The WORST Lies Society Feeds Young Men

In the latest video, I dive deep into the societal expectations surrounding masculinity, debunking common beliefs about a man's value. From questioning the significance of sexual conquests to challenging the pressure for early financial success, the video encourages a shift toward more meaningful pursuits.
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CHAPTERS
0:00 - The WORST Lies Society Feeds Young Men
1:36 - Lie #1
4:25 - Lie #2
6:19 - Lie #3
7:20 - Lie #4
9:20 - Lie #5
10:49 - Lie #6
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[@cecillegend9161]

Antonio i was a virgin till my final year in university at 24 yrs old my classmates villify me that am not a man for being a virgin, and even women will say ur Vanilla fot not being a bad guy so the pressure is much.. at 33 now am single without any relationship what do i do?

[@rubric_ra]

Yo

[@mellonhead9568]

you the real mein man

[@Joshbelieveit]

@Antonio, I’d love to know your thoughts on this one. I recently posted a video discussing my opinion of the difference between doing things that bring happiness and joy. Chasing joy is very fulfilling, and chasing happiness is temporary distraction.

[@EddieWakaba]

@@cecillegend9161 Good stuff

[@SumpNuther]

My grandfather defines masculinity for me. Big strong, teddy bear. He was naturally very muscular. Always helped others, a true gentleman. He looked out for others, enjoyed helping, but maintained his dignity. And was married to my grandmother for 60 years when he passed.

[@adhdrockets]

The greatest masculine examples are grandpa's, i see he has his masculinity in check! What do i wish to be a man who lived in his age in the past

[@DTreatz]

Too bad this ain't the pre-1950s

[@NealYee-lj2qc]

God blessed you my man. Salute

[@toddjohnson271]

No more good grandmothers though.

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[@julonkrutor4649]

My former CO is (hopefully still is) the definition of a man. He is over 2m tall (way over 6 feet for Americans), had muscles like a Greek god, and was so soft-spoken - I never saw him raise his voice in anger. He always was modest, acknowledged the achievements of others, always had a helping hand for others, and was an absolute monster with every weapon you could give him - the word 'killing machine' is not strong enough to describe how fast and smart he was. One day, after the work was done, I went for a run. Headphones in, focused on my run in the woods around the base, entered the base, ran a few extra rounds to give it my all, and then collapsed on the mat we had there for high jumps. I was there for a minute or two, then a "Thump" and he was right next to me and said, "That was a good run!" He had been behind me the whole time. I was 21, he was around 36. I was at that time really fit and not slow - yet he shadowed me AFTER doing his training. He told me that he saw me starting while leaving the gym and just thought "Yeah, let's do that!". He didn't know how far, how long - he just did it. And did he boast about it? Hell no. He complimented me on how fast I was, told me he struggled and had to push in the last round because he was falling behind (I sprinted), and asked me if we could do that again. I had the honor to serve 3 months under him before he had to move along - I and others have countless stories like that, where he was just there to help, to give advice, to comfort... If that man were to call me up today, I would follow him into hell itself knowing we would win - we may not live, but the job would be done.

[@aviktheindian5109]

Well you just described the kind of man I aim to be sir. Thank you for your service 🙏🏻

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[@jeremybarancik]

I watched this while walking on the treadmill. I just turned 38 and I’m constantly frustrated with myself. Thank you for the encouragement. I’ve got a long way to go.

[@adhdrockets]

I feel you bro, grinding hard in 2023, only to end up being frustrated with myself being more perfectionistic and spoon fed lies by the trends.

[@DPadio]

imagine, when you will be 60 (and in those times you will still have a lot left in the tank, because the world is evolving so much), you will think how young you were at 38... i'm 29 and i'm constantly battling something and all i can say is try to be a good person, do pure things that motivate you and keep learning and exploring life and upgrade yourself with the best that it has to offer without taking more than you need

[@cred5589]

Antonio. As a 27 year old man- who feels the pressure to become something immediately, and is often confused about his direction- I say thank you. We as men, needed this, and much more of this to come.

[@burnummaster]

His wife watching this video: 👁👄👁

[@EfrLuviano]

Lol

[@mikew8214]

🤦‍♂️I'm sure she already knows this and lots of things he'll never tell us

[@rubric_ra]

It's sad, really.

[@NealYee-lj2qc]

Lol

[@1totheright]

Everyone has their secret formula.

[@GisliNairs]

Thank you so much. I am a guy in my early 20s and I love your channel. You are a father figure to me. You talk about men's issues which are often overlooked in a way that makes me feel better. In a clam, composed and articulated way. I am very thankful to you seriously! Also thankful to the men in my life, my brothers. They have taught me so much about brotherhood and positive masculinity, which this world lacks. Thank you!

[@DTreatz]

Go take your *Red Pills* , life isn't about being happy and calm, there is your first. You've been warned.

[@jimmyjay6497]

@@DTreatz I can agree in a way with what you say. He’s gone get taken by a woman at some point I’m afraid.

[@quill6896]

​@@DTreatzGo take your meds and learn to enjoy life for a change. You have been warned.

[@Krabby956]

​@@jimmyjay6497You say that from experience, mate? 😂

[@Krabby956]

​@@DTreatzPutting a young lad down down just because life has been unfair to you. How sad 🥺

[@ivanv754]

Hey Antonio, I’ve noticed in recent videos you have incorporated some quality life advice, in addition to style. Thank you, a lot of young men need to hear that from a role model like you.

[@JerettOlson]

It is such a blessing that I have only been with one woman, my beautiful wife. I may not make a lot of money as a pastor, but it is a blessing to serve others and discipline young men.

[@SoundWave0007]

#4 point is very deep.. give without expectations but in today's world, there's always a price behind giving anything, you imagine.

[@DasAsianSensation]

My wife and I just had our 4th child shortly before Christmas. We're in our early 30s, and so many people look at us aghast, when they hear that we have so many. I tell them that having a family is both the most exhausting and most rewarding thing I've ever done, and having such an amazing woman be my partner in this makes me the happiest man in the world. Life is still stressful, but I've never felt more fulfilled. I appreciate your work, Antonio. Keep it up!

[@Exequor1]

Same. At this minute watching this, is my 5 mins break from kids :D now i must go back to help my wife.

[@penultimateh766]

Glad you are happy, but do manage your expectations about how loyal or affectionate your kids turn out to be as adults, who they marry, what they do or don't do for a living, etc.

[@Veo87]

I wish that were my story, but I guess we all have different ones. Hopefully, I can have a similar story one day. Congratulations to you!

[@jpjp9111]

I just accidentally had one recently and I have no idea why anyone would want any of those miserable things.

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[@bane6724]

Sometimes I feel satisfaction when I help people, it feels good being seen as a reliable person.

[@tonyoliver2330]

There is an element of truth to what you’re saying. The problem I see as a young man is that men either 1-don’t have father figures that themselves don’t know how to be a Man 2-are getting confused by definitions that are more selfish as opposed to beneficial for a boy becoming a man and lastly 3-bullied into shame for expressing ideas that were always self improving in nature and are seen from a negative competition point of view (“they will get better than me and I can’t have someone better than me”)

[@ytano5782]

This may sound a bit nerdy, but a good role model is Aragorn from Lord of the Rings. For me, this fantasy character is more masculine in every way than all those pseudo-alphas on social media. Aragorn represents a modern idea of masculine identity that is more focused on altruism than dominance. He is respected by his peers as a leader, not because of his physical strength or fighting abilities, but because he embodies qualities such as selflessness and wisdom. He is stoic and courageous, yet he shows emotion and empathy. Fantasy or not, this role was written by a real man born at the end of the 1900s.

[@Grimmlocked]

I need to reread the books as the movies have clouded my memory. He doesn't refuse Anduril in the books right? but why does the story start out with him NOT as the king? why does gondor have a steward at the start of the story?

[@zanturovahjul419]

⁠@@Grimmlockedit is because of a lot of reasons that delves into the history of middle earth. Essentially the previous King died without an heir several hundred years ago and the stewards have kept rule until an heir comes in the form of Aragorn. But because Aragorn was just a ranger from a far off land people might not just accept him and so throughout the story his feats provide proof of his capabilities and eventually Faramir, the last Steward, accepts him as king and so do the people.

[@Grimmlocked]

@@zanturovahjul419 oh so his claim was pretty weak, and he had to prove himself

[@kristiyangrigorov5232]

It's not nerdy at all, Aragorn is the definition of masculinity

[@zanturovahjul419]

@@Grimmlocked in a way it was pretty weak, he had the blood but it would have been difficult to convince the people that he was was worthy of being their king, in a way

[@lc4n333]

Happiness is not the end goal because being happy is about emotion, it can up and down. Chasing only happiness sounds like an addict desperately chasing the fix. You can feel happy and depressed at particular time. Sometimes depression feels longer than usual, just don't give up. That's life, that's all the people say.

[@dribrom]

To be a man is not be a boy, i.e, not behave like a child. A child can be rude. self-centered, focused on having fun, ruled by emotion. Therefor being a man is to be respectful, self-sacrificing, responsible, in control of your emotions.

[@carygrantbroughtupbaby]

I can speak from personal experience (as an ex "player"), a high body count damages men. It damages their brain's dopamine receptors, the same way that porn and frankly any addiction does. It also leads to deep soul wounding that makes it very hard to commit to anything worthwhile in life. It also becomes hard to emotionally feel any sense of intimacy or depth of connection about anything on a deep level. Most guys (and females) with high body counts are deeply depressed and seeking validation in all the wrong places. You are not James Bond (read the books, he's usually depressed and rarely gets the girl). You are not Conan the Barbarian (watch the movie- he lost everything). You are not some fictional character. You are a real man, with a real life and you have to make real choices for yourself and your future. Thank you, Antonio for your channel.

[@DPadio]

being a player, as you said, also drains you of the time that you could spend on building something meaningful

[@carygrantbroughtupbaby]

@@DPadio 100 percent. I wasted most of my twenties.

[@Maidenize666]

Thanks brother... I'm in the lost phase in my life... Your comment nd this video is helping. Any tips how you got out of it?

[@carygrantbroughtupbaby]

@Maidenize666 Honestly? Get religion. Jesus helped switch out my crap life for a new one. ALSO, find an honest woman who doesn't seek your validation. That way you aren't compromising yourself being with her. And if she leaves, she leaves. There are less important things than women- like your soul.

[@ApakmanMarquez]

Life is a struggle, therefore telling young people that happiness is the goal of life is to set them up for failure. Instead, encourage them to make something of their lives, and to find another person to love and sacrifice their life for. Only Love can give meaning to suffering.

[@user-ji9sh6rd3m]

I'm 71, a military veteran, have been practicing law more than 40 years. My deepest happiness and satisfaction is from my marriage of 45 years, and raising three successful sons (two military vets). More generally speaking, I've learned that the greatest satisfaction in life comes from helping others with no expectation of reward.

[@hayesjk11]

This video is great your only mistake is point 6. Most popular red pill content creators explicitly say happiness isn’t the goal, they’re telling men that women should NOT be your top goal because in many cases men are using this to fill a hole in their life. They’re saying you need to be the best man you can be and be happy with yourself before worrying about women. That is good advice. Happiness is fleeting

[@bobhawkins3387]

Antonio, I don’t often comment on videos, but this one begs exception. Your message in this video is something every young man in this country should hear. Stellar advice, stellar no nonsense presentation. You have given a glimpse of what is inside yourself, and after seeing that, I think you have given much more merit to all the other advice you give on your channel. At age 72, I worry for our younger generation. You are showing them, and maybe some older guys too, what values really count in life. Above all, that without self-respect, why should you be worthy of respect from anyone else. Great job on this video!

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[@reinhartgregory]

Antonio, Tate and Myron never said that sexual conquests = success, they in fact say that you have to build your health, looks, value and money before pursuing women. They would pretty much agree with you on all your points. That being said we all know that successful men = high body count and yes money doesn't equal success but it helps a LOT to your success and freedom. Pretty hard to be successful as a man when you're broke, for a woman you can be broke and marry a billionaire and be happy, thats the difference.

[@TitansQuarterback16]

That body count flex at the beginning of the video was diabolical lol. I always like to point out, that it’s the types that have had the experiences that always echo they don’t matter. They weren’t saying any of this in the process, or else they would’ve stopped. Similar to a millionaire saying money doesn’t matter or a black belt saying belts don’t matter. It’s very easy to say that once you’ve reached the end state. I don’t think body count one is a lie, it’s an experience young men absolutely need to have in order to have the appropriate experience going forward.

[@-glitch-8195]

Oh the irony of you calling that "diabolical". Please explain how body count helps you have an "appropriate experience" moving forward. If anything, males who sleep around become accustomed to it. Therefore, making them unable to keep a healthy longterm relationship. They rarely learn anything, & instead repeat the same mistakes because they're thinking with the thing between their legs. Reality kicks in when a death occurs in the family, wife has a miscarriage, children have disciplinary issues, financial issues arise, etc. How exactly is body count gonna help you then? 😂😂😂😂

[@TitansQuarterback16]

@@-glitch-8195 that’s a solid question. Personally I would typically agree with you, but the way things are now, generally speaking the woman you’ll settle down with is likely to have much more sexual experience than you. Statistically speaking most men don’t have sex these days anyways. Having experience with a lot of women gives you perspective on things and have a general understanding of what they truly find attractive. Anecdotally I’ve had a lot of experience and settled down with a virgin and if anything it’s helped me be a better partner. You need to understand a variety of viewpoints and racking up bodies allows you to do so because you understand those women on a rather deep level even if it’s a one night thing. It takes a lot for a woman to sleep with someone and if you’re truly paying attention there’s a lot to learn. What’s your thoughts? Genuinely interested in your perspective.

[@137Furon]

@@TitansQuarterback16 please provide the statistics that MOST men are not having sex. Saying men need to sleep around to get experience is terrible advice as the above poster mentioned it leads to men not being able to have good long term relationships as you treat relationships as only sex and nothing else.

[@oldscratch3535]

@@137Furon He's not lying. There are stats out there you can easily research yourself. Something like 30% of men 18-30 are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year. There's another stat that shows that most young men are single while most young women are not. You can easily search this. You're on the internet.

[@cloud__99]

Sure it may be nice to have someone who knows what they’re doing. It makes it less awkward in the beginning. But it might also be exciting to have someone who’s inexperienced. Nothing wrong with learning along the way. Either way, if your woman dumps you because you don’t have impeccable technique right from the start she’s not the one you’d want to spend your life with anyway. And to get that kind of experience you don’t need to sleep with 30 women either. You might as well sleep with the same one 30 times. There’s no magic switch that sexually satisfies all women to discover, no matter how many you sleep with. Maybe you can observe some general trends what’s received well and what isn’t but nothing more. Everyone’s different. The most reliable way to find out what YOUR woman finds attractive is to ask HER. To experiment with HER. And not with 30 other women.

[@davidnavarro4821]

The « sex lie » you graciously rebuked is so relatable to me. My bodycount is 0, I’m well past 18 and I feel like a pest in society because of that. What specific life advice do you have, Antonio, for guys like me ? I also LOVED the last part of your vid. Having become a pessimist in terms of philosophy I lean on the idea that happiness is a fiction and what makes us « happy » is what distract us from sadness as one Twitter user said. Nonetheless I do push goals for myself, what would give me a huge satisfaction would be to learn more languages, become an electronic music producer, travelling, becoming a proficient gamer, having a relationship, etc.

[@komred64]

random youtuber here, but I hope my experience does any good for your situation. I was 19 y.o when I gave my first kiss and lost my virginity, to the same girl. My primary reason for having sex was so if people asked, I could truthfully say I was not a virgin, and had in fact kissed at least one girl. Because I felt ashamed that I didnt up to that point. The only thing that changed after having sex was feeling relieved of that shame, that it was no longer there. It didnt change who I was or what I did, it was just an event or action lost in time. Looking back, though, what kind of asshole would make fun of someone for not having sex? Its ridiculous, and thats the kind of people you wouldnt want in your life anyway, so ignore them and move on. Try to think what you really want out of it, and not what society expects you to get, because chances are it wont fulfil you.

[@moniqrupley6019]

Sorry I can only offer my perspective as a woman. There is no shame in being a virgin as a man or woman. I try to think of it in terms of friendship. Would I rather have a large number of acquaintances I am not all that close to or a few ride or die besties I'd trust with my life? Besties for me which is why I only have three exes all relationships. Pick a great partner and get all the mileage you can with them.

[@cindyc]

Please stay true to yourself and don't compromise for less than you deserve.

[@TGPDrunknHick]

in my 20's still not there. no need to be ashamed. tell me how many people someones slept with and I'll show you how many times they've failed to hold a relationship.

[@nourbendali2206]

@@moniqrupley6019 well I don't know it just mean that we are not lovable or desirable. I don't know how to feel about it but when you are a man , you have this duty to be a good sexual partner. However things don't go as planned. I'm 23 and never got a gf. It stats to show and I feel less masculine than my other friends.

[@AArdW01f]

Ive lost literal good friends who have no real male role models who actually see stuff like Tate and take it seriously. Like, not respecting anyone around you is not leadership. Only in the last few years.

[@GiaBao-gr2zd]

Poor kids

[@AArdW01f]

​@GiaBao-gr2zd No it's worse. We are early 30s. They should know better by now.

[@Lonovavir]

I watched one Andrew Tate video and thought it was satire. Then I learned it wasn't when I heard a bunch of teenagers praising him. That's who he appeals to.

[@ysmaboy]

I have never EVER seen Tate talking about body count. In fact I've seen the opposite, and advice that goes along with what I see on this video. However, I also suffer from believing I'm less of a man because I haven't had many girlfriends. And that belief was installed by my friends and some family members. And let me tell you... It's hard not to believe it

[@ViolentNin]

Think for yourself and only apply what sounds right. Tate actually has some good messages like working out and self improvement but exploiting people and going crazy on promiscuity obviously isn't something you should be following.

[@richb2229]

This is good advice for young men. However, having a high body count when you are young (under 25) isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It does increase your experience and you can learn a lot of things that otherwise you wouldn’t. But its very important to protect yourself during this time. Building wealth isn’t a bad goal for young men but I think setting goals and building them out is more important than just chasing money. Having a strong sense of community always helps build character. Regardless of the community you choose.

[@blancantutumu2338]

What you did with one or two girls might not work with your future wife, every woman is different. You think You are going to be great with women by sleeping around with many, but when it's time to settle down You will be surprised. And rather end up full of traumas and bagage and no woman wants a man with those things. There is nothing wro gracias with exploring sex life with one partener and grow together and know what works for each other.

[@blancantutumu2338]

Nothing wrong*

[@bernardodiaz9428]

Hi antonio, I'm Bernardo, I'm a16 years old boy from Argentina. Thank God, I was educated in this train of thought and wisdom that you're sharing. You're one of the few people on the internet that really teaches young boys like me on how to progress on the path to manhood. I'm really happy to have someone who have lived an exciting life with its highs and downs, and from that experience, pass to youngsters the outcome of that. Thank you so much!

[@orgulasaxios3567]

My girlfriend have had a bad childhood and have been the victim of a lot of bullying, and because of that she's got horrible self image and don't think she looks good despite being gorgeous, so it always make me feel good and gives me a sense of accomplishment when she says that I'm helping her feel like she looks good even if she don't always believe it

[@Mixedmetalhead]

The things that make me happy do not take years to accomplish. In fact they are quite easy to get.

[@david_snyder2]

Antonio, thank you for the videos and service you provide. I am 57 years old and was still dressing in a similar style as high school. Thanks to you, I have some tailored shirts and purchased a pair of boots from Thursday Boots. I have received several compliments from people on my new style. I am working on building relationships and updating my standards. I served in the Marine Corps also and knew several young men who slept around. I married my wife when I was 18 years old and we are still happily married with two daughters and two grandchildren.

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[@hellmanksingh7967]

I’m 33 just got laid off. Just applying and trying not to worry much.

[@kospandx]

Really sorry to hear it, man. Keep being proactive, and things have a way of working themselves out!

[@moneybags25]

I just came to this realization now that being 28, going to girl after girl is like trying to fill an unfillable void, real relationship are where you're going to be fulfilled.

[@kevenCodes]

"I agree with about 90% of what those guys say..." I feel the same as you. They really mess up that last 10% which makes it impossible to align with them. When asked I tell people I took the red pill, digested it, and eliminated the waste. I hope those guys out there and young men get the clarity they need to not end up in a really dark place.

[@kristiyangrigorov5232]

Red pill and feminism are the same thing, just different side of the coin

[@kevenCodes]

@@kristiyangrigorov5232 I can’t disagree with that. Anything divisive is not going to help young men and women today.

[@rogermagnusson8877]

Life has stages. First you have the way of the warrior, you overcome your personal obstacles and become a mature individual. Secondly, you have the way of the king, you use this maturity to create stability, for you and for those in your care. Thirdly, you have the way of they mystic, where you release the power of that kingdom to those who come after, and become their guide and mentors.

[@SuperDibbya]

I cannot emphasize just how good and invaluable this particular piece of content is/has been/will be in times to come. Appreciate it

[@6packproductions710]

Regarding topic #1: the absurd extreme on sleeping with many women is a poor take. But it’s clear right now that a growing number of men are becoming sexless. That’s not due to pr0n or video games or weed. It’s cultural and technological shifts altering women’s dating preferences. When men appear to have zero shot at a sexual relationship, whether it is short term or long term, that can lead to some real problems. And to have a long term relationship, you have to start said relationship. Abundance solves many problems in life, and I would submit that the ability to be attractive matters. How you use it becomes a point of subjective morality. sure, there’s no magic number, but you at least need the skill set. And that skill set requires some success with women to affirm “okay, I can do this.” If you want to refute person A, you also should to offer an alternative.

[@nelsoncorreia7293]

Just to add onto this -- if you have less experience you may be willing to settle for what you can get in terms of long-term relationships, even if it's not for the best. The ability to find a partner easily and the experience gives you the ability to say "I will not tolerate this" in relationships, whereas a guy with no experience is likely going to pedestalize his first girlfriend which can lead to problems. It's not a black and white issue, but having more experience is typically better for men than less experience. So, I agree 100% with the abundance part.

[@blancantutumu2338]

@@nelsoncorreia7293 i don't think having sex with many women is the same as knowing them, you can have sex with many and still don't have any experience with women. Each woman is different and what You did with one or two might not be what your future wife will want or need. That's why relationships shoul start with a solid friendship to know each other, when sex enters first before friendship, people don't ask the correct questions anymore, they don't take the time to really know each other anymore. And You find out You are rotally different from the person You are with. And of course You can totally have a succesful marriage with the first woman or man in your life, no need to fool around before cause You will end up full of traumas and bagage.

[@nelsoncorreia7293]

@@blancantutumu2338 I agree partially -- having many one night stands doesn't really "teach" you much at all. But at the same time the whole idea of settling for your first partner, and having this marriage turn out well is overly-optimistic and is frankly just too risky for men. I'm very glad I didn't end up marrying any of my exes, but I am not dismissing the possibility that it's possible that a man's first girlfriend be a great wife, it just happens that they probably are not going to be marriage material. A young man in his late teens or early twenties frankly does not have much going for him and is not as "competitive" as a more mature man in his 30s, but when you consider what men value most in relationships, younger women in the late teens/early twenties have it much better than men do. There's a reason it's pretty common (and easy) for college-aged women to dump their highschool boyfriends than it is vice-versa. I get where you are coming from, but it is nothing less than harmful to men to be so attached to their first in many cases. My first girlfriend was my friend for two years before we dated but that did not stop her from looking around behind my back, and as a naive young man I was too infatuated to really do anything about it. Call it what you will, but with experience I tolerate less and less in relationships due to my experiences. 18 year old me did not have the choice but to have low standards. As the poster of the above comment said, most men really need abundance before they settle down. It would solve a lot of problems in their life.

[@odysseynoone3831]

This guy is really wise and insightful. He's also a great communicator. Very high quality content.

[@spartanist07]

thank you for speaking the truth to young men using your platform Antonio!

[@moniqrupley6019]

Another great video! Morals, values and character never go out of style.

[@fmfdocbotl4358]

i was always a relationship guy and guys i knew were players. i been married 25yrs so far while the players are still single or divorced and complain that "women are trash". I've had guys call me a simp because i take care of my wife and they're single.

[@maxb.1302]

I think the last part about Happiness is especially important and I think there are multiple ways to learn that lesson. The best one in my opinion is watching a role model live that reality, the worst one is to actually reach the goals you set with a motivition of "if x, then I will be happy" and then realise that absolutely everything is empty and lonely. You start to feel like everything except yourself and you get so angry that you are not happy that you enter a self destructive cycle until you hit rock bottom. If one gets out of that state of mind, they definitely learned a lot about happiness but they also lost a lot during that journey.

[@bbomer3777]

What gives me happiness is making others happy. It's kind of crazy that we actually live our lives for others, not ourselves.

[@franktinashe5406]

Selfishness is self destructive.

[@neelo821]

There are lots of guys in high school that lie about their sex life pretending thy lost their virginity or slept with lots of women while they did nothing and some men get insecured about their virginity because of hat, not all of them but a few of them.

[@szymonskowronski5689]

Came here for style tips. Stood here for life lessons from a wise man. Cheers.

[@alialwasty6912]

المعنى الحقيقي في الحياة ان تكون اكثر انسانية واكثر رحمة وهذا ما يجعل للحياة معنى وهدف

[@fulcovandekieft6685]

As an 18 year old law student who works day-in, day-out on myself, I can say that this video was extremely eye-opening and has saved me from a potentially terrible spiral.

[@contentinc.7831]

Thank You sooo much.!! Most young guys don't have dads or other grown up "MEN" to give them these advice and wisdom. You are doing a great service to these young men. Keep up with this kind of content.!!! The world need more wise mature men like you.

[@clontroper5]

I love this, lots of truth shared in this video that I think many of us need to hear and be reminded of more often!

[@Pikawarps]

I’m glad you are addressing these things Antonio

[@allbaugh04]

Never spend intimate time with a woman you don't picture raising your kids and being your wife, because that's a huge risk waiting to happen. Any time you spend with random women is wasted time. It might not seem like it at the time, but all that time is lost focus and lost money.

[@jlcarter04]

This has been a standing rule for me since I was in HS.

[@TheAcad3mic]

The world could do a whole lot worse than learning more from Antonio. I'll tell you what I discovered this channel what feels like about 10 years ago as I was learning how to dress better and wanted more info. This channel is a great resource. But it feels right and well earned to hear this man with a large platform keeping it real and sharing some real knowledge alongside all his sartorial tips.

[@Dadolphinsmakemecry]

I'm still alive,hell this world ain't easy to navigate. Having a family at a VERY young age,for all the wrong reasons. We are still together after 30 years,I'll be 50 next year and recently ran into your videos,during a time of DEEP introspection. I have found myself again and your IDGAF video helped me fully understand my introspection even more. My Wife is my DEEPEST STRONGEST source of happiness,I've come to understand that and ME not being focused being sloppy and not leading the way has caused problems FOR YEARS. I've subbed and watched and learned how to better do what i couldn't before because i had no real format,other than stumbling through.

[@theent01]

your serious videos like this are golden. You have a lot of wisdom to share.

[@piouskirby]

Thanks RMRS, helping bring the light of truth into the darkness of lies. One man, one teen, one boy at a time. The amount of lives you have changed for the better, uncountable. God Bless.

[@Arturo-Ramirez]

This is the best advice you’ll read from all the comments…. PROTECT YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY AND YOUR LIFE FORCE!

[@Justme0495]

Thank you for another honest video! Happy holidays!

[@RealMenRealStyle]

You're welcome! Happy holidays.

[@ThiasP1]

I am approaching my 30s and throughout the years I appreciated and used some of your style advice. I like these new kind of videos, considering there is so much guru nonsense for young men flodding youtube. You are a real role model, keep up the good work 👍🏻

[@ThePatricion]

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. You just picked me up, Antonio. Thank you! Happy New Year to you and your family.

[@Gent.Z]

Antonio, you are such an inspiration to me as a 25-year-old man. I've been watching your videos since I was a teenager. While I agree that the red pill has some valid points, there are some very toxic and misogynistic suggestions out there too. Your channel, and my feelings about all the advice out there, inspired me to make my own channel! So I love hearing you address these important topics head-on, and I hope you keep making these types of videos!

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[@iceman1146]

I Wish I had more mentors and wise men like you giving me advice when I was younger. Thanks for your good work Antonio

[@JB-pk4ck]

Narcissism in its original form was about extreme vanity . Narcissism is a personality disorder involving manipulation , need for control extreme selfishness. ive known narcissists who arent visually attractive. You can be very vain and still be considerate of others and have a good heart. Real narcissists have no heart. Love your videos, im 52 and overcoming a lengthy illness. Starting physical fitness and restyling from scratch ,You videos are a real motivation. Thankyou.

[@endurement]

I just hit a point in my life where casual hookups/hookup culture in general has no appeal to me anymore, had all kinds of fun from 16-21 and I’m 24 now just got out of a toxic relationship with a 304 lol kinda just chilling till I meet something I like that’s good for me that encourages growth without all the pain

[@amandastjohn4735]

Piece of advice that will help you reach that goal? Drop the idea that you're going to get growth without the pain.

[@richb2229]

I think you going to have a lot of trouble with finding that. Work on yourself and your view of women and you might have a chance.

[@endurement]

@@richb2229 that’s the plan buddy, been through enough hurt I’m just going to stay alone and work on myself till the right one comes along, 10s attract 10s

[@jasonkeweneallan2827]

Holy moly! My respect for you just went through the roof! I am by no means a young man, but this video inspired even me, and filled me with confidence in the younger generations. Thank you so much.

[@aldrichuyliong8143]

You are doing young men the world over a kindness with these videos. I remember feeling like shit in my mid-20's because tech billionaires were popping up left and right while my life seemed to be going nowhere. Worse, no one seemed to care and it always felt like they're blaming you if you didn't have things already figured out by then. Eventually, you come to believe it and you fall into a self-fulfilling downward spiral of self-doubt, depression and thinking you would never amount to anything so why bother. It took me a while to rid myself of that... So many wasted years.

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

My father and I were always at odds in my younger years. I don't recall ever wanting to be like him. And I have no older brothers. As such, finding your channel has been really helpful for me, Antonio. It feels weird wanting a role model in my late 30s, but I'm glad I have one 😅

[@alb12345672]

He is my role model at 51. My dad was a "nice guy" but I'll leave it at that. But I do believe wealth accumulation is very important.

[@penultimateh766]

Yeah my attitude toward my parents got a lot more forgiving when I turned 40. None of us is born with an instruction manual...

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

@penultimateh766 I've actually already moved into a much better phase of life with the old man. He and I get along better than we ever did. That doesn't change the fact that I still don't want to be like him, though

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[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

@RealMenRealStyle done and done sir! Thank you!

[@andreaspeters3773]

"wham, bam, thank you ma'am"...... 😂 makes my day Each point so true 👌

[@chadrickbasedman987]

As a fellow Wisconsinite the cost of living here is great especially in rural areas

[@mgdrive8409]

Thanks for asking. I am truly happy and satisfied in the moment when I am driving and about to go hiking in nature - being alone. In life I don't desire to have x amount of money or any status to be remembered as or for XYZ.

[@quinntonbrown8818]

Racine, WI in the house. Great content as always!

[@ocean7849]

Thanks Antonio for this amazing channel. You really help young men be better

[@RealMenRealStyle]

I appreciate you. Thanks for this.

[@khaosarts2089]

Needed to hear that. Thanks

[@chucksolutions4579]

Former navy seal current fire fighting officer. I was also a collegiate athlete (appreciate your advice btw). I am happy to say I waited for marriage as did my wife. Best decision I’ve ever made.

[@_titojoe]

Merry Christmas. Thank you for what you do. God bless you and your family. Always been a fan. I always tell my students to always look you up. I always get asked how i learned to dress well and get my style sense. I always point to you. Thank you Antonio

[@ahmedawad3981]

An amazing video with a very meaningful and powerful message . Its almost as if I were receiving advice from an older brother and for me to think that I am pretty sure you're genuine with your videos.

[@Firesword534]

I'm closing in on 40 as I type this. Great advice all around. One thing I'm so glad is that I avoided any form of hook-up culture in my earlier years. It's made my relationship with my wife so much deeper. When it comes to money, as long as my wife and I can keep a roof over the heads of our kids, keep the fridge full, and our bills paid, I call that success. Anything else is a bonus. Comparison is the thief of joy. Yes it's good to have goals and something to work towards, but also stop and enjoy the journey and where you are right now. The joy is in the journey. Great video.

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[@vectorsholobela9388]

I'm glade you telling us of reality and what we can do as young men, this is one of the reasons I follow you 👌you are "LEGIT"..

[@kielbotron]

Thank you for this video. I was a nerd in my twenties so I didn't get much action, then I had a long, meaningful relationship which ended recently, so I decided to catch up on some bachelor opportunities. I needed just one FWB adventure to understand how empty and dull is sex without emotional, romantic connection between the partners.

[@ralphmarkasher]

Hey Captain, So I'm 72, did 29 years as an Officer and Aviator active and reserve as well as working in Silicon Valley for companies such as SanDisk. When I was mobilized in 2002 I stayed until I hit my MRD in 2010. I realized that working in business was interesting but now as satisfying as doing something for a greater good so instead of going back to business I took my skills and went to work first for Customs and Border Protection and then for the Navy. The satisfaction that I am in a small way supporting our country and the service members on the front line is much more important than making a lot of money. We have communicated before and I think you are doing a great job of mentoring the younger men we have in society. Semper Fi Marine and keep up the good work.

[@JohnSkyLey]

Regarding body count, listen to how Myron from Fresh and Fit explains it. All he is saying is that you need to be more experienced when dating and sex before you settle down. Most women these days have high body count - much more than most average men. You need EXPERIENCE in dating and sex or you will be in a world of hurt when dealing with these modern women.

[@isaiahslagboom7512]

He must be an awesome dad and Father! Thank you

[@semperfi6512]

great video, thanks

[@ralphmarkasher]

Captain, this is an amazing video of yourself and a good confession for young men to hear.

[@marcusaurelius8605]

Great video! Really everything is gold. I so wished I listened to this in my 20s. Happiness is rooted in purpose therefore service with steps in gratitude. No matter where you are (an island, the grind, home, prison or homless) there is something. To live for a higher purpose will fill your soul and living for your self like driving that sports car, fast but no where to go and not many people in it. Try a truck for hard work and helping others or a van to that brings love you seek.

[@lutzmuller8138]

Amen and amen. Wise words. There is nothing to add.

[@ekklesialifeapplicationbib7352]

Well said👍

[@ericgeneric135]

Well said! 👍

[@carlyleambrose104]

Hi Antonio, hope you & your family had a great Christmas.

[@samuelalvarez9045]

Thanks for this. I'm looking into how to better dress for myself I tremendously appreciate your videos

[@cheataofdoom]

Keep bringing the Hope Core content my man!

[@michaeltoy1813]

I do hope you are willing to continue this content of sage advice for men. There is a lot of stuff and it's a confusing whirlwind right now. The amount of despair I see/hear is dragging for real. This is seriously needed. Especially when those we hope to look at for advice simply shame you because I (men in general) is the problem for everything. I would be interested in your thoughts on "if youre a man and aren't married you're a loser/selfish man child/etc". Almost seems like men can't get a compliment for trying.

[@bassyey]

Wow, "Happiness is a byproduct" is something I never thought about. Good video.

[@thedevilsadvocate3710]

Antonio, which red pill content are you watching? Again, I question if you've ever watched the content. Misunderstanding #1: The red pill teaches that being competent with women is a must. That means being experienced. Part of the game is closing a woman. But mostly it is so that for your masculinity and to not have a weakness, that you understand what attracts a woman and what makes her tick. The lessons that successful men who can't keep a woman show that public disgrace and permanent reputational damage occur when you are a man who fails at regulating your woman to your frame. Less you get divorced and shamed. Misunderstanding #2: The red pill teaches that it is IDEAL to grind out your teens and 20's so you CAN become successful in your 30's. To not focus on women and put your head down and do what it takes to learn everything needed to build your success. Misunderstanding #3: Money is a tool. Time is the real currency and money can save time and buys freedom. Freedom is choices and money gives you a lot of it. Misunderstanding #4: See number 3. Success is defined as reaching personal goals and feeling good about your place in life. Misunderstanding #5: Fitness is a standard for being a man. A six pack is a standard within that standard. It is physical and visual proof of knowledge and discipline. 2 essential qualities of a man. Especially the older a man is. A lower standard would be a lower quality of man. It does not mean you are not a man at all. It means you have work to do. It does not mean you are less of a man. There is a difference.

[@ericalmodovar1938]

"You really aren’t talented, but take comfort in the fact that you are a bit better than yesterday. Consider it fortunate that you have taken one step forward." Just a line by a character of a story I read before and just sharing it.

[@apolaki94]

Thanks for your advices. I like your view of life

[@FranG1214]

@12:07 I definitely "liked-ed" this video Antonio :). Good fatherly message for young men coming from a respectable man such as yourself.

[@aaronaustrie]

Interesting video!

[@johngonzalez5488]

Of course! Because YOU sir are the purveyor of Truth

[@slamtilt01]

I can remember when people would say “Money isn’t everything.” Or “Money can’t buy you happiness.” A few years ago I moved to a small town from a big city and I agree with you. The pace of life (in general) is so much better than in a big city. Housing is generally cheaper both for renting or purchasing. The attitudes of people in general are so much more freer.

[@Camille_Fox]

I'm going to be 30 in January, and you know what, it's been a while ago now that I've realised I'll never be rich or super successful with women. But I know that there is a piece of cake out there for me and I get after it. When I was 19 my boss saw me talking to girls that visited our agency for seasonal work, and he gave me one mark of advice, he said; never allow a woman insult you, never. Really helped me on the way, and that's because criticism is fine, but insults, no body should put up with that shit. Oh, and almost forgot... the director gave me one more, he said, you always have a choice, always.

[@chachichochacorta8577]

I just discovered your channel. Great content, especially the ones about how to dress. I must take exception with one point you made: Happiness is not your end goal. To which Aristotle would say: "Hold my beer." Ayn (rhymes with "fine") Rand was expositing what Aristotle had claimed 2,200 years ago. Here are some of Ayn (again, it rhymes with "mine") Rand's quotes from her own writings regarding happiness. I think the last one of these quotes (Quote #5) is somewhat more in line with what you said about happiness being a by-product: 1. "Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one’s values." 2. "By the grace of reality and the nature of life, man-every man-is an end in himself, he exists for his own sake, and the achievement of his own happiness is his highest moral purpose." 3. "Happiness is a state of non-contradictory joy-a joy without penalty or guilt, a joy that does not clash with any of your values and does not work for your own destruction, not the joy of escaping from your mind, but of using your mind’s fullest power, not the joy of faking reality, but of achieving values that are real, not the joy of a drunkard (or the mindless kicks of a man-slut!), but of a producer." 4. "Happiness is possible only to a rational man, the man who desires nothing but rational goals, seeks nothing but rational values and finds his joy in nothing but rational actions." 5. "Existentially, the activity of pursuing rational goals is the activity of maintaining one’s life; psychologically, its result, reward and concomitant is an emotional state of happiness."