort of pause on practicing my efforts on following a new routine.

[@TraceyKorol]

I would also appreciate a session on rewards. I can't think of a single thing that would be a reward for me, in terms of working on a new habit. Thanks! Great podcast Mel ✋😊💪#tkorol #💚💜💚

[@universaltruth2025]

Good point. I need to figure out the same thing.

[@jennifermarlett8763]

I have been listening for a while trying to implement the get up with the alarm for awhile now..HARD!! I have a personal block of some kind and not breaking through. Listening intently!!

[@scottmclaughlin8800]

Great content Mel, love this. With addictions eventually the size , the amount of the reward has to increase to be experienced. Is that necessary for non addictive behaviours / Habits does the reward have to be increased as well?

[@tnijoo5109]

What a good question!! I hope someone answers it someday.

[@ilzeberzina1485]

This is also good advise for parenting - reward behaviour you want repeated. Your child shows initiative, decides to cook dinner but makes a disaster in the kitchen? Don't be mad, command the effort and help with the clean up. The same with a spouse - he bought you a gift that you don't love? React with being grateful. Be a positive person, choose to see the good.

[@Sharon56-h4t]

Excellent podcast, thank you Mel 💗

[@tammyshappyplace3343]

I like how you call them cues. Calling them triggers sounds too traumatizing. I’ve considered triggers a bad thing for 20 years.

[@DarienneHallas]

Regarding the example of the dog that gets shouted at when barking at the door. I went through a stage where I would get nauseous every morning (not pregnant - I know what needs to happen to get pregnant and I wasn't engaged in such activities at the time 😅). I kept track of everything from what I ate the night before, the times I ate, my morning coffee time, etc. Eventually realised it was when I started even thinking about getting ready. That was my trigger. For the first time in my life, I was experiencing nausea due to anxiety. And realised it had to do with my job.

[@pangalanko4617]

Repetition is mastery

[@lisaboudreau9603]

Unbelievable Mel - after watching this I am now making a point of watching all of your video’s - I have watched some and realize HOW much you HELP and MOTIVATE me!

[@kellieknight2552]

Your the best !!

[@springBloomsinAwe]

I have a habit. Doing many things at once and getting lost 😩

[@frantrice3709]

Lose this! retiring at the end of the month and want to up workouts from 3 to 5 days a week. I am going to make this part of my morning routine, Thanks Mel

[@mannyflores5295]

Good information just starting to listen to Mel thank for all your hard work

[@MR-li1jj]

“There are my tights laid out on the floor like a middle finger” God, ur so funny Mel. You made me laugh

[@evabeharkova9926]

Im a teacher in nursery...parents went mad when i told them that this is the same with dogs - if you dont want your dog to sit on the sofa - never ever let the dog sit on the sofa even when you are ill,tired....

[@SocialGremlin]

Hey Mel, I fucking love you! Thanks for setting me right this morning. Huge hug, DD

[@claudinediamond2555]

I needed this episode. Thanks, Mel.

[@kristalhumphreys4621]

Mel, I love your informative videos like this ❤❤

[@EtherealMaryJane]

High Five 👋

[@pitolove3846]

I've been contemplating chewing in a bullet. Never had I have these thoughts... But here I am. Please send positive energy & wishes my way... The world just seems so Evil.

[@redpanda456]

Pito, hang in there. I've been there. Things will get better.

[@mariapettelle3565]

Pito- I understand your feelings. I don’t pretend to write to you from some sanctimonious mountaintop. I struggle lately, like I never have before. Want you to know that. 🙂 Remember though, the world is evil, but you are not. You are not controlled by Satan as the world has been. We do not hear about the good , but there is still good. Be part of the good- try to do something for someone - you will see evidence of the good and kindness , I promise. It is HARD , I know. Create one habit in this area as Mel says. Just one. People are mainly good, trust that. God is in control, but Satan is running rampant in minds - push him out of yours with any dangerous thoughts you are having. YOU WIN PITO. You are stronger than your mind - believe that and start with believing that every day! You are LOVE and loved.

[@joseabad2552]

Thanks for sharing this incredible video have a great day ❤

[@theresesilvawalker8407]

This is awesome! I cannot train other people snd i am not willing to bother anymore BUT I can train myself

[@littleapplepilatesco.3448]

I have been waiting for this for at least a year. I didn't know I needed it 🎉

[@Safi-19]

Thank u 🙏

[@luskelurke9194]

Any tips on rewards for getting out of bed early when nothing feels rewarding, you just want to sleep and you feel nauseous?

[@dorothyedwards7225]

I stopped using dryer sheets. I found out they have animal products in there. I love a faux good smell from detergents and fabric sheets, but not that way.

[@chelseataylor5033]

listened to the one on goals first and am now realizing I set habits instead of goals lol so going to go back and revise after this episode

[@hamdiali4120]

Love you mel ❤

[@susan9630]

Actually, you can and should wean off of treats for behaviors once they are well established. Verbal reinforcement has a lot of advantages.

[@like2bike979]

Atomic Habits by James Clear!

[@kathleenrago1167]

I love you! 😂

[@S.Sindhu-bf1mg]

Can somebody give part 2 link

[@anniek6034]

As a doer I find it easier to create new habits and stay consistent with them. Somehow it is a lot more difficult to not do something, to quit a bad habit. 🙄🤐

[@mahimagopalakrishnan4285]

To break a habit, you have to do the reverse. Which is- making your cue/ trigger less obvious in your environment. Depending on the reward, like if it was an external thing, you can remove/ block the reward. I

[@kathleenrago1167]

If only we could be friends ❤

[@HamidHabib-j6m]

so i wanted to ask that if you cant give yourself the reward due to lack of money then whats the alternative of it ?

[@sylviacorrea6450]

What if you can't identify the trigger/triggers of a bad habit???

[@chrisgoldberg1994]

Ms Robbins she is talking all the attention to herself from you and from this podcast 😂

[@FamilyMatterswithAmber]

I wish I could figure out the proper reward...😢

[@Oliviawww164]

I have the habit of thinking of my ex as soon as I wake. I need to stop this I hate it.

[@lindamcadarra402]

❤Mel!! Please help!! How can I get my dog to stop chasing the mailman and others??? Sorry, I can’t get a fence till next income tax 😮🍷

[@lornaaitchison8732]

Speaking about rewards made me think of when I smoked ciggs ,yeas ago. I would use a cigarette as a reward. . I got lot done ,back in those days. Lol

[@darlenetolson8144]

Love your podcast can I ask why the F bomb is used so much 😢