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[@Siacourage]

When a person shows you who they are, believe them *the first time* - Maya Angelou

[@Real2k25]

Exactly

[@karldrock3135]

😭

[@unodos2007]

@@karldrock3135 hard to accept sometimes ain’t it lol but this is good advice

[@seedofisrael1356]

Facts!

[@catlover9680]

100% once you see under the mask! Run!!!!

[@sabrinaraphael4816]

Never take them back it only gets worse

[@pippipster6767]

Oh yes ... Punishment time. And since you’ve seen them without the mask it comes off even quicker this time. Properly nasty people.

[@lili8686z]

Hell yea, everytime i went back the shit got worse...

[@craigmertz5688]

Ohhhh absolutely.....100%

[@Real2k25]

Facts

[@constancebarton2399]

LeeLee8686 Exactly

[@katrinacollins2983]

You can't even have a conversation with them, not a decent one

[@courtneyamron5460]

Yes!

[@sheilatripp2141]

Lol so true just finding out the man I have been with for a while now is a narracists and before coming across these nacarrists video I knew nothing about them. Everything you say is soooo true.

[@dlb2837]

OMG - so so true. SMDH!!

[@noelymarie]

NEVER!

[@DouradaBambina]

True

[@barbie6695]

Even The Bible tells us that when the demon comes and sees the house swept up, clean and in order, the demon goes and brings in seven more demons into the house, who are worst than him, and then the person of the house, will be in a worser state of mind than they were the very first time.

[@deniseshields6880]

They aren't nothing but a stinking Hefford

[@deniseshields6880]

Triflin Heford

[@TheRealDee82]

Amen

[@goldenlady1213]

You are ABSOLUTELY right! Thank you for this PERFECT BIBICAL reminder.

[@ASE_Avenue]

Keep a AR-15 and dipped the hollows in holy water

[@AliciaMitch1978]

10x worse every time I let him come back. Hario is right. They only want back in just to prove that they can. Once they are back in they will soon turn right back into the fool you always knew they were.

[@veda24]

Alicia S. Yes indeed!!! You are so right!!! So if the narc shows up, just say let me help you out. This time around I refuse to allow you to use me so to keep karma from kickin Yo behind stay away from me.

[@crystalbush5273]

Facts !!!

[@ulricaduncan5790]

After 23 years I always knew what he was doing.He had 9 kids fooled.Now that their grown they say momma when you gone leave...I've discarded him it been 2 months.Okay I went back a women knocked on the door telling me her and him been together.That he told her that I'm his wife we don't have sex,and that he was gone leave me for her.He was just looking at her as if she was nothing,I just listened to the things she had to say.Really she was a downgrade,she said tell her it's over you gone marry me.He looked at her as if she was nothing told her to leave.Then he tell me it was a prank.After all the shit I've been through with him I've never had a women come to our house.Any other time just someone saying that he was cheating I ready to fight.But this time I just kept my calm...Now he's talking about moving in a new house this that and another...Whatever it's just the same bull year after year our kids are grown it's time for me...

[@suckafree6195]

You right I let him back after my replacement put him out and he came back twice the drunk violent punk. SENT ME TO ER TWICE. I pressed charges he sat in jail 6 months. Now his new soulmate going cray cray. They break up constantly. Tried hovering me by sending his mail to my house. He lives in a halfway house for recovering drunks. Thank God I ain’t the one anymore.

[@veda24]

Princesskookoo I thank God with you and for your strength of moving on with the rest of your blessed life!!!

[@koffisingleton1880]

They are the devil. They have no good in them they are put on this earth to divide conquer & destroy. The person they pretended to be in the begin of the relationship does not exist you will never see that person again. Don’t turn back ever. Stay strong & move on. ❤️❤️❤️

[@lucoh75]

Absolutely agree with u

[@Leela11116]

do they ever seem almost SELFLESS and SACRIFICING in the beginning?

[@AriaJade-ys2tq]

💯💯💯

[@LadybugPhil413]

You are 100% correct! At the time of the Hoover, I did not know he was a narcissist. Took him back and he did the same cheating (different girl the 2nd time), lying, game playing and the second time was worse. He wasted years of my life and if I had it to do over........ I would have never entertained him. Ever! Not one good thing came from being with him. Do better! Delete everything, block and Move On. God will heal you and make up for the wasted time. 💜

[@lipslearn8798]

Good advice thanks

[@Nita-n4d]

sounds like we dated the same person lmaooop

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Lisa Jones,you are too pretty to be with a narcissist!

[@lioydwilliams1850]

@@LadybugPhil413 which country are you from?

[@lioydwilliams1850]

@@LadybugPhil413 which country are you from?

[@juliusgriffin1660]

A narc is like a never ending maze full of b.s

[@keplermission4947]

Making you know, comparisons like that is stupid. What do you know about narcs?

[@janinehazzard6294]

Perfect example

[@thequeenb6156]

Pretty much

[@juliusgriffin1660]

It's not stupid because there always running around like a rat in a maze..I stayed with him not knowing his next dumb move. He blamed my son for things he didn't do. Thanks I'm 2yrs narc free n finally happy. Thanks 😊

[@juliusgriffin1660]

I'm finally putting me first

[@dianatucker8077]

Well I’m truly blessed I have allowed God to remove this narcissist out of my life . I thank him everyday

[@gabrielnadia1085]

Wahou ! Ameeeeeeeen !!!

[@dtanner70]

Yes they get bold and very disrespectful on things they say 🤯

[@pippipster6767]

Oh yes 💯

[@BeautyQueen_80]

They get extremely disrespectful. Awful beings

[@itsall_coming_down]

My ex bf would say horrible things to make me cry then laugh at me. He would say “Call your parents. Oh I forgot they’re dead.” He is the true spawn of satan.

[@christianaobiyan4224]

They say horrendously evil things that is calculated to make the faint hearted start having suicidal thoughts . They are wicked spirits bent on destruction of good souls !!

[@roseannebarrzz4509]

Narc Abuse will age you....The moment I stopped caring 7 years ago...my age started reversing.....Now that I moved away and been Narc free 4 months...now my bank account is reversing ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ my vibrations are up and so is my manifesting........Never will I go back or devalue myself 🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠

[@ericabroussard3723]

Yess sis i agree 👍

[@unodos2007]

Amen!!!! For some reason so many good things happened to me when I detached from that person

[@sweetpea7117]

Same! I totally lost myself. Self care just gone out the window. Gained weight, wasent getting my hair or nails done. Like I did before dating him. I just left back in April and he has been hovering soo much. I come back to videos like this because it helped me leave and is helping me stay strong and remeber why I left in the1st place. I come to the realization that completely blocking him and going no contact is going to have to be the move smh becuase he will never let go.

[@lizhicks7562]

Real Talk!!!!!!!

[@amylynne661]

If they get you back watch out they will abuse you like you never thought possible...

[@jukd4213]

Like why would you wanna deal with someone who don’t like you...I can say this was not expected

[@rhondalegget63]

After leaving the Narc and moving to another state, the Narc begged {loved bombed) me back to him and wanted to get married. I moved back 2,000 miles just to find out he was love bombing every woman in his cell phone. Not only did the Narc trick me, but when i confronted him about the other women he threaten to kill me. I regret giving him another chance thinking it would be the best interest for our child. I had to disappear and relocate. Listen to your inner voice and don't be fooled!!!

[@HelloKitty-sq2jo]

IKR they will make you feel like your the only one come to find out he’s been saying the same to all the women smh to see witch one will be the first to give in

[@tonyasmith1715]

it is never the best for your child. i have a 17 yr old. i have full custody. but she is also a narcissit

[@SAJA407]

That's the kind of behavior that makes them think they are up on top

[@latashaalexander4019]

Yes its so bad, I have to relocate!!!

[@lionsimba723]

@@tonyasmith1715 how do you deal with your own child being a narcissist? I’ve just found out that my 7 year old daughter is a covert narcissist

[@tiffanywilliams2863]

The statement that cuts the most is when you said we "have a high tolerance for mistreatment". Just makes me want to cry..

[@sunshineleigh8146]

Exactly! They right there got to me too!

[@marciehoffman6333]

I noted that as well 🥲

[@samonecharisma3043]

That is sad

[@JessicaRamirez91622]

We have feelings/emotions they arent capable of. Dont let them back to tske even more of that. Took him back 3x and got worse each time.

[@pippipster6767]

Much worse than that. The N is sadistic.

[@patriciawhite9509]

Yes it does!!!

[@newyearcloud5955]

Yeah

[@dailypaywithkim]

They are not like us. Never really sorry for anything.

[@ItzGoddess2u]

Yep, my tears didn't even exist. My feelings meant nothing to him when he would hurt me. He wanted to see me down & out.

[@dailypaywithkim]

@@ItzGoddess2u so sorry you went through that. 💗

[@ItzGoddess2u]

@@dailypaywithkim Thank you. The best thing to do is to leave them & never look back.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

@@dailypaywithkim hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too precious!

[@stylegirl7368]

Never really sorry

[@thequeenb6156]

These people are so toxic. Stay away from them...

[@setellanoble4983]

I hope Every One who gets hoovered with the Narcs lies, see through the bs and don't go back. You've already been through hell, its time to love yourself and keep going forward, create a new normal and when the Narc says I want you back, say well people in hell want a glass of ice water but that's not going to happen, So keep it pushing. Go No Contact if you can and for those that has children by a Narc, set up boundaries.

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

Thanks

[@jackiejones4029]

Stay no contact and don't answer the hoover👇 they only want attention

[@lindasharpe7039]

😂

[@wulfclaw4921]

Thanks for your wisdom in this. It explains things. She told me the ** she was in before were all terrible bad and abusive. She told me once "I'm not a liar" "I am evil" another time. You are right, it gets so horriffic. Tell me what is it that makes me still wish things would work out ? Do they have Narc survivor groups ? Your new sub, my friend, Wulfy I dont know what is it like

[@setellanoble4983]

@@wulfclaw4921 stay tuned.

[@hide_and_go_sikh]

My narcissist wife might want me back so she can hurt me more and that's not happening.

[@nikkyluv2244]

Hell yes.... hoovering in progress after he discarded me.... please get the hell on .. NO CONTACT

[@staceyboyd4531]

They do beg you to come back and then they act worse. It gets worse every time you go back to them.

[@heatherlynn3438]

Giving up hope on the narcissist is the key 🔑

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

I've taken her back more than once. The disrespect and lies were worse EVERYTIME!!! Stay no contact people!!!

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

@Wayne Johnson Not worth it. Sex is just one of the tools to hoover you back in and IF you do, be mindful that you are being put on a shelf with others and you WON'T be the only one being sexed up. Sometimes, I've been tempted but I think about the misery and drama that comes along with it so NO !!! If you'll be patient, you will have better to come your way. Don't settle for a "feel good moment" and end up being sorry you did.

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

@Wayne JohnsonFirst off, congrats on being no contact for a year. I know exactly how you feel because I spent 5 years in this with her and trust me, you're feeling the "trauma bond." You've got to keep busy, brother. Get in that Word of God and ask Him for direction. Regardless of who you pray to, you have to find a happy balance of work and fun (positive and clean) and work on yourself. Don't try and rush into a relationship....you should be self-respecting yourself. Don't allow people to disrespect you and feel ok with the crumbs they give you. Once you discover that you have to show people how you are to be treated and accept NOTHING less, you'll be in a MUCH BETTER place.

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

@Wayne Johnson Thanks for the compliment. I've lived these so I believe that I'm gifted to speak on them so that I can help others as well. As for the social media, I advise stop following her. She knows you're looking and that's why she's posting. It's all a facade, brother. There is NO SUCH THING as a Narc being happy. They will ALWAYS find a way to mess up the relationship. I don't care what the photos, texts, screenshots or voicemails say. The same way she poisoned your relationship, she is doing the same...if not worse....with this person she posting. Remember, Narcs only show you the "highlight reel" but they NEVER show you the "behind the scenes" footage. I know PLENTY of happily married and involved couples and none of them post up on social media anywhere half as much as a narcissist. Happy people LIVE their lives...not post up on social media every other minute.

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

@Wayne Johnson No problem man. I understand about the low hanging fruit and them taking anyone who does what they say. To be honest, both her and I are extremely attractive and usually get compliments by friends and strangers how well we look together but these narcs STILL want to sabotage a great relationship for someone they can can run game on. Remember, what you see on social media is a smoke screen. They taking pictures online and fighting in real life. She wants you to get jealous and come back just to hurt you because you gave her a huge hit to her ego. Remember, narcs need us....we don't need them.

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

@Wayne Johnson Yeah, I watch to A LOT of ASSC Direct videos. That brother also enlightens me too.

[@kekeg2370]

Described it to a tee! They enjoy getting you back just to hurt you again. Your “only” option is to get gone and “stay” gone. God will send you someone that provides you the right kind of love 💕

[@nikkyluv2244]

My narc discarded me for the last time just a week ago. N I've had so much anxiety this week beca i wanted the Hoover over with....well its here.. just the day before I hope to file..... blocked numbers, voicemails, but I will NOT break no contact.... I want to LIVE

[@denisej.smith-perry4949]

Stay strong I'm w you day 3 tomorrow

[@nikkyluv2244]

@@denisej.smith-perry4949 we can do this

[@lipslearn8798]

It’s hard as hell but don’t contact him. Every time you do you will feel worse

[@PD-fe7dz]

@@nikkyluv2244 you sure can!!!🙂

[@jukd4213]

4 days for me.... Tryna do the whole 2021 it’ll be hard tho 🥺

[@shannon1542]

Facts 💯 Fake people can't purchase authentic relationships with genuine people that shine so bright !

[@mbstephens8034]

Yep, and it just gets worse and worse.

[@laphawnewatt1812]

They hate you, they believe that you are superior and that you shine they want to take your shine and break you down they know you have taken your power back so now they want to take your strength so they can shine ,they want your energy

[@loiswhite1834]

People stay as long as they do because it’s hard to imagine that anyone is really as awful as these people actually are. Some are supremely adept at pretending to be honorable, respectable, respectful, kind and generous, maintaining a public image of credibility. You are introduced to a completely different person if you marry them. The push to have children is not love or a desire to have a deeper connection. It’s about controlling your career options and trying to diminish your independence. It will always be about control. Once you recognize them for who they really are, GET OUT! It won’t get better; it only gets worse. They are viciously sick people. Save yourself.

[@christianaobiyan4224]

Sooooo true!! It is almost unbelievable to an emphatic souls what these beings turn out to be . Get out and save yourself !!

[@Trophy27]

1 week and 2 days no contact. I pray God helps keep me strong everyday. This demon has taken my good energy, my free spirit, my sanity. I’am slowly getting it back, getting stronger with the grace of God. I so thank you for these videos and all the people telling their stories of how they’ve survived narcissistic abuse. May God be with us all.

[@itstori6030]

Amen

[@ShayLove84Fam1st]

Amen

[@desireestrong9384]

Amen

[@SunshinesSoapbox]

OMG...you are so right! I did have a high tolerance for mistreatment of his nonsense! He still calls and texts, to "check on me," since we no longer talk. LOL...boy bye!! So glad I have finally given up on him! I deserve better!! Thanks for these reminder videos!!

[@syelling1976]

Amen amen

[@keplermission4947]

Haha, 'deserve' has nothing to do with it. Hee Hee, 'glad'. Get a smile on your face Sunshine.

[@gabbyrizo6415]

Sunshine's Soapbox Omg mine Ex Narc does the same...Pops up Every month on the dot, I got a message 2 days ago but I know cuz it's his bday today 🙄 He ain't getting NO HAPPY BDAY AT ALL! No Sr. I might just post a pix of me having a drink and enjoying my New BEST LIFE 🤭😝💁‍♀️

[@gabbyrizo6415]

Sunshine's Soapbox ✌️ ✌️ ✌️ I'm sure I'll get the Oh so you forgot my bday 😔 Ima say NO! I just didn't care 🤷‍♀️

[@stylegirl7368]

I get the same ‘checking on you text’ omg. #wokenow

[@ElleBthere]

Been divorced from my narc ex-husband for three years now. Two weeks ago, literally two days before my 30th birthday, he professed his love to me and told me that he misses me. Every year he would give my two year old daughter a gift to give to me for my birthday. Since I didn’t tell him that I loved him back, and shut him down, I didn’t get anything for my birthday lmao. He thought that was his way of punishing me but God is going to continue to avenge me.

[@codebluthree]

I have won and I will keep winning! You guys will too 😘

[@artmeacademywiththesaltyse9537]

“You don’t believe It, even as you’re living it”. Just to torture, not the right thing. - wisdom here. Thank you.

[@twatfisher3]

To them it's a power trip. The thought of them, to be able to yoyo us, excites them. They thrive upon, control.. Little has it, we cannot even be friends with them. Unless u like friends that use, lie, hide things, be secretive, sneaky, shikesty & undercover. Who also really hates you on the down low but loves ur energies, the way u make them feel secured, listen to their complaints, lies, problems & console them, so be it then but not me. I just can't. It's why my circle is so small, it's almost a dot . 💯.. Value urselves. 👍

[@mikaarose5155]

If you think horribly about yourself you attracted people like Narcs and other low vibrational people change how think raise your energy

[@MultiSassydee]

This is absolutely correct

[@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm]

@ Mikka Not all the time Queen, Narcissist TARGET people who have VALUE which is why they try to DEVALUE you. Narcs get more enjoyment from tearing down confident people, or people who have success because they envy those types of people. They don’t get as much pleasure out of beating down on people who are already beating down on themselves. They usually discard people they feel have low self esteem or lack confidence. The thrill for them is to BRING people down to their level, down to the PITS of hell, so they can feel better about themselves, they can feel uplifted as if Satan gives them a promotion for every soul they help destroy. I’m sure he pats them on the back and tells them Good Job… as they long for the attention from their Father in hell. They are sick demons dwelling in darkness who are attracted to your LIGHT. Narcs are attracted to the LOVE in you (something they can’t produce) Narcs are attracted to the GOOD in you, The righteousness in You, because they are our rivals, they are filled with wickedness and everything opposite of us.

[@lauren4434]

Yeah, he said to me, "Why are you even with me? You can do so much better." Why was I so incredibly blind in believing he was wrong? I had to go through an exorcism of my inner martyr. I'm SO HAPPY to be WAKING UP and becoming a WARRIOR! 🙏 🔥

[@cryptocoinscafe7479]

“Yes they want you Back!! Yes!!! They want you back to torture YOU!!!!” This is soooooooooo True!!!! Spot On!

[@melanindoll5657]

My narc has claimed he’s a demon more than once

[@isabellapez]

The one I deal with said that the devil is not as bad as they say😱 when he is drunk he also says he’s a incubus . Living nightmare trying to divorce him . God help me 🙏

[@erikakerber3258]

He told me something similar he said lm evil and me what ??

[@erikakerber3258]

I loved him you don’t know how much and he took advantage of me but it was my fault believing in a future together

[@melanindoll5657]

Wow, these people are revealing their true selves to us right in front of our eyes. What evil beings. I pray you all find happiness and peace ❤️

[@amandi6425]

mine has a tattoo of a devil’s head on his arm! he knows who he is.

[@bflores3944]

It's messed up when you are still in that genuine state of hope & you are still attached. Yet they moved on like nothing. It's mostly our ego's that want to believe their lies. But it's a sick slow torturing process. My ex did too much, kept the new supply hidden for 1yr. Then when I found out the dynamics changed. But there was still that push pull. It was a nightmare. Thankfully I never let him come through my boundaries!!! It was hard & still is. But I now know it's all fake garbage. Cognitive dissonance is abuse. I pray every night for God to heal, renew & replenish my heart❤🙏

[@davidjthayer7417]

Yes and Amen !!!!

[@tonyasmith1715]

Im the super empath. He is afraid of me. I know what hurts him . I know his weaknesses. Im not afraid even though i should be. I look forward to it.

[@jonesfredrick94]

You still need to watch out

[@tonyasmith1715]

Try 22 years

[@jonesfredrick94]

@@tonyasmith1715 Wow your amazing to keep pushing on

[@royalqueen2434]

@@barbieg7718 lying for 32 years

[@barbieg7718]

royal queen oh hell nooo

[@beautifullove2394]

It always felt like a nightmare when the mask was off. You can't believe it's your reality that the person who was suppose to be the love of your life hates you and wants to break you. Never take them back, mine ended up betraying me by hurting my family. It literally felt like someone was stabbing me in my heart. Never been hurt that bad in my life.

[@lilyofthevalley4435]

Met my narc in the barber shop. He became my barber and after love bombing me, I became his lover. He is in fact 14 years my junior and I thought that he was mature. Sex was amazing. We bonded and I thought we were friends. He also told sad stories about his childhood. I felt so sorry. I started to love him and thought he loved me, but I was only supply and for him it was transactional. After 1 year of being lied to, neglected, ignored. He would disappear for months and I would have to go looking for him, he would return seemingly so happy to be back but had no explanation for his disapearance. I bought gifts, acknowledged him on holidays but I got NOTHING in return. EVER. No happy birthday, money, Christmas gifts, nothing. I lost 40 lbs and he NEVER once complimented me. Or even acknowledged it. I felt crushed. I would ask him to take me somewhere, never would and then brag about taking someone else right to my face. When I found these videos, I found out what I was dealing with. I went no contact for 2 months. he hoovered, I caved in let him back, he treated me worse, left my home one morning and discarded me completely. Never returning. I thought he was dead. Until I realized what he did. I was hurt, isolated, I felt dirty and stupid at my age for falling for this clown. He has since ( a month ago) been spotted driving around with new, younger supply and it sent my heart in a tail spin. But I thanked GOD for removing this evil presence from my life. I really still cant believe it, but if it werent for these videos I would still be his door mat. NEVER let them back. They dont love, they don't care, and dont deserve you. I now know I have been with 3 narrcisist in my life. One female and she was the devil. My eyes are now wide open to these psychopaths.

[@arielmcbayfiocski9797]

I had your almost exact story …. I was married ti mine .. she was my wife and 14 years younger than me … always gave me stories if a empty childhood and a jezebel mom! She even talked bad about her mom …. But teamed up with her to drive me crazy! Hovered me so bad would literally drive me to work and sit outside 12 hours my whole shift! She finally left day after Xmas this year and I have been sad at moments but I’m thankful fir goin no contact! Still married to her and she won’t discuss divorce or nothin just in limbo! She is bitter now thought i would be fighting for my marriage like before and begging back no ma’am!!! I was the gift and trophy successful beautiful , natural pretty hair, teeth, my own money with nice body! Narc came along even my appearance changed!! I went no contact all of a sudden money get better, back beautiful and opportunity open again! STAY AWAY FROM THEM!!!! CHIN UP AND FIGHT EVERY URGE TO CONTACT THEM!!! I was the trophy and lifeline to their entire being! When I stated to speak up and demand things like respect, protection, providing all hell broke loose then I realized I was nothin more than the sexy driven trophy woman that provided a lifestyle they could not give themselves. I didn’t mean more to them than anyone else even though this what they said…. She bitter and hates me now for taking a stand. I refuse to be treated like an option when n fact I’m the best and most higher achieved grown and sexy spiritual gifted being!!! I can’t ever settle or let something so poorly made mistreat me!!!!! NEVER AGAIN…. She so afraid to face me now to even say one word she knows I’m a super Empath now and she can’t touch me or fuck with me on any level. I vowed to keep moving up and that’s what I’ll do!! I walk in favor and authority. She can kick rocks with all that new low vibrating supply she got now! Let people know you fumble me it’s settle season now! Good luck and boss up! Let him know what He missing!!!! You the prize never forget it

[@narcshatetheylovemenhtlm3627]

Sometimes they say crap like “your actions caused the reaction that you got” whether your actions are good or bad. Their agenda is still to mistreat us

[@jonesfredrick94]

She use to tell me that

[@narcshatetheylovemenhtlm3627]

🤦🏽‍♀️ wowzers!! 😂 they are twisted

[@MrSwaggOn]

Exactly what i got. "Your words were the results of my actions"... that was her slipping up saying she cheated.

[@MrSwaggOn]

I still have the message.

[@CopperColouredQueen]

Dang so true.

[@AugustAdvice]

my narc ex literally told me once "When I get angry, I turn into a demon." I should have fled for the hills then but I just laughed it off. He WAS scary when he got angry, zero empathy, full rage mode. Even yelled like a child throwing a temper tantrum once, that was so ugly.

[@nidiaking]

Always a “woe is me” story with Narcs, I swear.

[@carol-xk3lq]

Yep once a liar always a liar. They have no integrity. Let them play by themselves.

[@dub1951]

Being with a narc is like doing time for a crime you did,nt commit be your own judge and jury and set yourself free. i DID She hoovered me to go back i never will she can go take a long walk off a short pier

[@myaallure8780]

Thank you for this! I just broke it off with my “boyfriend”, we were only together for like 2 MONTHS. The first time I seen him change and take that mask off, I knew there was something wrong and not healthy or replenishable about the relationship. This all makes sense, and I actually feel so sorry for this person. He grew up abused by his parents, and he expressed that to me. I tried to understand him and gave him one chance, but he over stepped my boundary and couldn’t simply apologize to me. Someone that claimed to “love me”, would never treat me like that. I am hurt because I was deceived... but I’m not going to go back..

[@demianabishara4470]

how did you move on???

[@sysye]

I'm glad you only wasted 2 months of your life and u saw the signs early on

[@lizp5449]

I ended one in the summer reef flags everywhere,yesterday he called from different number,blocked

[@pippipster6767]

Once you acquire all the detailed knowledge on the narcissist, their games and tricks don’t fool you anymore. It’s like knowing how a magic act works. Once you know, it’s boring.

[@missj2045]

Spot on! Fell for the hoovers a few times before I got it. As soon as you're back and let your guard down, the narc will break up with you and blame you. They'll say, "You promised to change, but you didn't so I'm gone." It's all about lifting you up and throwing you back down to keep the trauma bond tight. Be strong! Know that any contact from them is only so they can set you up to hurt you again. From the words "hey, what's up?" Don't buy it!

[@maestephens5687]

I dont want him back he is a sorry person. He can't have this back. He burned this bridge February. So long farwell alvetisain. He is so evil God have mercy on His soul.

[@annrangiahuaclose2239]

In the beginning my brain screamed to take them back but I remembered how bad it was and how he never bought me anything. That made me realize he never cared

[@louiseboyd8896]

No birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's day, etc....no celebration of life accomplishments because I am the only one growing in spite of him.....narcs are lazy.....

[@Vanessa-ui6iv]

You are so right when the mask is off He was so disrespectful it is beyond words and your right I couldn't believe. He would tell me right out he was a Creep.

[@faithing88]

I have had enough! he always pulled and pushed, he wants to be in a relationship the doesn't. I would beg and plead, for 5years I was in this dance. No more! I found myself. I was single for 7 years and met him and it's 5 years old hell. I almost lost myself

[@meltemo.4139]

When my ex discarded me i literally saw his mask come off and i saw his reptile eyes. He started off with "don't you think if i wanted to see you more i would have? why did you think i was seeing my friends more and not you?" and "If i wanted to make it work and if i wanted to put in effort, we would have gotten through those hard times, i just didn't want to." and "i never felt a spark with you." and also he asked for the gifts he gave me back like a gold necklace and i gave it all. Then i told him about about the time he said "pick which ever ring you want, don't come to me years later saying i didn't want this one" when we were picking out engagement rings. I reminded him that he said this and he said "i never said that, i'm don't have the type of personality to say that." and then switched it to "i didn't say that at the store i said it on the phone to you." These people are crazy.

[@batboy.]

Is that you in the picture. Baby you can do way better

[@ninath13]

Just fn Nasty

[@lorrain4646]

He ass was just jealous of you. Your are a beautiful person, and do not forget that. Keep your focus in life, you got this🥰🥰🥰. Bless you!!!

[@lorrain4646]

Reptile eyes....yeah he is a snake for sure

[@kimberlytoler3061]

And I dont want him back!!!

[@oscarwilliamson1128]

Kimberly Toler,You only need a good man in your life ……

[@veda24]

Zero tolerance for foolishness in this season!!!

[@Lizz.13.13]

I left him.... it killed me emotionally... but my spirit was rejecting him no matter how much I wanted to stay... I couldn't stay... I couldn't do it. I loved him more than anyone I ever have in my life. Even though I am sad... I am questioning everything... even myself... wondering if I am crazy... since I left him... the universe has been BLESSING me... literally. You are rightttt!!!!! He did downgrade... badly!!!! Even though I struggle... I know I can never go back... he came back after 4 years... I let him back. I could only do it for 5-6 months before I had to let it go... it killed me to do it... but my soul MADE me.

[@hide_and_go_sikh]

If my narcissist wanted me back they wouldn't have hurt me so bad.

[@hztaylor1]

I understand the feeling ...but be great full .it’s a blessing in disguise believe me think of it this way. God has so much love for me that he wants better for me

[@pippipster6767]

💯

[@myutube5882]

Like Hario said, they DO want us back - to abuse us some more! Stay No Contact! It's the only way to go!

[@louiseboyd8896]

@D Frazier it doesn't matter what phase we are in.....it's all a nightmare......all of it.......

[@tracieflesher5181]

I had went back many times in our 10 year marriage. The narc always saying he’ll treat me better... all lies. I had finally had enough and filed for divorce dec 2019... I’ve been away from him since feb 2020 and have never felt better. Divorce was finalized sept 17th. I didn’t know how I was gonna feel when I seen the narc, but I walked into court feeling great,looking great with my chin held high....He didn’t break this girl 🙌🏼

[@CopperColouredQueen]

Congrats and good for you Tracie. I'm going through a divorce now. May God continue to bless your life and your journey.

[@tracieflesher5181]

Fenecia Marteen stay strong! It does get easier! Good luck to you!

[@kierrademus8092]

Congrats on moving on and yes god is good🙌🏿

[@AliciaMitch1978]

Good job @Tracie Snodgrass

[@tracieflesher5181]

Alicia S. Thank you!

[@rdbridge9376]

Brother you are speaking! It was several times worse going back. Once the narc found out the prescription (me) was wearing off things turned for the worse. Rage.. anger.. lies... smearing. It's so tough because most empaths attract narcs. The narc knows how much an empath or codependent person cares and they will use it to their advantage. Try exposing a narc let them know that you know about them... and see how fast they don't want to be with you no more.

[@deandreadevinehorne1853]

Once I got my peace back I can't part with it for no damn body

[@jaslyn5501]

Facts.

[@cathy_clarinet]

Hi Hario! It’s their nature to think the grass is greener, always on the hunt, but he was lucky I talked to him at all, let alone fell for him and all his bullshit. Omg - the hard luck stories!!! Exactly!!! That’s how I’d get hoovered back, I couldn’t withstand it. Health issues, his Mom, the world might end, his job might end etc etc..... and abused childhood too. Exactly what you’re saying

[@maryanngray4519]

That's the main reason I won't go back because I know how they r

[@kendraphic87]

Just a few weeks ago, I as extremely suicidal.. passively though. I really hope I can heal from this... I feel so emotionally, mentally and spiritually broken. I pray I’m healed. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody.

[@tinastewart2146]

All I can is, pray and cry out to God every day to heal you. I was at that moment too, I’m not fully healed but I’m better than where I was. Trust me it was all God, I couldn’t do it and nobody understand how I felt but God. Please don’t give up!!

[@kendraphic87]

Tina Stewart thanks so much..🙏🏿

[@Daleisdaman]

It takes time. I’m currently at a year no contact and when I was going through I felt suicidal and felt so embarrassed. I sought therapy and focused on putting that energy and focus into myself. You will heal and possibly forgive. But just never ever look back or look for closure from them. They are toxic and damaged individuals

[@rodatriplett3296]

That's true Mr. Hario. I love my brother and sister ss...and they tried to kill me. I send narcissus people to me. They are jealous and wants me to feel in life. I find joy in my spiritual walk and my bible studies keeps my Sanity.

[@bethgregory5202]

You are spot-on! It took me months to let him worm his way back into my life! He took me out to breakfast, he took me out to dinner as he played it cool! He promised to work on his anger issues and go to counseling and even attended two sessions! Then I ended up in the hospital with a bleeding ulcer and he showed up like a knight in shining armor then won my heart back! That lasted for one more year and it became another year of hell! I've now been no contact for 10 months and it's been the most peaceful I've had in the last three years that I was with him! They do not change, PERIOD!!

[@ms.j6989]

So on point! Not only do the Narcissists have an on point story from their past, their toxicity includes regular, daily bouts. They live with so much turmoil that once they determine you will continue to deal with them no matter what they do, they keep on coming back whether you ask them to or not.

[@tspoetry5392]

This is so true! Each time I went back it became worst. He became so bold, by telling me about the other women and all. He was in the inbox of a classmate whom he knew I was working out with. I asked him if he was trying to sleep with all the females in our class, he just laughed. Tried just being friends with him, but of course I knew that wasn't gonna work. I thank God that I'm no longer wrapped up in him like I use to be! Feels so freeing! I finally decided to block and go NC because of a disrespectful so call joke that was just the final punch for me. I do forgive him for everything. I definitely pray for him, but everything will be from a distance. Working on me so I will discern this spirit from a mile away. #keeppushing #WEWIN ❤🙌💪

[@newyearcloud5955]

Seriously all of sudden it's okay to talk about other men around me . And they admit horrible things with ease... Shes actually allowed me to hear her say to someone she went to a sex party. Honestly these type of women make men disrespect women . I've witnessed her do things that completely baffle me . . Either I adapt or I leave . I don't think I'll be able to adapt ..trying to at least leave in a good note

[@kimlogan1278]

Love every second of this video. You described those Narc Demons to the T! I made big mistake of taking my ex Narc back after 12 years living my best life. He had found a new supply and I guess that didn't work out. I knew it wouldn't because he was incapable of showing love to anyone, even his own children.

[@kekebeauty9380]

I want love & I also like having a peaceful mind smh

[@alisonallen8926]

Oh my gosh! What an eye-opener video! I have been experiencing this bs behavior for the last three years - triangulated with the new supply. I am the grade A - the one that got away (I discarded him), however, I have that exact feeling "I haven't given up on him" that keeps me in the hoover game. When he fights with his new supply, he surfaces with the baby tears, love letters, silly gifts, etc. and tells me how is life sucks with her and her kids. Mind you, he has no where to go...can't hold down a job, no place to live, abuses drugs - so it's a landing pad that he's after. I find myself feeling sorry for him because I feel that he was not like this when we first met (of course, he had me at the love bomb) and we have a connection - well that's his false narrative - the mask came off and this is where he's at. I also got caught up in spying on him and the new supply to see if he was actually playing us AGAIN - so crazy consuming behavior and dangerous. Hario, you woke me up today as I have been struggling with the BLOCK and NO CONTACT and realize that I must absolutely put this into motion if I am going to ever have peace in my life. I need to take the emotion out of it and put myself first.

[@rasharae3496]

So true...each time i allowed him back the mask came off sooner and quicker...5yrs with one narc and 8 with another..narc free and im loving it

[@Beawil646]

Definitely worse ..a nightmare I couldn’t believe I was in and fought to make it work not realizing it was a losing battle

[@letstalktruecrime01]

They will especially try to get you back if you are in a new happy relationship. They want to prove that they can take you. Once they have you they grow tired. I compare it to a child in a store throwing a tantrum for a toy then they never play with it.

[@hazzyandbunbun]

He told me once that he knows he's a poisonous creature! So true!!

[@chrissiology]

sachick36 damnn 🤣 they know themselves

[@hazzyandbunbun]

@@chrissiology not often will he make comments like that but when he's right here he's right LOL

[@gabbyrizo6415]

So Soooo SOOOOOOOO TRUE! Everytime I went back it only took a day or 2 and the mask came right off...I have Anxiety Panic attacks and PTSD because of the Narc... PEOPLE! Just run 🏃‍♀️ while you can, They do not change! I repeat THEY DOOO NOOTT CHAANNGGEEE!!!

[@kimberlytoler3061]

What I figured out I gave him trust and trust and he always broke it. I had my aha moment ( dont never give someone trust again when they never did the first time)

[@louiseboyd8896]

I am at the phase now where he's really testing me.....he held back during last 1 minute check in phone call because I changed up rhe conversation and grey rocked him.....I had a greyrock chip on my shoulder, but I was congenial about it.....he wants a fight using gaslighting....we can kill them with kindness......he doesn't know what to do when he can't read me....I'm learning how to change up the conversation and emasculate him.....in fact....I have a new place of residence.....it's called Greyrock.....I must admit...there is a bit of revenge I feel....I can't help it.....I see him as a pathetic monster now....

[@lipslearn8798]

Listen to this message because it’s true!! It’s been a year of no contact and my Narc I know is bitter and resentful because I won’t break the contact! I only know because my daughter married his son and now we have a mutual granddaughter. Yuk! Of all things to happen! But the granddaughter was worth the initial pain. YES he would love to torture me some more. He thought I would run crying back, but I stood my ground. If he ever thinks I will be in his ex pile, and still be friends, he’s got another thing coming. It’s too bad we have family ties because this would have been so much easier to break from. I hate hearing the truth but yes they only want to win you back so they can regain power and destroy you some more. I wish it weren’t true but it is! Also YES YES YES WHEN YOU’RE IN IT YOU CANT BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE HEARING AND SEEING SUCH CRAZINESS WHEN THE MASK IS OFF! I wouldn’t have ever believed I would witness and been involved in such a strange and destructive relationship. I WAS IN DISBELIEF MOST OF THE TIME! Thank you Jesus for rescuing me!! OMG 😱

[@Leela11116]

because as well they are sooooooo amazing in the beginning!!! it is crazy to watch the mask come off,,,,,,even crazier you get to the point where you have to say goodbye for your own sanity!!!!!! we can only take so much......esp when you realize they dont even love.......and they are trying to SABOTAGE everything in your life.....

[@kimfreeman6274]

Love listing to your Read Outs on the truth about the behavior of a Narcissist......Knowledge Is Power🤔😀

[@Getittogether.3897]

I am feeling like I am in hell now. I discarded him a week ago and now I am dealing with him trying to downgrade me now. It really hurts because I never experience nothing like this, and he is the one that's cheating.

[@MegaDmachine]

aww baby take your power back ok

[@toidean633]

Just leave him alone! It gets better even though it hurts right now.

[@lisaclarke5265]

THEY OPEN A TERRIBLE DOOR OF DARKNESS👹 THESE PEOPLE THINK THERE ONTO A GOOD THING BUT THEN WHEN LIFE STARTS TO BACK FIRE ON THEM. WHO DO THEY RUN TOO? THESE PEOPLE UNFORTUNATELY DON'T MEET WITH A GOOD END. WE NEED TO ASK GOD FOR DISCERNMENT. THEY ARE DECEIVED AND WILL CONTINUE TO DECEIVE ANYBODY WHO THEY MEET. THE WORST THING IS THEY DON'T REALISE THAT THEY ARE BADLY DECIVED THEMSELVES. GOD HAVE MERCY ON THEM IT'S SERIOUS🙏🏼

[@danamac7537]

Hang ibn there! Have faith. You will be freed and his time is going to come! FAITH! its not easy, but PROMISE you WILL have the victory and look back. It is a FACT

[@UPLibertyStudios]

My life with the narcissist completely unraveled. They brought so much chaos and negativity I had to completely give up and go no contact. I can finally breathe. I'm never going back

[@sscot720]

Me neither

[@pennylovelove6378]

this gives me chills

[@phoenixgirl8931]

They are called Energy vampires to there like parasite that sucks your energy to.

[@tanishaholmes7229]

I've been no contact for 4months now. It started while I was still in home we shared. I changed my phone number limiting his access to me via email. It was torture. He did every and anything to get me to react but I never did. I left because he was flaunting his new chick around which was actually our neighbor who had just gotten out of an abusive relationship. I'm now staying in a shelter and I filed for a divorce. He hasn't tried to hoover I don't think, but I have been getting calls from weird numbers and 3 fake friend requests on fb. Idk if it's him or not. He answered the divorce saying that I abused him verbally, mentally, and emotionally. I just want this to be all over. I moved 1500 miles away to get away from the excruciating pain he was causing me.

[@Ty_ThatGuy]

Good for you. Moving sometimes is the best option...the further, the better. After 5 years of back and forth, I finally did the discard in July because the disrespect was only worse each time. Now suddenly, I get a LOT of private and strange numbers calling and I even got 2 emails confirming my membership to hookup and sex sites. I contacted the companies and let them know that I never signed up...now another phone hoover from her just after midnight this past weekend. I don't answer but I suspect she'll reach back out.

[@rdbridge9376]

One day at a time sis. You will be fine. Just get healing and find out about yourself so you don't attract the same thing. Make sure you are no codependent in relationships and an empath. If you are either of these. You are a magnet to narcs.

[@anthonyjohnson5647]

Be strong hun.

[@lindseycruz813]

He feels that because we share a small baby together that he is always welcomed back. He going be salty. We will never speak on a relationship level again !

[@AurikaAkimova]

@@lindseycruz813 yes girl. They will be salty. They think they own us even with their new supply. We have the last laugh 😜

[@thequeenb6156]

Mind games never end people. Stay woke

[@endtimeservant8531]

No. He doesnt want me back as all he will get IS MORE EXPOSURE.

[@janinehazzard6294]

.....this is right on time

[@НаталиИзмаилова-ф2х]

Like as usual!!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 God bless good people and victims of narcs🙏

[@leilacheryl3986]

Thank you Hario I needed this after the 3rd hoover attempt, I nearly went back to him, needed to see this! ❤️🙏

[@oscarwilliamson1128]

Leila Cheryl,You only deserve a good man 👨

[@ShawnPatrickMoriarty]

When I finally told him he was a narsacist he agreed and told Me he was the biggest one! I couldn't believe it!

[@antwanetteanderson1951]

I just finally got enough courage to say enough is enough. I walked away 3 weeks ago. What was the finally straw was when my ex narcissist told me so boldly that he has slept with females while on the road as a truck driver. I was always begging for an emotional connection that I never received and the relationship became draining. We have children together and he has even said hurtful things to them as if he is not the biological father. It hurts to see my children mistreated 😥Yes I'm in my healing phase and seeking prayers from the prayer warriors out there. Thank you in advance. GOD BLESS

[@ladyvirgo013]

When I seen his mask slip, his eyes went dark and his voice changed. It was the most eerie thing I've ever witnessed.

[@laphawnewatt1812]

Thank you Stay blessed everyone do your work

[@Belleofhair]

Being with a narcissist KNOWINGLY is basically signing up heath problems, turmoil, and agony.

[@kmydesire12]

It’s crazy how I can remember the exact day that the mask came off. It was like a light switch that turned off. I am 7 days no contact. I didn’t block just so I see how long will this Hoover last? Do they ever get tired of being ignored? His last text said “Did something go wrong or are you just not interested anymore, let me know ?” My question is, “ Do they really seek closure? Probably not because they get supply if I answer back. He will never have the luxury of hear my voice again

[@gingerphoenix805]

You are absolutely right. 20 years of torture. I left, he slandered me, had a girlfriend i went to school with lie about me to the court to try to take my child. I passed the bs drug test yet so degraded betrayed humilated, the courts played into his lies. I got extremely sick following a tick bite. Hospitals doctors saying i wasnt sick and that i was crazy and making things up from stress of losing him. I fought tooth and nail to get better. Got a degree, new car, on track but overwhelmed by black mold in the home i had myself and my child in. He had a kid with the woman who was jealous of me growing up which almost killed me inside. He would say things about missing me, wanting me back. Begged on his knees. I wanted my child in a home without mold so badly i was willing to risk my life and sanity to try to have faith in him. Its so hard when you're financially dependent and sick. I did everything to raise my vibration and healed so much physically and spiritualy but i must have still lacked that ability to connect with a healthier relationship. I took him back and within no time the abuse began again. I spent another 3 years sick and more and more dependent hiding the abuse from my son. I prayed to my ancestors for help and when i had the opportunity to leave i did. He replaced me with a woman in our home in no time at all. 1 year later hes asking if im willing to go to counseling. He hasn't seen his son in a year lives 15 mins away. Yet blames the pandemic. Its pathetic, hes pathetic. I loved him with all of my heart why .. probably low self love and abuse as a child. Yet i know i deserve someone who will love me and be as kind and loyal to me as i to them. I have no forgiveness for him left in me. I dream of him constantly and still feel heartbroken. Having a child together felt like a sacred bond but for him it was nothing but a tool to get at me. 20 years from now he will still want me. I have to remember he only wants to win. Win at abusing me. My ancestors and the people i come from love me. I am empathic to the point it used to be a burden but know i know my sensitivity is a gift and my next love must have that gift of heart as well. No one is perfect but we all deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. God bless i needed your message today. He keeps reaching out with bs of missing his family yet didn't care about his family when he had it. That's something that wont change and i connect with betterment at this time in my life.

[@veevee3457]

This is absolutely crazy. I’m going through this right now. We were together for 3 years and have been broken up for 10 months now. We share 2 kids and it’s extremely difficult to get away from him you video are what’s helps me to keep my mind tight!! Keep them coming you’re a great help to me.

[@lacremackey4252]

So Very True. They watch the vulnerability level. Low vibration.

[@DesertLife4me2]

Absolutely true. Every word. My experience. They do get worse as time goes by. It was horrific at the end when the mask came off. The evil and hate was limitless....relentless. I could not believe this man could do these things to me. Thank you for giving me confirmation.