THE WOMAN WHO PREDICTED HER OWN MURDER

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Today's solved true crime video is on the murder of Jane Clough, the woman who predicted her own murder was a nurse from Blackpool, England - she was stalked and killed by her boyfriend Jonathan Vass
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[@EleanorNeale]

Hey loves, here's a list of domestic abuse helplines in case any of you need them (and I'm praying you don't) - please talk about your situation, there IS a way out, even if it doesn't feel possible - you can do this!! Please only reply to this comment if you have any more helplines/websites - we can chat in the comments in general, just not here so it's easier for anyone trying to navigate! UK - 0808 2000 247 [e-mail] or www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse-getting-help/ Ireland - 1800 341 900 www.safeireland.ie/ USA - 1-800-799-7233 www.thehotline.org/ Australia - 1800 737 732 www.1800respect.org.au/ New Zealand - womensrefuge.org.nz/contact-us/find-your-local-refuge/ (numbers on this link I believe) Canada (Ontario) - 416.863.0511 www.awhl.org/home South Africa - *134*7355# www.tears.co.za/ Like I said, please add any more to the comments that you know of & please keep the comments on this topic! Sending my love to every single one of you, you CAN do this - it won't be like this forever, taking the first step is scary but you're strong, I know it! Eleanor x

[@glauvie]

Your local pastor or priest should be trained to help as well. Sometimes it arouses less suspicion when you just need to stop by the church or parsonage for a bit. You can use any pretense-you want to donate something, etc.

[@mimiluvulongtime]

Yeah it’s good 👍🏾

[@dannilou7855]

@@abigailheaton4466 I wanted to sign but it said I couldn't, I'm so sorry 🥺 I'm sending my love and prayers

[@ashleighswan7922]

@@abigailheaton4466 please please repost this in the comments, it might gain better traction in the comments than under this pinned comment. I have went on and signed. Thinking of you and your family xxx

[@insideatheart]

@@abigailheaton4466 i can't sign because i'm from chile but i wish you the best, as another person said, you should post this in the comment section so it can get more attention!

[@maxbrooks5468]

“Drop the charges!” “No.” *immediately commits a worse crime that can easily be traced to him*

[@lauratapia7205]

THANK YOU! Like I don’t understand how his stupid logic made sense to him, everyone knew him as well as an abuser like he really had no thought process to anything

[@jehxjdjdbabhens2809]

LOL

[@lucyverse4908]

That seems to be common logic amongst many murderers/abusers. There have been cases where killers have outright bragged about their crimes to their friends. They’re so arrogant and narcissistic, they think they can do whatever they want and get away with it. Truly vile.

[@astrocytes]

@@lucyverse4908 to be fair if one of my friends bragged about a murder, I would be conflicted if going to the cops would keep ME from getting killed next. What if the cops don't find enough and he's back home next week 😐

[@efe8085]

What an idiot.

[@regan3873]

“She met a man” Oh no.

[@milkyoiz]

literally a big red flag. A MAN

[@lastminutewonder9602]

Not all men just some

[@soundskindagay2709]

@@lastminutewonder9602 not some. Enough.

[@publius7682]

@@soundskindagay2709 woah that’s a good response

[@jordanrayne4779]

@@lastminutewonder9602 Wow really i thought they meant every single man

[@beckyward8723]

I will never understand people like this. He didn’t want to go to prison for rape, so he stabbed Jane and will go to prison for rape AND murder instead? Like what???

[@swilson5320]

I imagine it's about his power dynamic. He wanted to take back power and I think he felt his life was over and was explosive with thoughts of revenge

[@brittttttt8125]

I was about to comment the same thing. There is no reasoning. Edit: I feel like they just can't stand to be beaten.

[@paolacervoni367]

Sadly it's about power. If he went to prison for rape, she'd "have power over him", but by murdering her he goes to prison thinking he had power over her. Rest in Peace, she seemed so brave. My heart goes out for her daughter. :(

[@catT5236]

Unfortunately the charges for rape were actually dropped so he went to prison only for murder. He SHOULD have been in prison for both, especially if he ever gets released (which hopefully he won't).

[@kkr341]

I guess he just didn’t want her to have a better life than him as he just wanted power and control over her, so killing her was the last thing he could do to show how he is still more powerful. He didn’t really care about his own life he just wanted her to know she was below him still

[@teslaaa6603]

When I heard the part where he got out on bail it made me FURIOUS. That judge is responsible for her death. Absolutely despicable.

[@lana.pat1308]

I am so angry at that. She was so close to finally escaping him!

[@romeowandrainbow1040]

I was so angry too. Maybe the judge was a woman hater too, makes no sense

[@flowersinmay9743]

It's scary how many people have a gut feeling that something is going to happen to them and then it really does happen...

[@ellahobson1701]

Or you’re only told the times something has happened and not the times something hasn’t. I always get tricked by that

[@seregarublev8915]

I always get a gut feeling I'm about to shit my pants and every time it comes true 😿😿😿😿 the pain of being Bosnian 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@NyxMareux]

It's always best to listen to your intuition.

[@janrees4887]

Well, it's not just a vague feeling of foreboding. She knew him and knew what he was capable of. It's not exactly fortune telling, it's more like being realistic about someone's character and intent.

[@megami.x]

I was confused why she was simultaneously expressing a deep fear but also letting her guard down at the same time. Having been in a domestic abuse situation I will not judge or assess the situation but I just thought it was interesting(?) since she had seemingly already moved on from him... Unfortunately your brain can try to convince you that your intuition is an overreaction and I assume that’s probably what happened here. People out there, if you feel fear like this woman expressed, then keep doing whatever you can to protect yourself even if people are telling you that you’re being silly or you’re acting crazy or overreacting or WHATEVER they might say. Please 💜

[@rhiannonleigh]

I absolutely love that Eleanor say “her baby” not “their baby” or “his baby.”

[@acaciamuhs9468]

And I read all that in her voice lol

[@rebekahgaskill9360]

@@acaciamuhs9468 her bebeh

[@rebekahgaskill9360]

@@acaciamuhs9468 i love her accent especially when she says baby

[@acaciamuhs9468]

@@rebekahgaskill9360 😭😭

[@livingalaska2269]

Exactly

[@Sass396]

I love how we always tell women that they should protect themselves, be vigilant walking home alone etc, but maybe a better solution would be for judges not to bail or parole rapists and domestic abusers? I love the idea of the domestic abusers list - these people rarely change, and usually go on abusing their next partners and kids.

[@LAURA---]

People always put the responsibility on the potential victims and not on the abusers. Our society is fucked up that way.

[@Juauka]

Yeah, an in a way, preaching safety measures instead of pushing for better education on these subjects and tighter guidelines on who gets parole and who doesn’t really sounds like ‘make sure he rapes/murders the other person instead’ when it should be ‘make sure he doesn’t rape/murder anyone at all’

[@jamesparsons9068]

It is worth playing devil's advocate here; bail is an intrinsic right and part of the long-established tradition that you are innocent until proven otherwise. If not applied corrupt governments can, and do, trump up endless charges to keep someone in prison. There are exceptional cases where it leads to tragedy but remember in this case no evidence was offered of his violent past, had it been the law allows for him to be kept in. No legal system is perfect, nor can it be made so. The maxim 'good cases make bad laws' applies, using individual tragic cases to shape laws for everyone and all instances is dangerous to all our rights. Parole exists to keep order in the prisons; as strange as it sounds unless the prison authorities have something to dangle at most people they often misbehave and prisons become unmanageable. Most times it works and prisoners work to try to reform, behave and get educated to get parole. Again, tragic exceptions occur. It's easy to forget amongst all the headlines that crime has fallen substantially but in the end we all need to take sensible precautions. I don't walk in certain areas as I fear the consequences late at night, I shouldn't have to but overall the streets are safe. But we cannot make them risk-free. The police and criminal justice system are always working to protect society more. Some states/countries now allow for prosecution of domestic abusers without the victim's consent and men (mostly lets be honest) are taken to the cells for the night to begin with to allow the woman to leave or change the locks. This stops -as happens endlessly - the woman pulling the charges or not showing up. A huge percentage of cases fail because of this. New innovative double-restraining orders are being trialled, this is where the woman is precluded from going near the man when she obtains a restraining order preventing him coming near her. This stops him getting the opportunity to give the 'I have changed' speech and try to convince her to drop charges etc because she cannot legally go near him. All in all we are moving forward but there are ways to address these issues without throwing our long-fought for rights out with the proverbial bath water.

[@josefabarriosmontalvo1802]

Seems that the idea of justice is for the system to get money.

[@LisaSnow3]

Or for people to raise their children better. People always say it’s easier to raise boys. It’s easier to people because they don’t pay attention to them as much.

[@chrisisagirlsname98]

Unfortunately, Jane was the only one who could testify against her own rape and while that’s terribly awful, it shouldn’t matter as he should already be serving the rest of his pathetic life in prison. 30 years is not enough, he’s shown he has no remorse for what he’s done, he had zero respect for women, and is a danger to society as a whole and should rot in a cell by himself.

[@outlaw615]

In my opinion rapists should get sentenced to death

[@asmrtpop2676]

@@outlaw615 Absolutely not. The Central Park Five. Look it up. I am against the death penalty forever after I learned about people who were found post-death to be innocent.

[@outlaw615]

Seriously? Wow I didn't know that actually

[@IdkIdk-hm6vf]

@@asmrtpop2676 we’re talking about actual rapists tho not innocent people

[@armoredanteater609]

Honestly rather than the death sentence, a life in prison should be where the sentences stop. Not even just in case of innocence, but also because death is a hell of an easier way out

[@Evzen.]

This story is absolutely heartbreaking. Jane was so unbelievably kind and forgiving, even when she shouldn't have been.

[@catT5236]

That's probably why he targeted her, he knew that he could use her innate kindness against her to his advantage.

[@lacasadelaseo2472]

I recommend this channel Minyas Vlogs

[@nairobichik]

Sooooo heartbreaking. So sad. RIP Jane. xxx

[@diaryofarealmom3264]

It’s one of those stories where I want to shake her and be like why did you stay with him when he told you he was married??? Rip sweetheart Jane. ❤️

[@clareo1979]

I worked at Blackpool Victorial Hospital at the time & remember this happening. Although I didnt know Jane personally, the shock & despair I & my colleagues felt is irmeasurable. Walking through the hospital corridors you could feel the pain weighing heavy on everyone. I believe it was a member of the public going back to their car, that found Jane & I dread to think how they felt. Little did I know, a few years later, after finding myself trying to flee an extremely similar situation, the new measures put in place by the hospital because of Jane's murder, would actually help me. I had security guards escourt me to & from my car & my dept door. I was provided with a personal silent alarm which alerted a 24hr security company of my location & sent a 30 second recording of what was happening. I was offered councilling & was forwarded on to Fylde Coast Women's Aid. I'll be forever grateful to Jane's parents for campaigning so hard. Jane will be forever remembered in my heart

[@Liz-eb5de]

Wow this is amazing and everywhere should invest in this. I live in the US and have never heard of anything like this.

[@navreetkaursidhu5042]

I'm so so glad you got all that protection and you could get yourself out of that situation.

[@Shan-lp2iu]

I think her family would be so happy knowing Janes tradgedy helped save another woman. i hope you have a good life

[@amrimonroe429]

It's heartbreaking that this happened but glad the hospital has measures in place now Everywhere should . Domestic is serious and should be taken seriously when reported or noticed. No matter how many times they are manipulated to go back.

[@velmadickerson8563]

@@amrimonroe429 0 great job

[@notyourgirlygirl1516]

The saddest thing is that she was murdered where she saved lives. And where he RUINED hers. I am so sorry for her and her daughter and every other woman that has been trough this fear.

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

LMAooooo

[@DestineyAmerie]

😢🥺

[@DaughterofZion-24]

​@@sm1purplmurderedme583 What's funny?

[@zvdadon]

@@sm1purplmurderedme583 why are you laughing..

[@gachasins699]

@@zvdadon Because it's ironic, I suppose but I still wouldn't laugh.

[@sadejunkmail]

I married my “Johnathan.” Everything Jane went through I went through. I was able to escape and get back to my support and safety. We have a child and he did in fact physically abuse her too at 2 weeks old! My heart feels for Jane. Anybody in this kind of situation, never think he won’t hurt your child too, they do. They use you up until you have nothing left. You’re their property and so is any children you have with them. They’re in humane and once they lose control of you everything gets worse. Tell somebody you need help and get you and your kids as far away as possible! Get the police involved. Learn how to protect yourself. And never go back 😓💜 Stay safe ladies!

[@CutiePieSally__]

Im so happy you are here today

[@emilialindroth6230]

So happy you got out❤️

[@nadinewilliams6465]

So glad you got out. Only the best for you and your child! May the New Year bring you health and happiness.

[@navreetkaursidhu5042]

I'm so glad you got yourself and your baby out of that situation sweety but it's really scary women sharing their domestic abuse stories, there are so many of them in these comments. It just breaks my heart how we as women, have to be scared for ourselves even in our own homes at times. I'm sorry you had to go through it.

[@renee1961]

💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@wuisquil]

It’s so heartbreaking that she was a nurse and wanted to help people but she was treated so badly by someone who she wanted to love.

[@staceykersting705]

A lot of those 'helper' types have almost NO boundaries. It's incomprehensible how they'll allow themselves to be trampled. This narrator keeps saying "...but she loved him." That's not love. Before u know it, you're pregnant or can't escape. If u have your own place, hang on to it! When he disrespects u, LEAVE him the first time. Don't waste your time tryna 'break it down' to him...he knows what he's doing! Just get away from him...plenty of fish...

[@dreyddog19]

@@staceykersting705 sadly yes. We see the best in people and some people don't have any best.

[@tash731]

Wow this was me a decade ago 🥺 so glad I got out of that relationship, it could've gotten so much worse. This comment hits hard.

[@maybechere8185]

@@staceykersting705 I don’t think you’re really putting yourself in her shoes. She was a very kind trusting person. She loved him and thought he was the perfect guy. So of course she thought he’d be a better person. But I hope that more women like her realize that there are options. There are always options.

[@jamesparsons9068]

Notice to all women: when your 'boyfriend' tells you he is married, chuck him out. Finish it, end it instantly. And for good measure tell his wife so she can decide if she wants to ditch him as well - she should. Don't listen to any stories about the marriage is failing, he is unhappy, she doesn't understand me, I am only staying in it for the kids, I will be divorced soon etc. etc. Do not accept any excuses, none, finish it instantly because only one of two things will happen; he wont' ever leave her and just string you along. Or the guy who commits adultery with you will eventually commit adultery on you.

[@Ddalgiichigo]

Fr as soon as I heard that I started rolling my eyes it’s the oldest lie in the book it’s such bs …men ain’t shit

[@r.l.bookreviews]

Agreed

[@itsqueencleopatra]

If the wife doesn’t order the husband to kill you and the husband isn’t dumb enough to do it. I’ve watch too many true crimes where telling the wife only gets her so blinded by rage that both the husband and wife get together to kill the mistress. It’s a sad world really.

[@KE-hr4sb]

This! Happened to me. First he sent me a mistell meant for someone else saying "No, my wife doesn't play, but my girlfriend (my name) does." Um, yeah, he'd neglected to mention he was married. When I busted him for it, out came the water works: "She's cheated, I'm not even sure if any of my kids are mine, and I'm trying to divorce her but she's making it difficult threatening to take my son from me and I can't lose my son, I love him so much." Few months later? His brother spilled the beans that the wife was pregnant again. There was no divorce (at that time), it was all a ruse to try to have his cake and eat it too. I ran into him years later. He had JUST finalized his divorce (I think she finally had enough too)...and was dating a married woman. Scum never changes, and the lies are always the same.

[@antoniasibel9091]

derek shepherd

[@ivabulieva5582]

That judge is just now getting retired. He didn't face any consequences for releasing a rapist out to murder. He has publicly harassed a pub owner for not letting his dog inside the pub. And still, no consequences. He is living his life, guilt free and the scary thing is, there are other people in power who fuck up in the same way and misuse their positions and they get to keep their lives.

[@psimmey30]

Name and shame please

[@chloe-zh2ux]

@@psimmey30 his name is Simon Newell, let’s get him bestie 🔫🏃🏼‍♀️

[@tatianarizktaylor1818]

And a hell of a nice retirement package$$$ to go with it. What an asshole

[@VioletJoy]

Another member here explained how he was evidently not presented with that information. According to what this person found out, he did not know how Jane felt and didn't know the extent of his behavior (stalking). He was innocent until proven guilty and had a clean record, so then what? It sounded as if neither she nor her parents attended the hearings.

[@MonstehDinosawr]

@@tatianarizktaylor1818 that would be £££££

[@dorindadouglas2847]

Side note: Always play dead! I hope none of you ever find yourself in this position, but if you're still alive after an attack, and it's plausible of course, play dead. So many people have survived because they did that and the perp left.

[@susannahjones6410]

Doesnt sound like it would have worked in Janes case. She needed to buy a gun.

[@dorindadouglas2847]

@Susannah Jones She did need a gun, but he was leaving and she started crawling for help and he heard her and went back and finished her off.

[@ebony-blythenewns9513]

@@susannahjones6410regular english ppl cant have guns or carry weapons . we arent even allowed mace , self defence would have to have been done with her bare hands or a nearby object:/

[@jewelhughes8960]

@@susannahjones6410 well he didn’t go back at her until he realized she was still alive. Of course we will never know, but I think it’s a high possibility if she played dead he would have left.

[@Sleepparalysisdemon2]

You can't say *always play dead* each situation is different, ..many times they will continue the attack, more ferociously , that's not the best advice. You gotta go with your gut.

[@WakeUpAtSix]

the way u actually talk about the victim's lives and not let them just be forgettable names in a killer's roster is something that sadly not enough true crime media do, and it's so refreshing to see. thank u for the compassion u bring to every video

[@mysticdinochick7019]

This is exactly how I feel💜 I love learning her perspective, she was a PERSON who is no longer here... She should be remembered 💖 I appreciate these videos

[@francescarae8182]

beyhhhbeyhhh 👶🏻🙃

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

British Kendall Rae

[@rowiel81]

She is fantastic and my absolute favorite!

[@funsizedi88]

Eleanor, Stephanie Harlowe, Kimberleigha and Kendall Rae are all so wonderful about painting a picture of who the victim was and not glorifying the killer. Kimberly Flowers is starting to become one of my favorites for the attention she brings to children's cases, in a very respectful way like the other ladies I mentioned. Check those wonderful ladies out if you haven't already!

[@jordanairey4276]

Eleanor: and then this man joins her team, Jane liked him. Me: he did it

[@kamaiawool9808]

LMAO fr

[@by.an_ca.9936]

Fr same

[@justhereforreal3360]

when she shows images then you know!

[@ellyanorsobhi6753]

My name is too ellyanor 😘😘😘😘

[@YoungForever7168]

Exactly my reaction

[@imlegit1162]

The realest fan base I’ve ever witnessed. proud to be a part of this community even the dark times

[@streamgirlsnight]

BRO

[@AxxLAfriku]

I recently revealed the genders of my two girlfriends. It got a lot of hate and now has 30 times more dislikes than likes. I am really sad that people can be so mean. Sorry for using your comment to talk about my problems, dear inl

[@beigelover95]

yesss

[@Therealkanyewest3782]

Hey can you see lines on the video like me

[@jordanhelaine]

@@Therealkanyewest3782 iml i dont, but what do you mean by lines?

[@nereidfromneverland]

similar thing happened in italy last year. a woman was abused in her home, she called police several times but they did nothing. it got so bad that she bought her own coffin and prepared her own funeral. she was murdered shortly after

[@anonymoustoes]

Jesus that’s awful :( do you know the name of this woman? It’s something I’d be interested to read more about.

[@lettenlina1708]

damn that's heavy...

[@mamejoe2043]

That so heartbreaking

[@sassysarina9718]

Whoa....

[@Dreamtime-Walker]

Please Can You Tell Us Her Name? Thanks. 🔎

[@Dratier]

Unfortunately, there is a better chance of Jane coming back to life than the judge being fired.

[@hollyedwards689]

the judge wasnt fired however he retired earlier this year

[@VioletJoy]

Someone above explained that he was not presented with all of the information, so it sounds like her attorney might have been the one to drop the ball.

[@TheSofkujepanen]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper ?? Why are you commenting this on all these comment threads? What are trying to do with this😅? Do you have nothing better to do?

[@ailyvn]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper Kendall Rae is her own person and Eleanor is her own person as well soo why need to comment that? There's no "bRitSh kEndAll rAe" a lot of other people do crime videos?? I'm surprised you didn't know?

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

@@ailyvn Kendall Rae created the genre!!! She is British Kendall Rae

[@mazabanana]

As a nurse, this made me cry because she probably knew from her injuries she probably wouldn’t survive I can’t even imagine the trauma for her friends and fellow workers as the bond we create at work becomes so strong💔

[@callymorgan]

I absolutely agree. I was thinking about this. She knew she would die. She tried to get away and if he hadn’t turned around, maybe, just maybe. It would be different.

[@francesgray3096]

You just hope her adrenaline was over taking the pain or thought

[@janetrawlings1691]

I'm a nurse too how 😔 sad prayers 😢 🙏

[@CourtneyTunbridge79]

Oh my goodness I never thought of that, you are right she would have definitely known she was in trouble, I can't imagine, how absolutely awful.

[@segagirladventurespico]

:"( heartbreaking agree with u

[@dianarossfan]

I worked with Penny and remember her talking about her daughter’s partner being trouble. She was a wonderful woman. I then moved away and saw what had happened on the news. RIP Jane.

[@cateliebenberg5296]

That's really sad, but you must be really proud of all that she has done.

[@ruqayyahqadri8180]

@ayo why wouldn't it be true?

[@HoneyBee-br6hi]

@@ruqayyahqadri8180 Right. Like who would lie about something like that. Smh

[@r.l.bookreviews]

Awe I’m sorry. It is sad to what happened to her.

[@vieuphoria1008]

@@ruqayyahqadri8180 Because it’s the Internet and people lie

[@melanierhodes8358]

Domestic violence survivor here.. I just want to say there is always a way out(even though it may not seem like it). It took me 6 years and a police officer telling me he didn’t want to see another young woman murdered to fully leave. I had two small children at the time too, but when I started running I couldn’t stop. Even though I had been battered, ripped away from my family, my friends I still held on to hope. In leaving my abuser, even though I had two children with him, I found love and happiness in someone else I would eventually marry in 2017. It’s been 4 and half years of nothing but happiness with my husband, and my two children and we even added a child together in 2018. Thank you Eleanor for this case and bringing awareness. 💜

[@lenard765]

Happy to hear you got away safely. So many others aren't so lucky.. They literally die trying 😥

[@renee1961]

💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@angelabaird7135]

💕❤️💕♥️💙🌸🌺🌹💐🌻

[@lilysanderson9150]

So happy you got out okay, wishing you and your family the best 💛💛💛💛

[@lavanyakarn2163]

lots of love and strength to u and ur loved ones 🌺

[@alexiareyes3914]

Say it with me girls: "HAVING A BABY WITH YOUR ABUSER DOESN'T STOP THE ABUSE, IT'S JUST EITHER WORSE OR DIRECTED AT THE BABY"

[@isabelleclarke2871]

Exactly! There are so many cases where the abuse escalates because the abuser is jealous of the baby.

[@ElleriaZer]

It's also a tool to tie you to your abuser so you can never escape.

[@ItsSissyLala]

@@ElleriaZer if someone is reading this in the situation to them I say YOU ARE NOT TRAPPED. Take your baby and run! go to the police. Make a report. This is one of the cases where the system failed, this does not always happen. I know people that have gone through the system and their abuser is in prison. Your baby is not at fault, you are not at fault. You are stronger than you think. Do not let your abuser make you look at your child as a death sentence. Your baby is not a tool, it is YOUR BABY. Get help mama. For you and your baby

[@ElleriaZer]

@@ItsSissyLala a lot of states in the US, including mine, give visitation rights to abusers and rapists if they're not convicted of a crime yet. Edit for weird autocorrect error

[@monetmonroe4644]

Right I was immediately scared for the baby when he raped her at 7 months because he don’t give a fuck periodt

[@drea1795]

So you’re telling me this man had to work 2 jobs, interact with a wife and kids, maintain a girlfriend and STILL had time to stalk the girlfriend?! This man is a lunatic.

[@getrudasanga9469]

Superman😀

[@ontxtteredwxngs]

sounds like cocaine

[@ytkijker1094]

Can we just appreciate that Eleanor hasn’t changed het content over time to be ‘monetisation-friendly and had stayed true to the stories every time despite the issues with ads🥺a true crime queen x

[@nottyrese]

Her and disturban are the only I can properly watch

[@496brit]

FACTS she’s consistent

[@sophiemullenn_x]

Reason why she’s my favourite! Plus she’s consistent

[@modernfamily4550]

@@sophiemullenn_x me too 💕

[@charlottejones995]

Because she gets paid from the sponsors

[@hotsexyangel]

“He would tell little white lies” YES OMFG. People often miss this part of narcissists, it’s one of the BIGGEST signs before the ab_se gets worse. I was friends with a narcissist and she would lie about everything. Every. Little. Thing. Just random things that didn’t matter. She would often contradict herself too! One minute she was rich and she use to live in a house with a movie theatre, the next minute she was dirt poor and her mom never helped her finically. These people just can’t help themselves, their mouths open before they even have time to think. Please, if you feel you’re in an unsafe relationship listen to your intuition/gut feeling and check for little red flags like this. Every red flag, no matter how tiny, matters. You are not crazy! You’re noticing signs for a reason!

[@spartacist101]

The judge who granted Jonathan Vass bail is called Simon Newell. He’s still a serving judge and seems to do odd things like Picketing a pub because they wouldn’t allow him inside with his dog.

[@jamesparsons9068]

He just retired last month and whilst we tend not second guess judicial decisions in the UK everyone dropped the ball in this case but as the maxim goes 'good cases make bad laws' - establishing precedent on exceptional cases isn't a good idea. Bail is an intrinsic right as you are innocent until proven guilty unless you pose a threat. And although judges don't/can't make comments the JCO said '"In this case, at no stage was the judge told of any concerns expressed by Ms Clough in relation to her safety, nor was there any evidence presented to the court that Mr Vass was likely to commit further offences against her.' So what do you do?

[@spartacist101]

@@jamesparsons9068 I tend to agree with you as he was looked into whether he committed any malpractice and wasn't charged. My comment wasn't necessarily to say he was wrong legally in granting bail but just to mention who he was and that he seems to be an odd individual (as shown in his spat with a landlord). Hindsight is a wonderful thing and if Judge Newell had known what Vass was capable of then he wouldn't have granted him bail I'm sure.

[@jamesparsons9068]

@@spartacist101Agreed. I was only curious as to why her solicitors didn't present evidence of his violent predisposition? Or why she didn't attend and speak herself. We shall never know. Judges can be rather odd individuals but that is better than corrupt. I think you can count on one had the cases where a UK judge was proved corrupt. If even that.

[@kimberini6465]

Someone should have been an advocate for the victim!!! The judge needed to be aware of his stalking, violence, and threats to her. He can't make an informed decision without all of the pertinent information. Her team and the prosecution failed her.

[@jamesparsons9068]

@@kimberini6465 Someone somewhere failed her. He had been denied bail twice and it was up to her lawyers or the state or her to object. This clearly had done this twice already so why they didn't do it on a third occasion is a mystery.

[@MultiJordan2005]

Sadly abuse quite often gets worse when the partner gets pregnant. If anyone is being abused, please know that a pregnancy won't stop the abuse. It may temporarily improve but usually after the baby is born it will start again and will get worse. An abusive partner also puts the child at increased risk of child abuse, including as a newborn infant. It's fairly common that the baby crying will lead to the partner hurting the baby or shaking the baby (shaken baby syndrome) which can kill the infant in a matter of seconds. If this is happening to you and you're worried about your partner finding out, you can let your doctor know during any of your prenatal visits or well baby visits and they can get you the information to a women's shelter or other. Remember you're not in this alone and there is a ton of help available if you need. Also know that this isn't a reflection on your ability to spot a bad person. Abusers are excellent at charming people and very slowly ramping up the abuse as well as making you feel like your abuse is your fault. It's not. If you need help, do seek it out

[@Convie]

Yes! When I got pregnant and had my daughter the abuse got worse because my attention was on my daughter and not on him which made him angry & jealous

[@izstrella]

Thank you for spreading this important information!

[@MultiJordan2005]

@@Convie I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Are you guys safe now? I know a lot of people expect that having a baby in that situation will be fine and change the partner back, but they weren't ever that person they appeared to be in the beginning of the relationship.

[@Convie]

@@MultiJordan2005 yes I'm safe now, it was 10 years ago, he started attacking me while I was holding my daughter which slipped a.switch in my head & I managed to escape, once I did he got arrested for domestic abuse, it was a stressful time because I found out I was pregnant a week later from him raping me, it's scary how similar he is to Jonathan, thankfully he didn't go against police orders though. I now have 2 wonderful daughter's, a fiance who is so kind, he understands my Truama & helps communicate with me in ways that don't trigger it, he's legally adopting my daughter's & we now have a son together :)

[@izstrella]

@@MultiJordan2005 • Every three seconds...holy f*ck. It’s terrifying that a significant amount of change is needed to even push it back to just one minute. But we have to try, at least. 💛

[@midnightsnow5655]

If the alarm bells start ringing for everyone around you about someone you’re dating, please listen to them. What happened to Jane was heartbreaking. Stay safe everyone.

[@axelinerys3841]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper as I was browsing these comments I noticed that you say this a lot. I am genuinely curious about why you keep posting this. It doesn’t matter if Kendall and Eleanor can be seen as similar due to their content, multiple people can keep the same space. Even then, the concept of sitting and talking about something isn’t an original idea. People do it for things like drama, commentary, and even in the form of video essays. It existed even longer than that though, way back many years ago as butter was being churned they would listen to people talk. It is only natural people would begin talking about true crime as well. Because of this you cannot pin someone as the creator of this form of content. Both of those points aren’t too important though, what is really important is raising awareness and keeping the victims name alive. Both Kendall and Eleanor are doing this with there work. So who cares if they are similar? They are spreading awareness of serious subjects and helping out families. Let’s not compare them but rather applaud them for what they are doing.

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

@@axelinerys3841 I like two women competing like this! Kendall is winning

[@kimym9270]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper wtf? it's not a competition stop putting women against eachother

[@synonymouswith4225]

@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper wtf is wrong with you? do you realize that two people can do the same thing without having a competition???

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

@@synonymouswith4225 I’m just saying: Kendall was the original true crime girl, she’s more attractive, her ideas are better

[@emmawalker3440]

As a rape survivor who went to the police, I was never told about my option to use Jane’s Law. It’s an amazing law but I never knew about it 😔

[@heididietrich9800]

Emma, I am so sorry. I'm so glad you survived.

[@sriyamadhuri9145]

More power to you Emma

[@femalevoice_]

same but I am not sure we have it here. I need dozens of r-es to finally have the courage and go there. It was not worth it, I was asked what did I wear and so on..

[@kendaayouni1410]

The thought that Jane would still be with us today If jonathon was just denied bail…

[@francesgray3096]

So true although either way he probably would of got her - but you never know time might of changed his mind

[@MB-nb7yq]

It’s always gotta when someone’s dead for shit to be taken seriously. Every crime case i watch or read makes me back the statement like fuck the police or fuck the system. People are angry.

[@diaryofarealmom3264]

Everyone gets bail…. Unless it’s like capital murder/torture. Or they escaped before. And even then they usually still get bail, but it’s like a million dollars. That doesn’t make sense….

[@jessicawatson7360]

@@diaryofarealmom3264 that’s only in US.

[@elletristan]

“I’m not gonna kill or batter you” it made my stomach turn.

[@angel-xi6ie]

as if he hadn’t already been bettering her smfh

[@elletristan]

@@angel-xi6ie exactly my point. I have to wonder if that text was what made her realize he was going to kill her.

[@angel-xi6ie]

@@elletristan as fucked up as he is, maybe :(

[@tarynsmell4811]

as if not doing that isnt the bare fucking minimum

[@melbel9475]

When men say this, or "i'm not gonna rape you " trust that they have thought about it. Big red flag.

[@cassieshea7091]

My heart goes out to Jane's family. Jane was a warrior. She was so brave and strong. I have been abused and stalked and her journal entries mirrored my own. Her ability to try to pick up with her life after all she had been through really pulls at my heart strings. I hope this disgusting man never gets released and I wish nothing but the best for her family.

[@Cosygamer941]

Wishing you nothing but happiness girl. Sounds like you’re a warrior too ❤️👏🏻

[@chasityrhea]

I hope your doing better now

[@cassieshea7091]

@@chasityrhea thank you so much! I am doing very well now. You all are very sweet and sympathetic. It's appreciated.

[@regnisj5993]

I dedicate Rachel Platten Stand By You and Fight Song for You

[@emmapiper756]

I hope you’re now safe, I wish you nothing but love, health and safety🤍

[@envyly]

this murder could have been PREVENTED TWICE. jane’s life could have been saved TWICE. this is not only the fault of jonathan but also the judge and that policeman. i hope that judge and police officer got fired or some form of punishment. i hope jane’s family is well and that jane rests easy

[@granblubbie]

I hope that judge who let him out lives with the thought that he helped someone murder an innocent human being everyday. This whole case is just so heartbreaking, the whole justice system failed her. I can’t believe they let a physical abuser out on bail and didn’t even have him moderated at all times. Rest In Peace Jane…

[@dreyddog19]

Whenever I hear of cases like this, these type of people out on bond need to have a tether at the very least.

[@georgie6722]

from what i've seen in the comments it doesn't look like there was someone advocating for her concerns in the bail hearing so i don't believe the judge knew the full circumstances. either way the system really tragically failed a really lovely human :(

[@lottiee964]

@@georgie6722 yeah but regardless of the circumstances he will have known that he raped and abused her. That should be enough to deny bail.

[@jayjones2347]

Shame on that disgusting judge who allowed this to happen. Jane's blood is not only on John's hands but any legal parties hands as well, for letting him out and allowing this to happen. I pray for Jane's family, especially her poor daughter who will have to grow up without a mother. R.I.P Jane ❤ may your beautiful soul rest in peace.

[@sugarbabe5728]

Unfortunately, judges letting abusers out is the norm. Here, they only usually hold them for 24hrs, and my state has no self defense law. So, a victim will literally be arrested alongside their abuser if they defend themselves. Me and my kids had to go to underground shelters because my ex has 4 black belts and swat would literally have to come if I called the cops on him. There's no defending yourself against someone who is trained and proficient in 4 forms of martial arts and weapons. I switched vehicles so many times, switched jobs, didn't have any contact with any of my family or friends, was transferred in the middle of the night, not even knowing where we were being taken so many times. Yet, these judges continued to release him even when police officers repeatedly testified that if he wasn't held and incarcerated then he WOULD kill me. It wasn't a matter of IF, just when. Every damn time, he was released after 24hrs. He was in the process of going through getting his citizenship, and do you know wtf finally got him incarcerated and deported? He stole freaking furniture. The state valued damn couches and kitchen tables more than my and my children's lives. Effing furniture.. although I was and am happy that he was removed and sent extremely far away, it pissed me off that furniture was valued more than anything he had done to me. I was physically unable to work for a month because of my injuries. The cops had confiscated 4 illegally obtained guns from him. But, him stealing a couch is what made judges go, whoa, we have to remove him from the country, because we can't have a couch thief around here..

[@lavanyakarn2163]

​@@sugarbabe5728 god i sometimes just hate how cruel the justice system can be and it's even more ridiculous that it's called "justice" system eventho more often than not, they somehow always manage to make THE WORST decision. And the fact that the judges who were given ur cases acted so foolishly because I'm really sorry to say this bt ur case was so critical and they jst carelessly let ur ex out!!! Lots of love and hope to u and ur closed ones🌺 Please stay safe.

[@mizzouranger134]

The judge can only operate within the law. Why childish immature people think differently and like judges can just do whatever they want and that any bad thing that happens before something horrible is on the systems involved is so stupid and deluded. He could have gotten the maximum time and still easily gotten out and still killed her. It’s way more dangerous for a woman in a domestic violence setting after she leaves vs during the relationship. The person responsible is the murderer. Also as much as people hate to acknowledge this the victim plays a part. People accept abuse and being mistreated for ages and think oh they will change and ignore everyone warning them to watch out and leave. She didn’t deserve it obviously but she could have played an active role in her safety instead of being submissive to his whims and abuse and lying to herself about who he was and would continue to be.

[@lavanyakarn2163]

Ah the good old victim blaming. Real nice. As u said, the abuser could've still attacked the victim even if he was imprisoned bt the chances of this are lower than the abuser attacking the victim if they are out isn't it? And judges can do a whole lot more than they think they can and some judges are indeed very helpful in such cases BUT most of the people jst consider it a job when it's a matter of life and death for the victim!

[@oliviagrace6914]

@@lavanyakarn2163 don’t take God’s Name in vain and capitalize the G if you want to please but honestly I totally agree

[@TheSapphiresiren]

The fact that he texted her saying ''I'm not gonna kill you'' and then ended up doing just that is so sickening

[@iloveeilish482]

This would have NEVER happened if that judge didn’t let Jonathon go, it’s actually ridiculous.

[@anhelikacovington661]

I agree. The judge needs to be held accountable

[@jadecoolness101]

Yeah but if the judge didn't let him go then a man would've been held accountable for his vioIence against women... We can't do that!

[@blobster91]

i'm just 10 minutes in but i had to say this to all the nurses reading this and everywhere, you are the backbone of the healthcare industry. we doctors treat the patients, yes, but you do the heavy lifting and are always running even if it is 3am to help a patient in distress. i was critically ill once while i was doing my residency and this one nurse came in everyday with the biggest smile on her face, she cared for me, braided my hair and lifted my spirits when i wanted to give up. I have immense respect for the profession and anyone who chooses to be one says a lot about their kind hearts.

[@crystalpeterson8730]

Yes nurses are amazing when I was in having my children I had the best set of nurses that were just amazing and did so much for me 🥰 one even stayed over her shift just to see to me that I had my baby cause she was so invested it was amazing treatment

[@carolinegladwell7855]

From a mental health nurse ❤️ thank you xxxxxx

[@opheliasgrace]

from the daughter of a nurse, thank you!

[@yaso5143]

As a 3rd year student nurse and care support worker, I really appreciate this comment

[@danielleoldfield5952]

100% agree. I've been in and out of hospital since the age of 3 so, 37 years. And though I wouldn't be here by now with my four children and husband if it wasn't for doctors, who helped making sure I was treated the right way. It is the nurses that were the ones who were there day and night, doing all they could to make my life that little bit better, they were my shoulder to cry on when I was at my lowest, and an ear to rant at when it all just got to much at times. Now my oldest son who is eighteen, has just joined the care assistant team, and is loving his work. I am so proud of him, and all the nurses that put in so much work. And do it with a smile on there face, despite the problems they have going on in there own lives. Hearts of gold.

[@roseburke9693]

It’s so gross that jane’s family, friends, coworkers and everyone in her life tried so hard to keep her safe, but the legal system failed her. At least she was finally able to be happy and free again before she passed.

[@mizzouranger134]

What exactly do you expect them to do for every single woman who chooses an abusive partner? They can’t fix everything and keep everything bad from happening in life to people. It’s a childish abs delusional way of thinking and removes all personal responsibility from the perpetrator and the as much as everyone hates to talk about it the victim… often victims play a part in these situations. She didnt deserve to die but se definitely has some ownership in the situation and the partner she chose repeatedly after huge red flags over and over.

[@Cricket9579]

@@mizzouranger134 um...its people like you that are just so completely uneducated about abuse in general. Your comment disgusts me, are you serious?? Part of him murdering her was HER fault??? Read up on the facts about WHY they don't leave the first time, and keep going back. Read up about facts and dynamics involved in mental, emotional and physical abuse. NONE of this was EVER Jane's fault, and BTW she DID leave him In the end, and THAT is why he murdered her. You are ignorant and part of the problem.. Do some research and when you are thoroughly educated, come back with a comment that actually makes some sense. I will pray for you. Also, the system did COMPLETLEY fail her. PERIOD.

[@maapauu4282]

@@mizzouranger134 How dare you victim blame an innocent person? She had no knowledge of what he might do to her, and when she found out it was too late. Unless you have been emotionally manipulated to this extent you have no right to judge her. Stop blaming the obvious victim, or else you will end up just as damaging to victims in abusive scenarios than enablers.

[@elluvzu]

@@mizzouranger134 they dont CHOOSE an abusive partner. they choose someone they think loves them . people dont choose someone because theyre abusive

[@bazylanazir]

@@mizzouranger134 they can aleast not release the accused on bail who has been found totally guilty at committing the crime. Period.

[@welq3616]

"we are staying together regardless of our problems" made my skin crawl

[@ghie1942]

I hope the judge who granted bail is haunted for the rest of their miserable, pathetic life.

[@meiiilin]

Sorry but facts

[@melanie1784]

Really pisses me off that victims don't have more protection. Infact it feels like the the law is on the attackers side in this country. I was attacked by a random man on a night out a few years ago and it made me realise how bad it is. It made me so ill with anxiety I ended up dropping the case. I am terrified of something worse happening to me because I'd just feel completely helpless.

[@JNB520]

Its like that in my country too sis and sorry for what happened to you

[@PhancyPants12]

That’s exactly why people don’t report abuse to police. And it’s not even the officers fault. My dad and brother are both police and they HATE when abusers are bailed out from the courts because they know that they will most likely be responding back to that same situation over and over.

[@O___________0]

There aren’t even gender violence laws in all countries when they’re clearly misogynistic attacks.

[@alexisgrey3633]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, yeah the justice system is the worst when it comes to rape and domestic abuse, no wonder so many victims dont report or drop the charges xxxx

[@kiwi_doodlez2514]

I'm sorry that happened to you I hope you're doing better now. Things like ab■se and r■pe really makes me uncomfortable and pisses me off because the victims having to suffer the trauma and tragedy. I was sexual harassed by my girlfriend. (Sorry for the long rant)

[@GenXfrom75]

For sure, he would have killed Jane's parents along with his own child. He was ruthless. May he rot in hell.

[@Michelle-qm2on]

Amen to that

[@brianajones8662]

But my question is why did he do Jane like this but not his wife 🤔 based on what I'm hearing and what I've read she didn't fear him and she still allowed him to see his kids

[@GenXfrom75]

@@brianajones8662 who knows. Psycho brains still aren't fully understood. He was fixated on Jane. That's what his mind was attached to. Hurting her.

[@brianajones8662]

@@GenXfrom75 Well It is also normal for them to marry people that aren't people they would target but it's like this can't possibly be his first time he was far too comfortable

[@GenXfrom75]

@@brianajones8662 there could be others who got away and stayed quiet.

[@katrinaporter5708]

This is beyond frustrating. The fact that this was so easily preventable and that there are so many more preventable cases like this is terrifying and ridiculous. My heart goes out to her family. I wish I got to learn more about topics like this instead of the my plate and food pyramid during wellness class, it could’ve saved a lot of people.

[@karleegordon8907]

That’s the thing ppl don’t understand about abusive relationships: the victim really is in love and hopeful that the abuser will go back to being how they were in the beginning. Everyone asks why the victim doesn’t leave but that’s why it took me so long to leave my abuser. I was waiting for the person I fell in love with to return and I thought it was my fault he was awful to me. It’s a very confusing, damaging process to escape if you’re lucky enough to get out. 💔

[@rosemarie5719]

I'm so sorry you went through that, but I'm glad you were able to escape

[@jennifercoolidgeislife6760]

My ex was disliked by my friends and family.. he tried to kill me once. Even apologized for it. I couldn’t see the red flags even when they were right in my face. This is why I don’t judge people for being loyal to toxic people. They really are manipulated and gaslit into thinking it’s their own fault.

[@jessjobling9393]

I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope you’re in a good place now 💕

[@captiankirk]

im sorry such a horirble thing happened to you, hope youre in a better place neow! 💕

[@izstrella]

@Katie A • THIS; YES!

[@izstrella]

How are you today? If answering would cause discomfort, I completely understand. I wish you well. 💐

[@karencooper3428]

Thank you

[@heytherejay04]

Jane’s parents were so sweet and nice, they obviously cared for their daughter and it’s so horrible to imagine that they had their daughter taken away by this PoS. The fact that this PoS was let out on bail when the judge knew he was dangerous pissed me off so much… RIP Jane

[@bintajallow6025]

What dose PoS mean?

[@Anita-k]

@@bintajallow6025 Pos means "piece of sh!t" - sorry for writing it a bit differently, but I don't want KZbin to shadow-ban my reply.

[@heytherejay04]

@@Anita-k thank you, that’s also why I wrote it out as “PoS” since YT is very quick to pick up on those words

[@lacasadelaseo2472]

I recommend this channel Minyas Vlogs

[@Anita-k]

@@heytherejay04 They really are and I became first insecure & then creative, bc I never know exactly, which words (and what amount of them) they might want to shadow-ban, so I often use numbers and punctuation marks to hide certain words.

[@andreavelez4968]

The photos of her with the baby... She's smiling through the pain, still hopeful that her dreams of having a happy family with a loving man will come true. I feel like crying... This case hurts.

[@rio-um7im]

her baby was her light and her hope she loved her little girl and would of been a great mother she deserved to have been with her baby way longer than she was, i hope she’s at peace now

[@asmrtpop2676]

@@rio-um7im baby should never be that… a baby is a person. wtf. they are not for the parent to have hope. take care of us ffs

[@sydneealyse1932]

As a survivor of sexual abuse from a romantic partner I totally understood her reasoning for not telling her parents he raped her. I’ve never told my parents, about the sexual abuse or any of the other abuse, because I’ve always been scared they’d think less of me or felt like they’d blame themselves. I was lucky enough to escape but even six years later I’m still healing, because it’s just such a hard thing to talk about and come to terms with. I still won’t say most of it out loud to anyone because it makes me sick to even remember. It’s hard and I feel like I’ll never completely heal but I’m so glad I was able to get away. I think if I hadn’t I probably would have ended up like Jane, which scares the hell out of me. I just wish I’d had the courage to go to the police like Jane did. She’s so strong for doing all that she did and trying to make a new life for herself.

[@jadecoolness101]

There's also the fact that many people will gaslight you and tell you it wasn't r4pe because you're dating... So he just, like, ~owns your body~ or some crap.

[@camilleroblin5005]

You're brave. Give yourself the time you need and eventually, one day, you will be able to talk about it. Everyone is different and deal with the trauma differently.

[@cjillwrite8249]

I hope the parents got custody of their granddaughter, at least they have a small joy within this tragedy.

[@jamesparsons9068]

I was thinking the same thing but then I thought do you really want to raise a child that is 'half' the man who murdered your child. Imagine if the child turned out to look like him? On the other hand instinct would take over and you would want to nurture the child to be in the image of their daughter. It's like a philosophy exam question. It does raise another interesting question, what were his parents like? Do animals like this fall far from the oak tree or was he the exception. I suppose it's the eternal nature/nurture question.

[@maria7694]

@@jamesparsons9068 she'd been living with them since Jane had left Jonathan so to them I think she was probably theirs more than anything to do with him. Not to mention that's what their daughter was trying to protect all along so I think the desire to do that would follow through to them. It depends on how its looked at though

[@jamesparsons9068]

@@maria7694 Agreed, better they raise her than his parents.

[@a-birb]

@@jamesparsons9068 you should try and read about the psychology of criminals and manipulators. Most of them go through multiple trauma since their childhood, which makes them like this. The brain later modifies and loses most of the empathical, emotional feelings turning them into ... this. Its like people with deep sadness and parental abuse and neglect, most of them turn out to become angry and irritable. He probably got it from his parent(s) who probably got it from their parent(s). Anger is a transfered misery. The intensity of it of course depends.

[@jamesparsons9068]

@@a-birb I didn't want to suggest the parents were somehow responsible as I don't know them or anything about them. They may as you say but they also may be good people with a bad child. I know one family who raised a sociopath they were decent good people with two other kids who were fantastic kids. Sometimes it's nature, sometimes nurture and sometimes a combination of both.

[@Elupnorth]

The fact that judge who decided to let such a monster out on bail - Simon Newell - was allowed to keep his position and his job until he decided to retire in July this year is disgusting. Where’s the justice for Jane??

[@70spoem]

both the judge who released him on bail and whoever told him that jane was gonna testify deserve jail time

[@Lola84794]

Exactly!!! It infuriates me that someone told him that knowing the dangers.

[@PhancyPants12]

Unfortunately defence attorneys get a complete witness list as part of discovery so they can plan their defence. The attorney must have told him she was on the witness list

[@maryellis1238]

@@PhancyPants12 yep

[@caymanspirit2603]

I’m 16 now but I was 15 at the time when I was in a similar situation he manipulated, lied, sa, cheated, etc. i even fell pregnant and later had gotten a miscarriage. In May I made the decision to get a restraining order on him but the reason for it was what got him locked up. I was safe for about 2 months but for about a month I had to stay inside my house. In August he had gotten out for a day and that’s when he had broke the rules and got ahold of me, I immediately started freaking out and it got so bad that that day he came to my house. He’s now locked up idk for how long or what but i know that I am safe for right now.

[@josie-tn2eu]

please be extra aware of your surroundings when he’s out. so sorry you had to live in constant fear with a whole life ahead of you. i’m also 15 and it’s crazy to me how this could happen to anyone. hope you’re doing well❤

[@CC-tu9xs]

oh god, that's absolutely horrid. I hope you're doing well and I'm sorry you have to live in constant fear because of this man. I'm 15 at the moment and experienced some stalking but nothing this bad, we can only be careful and take extra steps to be safe. Hope you're alright 💙💙💙

[@ravenann8193]

we are so young love, we never should've gone through anything similar. im glad you got away

[@klaudia4704]

poor angel please stay safe 😔❤️

[@adrianachong9029]

To every adult out there if your partner or any one in your life thinks it’s ok to put their hands on you in any form, shut it down right away. It’s going to escalate, it won’t stop, it’s not just once, you do not deserve it. You cannot heal them, or fix them, it is NOT just a phase. One does not wake up one day and decide to start handling their problems with physical violence. It is who they are and the lay in wait for them to be rooted in your life and see how much you will take before they strike.

[@nirvanasalazar2480]

I disagree, I used to be the one who would physically abuse boyfriends. I am not proud of it and hated who I was. To me physical abuse was normal in relationships because of how I seen my parents growing up. With my ex boyfriend we were both pretty physically abusive with each other and our relationship ended. With my current boyfriend I put my hands on him more than once and I just seen how it hurt him and we love each other so much and I didn’t want to be that person towards him anymore so I stopped. I love him so much and I did not want to be that way with him, he is a good man and such a sweet man and I just couldn’t allow myself to hurt him like that ever again. We’ve been together for only a year but I know from personal experience it will stop, it just takes you being patient with yourself , talking to yourself and telling yourself that doing those things isn’t okay. When I’m upset I just remove myself from the situation at the moment to allow myself to cool down and to think about things because I don’t want to blow up and be that ugly person anymore. Stepping away for a moment really does help. So no, no one can heal me or fix me only I can and I did, that wasn’t who I was that’s just how I was raised but you can break those generational curses. (:

[@shu7260]

@@nirvanasalazar2480 i'm glad that you got out of it. but i don't think it's okay to say "i know from personal experience it will stop". because, not everyone does. you may have and few other people may have been able to stop yourself and improve, which i'm proud of you for, but it doesn't work that way with everyone. plus, even if they do improve, some people will have lots of trauma and trust issues from the past and it's okay to leave if they want to.

[@ANOCAINE]

@@nirvanasalazar2480 it's great that you stopped, especially for your boyfriend but for you as well, I wish more people could change like you did and I'm making this comment with no intention of coming for you or devaluing that growth in any way. So, as a survivor myself, I ask you to consider how we feel when wording a comment like that. It's a REALLY awful thing to suggest that things could get better, because the reality is, in 99.99% of times, they most likely won't. When we're in this situation, we take any tiny glimmer of hope that the abuser will go back into being the person you fell for, including reading comments like yours, unfortunatelly. I'm not one to comment on yt a lot but it was quite painful to read. I hope you understand, take care.

[@rd9526]

Omg that poor guy...he doesn't deserve this. U should heal yeh sure but he shouldn't be around u at this moment when ur working on urself. Praying for him 🙏

[@sweettea1193]

@@nirvanasalazar2480 your current bf should've dumped you the second you put your hand on him. The fact you say you've changed doesn't matter, because putting your hand on your partner is inexcusable and nobody should tolerate that and give second chances. It's traumatising and I hope your vf can one day heal because that kind of abuse stays with you forever. I hope he leaves you for his own sake because I wouldn't stay with a partner who put their hand on me

[@susie9744]

The judge who approved of that bail makes my blood boil. Jane was finally living her life and raising her daughter and her life was taken away by a psycho. This absolutely breaks my heart bc she stood her ground for her daughter and herself. Rest in peace beautiful soul 🕊

[@Frankoceanluvr444]

It makes me so sad that the judge approved The bail even more so because she could’ve been taking care of her child right now her baby doesn’t have a mom now which is so heartbreaking

[@steakdriven]

That judge really was a piece of shit he should be charged with a crime

[@diaryofarealmom3264]

Everyone gets bail… if you pay it you get out….it’s horrible but it’s not the judge.

[@kathrynnassar4579]

Same thing happened to Brandon Teena(Teena Brandon if using dead name) in the US. It wound up causing him and two other people to be killed by his rapist. (He was FMM)

[@rabiespuddings1735]

There's about a 99% chance that that judge was an abuser himself, abusers protect and vouch for other abusers after all. They have their own "bro code". In The Gabby Petito case the shitty cop did everything in his power to paint Gabby as the abuser, he literally helped Brian gaslight Gabby into thinking that she was the problem. And even at one point when on a tirade about his ex girlfriend. Really gross sexist and ableist undertones to that body cam footage. Yikes, we need a drain the swamp that is the justice system.

[@stephanieden4]

I had an ex-boyfriend who literally lied constantly about everything. He even lied about trivial things like what he had for lunch. Obviously this was a huge red flag.

[@Liggik]

I had a boyfriend like this too, when I was a teenager.. he had a huge impact on my mental health back then.. he emotionally abused me.. It was a long distance relationship (different countries) and I couldn't check on him in any way so he lied about everything, even about his dog dying or him being beaten by his dad.. he also knew I loved photography and told me he knew someone in a very high position at Nikon and promised me he would bring me a dslr camera. When we met, he didn't bring me anything and told me that airport security ceased the camera...I stupidly believed him.. and I bought him so many gifts with my small savings.. The sad thing is - other people knew about his mental problems and they didn't even bother to tell me about it, even if they knew about our relationship.. When I finally discovered that the whole 6 months we talked, he lied about pretty much everything, I was in shock for a long time. I was so emotionally involved in all of this and I was sooo naive back then, thinking that no one would be capable about doing such things for no reason...

[@ellaisintrouble5185]

@@Liggik that's terrible omfg, I really hope you're doing better now luv

[@VioletJoy]

Good thing he's an ex now.

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

British Kendall Rae

[@Liggik]

@@ellaisintrouble5185 Yeah, I am, thank you! 8 years passed since then, and because of this trauma I had really big trust issues with my current bf. But he had a lot of patience with me and now we are a happy couple for 5 years :)

[@malissahenry5105]

I felt like crying my eyes out when Eleanor explained how he went back after witnessing her trying to make it back to her car after the first attack. Just imagining how the idea of leaving her baby behind kept her fighting for her life against the impossible, only for the man she had once loved with all her heart to come back over to her only to kill her in cold blood as he had meant to do. Even when he had the opportunity to walk away. I just hope that she is at peace now, it litrally breaks my heart. She deserved to find love and happiness. I hope that she finds it in the next life, but at least her parents provided her with love and happiness within her childhood and throughout her suffering. This case is devastating.

[@babybluecheeks]

Hearing how he murdered Jane is just devastating and heartbreaking 😢. Her poor parents and daughter, poor Jane.

[@babybluecheeks]

@Kerstin Mueller it's just so horrific smh.

[@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper]

British Kendall Rae

[@its.babsie713]

“if they emotionally abuse you they will physical abuse you, if they physically abuse you they will eventually kill you .” abuse escalates, it never just a straight line even when you think things are okay . they aren’t, please note red flags and seek any form of help and escape that you can because it starts with being an emotional punching bag to punching holes in the walls to you being a physical punching bag . stay safe loves 💞 .

[@karenaldridge516]

What you said is true. I once went through a relationship that was verbally abusive, and when it started to get physical I got out of it.

[@-myharlequinnsapphicarch-]

"-its not a matter of if but when" that quote is SO important to me i love it so much

[@karencooper3428]

The purpose of emotional abuse is to brainwash the victim. Sometimes it's not obvious from the inside. When they loose control, that's when they get really dangerous, that is often the only thing you're aware of. Tow the line and all you get is the same as you survived, arguing makes it worse, a person can be, especially if isolated, can be made to think it is them that is the freak, and so the abuse deepens. If everyone understood the cycle that the victim is it, that's closer to your answer

[@DazeYates]

Ive experienced this twice :( I'm lucky to be alive

[@Lynx112]

That's so true, promises and saying they'll get help mean nothing. It only gets worse, I'm living proof that it does and jail was the only thing that put an end to it. But that's another story!

[@Memoria13]

Imagine being the judge who granted the bastard with his bail, I will never understand leniency toward these abusers??????? RIP Jane you beautiful soul.

[@as19J01]

the judge should be in jail with him because they indirectly caused a murder by letting a potential murderer on the loose. Domestic abusers have a huge tendency of killing their partner. It's like when people say that a person who harms an animal has potential to harm another human. Yeah, he's not a murderer YET but odds are that he will be and you can't give him that option - especially if there are signs of mental instability (not that I think he had mental issues, I'm just speaking in general)

[@bitterestbird]

I hope he at least feels guilty and understands his role in this. I would feel absolutely devastated if I had any hand in someone's death.

[@MintyFarts]

a stalker and domestic abuser registry would be life changing for so many ppl. I wish we had that where I live. If you can't prove sexual violence (which often isnt reported right away in most situations especially domestic ones) and you can prove all the other horrible things happening they could just do this again to other ppl without much warning.. these kind of abusers cycle through ppl and need to control victims... being on a list even if they didn't serve time or only served a bit or had probation would be validating in it's own way so you can warn others. they cant brush it off and say you are lying, it was for a bar fight or she made stuff up. my abuser went on to hurt other girls and even lied to one while stalking me and she contacted me after seeing my photos on his computer. another girl tried taking him to court whil i was dating him and he got extra controlling and manipulated her into dropping charges and i feel like if i had fought back and been less scared of him maybe i could have helped her case. now i just have therapy notes and ptsd for my troubles and he goes on hurting more ppl. I'm likely posted online everywhere too which can be evidence but im too scared to try and look and the longer the wait the harder it will be... most abusers NEVER face any consequences and when they do its never their fault and always their victims being so mean to them for nooooooo reason. they will never just up and decide to change or not abuse the next one. they need to be forced to be better through therapy and restrictions or be isolated from society.

[@belpop]

That is such an excellent idea

[@Anna.T.]

This case infuriates me. Not only did he abuse her, while she was pregnant, he also had the audacity to blame her for effing up his life and then killing her leaving a daughter without a mother!

[@unprocessed_life]

clinical narcissist. the term narcissist gets tossed around and some of the time other terms are more appropriate but he clearly is one histrionic personality disorder is a term people forget

[@olivianash7312]

Not just that but made his daughter a orphan. Or was gonna potentially kill her

[@charliemaryann1654]

This story makes me so sad for both Jane and the other woman. To find out that your husband has not only been cheating on you but is sitting in cell because of Violence and rape on his other girlfriend and they have a child together?! I can’t imagine how she felt. And of course, I feel so sorry for Jane, she did not deserve this, and her daughter didn’t deserve to lose her mummy 🥺

[@jamiegenova4305]

nuqqqq

[@lacasadelaseo2472]

I recommend this channel Minyas Vlogs

[@seleuf]

21:00 The dude has two jobs, a family life, and this girlfriend. Eleanor pointed out "How does he have the energy for all of that?" I'm also curious how he had the _time_ for all of that plus stalking his girlfriend?!

[@alyonavam9040]

Steroids

[@vbsmyth5527]

I'm wondering how he had all this and the audacity of 10,000 men all while looking like the definition of douche bag

[@astrocytes]

Usually, drugs.

[@candyloverthegreat871]

"when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." Bojack Horseman

[@heathergoncalves7852]

im so used to Eleanor wearing black that i was genuinely shocked when i saw her wearing a lighter color & she looked like a cute little garden fairy!! my heart can’t take it 🧎🏻‍♀️

[@sunkissedangelina]

RIGHT?! The shirt color with her hair color….STUNNING!!!!

[@PoojaS17]

🧚

[@parawhoo]

RIGHTTT, she looks so good in any color

[@blueberrycheesecake9512]

And the nails compliment the outfit so well. I especially love the colour of the shirt because it goes with her eyes.

[@Kimberly-gb7oc]

RIGHTT she looks so good with lighter colors

[@CharlotteHall]

I work at the hospital where she worked and her death still affects those who worked with her daily. she is definitely missed and did not deserve what she went through

[@m.r.9215]

Absolutely love the way she covers her stories. She’s respectful and easy to follow. It doesn’t hurt that her voice and accent are absolutely beautiful.

[@Stacy_SJA]

Random but I love your icon pic! 🐸❤️

[@meganwoehl5277]

Women in Hollywood have an Excel file that they share that contains the names of known abusers. That way if a woman is worried about working with a certain director or costar or producer or what have you, they can look at the list and look for that person's name and see if anyone has any negative experience with him. I absolutely love this idea because it doesn't rely on court convictions, but rather on believing women. It gives so much power back to these women being able to make informed decisions about their lives and careers. I hope this becomes more common. Every city, every state, should have these lists and women can share it with other women.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I believe there was a website like this in the early 2000s, but it got shut down. Someone should start it back up again. Password protected, with names and photos, and translated into different languages so women in different countries can access it.

[@revortexed448]

I'm not one to say "Ok but men too!!" but this does just kinda ignore men and other genders. I think making the project more unisex could be beneficial to almost EVERYONE in the world ngl Maybe I'm biased, considering I'm a guy w a slight history of dealing with a woman who did something like it, but.

[@meganwoehl5277]

@@revortexed448 men would need their own spreadsheet. The reason this was shared among only women wasn't to exclude male victims, but to keep it out of the hands of the men who are doing this so they can't manipulate it or find out who is talking about the abuse. This was a way for the women of Hollywood to warn other women without jeopardizing their careers, facing backlash from the abuser, and to save people from situations repeating themselves. Fact is, if the abuser got hold of this list, saw that someone wrote about a specific incident, they could go after that person even more. When one sex is routinely being abused by another sex, it becomes pertinent to keep that information close and not share it with everyone. If men created a spreadsheet about their female abusers, it most definitely should be kept between men and not shared among everyone. Imagine if Johnny Depp had written about Amber Heard in one of these spreadsheets....would you want Amber to have access to it? So she could manipulate the data, post lies, blackmail him, out him and ruin his career, threatening him, or abuse him further? I guess what I'm trying to say is that this is another form of just because it's not all men doesn't mean we can trust all men. Not all men are rapists, but I wouldn't blame a woman for crossing the street at night or taking precautions when alone or vulnerable. It's a safety thing. When your abusers belong to a specific group, you aren't going to pick and choose who from that group should have access and who shouldn't, you'll just deny the whole group.

[@revortexed448]

@@meganwoehl5277 I never thought of it like that. Thank you for the explanation. That makes more sense that I originally thought. I wasn't really thinking when I replied because the video brought up some old memories for me. Again, thanks for your time

[@alphabettown04]

@@revortexed448 Stop. There’s nothing wrong with what the OP said at all.

[@xJintyOx]

Case suggestion: Pamela Hastie. Unsolved murder of a girl from my town from the 80s. There was a man wrongly imprisoned for a long time but he was released so it's back to being unsolved.

[@FunGameGirl97]

The most frustrating thing is she did everything right, yet the system let her down. So many victims don't have the bravery Jane had because they let things like this happen... Truly heart breaking 💔

[@Lynx112]

Yes they tell you to do this and that but when it comes to protecting you when they are released it all changes. Information you were told at the start becomes a distant memory, they got an arrest then you get forgotten. I appreciate they are busy but these men are also fantastic at finding you and hiding in the shadows, but things like having to go to the station and explain that they do not know a particular person and how dangerous they are shouldn't have to be done. X

[@Spillrays]

The system is so broken and it’s cases like this that prove it. Things need to change or cases like this will never stop happening. Hopefully things will.

[@Lorielleexe]

This… she did everything right, why did they have to let him out on bail!! I hope the people who are responsible feel so guilty.

[@CB-123]

I think she should have moved away to a shelter or out of the area. Bail conditions don’t work for abusers. Especially when their pissed that you snitched. She should have got the hell away.

[@FunGameGirl97]

@@CB-123 I agree in some ways. But she shouldn't have to change her entire life for her abuser. The police should have done their jobs and not let him out in the first place, or at least protect her from him

[@morgantaylor6923]

Poor Penny and John. Imagine watching your child go through this and not being able to do anything about it. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. I’m so glad they made Janes law. I hope it helps victims in the future.

[@-tododeku-7511]

Not to be rude but from the looks of the other comments they should have stepped in and not let her have her own freedom to do what she wants not that that’s not a good thing to let her have it just wasn’t right in this situation

[@morgantaylor6923]

@@-tododeku-7511 But how would they have done that?? She’s a grown woman.

[@-tododeku-7511]

@@morgantaylor6923 idk like I said I was looking at the other comments

[@Ajay44470]

@@-tododeku-7511 I agree. Gotta be a PARENT sometimes and not your child’s “friend”.

[@-tododeku-7511]

@@Ajay44470 yup that’s what I was thinking, why don’t some parents step in

[@annikaallen2704]

so I just got covid and i've spent the last few days binging your videos. I've noticed you always talk really highly of the murder victim, talking about what strong or kind people they were, you give an identity to the people you talk about, and it's really respectful. you're a really great story teller thank you for sharing these videos!

[@commonsense571]

Hope you are on your the mend🌻 stay well💝

[@CKaffeineIVStat]

Lol I have Covid right now and I’m doing the same thing!

[@rayray8608]

Seriously, how many more domestic violence cases like this have to happen for the courts and authorities to take these situations as seriously as they actually are!? I was stuck in an abusive relationship like this for years, because I was afraid to leave knowing that the courts and authorities would not protect me in the way that I needed. It so awful, this could have been prevented..

[@rayray8608]

@forest rin ooh don't even get me started on DCFS and CPS in the states.. That whole operation is a joke. It seems like there is no precedence when it comes to cases that have had similar outcomes. Unless it happens in every state and individual laws get set in place, there is no hope for any kind of federal acknowledgement of any law.

[@debbiemckeown7626]

Vass is still taunting the family, Jane's sister and her husband have been raising Jane's daughter along with their son since the murder happened and applied to legally adopt her Vass then tried to object to the adoption and was allowed to give a statement in court objecting to it but the judge approve the adoption.

[@Murasaki_137]

I hope that when the time comes and he tries to appeal to his sentence that fact is taken as evidence that this man should never ever walk free again. He has no remorse, what a monster.

[@miaomiaochan]

That's abhorrent.

[@victorguevara9227]

Disgusting.

[@lily.9280]

wtf

[@Ilikefrogs..]

Shit likes makes me sad that the death penalty no longer exists.

[@jmm8094]

Eleanor has such an amazing, respectful way of, not only telling the stories of the victims, but also talking about the events that took place. Easily my favourite youtuber; each video could easily be a documentary on TV

[@prestigini3150]

Dude FR just splice it up and make It look slightly professional with like a bunch of the victims talking 😂

[@jmm8094]

@@prestigini3150 exactly !😂

[@Sine.nkosii]

My tears are coming from the thought of the daughter watching this documentary some day. I'm shattered. The psychological and emotional effects of this.

[@moneemaker3000]

I love her videos so much; everything about them her accent, the stories, how respectful she is, and overall just the way she explains everything:))

[@EleanorNeale]

This is so sweet, thank you for watching!! I really appreciate the love x

[@moneemaker3000]

@@EleanorNeale no problem

[@crystalpeterson8730]

@@EleanorNeale yes from someone in the US I love hearing her accent and easy to listen to. ❤️

[@rissyrose84]

Agree 100x!

[@cattallen686]

I used to work with penny, she’s an amazing nurse and she spoke about Jane a lot, you spoke so well about the case and im sure the family will be happy with the respect you have shown xxx

[@kait4586]

I feel like Jane didn’t tell her parents about the SA because she didn’t want to break their hearts, you know? How devastated they would be for their daughter and the pain she was going through, and most of it she went through alone!

[@orzRaspberrih]

well it hurt them more that she didn't tell them. so if anyone's reading this, ask yourself if you want your loved ones to be sad? or do you want them to identify your dead body. please leave abusers.

[@kait4586]

@@orzRaspberrih She did tell them and she did leave and she was still murdered. You can’t just tell someone to leave and expect that to be it. It’s clearly not that simple.

[@user-hg2eb7wy5h]

THIS. another reason that so many sa victims dont come forward, and one that is almost never talked about, is that they dont want their loved ones to feel pain for them

[@ashleyburton3542]

That's a shame she thought she deserved to be hit. No body deserves to be hit especially from someone who suppose to love you. My heart breaks for her.

[@maddie8415]

"Why don't they just leave their abuser?" ....because they know how dangerous that person can be when they don't get what they want.

[@chloediscipio6714]

and the manipulation as well :( it’s just not as easy as people think

[@StephanieSmith-zh9iu]

It is not that easy being a survivor of dv they mentally break you and you physically get sick thinking about Leaving because you know you might die its just nit that easy unfortunately 🤕😥

[@LAURA---]

Exactly. People are actually in the most danger when they leave. Statistically more likely to be murdered. It pisses me off when people are like “duh just leave”. People are afraid to leave because that’s when it’s most dangerous. 💔

[@odalisvr]

As I was listening to this, and Eleanor started saying that Jane was bettering her life, returning to work, being her old self back. Made me happy for her that she got out of that situation and things were looking up for her, then my sadness took over immediately since I’m watching a solved case of Jane’s murder. I wished things went different for her she completely deserved peace and happiness with her daughter.

[@amyheritage2183]

Two jobs, two partners and he still finds time to stalk her. The audacity of him even demanding to know so much of her business. Every victims story is heartbreaking, but to lose your life because of who you fell in love with, by the person you fell in love with. Devastating 💔

[@jadebuffham1410]

I watched a documentary about this a few years ago, they interviewed him in it and showed him some newspaper clippings of what he had done, he got a pen and stabbed Janes eyes with it and said she deserved what she got! It was awful I will never ever forget it and the evil look in his eyes! He will or I hope should never be released! Rip Jane and how wonderful and strong are her parents! 🙏🏼 xxx

[@philmitchell8578]

It was strangeways wasn’t it! That jail documentary? And he said something like I love her but I hate her so so much. Absolute psychopath x

[@theConquerersMama]

😳😳😳

[@ughroblina]

Eleanor: And he finalized the divorce Me: So it was real???? Eleanor: But she didn’t realize that he was lying Me: EVERYTIME

[@angiebautista6266]

Same thoo I was like "thats a first, " then I was like " I knew it"!

[@andreakoroknai1071]

yeah that literally is always a lie, I know because my own father did that, cheated on my mom and then his new spouse, and likely the third one as well, but I don't alk to my toxic family anymore

[@RainbowFro85]

Classic response “I’m married but I’m going to leave my spouse soon”

[@swilson5320]

We hear that line so often it's like a broke record.

[@wickedwhisper4568]

Like honestly. "Send me a copy of the papers and then we'll talk"

[@bj.reo87]

Yuppers

[@LAURA---]

@@wickedwhisper4568 some go as far as to create fake documents for that purpose! People are crazy 🥶

[@darya_xoxo4141]

“He was clumsy, he was awkward, he was bad at his job” 🤧just described me there

[@allisongraham5519]

Ladies, LISTEN to your friends and/or family about the person you’re dating! I say this from experience. They see things you don’t because you see that person’s good traits only while your friends and family see the whole person. Please listen if they say something is off with the person!

[@theConquerersMama]

This!! Sometimes it's not even that they are warning you about a bad person but that they would be a bad fit for you. Derail your plans/life goals. I quit dental school because I was so in love and needed to be near him. 🙄 He wasn't a bad guy. He was just honest that he couldn't do a long distance relationship. Friends and family were all saying - if it's meant to be you will find each other later. But yeah, if I risk our friendship to outright tell you about my worries,it's for a good reason.

[@jazmynbenton5561]

Is it bad that when Eleanor was like “he was a bouncer and a paramedic and body builder” I was like “GOD COMPLEX” 😂

[@bitterestbird]

I didn't notice that. You have a massive point. He obviously felt he was above everyone else, especially women.

[@saigie3908]

Except, God is far more superior then that narcissist

[@leannewinter3790]

I can spot these evil c#$%@ a mile off

[@Juauka]

She said ‘steroids’ and I went GIRL RUN

[@vampbie55]

@@saigie3908 Do you understand what they're trying to say?(not try to be rude) Because I don't think your comment really connects/correlates to their point 😕😕.

[@AnAwkwardBlue]

I’m glad that Jane at least died surrounded by friends, I’m glad she didn’t die alone. Everything was so awful, I’m glad she at least got that

[@wwmhd]

reading those diary entries is heartbreaking. she knew what was coming. this poor woman...

[@greyLeicester]

And yet she did nothing about it... I will never understand some people's survival instinct choices... I guess utter fear and desperation can be blinding. They must feel hopeless and helpless. Tragic.

[@suzanneb9477]

@@greyLeicester What was she supposed to do, victim blamer?

[@emmachameli3196]

@@greyLeicester she did whatever she could do. she went everywhere with people, didn’t leave the house alone, put extra locks on the door…the fact you can blame her is so disgusting

[@TheCrystalBoat]

Why do they NEVER seem to care about people who are being stalked and/or abused? They treat these things like some minor crimes (or not even a crime in most stalking cases) and so many people die because of it.

[@sarahm9966]

Cheaters usually suspect their partner of cheating, because they know it’s possible for their partner to be oblivious of that behavior. Nothin you can do about it. Just don’t ignore the red flags when they come up. You aren’t being judgmental or not being trusting enough, you’re being smart.

[@SP-wl5lh]

DA definitely gets worse with pregnancy, i had a black eye and a perforated eardrum at 21 weeks pregnant, even after an intense anger management course the emotional abuse and threats crept back in after my son was born. I have no doubt in my mind that if I hadn’t left he would have murdered me too. The worst part is constantly trying to find answers, why me, what did I do to deserve this, if I had done this differently would things have been different. Hate the thought of women going through this on a daily basis, it’s actually heartbreaking Thankyou for highlighting such an important issue Eleanor

[@lola-gr7jp]

i agree and im so sorry you went through this:( youre so brave for leaving and i hope things are better for you now

[@jilldurham5498]

But Jane left her abuser.

[@Spillrays]

Oh my god, im so sorry you had to go through that love. I really, really hope you and your son are alright now and aren’t still feeling the after affects of the abuse. You’ve got the heart of a warrior and if it’s not okay right now, it will be, you’ve already gotten through the worst part of it. You’ve got this ❤️

[@ale_leonn]

It is never the victims falut, I'm so sorry this happened to you, I´m so grateful you could manage to get out of it. I'm sending lots of love and positivity to you and your son

[@ninachkah13]

I am truly so sorry you went through that but so happy that you lived to tell the tale. A man - especially one that is supposed to be your safe place, your teammate in life and your protector - is quite literally a defective excuse for a human being if they are abusive. And the idea that such monsters even think to cause harm to their own baby's mother furthermore while she's pregnant ... this is just despicable! They should all be put on an island with hungry angry beasts , oh yea and butt naked , then let mother nature & karma see to them. God bless you I hope you are living a happy life now, you surely deserve it💛

[@moxifoxi7710]

This had me on the edge of my seat. I thought after the incident in the parking lot, just as he was about to go away and she was pulling herself along, I had hoped she would survive and AGAIN in the hospital, I thought there would be a chance for this lady. Those poor workers trying to resuscitate her, I cant imagine the panic and urgency they worked with trying to save their friend. Its horrible! I havent listened past the part of her admittance and death in hospital yet, but I hope Jonny gets life in prison