The Zarna Garg Family Podcast | Ep. 53 Big Family Meals

[@nemomonteflores3890]

What I love about these family podcasts is the fierce independent thinking of the children and the kindness and gentleness of the dad and the brilliance of the mom, who brings together her beautiful family to share ideas, laughter, and love. ❤ the grade to each family member!

[@binalthakkar5688]

A+++++ to Zoya always! She is such an emotional and rational person. I feel like she never gets any appreciation from the fam. Zoya if you are reading this then you are empowering women like me. You always have my A grade(even if you don’t make it to the podcast)

[@zoyagarg]

Wow, thank you so much. This really made my day. I am so grateful

[@krithikaaruna-nh2zw]

I'm extremely proud to say my uncle is a South Indian man from New Jersey and he does all if not half the work always. From cooking, laying the table, cleaning, hosting, washing dishes, ordering, everything and he's 80 plus years and he was always like that from his youth. The burden never falls on my aunt and it is truly an equal partnership and friendship.

[@rahenakhondokar9041]

Zoya’s “love of family drama” and how she analyzes every aspect after the dinner is something I can totally tell relate to! 😂 Suggestion- have one of the guys host a dinner party- and have Zarna really let them. 😅

[@priyasrikanth76]

A+ to Zoya 💗💗 such a lovely girl , so attached to family , enjoys communication between people and analyzing ❤️ Zarna and Shalab , you both have raised beautiful kids , God bless you all 💗

[@KanyaKanya-pj4qe]

Nothing compares to entertaining at home, it is a privilege to entertain, having a clean home shows that you value the people who enter your home

[@user-gt2pn4vt4j]

My heart broke at 38:00 - I've been there. Poor Zoya. It's so sad when you feel like no one listens to things you find fascinating.

[@agplot2479]

Funny story: my husband and I were married in 1971, on the right side of the cusp of the women’s movement. We’ve always shared responsibilities around the house. It made sense m. We were both in college. I got a job first. It just made sense that he would clean the apartment while I was at work. He also always pitched in - I cooked, he washed the dishes. This was NOT the norm in American households. We met a couple from South Indian about a year later. They were newly married; new to America; firm roles hadn’t been established. We spent a lot of time together. They observed how my husband always washed the dishes. The rule in their house became, “ in America the men do the dishes”. Thus that became his role. He also helped share the hosting work, as my husband did, when they entertained. To this day (50+years later) we laugh about how my husband threw him a curve, making him think he was supposed to participate in housework equally - he still washes the dishes every night. It was several years and the habits were too far gone when he realized that a lot of other men didn’t participate in the work of hosting, washing dishes, etc. Brij, the first time you and your future wife host an event, money says you’ll be making sure the waste baskets are emptied and clutter is hidden away.

[@PriyaSharma-if6yd]

Zoya is always so insightful and kind, I see the disappointment in her face when she is enthusiastic about something but people don't reciprocate in same way to hear her out. This is the sad reality why people are getting lonelier.

[@San-sue]

Cos she’s a woke girl, she live in fear of saying the wrong thing all the time.

[@yahyaamir146]

zoya rightly gave herself the A grade

[@nomiefilms2532]

Brij is revolutionary in his thinking…and also, it’s an individual thing..be it for female or male..about splitting the chore responsibilities in an unsaid understanding…when my brother see i am doing the dishes, he goes and makes my bed ready and clean some other stuffs…and that’s so sweet of him to do that without leaving all things to be done by me because i am a girl, but again, not every man has the same mentality, in the first place it doesn’t even appears to many that things need to be done, let alone doing it…so yeah, end of the story is not every man is a gentleman…

[@taopearl2976]

Very lucky that you have these people as parents!

[@kavithamuralimanohar9467]

Lots of love to the family ❤. Twenty five years from now, I want to see a podcast where Brij’s wife and kids are appreciating him for hosting family parties always organized and arranged by him.

[@joannedavis182]

The A goes to Mom!! I think everyone made great points however I think that the comment about 26 years of marriage and backsides being handed on a platter was absolutely hysterical!!! I busted out laughing while driving to the gas station! I’m 61 years old and I do think that sometimes people talk things to death. I think communication is great AND it’s ok not to talk everything to shreds. It isn’t necessary for relationship survival. JMO. Love this and all of your episodes!! Thanks for the transparency - you’re all wonderful!!

[@ronyboylive6934]

This was my fav episode... brij and veer r still young... one day they will understand why it's worth going the extra mile for having a good time with your friends n family

[@ronyboylive6934]

And A grade to Zarna she countered Brij perfectly n I agree with her

[@ahom9387]

My two teenage sons have the same exact comments as your sons do EVERYtime we have a big gathering at our house. They don’t understand whyyyy they have to tidy up their rooms if no guests go in to them or whyyyy im spending time tidying up the rest of our messy house to make it presentable! Your whole family makes me laugh because everything is relatable! thank goodness for zoya! lol A grade to u for keeping it together on this episode!!

[@64letsgodriving]

Zoya A++++++ Zarang A+++++ Hosting is a love language... It's an act of service, and going above and beyond is just one way of showing love ❤️ to the people you invited to your house. Making them feel special by seeing and being in a clean house that is decorated even if it doesn't look that way everyday just speaks volumes of how the host feels about their guests and what they want the guest to feel during their visit ❤. I think it's important to go above and beyond.

[@thequaintus]

I think this male-female dynamic has changed a lot. I am not married for as many years as you, just 4 years, but my husband always takes equal responsibility. We make our own breakfasts, I make lunch and he makes dinner, and when guests come we automatically split responsibilities, it is not planned, if he sees me cooking, he will go clean the bathrooms, if I see him vacuuming, I go organize the seating, if he sees me making the entrees, he prepares the dessert. It is not so complicated. Our house is also a mess most of the time but we just clean up before guests arrive so that we don't offer an unpleasant home. Even if our guests' own homes are unclean, they come with an expectation of a tidy home when they visit us, just like we do when we visit them.

[@hellol4045]

Same usually my husband prepared all the meals for guest and I clean the room and wash dishes

[@agplot2479]

Exactly!

[@dee_1023]

Today Brij changed his stand multiple times😂 Zarna and Zoya stole the show 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@ronyboylive6934]

Ya he changed what he meant multiple times to win the argument lol its a typical teenage guy behavior

[@pujakh5934]

Very true!!!!!

[@ElsieAlvares]

Wow such an engaging discussion. Love that the young ones challenged the status quo . Hard pill to swallow for Gen X’ers . Incredible to see how the young Zarg’s have evolved , & to see their confidence . Great podcast . Good takeaways! Hope you all had a wonderful thanksgiving.

[@Iamstillattherestaurant]

Brig's idea of distributing responsibility is a valid point however in reality the practicality behind that should also be taken in consideration . Like Ms Zarna mentioned the who aspect of babysitting a babysitter makes the process more exhausting . Taking a solution oriented approach of now kids also taking the stance of being responsible is a good approach instead of just stating divide responsibility . As an Indian girl myself the casuality behind most of the planning done by men (subtly generalizing) involve ignorant casuality such as not considering food allergies or something like that . Hence , they should be able to step up in order for the the responsibility holders like Zarna to be able to even start thinking about dividing responsibility . PS As a senior applying to college the college "question" and pressure discussed among by zoya and brig is so relatable and right !!

[@AlannaI2502]

Zarna and Zoya were too good . Felt represented as a daughter \woman of the house

[@thejourneyanddiscovery]

Kudos to the kiddos for rooting for no phones during a meal or conversation! Bravo! Go California! Go Stanford!

[@malemnganbiayekpam6789]

Zoya is so kind hearted ❤

[@LSTEdD1]

So interesting that you are discussing ordering food for guests rather than cooking.

[@ronyboylive6934]

Well they did cook the mac cheese n dessert

[@sanjanaali8831]

Zarna you are very lucky to have such a sorted and mature daughter like zoya. So well spoken too. Ditto for veer and Brij as well A grade to zoya for being so sorted at such a young age. And to Zarna and to Shalab for admitting and acknowledging the hard work that she puts in. Veer and Brij were just being typical teen boys in this episode. But it’s good to have different perspectives!

[@remasuresh5186]

OMG!!! This is like our home!!! My son says the same things like Brij and I sound like you where I say ..."Why should I invite you to do things in your own home and why don't you step up!!! " I hear you Zarna ...I hear you!!!

[@monicaonofre8517]

Finalmente algo que podemos disfrutar juntos como familia. Nos sentamos a verlos y después tenemos nuestra propia conversación del tema. Gracias por hacer este contenido, entretenido y valioso para ver y participar. Nos encantan!!! ❤

[@barotarjunita4791]

The most exciting conversation ever! Everybody brought it, kudos Gary fam xoxo

[@tseyang9472]

A+++ to ZOYA AND ZARNA 🎉….BRIJ…u do the work as u r proud of ur home and show respect for the guests.

[@ridhimasrivastava4008]

Zarna and Shalabh. I am so proud how well you have brought up your kids , all three of them. While me and my husband are doing our best to bring up our daughter beautifully but would be so good to know the recipe of bringing up kids who are so self aware and so acknowledging of others .

[@vr7814]

It’s Zarna and Shalabh.

[@t.a.c.2119]

I don’t know if it’s because he’s in college now, but Brij reminds me of me when I thought I was the best mom. That is, before I became a mom! 😂

[@vlu3517]

I loved this episode. Yes Zarna less communication is better😂also very funny . Veer is so funny. Yes Zarna someone has to take initiative and it tends to be the woman that plans, organize and think about the minute details

[@aks2223]

Excellent discussions. Phonebreaks are awesome. Sad that the youngsters did not like it. Their bad. 15 mts of good personal and present conversation and 2 mts break is to catch up on your phone. Great idea. Hope the youngsters learn to appreciate and accept / follow it. Men are MEN. We like to laze around the house. Some are changing - good for them and lucky families.

[@lalitharavindran]

I’m mostly with Zarna and my A grade will mostly go to her. The children don’t seem to care about recognizing their mom.

[@mspatchgrove]

This was the great show! Also everyone got a chance to talk and Zarna was a great listener!!

[@mamtasrivastava4201]

Family dinner needs everyone s engagement.

[@LSTEdD1]

Brij, why don’t you just chip in and help if you think men should help?

[@film1836]

My oh my Veer is EXTREMELY moody & extra punchy this podcast! He definitely is the prince of the family!! Team Zoya & Auntie Zarna - #TheFutureIsFemale ♀️ OMG but also Brij is a pragmatist & future champagne 🍾 socialist!! And Dad sharing his 25 yrs of experience some things need to be learned via lived experience #ThankU for sharing your family with the 🌎!

[@francestan70]

Omg, handsome Beji sounds so much of my sophomore college son, it’s unreal how alike they think! From overdoing things like cleaning the room and bringing a small gift for the host ( Asian we just don’t go to anyone’s house with empty hands)…it’s all too much in his eyes. Zarna, how do you approach conversations with your son about dating preferences, especially when it comes to white and blonde women? And Brji’s example of chimney are so smart that is a solid A grade

[@khyatimehta3640]

A+ to Zoya for preparing food for guests,also she likes to participate in hosting dinner at home.

[@mspatchgrove]

Brij was too much into his looks today!

[@chitradesikan2858]

I really enjoyed this episode.

[@rasikakalwit6457]

This podcast was just sooo UNHINGED!!!!

[@sanjeevmm]

I love how for 44 minutes of the 45 minutes, Brij is primping his hair 😂😂😂

[@rtistkumar]

Brij seems to be in completely different zone😂

[@janemaina1696]

“You create the definitions then you assign yourself number 1!!!” 😂😂😂

[@2ambroadcastnetwerk604]

Brij is getting so gorgeous.

[@djkhush284]

This was a really good conversation with the family!

[@kamyadarji4970]

Obsessed with this podcast ❤️❤️❤️

[@paulinemuthena6545]

Brij we can see you practising your facial expressions on the show.Are you obsessed with your looks????

[@jharash1]

no matter who says wat, i am on zoyas side. Dont let them calshame you 😂

[@LSTEdD1]

Brij said he didn’t want to clean his room, but men should be sharing the work?!?! ☹️

[@journeythefab5808]

Brij Mom will say you host /man of the home will host it .....but when you know? ..the day when you start doing stuff ..if she ask you/men to do it and you do mess up(she knows you will mess up). so you need to prove you/men will not mess up.

[@belamitaguedes5962]

We have a big family 30 in all so we all take a dish for the table. And the people surve have fun play games .mister is right we say lunch urged at 1noon a party is done 4PM.

[@vivianm.varela2602]

Brit hasn’t learned the art of hospitality yet. Of course you must clean before guests come over . It’s part of the ritual of inviting and hosting. It’s not being phony. It’s called being hospitable and caring for your guests. Otherwise don’t host and don’t invite. That kind of life is kinda selfish and lacks color and variety. As a host you have the opportunity to show your gentlemanly manner

[@artbertomedia]

Don't you dare doing another podcast without Veer. This kid is something else. Hahahahahahaha. You should all do a Live Podcast Tour with all of you.

[@rawrimasainxd]

A+++ to Zoya. Brij is being a bit entitled here. I know he's a young boy trying to be a man but oh my god, the entitlement. No one wants to go to a dirty home just because you may live like that. It's about presenting a nice place for the people YOU invited to hang out in. It may not be something that YOU planned for but everyone else around you did it so you could sit around. This is the first time that I'm actually disappointed by Brij (not that it matters to him) but damn... this is so disappointing. He feeds into the idea of women having to do everything. Shalabh is correct that Brij gets to enjoy the benefits of everyones work.

[@chwanahangshing8693]

sooo much fun!!!!

[@jrajbhandari]

I think this family repeatedly gives undeserved A grades to Brij. Zoya was a clear winner here. Brij's arguments were incoherent, at best.

[@krithikaaruna-nh2zw]

I'm on Zoya's side. She shouldn't have to feel family pressure to feel 'sorted' in her life. Especially extended family. I disagree with Zarna. I feel Zara's response is too conservative or traditional and I can no more tell when it is a joke and when it is truly her personality.

[@belamitaguedes5962]

I don't like people going to the rooms .gusts stay in living room

[@LSTEdD1]

Exactly Zarna! Why doesn’t Brij just chip in and help rather than analyzing it?

[@tinaroberts5858]

Lol. I'm a white Canadian, and I have never hosted a formal dinner party. They were always casual.

[@nirawalia1586]

Vote this time for Zarna, Shalab!

[@sjyothsna2000]

Best episode

[@MilanandElla-ke7bg]

I agree with Zarna and Shalab ❤

[@jamesbarajas9224]

Stanford is "Ivy League adjacent", LOL.

[@Halum11]

Veer is the funniest of the bunch

[@lornalewis7262]

I AGREED with BRIJI everything should not be immaculate

[@sanjeevmm]

Zarna, love love love you.

[@KanyaKanya-pj4qe]

It’s time for men to take responsibility and share the work, they don’t need to be asked by the women.

[@belamitaguedes5962]

Veer is the wise owel of your family.

[@srividhya8466]

I am a victim of the phone 😂. So true.

[@adi_malhotra02]

Brij needs to understand when to stop changing his stance to win the argument or not come out as wrong. I'm saying this because I've done this too and it can get really annoying really fast. As for the hosting, this teenage guy behavior that being meticulous or being warm about putting together an event is "not a guy thing" is extremely wrong and I can't wait to see him realize this after he pays his own rent. Zarna, my mom has said the same thing to my dad years ago: "You don't need an invitation to help in your own home" and guess what, he does what he can now considering his work hours compared to earlier when he wouldn't do any house chores. Brij and Veer need to realize this before calling her out on being hell bent on managing everything for an event.

[@KanyaKanya-pj4qe]

I agree with Shalabh regarding the phone.

[@theodoraboura9625]

If you're going to be on your phone at a dinner party, then stay home!!! That's why nobody cares for nobody!!!!!!!

[@vishakhabharti1443]

29:39 time stamp - that’s my favourite part of the podcast - hahahaha 🤣🤣

[@MrBrownnn696]

Very entertaining

[@randalthor69]

23:20 brij just took u-turn or changed what he was saying bcuz everybody disagreed, he went from lets not do anywork to ask men to do half of the work-- i think his first perspective comes from place of laziness and not wanting to do things...

[@ANAMIKASINGH-sm9kh]

I don't think Zoya was confirming with the gender roles, infact she was acknowledging the problem and asking for course correction.

[@LSTEdD1]

Zoya telling everyone what Veer meant when he is sitting right there.🤦🏻‍♀️

[@sadasatyamvada]

People want to enjoy all the family drama associated with others and feel uncomfortable when the attention is directed towards themselves🤔

[@GeneticWorks]

😂😂😂 50 episodes in and this pod is getting BETTTERRRR

[@alezandradavila2581]

Exactly

[@mitinammoyong]

Zoya is pissed and brij point view is also reasonable.

[@reeko9278]

I loved loved this ....men have to do their chores themselves than being told that's one lazy ass excuse 🎉

[@LSTEdD1]

It is distracting to see Brij constantly using the screen as a mirror.

[@sanjeevmm]

As much as I truly enjoy watching these episodes as soon as they drop, Shalabh should speak with a little respect, not talk down and stop cutting people off, that too with something inane or uninspired.

[@eo-fi3fh]

[@lornalewis7262]

BRIJI A GRADE

[@raj-xh7bf]

Why is Brij always covering up his mouth and mustache?

[@tinaroberts5858]

Zarna GETS AAAAAAAA+++++++...

[@ANAMIKASINGH-sm9kh]

Boys are being so convenient here

[@nazirhamirani]

You should have vlogged or made a reel of the thanksgiving dinner…There is no proof you’ll hosted this dinner or just making conversation out of the topic

[@sanjeevmm]

😂

[@sadasatyamvada]

Ordering food from ten different places. How is that hosting? America

[@paulinemuthena6545]

Zoya is so dramatic.

[@Iamstillattherestaurant]

sharing ones own views passionately is dramatic yay

[@user-gt2pn4vt4j]

Ordering food for a family meal is repulsive to me. You should treat people to a home-cooked meal

[@raj-xh7bf]

Not when Zarna is as busy as she is with overloaded bookings.